A Trish video a day keeps the urges away!

Practically all of these videos are geared towards people with partners. There are A LOT of people out here without partners, especially these days!!!

Today is day 599 for me. I thought about throwing away my streak, but I kept on with it. Tomorrow will be a milestone day.

This communication is mind-blowing accurate and very helpful! Ty Ty Ty!

No doubt! Self pleasuring is not your best self ! Great cast .. many are now convinced! Thnx Dr Leigh

Yep yep yep yep. 100% yep. When I realized I had a compulsive problem, it put me on a road to recover. Which ment: dealing with past trauma, learning how to deal with triggers, and dysregulation, as well as establishing new healthy habits. Long road, but Ive already spent decades in this addiction. I have no more time or place in my life for things that harm me more than help me. MASTERBATION IS NOT NECESSARY GUYS. Get over it. It most likely only holding you back. Thanks as always Dr.

The piece of information I've been searching for desperately for 15years😭

How could anyone in the freaking solar system perceive you as unqualified to expound upon a "Man's problem". Everything I've EVER heard you say has been 1000% on point. Your education and utterly masterful delivery (for me at least) quickly rendered the fact that you're a lady insignificant. This was one of you longer ones and quite possibly your finest hour. ✌MORE MORE MORE!

Trish - I like the fact you talk about these topics-

Excellent video and thanks for the help/support

😮... OMG?!?! This information is mind-blowing; using it as self soothing therapeutic means to deal with uncomfortable or chaotic emotions?? Happen around the same time realizing that my mother's new marriage was severely dysfunctional... 😮

This type of addiction is similar to hard drug addiction in terms of withdrawal symptoms, bouts of anger and depression abound, triggers such as simply showering or scratching an itch can literally set off urges, watching even the slightest innuendo scene on TV can set things off, it's no joke when your brain has been wired for this awful addiction for decades, it's just a taboo topic for many. The worst part is the days of guilt that comes from relapse failure , all because of a few seconds of pleasure. Your basically pushing the metaphorical boulder up a hill with this problem, but the psychological establishment still won't classify this as something to be taken seriously.

Miss Dr. You know more about man than we man know about our sex life and problems, thanks for sharing informative knowledge

Thanks for the awareness Doc you’re amazing

Thank you so much Dr. Trish Leigh, you are the best :)

Thank you for another FANTASTIC & INFORMATIVE video. I totally understand the Secret Sex Life issue and your definitions and explanations are crystal clear!

Absolutely outstanding video 🏅

Wow.... that end story about being snappy with the wife is spot on. I realized the same thing with myself. I would be less patient and more frustrated for about a half a day. Definitely self-hate and guilt making me lash out.

I completely believe what your saying , you are a 100 percent correct

Yes I'm in fact a woman! 😅 That line was hilarious. To be honest with you a doctor I have seen a bunch of people talk about masturbation and you are the only one so far that has kept me interested. You stick to the point and give real a scenarios without so much unnecessary talk

thanks for posting my life is better because I listen to you

This is so so SO important! I’ve been on this PMO free path since last year and exactly like Dr Trish said in the beginning, I have actually found leaving porn behind the easiest part of this! Masturbating is somehow trickier, it’s a grey area in this journey that I’ve teased myself back and forth about with the occasional indulgence over the course of my recovery to the detriment of myself. When I first discovered porn I masturbated for the first time. My compulsive sexuality is made up of those two components. I think of porn and masturbation as two sides of the same coin. If you want to make the most of this then you have to dispose of the WHOLE coin, not just one side of it! You can’t just say to yourself, “oh I’ll get rid of heads but I’ll keep tails just in case I need it.” Thank you for your work Dr, it’s had such a good impact on my life and I pray for further success coming both our ways!

forget the haters not everyone is ready i think you talk very professionally

Great help sister

After watching Dr. Trish lee videos i controlled my self about 4 months without watching porn and masturbation easily. But again i started yes this will take time and hardwork to overcome this habit that is built a long long years ago still i am trying and i will. Never ever give up.

