Coping, Attachment & Chaos - Talking with xQc

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I had the pleasure of engaging in a conversation with XQC (‪@xQcOW‬ ) diving deep into various subjects such as coping mechanisms, attachment styles, and navigating chaos. Join us as we explore these intriguing topics, offering insights and perspectives that delve into the complexities of managing emotions, relationships, and the tumultuous nature of life.
Learn more from Dr. K in his Guide to Mental Health: bit.ly/45NirwY
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▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:00 - Introduction
06:27 - I feel less creative
14:00 - Coping mechanisms are unavailable
24:09 - Building a home
29:41 - Being deprived of a home
36:53 - "I am what I have"
43:13 - "What would others say about you?"
55:52 - How do you thrive in chaos?
1:07:16 - What makes it hard to try for something valuable?
1:15:11 - The problem with internalising
1:21:44 - Other people's live don't apply to you
1:35:59 - How can we fix this?
1:44:05 - Degree of attachment
1:52:55 - Conclusion
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@redorchidee1372 9 ай бұрын

it's actually pretty insane how much these abstract psychological conversations can be mapped onto other people's lives. like our lifepaths are completely different, but i understand almost everything he's talking about, and i can see how the solutions would apply to my own life. this is why i love psychology

@__Henry__ 9 ай бұрын

Vaguely, we is all in VERY similar circumstances, when 'everything' is considered. Great point you make

@kinggeedra2796 9 ай бұрын

The scratched phone analogy clicked so instantly. And I feel like I learned something about myself, from xqc of all ppl lmao

@MP-cq7pm 9 ай бұрын

Great insight

@redorchidee1372 9 ай бұрын

why is this thing i randomly thought about at the top now? lol everyone is posting insightful stuff

@lynnespinoza4736 9 ай бұрын

This is why I find group therapy to be helpful, even if your topic isn't addressed in that session, you can always learn from others!

@NoxiousWhat 9 ай бұрын

"All my vulnerabilities become ammo for the people [I confided in]." Jesus fucking christ that hit me in the chest.

@EasyHealthHacks 9 ай бұрын

The risk of life

@Portia620 2 ай бұрын

@@frogeryif you are a content creator no choice.

@bribri8042 9 ай бұрын

This is refreshing, we are seeing Felix respond and not react.

@GreenManaYo 9 ай бұрын

RESPOND HARDER

@Ozzymandius1 9 ай бұрын

He’ll probably post his full reaction later on with the usual “Bro bro bro bro bro. What if three was actually 2.5?! I KNOW?!”

@drewjensen2798 9 ай бұрын

@@Ozzymandius1 and he should be free to do so. Let the guy live his life.

@lefrongo6120 9 ай бұрын

@@drewjensen2798 I don't think a few internet words would really affect the guy to live his life however he wants, if he gets cancelled then he'd probably stay away from the internet and maybe just move on to something else.

@drewjensen2798 9 ай бұрын

@@lefrongo6120 The point I'm making is more so about parasocial behavior of chatters. Unless he's breaking TOS, who cares what he's doing or saying on stream.

@TheVideoWatcha 9 ай бұрын

Damn. This channel is so good for humanizing people. It's really easy to hate on xQc lately with everything that's been happening, but dude is just a person struggling like the rest of us.

@redorchidee1372 9 ай бұрын

who would've thought huh? i find it more concerning that people seem to forget this so often on social media

@serengeti4027 9 ай бұрын

for sure. do shrooms bro. but the right way

@kurtholus 9 ай бұрын

Except that most people aren't stealing other people's work and spreading gambling to children without any remorse.

@Hawkenwhacker 9 ай бұрын

@@kurtholus I bet there are some things you've done that aren't any better morally.

@serengeti4027 9 ай бұрын

@@kurtholus i'm bemused at the idea of this middle class twitch streamer representing some kind of pinnacle of evil in another person's mind. we all do bad things and are capable of bad things. idk what this guy did but i did watch a few minutes of his content in the past and had to turn it off. but dude... we all do bad things. if you can't find any empathy for this guy then you got bigger questions to ask yourself

@nepharis 9 ай бұрын

I want to back what xqc said about Dr K using short but impactful sentences. I am scientist and watch a lot of scientific, medical and mental health content on social media and I find that Dr K speaking has a very unique way to be altogether easily relatable, scientifically accurate, informative AND actionable. I don't know any other content creator who provide content that is so heavily packed in actually useful insights and a different perspective on things that makes you reflect, without ever being condescending. Just wanted to show appreciation for that :-)

@alvareo92 9 ай бұрын

Jordan Peterson fits that when at his best

@Aeiouaaaaaaaaa 9 ай бұрын

@@alvareo92That’s wild, I was pretty Jordan Peterson had fully lost it based on his more recent tweets

@user-gm3lg8gp3m 9 ай бұрын

@@alvareo92There is an insane difference between the two when it comes to communicating and giving life advice, Dr K is much better than JP. JP words and tone of voice sounds like he is going to burst out from anger/crying.

