Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth | Adia Gooden | TEDxDePaulUniversity

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6 жыл бұрын

When a person demands perfection of herself or himself, anything less can feel like failure. Adia Gooden knows this from experience. In addition to her work as a staff psychologist at the University of Chicago, she’s learned in her own life how to break negative thought patterns and live more freely. She shares those lessons in her talk: “Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth.”
Gooden is a licensed clinical psychologist. She earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Stanford University and her doctorate in clinical community psychology from DePaul College of Science and Health in 2013. Gooden is currently a staff psychologist and coordinator for multicultural outreach and support at The University of Chicago’s Student Counseling Service. In this role, she provides individual, group and couple therapy to undergraduate and graduate students. She also conducts outreach workshops for students of color and continuing education training for clinicians on working with black clients. Gooden authors a blog focused on promoting mental health among black women. She speaks and writes about black women, black couples, black youth and mental health. Gooden is a licensed clinical psychologist. She earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Stanford University and her doctorate in clinical community psychology from DePaul College of Science and Health in 2013. Gooden is currently a staff psychologist and coordinator for multicultural outreach and support at The University of Chicago’s Student Counseling Service. In this role, she provides individual, group and couple therapy to undergraduate and graduate students. She also conducts outreach workshops for students of color and continuing education training for clinicians on working with black clients. Gooden authors a blog focused on promoting mental health among black women. She speaks and writes about black women, black couples, black youth and mental health. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@tianna1817
@tianna1817 5 жыл бұрын
1. Forgiveness 2. Self acceptance 3. Be there for yourself 4. Connect with supportive people
@jewishbride5010
@jewishbride5010 5 жыл бұрын
In Jesus Christ his name and Jesus Christ his blood everyone deserves it's own self worth: Amen!
@AdNauseamart
@AdNauseamart 4 жыл бұрын
@@jewishbride5010 In your own name, you deserve your self-worth
@diegoambrosio9121
@diegoambrosio9121 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for summing it up!
@smexyangelmike3117
@smexyangelmike3117 4 жыл бұрын
@@AdNauseamart lol you have a beautiful response
@smexyangelmike3117
@smexyangelmike3117 4 жыл бұрын
Also may I say I think I was divinely guided here 👏
@camez2345
@camez2345 4 жыл бұрын
It makes me a little sad to see a lot of comments mentioning the speaker's looks, that's she's beautiful. And of course, yes, she really is. But it sort of takes away from the point she's making, and also reinforces this thing that we as women keep doing to ourselves and each other and then in our dark moments feel bad about: equating physical appearance with inherent goodness, like, "How could she have had low self-worth when she's so beautiful?" Well, that's just the point. If we say beautiful equals worthy or even partially equals worthy, then we've missed the point of "worthy" and are perpetuating its being tied to actual traits.
@charmainephasoana6850
@charmainephasoana6850 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, I never thought of it that way. Your message is powerful!!!!
@foldingwishes
@foldingwishes 4 жыл бұрын
Dude yes, so on point. The current problem with low self-worth is that our current culture ties value to some trait, like beauty or intelligence. When your sense of self worth is tied to something else like that, you're left on edge all the time, feeling like you need to hold onto that trait, and that without that trait you are nothing. True self-worth is knowing that you could lose everything society considers valuable, and still have worth. It's a source of true strength and stability. Beauty has nothing to do with it.
@jrod6143
@jrod6143 4 жыл бұрын
Nobody Asked
@nairabee245
@nairabee245 4 жыл бұрын
J Rod yet here u are commenting regardless so🤷🏿‍♀️
@Jane-bq3qv
@Jane-bq3qv 4 жыл бұрын
Completely right. I’m so glad you said that
@ashleydaniels2717
@ashleydaniels2717 5 жыл бұрын
"What would you stop doing if you knew you were already worthy?"
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
What would you stop doing Ashley? This is what I stopped doing once I fell in love with myself at a soul level: I stopped people pleasing, I stopped overgiving, I stopped getting offended easily, I stopped taking things personally, I stopped craving love, approval and validation from others, I became super picky about who I spend my time with, I stopped trying to be perfect, I stopped being afraid of failure and rejection, and I stopped feeling anxious all the time! Nothing is more freeing than developing intrinsic self-worth.
@bethiatriggs64
@bethiatriggs64 4 жыл бұрын
@@orianagalardi-este9211 everything you just said you stopped doing is every single thing I do but I don't know how to stop. I feel empty and undervalued and I don't know how to change.
@suset813
@suset813 4 жыл бұрын
@ Oriana Galardi-Este...your self love goals are all that I am also aiming for atm...would you mind sharing the things you did in your journey to self love?...I’m working on myself so anything I can benefit from would greatly appreciated, Thanks
@lindagitau7886
@lindagitau7886 4 жыл бұрын
People pleasing and wanting to be liked. Those are demons that kill me!!!
@ashleydaniels2717
@ashleydaniels2717 4 жыл бұрын
@@orianagalardi-este9211 Yes! Different book, similar story. The first thing that comes to mind- I would stop letting depression rob me of my essence. All of the things you named as well.
@charmedprince
@charmedprince 5 жыл бұрын
*If I'd be perfect, then I'd be happy* raise ya hands if you knew this feeling
@kimberleychoudhury3358
@kimberleychoudhury3358 5 жыл бұрын
embrace imperfection Heaven is the only location for perfection . the only thing perfect is the word perfect be balanced n focus on outcomes not details
@macprincess2
@macprincess2 5 жыл бұрын
@@kimberleychoudhury3358Thank you for this Anon!
@kimberleychoudhury3358
@kimberleychoudhury3358 5 жыл бұрын
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@basiaramona68
@basiaramona68 5 жыл бұрын
Nobody's perfect - that's why we are original and not boring😀
@Sashaviti
@Sashaviti 5 жыл бұрын
How do u measures “ perfection” ?
@Lavidadeyari
@Lavidadeyari 4 жыл бұрын
Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a baby. With love.