Great topic participation required

Thanks Dr. Trish.

Your a great woman that's great at helping, thank you Your also Gorgeous ❤

I am only sure of one thing Is easily to end in a bad relationship with someone that is not good enough, but you are obligue to stay there, passing through the years without enjoying anything and living a frustrating live So I rather prefer spend my limited time of youthfulness, and enjoying a lot, cause my libido unfortunately will not last forever

What I take from this is that the issue is not porn/masturbation itself, is the sense of guilt generated from doing it. So it seems to me that it boils down to either stop doing that altogether or find the way to keep doing it without creating that sense of guilt.

There was a time where I made the conscious decision of if I didn't get sex I was going to masturbate to satisfy my needs and eventually that decision over took everything up to the point as where I kind of stop caring about whether I had sex or not because I stopped pursuing it and doing and it intense of actually getting it

Trish, Would you say guilt is a way the mind can allow itself to do things, and to go places it knows it shouldn't, (a bit like how, for example, certain religions allow certain behaviours, provided you confess/atone, for your 'sins' - I'm a 'devout atheist', so don't have that outlet for guilt, but find myself in a perpetual state of guilt, even when I may not have been guilty of anything!) Do you often come across these thought processes, in many of the people you work with? Great video!!👍

😊😊thank you Dr..

Wow this video came just in time

I am fully committed to leaving porn behind. But I struggle with not self pleasuring a few times a week. I live alone and dont have a partner and won't for a long time. So what now?

Good video

I would love to hear you interview Dr. Chris Palmer who wrote the book Brain Energy.

Are u also doing private counselling sessions regarding this topic?

I'm configured weirdly. I don't have any guilt from any action I take in private. I have guilt from having libido though, and acting in private temporarily lowers my libido, helping me feel less guilty about it. So oddly, there is an emotional incentive to do this, especially if I'm going to have to be out in public or somewhere that could trigger the feelings.

You're the one that's putting making people feel bad about it not everybody feels bad about it

The elephant in the room is that self pleasuring is its own self reward. It's a tricky idea that we should disqualify pleasure that is at our disposal with pleasure that is governed by some ideology. We may be 'beating' a dead horse.

Not sure Dr. Rena Malik would agree with this information?

hope you read these comments i was looking into your programs and saw they were very pricey for someone on social security could you possibly do a video and let people know if theres an option to get this paid by insurance maybe we could chat by email or something ive watched a few out here and i think your the best

Hi Trish. I like that shirt. Very cool !

I know about eneagram ... I am type one ... but I have seen some reports online saying the eneagram was never proven scientificially so we might just be fooling ourselves ... even though it sounds very realistic when we read about our type ... I realize now why your advice sounds to good to my mind - I always vibed great with how type 5 think and explain stuff ... one of my best friend is also a type 5 and he just loves hoarding money while I just live a minimalistic lifestyle lol

Go for a bigger addiction-MEDITATION

Why do some great pleasures harm us so? Perhaps because it's then, when our guard is down, and we're too distracted, from the harm being done, to stop it. Like being tickled while being pushed off a cliff.

Is there any link with passive trauma? Being neglected emotionally as a child?

SPAMMERS STOP SPAMMING!!! People come here for help and support. GO AWAY!!

Never abused alcoholic or substance abuser, but I just can’t shake masturbation. I hate it and think it’s gross, and on the other hand I love it.

Nope! Why should you?

If it’s being recognized, why won’t health insurance cover help now?

I am a big fan of her

Yes Dr Trish masturbation is an issue I stopped for like 2 weeks but I relapse I keep relapsing what to do doc Trish?

I've masturbated for many years and never felt good about it. I'm trying to stop but it's not easy. There are so many videos that say theres no evidence that masturbation is bad for but is there any evidence that it's actually good for you?

Do you mean having a lover on the side and you don't want your spouse to know about them?