@martaleszkiewicz5115 9 ай бұрын

@@user-gm3lg8gp3m it's not even that, Jordan Peters on is really big on "shaming" people into becoming better versions of themselves. Dr. K. on the other hand comes from a place of understanding, compassion and non-judgement, which achieves even more.

@arnavrawat9864 4 ай бұрын

Dr K once said that he sounds so intelligent because he has written things he wants to communicate. It's already figured out in his head. That's why short sentences do the trick. I think it has to do more with what he communicating than it has to do with the sentence length

@brandonb6560 9 ай бұрын

I can honestly admit I'm not a huge xqc fan, but im very impressed with his receptiveness and self awareness in this session. This is how you make genuine positive change in your life.

@Doxsein 9 ай бұрын

Agreed. It's not easy to open up and we all make mistakes. Even tho I have not liked the guy before, I wish him all the best in his journey

@Portia620 2 ай бұрын

True

@dropkickpherby6994 9 ай бұрын

It's interesting to see Felix slow down and contemplate himself, even if only a little bit.

@andrewp3358 9 ай бұрын

Not really

@FirstLast-yj1hp 9 ай бұрын

@@andrewp3358 Edgelord

@Amaling 9 ай бұрын

@FirstLast-yj1hp how is someone saying they don't find an innofffensive statement interesting being an edgelord?

@TheVideoWatcha 9 ай бұрын

@@Amaling because you didn't need to say anything if you didn't agree, you could have just moved on. people are obviously watching this because they find aspects of it interesting.

@aeroslothy 9 ай бұрын

@@FirstLast-yj1hp??????

@Tahsumi 9 ай бұрын

“When the tower falls, I broke it, nobody else” goes extremely hard to me

@colejenkins2992 9 ай бұрын

Man, this physically hurts to hear. I'm so familiar with where he's at and how hard it is to be in. Still trying to climb out myself. But your not alone dude. Also, XQC should write song lyrics, that line about pillars turning into spears is gold.

@malte4984 9 ай бұрын

him, jesse and poke have messed around a bit with songwriting on stream

@Portia620 2 ай бұрын

I felt that too! To be in a position where you can’t talk or let anyone know the amount of bs you’re suffering thru alone! Powerful and I can feel his sadness.

@azk_8271 9 ай бұрын

It's great to see how xQc is aware of his problems and is taking time with Dr K to talk about them. Always great to see the perspective of big streamers such as xQc. (and he's talking slow)

@joehole1975 9 ай бұрын

@@rambunctiousvegetableis good 👍

@Flash4ML 9 ай бұрын

@@rambunctiousvegetable Paranoia

@octaria_ 9 ай бұрын

@@rambunctiousvegetableit really doesnt. hes very likely neurodivergent and talks a bit differently. one of my siblings talks like this.

@DaysforDaays 9 ай бұрын

Self sabotage, self fulfilling prophecy and isolation. Didn’t think I’d be relating so much to a millionaire that lives a life completely different than mine but here we are. Was super insightful. Thanks to both

@piquantement 9 ай бұрын

It's wild to watch somebody so wildly different than me (I'm a withdrawn, leftist, 30-something computer programmer) with problems I can so deeply relate to. I love this channel.

@nozers 9 ай бұрын

Xqc is also a leftist or atleast closer to left the right

@GreenManaYo 9 ай бұрын

what does leftist have to do with this?

@toohappy5305 9 ай бұрын

@@GreenManaYo well you hear a lot of "it's their side or my side, don't make friends with them if they don't agree, they can't think for themself, they're stupid" etc etc and we start to feel so seperated, that we have different world views/lived way different lives so ppl get the impression that they're nothing alike to each other.

@Quantities89 9 ай бұрын

Sad we people use political beliefs as a personality trait.

@GreenManaYo 9 ай бұрын

@@toohappy5305 yea i recognized that that behavior is gettin more common & i kinda dislike it. people identifying with their political views super hard tend to be incredible numb to open discussion & everyone that doesnt share the same believes is dumb and an enemy. its big in america, but seems to be more and more common where i live aswell. i just think its the biggest enemy of change and being open. i chose my friends by how kind, humorous, creative etc. they are & obv by similiar hobbies. immediatly disliking someone cause of their believes (unless they are EXTREMELY left/right) just seem so weird to me

@lovekeego 9 ай бұрын

i feel like these long interviews with content creators are so great because of course it helps dr. k, but it also helps the big creator's life slow down and contemplate it for a bit, once you get to that level it's hard to have time to because everything's fast and a huge event

@RaveDX 9 ай бұрын

Xqc has been having noticeable problems lately, so I hope Dr.K let's some of that out of him today.