@anoopgopalakrishnan4360
@anoopgopalakrishnan4360 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I think that tip is a lot closer to truth
@y.shahintaj7878
@y.shahintaj7878 2 жыл бұрын
True, thankyou
@Luvurselffirst
@Luvurselffirst 2 жыл бұрын
This made me smile a smile you di when you see a baby
@donteven3860
@donteven3860 2 жыл бұрын
that’s the cutest thing I’ve ever read
@HabitualLover
@HabitualLover 2 жыл бұрын
But not if you're one of those people who aren't even nice to babies. Phew, some of the sad views toward even babies that I've seen. Talk to yourself the way you'd talk to someone you actually like. That should do.
@KaiIchiRu96
@KaiIchiRu96 2 жыл бұрын
I wanted to share this with you guys: In German we have the Word “self-worth” and a separate word for the thing, the feeling Adia mentioned- like a ">sense< of self-worth”. Because our own self worth never changes, just our own sense or feeling towards it. :) Have a good journey, folks We’re all in this together 🌻
@aydennreda
@aydennreda Жыл бұрын
love
@sjg9981
@sjg9981 Жыл бұрын
💗
@anamika8258
@anamika8258 Жыл бұрын
I don't know why that made me cry . It's a shame to know this so late . Thanks
@c.00-qe72
@c.00-qe72 Жыл бұрын
welche wörter meinst du?
@artisticagi
@artisticagi Жыл бұрын
Powerful ❤
@alyssatravis1494
@alyssatravis1494 5 жыл бұрын
This video had me sobbing for a full 15 minutes. She's incredibly emotionally literate and a wonderful speaker. I also loveee that she's from Chicago!
@beverlyochieng6076
@beverlyochieng6076 4 жыл бұрын
Bravo
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
Probably because this is the most important lesson and work anyone can do. Once you've developed that intrinsic self-worth, you finally have the FREEDOM you've been hungering for!
@ylsflv
@ylsflv 3 жыл бұрын
Same girl, same.
@mordecai8707
@mordecai8707 3 жыл бұрын
Very good speaker indeed. You can only listen to someone who speaks the language of your heart and her words were the best at reaching my heart out of multiple videos I’ve been watching on this topic for almost months now. Maybe speeches are better sources of information than a KZfaqr speaking to a camera, grateful I got to see this video!
@mikikokitamura5043
@mikikokitamura5043 3 жыл бұрын
Me too! I’ve never had such a strong emotional reaction to a Ted talk before
@metasebi
@metasebi 3 жыл бұрын
SUMMARY of her 4 ways of cultivating unconditional self-worth: 1. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. Acknowledge the situation that led to your mistake and say „I forgive me“ in an honest and kind way. 2. Practice self-acceptance. Let go of your thoughts how you think you should be. Embrace the things you like about yourself as well as the things you think others may not like. You are worthy just the way you are. 3. Be there for yourself when life gets rough. Acknowledge your emotional pain and say nice things to yourself. 4. Connect with supportive people.
@elhadjimalickdiop2695
@elhadjimalickdiop2695 Жыл бұрын
thanks!
@animelvr99
@animelvr99 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@coraleveille9169
@coraleveille9169 Жыл бұрын
Thanks you 💐🙏🏾
@oneineuniceson9148
@oneineuniceson9148 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@queenb3184
@queenb3184 2 ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏽
@artchemist4460
@artchemist4460 5 жыл бұрын
So I have always been questioning why I had such low self-esteem despite all my achievements. Now i know that I have high self-esteem but low self-worth.
@nailakamana763
@nailakamana763 5 жыл бұрын
Same
@aur9035
@aur9035 4 жыл бұрын
..despite all of your achievements.. well, atleast you have some or many of them
@meaysha3140
@meaysha3140 4 жыл бұрын
Saaaaaaame :(
@issagonzalez8458
@issagonzalez8458 3 жыл бұрын
S A M E
@angeleyes3396
@angeleyes3396 3 жыл бұрын
I’m trying to figure all this stuff out.
@meganbrown2129
@meganbrown2129 2 жыл бұрын
*EDITED* 2 years and 5 months sober! I am overwhelmed with the love from so many of you from all over and I thank you for taking the time out of your day to wish me well. It hasn’t been easy but I will never give up on myself again.!!! and still fighting! The best decision I ever made after 20+ years of drug addiction- lost my family and life to drugs. Fighting addiction for many years I hit a bad rock bottom and thankfully got into treatment learning I had to finally come to accept myself flaws and all. Made a step to better MYSELF 147 days sober and in love with learning I am worthy and beautiful…I am learning each day self love is far more important than any love from a relationship. Thank you for this truly inspiring speech 💜🙏🏼 (UPDATE) I love all the msgs and support So grateful and so glad I am finally living the life I’ve dreamed of! Thank you to everyone who has been sending msgs
@tiffanyxi
@tiffanyxi 2 жыл бұрын
You got this 💙
@flaviahidalgo7376
@flaviahidalgo7376 2 жыл бұрын
So proud of you! 💙 you’re on the right path.
@meganbrown2129
@meganbrown2129 2 жыл бұрын
6 months still going strong!
@tiffanyxi
@tiffanyxi 2 жыл бұрын
@@meganbrown2129 keep going 💙
@meganbrown2129
@meganbrown2129 2 жыл бұрын
@@tiffanyxi thank you! I’m not giving up
@sgreen9088
@sgreen9088 5 жыл бұрын
Self-worth is truly a continuous process. I've been working on mine. When the question is asked, "Why are you still single in your 30's?" Society is trying to put me in a box. My self-worth journey is helping me to come out of that box.
@nickandchrismom
@nickandchrismom 5 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you're working on yours. It's the most important work you can do. Once you've developed that intrinsic self worth, you'll experience true freedom. Come watch my videos to learn how I fell in love with myself at a SOUL level and how my entire life transformed!
@gloriamariadc7757
@gloriamariadc7757 3 жыл бұрын
Amen. Self worth is a continuous process like u said.. like taking vitamins & exercising all our lives. & adding the self-worth self love vitamin everyday before starting th day🙏🏻✨🙏🏻✨
@sgreen9088
@sgreen9088 3 жыл бұрын
@@gloriamariadc7757 very true. As you take the "self-worth vitamins", do you ever get that void feeling?
@sgreen9088
@sgreen9088 3 жыл бұрын
@@orianagalardi-este9211 where?
