I was told ages ago that after we turn 18 we are responsible for our own healing and actions, we have to stop blaming our parents. I am 60 years old and as a child, I was abused beyond anything, but my mantra is I will never be a victim of my parent's illness. My mom always blamed her parents until the day she passed and was never happy in life, I do not want that.

I grew up in a home where my Dad subjected me, my Mom and sister to verbal abuse. You NEVER get over it. A very cruel thing to do.

Glenda I had know idea u and Zues were a couple.That is so awesome.We all should never take love for granted.Don't think about the past only see today and the future.You both are so lucky to have each other it's a beautiful thing.

I love this. Thank you for speaking your truth. It resonated with me lots. I'm so glad that the two of you are in a good place. I can see your channel getting bigger and bigger. Take care. Hugs from Northern Canada.

You are wonderful just the way you are, don’t be hard on yourself. Childhood trauma can definitely frame you as an adult. You are worthy and Zeus is a very lucky man to have a sweet, kind and honest lady in his life like you. Please take care and be happy. Sending big hugs from Down Under 🤗

Oh Glenda, listening to you was such perfect timing for me in my life. I have FINALLY realized where sooo much of my loss of self esteem and self doubt was first instilled in me. It was if you were reading my bio. Thank you so much for sharing & yes we do deserve to be loved and cared for. Its not ALWAYS the other way around. I don't want to miss anymore of your videos because I might be able to learn more about getting my life back. Thank you again sweet lady. 🤗🤗🤗

Good friends are so hard to find. You deserve to have them, haters always going to hate. Don't worry, stay strong. Glad things are mended.

Glenda , between your unique words and sayings, the lilt in your voice and the way you ALWAYS have that polished air about you, whether you're in PJs with no makeup, OR fully fixed up with hair, make-up and dressed to the nines etc , You need to close your eyes and look through the eyes of Zeus, your family and true friends, THEN perhaps you can truly see that you DO personify the beautiful ole saying "She walks in Beauty and Grace"..... 👑

Thx Glenda for being REAL. So many are always trying to keep up the image. My parents were like that and I hated the hypocrisy. I went no contact from them many years ago. Growth and learning are a lifelong process.

I am so glad things worked out well Glenda. Hopefully, in time you will see yourself in a more positive light. Best wishes to you.

Glenda, I’m saying this completely out of love and truth, God’s truth. I had a great childhood, but I never felt good enough for my parents, other children (peers), and was bullied because of my weight. I was a chubby child. So, I can understand your childhood a teeny bit. I brought that into my adulthood too. I found a good man but ran from him early on, and ended up marrying two men that weren’t compatable with me. I finally married that one man God sent to me early on. Now, to the point, in 2016, I was at the end of my rope, I just wanted to die. God picked me up and told me to focus on Him. I completely let go of everything, my self hatred, my feelings of past hurts, and fought myself to keep from picking it back up. GOD LOVES YOU. YOU ARE HIS, HIS HAS PURPOSE FOR YOU! You must get in God’s Word, and really dig yourself out of this dark pit you have allowed Satan to hold you in. I’m so glad you and Zues are back together and going strong. But, focusing on the Lord will give you a love for yourself, and a deeper love for others than you will EVER realize. Please don’t be offended. I truly love you and want you to get past these past hurts. Just let go and let God...Blessings.

It's sad but true that nobody goes through life without wounds on our souls. Some heal quickly, other scars never heal.

Thank you so much Glenda for sharing this. Just always remember how many people love you ♥️

I’m right with you. My terrible childhood has hurt my whole life and I also broke up with a man who has nothing but love for me. We talked and now that we’re older, we’re back together and happier than ever. He never stopped loving me and I never stopped loving him, so why be apart? We’re working on our escape. We’re leaving everything behind and he’s bringing me home with him. I’m happy Glenda, and I’m happy for you too. I love you honey. I’ve been following you since the beginning of your channel, just had to change my name because of pricks, haters, but I love you so much you have gotten me through the loneliest times, the coldest winters, and here we are, another spring and looking forward to warmer and happier days and nights. Thank you dear for your videos and your sincerity. I love you. Blessings from Connecticut. XOXO

What a hard difficult life you had growing up! I am also learning what I am worth. You are worth as much as anyone in this world. When a bad thought comes to you say no I’m not going there. Much Love