@At0ThEb 9 ай бұрын

X had like 3-5 great rethinking moments during the conversation

@user-qw5xh1nj6l 9 ай бұрын

Ngl he impressed me in this conversation the growth from previous conversation he had with dr. K is so endearing 😊

@ResilientRaspberry 9 ай бұрын

Yeah he is gonna keep Dr k busy with all the new cases he sends his way. Sold the trust of his community to avoid gambling his own money. But he spammed your brain about how he feels alone and it's relatable 😢😢 A north Korean is less brainwash

@shutupack5389 9 ай бұрын

The irony. Dr. K is doing a celebrity psychoanalysis on xqc just like Gabor Mate. And this is a classic for people in the medical field trying to grow their brand. The only thing going to change here is a toxic person is going to find more ways to narrativize their issues with more medical terms instead of looking inside, all to an audience of millions. Nothing new under the sun.

@stargazerl2958 9 ай бұрын

@@shutupack5389does dr K not help people look inward? Haven’t watched this one yet but I just watched a 2 hour interview and he seemed to ask some very introspective questions

@kingaPL338 9 ай бұрын

Damn, I feel sorry for him. At the same time, I feel it’s good he’s going through this now. I’ve gone through similar stuff (minus tons of money) but 10-12 years later than he does, and it was really, really hard to piece my whole life back. There’s such a profound sadness in him, I’m keeping my fingers crossed he’ll work it out.

@notarielle441 9 ай бұрын

i am diagnosed adhd and autistic, and i relate to Felix so much on how my brain works. it feels like my mind NEVER shuts up or fully shuts down unless i’m drunk or on some kind of mind-numbing substance it’s constantly a battle to balance everything in your life and be a functional adult that i used to just give up and not care about what happens to me i had to let go of high value friends that were also high depend bc i could not give the same energy back. thankfully, those friends eventually understood that i’m trying my best and toning down their attention to me is what made them okay with me not constantly reaching out to them. so glad he’s getting some help or taking about all of it since therapy for a few years was the only thing that worked for me

@Chizuru94 9 ай бұрын

Felix also has ADHD and a ton of struggles with it (as do I), so same :) I wish more people knew how related it allis and how much we struggle D: Instead, we are usually just a joke and get told to just do better and quit whining, but if someone was in our shoes just for a day or a week or even a month, they'd want to go back to their old life asap, but we can't just do that :/

@scamps9449 9 ай бұрын

I was told by docs I prob have ADHD and am pretty sure I have bipolar I because of diagnoses and opinions from multiple doctors (said prob because I am hesitant about the diagnostic system overdiagnosing and identifying to much with it in general) and relate to it all way to much. A lot of the time I can just pool out paragraphs or jump from one to another. A lot of the time sitting down and watching a movie or TV show even is impossible for me. Substance use felt like the only cure to calm down and it just created infinitely more problems, these days I’m just trying to adapt to what my brain is interested in and wants to do

@zodsi 9 ай бұрын

yeah. all my time is spend inside my head wondering the past, worrying about the future and finding solutions to problems that dont exist. so im stuck at this age and point in my life

@oo0OAO0oo 9 ай бұрын

@notarielle441 it really sometimes hits like a brick when you read (or hear) that there are actually people who experience the same. I was in therapy for depression when I realized that I have ADHD through googling a symptom I have, without knowing why that could be. I ended up on a Forum and I didn't payed attention to the Forum name, but I've read two pages and everything they wrote was me. Then I saw it was an ADHD Forum. I told my therapist that I have the suspicion of having ADHD and she immediately, without saying anything further, said she thinks that I do (have it) as well. Unfortunately this was the second to last session before she moved and I didn't have any replacement, so I never did any proper analysis or diagnosis. So I had this thoughts often and often lately and bothered me: I'm kinda not myself until my brain shut down a bit, when I'm drunk or quasi-drunk, aka sleep deprived. And when I just read your comment, it hit me like a brick. This whole interview/ discussion with Felix had a lot of my mindset in it and ai thought no one could understand that. Because nobody I know is like that and I always was different. I didn't even knew what it was until I had this realization in adolescence. Now I'm 28 years of age and I'm still trying to figure out and struggle about myself.

@cory99998 9 ай бұрын

I'm autistic ADHD too, meditation helped a lot for me. Doing 10-20 mins a day for a year helped me quiet my mind immensely

@cyphervjk 9 ай бұрын

i know that xqc's internet persona is not 100% him but i still feel bad i was so surprised to hear him form actually coherent sentences and be so introspective and honest about his own shortcomings... i am not a fan of his at all but i really hope he gets through his mental and irl problems asap even if he's not a perfect human, man deserves to be happy and thank you for talking about self-sabotage, was very useful to hear all of that ❤

@kooledgesture 6 ай бұрын

Ikr this is the first time that I understood what he was saying, I didn't think it was possible, and I think I didn't even know his personality because of that.

@MoonyMoon-hd3qm 9 ай бұрын

In the beginning, Dr. K mentioned the team having a dilemma over whether to pursue drama or help their viewers. I'm really grateful that you chose the latter. Your videos have not only been treasured by me but have sparked discussion with a couple friends of mine. I am grateful to the team for committing to their original purpose.

