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My therapist once said people feel anger when their boundaries are crossed. It was eye-opening

i suppressed anger throughout most of my life from a very young age. only last year did i realize in cathartic moment how angry i actually was at the world around me. i was so ANGRY. but finally allowing myself to come to that realization actually made me stronger, more confident, and ironically, less angry.

I tell both my 8 and 3 year old daughters that being angry is ok and it’s healthy to feel, but it’s important to learn to navigate it in a constructive way like not screaming at others, not hating yourself, not hiring yourself or others, not name calling, or immediately giving up on things. I’m trying to foster not only a safe environment for them, but also model correct (what I hope is at least, I bounce ideas off my therapist often)/ appropriate behavior around them. I’m not perfect nor am I always right, but I apologize face to face when it’s warranted, I admit when I’m wrong, and give them room to speak or room to have space. I’m attempting to break the cycle from my own childhood.

Starwars is also very right. Anger is often rooted in fear. So if you're angry try finding ways to feel safer. 1. Find a place to vent. Feeling supported helps. 2. Practice healthier boundaries. If you can't trust others to behave safely, but you don't feel allowed to have boundaries, you will be very angry. 3. Redirect your energy into building up the thing you're afraid of losing. Instead of yelling at the internet, go find the people you want to build up. Sometimes it's ok to let the anger out too. Because it is useful for setting emergency boundaries, and defending yourself in urgent situations.

The opposite is also true. "Maybe I'm not being disrespected, maybe I'm insecure about something" This is one that people should learn nowadays too

I did the same thing by asking why I am angry. It's usually because of things affecting my life in which I have no control over, being blamed for things I didn't do, being put into situations without my volition. Anything that has me being affected without me causing these actions get to me a lot

As someone who grew up not knowing I had inattentive ADHD, CBT has helped me a lot with understanding myself more and processes to follow that allow me to act and think about my emotions in a positive way.

Once I realized my anger stemmed from my high expectations of others and myself. My eyes opened and I can see clearly. I use to get angry and upset daily. Now it’s rare.

Life gets easier when you consider everything as information that you need to process on and then act or believe

You can see how carefully dr. K chooses his words because of how he noticed when he said "literally"

A lot of fights and outburst of anger actually caused people around me to be more respectful

Another case of Dr. K literally reading my mind. I've been feeling constantly angry and overwhelmed lately

I've understood anger and fear as 2 sides of the same coin, both are reactions to what we don't understand in regards to our own survival (physical survival, social survival, etc). Typical fear as we know it is when we have no method to deal with the unknown, so we tremble, some cry, get anxious etc. Anger is a proactive form of fear to fool ourselves into thinking we have the solution regardless if that's true or not. This is why I understand anger as an evolutionary tool to help galvanize the person into action, and something to be preserved rather than suppressed.

I was brutally bullied as a freshmen in High School. I have been harboring rage for years -- righteous indignation. Sometimes I imagine myself as a vigilante, going after criminals, rapists, tyrants, and other evil people -- destroying them all. I have an extreme hatred towards injustice, but I am no hero. I am a nobody. I can't save myself, let alone other people. A girl at my school was raped and he was never punished. My bullies were never punished. I am a loser that has failed.

I’m not an angry person. If anything I’m the opposite. I shut my anger out because I don’t find it helps with any situation, but from time to time a situation can make me feel incredibly angry and I try to ignore it but I end up taking it out on people I care abt when it slips out.

Controlled anger is always a positive force. It helps setting mutual boundaries, it makes you feel safe, it prevents you from hating people, anger help you forget about bad things.

I always thought people get angry because things are not as they expected and they do not have a solution or an understanding on the situation yet, as if there's a gap between expectation and reality

anger is a spiritual vitality anger transmutes poisons in the body

Just like The Hulk said, "I'm always angry."

