This video is right when I sleep I'll still watch it though

Ok thank you Frank ♥️.

How do each types' mind work??

How opposite healthy types could help each other out?

@Skilly Lily I beg you! YES

Lmao kzfaq.info/get/bejne/r6ydZduevZe3Y2g.html

you hitted the point lol

that's great that you're understanding yourself better :) i think mbti is great for helping us see and understand our strengths and weakness and help us develop as people. looking into mbti is helping me a lot too. -an 18yo infj

How did you become sure that you are an INTP, is there a moment where you know that?

wdym by "different" lol

It hurts to watch my girlfriend go through this struggle lmao. Like, no, you're not gonna be corrupted if you get a fucking job... There's more to life than your fantasies... But my inferior Fe can't figure out a tactful way to say this lmao.

Literally INFP in a nutshell lmao

@@benjaminharmon6541 ISTP?

@@benjaminharmon6541 it’s hard because I’m in the same boat. Just don’t tell her to “just do it snowflake” or you’ll get smacked. I mean jobs do feel like death and I never been in one that has made me not want to commit not living.

yeeess i am related to thisssss

Same! Paired with learning to be more assertive/open about my opinions, needs etc. and feelings even when I know it won't please the people I'm talking to.

Same, i love it :3

Good for you! ❤️

Same now im changing from too much nice to a little selfish for myself

Good for you, but wasn't the "be more selfish" developement a thing the ExxJ - Personalities were going through, according to his Video?

Reading your comment sounds like I'm looking back on who I used to be as an INTJ, but never knew. I was one of those people who is basically the personification of "innocence is bliss", so I stuck myself in a preferred perception of things that I thought would save me from the ugly reality that it is. But the slap back to reality sucks, so yeah, I eventually learned to be mindful about what's going on around me in the present time and do something about it one day at a time.

I'll be taking notes from you, a fellow teen INTJ as well :)

In my case, my reality perhaps slowly shattered over time. Due to mold, bad beliefs causing me to throw my mementos away, being unable to fully attend a high school, etc., I've felt torn away from my childhood rather than gradually saying goodbye to it. Now I have no other clue about where I came from and who I am except my flawed memory, special emotions caged for years, my future aspirations, and my present tastes. Thankfully those are all I need, but I can only go so far stuck in my parents' home with little to safely express.

oh I can relate to that.

@@greatwavefan397 sorry this happened to you. It was quite hard for me to let go of my childhood. It was over the moment I turned 9 years old. The funny thing is that I couldn’t do most things that children way younger than me could do, like buttons and zippers and shoelaces and riding a bike. Being compared to children younger than me was the worst. False hope was always around through my childhood whenever it seemed like I could achieve something. That’s why I imagined the magic lamp thing a lot-I could pretend that I was in a top school with lots of friends and great grades. Fortunately it’s over now :) I still sometimes have to deal with stress but I know a lot of people are having it way worse than me so I complain to myself instead of my sibling or parents.

Are you feeling better about yourself?

did you took like a personalised test given by your psychologist or online? if online, lmk cuz i still sort of have a hard time finding a genuine test

@@Pastpresentperfect Nah, Speaking to a Nachos bowl is more structured, reminds me of Norms stories. Norms comedy on live interviews however - yeah, was a peak wit.

Or so the Germans would have us believe.

@@edwartvonfectonia4362 definitely know what you mean. :) old, OLD jokes. The sort you peel off bricks walls under a bridge.

Nailed it.

Damn that's a whole book summarized, nailed it!

Abandonment and escapism in the form.of entertainment happen to any type, and may not necessarily happen at all to many INFPs...

YA DARN RIGHT

Entertainment is not just an escape. It serves way too many other functions to be called that.

SAME. We ENFPs love our freedom more than anything… but I don’t think it’s black or white, possibilities or one thing forever. Whether it’s a job or a place to live or whatever, I think things that inherently have variety in them are gonna be good, cause a job that changes all the time is much less boring than something “sensible” that’s the same everyday. Also, the more you involve things you love in your life (like creativity, cooperation, social interaction, adventure), the more your life is going to be something you love. ALSO- you’re already doing something significant with your life! You’re living! That has its own significance!!!