@midnightsoup333 9 ай бұрын

this was so eye-opening, im a 20 year old female struggling with probably a much different situation than xqc but i related to so so much of what he was talking about. i feel for him, he sounds in a lot of pain.

@Portia620 2 ай бұрын

Me too! Been there and felt that and some days still processing the bs but mine is from not only my own but other people. My other problems is how I feel others pain. It’s hard to explain but I feel for him.

@Fantazy1028 9 ай бұрын

Man, the hate comments and focus on his internet drama here are really sad. It’s a minority, sure, but seeing it at all is disheartening. The dude is pouring his heart out about how he feels like his life is falling apart and feels hopeless about fixing it, and people are talking about react drama that will be a blip in everyone’s lives within a month. Any amount of empathy makes it clear how vulnerable he is making himself here- talking about how he feels like he’s at rock bottom, and people still feel the need to shit on him because they don’t like his take on react content. It’s also absolutely clear that a lot of his more immature or inflammatory reactions lately stem from this dark point in his life. You would think it would at least make him sympathetic enough to not attack his character right here but I guess not. I don’t really watch XQC like I used to, and actually dislike how he handled himself recently around react stuff, but it literally takes a drop of humanity to see the guy is really struggling. It feels so gross to shit on him in this setting.

@bbdrgn 9 ай бұрын

thank you!!!! I hate many of x's takes, but they're just that, takes, opinions, he's a human being who is clearly feeling miserable... and people accuse him of being worse than a murderer its distressing how the internet views people. The man thought he was dying for goodness sakes...

@freechilli8755 9 ай бұрын

I know nothing about xqc, but I'm very familiar with suffering from mental health issues. Just taking the step of seeking help and talking about it gives me anxiety, so for him to discuss this so openly makes him completely vulnerable. To attack someone in such a position is so crummy. It seems so hard for some people to have a little compassion just because the person in question is rich or successful.

@franjkav 9 ай бұрын

I know enough to know why some people think airing grievances here is dandy but I completely agree that this isn’t the time nor place. It was a very interesting conversation nonetheless and very relatable.

@pokingotaku 9 ай бұрын

Cause hurt people hurt people

@staviiboyyy778 9 ай бұрын

Bro, all he has too do is pay the content creator he reacts to that’s it. I’m sure nobody would have a problem with him he obviously has a huge fan base people like watching him. He just needs to pay the creator that’s it it’s simple. He can do his reactions however he wants as long as the original creator gets payed.

@miniespeon158 9 ай бұрын

He sounds so educated, you can tell the difference between the persona and the real Felix here and frankly i love both

@cjtrahey4195 9 ай бұрын

It’s actually terrifying how often this channel is able to successfully reproduce the issues I find myself in and finding solutions or ways to deal with them in a thoughtful manner.

@GenOfEveL 9 ай бұрын

I think when Felix can talk about his issues openly, when he’s not court ordered not to, he’ll feel a lot better. Stay strong. You’ve got a ton of people rooting for you that don’t expect anything in return. You got this!!! Can’t wait till that dumb court stuff is over. Remember- this too shall pass.

@Sandoz2 9 ай бұрын

Dr. K, I feel like choosing to try and help people more than number chasing will help financially in the long run. I know that is not what you are prioritizing but I think the choice you made is more of a win for everyone including your long run numbers. You will go down as a legend in the end.

@silentbug6980 9 ай бұрын

Definitely. He is genuinely helpful. Of course he isn’t perfect, but the value he has is amazing. Even if he might not cure the persons problems, other people relating is a powerful thing to feel less alone

@oo0OAO0oo 9 ай бұрын

He truly is a treasure and he will help so many people with this. His videos will be relevant for ages. I'm sure that this could also help future generations. So he made the right call in my opinion.

@oConshien 7 ай бұрын

Bingo.

@frfuchs4884 9 ай бұрын

I genuinely think that this format is one of the best and certainly most important one in this whole internezzo thingy. To me it’s actually really helpful and for that i want you to thank for. I send you lots of love from Germany

@alejrandom6592 3 ай бұрын

I just wanna mention how beautiful it is that xqc is so aware of his problems, and how well he can convey them through analogies. Helps a lot for people who go through similar shit.

@theDegausser 9 ай бұрын

Thank you guys so much for uploading this. I watched live and thought, hearing this from X could potentially help a ton of young people who follow Felix. Thank you For this real, insightful conversation.

@saraj7608 9 ай бұрын

Wow this conversation broke me. In a good way of course, an insightful way related to myself and close people in my life. This was a great conversation! Thank you.

@fastyfoxy 9 ай бұрын

im surprised how intelligble everything went

@mannb1023 9 ай бұрын

What

@morganicallyproduced4310 9 ай бұрын

@@mannb1023 they are surprised that it was easy to understand.

@train_cam 9 ай бұрын

nice, I need me a good Dr.K sesh this morning

@N64Gary 9 ай бұрын

As someone who was suicidal for many years around highschool related to the later parts of the video this meant a lot to finally understand this part of myself. Been watching a long while probably since around the time the juicer originally came on and genuinely have felt progress within myself in many areas of my life.