@michelleforte8669
@michelleforte8669 5 жыл бұрын
This was me; and still me, but I am working on it. Self-love is so important.
@antoinettegross5074
@antoinettegross5074 5 жыл бұрын
Me too and am 43
@nickandchrismom
@nickandchrismom 5 жыл бұрын
It is, Michelle you are worthy. You are lovable, self- love is sooooo important. Please keep learning to love yourself. I am. You're more than worth loving yourself 💕🤗❤
@michelleforte8669
@michelleforte8669 5 жыл бұрын
@@nickandchrismom Thank you, You are as well. Angela! Let's continue to self love ourselves..
@nickandchrismom
@nickandchrismom 5 жыл бұрын
@@michelleforte8669 indeed. May your journey in, through, and to loving yourself always be sweet! May God bless you!
@michelleforte8669
@michelleforte8669 4 жыл бұрын
@@nickandchrismom Thank you.
@taylorcavin2707
@taylorcavin2707 4 жыл бұрын
Accept “your unusual ways of thinking about things” I felt that
@SA-lz1vx
@SA-lz1vx 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful ❤️
@memeplex0
@memeplex0 4 жыл бұрын
I'm trying to live a life that expresses me rather than seeking to justify me. It's such a brutal habit to break. Thank you for all your hard work!
@BrownSkinnedDiva95
@BrownSkinnedDiva95 3 жыл бұрын
Such a good way to put iy
@sarahkh9927
@sarahkh9927 2 жыл бұрын
Omg phenomenal
@chanson8508
@chanson8508 2 жыл бұрын
I found this statement very relatable. I wish you success in trying to break the habit &/or making peace with it : ))
@Linda-wh8nm
@Linda-wh8nm Жыл бұрын
@@BrownSkinnedDiva95 uh
@ylsflv
@ylsflv 3 жыл бұрын
"As soon as I reached the bar I had set for my worth, it was raised" goodness, this struck me
@muythaimutha
@muythaimutha 4 жыл бұрын
If I could just find someone to love me then I would finally feel worthy .......I wonder how many of us have been there before ....I've wasted too much time chasing self worth in things that have nothing to do with true self worth.
@Emilia-tb6ql
@Emilia-tb6ql 3 жыл бұрын
definitely ✋🏼
@darkprince1988fm
@darkprince1988fm 3 жыл бұрын
Yup i know what you mean. Then you figure out that it comes only from within
@AA-wc3tw
@AA-wc3tw 3 жыл бұрын
It doesn't quite work that way. Just because a person is loved, doesn't mean their self-esteem or self-worth rises. I've had many relationships and I have had very low self-esteem/worth my entire life (since age 6 to present age 41), regardless of relationships. Our self-worth/esteem should not be dependent on another person. I am slowly learning to believe that self-esteem/worth comes from within, but I haven't yet figured out how to build it within myself.
@wesleytyler9599
@wesleytyler9599 2 жыл бұрын
IT'S A INSIDE JOB .. SELF ACCEPTANCE. YOU EITHER GET BUSY LIVING OR GET BUSY DYING . TIME WASTED IS LIFE WASTED . IF NOTHING CHANGES , NOTHING CHANGES .
@austinfydenkevez6923
@austinfydenkevez6923 2 жыл бұрын
That’s why I’m hear. I was lucky enough to come across a comment that gave me a realization of why I’m heartbroken. I’m relying on others for self worth and this video is such a wake up call
@calymack421
@calymack421 4 жыл бұрын
i believe in its all self talk. no pill can fix it. i healed my self through self talk in order to shape my perspective on life.
@agentray
@agentray 3 жыл бұрын
Not even dr phil
@viktorlindqvist5308
@viktorlindqvist5308 3 жыл бұрын
I've never believed in the concept of perfection. I had a strong sense of self-worth as a child, but lost it growing up to be a teenager and then to be a man. As a child I wasn't confident per se, I just didn't doubt my own worth. I could look at my faults and with a cheerful smile say; "Yup, I'm short and weak.". I was emotionally open and available to those around me, for all the good and the bad it brought me. Now I sit here closed up and stunted behind my computer screen. I can still say "Yup, I'm short and weak.". But it isn't with a smile. I still am not confident, but now I hardly believe in my own self-worth. Rationally I know it is there, emotionally I don't. Why even write this comment? It doesn't solve the problem, but I do believe it is somewhat vindicating to put yourself and your issues out there for the world to see. And looking at myself I do suppose I still possess that feeling of self-worth deep down, it is simply hidden under a bush of twisted thorns. In a way it is equal parts frustrating and relieving. Knowing it is there, but unable to reach out due to a fear of the pain.
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 2 жыл бұрын
Eh, everybody has flaws - I'm 6'2" and fairly muscular, and always felt I was fairly strong, but I've been self-conscious to varying degrees my whole life, never quite fit in etc. - you have worth, you have something to give, you just have to forge a mental machete and hack through those thorn bushes.
@joecarducci9627
@joecarducci9627 Жыл бұрын
What do you think was the moment that changed it for you or the time that changed it for you if you did have it and then you lost it?
@MJ31579
@MJ31579 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you are born in a situation where others receive favour without effort, while you have to work for it. That makes you link your worth to your accomplishments
@pamalajames7830
@pamalajames7830 3 ай бұрын
But at least you now realize that's not how true self-worth is developed or nourished. That person you mention is living on quick sand; as soon as the adoration ends......they begin to crumble. Esteem and Value yourself!
@cjm537
@cjm537 5 жыл бұрын
"Be there for yourselves when life gets rough" - Words of Wisdom :) I really need to hear this now. Thank you Adia!
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
You are welcome! So glad that resonated with you!
@marif2993
@marif2993 5 жыл бұрын
1. What would you find the courage to do if you knew you were worthy? 2. What would you dare to dream if your self worth wasn’t at stake? 3. What would you stop doing if you knew you were already worthy?”
@ExplodingTrujillo
@ExplodingTrujillo 3 жыл бұрын
The single most life changing moment for me was figuring out that no matter how many people I treat well or as many friendships as a gained meant nothing if I didn’t love myself. Everything is connected to that, I like how she put it as self esteem and self love are two different things, I had a constantly shifting self esteem and criticized myself constantly. Of course people in highschool werent the greatest and will amplify this by pointing out all your shortcomings. Self love should be at the very core of yourself not pleasing others.