Currently here rn, finding it so so difficult.

Same. I am actually rarted. I want to be a cartoonist, animal rescuer, and a celebrity biographer. Actually no, I want to live in the wilderness. Woops no, gotta ground myself into daily reality. Sucks ASS. Good thing I got my INTJ cousin's reality checks. He's a peach.

I'm an INFJ, but I have felt the same way because I have so many things I'm passionate about. However, like you said, I chose one to focus on for now so that I'm able to get to the others later. Otherwise, I wouldn't get anywhere at all, only sitting around with ideas.

Maybe I did this all backward but I’m a 28f enfp and I’m through my first career. I got the degree, got the corporate job and the promotions. Now that I’m on the other side of a lot of hard work, I realized, there is nothing special in it at all. Its sad but the obvious answer Is be bored, be annoyed and feel that pain of the grunt work. Now that it’s been 5 years, I can reflect and see the things I hated in it for my next career. I know life is about being you, but when you are a million different things, picking a probably/almost you is best for a first try.

🤣

Chiiiiiiiiiiip! The most important character!

Wow i didnt even realize that ☺ lol

In stores, I used to rush my mom because stores tire me out physically and mentally

​@@FireFoxie1345 SAME BRO!

as an INFJ who was previously friends with an ENTP, I can also confirm this characteristic. And don't worry, I won't sub

aw crap, sorry, my finger slipped....

I'm very 50 50 with the pj and i m at the borderline, is so great

I hv ne as the second function n same. I feel like I keep making up possibilities out of every decision thus it’s either all options are bad or all are good.

It was so fucking hard to choose a major and a person to live your life with and place to live and everything you can do in life. You can never know how the other choices could've been, but you know there are countless other choices. And you can only ever choose one. How do you know if it's a good one?

Are you sure you are not ENFJ/ESFJ? That's also a typical struggle for Fe-dom types...

@@johnny_roots I am not an extroverted dominant. I relate very heavily to an INFJ. I also don't have the same fears or experiences as the two you mentioned and I had considered ENFJ at one point.

@@kymelatejasi fair enough. I used to think I was either ENFJ or INFJ, then I was professionally tested and found I am actually ESFJ, lol. And I relate a lot to your experiences, of focusing too much on others and almost losing a sense of identity. I guess this is what happens when someone relies too heavily on their Fe, no matter the type, although FJs are more likely because we are the high Fe users... Wish you good learning on that topic, speaking from my experience, it's a lifelong lesson, but we are able get gradually better and better at it :)

@@johnny_roots so far, I've related most to INFJ and INFP in many ways, including negative, so it's what I keep coming back to. I also have been getting a lot of help from self help videos aimed at INFJs. Thanks. It's been a huge help lately after going through a really bad few years.

As a fellow infj, i used to struggle a lot more in that sense as well, atleast now i know how to differentiate it, having time alone is quite useful for this matter (atleast for me) Videos that give insights into the human mind help as well, but nowadays i mostly only watch them for fun xd

I also don't remember that much from my childhood as other people do. I thought it was because my childhood wasn't happy (I wouldn't say bad, just not full of adventures and amazing experiences, we were poor family). But now I wonder if it is because I am an INTJ 😄

Yeah that would be interesting. Maybe make it in subtypes, you know. That could be easier to make and explain to people.

that would be great! as an INFJ that considered the ISTP type for a long time, that'd be really helpful (I knew the axis I am on, but I thought my Fe was much lower than my Ti)

Sounds like the defying stereotypes Love Who does

Personal notes to yourself? You have 3 types listed with one overlap.

INFP and ISFP* INTP and ISTP*

@@STAY5161 あっぷ

I know where everything is within the mess, so I’m like, why bother?

I'm not convinced that even the walls of a prison could contain an ENTP. I know of one who enjoyed the acoustics and composed quite a good rock ballad inside, entertaining the inmates to the chagrin of the guard.

lol I just diagnosed ADHD as an adult and with medication finally I can get a hold of my Si 😁 (but still uncontrollable tho)

I Would Do TheSame Before I Lead A Revolt For More Chocolate Pudding. I Love Singing Is Amazing Acoustics So I’v Always Known That If I’m Ever Put Away I Will Be The Top Entertainer Of the Block

LMAO

I sometimes have a fantasy of being trapped in solitary confinement just to make something out of nothing. I figure I probably would just draw on the walls with my blood or some crap.

ooh a ninjago fan nice!