@HANIMEME 8 ай бұрын

This is probably the most difficult "case" that ive ever seen dr k sort through, but its amazing that they came out the other end very coherant

@philipstarris1469 9 ай бұрын

I remember the first interview with XQC was actually my introduction to Healthy Gamer, and I've been inspired by their work ever since. So awesome to see them do another stream together!

@youtubepremium9253 9 ай бұрын

From the start I feel so invited to this conversation - love the tone of voices and general calmness. Will be a nice watch, thanks

@pikkallo6013 9 ай бұрын

I relate to xqc more than I thought. Thank you for the discussion ❤

@thothtrismegistus929 9 ай бұрын

Every humans have the same basic problem at the core.

@micheller3251 9 ай бұрын

This guy looks and sounds like I did a couple of weeks before I realized that I was already too burned out to a point where my brain and body refused to cooperate for anything. xQc, I wish you whatever will get you out of this situation. Whatever you need, find a way to get it or your body will make the hard decisions for you.

@Portia620 2 ай бұрын

Agreed about being burnt out by stress and toxicity!

@user-lk9vu8nl8u 9 ай бұрын

There is an interesting moment in this discussion. Felix said that he couldn't count on himself, but at the same time he talked about how self destruction was a normal thing to him. Like he is destroying something and expecting support from the same thing. He needs to channel his rage. But there is no more resource to turn it upon himself.

@franjkav 9 ай бұрын

It seems he is indicating something about his life is completely imbalanced right now

@bbdrgn 9 ай бұрын

honestly really proud of Felix for this. I really think I as a viewer needed him humanized this is important for him and so many people and I think it's amazing

@fyrebird5898 9 ай бұрын

Well done Felix for being so honest and making yourself vulnerable. My hope is that your family and friends watch this and gain valuable insight into what you struggle with. That they will be better equipped to support and encourage you. That you will learn they see and love you.

@tomasvergara6108 7 ай бұрын

Watching this made me think that my therapist is not very good. I mean, Dr. K delivers more interesting insights in 10 minutes than my therapist in 10 sessions.

@GamanToad 9 ай бұрын

this was one of the best conversations ive seen

@temptaytion 9 ай бұрын

Omg I'm so excited to watch this!! Love seeing X's progression over the years. ❤❤ Proud that you're Canadian, xQc.

@Jetjoshwall 9 ай бұрын

I've seen QXC involved in more drama recently and hearing him talk about the things he deals with made me empathize with him a lot more. As someone who doesn't watch him regularly I hope that he is able to bounce back.

@izio1111 9 ай бұрын

You're amazing Dr K! Keep it up! ❤

@oConshien 7 ай бұрын

Scratched phone analogy, I felt. Think it also relates to the whole, psychological weight of growing up with ADHD and failing things / letting things fall through the cracks / letting people down, but not from a lack of effort or caring. Eventually, it's easier to say, "let's embrace the chaos" and not ever try to climb the 'wall of awful'. Over time our ego learns to protect itself (and perhaps, in attempt to protect those we care about) because it hurts less to fail if we know we didn't try than to actually try really hard and still not succeed the way you think we should be able to.

@nowie4007 6 ай бұрын

Same I also relate to this so much as ADHD too

@CrossaIicious 9 ай бұрын

I watched this live! This was a fantastic conversation

@sashalee5498 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing! This was really helpful to listen to 💛

@TheTsuha 9 ай бұрын

This is the most vulnerable and heartfelt conv that i saw from this channel yet. Thank you Felix and prayer for ur happiness my man

@rayanmozamel1458 9 ай бұрын

i watched the video bcuz of the word chaos but i never expected to relate that much i feel like felix in this vid is just me and d. k was talking to me i haaaad alot of realizations and its sooooo eye opening specially the control talk omg this was sooooo helpfull

@kylespevak6781 9 ай бұрын

This made me realize that rich people who are extroverts are far more likely to be taking advantage of and thus feel lonely versus the introverts who are comfortable being alone. The people who are more extroverted will want to be surrounded by other people so that will often attract a lot of fake friends or people who are using them for financial or other gain. The introvert would more likely be comfortable cutting off those kinds of relationships

@Portia620 2 ай бұрын

Maybe some go that way because of this and I have said this for years and this explains why many Hollywood stars are I. So much pain! I don’t think all chose to be introverted! I spoke to a guy recently and I’m like telling him not to buy women cars if he is not married!!!! No no no!!! Just in a small amount of time I have seen some times he has been take. Advantage of!!!! 🥹.

@GodiscomingBhappy 8 ай бұрын

Excellent session. It takes a very powerful, self aware, and bold person to be so openly vulnerable like that. Thank you for REAL life examples. Blessings

@christopherlansky 9 ай бұрын

damn... I am not a emotional guy but "Even if you check out, you are still what you have" with all the rest felix said gave me a little tear :D

@rotomwash0355 9 ай бұрын

Dr K your content is getting buried in my feed but i felt your absence. I need the new learnings. Thanks for being here.