@lavieestbelle6068
@lavieestbelle6068 5 жыл бұрын
She is beautiful, intelligent, polished, and her topic resonates with so many women.
@deewoods8785
@deewoods8785 4 жыл бұрын
And Men... Let's stop genderising problems that are real for everyone... Including men
@nairabee245
@nairabee245 4 жыл бұрын
Dee Woods I mean.....isn’t it? A gendered problem I mean. I completely agree with you. But there’s a reason the gender gap is so dramatic when it comes to things like eating disorders, women are also twice as likely to be depressed as men. And also commit more suicide attempts, and are more likely to have low self esteem. When it comes to how you look, more of your self-worth as a woman is placed on it. That isn’t all her topic was, but it was a huge part of it. That doesn’t mean we should have language that frames it’s solely a female problem, because then unfortunately that creates a toxic stigma around male victims. Buuuut, overall the issues associated with her topic *disproportionately* affects women more. There needs to be a balance in our rhetoric that reflects that gender gap. I don’t want male victims to feel disenfranchised but there’s also reasons there’s such a drastic gap in both genders concerning the rates they’re victimized by these kinds of issues.
@nairabee245
@nairabee245 4 жыл бұрын
Dee Woods just to be clear I’m not saying male victims are not equally as valid as female victims. They need just as much research and advocation and help as the women do. But let’s ask ourselves WHY there’s such a large gender disparity in the kind of problems discussed. Maybe because definitions of worth are more superficial, consequential, pervasive, for women than they are for men? I don’t it’s good to equalize the rhetoric we use to talk about these issues without also recognizing that the way both genders experience them are not equal. Again, I think a balance is needed between not locking out male victims from the conversation but also still acknowledging it’s still and has been a largely female issue.
@davedave3522
@davedave3522 4 жыл бұрын
Naira Bee I just want to say that I agree with your point. Self esteem issues often resonate more within women than men, but you have to look at your statistics from a different angle. First of all, men are about 3,5 times more likely to commit suicide than women and I feel like without generalizing, a lot of suicide attempts are done as a mean to get attention (not always in a bad way) and women are more prone to that. I’m no expert or anything so don’t quote me on that. Also, men are not as open as women when it comes to their inner issues of self esteem, depression, anxiety and such. They are groomed to hide away their feelings and constantly feel like they will be judged if they show vulnerability. Women are more comfortable talking about this, because vulnerability is accepted and even excepted from them. I also feel like there are more men that are affected by mental issues then what the statistics show. Again, not trying to invalidate your point, but I feel like this issue is not as much gender bound as it might seem.
@nairabee245
@nairabee245 4 жыл бұрын
Dave Dave I agree. The statistics can have multiple factors behind them and the Gap might not be as large as the statistics suggest. And I said women ATTEMPT suicide 3X more than men do, men are unfortunately just really effective at taking their own life. So they die from suicide more, but women are by far more suicidal. I think calling it potential attention seeking is inaccurate and shaky territory, when you look at how women are also multiple times more than men to have thoughts of suicidal ideation. Even if it was for attention, if someone exhibits a cry for help that insanely desperate, it’s not something to be taken lightly regardless. And I say the gap is as big as the statistics show because it’s reflected in literally every aspect of our culture and expectations for women. How you look is a much bigger deal for women, it just is. We know this. Look at the statistics of who is getting the cosmetic producers, surgical enhancements, and just about any statistic that has to do with the topics I discussed, women suffer from it more. So at that point, it’s just a case of if it quacks and talk like a duck, it’s probably a duck. Not all the statistics are self reporting, like the statistics of eating disorders for example. That’s a diagnosable condition that we can count. And women still suffer from it more. I’m sure some of that gap would be slightly made up by men who aren’t empowered to speak about their emotions, but again, a good portion of the stats (eating disorders, surgical alterations etc) aren’t even self reporting and reflect the exact same trend of women baring the brunt of that kind of struggle more than men do.
@ceeemm727
@ceeemm727 5 жыл бұрын
This kicked me in my gut...had me crying. I better understand myself and feel better prepared to live my best life. Bless you, Adia.
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
Sending you a big hug Clarissa!
@SueVee11
@SueVee11 3 жыл бұрын
i cried too girl!!
@sunflowerpower642
@sunflowerpower642 3 жыл бұрын
She gutted me and I'm forever grateful
@ylsflv
@ylsflv 3 жыл бұрын
Bawling like a baby rn
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad this resonated with you and that it has prepared you to live your best life!
@kadyarchibald6801
@kadyarchibald6801 5 жыл бұрын
Her voice is AMAZING! She should voice meditation recordings!!!
@lizr9894
@lizr9894 3 жыл бұрын
“Mental illness” is often a “normal” reaction to our circumstances and what we believe society expects.
@didi8922
@didi8922 2 жыл бұрын
It’s not just a “reaction” and should not be treated as so. Mental disorders are real and completely serious and a correct diagnosis should not be undermined but treated correctly. I would discourage putting “-“ around the words mental illness as it suggests it’s some sort of myth which is insulting to both the ones who have it and the professionals who dedicate their lives to study it/help.
@ninaaden8338
@ninaaden8338 Жыл бұрын
That's a generalization.
@didi8922
@didi8922 Жыл бұрын
@@ninaaden8338 Enlighten me on where the generalisation is
@yabadabadoho
@yabadabadoho 5 жыл бұрын
I deserve to be alive, loved and cared for...❤my new power phrase
@spainbarcafootyfan
@spainbarcafootyfan 5 жыл бұрын
Such an eloquent and captivating speaker, you can see the compassion and wisdom in her eyes. Her patients are really lucky, but hey, now so are we, thank you for sharing this wonderful and insightful talk.
@FitOutsideTheBox
@FitOutsideTheBox 5 жыл бұрын
Wise talk & wise woman. I love this term *unconditional self worth*! If you don't have self worth, having self-esteem is going to be quite an impossible feat.