Hi doc! Your content is very interesting to me. I AM aware that my porn&masturbation is a sef-medicating habit. My wife of 42 years doesn't mind my habit and is quite aware of it, partly because sex is not necessary to her. IF I want a deeper sexual connection again with my wife, did I understand you to say that my sexual relationship with my wife cannot reach the huge gratification/reward that the release of sexual tension gives me through porn&masturbation? I value a renewed relationship with my wife more than my own gratification.

Why is it that whenever a man single? Or critical with women? The question is asserted “Who hurt you? As if being single and not chasing tail is out of the ordinary. As if being about me to learn from the bad relationships of peers, or people online and voting I be aware is wrong think. Why is it that people assume that if you masturbate even semi frequently then you have to be coping? It’s not. It feels damn good. Relieves most forms of stress for me and it’s better than any supplements or over the counter. All natural .

Thank you!

Life living is about discipline. We all have the ability to self-discipline but many fall away and take the road most traveled. Pornography is the root of unhappiness. It slowly kills off your soul; exactly how Satan likes it. Guilt, shame and the inability to self-discipline yourself. Though not perfect, I mostly stayed away from porn growing up and still to this day but…if I see something that is sexual, the first look is free but the second…that’s the one gets most men. The second look. The lust must be satisfied mentality. Stay close to the Lord instead. Seek a life-long partner so you don’t have to watch other people having sex.

Ephesians 6:12 For we do not wrestle flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

Changing behaviour according to our belief system doesnt seem healthy since our belief system is set by our culture,family

You avoided people who do not have a partner other than one you buy

He closes his eyes during sex. Doesn't kiss me or look at me

Do what ever makes you feel happy. It's that simple.

Amen ❤

Hii Dr. Trish Leigh can you tell us about the effect of meditation on porn brain. Can it help a porn addict brain to heal faster?

This doesn't really make sense to me. So if I masturbate three times a day (no porn, just sensation and thoughts) all these bad things happen. But if I have sex with my girlfriend three times a day, none of these negative neurological changes occur? What's the difference? (I understand why porn is damaging, that's not what I'm talking about).

What is your opinion or research on the religious people who do it, is the guild more in them?

Could you make a video about 12 step groups like S.A for porn addiction from a neuroscience perspective ?

Instead of focusing on people who masturbate, why don't we talk about the problems that result from those who believe sex is always the better option, such as consequences resulting from premarital sex and extra marital sex, excessive divorce rate for those who feel rushed to have a partner, family problems that second marriages bring, alcoholism, unwanted pregnances, etc.? Could it be that people feel extra shame from maturbating because society has stigmatized it? There are many more issues that many people don't talk about. Perhaps some who masturbate don't want to rush and remarry when they need their finacial resources and extra time for raising children as a single parent. Perhaps people who masturbate don't want to be tempted to the point of being unable to resist having premarital sex and feel that masturbation is the lesser of the two evils. Even if masturbation causes erectile disfunction, is that so terrible? After all that might be less harmful to society because fewer men may not feel compelled to impose their sexual urges on unwilling victims. How should disabled people cope with depression from not being able to have sex due to horrifying accidental injuries or severe dirth defects? How should older senior citizens cope with sexual feelings when they are too old to feel the desire or ability to have sex with a partner? Then what about the current married population? Are they without axiety, depression or mood swing issues? Even some married partners become addicted to normal sex. This is why some seek to have more sex than what their partners are able or willing to give. Doesn't this also lead to extra marital affairs, which lead to divorce and even more addiction and emotional illness later? Perhaps some feel masturbation, while being perceived as dirty and shameful, may in the end help to restrain or hold back many of the negative issues that are created by the stigmatism and shame imposed by those who are married and were raised in a hyper conservative lifestyles. I'm not saying all this to condone masturbation personally. I'm only trying to show the other issues involved.

