@@stoptheworldiwannagetoff4780 I don't know anything about how it works in the UK, but in Virginia we have a formula for child support. There's not an official formula for spousal support, but we have an unofficial one that at least provides a basic starting point for negotiations (or litigation, if it comes to that). Sometimes people agree to - or the court awards - an upward deviation, but not often. You see the highest awards of child support (the shocking ones) when there are young kids in childcare. Here, the costs are just astronomical- so it does make support look inflated. And even once kids start school, there are often still high childcare costs because school doesn't go for work hours, and then there's the whole summer - where working parents often need camps or daycare programs too.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Yep, a formula in the UK too, 12% of your gross income for the first child and 4% for every additional child.

@@stoptheworldiwannagetoff4780 i love how straightforward that is. Ours is... not that straightforward at all.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Lots of videos of women explaining that's why they have different fathers for their children....more cash!

@@stoptheworldiwannagetoff4780 I'm not suggesting making choices deliberately to take advantage of the system. I'm trying to help women ask the right questions so that they get what they should under the law of the state they live in. Everyone - man or woman - should know what to expect and should have good legal advice. Ideally, you'd look into it before you marry - but not many do this. Still, it's a choice. No one will make you get married.

@@jeffreywaynebehnke9303 it's definitely better left to men who believe in equitable partnerships.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Equitable..........Get real!

@@creaturafauna it isn't always, but, yes - it can be. I'm not talking about happy, healthy marriages, after all.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Your video gives guys four more reasons not to get married in the first place.

@@stoptheworldiwannagetoff4780 no one was ever forcing you. That fell out of fashion a long time ago.

@@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce Fashion? Most divorced women end up on the streets and that's just in the states! In other countries, the women are often burned or stoned, alive!

@@turtletruth certainly not most - but it is a dire situation, which is why I provide this content to help make sure women ask questions to determine their rights in the state where they're divorcing or separating. I was being facetious when I said "fashion," and was referring to arranged marriages.

@@davelips I don't think it's fair or helpful to expect women to put up with abuse and unhappiness to prove some point about honoring commitments. We should be happy. We should be treated with basic decency and respect. We should have a fair and equitable balance in our relationships that supports everyone's well being. Our society is based on conditioning women to do caregiving work - work that is often unpaid and always under appreciated - to support kids and husbands. Women are tired of it and men who aren't able or willing to help shoulder the load are finding themselves divorced.

@YourGirlfriendNeedsaDivorce modern men do more domestic work than any generation prior.. and we do it willingly, and with a spirit of wanting to see our wives happy. But the fact is our fathers and grandfathers did far less.. for much more loyal, virtuous, and higher quality women. The lie of feminism is that women can have it all... but there are tradeoffs to every decision. Instead of empowering women to help us build together and run the home and children as God intended.. we brainwash them into thinking a career is the only path to happiness and freedom. In the process, our children are raised by strangers, and our marriages are failing at ever greater percentages because of burnout and discontentment.. The ultimate result is that men and women are more unhappy and lonely than they've ever been in history. The outcomes bear out that truth.

@@danieldistrola2873 I'm not sure you know anything about family law these days. No women are leaving because they are bored. Women are not getting full custody. And marriage is about more than who made the most money which is why things are not divided that way.