I’m so jealous I thought I was the best thing in your life! 😂 I’m glad you figured things out, it’s great to see you happy! 💕

I am truly sorry that you both are going through this. It’s so hard to find a companion to share your life with. Glenda, I hope you can find peace. The people that are there and supposed to protect us do the most harm. I hope you can work through and allow yourself some happiness

Pressing the self destruct button, never a good idea. You are worth it

Glenda always put yourself first and do what’s best for you! Being single at times can get lonely, but take care of yourself first so that way you can be the best you can in a relationship. On a side note; if you and your subscribers can say a quick prayer for me for healing as I was involved in a bad scooter accident yesterday. I’m ok just sore and scraped up with a black eye and some glue holding one laceration closed. I just want it to heal quickly and not leave a bad scar on my face

Finding your channel is surely a Gift for me. Our childhood stories are so similar. I am so glad you figured out the root of the problem and are now closer to your Loved One.💚

Hi Glenda! I am so glad the breakup was not permanent. You and Zues are kindred spirits it seems. I know also about family dysfunction. I was in therapy for 13 straight years of my life to try to get past it all and try to live a peaceful life. I do battle depression though, so bad at times I have to fight myself to find a reason to stay on this earth. But then I always remember that God has all of us here for a reason. But it isn't easy. God bless you Glenda, and thank you for your bravery in talking about your abuse. It does open a door for people to be able to talk about their own pain. You are a joy and a true gift. I appreciate all that you do and share with us. 😊🎈🌼

Both of you are special and it’s always so good to see you here - whether your sharing cooking or story time or sight seeing- and you just brighten up YT 💛

Glenda... I’m so sorry about your childhood. We just don’t realize how it affects as adults. I’m so glad You and Zeus are going to stay together. It’s so hard to find your best Friend and when you do... you don’t want to lose them🥰. Have a wonderful weekend my Friend.

I’m so happy to hear that you decided to not let unhappy relationships from your past affect your present relationship. We grow, we learn, we mature, and we finally figure out that we are better than the sum of our past failings. If you haven’t already, forgive your parents their shortcomings. It will free your heart from their unhealthy influence. They will have to answer for what they did and did not do. No reason for YOU to continue to do so.

Sorry for everything bad you have been through! I hope you and Zeus can continue to work through things and come out stronger! One day at a time right? I think you are beautiful inside and out! If you are like me though people can compliment me all day long and it’s still hard to believe because I put myself down so much! We are our own worst enemies sometimes! Sending love and prayers your way! 💜💜

I'm truly sorry. I wasn't aware you were a couple. Love & positive vibes to both of you. 🙏🏻💟🤗🙏🏻

Isn't it amazing how that five year old can still be within us all our lives. I'm so pleased you have happiness now. Prayers for you.

Glenda,I’m so sorry that you had a bad childhood! My prayers are with you for peace and much happiness for the rest of your life. I didn’t have the best childhood but nothing like that.Blessings my you tube friend 🙏

So, so happy for you and Zues!! Faith, hope and love. The greatest of these IS Love! 🥰

Ditto, I grew up that way, knock down drag out fights between my parents, scared me to death and that went on for years, it def. sticks with you!

You looked the prettiest today then ever before. I grew up with similar trauma in my life from my mother. So I can relate to today's video . So glad your back on track with Zeus. I would love to see a photo or video of this important man in your life 🌹

Hi Glenda so sorry you had to go through that.you are a beautiful person....

Oh Glenda, I total understand what you’re saying. I’ve been there too. Childhood experiences shape us for sure. Not that we can’t be over comers , but we still carry certain burdens. Bless you🙏