@cimaaaaaaa 9 ай бұрын

pls do a checkup on him

@DrCornTato 9 ай бұрын

I want more of this.

@ollifant0168 9 ай бұрын

This was your best talk.

@AnaOhKay 9 ай бұрын

the older talk with xqc was always among my favourite interviews from healthy gamer, excited to catch up on this one!

@Phatxual 9 ай бұрын

Props to Felix for opening up and coming on the show! This has inevitably spawned some love for him that did not previously exist. Good luck to him in everything, and hopefully, he can see things from a different perspective❤️‍🔥 Thanks for this Dr.K, you're an under-sung hero💯🧡

@CatalogK9 7 ай бұрын

Man, all this about the losing “home” and overwhelming loss and reversal of pillars feels like the heart of what I’ve been going through, even though obviously the actual circumstances are very different.

@CatalogK9 7 ай бұрын

“A lot of walls, and no home.” Oof.

@icraft6 9 ай бұрын

To add to Felix/xQc's analogy (55:55) about the scratched phone: it sure does adds a lot of freedom when you scratch the phone, because the phone is no longer perfect and adding one more scratch to the phone is not a big deal as it use to. And when the phone is no longer usable, just toss it away and get a new one. Felix/xQc is somewhat treating his life like a scratched phone, but right now, he doesn't have the knowledge and skills to repair his life/phone, so to the point of where he is so broken and needs a new life/start/phone but can't find ways to repair/replace himself.

@thanosraja2091 9 ай бұрын

That was very nice.

@rosiex1841 9 ай бұрын

I don't know what's happened to Felix outside of the points discussed in this interview. However, he genuinely seems like a good guy who's just trying his best. I hope he recovers from this rough period and that he has some stability and peace soon 💛

@midnightsoup333 9 ай бұрын

i ADORE!!! Dr. K's reply at 1:53:26 its so kind and validating

@MarronFrui 9 ай бұрын

Its been the first time in a year or more i'm really glad to listen to xqc and empathize with him

@TheBman292 9 ай бұрын

It’s interesting and fun to watch dr.k talk to all these streamers and see more of the side of the person and not the streamer

@cli. 9 ай бұрын

I feel that Dr. K is really amazing at creating this judgment-free environment so that even Felix doesn't feel the need to react defensively. It's clear that he's really responsive to his gentle approach. I was surprised by how self-aware he was, and how good he was at expressing his feelings. The video itself was sad to watch because you'd expect someone as successful as him to be in a better position to make himself happier, but it seems like he's suffering from it all terribly. I had to stop watching lately, after the whole H3 thing, because he was behaving in a really immature way. I didn't recognize him anymore, with how he was flaunting his wealth, and how his negativity was bleeding into his content. I noticed that he started using really gloomy language since a while back, and I found that quite alarming. My hope is that he'll start surrounding himself with people that genuinely cares about him. Seems like that's what he needs the most right now.

@franjkav 9 ай бұрын

This whole comment is odd. One could argue Dr. K is reacting (well) to Felix’s gentle approach and not the reverse as you stated. Dr. K has expertise in coaching but only Felix has expertise in Felix-Dr. K isn’t dictating the approach, he is matching it, it’s mutual. Also “I was surprised…” is a backhanded compliment in this context. You could simply say you appreciated x, y, z things. The rest of the comment is a bunch of subjective judgments, observations, and assumptions (one doesn’t in fact have to assume being “successful” means happy or whatever) as well as an airing of grievances. Save it for Reddit or somewhere else.

@cli. 9 ай бұрын

@@franjkav Sorry if a mod asks me to take down my comment, I will do it without any issue. I didn't realize that the Reddit and KZfaq allow different types of comments. I was just trying to express how I felt and what I've noticed (my reasons as to why I had to take a break from watching xQc videos/why this video is so good in comparison), as a big fan of Felix, how happy I am he decided to do this interview with Dr. K, because the result (how he's expressing himself) is different from what Felix normally uploads. Different in a very positive way

@ulffus7725 6 ай бұрын

Thank you felix, your show of how you deal with thing really helped me, i am kind of in the same situation.

@vanillagray3367 9 ай бұрын

this really made me cry. hearing felix pour his heart out hit hard. i just feel so bad for the dude cuz he’s clearly going through so much. it breaks my hear hearing he wrote a will at such a young age.

@tavoroda7916 9 ай бұрын

there is no denying, Felix is a very innovative and out of the box guy

@paulashinn 9 ай бұрын

i loved this conversation and i was able to relate so much as a "control freak" myself, ive felt so much liberation in the whole burn it all down tho i think it was a good trip, eventually i had to understand what was going on i was never able to watch xQc bud god if he was like this more ofter i'd watch him for sure

@Windprinceinfiresman 3 ай бұрын

This was like watching myself get on my own video therapy call. Very uncanny almost but still so vulnerable ❤ thanks for sharing.

