That’s an interesting saying because snakes are very stupid, biologically. Idk much about doves but they probably are too, but slightly less than a reptile.

I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .

She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.

God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning. Hallelujah🎉🎉🎉♥️

Snake is snake. There are those who can spot the snake from a mile from the get go and change direction, those who look at a snake and yet see a butterfly, those who see a snake but decide they're gonna pet the snake and it should transform into a butterfly. Meanwhile the snake was just a snake. The only difference seems to be our internal guidance and how we react to it.

yes. and that love does not come in the form of a suicide bomber. the light heartedness of their victims, of us, is weaponized by them. Our inability at first, and for many years if we aren't getting helpful counseling, to see them as dangerous individuals is.....

...there's a stray cat that comes by my patio off my office I wished I had the money to take it to the vet and get it a home, I want a different breed than it. But now I look at the cat like "What if it wants narcissistic supply and is going to terrorize my life because I was stupid enough to be kind to it."

@@1windyoldbird I had to for my safety for awhile. I had to learn not to beat myself up for it.

lol a reprieve from my ill-fated future @@1windyoldbird

Unfortunately Around each and every corner But we are many too, so stay positive Best of lucks

They're not really "everywhere". Full blown narcissists are very rare & their entire nature is centered around seeming normal, hiding their nature & going undetected as much as possible. You have to keep in mind of something called "confirmation bias" plus the huge difference between a couple traits vs the consistent patterns of extreme behavior. Everyone has one or 2 red flag traits that display from time to time because narcissism exists on a spectrum. Narcs take those basic behaviors & multiply it by at least 10. Confirmation bias is a subconscious operation of the mind when what you think of/ learn, the brain automatically begins to look for ways to apply the new info. Much like the way an internet/ social media algorithm works in that if you click on something, you get more of that topic in your feed. So when ppl learn the basic list of traits, your brain is now primed to look for them. Since everyone has one or 2 narc traits, you ARE going to see them. But true narcissists exhibit consistent patterns of specific clumps of behaviors, most of which you will not spot right away because they hide many parts of themselves from those outside of their closest circle. There's also the fact that some traits do overlap with many other disorders & mental hiccups. PTSD, anxiety, autism spectrum, ADD/ ADHD, bipolar, anxious & avoidant attachments styles, abandonment fears, just to name a few. For example, one may show a sensitivity to criticism not because they're a narcissist, but because a specific phrasing used was closely related to emotional abuse they endured as a child. Normal ppl will have a reaction to poorly worded criticism, but narcs take it an extreme of immediate raging or petty revenge. Someone with anxious attachment style, basic anxiety or even immaturity may love-bomb but because they're overcompensating for fear of rejection rather than having malicious intent. So one behavior you note as a "narcissistic red flag" could be something else entirely that has no malicious intent attached. I'm saying all this as someone who was involved with an NPD person for 15 yrs. Someone who even admitted to faking his whole personality for the first 5 yrs to keep me interested. It was another 5 before I found out what he was & another 5 for him to unravel in a way I didn't expect. I went through the whole "omg they're everywhere" at first too when I delved into really understanding it. It led me to distancing myself out of fear from a lot of ppl who aren't actual narcissists & actively prevented me from making social connections for during my healing. You have to go deeper to look for patterns & extreme displays of traits instead of tossing about the label unfairly which is incredibly common these days. Hell, I've even been mislabeled as a narc for building my confidence back up or honoring my boundaries. Being demonized for healing by ppl who don't know better fking sucks. Even trained psychs have to spend months to even yrs sorting through specific patterns of thought & behavior to nail down an accurate diagnosis. The average person isn't trained to do that. Narc awareness is good, but not when taken to the extremes like society has done in recent yrs to the point where we're all walking on eggshells.

Agreed. However, I really think there's going to be more of an intolerance for their behavior increasing, because of video's like this, and an increase of knowledge about them, and their highly toxic behavior. They're like roaches...yeah, they're everywhere, but become the repellent, and if enough of us say no to them, they lose their power, and move away.

There really are. I wish we hadn't been gaslighted by the mental health profession to believe narcissism was rare. It really is not. I've met a few of them just in a few years.

Agreed. Like you said, once you know, you see them everywhere. Because they are. And it’s important to stay away and deal with them on a “who they are” basis. It steals our freedom to be who we are, but worth it to protect ourselves from harm. It’s a sad but true reality.

I can't believe today started with being accosted right outside our apartment complex building main door! OMG! A total antagonist (young man) was waiting in the pitch dark to scare the hell out of me & be threatening to me & my Service Dog, Valerie 🐕‍🦺 (Someone's Flying Monkey?) Don't let me forget the young woman w bright red (natural) hair, at the elevator, just before it...@ 5:15 AM! I ended up on the hard cement sidewalk, my purse (a BACKPACK that was ON MY BACK!) My keys on the ground! And dude is just standing there, looking at me! No "Are you okay ma'am?" Or "I'm sorry!" NOTHING. Just mumbling under his breath! I'm 55 yr old Disabled Woman with a CANE to walk!!! OMG!!! 😭🤕🥺🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼😱😱😱 The apartment complex has cameras at all the doors, elevator, especially main doors. I'm going to ask the lady downstairs for a copy of the video! Injured AGAIN - while we are trying to relocate! Just more harassment, Coercion, threats & even INJURY from the Evil Ones! Hope your day started better than ours did. You can't make this $hit up. Nothing new under the Sun. Just more & more Antagonists/zombies walking amongst us causing harm. Wondering if it's something I should call local Law Enforcement about?🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭©️

That’s my issue for sure. My husband and his father bought a used car 🚙 with a stick (so we could HAVE a car; my husband (67 years old ) ) KNOWING I couldn’t drive it……

Yes.. they’re too much work!! Too exhausting.