As a 20 year old developing Enfp. I really needed this. Thank you.

I feel you❤

Yeah it's kinda confusing and a video about it might help understanding it

try watching fj’s vid abt what’s creative abt each type. It will give u an insight about the main things each of the functions do

Well, fellow 25yo INTP if you find the recipe let me know please...

@@Inka_Morrisson I’ve taken on the mantra “every day, start again” since consistency and instilling habits is very difficult, and it seems like I have to make a renewed effort each time. Remembering that phrase reminds me I can always start doing the right thing at any moment, I don’t have to wait for a new week/month/New Year’s etc. It seems to have helped a bit for organization, but still working on the relationships thing.... a week and a half ago someone asked me to text her so she has my number and we can plan something, and I still haven’t managed to do it 😕

@@clairet5636 it seems like we are living the same lives...i have a really well made plan with mantras and very detailed activities and routines, that i still haven't started because of a fear of failure that i'm trying to drop since years now...and people; i've ghosted all of my contacts so much, i don't know what kind of apologies i can come up with anymore... Cheer up mate...I hope you succeed with your resolutions; feeling this stuck with every aspect of life sucks...

Yes we are

Hard to do 😆

THIS.

The paradox is only _seemingly_ a paradox

Hi

Thats tough

Carrot pizza sounds good ngl

Oj oj! Happy for ya ,frend! :)

I am INTP but when I was young I was typed ENTP yeah it turned to ENFP and became INTP cus my grandma haha she made me antisocial my Ne Ti and Perceiving has never changed it was a short period of being ENFP. At this point I want to be ENTJ 🥲

@@g.i.r.l. what do you mean extraverted feeling? ENFP has Fi, not Fe

Hmm what's your cognitive function?

I think traveling is good. The schedule doesn't always work out the way it's planned but that's the beauty of it. Back when i was more timid, slightly depressed and hardly ever talked, my family and I went on vacation together and i don't really know how it worked but maybe the change of scenery did it. After the vacay ended, at school, the teacher asked all of the students to talk about where they went on the school holiday. One by one all of us went around and took turns to talk. And surprisingly, i talked about my holiday with a bit more confidence than my old self before the vacay with less nervousness and stuttering. That was the first key to unlock me (find myself). In this experience, i would say it was like a getway from reality to me. My point is maybe it will do something to you that is different from me, like you said, to gain more real world experience. I would like to know what it did to you when you do travel but i guess being the introverted strangers that we are, is kind of hard for us to share. Hope this helps.

Same, I'm a teen infj and I would also like some advice

Although I’m infp, I do have problems with dealing with reality before. However in my case it’s more of like what Frank James said: “You’re not the center of the world.” So I basically, a lot of times, had to swallow my pride and listen (actually Listen) to the criticisms from other people. Also I do procrastinate a lot still (I am doing it right now), and I just don’t want to focus on reality sometimes because it’s boring, hard, and tough. But then I look back and just tell myself that I’m just being petty. (I’m not. Saying that you guys are petty sry). Like I had to realize that my roots are still in this reality and this is where I was born and this is where I am going to grow up and this is the place that I am living in until the day I die. So maybe I would suggest like, finding something that you really like. Not like, just a hobby. It’s sort of like what schools say: gotta plan ahead into your future. Something like a job, you know, something that you are truly passionate about and can serve as a job at the same time. If you have no idea where to start from there then you can branch out from your hobbies and wishes for some world changes. After finding what you think you would like, you can do some research, consciously develop in that direction. If ur choice isn’t working out, or you think you can’t work on it long term (imagine years and years, and not just the good side of ur work), then you can change early on and keep on working. Also remember that there is no end to anything, and there is always room to improve, even if you have already graduated. Okay I think that’s all I can say and it is Not guaranteed that it can work out for everyone. I’m a teen myself, I’m not exactly what you would call qualified to give advice. Probably go ask your peers? If you can. Like I don’t know, just take my block texts with a grain of salt lol. I probably said too much, but bye.

