JUST STAGE TWO?? The audacity of that woman!

Using a child as a negotiation/threat is horrible and should immediatly make her lose custody

Imagine hijacking someone else’s gathering for your own news then getting upset that the person who called the gathering and their own news

I think the brother needs to document the things the wife said. If shes willing to leave over someone dying, you need evidence that shows she is willing to ruin not only her life but her babies and partners.

That wife is a horrible person. The brother needs to *leave* her.

I think OP terribly underestimates how well she handled this situation. No, she’s not a saint, but she reacted better than 90% of people would’ve

This is why you never hijack an announcement, it's just really disrespectful and inconsiderate and it can end up causing a lot of friction, like in this story. When you are called to a family announcement you don't barge in and hijack the moment with your own news, and you certainly don't go first. It's just basic manners. Wait your damn turn.

So the brother's wife is a compulsive liar and narcissist then got surprised when people aren't on her side after the truth comes out

Anyone who bitches about not getting attention needs to grow up

I like the female narrator for female op. Feels weird when voice is the opposite of the ops declared sex.

Just stage 2?…just stage 2!?

Sad part is op couldn't prevent this becouse the sils goal wasnt just to get out good news uninterrupted at someone elses expense but also to isolate oos brother from her and his family.

You invite everybody to your home, prepare food for each one, and then announce your news. I fail to see a problem. They tried to co-opt your party for their one needs. They had the whole family present, and didn’t have to make food or prepare anything. 100% dick move, by your SIL. If they want to give their announcement, they can invite everyone over for dinner, prepare the feast for… however many extended family members show up. Paraphrasing a bit: this IS your rodeo, and they ARE your goats. Tell your brother and SiL to hoof it on out of here.

Tbh i think op showed brother his wife may not be the best and might be a red flag Edit:also cancer at 24? Damn nvm people keep telling me stories of younger people having cancer sr pls stop I don't want my day ruined or U rememberimg bad experiences

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="56">0:56</a> for people from shorts

NTA this is why u don’t announce your BS at other people announcement gatherings they set up for their specific reason.

This Ai voice is so rich in tone. I really like this reader.

i absolutely love how the brother earnestly apologized. the wife has a terrible case of entitlement and a huge ego, she acts like she’s the main character of a family she’s not even blood related to. the OP has so much shit going, and having such a guilty weight on her shoulders must be so awful. i also appreciate the brother’s wife apologizing and actually taking accountability like a responsible adult. (not to point fingers but i assume that the SIL had some hormones going on to cause some mood swings) this story is quite beautiful, in all honesty, i’m glad that it ends well.

If Ops brothers wife divorces him he can still get custody

👏B👏I👏T👏C👏H👏 Just stage two?! Support is important for someone in this condition!

she called that meeting. she has the right to say what’s going on. it’s cancer, it’s terrifying. she’s disgusting and selfish.

That woman is horrible

So you host a party of the whole family, to tell them your news. Now you’re taking blame for not giving them a heads up? No, that’s stupid. You were literally going to tell EVERYONE in a few moments, and they chose to interrupt you. The onus is not on you to pre-share the news you threw the party to share. If they insert themselves into the itinerary of your announcement without giving YOU a heads up, and their surprise news clashes with / the news they were all there to share… That’s a them-problem, not a you problem. Your goal and plan was to reveal somber news. The fact that the mood was ultimately somber was not an attack on your part. Unless you have figured out a way to cause breast cancer, and magically knew ahead of time what they’d be embarresed when it’s just me and her. Fooling around. Honestly, this is as entitled as people who announce their engagement or that they’re expecting.

S1: I'm dying.... anyway let's talk about you. Also brother just start looking for wife number 2.

I think this person is more of a saint than they think they are.

Wow, people are extremely selfish and narcissistic.

OP talks abt not being a saint or selfless but literally did everything in her power to fix a problem the SIL started. I’ve had a child so I understand pregnancy hormones but the way SIL acted was so unjust and uncalled for that it could’ve all been avoided if she just kept her cool and talked abt it w her husband after the fact. Like this is fcking cancer we are talking abt, that is not to be taken lightly 😩😭

Brother needs to divorce her

What a joke...SIL was so selfish she didnt care about OP at all smh 🤦😒🙄...for i would've rather heard it from my sis then over a phone call...shame on SIL...good luck OP

Sorry but the elephant with the hot air balloon at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="9">0:09</a> made me laugh. Also, I am sorry OP has to deal with this. The nerve of some people.

bruh i can’t stand this woman

NTA Obviously. YOU called the emergency family meeting at YOUR home. People who try and take over other people's events are tacky as hell.

if YOU called the meeting nobody should be mad.