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@SkyeeBlue3
@SkyeeBlue3 5 жыл бұрын
Fit Outside the Box with Karla trying to embrace myself and change my thinking
@iroamalone6953
@iroamalone6953 5 жыл бұрын
Nica abs
@noodlenado7827
@noodlenado7827 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks, I needed that
@katerinaalegria1165
@katerinaalegria1165 5 жыл бұрын
Wow. Profound. My heart feels peaceful remembering I don’t have to do anything other than BE. Thank you for your realness and unconditional self love.
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
This is the greatest truth of all. And is the key to your freedom!
@Atlanta718
@Atlanta718 5 жыл бұрын
1. Forgive your self Acknowledge and accept your mistakes 2. Love yourself We try to fit the mold, embrace your quirks. 3. Be there for yourself during tough times. I see you, I'm here. Comfort and kind words 4. Connect to others Challenges will come Dance floor - 💃💃💃
@RippleInspirations
@RippleInspirations Жыл бұрын
I had a best friend who passed away already. She was that person who taught me the difference between self worth and self confidence or self esteem. Thank you so much for this inspiring talk, Adia. This is so timely and truly helpful for a course I am making for teens. Love and light and blessings.
@TH-eb5ro
@TH-eb5ro Жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss, may you find peace in your grieving.
@stefaniechan6542
@stefaniechan6542 5 жыл бұрын
All I want to say is... thank you... Right now I'm in a litteral bad place with almost no support.. I truly needed these words and I'm so thankfull you put them out in the world! Thank you so much!!
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
You are very welcome!
@georgiehenderson8750
@georgiehenderson8750 4 жыл бұрын
Hope you feel better, Stefanie! I encourage you to love yourself, because I need to do that, too. Be gentle and kind to your self, dear. When I was younger I went to anonymous self help groups, it was extremely helpful for me.
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
I hope you're in a better place today Stefanie!
@michellesierra7797
@michellesierra7797 4 жыл бұрын
Adia Gooden Thank You So Much. Your speech so beautiful. Powerful. Life changing. This is exactly what I needed at this point of my life. You do not know how much this helped me. Thank you. Bless you. ❤️
@artiejoe
@artiejoe 3 жыл бұрын
I hope it's better for you now
@etumnumatthew2286
@etumnumatthew2286 4 жыл бұрын
A beautiful piece on worthiness. I choose to forgive myself for past mistakes. I am wonderfully made, accept myself wholeheartedly. I'll keep being there for me even when life gets tough and i will connecting with supportive friends and family on this journey of cultivating genuine self worth. Thank you Adia Gooden, i appreciate your words so much.
@chidinmaanukam4085
@chidinmaanukam4085 2 жыл бұрын
So inspiring. Thank you.
@dawnthompson9149
@dawnthompson9149 5 жыл бұрын
We live in a perfectionist society. That can definitely drive anyone crazy. I can relate to this. Now...I dont aim for perfectionism, i dont expect that from myself, i always leave room for failure. Yet...i try to be the best version of myself.
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 2 жыл бұрын
That's really the best way - don't compare yourself to others, just enjoy life and do your best to improve where you need to/can.
@farhazeba5239
@farhazeba5239 2 жыл бұрын
Thats wonderful
@TH-eb5ro
@TH-eb5ro Жыл бұрын
Most societies struggle with this, it is a very human condition. Part of it is on us and part of it is on parenting not being the best it can be.
@felicia28ful
@felicia28ful 5 жыл бұрын
Listening to her speak made me look at myself differently. I recently went on a girls trip and as I looked at everyone in there bathing suits and the confidence that they had made me feel not as worthy. I instantly started thinking critical of myself and thinking about all of the things I needed or wanted to change about myself. I felt insecure at times on the trip and I did not understand why I had felt that way but now I understand that I did not feel worthy of myself. Watching this today really helped realize that I had low self-worth and I need to practice the 4 steps to cultivate my self-worth. This video was awesome.
@boxiness
@boxiness 5 жыл бұрын
I wanna give her a hug.
@marissa6616
@marissa6616 4 жыл бұрын
I'm legit crying right now and I'm still watching this video. i resonate with this topic on the highest level!!!
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
Come watch my videos Marissa! Same topic. ❤
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat 5 жыл бұрын
Really enjoyed this and makes me feel better knowing Im not the only one going through this. Throughout my life, I've always felt like something was "wrong" with me. That everyone else was "normal" and I was always trying and failing to be normal. At 26, I still feel this. But I'm understanding everyone is going through something. We are all different and there is no "normal ". I'm introverted and shy and feel the most unworthy when Im around loud and fun loving people. I feel like im not good enough to be around people like that. I want to have unconditional self worth so I dont have to experience the pain of feeling like Im not good enough anymore. This is the most painful feeling.
@MsElmicky
@MsElmicky 4 жыл бұрын
Im with you ❤
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 2 жыл бұрын
I feel you on that - it might make you feel better to know that there are probably plenty of other people (myself included) like you. You just do you.
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat 2 жыл бұрын
@@MsElmicky ❤
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat 2 жыл бұрын
@Yellowblanka I posted that a few years ago and I've been doing a lot of work and healing and it's helped me a lot, though I definitely still struggle at times too. Thank you for your kind words and lots of love to you my friend ❤
@bllackwing
@bllackwing 3 жыл бұрын
I didn't expect to start crying while listening to this. Guess it struck a chord.
@eugeniagonzalezmussi9796
@eugeniagonzalezmussi9796 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@chrystalbriceno3699
@chrystalbriceno3699 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I myself have been going through major transformation. I have learned that my self worth comes from the fact I am a divine being. I am my soul, not my body. And my soul comes from God. And that is all the worth anyone could need.
@mrs.t3822
@mrs.t3822 2 жыл бұрын
Transformation begins with revelation, and revelation comes from God. Blessings to you on your journey. 👣
@Ddeath.Eaterr
@Ddeath.Eaterr Жыл бұрын
❤️‍🔥💯
@arkashafilatov745
@arkashafilatov745 4 жыл бұрын
i've have been struggling with low self-worth for many years, so this talk inspired me greatly! thank you
@risainternet
@risainternet 4 жыл бұрын
My husband and I were watching this together and neither of us, in our late thirties, had ever even CONSIDERED being their for yourself. I guess I was always looking for other people to be there for me. Thank you for a moving and very powerful talk. I appreciate it for my own self worth journey!! Many thanks.