Glad everything turned around and you are in a better place! Thank you Zues for being patient and understanding. Glenda is blessed to have you in her life! Now Glenda you have to thank God for entrusting you with such a precious man! He would not be in your life if the Lord did not think you were ready to receive him(Zues)! Start believing more in God's judgement than in your own! We can (and usually are) be influenced by our past, but God is not! There is no past in God's World, everything is Now! If God does not judge us, who are we to judge ourselves and to deny us the good things and people that He puts along our path in life for us to have and enjoy?? It's like denying someone the joy of giving us a gift, don't take away someone else's right to give happiness to another! God made this happen and we do not have the right to deny God! Enjoy this relationship, grow in this relationship and look at it as your reward for having to endure the childhood that you had ( even if no child should have to go through that!) Storm clouds always disappear and the sun is always on the other side! Time for you to stop following the storm clouds, stand still(in prayer), and enjoy the warmth of the sun on the other side!!!! This is your time for the sun! Plant your garden in your little plot in thanksgiving for the sun and a new chapter in your life! Blessings from me to you for your bravery in stripping away the layers of your life and exposing the negative areas for all to see ! (and learn from) You are no longer that suffering little girl, but a beautiful, strong woman worthy of everything good that this life can give her! Accept them and just look up and say, "THANK YOU"! God Bless to you both!

How l can relate to your childhood trauma, Glenda. This was such a sweet video from the heart. God bless y'all 🙋‍♂️

Glenda , you are more than enough! My heart breaks to think about how your parents treated you! It’s a wonder you’ve become the gentle, loving person you are today! So glad you and Zues are good!! You deserve happiness 😘😘

This video really resounded with me. I have suffered with low self esteem my whole life too from being abandoned by my father, my mother having a boyfriend who ended up molesting me, having psoriasis that developed after the molestation and morbid obesity on and off my whole life after the molestation. I let myself be used by men because I was taught from these experiences that I was not fully human, I was a sex toy to be used and thrown away. I married someone who is kind but emotionally unavailable to me in every sense of the word. I am a few years younger than you. I hope to one day be able to come to terms with my past. Hang onto Zeus. He sounds like a keeper. ❤️

You are such a blessing!!! I think most of our troubles we carry stem from our child hood. Not necessarily our family but others around us. Lord bless you sweet heart🌷.I’m Darlene from Souper at 60. Love your channel.

Sorry to hear and thanks for sharing. You don't need to explain and it's really non of anyone's business.

I would like to say to the child Gkenda Merle...you are kind..you are smart...you are importantly...and most of all you are loved💕😘

Hi Glenda, would you please put the closed captions back on. The last 4 or 5 haven't had them on. Today's was so soft that I couldn't hear you. Sorry to hear about your breaking up with Zues. I'm trying to hear you to see what happened but I can't. I was wondering why he hasn't been leaving you messages. Prayers and blessings for you 🙏

New Subscriber here. Catching up on Glenda’s videos. When you are severely abused by your parents it changes who you are. You have so much damage and the scars are always there. Glenda, I know you went through a lot with your parents as I did as well with mine. You are a beautiful lady inside and out!! Keep going forward and live the best life you can. 😃🥰

Thanks for sharing.

I never went through what you did with my parents, but I did suffer emotional abuse and bullying from other children. I never felt accepted or like I belonged. I was a heavyset child and that added even more to my feelings of worthlessness. I have come to the conclusion that some people just do not have it within them to give others what they need. Maybe they are giving all that they can, but they have their own issues. My own experiences has taught me kindness, respect, acceptance, and empathy. I forgave those kids a long time ago (it was hard) and went forward with my life. I try my best each day to live my best life and learn something new along the way. You are a special person who has a past and has made mistakes (as we all have) and has been through difficult things. We can rise from those experiences and make our lives better. You are loved Glenda and the people here are glad that all of our paths crossed. God created you and his love is unconditional, so you're a child of THE King. 😃💚👸♥️🥰

Hi sweet mama, I am so sorry that you felt as if breaking things off with Zues was neccessary. You have been through so much in your life and it has made you the strong independent person you are today. I admire you for sharing the good, bad, and ugly and believe me when I say you have helped many people make decisions from listening to you. I 'm happy you and Zues made up as he is a wonderful person. Best of luck. Love you dearly. ❤

Good topic. I can relate. Harmful abusive words and actions hurt deeply. Thank you for the video. Blessings.

Hope things will work out,and you can be together!

Thank you for sharing. You are a beautiful, kind, caring person. I enjoy your channel. God bless you.