She's hella abusive. That's insane... She's definitely jealous of op

I feel bad for the brother honestly having your sister have cancer and your wife uses that fact is an ultimatum is an immediate red flag and she should lose Cassie over that. He just needs to get a divorce. Also on a sidenote OP needs to not feel sorry for making things potentially bad for her brother because if she was going to do that in this situation, she would’ve done it eventually and it’s better for her to do it now then later on

Nobody gonna comment on the elephant with a hot airballon in the background

he has to leave her

NTA. You called the meeting because YOU had an announcement for the family. Your brother and his wife came in with the intentions of taking this moment and making it about themselves.

Honestly I would be upset if my partner reacted like this. Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t trump other people’s news. Cancer is a serious thing and brothers wife downplayed it hardcore by saying “it’s just stage two”. Honestly just that alone would be the wake up call to rethink the partner you’re with because that’s ew behavior all the way. She doesn’t sound like a good person and I doubt she would be a good mother with that thought process.

I hope so much that OP is doing well. She seems like a genuinely wonderful person.

Sending prayers! I REALLY DO hope that your sister in law comes to her senses & realizes JUST how ridiculous she IS being!! I’m sure IF your brother & her were to get a divorce, your brother would have NO problem getting shared parenting if not full custody! I’m happy that you ALL worked out the issues! YOU ARE an amazing woman!! Stay strong!

Her brother is one if the best you can ask for

It is good that you caused all of the drama because it was your party, and if they wanted to say that they should’ve had their own party

Something similar happened in my family amongst cousins. We found out one was pregnant and one quickly dying within two days of each other. But we're not competitive and are decent human beings. We all know it's possible to feel two ways at once, happy for one and sad for the other. We looked at it as a beautiful "circle of life" kind of thing.

Dat iemand zo koud en harteloos kan zijn via deze ziekte wraak op je te nemen Heel erg vervelend dat je een giftig narcistisch persoon in je familie erbij hebt gekregen mooi dat je je kan focussen op het goede en herstel Buig nooit meer voor een narcist❤❤❤

“It’s only stage 2” that’s fucked

saying “it’s just stage two” is wild

Glad you worked to sort things out. Being right isn’t always the answer.

Speedy recovery. Cancer is scary. Take care . Much love to you❤

Bro and sil got what they deserved for trying to take over op's day. Yes op said yes but they should of waited till after op family meeting

Hey at least the sister in law wasn’t just entirely enraged at the meeting between them, and they managed to sort it out.

Wife is… giving pick me vibes.

I’m hoping everything goes well for her. Cancer is a rough illness.

I know the feeling of being young and having cancer. She should have her whole family checked for the brak1&2 breast cancer gene as well as ovarian cancer gene. When it shows up this young it usually is a sign that it's hereditary and yeah it usually runs in the family and certain types of ethnicities have it. You may not even know you're part of that ethnicity. if your family came from Europe and you didn't even know that's your part of it. A certain Germanic tribe carries it and you'll find out real quick if you're kazarian. But others also have it through heredity. I have a 76-year-old cousin who found out she inherited it from her mother they're indigenous American yeah but some Eastern seaboard Indigenous American tribes carry Western European ancient DNA it's 10,000 years old. That's how I was saved My geneticist figured out that's what I was I was adopted I didn't know where my DNA was from. He had me eat a DNA based diet and I went into full cure. I was literally at death's door chemo could not be used on me because no one had survived chemo with my DNA and blood type. My insurance would not give me chemo because they said it'll just kill you try and survive as long as you can That's all you've got They couldn't even give me blood transfusions because my rare blood type there's no blood in the bank for me If I have an emergency well they'll do what they can They tell me. As for My cousin by marriage yes her family's tribe carries it and all of the women test positive for the cancer gene. She lost her mother to it and her sister who refused to be tested died of metastasized breast cancer by the time she admitted she had it it was too late her sister had been born 30 years after her. At 76th my lovely cousin had her breasts removed her daughter's luckily have tested negative for carrying the gene. Her son refused to be tested he didn't care because his ex-wife didn't allow him to have a relationship with his daughters. His daughters turned on him and he said they get what they deserve. As for me my family carries cancer very heavily. So we are always warning the younger generation get tested for all genetic mutations we're now having ourselves checked for the blood clotting gene to many problems. We carry the rare type 1 diabetic adult gene and extreme diabetic dementia which starts and appears to look like schizophrenia but it's not. Too many lives ruined before they get diagnosed with the diabetes

“She just wanted attention.” Yes, she is a 24 yr old who has cancer and is scared and would like the attention of her family while she’s going through it???