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
Such an epiphany isn't it? Life changing. once you become your own best friend, you stop grasping for love, approval and validation from others, which not only frees YOU, but it also allows you to better love everyone else because you don't NEED anything else from them anymore. It's such a beautiful thing.
@tropicalstormxox9444
@tropicalstormxox9444 4 жыл бұрын
risainternet the truth is it’s difficult to only solely be there for yourself, you need other people being therefore yourself only works in the sense that you start agreeing with all those that have supported you
@katherinehague5053
@katherinehague5053 5 жыл бұрын
She's gorgeous, extremely inspirational, and holds her self in away that you can feel her inward self worth. Thank you for your talk. All women should hear this :)
@charmainephasoana6850
@charmainephasoana6850 4 жыл бұрын
That's what I immediately saw. I'd love to get to that point!!
@robyndismon394
@robyndismon394 4 жыл бұрын
@@charmainephasoana6850 You WILL. You r well on your way.
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@gloriamariadc7757
@gloriamariadc7757 3 жыл бұрын
Yes, agreed.
@adrianopper9472
@adrianopper9472 Жыл бұрын
I wish we could broadcast this daily everywhere. This is so necessary to hear on the daily. Thank you for putting this into our world ❣️
@sandraeriksson5101
@sandraeriksson5101 4 жыл бұрын
She has a beautiful interior that projects through a gorgeous exterior. But her mind and spirituality are the traits that should be praised, in fact let’s praise all that she is☀️✨
@doeyes
@doeyes 4 жыл бұрын
When she mentioned how the dance made her finally free, I remembered the moment I dared to sing a Christmas carol out loud during preparations for a contest in high school. I don't have a great voice or anything and I HATE being in the centre of attention, but somehow I always wanted to do it. Our group tried to get the carol right and they asked me to sing it. That was like 4 years ago, and from that moment I felt like if I could do that, then I can do anything. Unfortunately now I feel worse, but I think that doing stuff that makes us feel scared is somehow a way to break free. We are able to do anything that we want, it's just our mind that sets this non-existent barriers. Love to you all and have a great new year!
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 2 жыл бұрын
I was in Chorus from 6th to 12th grade (many moons ago now, though not THAT many) and did my only solo senior year....I got nervous under the hot lights and packed auditorium and awkwardly stumbled through the brief solo, really humiliating. I remember in the Chorus room it seemed like the other members of the chorus/the director were giving me side-eyes/avoiding looking at me. That was the crowning achievement of my final year. Vocally I could have done it fine, was told I had a good voice and the theatre director tried a few times to get me to join, but I've always been somewhat reserved and my nerves were shot. Still think about it all these years later, and I think experiences like that have made me more reserved/averse to going outside of my limited comfort zone.
@ayotmisticka3768
@ayotmisticka3768 Жыл бұрын
I thought I was the Only one struggling with this feeling of unworthiness, but this video has encouraged me greatly... Thank you
@katherinewilson1853
@katherinewilson1853 Жыл бұрын
Not at all. I had low self-worth for most of my life. It took therapy, meditation, and more to really heal. I have a healthier self-worth now. But it's becoming aware that's important so it just grows organically. 🌸💗💕
@eluz8856
@eluz8856 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! It gives me hope💜 I was not aware how low my self worth was until I started therapy. For many years I was on autopilot not knowing who I was and molding into a person others wanted me to be. (People pleasing) But I am now working on accepting myself, flaws and all and not having to be "perfect". It's been a process but I am hopeful and praying that I will one day get to that point and I wish the same for everyone else struggling with this.
@sydvaca
@sydvaca 5 жыл бұрын
I really felt this, although I encourage everyone to find a literal dancefloor instead of a metaphoric one! As someone who has witnessed first hand the healing of free movement and dance, I can't recommend dancing in general and especially Ecstatic Dance highly enough. See if there's an Ecstatic Dance being hosted near you and free your self on the dance floor. and if there isn't a Dance near you, never underestimate the power of dancing alone in your room. blessings to all of you, remember you ARE worthy!!!
@sha571
@sha571 5 жыл бұрын
It is strange to see a such beautiful and smart woman talking about herself as a person that used to feel unworthy! That explains a lot of things about our sick thoughts and considerations of ourselves. Thanks again for this great speech.
@gloriamariadc7757
@gloriamariadc7757 3 жыл бұрын
True..
@orangemoon9634
@orangemoon9634 3 жыл бұрын
Also says alot about the colorism instilled in the values of this country, "Would my brown skin and kinky hair be accepted"
@yellowblanka6058
@yellowblanka6058 2 жыл бұрын
@@orangemoon9634 I'm a white male and beauty is beauty, it comes in different forms. Not to take away from her point about self worth being innate, but she is gorgeous, and I think most men who aren't diehard racists would agree.
@deemarie911
@deemarie911 5 жыл бұрын
Embrace yourself, quarks and all. I love it! Great talk. I’m gonna play these types of talks for my kids.
@juliataylor2220
@juliataylor2220 2 жыл бұрын
"What would you stop doing if you knew you were already worthy" brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing this beautiful thing called unconditional self-worth.
@enigmaticladypisces3169
@enigmaticladypisces3169 5 жыл бұрын
This beauty just uplifted my spirits!! Thank you 😇❤
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@AeraYoo
@AeraYoo 2 жыл бұрын
Finally tried cooking for myself today to feel like I could do it! My PTSD doesn’t have to be so debilitating! Woohoo for self worth!! Thank you so much for motivating me as I cooked!! 🥰🌺🐕 Aloha from Hawaii!!
@carpetcatco
@carpetcatco 2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations friend! May you keep making lots of amazing meals
@missjoy2925
@missjoy2925 2 жыл бұрын
I came across this video recovering from a relapse of anxiety, of a trigger of be isolated this helped me a lot thank for sharing your story and knowledge ❤️🥺💐
@miriamtachiwona4056
@miriamtachiwona4056 Жыл бұрын
I wish l had seen heard this earlier.... But l believe it's never to late to build my self-woth. Thank you so much for this life changing message 🥰
@444dlvatnce
@444dlvatnce 20 күн бұрын
oh my god i needed this so much. i love this. and her. the journey to unconditional self-worth truly is the most beautiful journey we'll ever experience.