@@darkirdaftersnow9985 that's a dam long reply bro

I'm INFJ with the same struggle. I recommend you to see videos and read books about knowing yourself, asking you questions, I know it's difficult at first but if you keep trying you would start to have a vague idea of who you are. Also you can go to a therapist.

For me it was that I realized in the end it doesn't matter what I have but what I have experienced in life. I was living inside my head so much that I even tried to justify staying in my head is totally fine as it makes me happy. But it doesn't really make me happy, it makes me comfortable. It were rather mundane events at first but I went out more often and just felt the wind, the rain or even the water touching my feet while at the beach and I already felt so much more alive. I had body issues so I worked on them. I put myself into uncomfortable situations. I embarrassed myself a lot (and still do occasionally) but I kept trying. I tried to have a healthier, more positive attitude and suddenly attracted people that were also much healthier for me. I started showing people that there's more to me and I really did develop a lot by all those new experiences along the way. I think INFJs really just need a kick in the butt. Just do it.

Interesting. My Ne developed at the end of Highschool/start of college. But it seems like one of those things where if you don’t use it constantly you kind of fall out of it. Or maybe it became more innate?

Interesting. A fellow infp and lots of time I feel like this too.

you should try researching abt the objective personality system. it explains abt ppl who are jumpers (1st and 3rd functions as the savior instead of the 1st and 2nd)

I'm an INFP and I have an INFP friend like that too. He values Si more, cause he said he was a slacker and if he is not forcing himself to follow his daily activities for even a day, everything will crumble😂

Well there’s this one theory that explains that quite well. So we develop our dominant function first (obviously) But after that we develop our tertiary/child function because it’s either introverted/extroverted just like our first function so we’re going to feel more comfortable using it. Thirdly, we develop our inferior function because it’s on axis with our dominant function (one can’t exist without each other). And then finally, as we become more accustomed to a function that isn’t introverted or extroverted like our dominant, our auxiliary/parent function develops. So order of development for an INFP would be… Fi, Si, Te, Ne. Hope that made sense lol

Me too! It's tough!!!

Truth. Also grocery lists? What’s that?

@@loisrabies8713 So tru like I’ve never even seen a grocery list in my life 😆

Struggling with the same thing here. I've been jumping from learning language to language for as long as i can remember. Glad to see I'm not the only one lol

Same!! I'm an INTP though but I'm close to ENTP so I identify to you as well🤗

I can relate hahah (INFJ)

I get ya, I have been learning italian for a couple of weeks and I am tempted to switch it to arabic but I am trying my best to stick with italian. -entp

my best friend is an enfj while i''m an enfp too and that contrast is always so helpful for me to see, we share none of our function stack and seeing how it plays out differently in each of us is so interesting

Would that be considered evolving or *devolving* I wonder?

@@indigo_rozes3196 LOL! I think this is a subjective matter.

machine -> food

ENTJ here and I find the same for myself. I attribute it to being more discerning about my socialization these days.

I have a really good friend who is an ENFJ and I’ve known her since I was 3 and I honestly agree that the same thing has happened with her (Not in a bad way at all! I love her to death! Just an observation). :)

I can still be very energetic and extroverted. It scares people. :_( - INTJ

same !! i am still social and energetic, but not as much as when i was a kid

That happened to me too but I'm INFJ

Youre the only sensor in the comments...

that was waay to accurate. literally me- isfp

You think he's an ISTJ? Enneagram 5/6/7?

@@randomfornow no, that’s not what i said, i said that his explanation for the later stages of development for the Ne types was too based on how an ENFP matures, (as an ISTJ) while ENTP’s mature into Si like an ISFJ would instead, thank you for letting me clarify 😀

@@Calmind Ah yes, that's interesting😆 my sister is an ISFJ and is friends with an ENTP hehe so that's intriguing come to think of it.