@quendelf 6 ай бұрын

Ugh… it is gut wrenching to listen to someone for the first time who has been through the same “loss of home” as I have. Unfortunately I didn’t have a sense of safe “home” much as a child and building that as a nearly 30 year old on my own is difficult. Without feeling like you have a safe “home” almost everything else in your life becomes 10x harder. You have no solid foundation to build on so you end up in survival mode all the time. We NEED people we can rely on in life. It’s part of being human. When we don’t… we suffer.

@ArtSchoolSucks 9 ай бұрын

Dr K videos remind me of plant medicine: you get what you need not what you want. I mean this as a viewer, I never know what to expect turning on an interview, sometimes it's extremely invigorating from start to finish, sometimes it's a lot of rambling in the beginning, but as it begins to ramp up, it gets more and more relatable as I begin to see myself in them. With very few exceptions, I can always find myself in the people he interviews. At some point, I will go "Yup, there it is, I'm you and you're me." Dr K is a psychedelic.

@HisSecretSmile 9 ай бұрын

More like with plant medicine "you get what you need, not what you want, and sometimes not what you needed to begin with at all" 😆

@ArtSchoolSucks 9 ай бұрын

lmao well worded, you could write Bilbo Baggin's birthday speeches!@@HisSecretSmile

@ArtSchoolSucks 9 ай бұрын

Or batman's ending monologues.@@HisSecretSmile

@Kelly-wc2si 9 ай бұрын

Did anyone else watch him describe the self-sabotage thing and feeling broken -- and think of Bojack? The show hits on these points SO well, would highly recommend watching

@ovrtu3427 6 ай бұрын

Felix we love you man, I hope things have gotten better !

@aseriousfrog7582 9 ай бұрын

Do you understand Dr. K that you are more qualified than most therapists or psychologists? The reason that you are so amazing at what you do is because your pursuant to a cause that is bigger than any of us, I would implore you to explore the idea that the reason that there are so many issues with mental health and our society is because the individuals representing the mental health industry aren't the purveyors of truth that we need. The reason that I feel you are so influential Dr. K is because people have gone their entire lives looking for answers they found because the KZfaq Algorithm recommended your video. Thank you for the answers I've learned from your channel tonight Dr. K, I sincerely wish for an opportunity to speak to a mind such as yours, however I would be privileged if you saw this comment. I can't say you changed my life buddy, but I can say that you've answered some questions that I have struggled with for a long time. Thank you for that, and thank you for pursuing this mission. I appreciate you.

@migi7787 7 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤

@Caca-yq2di 3 ай бұрын

I like watching xqc but this video still surprised me a lot. He speaks so well in it, I’ve never enjoyed listening to him talk this much, he has some really amazing analogies

@macrayla 9 ай бұрын

this resonated so hard

@CookieSlime-tf8gq 7 ай бұрын

womp womp

@bronsomccor2642 9 ай бұрын

Feel for xqc he knows he has some addictions and bad habits I remember seeing how messy his room was full of junk food and how he has night terrors that wake him up cause he doesn't sleep cause he streams 24 hours

@chaselorenz6767 9 ай бұрын

Dr. K is an advocate for mindfulness in a video of his that I think is really helping me. There’s just a concern I have. In times when I’ve been consistent with mindfulness meditation, I’ve been way less anxious and a better communicator and worker, but I felt as though it suppressed my ego in a way. The problem with this is that I think I need to integrate my ego more to become more assertive and driven. Does anyone else relate to this?

@franjkav 9 ай бұрын

Why do you think you need to be more driven?

@patricklapinski1526 9 ай бұрын

I think the judgment youre unintentionally making towards yourself is your ego trying to retain some of you control. Listen to that ego, give it its space and respect it. However you dont need to act on it. Acknowledge its a part of your experience but you're the one with the power to act im a way that is true to your values. Hope this helps somehow lmao

@richardsmith3917 9 ай бұрын

This could be the results of having para-social relationships on the content providers side. By using your audience as a diary /sound board they can start directing the content creator in a direction that ultimately doesn't feel like it's themselves but a character of themselves which they get more disassociate with as they grow and change.

@TugaluGaming 9 ай бұрын

Wasn't expecting to relate this hard damn

@regulusthestar 29 күн бұрын

god i love the way felix has gotten so much articulate from the last session

@oo0OAO0oo 9 ай бұрын

Honestly. I couldn't stop watching. It was an honest and thoughtful interaction. And I found my self A LOT in Felix shoes. Maybe it's a ADHD thing and it hasn't be the norm for everyone, but I see myself in this mindset too. I don't really know XQC or watch him, but I was surprised anyway, in how he is processing with things internally. I didn't expect to find myself there. Of all places, I never heard someone talking about this, nor describing things in the way he did. So Dr. K and Felix did have to a big extent my internal thoughts and mindset discussed. It was like watching my internal discussions on screen, which is weird but also refreshing and helpful. It reminded me that I have to work harder on myself. Thank you all for doing this.