It will be fine! I know he adores you as a friend. It is hard to know what we deserve. But I am here to tell you that you are worth it! I get that, my siblings and I were raised in some what of a manner as that. It took me a while to know my worth. I bet Jill would say, momma, yes you do deserve happiness! And a man that loves what he see's!!!! I think communication is key. He loves him some Glenda!!!! And you deserve the best of the best! You have been thru enough! It is time for Glenda to have happiness and blessings from here on out! Smile, I dare you! Love you much! 🍃♥️Love from Texas♥️🍃

I was born in Mississippi as well. Glenda you only need to live up to your own expectations no one else's. You have to heal from your past so you can be happy.

Hi Glenda, l just want to say l love watching your videos and have been a subscriber since your early days in your ground floor studio apartment. They are so varied and inciteful; it must take a lot of creative time to establish such quality content. Sending love and prayers from Shrewsbury in Shropshire, England 🙋‍♂️

Your story is a zinger till the end when you and Zues reunited! I, a complete stranger, am so happy for you both.

Thank you for your bravery in sharing this! Although my childhood was not as traumatic as yours I did suffer some trauma and have never felt good enough. Everyone sees me as a multi talented person but I struggle to accept it. Self esteem has always been an issue. My Mom was a perfectionist and it was never what you did right, it was what you forgot or did wrong that was brought up. My parents were not as physically abusive to each other as yours but there was constant fighting, etc. I know firsthand if you don't heal these wounds you can attract people who continue to beat you down. I am glad you have someone in your life who is kind and caring.

Beautiful lady I’m sure you will work through whatever trials you are going through .

We love you just the way you are friend !! Just like the song says. You may put these stipulations onto yourself. But you have to let “them”go and truly love yourself for who you are and what you have become! Sending you loving thoughts and prayers.

Oh my. Only you can decide what is right for you. Love is complicated.

Glenda, I related to every word that you shared. I'm thrilled that you have Zues - still! 💘

Glenda, so much of your story today, is just like mine. I too am now a control freak.

Well, THIS had a PLOT TWIST!! 😆

Dont let your childhood ruin your life. I understand your pain, Seek counsoling and prayer. Dont let the enemy do it!!! Love yourself enough and let others love you too. God blessings over you both.

Good to know you made up with Zues You speak as if he's very endearing to you , that lets me know he makes you happy, and it's good to know you're happy you deserve it , Love You Much Glenda !! 💖🥰💖

Great video ♥️🙏🏼

Love you Glenda!

Glenda you look so pretty today. Those colors look really good on you. I love the scarf!

Left for little time,IAM back now,very happy that all is good for the two of you,

I am glad things worked out.

You're enough Glenda!! Just meditate and pray God heals your heart and you grow up little Glenda and she's whole. We love you and thank you for sharing your feelings with all of us. Keeping you in my prayer circle.....🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I wish you and Zues's relationship the very best , God Bless You Both ! 💖💖

Happy for you both. : ) : )

It takes a big person to apologize, and do it public. I admire you. Even when a bad childhood scars, we don't want to treat others in that way. I am glad you rectified the situation. Good friends are hard to come by. Blessings

Don't know what is up with comments. But my childhood was some of the same.

fGlenda, you are lovely! The struggle is real but it's behind you and you have survived. Nothing to fear, the fire has burned out.

Glenda......I knew it was that!!!!! I had a funny feeling that your depression was deep routed in love lost. This is good news that you let that negativity run its course, and you came out at the other end victorious! We don’t know how long we are on this earth. Choose happiness and follow your true heart. You are truly loved and more than worthy, dear friend. You were a very valuable child. You are a very valuable adult. I’m so sorry and heartbroken that you weren’t treated well. Why some have to endure that is not ever clear to me. Transcend your past, and hold your lovely head up high and know you are an example of perseverance and strength ❤️🙏🏼

Hi glenda hoping you have a wonderful weekend. I hope Zeus does as well.its spring finally. Lol.

Sometimes voices from the past still echo in our head,it's hard to move forward and past that trauma,the hardest part is learning to let go,because you're afraid of losing control. I grew up with 1 alcoholic parent and the other who didn't want me,just know you're a good kind person and you deserve to be happy, don't let anyone steal your joy.Love you💕

We sure do pay for those negative voices from our pasts, don’t we? I’m so glad that those voices didn’t win this time, Glenda. You are worthy of every positive relationship that touches your life. Big HUGS! 🤗❤️😊

Wishing you well ... both of you!