Yes. Exhausting.

I hope one day you can afford to leave him if you can't right now.

Same! Can’t afford (financially) to leave him :-(

👏 hahhahaha roomate!! that’s probably the best thing you could do, as long as they’re not abusive towards you…

I was living with my narc husband as a roommate for 4 years & that's the loneliest time of my life. Now that he's gone & I'm living alone & I feel so alive & happy. Pls find a way out if you are living with a narc. We really don't need roommates who devalue us everyday!

Exactly. Me too.

Perfect

Absolutely!

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I so Miss those days when I could just be.😮‍💨

Agreed

I understand.. It is so hard to trust anyone after those years..

@simplyTC DrRamini always suggests a trauma focused therapist I found one & the difference compared to previous therapists I had attempted to access support from was ad different as night & day Wishing you all the best on your healing journey

@@1windyoldbird Change is inevitable, we change too! Normal humane behaviour is to walk it off with "agree to disagree" notion. But, trauma traps us with lost hope, confusion, distrust..especially with special narc bonds.

@@maevebutler4641 Thank you...

Buddy, we ALL understand. Im 42. Been at this since I was 17. The days before youtube or videos, NOONE understood. Bout lost my mind. These vids are cool but just reading the comments knowing im not the only one, is such a blessing you cant even imagine. Just facing the fact that someone youve been with so long, who you thought was your soul mate, was jjust fakin it, is a tough one to wrap around. All the effort and forgiving I put in...all for nothin. Time wasted? or lesson learned, new beginning?

Get out and stay out! Don't look back.

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There is something to that. The cortisol fluctuations cause metabolic disorders.

That is one of the first books that I ever read. ‘The unbearable lightness of being.’ Great book!

Great book. Even the title alone is a master piece.

Thank you for stating that people question if their tactical behaviour is narcissistic. It's not, it is just their survival mechanism.

They move the goalposts…… what a perfect way to put that!! 🌻

@@user-jb7pn9bm8w Right?! Dr. Ramani comes up with great analogies.

well said!

I will pass that "honour" too 😊

Yeah, just too stressful, we're not made for that

This is how my fragmented family is dealing with caring for my elderly mom. A job needs to be done and fortunately we all agree that we need to cooperate. We are lucky that external factors determined who had to be the primary caregivers. I recognize that they can only take certain things from me, and I offer with each of them can use. In return, I expect to be treated decently not to be cut out. So far so good.

Our memory, human memory is a tricky thing We will remember, even if we forgot. It is saved in "long memory" even if it is happened only once. Especially small children. Especially children that a looking for a wisdom. And justice for themselves. And the place under the sun. I'm one of them.

It sounds like she is unstable and embarassing herself. People will see it, and if they don't then I wouldn't worry about what they think because they arent thinking too hard about it.

My narc brother only turned up when there was money or tragedy .He would visit our dying father in hospital with a small meal and disappear .Then complained how much he helped him 😂

Narcissist shows great empathy if there is an audience! The s/he will tell everyone about the kindness.

actually i like figs way better 😂

That's great wisdom--thank you!

Rotten figs though 😬

Do not expect your cat to bark :)

In fact, I would even argue, that expecting figs from a fig tree that can lead to great disappointment that would simply be eliminated by not expecting anything of the tree. The tree doesn’t owe me. Last summer the closest fig tree to my house was taking literally forever to ripen, I don’t even think the figs ended up getting ripe at all in the end. It didn’t matter to me though, cause „no figs“ is the default and any additional figs that appear are all a bonus and therefore exciting and 100% a positive experience. If I was expecting figs that would inevitably lead to some kind of disappointment eventually, maybe there are less figs than last time, maybe the figs don’t taste exactly as delicious as the last ones. Without the expectation, every fig is wonderful simply for being a fig.

my case I refused to validate their false petition, blame me to brag about & take credit for Mom Sisters work, my very envious Narc Brother, 22+yr no contact, his 5th lawyer his paid to create his false narrative. I was Forced 2 abandon 2nd lawyer refused to settle it. Need to pay lawyer for your exist plan, better know your exit plan first, don't expect lawyer to save you $$, that's naive.

@@doriannemosich232 well he made a really huge mistake by using this tactic to steal all my belongings. Lied to the judge when she said eviction court is down the hall sir you better not being using my court for that. He was Then she got him to agree to vacate the home for me to collect my stuff and for me to contact his mother who lives close enough I can't just pop by without breaking the no contact she was giving him. I discovered he had already disconnected his mother's phone that was on my plan prior to that court date. In my experience judges don't like those who lie directly to their face. Guess we will find out who this judge is

So narcissit brake the most important social rule of repricotity!

Wow good advice: I hardly know that person

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I wish I had been able to identify a vulnerable narcissist years ago. My mother was a grandiose narcissist and she was much different. She tried to just destroy me. I had to go no contact with her about 7 yrs ago because it was just too much, which greatly impacted my relationships with other family members. She made it clear that it was her family not mine. My dad and grandmother are deceased. My brother became a flying monkey. Anyway, I wish I had Dr Ramani’s book earlier in my life because I would have made some different decisions. I think her book is going to help a lot of people.