I had a relapse today after 2weeks of staying away from porn and masturbation suddenly the urge comes back again I'm not really happy right now doctor

Thank you Dr. Trish. IDK if youre still reading comments after a year, but wanted to give you a little feedback and share my experience. Ive regularly masturbated to porn for many years maybe every day or other day. After watching a few of your videos I decided to make some changes and try a few things. I was able to cut porn but not masturbation. I was able to reduce masturbation down to maybe twice a week however. I still apparently have some dysfunction because for example, after 4 days abstinence, the urges were so strong Id have 3 full hours where I couldnt stop feeling the need to release and could barely concentrate on anything else for that whole time. I considered whether this was "the hijacker" doing this, but the feelings were coming from my libido and not my mind. When I finally got home, contemplating the incredible release, it then took me almost 30 minutes to orgasm, which by most standards is an eternity. So I clearly still have a dysfunction. I think the important thing for me to remember in this is if Im working to make improvements in my sex life to not let guilt/shame dominate any perceived failures. And what I first decided was a failure realized it wasnt actually a failure but simply my body reaching its physical limits. I feel good now and no guilt that Ive stopped porn, started looking away from scantily clad women and generally worked to focus my thoughts away from sex, and significantly reduced the amount of times I masturbate. I still suffer from some dysfunction but again maintain focus on my progress. Any guilt and disappointment is now gone which was a big part of my problem. I do hope eventually to find a sex partner or more, but circumstances will tend to prohibit that for some time until my life gets together.

I need to for sure.

Day 280. Bless

When I’m with my wife and family, I feel awful about my porn and masturbation habits. But let me have a day off when nobody is around and it’s open season. I call it “ wicked Wednesday” since it’s normally my day off.😅

What if you are not in a relationship. Should I completely stop doing it? How long should I do no fap?

We shouldn't masturbate at all.It brings a lot of mental problems like absentmindedness.

I won't cause you said not to...but il leave it available for those who want it or need it or Dr.Trish

Day 80 😊🔥

Former Catholic Priest Alan Watts claimes that Psychologists are dangerous in his lecture - On Being God.

Many people masterbate without watching Porn. So, the issue has little to do with Porn. Sex addiction is not confined to masterbation and includes having frquent sex with a partner. But she is only concerned about Porn and masterbation.

We have come along way from Dr Ruth

@7:04 you suggest that someone casually discovers masturbation and then never goes back to it? That is absurd. There is no such thing, but overall your points are good. thank you.

she says you feel guilty about it because of ur belief system. but then doesnt talk about the beleif system and how to change it. she just says talk either talk to your partner or stop masterbating. a lot of people masterbate and they dont have issues. so shouldnt it be change ur beleif system and then you wont struggle?

How to stop???😢😢😢

I'm scheduled for gama knife surgery...brain. Wonder if its going to be life changing?....its because of misaligned veins (I think).

I quit by drinking and smoking weed

I m a personality type 5! For sure

LOL, until recently I hadn't realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's a relief! Although what he previously suggested was pretty good, it was a real pain to follow... I just go'ogled the latest in Volpstein's Erections at Will, it's so much simpler and potent now!

WHO should reveal to the world about PMO

Does it really cause constipation and decrease memory

That’s right, until recently I hadn't realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's a relief! Although what he previously suggested was pretty good, it was a real pain to follow... I just go'ogled the latest in Mario’s Thunderous Erections, it's so much easier and potent now!

What if you are a female n not married n never were married because 0f your Catholic religion you stayed single n your mother kept drilling don't get married don't have kids

It’s been 9 months for me!

It’s a nightmare I wish I never watched that crap. My urethra is in constant discomfort for 4 weeks now I’m terrified I quit for good but I’m worried the damage is already done I’m so scared. I’m seeing a urologist soon I really hope I get a second chance I’m so scared 😱

Sal

It's understandable if you're in a relationship (I guess) but if you've been single for God knows how long you start to feel depressed deprived and worthless at least letting on off you won't it staves off that feeling

Why would you say you mainly talking to men.that makes no sense

I thought i had masterbation under control but your lessons are needed il follow what you say il listen to a women over a man anytime