We all have wounds. And scars , but we all deserve to be happy in life .🙏🏾

I have some friends that went through rough childhoods back in the 50’s/60’s and they still bare the scars today. My thought on these horrible issues that children must endure is this. No one, that means No One has the right to harm a child of any age! The scars they leave can harm a child all through their life. It is wrong on every level and I’m so very sorry that it happened to you and your siblings as well as so many millions more. It breaks my heart to think that a parent could do these things to their own flesh and blood. I’m praying for you Glenda, I just so sorry you had to go through this. God Bless you and Zeus for being such a wonderful and special loving man to support you in your life’s journey.

Thank you for sharing, I know you’re helping so many of us understand our upbringing -

Maybe just take a break😢 We all know you love each other and we love Zues too. It’s difficult to have a relationship in the Public’s eye. It should be a kept private and personal. Step back and regroup so you can have the privacy you need. You don’t have to advertise everything to the world. Most people want your happiness, but the small percentage of hateful crazy people try to destroy everything. Praying you are both Safe and that things will work out for your both. Much Love and prayers ❤️🥰🙏🏻

God bless you Glenda, I’m glad you made up with Zeus he sounds like a wonderful man, you deserve that.

You and Zeus are blessed to have another chance. Sometimes it’s when you lose someone that you realize what you had. God bless you and Zeus.

Will write you soon. Please keep your private life private from now on, even if that means no videos with Dues! God Bless!

I know exactly what you mean big hugs and healing vibes

Some ppl never totally heal from narcissist abuse. Much love and treat yourself well

Believe who God says you are. A child of God. God has unconditional love for you. You need to have unconditional love for yourself. Have a blessed day.

Things in life go up an down and no matter what life goes on. You are moving forward in your life to better things for you and your family. Now next time you get to take some time off go with your daughter and her husband and kids on a day outing and that is what will put smiles and happiness in your life. As I said you are moving forward not backward, ignore the fools or know-it-alls you are kind, generous of heart and spirit, and all who get to know you can't help but admire you.

I am happy for you both! Have you and Zeus gotten to spend any time together since he made candy with you 1.5 years ago? I hope he comes to visit you now and spends time with you! 🙏🏻❤️

I’m so sorry you’re going through these things. It doesn’t matter how old we get, the way we were treated while growing up, stays with us. And as backwards as it seems, the ones we should be able to go to for unconditional love and acceptance, sometimes does the most damage to us. You absolutely amaze me. To know you were raised that way and you’re still such a strong woman (you may not see that or feel that way, but your KZfaq family sees it) is a real help to me! You’re amazing. I’m glad you and Zues made up. He must have known you needed some soul searching time and he knew you’d get there. Have a great day. ♥️♥️♥️

You are beautiful in and out Glenda! You be you! Keep Spinning and Winning....Cheers

Hello Glenda sorry about your breakup but also glad that you and Zues are back together because you deserve to be loved and a whole lot more. You are a wonderful person a beautiful woman I want things to work out with you and Zues where there's a kiss shared on KZfaq by Zues and you.

Glenda, thanks for sharing your story. You are so very brave to open yourself up. Please don’t give trolls the time of day. My childhood wasn’t happy either but like you, I’ve learned to overcome adversity. I believe the struggle made us strong. I look forward to your videos. You deserve respect and happiness.

Glenda you are Brave and an Amazing woman

Hello Beautiful I sorry for you both LOVE AND HUGS ❤❤

Let that stuff go Glenda. A good friend. Will not judge you like the past....a good friend will be kind and truthful. Ask for forgiveness.......that is a good step in self growth ....and ....faithful friendship. Love yourself...love others When things in life are right you feel it! God biess

Did this video go viral because it has over 13,000 views within 6 days. I found maybe a couple from 6 months ago that were near that number. This is awesome. I clicked on videos.

OMG Glenda you speak such reality we all do this i know ive ruined alot of relationship with my own criticism of myself.i then chose people who didn't love me but wanted to use that weak person haunting my life from childhood. I was treated so horrible by my parents and big sister she hated me the minute I was born.i look back now and realize I made decisions on their remarks it stuck there. I bit my nails and I was constantly shamed for it.If we only knew how we talk to our babies would impact their self esteem.

I understand. And, I'm sad.