My stupid thing is that I'm angry about little mistakes my friends may make when we're playing some games together. Not even competitive. I find myself 'jokingly' making negative comments, however, when I calm down, I can see how they can be unwarranted and hurtful. I'm trying to catch myself in these moments, but they slip by non the less. I don't want to hurt them and it feels like I'm taking any game too seriously, instead of just having fun.

i just realized, i very closely follow this idea of listen to your emotions. People at work and in family always tell me they never see my emotions come out, they dont see anger or excitement or this or that. Its not that i dont feel anger, but when i do, it feels like an analytical moment. its a moment when i say ah, step back, see the situation and contemplate what kind of results reacting this way or that way would achieve.

This is one of the best shorts I’ve seen.Thank you so much!!

I’m 23 and Iv been holding in my anger my entire like just waiting for it to be released. It won’t be good when it does

In the past I used to shrug off disrespect at work but unknowingly built up resentment until I saw no choice but to quit. This ended two consecutive jobs. At my current job I was able to use communication skills I learned from Dr. K (as well as legal understanding from Attorney Ryan) to email an upper manager that they had said something demeaning to me even if they hadn’t meant to, and they gave written assurance that it would not happen again. Recognizing my anger, listening to it without acting impulsively, and using that opportunity to enforce boundaries early has given me a confidence in this workplace that I’ve never had before.

That quick emotion chart at the beginning gave me a slight whiplash. It’s surreal how there’s so many certain specific emotions we all go through

Thank you ❤

Screenshoting that spectrum because it’s pretty eye opening how there’s different subtle flavors to emotions

This is really helpful man really well said thanks brotha

I appreciate this video so much. ❤

whenever im angry, i always ask myself, "what am i scared about?" anger is a tool for defending yourself from something that goes into a direction that makes you feel unsafe, or unknown. so star wars was right 😅

I just blast hardstyle and go to the gym lol

Oh shit wow I wasn't expecting to get a lightbulb moment watching this but I guess I did. Perhaps my relationship with anger and understanding of anger has been misplaced. I always saw it as something I had to control/restrain in order to become a better person. All the role models I have are calm and collected people who rarely get angry. But it happens for a reason and I should listen to why. The times I get most angry is either at myself or others at not performing within expectation I find. So usually when I or others run it down lol. "Emotions are information". Wow that was a great lightbulb. It breaks it down to its core. With this I'm starting to see a pattern with all my recent troubles. That of which all being connected to my line of expectations. I expect my friends to care about my interests as much as I care about theirs or my own. I expect people to have common sense and not be assholes. I expect my teammates on online games to be competent. I expect myself to do well in life or in games despite not having learned the necessary skills to do well. Etc. Really, by understanding what the reason for anger was I was able to pinpoint the cause, that being my entitled expectations or at the very least ego. Thanks again for the shorts, Dr. K!

I mostly feel anger when i feel incompetent/insufficient in a situation. Instead of trying so solve it, anger takes over first. Only once I've overcome the anger i can start to work on the problem.

LOL that’s the emotion wheel I use and what my therapist recommended me to

Thanks for the table

I recycle my anger into creativity. I do metal and rock, so when I feel particularly disrespected or unfairly treated, I resort not to violence, but to music. The louder and heavier, the better I feel.

Let go when you can and use rage when you can. They're both forces that can be useful (as he said)

The kinetic force of my fist that kills the ones I hate

Hot take: *anger is lack of empathy.* Try asking "what is the other person feeling and experiencing right now?"

Super, super useful and interesting PLUS he does the difference between "literally" and "metaphorically".