@Drakonus_ 9 ай бұрын

I mean, he had a whole drama about illegally taking Adderall which turned out to be untrue because he actually had ADHD and was prescribed to take them by the doctor. So you're relating a lot more because you both probably have more struggles in common.

@nowie4007 6 ай бұрын

So I am not alone with ADHD who related to Felix in this interview 😮

@kylespevak6781 9 ай бұрын

Never heard of this guy and whatever drama he was a part of but I like the way that he describes everything through pretty vivid imagery

@IllustriousBronson 9 ай бұрын

Little did I know going into this that I would realize that Felix and I are very similar, especially in the controlling aspect of our lives. God damn.

@randymartin9040 9 ай бұрын

Absolutely fantastic session, very intelligent questions. What you essentially prescribed to XQC at the end is the basis for existentialism lol.

@migi7787 7 ай бұрын

I navigated from a tiktok excerpt here, but I left aside everything I was doing so I can watch the discussion, amazing DrK, you're my favorite person on UTube, I loved the questions you asked, how you were able to dig the profile while maintaining his privacy, refined and subtle pushing to arrive to self discovery, I am your number 1 Fan, please don't change! 🌞👍🤗

@izio1111 9 ай бұрын

Hope they had a second talk off stream so X could be more specific on what's going on instead of having to be vague due to court legalities and the fact that they are on stream. That way things could be more clear between Dr. K and X but anyways, the interview went really well and Felix even said it helped him a lot which I as a viewer saw as well. Dr. K and Healthy Gamer are amazing at what they do. Keep it up Dr. K!

@Appleloucious Ай бұрын

One Love! Always forward, never ever backward!! ☀☀☀ 💚💛❤ 🙏🏿🙏🙏🏼

@iJerrrrrry 3 ай бұрын

Dr K. said about saying something vaguely and not directly exactly how you feel really resonated with me and what I am currently going through now. Looking for the sprinkles of gold dust for my own life. Thanks Dr K. On another note, gosh damn XQC has it pretty hard. I feel for him, some similar traits and experiences though not as severe.

@kalixmaxwell4742 9 ай бұрын

i wish i had dr.k's power of correcting self deprecation or downplaying immediately, its the only time he interrupts

@Eric-eq9pe 9 ай бұрын

love you dr k

@p4nd0r43z 9 ай бұрын

Did he lose a parent or a partner recently? It's clearly crushing his soul. I'm so glad Dr. K noticed this in person and decided to bring him on. I think he truly needed someone to talk to. Therapy is not something anyone should be ashamed of needing. If you don't it's more concerning.

@phillipboesen9961 9 ай бұрын

Partner. from what i understand, they were in a "common law" marriage. He recently signed a 100 million dollar streaming deal with a website. He was having health problems, scary enough to talk with his parents about a will. This partner over the course of time was more worried about if they were in the will than xQc's health and happiness. so, xQc is fighting in court with them right now. there so much more drama that piles on as well as this. it is a lot for him to carry around

@p4nd0r43z 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for the context. That really illuminates this conversation. I truly hope he gets the medical help he needs as well as the emotional support he needs.@@phillipboesen9961

@MaxUnthinkable 9 ай бұрын

Please revise the interview playlist… thanks for the help

@thxcaze1416 9 ай бұрын

I wasn’t expecting XQC on here

@LeMagnifiquePetiteEspirit 9 ай бұрын

Hes been here before

@halfmoonia 9 ай бұрын

I just really hope that we would come to the point when man would feel safe speaking of things that hurt them. It is powerful to do it, it is not making you weak its making you strong.

@CornFedWhiteBoy27 3 ай бұрын

Being a therapist gotta be hard. You can only help one person at a time. If you are really trying each human story gotta take alot out of you. Let's say you help 8 people everyday of the year for 30 years you only saved 87,600 people. Wild why we need more people like this is an understatement.

@CommissionerLofi 9 ай бұрын

... damn I really understand this

@natalieanderson_ 9 ай бұрын

I initially wasn’t going to watch this because I absolutely despise XQC but this interview really developed a sense of compassion for him in me, it was a good feeling.

@bbdrgn 9 ай бұрын

me too i also watched aiden's but x's was so refreshing

@RB-zw6ym 9 ай бұрын

Yeah maybe do some introspection about why you develop hatred for a man who you've only seen small snippets of!? I think that reflects more badly on you than him lol

@cemi4840 9 ай бұрын

@@RB-zw6ymhe's a thief with feelings lol

@baph0met 9 ай бұрын

@@cemi4840Who's a thief? No one's stealing anything.

@cemi4840 9 ай бұрын

@@baph0met lol do you not know who Mr. Chair is? 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

@h.g.4113 9 ай бұрын

Hi doctor could you please make another video about sound meditation? The last video about sound meditation really help me (in short time but that's lot more better than nothing) Now I'm more cerious about it.