@er1ka888
@er1ka888 2 жыл бұрын
This lady is so good at speeches and talking! Her jestures are loose but brod at the end, which makes the audience connect with the smooth, but then listen with the brod. She pauses during her speech, so people can listen. Her voice is very strong and loud during her speech! Also I love how she made a speech on this because I really needed it. Thanksss!
@mindfulness5667
@mindfulness5667 5 жыл бұрын
I love this talk. Adia is not only worthy, she is super-beautyful and absolutely inspirational. Thank you for this video
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@sunflowerpower642
@sunflowerpower642 3 жыл бұрын
You gutted me cause you spoke to my entire life. We've had a similar journey in youth and young adulthood, but I haven't yet gotten myself out of the rut like you have. Still chasing the feelings of grief from the failure of my last relationship and career direction which has been paralyzing me emotionally for over a year. I can't seem to shake the feelings of shame and regret. Forever grateful for you. Thank you
@LD-mv3bk
@LD-mv3bk 3 жыл бұрын
You’re worthy just the way you are! You are beautiful 😍
@bossmom9136
@bossmom9136 5 жыл бұрын
Love this !! I AM WORTHY
@iroamalone6953
@iroamalone6953 5 жыл бұрын
Damn straight
@KiDDKeya
@KiDDKeya 4 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏽
@orianagalardi-este9211
@orianagalardi-este9211 4 жыл бұрын
yes you are!
@deelight4097
@deelight4097 5 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you're talking about this topic. Many more people don't feel worthy than we'll ever know. I too never felt worthy or good enough. Not anymore...I love myself! She's right on point.
@harshsgupta705
@harshsgupta705 5 жыл бұрын
I don't want this to take years.. I have to change now! I have suffered enough :(
@jillianguilford5191
@jillianguilford5191 3 жыл бұрын
it seems to be on a continuum. What of this can you do right now; then check how it feels to you. I understand the suffering.
@gloriamariadc7757
@gloriamariadc7757 3 жыл бұрын
Amen to that!!!!!!👌👌👌. (In case ur interested I just finished doing BreakMethod.. totally abt re-wiring once & for all the rooted disempowering beliefs from childhood.)🙏🏻🙏🏻
@AA-wc3tw
@AA-wc3tw 3 жыл бұрын
Same. I am 41 years on this journey and somehow "self love" STILL does not click with me. I don't understand how to change my beliefs about myself and so far, I can't find anyone who can explain it to me. They just offer empty platitudes like "you have to believe in yourself" and "you have to love yourself".......it simply doesn't make sense to me.
@snoviche
@snoviche 3 жыл бұрын
Once I started the journey of loving myself, life has change. I’m more happy & a lot of great things are happening 😍
@user-mk6um8wb1e
@user-mk6um8wb1e 4 ай бұрын
“Our worth is based on the fact that we’re humans” I love it
@KindnessMattersTV
@KindnessMattersTV 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kindness. "I am worthy"
@CristinaRodriguez-ci5ng
@CristinaRodriguez-ci5ng 4 жыл бұрын
Self worth will definitely push away certain men & I have learned to accept that in my journey.🙏❤️😇
@MS-ns4ki
@MS-ns4ki Жыл бұрын
Same here and I’m 100 percent ok with that. Very cautious and worthy of taking up space cuz you are too , so why am I not ?
@marilynarnold9759
@marilynarnold9759 5 жыл бұрын
Girl you did that speech!👏👏I'm ready to dance!😁😁
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@abigaillinhardt5478
@abigaillinhardt5478 Жыл бұрын
Glad I found this. Every person I have ever met has turned against me. I've never been loved. People's natural instinct is to hate me. I've felt very alone for all 32 years of my life and I need to find a way to see if I'm worth anything.
@Norawarsame
@Norawarsame Жыл бұрын
I don’t know you but I love you because you’re my fellow human .Self hate is not something god made it in us ,it was gained.Somebody made you feel unloved and unworthy that’s why you’re feel this.Remember,nobody would love you more than you .You we’re always there through good times and bad .You still her means you actually loved by you!
@anyanicoleab
@anyanicoleab 5 жыл бұрын
Such a profound topic. Thank you to Ms. Gooden for bringing this topic to the Tedx Talk stage. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Bravo
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
You are welcome! Thank you!
@dakshkathpal
@dakshkathpal 3 жыл бұрын
Gratefulness is the secret to happiness. Once we all realize how incredibly lucky we are to even be alive on this planet and stop comparing ourselves to others, true happiness will find us. The one thing that helped me so much to become more grateful was Forwago.
@lifeis2grow54
@lifeis2grow54 2 жыл бұрын
I agree 👍 💯
@roar6047
@roar6047 3 жыл бұрын
Love this. I am learning to re-parent myself and practice those steps. Great talk
@MrJoon360
@MrJoon360 3 жыл бұрын
That's a wonderful goal! I hope it's going well.
@choppingitupwithtammy2251
@choppingitupwithtammy2251 Жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed to start a healthy life journey
@MindsEyeMuseGuitar
@MindsEyeMuseGuitar 3 ай бұрын
Omg this hit home. Her story of chasing perfectionism, constantly raising the bar in yourself, all of it. One of the best tedx talks I've ever seen
@DOTMH_1
@DOTMH_1 5 жыл бұрын
She took me back to my own childhood when it came to me at dances. Till this day I refuse to dance and that's because I get heavy anxiety.
@dimanvoltair993
@dimanvoltair993 5 жыл бұрын
I feel you but we're awesome lets dance next time ;)
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat
@BeHappyNoMatterWhat 5 жыл бұрын
My bf is like that. He refuses to dance.