I get angry at conflicts that happen, conflicts make me angry cuz i don't have the energy to argue, People keep coming at me for what i said , i answer and then there is more, more people coming to say the same thing

That’s my secret captain

So true

I like that emotion wheel

I've heard once that anger is just some kind of subconscious fear It has at least helped me alot to understand the emotion - and not just this one - more

Yes that is true

I completely agree at the root cause anger is caused by being or feeling disrespected by someone or others that can lead to rage and violence from men. The amount of times I wanted to cuss and beat the shit out of my older brother for disrespecting me when I'm telling him personal information is alot, I never do it of course because the way to solve it isn't to throw punches, but to communicate and resolve it, non violently and if he doesn't change then his a piece of shit and I don't want to have anything to do with him. But that's me I have alot of anger in my heart that's why I did boxing for three years religiously and it passified me so I don't turn into the Hulk.

Yt algorithm manifesting this video after Inside Out 2's explosive success eh?

Great advice for men and women

Emotions are symptoms.

Does anyone have a link to that wheel image with all the emotions listed?

What if you don't feel anger when you should?

I have the opposite problem. I can't really get angry anymore. It's kinda like trying to fill a balloon with a hole, there's times where I can feel it try to start but I get this really deflating feeling even when the anger is well within justified.

I thought this was a star wars short about how to use the dark side of the force for good

I’m either fawning or fighting when feeling anger and it’s confusing

Hopefully I can learn to control my anger better- I have a really bad coach this year who makes a bunch of unhelpful comments and yells a lot, and I got in trouble for talking back because I was so angry after being told the same unnecessary thing over and over. A lot of stuff in sports ends up pissing me off, because I feel like at all my practices there’s a lot of time being wasted or people are using the cheapest shit to score points and getting rewarded for it- I think the only way that I won’t get in trouble unfortunately is if I don’t show any emotion, so I have to learn how to control my anger even though my coach has such a bitchy attitude and my teammates are playing like rats sometimes

please do the needful

Anger is okay. Acting on that anger in violent ways is not.

With your years of experience what would you say is the most source of anger in a percentage amount? Is it because of frustration?

HALT, Hungry Angry Lonely Tired

I used to be apart of this discord group a few years ago. I ended up leaving due to some drama, and a dislike for some of the members. My SO is still in the group, and he likes to lurk, and send me memes from the group. I think the memes are super funny and enjoyable, but once I find out they came from that group, I feel angry and frustrated. I don't understand these feelings, especially due to how long it's been since I left that Discord server. I'm still trying to figure it out.

I know why I’m angry, Rage, because I got ripped of by an auctioneer that sold my property and he screwed me

I am heartbroken. My emotions are telling me that I was really into someone who didn’t feel the same way. 😕 Guess it isn’t always helpful approach hah

Where do i find this emotions chart

Then how do you handle being disrepected?

Where can I find that emotion wheel?

Anger after sexual assault made sense, but I had no way to make it useful. I really was unsafe and could not fix the problem.

Where can i get that pic of the emotion wheel

Where can we get this circle with emotions, please?

What do I do about it though?

Where can I get the emotions chart? Probably I'm only active on like 10% of those ^^

So when im angry what i do is i punch a tree if somebody shoves me i beat them till they bleed is that normal

I just rage over games and get easily irritated

I am living in a area with really loud cars every day and it vibrates several levels up into my apartment and I can't sleep and I can feel myself slowly wanting to kill myself hahhahahaha

Okay, but what do I do about it?

Whats the emotion wheel called I've never thought of emotions having umbrella terms ide like to look into it more

My mom sent me this

It's annoyong that i can't just click on the full video link because i want to watch it but i would have to retype the whole link. Tedious.

This being human is a guest house every morning a new arrival-a joy, a depression, a meanness-some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all even if they are a crowd of sorrows who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture still treat each guest honorably he might be clearing you out for some new delight the dark though the shame the malice meet them at the door laughing and let them in be grateful for whoever comes because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

Disrespect is subjective though. I think we need to get clear on what exactly is disrespectful.

My neighbor is a door slammer turd so tht what triggers me rn.

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People can't forget themselves for being angry? Okay, whatever. I just feel burnt-out and depressed like shit after I've expressed my anger. At least, when it's directed at specific females.

So true