Interesting. I was a fair bit different than you. I acted very ISTJ-like (always going to bed at the same time, wearing the same clothes, consistent and dutiful in school and extracurriculars, organized my stuff for fun, etc.)up until about Grade 12. Then I began thinking of different cool ideas, partying and connecting with ppl more, and slowly developing my moral compass. Now I'm full-blown ENFP and can't do anything consistent to save my life lmao. Ne powers the ship, for sure, but Fi is the one steering

This made me chuckle. I had to keep “rewinding” it and listen to parts of it again.

Yeah, he seldom touches these areas when it's more accurate to do so.

Plot twist you actually have all 8 of them

@xraf32 that's very interesting. Being blunt about your "Thinking" pattern s is something that gives me a smile cause you guys are always so proud of your logic doesn't matter what KIND of INTJ (wink emoji). I dont want to offend you but sometimes it hurts in a real relationship because its not always about decoding the pattern in your abstract mind and sometimes you have to let go of that far fetch things and reach out to the person beside you. Use that human heart ( personality growth XP ) Speaking of it I should mention these INTJ could help me connect to my Thinking side as well. It's a good think but I swam in my own blood and tears to learn that and GROW! Anyway I enjoyed reading your reply. I loved it how you said the third option. I could totally relate lol I hope Frank consider this , you see this Frank ? Make it a video !

They were saying they don't know when it is ....

@@flora1121 oof 😅 maybe I’ll just delete this comment then idk

@@cameron4715 oh 😶

@@flora1121 or actually maybe not it will be funny to keep it

@@cameron4715 I agree on the funny part , but u decide anyway

@@bchaotic905 Me too, sort of. I thought I was an introvert before because I don't have the best social skills, but now think I'm more of an ambivert.

mbti is not about letters tho

Yep yep that’s my scenario and exactly how I feel about my Entj father..

As in ISTP, the maximum that i ever followed a schedule for a how my entire day of mine should go, is 2 days. I couldn ' t follow it on the second day because i planned that on a Thursday, followed it on Friday, but because i didn ' t plan for a non-school day, where i don 't have school, i gave up the planner. I gave up on that a long time ago. Planners are useless, because you can ' t make every day the same. Those are just scams.

@@jovan-noble-guy749 I have been using a planner for work to keep tracks of meetings and important dates.. I do find it helpful. However not for my personal life because I can’t deal with the expectations of needing to live up to it. Now after years of struggling with procrastination and organizational issues I think Im done with denial. I exhaust myself to no end with my weak Si.. But I’m sure as an ISTP you are able to get a lot done.. just on your time :)

that...must have been one peculiar list. im guessing you buy a lot of cleaning chemicals?

@@asrafkhalid1231 Nah....I just thought it would be fun to write the list in a language I don't understand nor actively learning....but now if I travel to Finland I will know how to ask where can I buy 5kg coffee, 5kg lemons, 5kg honey and 1 cucumber.💬

@@uncommonsense7476 hahahathanks for sharing, this is legit hilarious

@@asrafkhalid1231 let him alone. bleach is tasty

It seems like I may have contradicted myself. Some people would relate to the idealism and sensitivity and some people wouldn’t. It hurt when some people didn’t and I felt as though they didn’t understand me when I wanted to connect with them. Thus, those experiences trumped the positive ones and I developed a tendency to mesh and only express “me” when I felt it would be received well. Also, I’ve made strides in all of this and don’t feel as though it’s much of a problem anymore. I’m just curious if other people relate to that.

Have you looked into potentially being Empath or HSP in addition to INFP?

@@timefortee Yes, I have some of those characteristics and have done some research on it. There are helpful habits for it. It’s been a matter of adapting to it.

I guess I can relate 👀 When I was younger I was very sensitive and it always hurt when no one else I knew could relate to what I was feeling. But I also grew up with my mom teaching me to put others needs before my own and for a while I thought, this was who I needed to be until I realized that's not who I really am. I mean, I do like helping others but I also can't ignore my own values and feelings for too long. I start to feel trapped and anxious when that happens 🙃

Word by word. Good to see that it works for others too, and best wishes to cope with the decade long delay. Past is just the past no matter how much we think it's over. That's an other thing that for I needed too much years to accept.

Why "toxic" though??