@richardjones7984
@richardjones7984 2 жыл бұрын
By the time I could go to dances it was the seventies and I didn't like the music of that era and I was too afraid to ask any girl to dance. In 2001, I discovered cybergoth music, which I love and which you dance to in the dark and I discovered that I could dance to music I liked and that you just find yourself dancing with girls automatically. (Cybergoth is very loud, no touching or speaking and so no stressful situations)
@briathomas5310
@briathomas5310 Жыл бұрын
This was 3 years ago, but I hope that you take that step to dance if you haven’t already. It’s so freeing and cathartic. ❤️
@tippysgrammy3118
@tippysgrammy3118 5 жыл бұрын
1. Acceptance of past mistakes - self forgiveness. 2. Practice self acceptance - just as we are right now. 3. Be there for yourself when life gets rough - Comfort yourself, as you'd want others to do. WOW! WOW! WOW! Wonderful message to us all. Thank you for having the courage to share your story to help free others.
@youtubeaddict5663
@youtubeaddict5663 3 жыл бұрын
Four ways to begin to feel more worthy: 1. Forgive yourself. acknowledge and accept what has already happened. Acceptance releases us from blaming her ourselves or others and allows us to move forward). To forgive yourself, reflect on the circumstances that led to it, acknowledge the pain you’ve experienced, then identify what you’ve learnt from the situation, then say to yourself, “I forgive you” in an honest and kind way 2. Practice self acceptance. Many of us struggle with low self-worth because we think something is wrong with us and refuse to accept ourselves the way that we are. Let go of the thoughts you have about how u should feel, look and be different - instead, Focus on the things that you like about yourself and overtime, begin to embrace your quirks, your crooked smile, your unusual ways of thinking about things etc. This will help you to acknowledge that you are worthy just the way you are 3. Be there for yourself when life gets rough. Engaging in harsh self criticism only makes us feel worse. What we need most when we go thru a difficult time is for someone to say “I see u, I see how bad you’re hurting, I’m here”. We can do this for ourselves. The next time you feel emotional pain, acknowledge the pain you’re feeling and offer yourself some comfort. Give yourself a hug or place a hand on your chest and say something kind, comforting and soothing to yourself 4. Connect to supportive people. This helps us to get in touch with our humanity and our self worth
@timnorton5267
@timnorton5267 5 жыл бұрын
Outstanding!
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Tim!!
@mirayabouassaleh4438
@mirayabouassaleh4438 5 жыл бұрын
This is one of the greatest talks ever.
@livefreeallways
@livefreeallways 5 жыл бұрын
Wow, she is so beautiful. It's crazy this society the way it is set up to create these sorts of issues. We are all precious and enough.
@arlinegeorge6967
@arlinegeorge6967 3 жыл бұрын
Ultimately all stories n research have proved unconditionally self worth is loving n believe in yourself. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
@brittyhighgate4583
@brittyhighgate4583 4 жыл бұрын
I am on a self love journey. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
@daylustar7116
@daylustar7116 5 жыл бұрын
I definitely related to this. Wow.
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
So glad you related to the talk!
@athenagonzalez4254
@athenagonzalez4254 Күн бұрын
The presentation was flawless and executed perfectly.
@oliviac1124
@oliviac1124 3 жыл бұрын
thankyou very much. I replay this video every time I got into a depressive stage, it saved me.
@mayusoma
@mayusoma 5 жыл бұрын
There’s something helpful about knowing you don’t fit early on and then tryna be the weirdest you can be.
@karmamelk9
@karmamelk9 5 жыл бұрын
Kudos to you! You're one of the strong ones, then. Most go the way of trying their best to fit in by mindlessly conforming to the mass standards.
@mayusoma
@mayusoma 5 жыл бұрын
Karmamel K When my parents named me Mayeaux I had no choice, but to stand out lol. When I walked down the halls with my big hair when everybody had straight hair I was motivated to do so because I admired people who had hair like mine Erykah Brady, Diana Ross, Chaka Khan.
@karmamelk9
@karmamelk9 5 жыл бұрын
@@mayusoma That's the wisdom of parents who give their children unique names: they create an entirely new name for their child to reflect the fact that their child is like no other. I love that! Bless your parents, and bless you for making standing out a wonderful thing (although I know there are certainly times when it can be challenging; I'm Asian and grew up with a "foreign" name in white-majority schools, too)!
@mayusoma
@mayusoma 5 жыл бұрын
Karmamel K it took me awhile to start correcting people because i know my name is difficult to pronounce, but if people can pronounce Machiavelli’s name then they can learn mine.
@karmamelk9
@karmamelk9 5 жыл бұрын
@@mayusoma :) Your name looks French, and if I were a teacher reading role call on the first day of school, I'd just spell it rather than risk butchering it. LOL
@jessiethegardener8451
@jessiethegardener8451 5 жыл бұрын
Very powerful. Thank you for sharing 🖖🏽✌🏽❤
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
You are welcome!
@SweetE1403
@SweetE1403 Жыл бұрын
This was one of the best Ted Talks I’ve ever seen!
@mpundee2442
@mpundee2442 Жыл бұрын
I'm grateful that found this 🙇 Her shared experience tears me.
@mickmo5242
@mickmo5242 4 жыл бұрын
Being loved is very important. You gotta love yourself first though.
@jochem1986
@jochem1986 5 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how important this talk is to me. I thank you deeply.
@lorraine70
@lorraine70 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 51 and still learning this
@Canaday291
@Canaday291 2 жыл бұрын
I can so relate to this. Starting from childhood Basing my self worth on caring about others opinions and how they treat me.
@michellekerr803
@michellekerr803 5 жыл бұрын
Love your Ted talk So brave and beautiful!! Thank you so much.
@dradiagooden
@dradiagooden 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Michelle!
@Hamppariranskis
@Hamppariranskis 2 жыл бұрын
She has really good diction! Well placed pauses and clear speech, easy to listen to even as a non-native speaker.
@brittaj
@brittaj Жыл бұрын
This contribution by Ms. Gooden is 5 years old - and as up-to-date as can be. Thank you for sharing, Ms. Gooden.
@quotesbynanipbe
@quotesbynanipbe 2 жыл бұрын
This speech was made years ago yet still rings true to this day. This was much needed, God Bless her🙏🏾👏🏾‼️
@samanthamadison7249
@samanthamadison7249 5 жыл бұрын
This video came right on time. Thank you!!!!
@michellepierson7317
@michellepierson7317 3 жыл бұрын
It was truly a message that was spoken from the heart but more than that from a young woman that had experienced it firsthand and shared with such vulnerability. The aha moment for me was distinguishing the difference between self esteem and self worth.
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