Apologizing to nasty people is just as lying on he floor and allowing others the stomp all over you. That child will forever be a bargaining chip in that family.

I hope the poster made it. I'm so tired of cancer. So sick of it taking and taking.

I hope they made it through treatment

The SIL needs to be a little more considerate because of the fact that her husband's sister could lose her life even if she gets treatment for her cancer and that's a reality that need to be taken seriously big time,at least the treatment helped and the op is recovering from it, good to go for her.

Op is such a Freaking good person, Me and My anger issues could never!

op i hope you get well soon

SIL is toxic!!! Your poor brother!

Why does everyone here want to escalate the situation? Op handled it perfectly and things were sorted with SIL and the brother.

Sounds like brother has a huge problem himself. He’s tied to this woman for LIFE, or at least 18 years. To compare her “delicate” feelings to your cancer diagnosis is unbelievable. Looks like brother has a lot of work ahead in raising TWO children. But I want to send u much care and healing on your road back to health., to which u are already on your way! . From a friend u have never met.😊😊😊

Hope your ok

The AI sounds like Ragatha (I hope she recoverse )

If only all conflicts could be resolved this maturely ❤❤

I love these because they are easily accessible and are great to watch and comment what the op writes

That dude needs to document everything his wife says for now on. Because if she's willing to threaten him with leaving and depriving him of his child because he cares about his family and his sister who has cancer, she's controlling. That's something controlling and manipulative people do.

TBF the Sister and SIL were both going through stuff. The SIL had a miscarriage, and was being neglected. The OP had cancer

“Just stage 2”. Does it matter what stage of cancer a person has? No. Cancer is still cancer no matter what stage you’re in. And things can change quickly, especially with breast cancer and it’s metastatic. It’s also scary as hell for everyone involved, but especially the person who has it. Her sister in law needs to realize that the world doesn’t revolve around her. Yes she suffered a loss and so did her husband. Nobody is denying that. Nobody should have to bury a child. There is no pain worse than losing a child. That said, to say that OP is going through is “just stage 2” was insensitive. And the lying and threatening to leave and take the child if the husband helps his sister who could also die is just wrong.

For those who came from the short <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="56">0:56</a>

SIL just apologized cause she realized she was digging herself into a hole and didn't wanna be hated anymore. Not because she is REMORSEFUL THAT SHE ACTED LIKE A CHILD WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS CANCER.

"its just stage 2" 💀

Never been early lol

OP is a saint, because I would of dropped kicked SIL. First of all this is MY HOME, second i called the meeting to discuss MY HEALTH. NOT SIL. 3rd you got mad that YOU announced YOUR news in MY home at MY meeting about MY health. 4th Lying, manipulating, and asking him to choose is selfish and so wrong of SIL. My opinion OP’s brother can do WAAAY better than that, needs to fight for his kid and run for the hills.

I hope you survive😇

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="56">0:56</a> if you came from the short go to this time so it doesnt overlap, have a good day bye 👍

why does the good people always end up with maniacs 😭

I hope you get better soon! ❤❤

I’m so sorry that you got this diagnosis, but you need to stop thinking you may not have long to live. This one thing will help with your outcome like no other. I know cancer is scary as all hell, and I’m not saying to not having your feelings about it. But positivity is a key factor in beating it. There has been so many different new developments in the research for breast cancer specifically, so know you are in good hands. You need to actively tell yourself I’m going to get through this, and I am going to live out the remainder of my long life. And you need to become a fighter like you have never fought in your life. I’m speaking to you from experience as someone who has just spent the last year fighting and beating stage 2 breast cancer. Yes, treatment is difficult, but is a necessity. If I had any advice cut your hair in steps shorter and shorter so you don’t get so depressed about losing it. Know that it will grow back, but for now invest in caps because your head gets cold. Look into financial assistance at the cancer center you are being treated at because cancer is expensive. Look into grants as well. Do this before you get too far into treatment so you have the energy. Talk to the financial aid advisors at the cancer centers they will help you. Invest in a medical marjuana card the center will help you with this. Believe me it helps. If you don’t like to smoke there are alternatives, use them. Buy something called cold therapy mittens and bootys or chemo gloves and bootys. Wear those during chemo treatments and they should help with the neuropathy. Trust me on this, buy the gloves and bootys, don’t let them tell you they don’t work. Take your own blankets to chemo treatments preferably one that is electric, you’ll need it. Make sure your protein intake almost doubles during and especially after chemo treatment. Lastly and most importantly, be around those that will be positive around you. You would be surprised how much of a difference a positive environment makes when going through this. One last thing, it’s not your fault no matter what you think or how you start to feel, you did nothing to cause this, it just happened. Good luck and congratulations for your brother and sister in law on their baby. Don’t let the little bullshit get to you, you’ve got a bigger fight on hand. Save and reserve your energy for that and that alone right now.

I love the elephant in the beginning lol

Your cancer diagnosis is more important than her pregnancy and it should be to your family. You could have been told that your cancer is treatable and you’d be fine and it should still be more important.

Peak millennial narcissism. Our generation is sick. People get sick. Standby them. What is wrong with people?

I didnt even have to see the entire thing to say: Dont try to commandier a meeting if you dont know what its about seems like good advice. I feel like your sil is a crybaby and it isnt OPs fault and she seems like a great person for feeling responsible.

Now THIS is how an adult should act in a situation where somebody is being unreasonable but you still want everybody to get along. The only thing she did was pretty much apologize for not letting her brother know what her news was, knowing that her news would then dampen the mood. Hopefully this will help his relationship with his wife, cuz she definitely needs therapy

My grandma has been fighting breastcancer since like 2019 i think... 🥺 Its been hard for ger so im so sorry your going through this... 🥺😭😓 Ihop you feel better soon❤️

You were in the right, you should of told him first and your brother would understand that would of make more sense but yeah and your brother wife needs to leave her and forget her but yeah and I’m sorry for your stage 2 cancer I know how that feels😢

you didn’t do anything wrong and for her to say it’s just Stage two …is very selfish and sensitive and brothers wife is the one who is jealous and she lied to make herself seem less so . I understand wanting attention and all but that’s ridiculous and would think with the loss beforehand she would not be that way. And for her to give him ultimatum especially with you being sick is crazy and bratty. I am glad y’all worked it out though and that she admitted to her wrong , you did the right thing. Praying for you and for God to help you through this battle and putting the first hand forward is a sign of strength, maturity, grace and mercy. Good for you

His wife shouldn't have lied

I can’t tell but if it happened, fly high 🕊️ 🕊️🕊️

The sister-in-law is a textbook malignant narcissist

The elephant at the start tho lol 🤣🤣🤣

Tbh she sounds like zobble from the amazing Digital circus

NTA. My sister is VERY MUCH like your SIL. I love my sister very much, but she can be a pill to me and my wife sometimes. Anyway, she passed away from cancer this year. I still miss her as it's only been a few months since she passed away. 😢

Have a good life I hope jou live and that your not gonna die jou have to love evry single moment of your life❤

It sounds like the SIL doesn't have family near by and its just her husband's family. Also with how close op is with their beother and how the wife feels. Im guessing brother has blown off her to do things with the op. Because of her miscarriage and pregnancy hormones and the family not showing as much love to her. Because she doesn't feel like she is apart of the family. SIL wanted to over shadow op for once. Its why she pressed her husband to tell the family about her pregnancy. Brother even admitted saying he would have been in trouble if he hadn't told everyone at that point. I also think SIL hasn't really acepted ops news because even stage 2 can be dangerous.

The one whos selfish here isnt OP its the wife of the brother like OP is dying and you say you need more sympathy?

The fact that she said to you “just stage two” is entirely inappropriate and hurtful cancer is a very serious thing no matter what stage she is at horrible person for that and if you called the meeting emphasis on the you than she has no right to get mad!?

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="324">5:24</a> Her trying to threaten to keep his child away from him because he wants to support his own sister, is so messed up and honestly, they should take screenshots of that and if she ever tries to keep the kid away from him, he should take legal action and use that as proof that he was supporting his family and she used itagainst him