Yeah it's pretty amazing.

agreed

Same!

Very possible

I have to agree- Dr Vaknin nails it like no one else

That’s a sign of a great teacher.

Some of it is premeditated. Don't let them fool you.

They have goals and motives but may not be aware of the exact process they use to achieve those goals. They just see what works and what doesn’t and adapt to suit. Not all things work with all victims/survivors so they adapt. But don’t have the actual knowledge to say ‘I’m going to gaslight her’. Although interestingly my ex once said to me that he didn’t want to gaslight me so perhaps he was aware. Anyway, I think they know only because of past success. That’s how I took it.

Unfortunately yes 😔

This is kind of scary.. because if i cannot control myself what am i doing!! I will be chaos! But if i do, its actually exactly what they want and hence i am being controlled.. this is absolute turmoil for my little heart & mind!

@@Bubble-hw5pm IMHO we have a right to feel whatever we need to feel. For myself I learned, if I need comfort I will not get this from the narcissist, even if he was the one who hurt my feelings. I know now, I am responsible for soothing myself. Found few videos in the subject of self regulation at the time of turmoil. My husband’s mother shamed me for being “too emotional”… so naturally her son was not accepted with his feelings … no wonder he rejects me at the time of distress. Unfair. I walk or swim or cry if I need too. Learning how to mother myself. Best wishes on your journey of nurturing and healing your Inner Child. 🌷

So unnatural singleness is the new normal

They're trying to protect you? But then inadvertently destroy you?

Yes

Yes. Watch my videos on entraining.

Be my guest with my gratitude. Tafadhali.

Yes.

Yep

Yes, agreed.

Good point.They are mostly sloppy Imho.Leaving a mess.

no people dont in general like being victims, however the power structure of society that we are stuck in is a victim hierarchy and it is inverted too, it is the devil's system. but also narcs *are* cold and calculating, like a machine.

They are manipulating but are easily manipulated. When they meet more destructive or calculated personalities like Borderline or psycho/sociopaths they get dragged

@@pmlkinghow did you conclude BPD is calculating? Being overly emotional comes with poor impulse control basically preventing them from being disciplined enough to be calculating, no?

@@emmarae4322 The whole point of narcissism is to be perfect and god-like. Of course they aren't going to think of themselves as bad. Everyone sees themselves as a good person anyway.

Yes. The effects of conditioning are largely reversible. The brain is neuroplastic.

❤ i am glad to hear it Professor.. always such a pleasure to hear your lectures

Move into another bedroom so you can sleep.

Yes: the ones in the BPD playlist on this channel.

Not yet.

Psychologist or therapist. Watch the therapies playlist.

@@samvaknin I will thank you twice 😅

Yes.

@@samvaknin thank you. This validates my theory that my ex husband is both. I appreciate you talking about similarities and differences between some narcissists and borderlines since I'm diagnosed borderline. I've been divorced for 20 years and I'm still trying to figure us out. You have been very helpful.

No. But, they do say all roads lead to Rome. You know my background from the other comment, I’ll be brief. She executed everything your videos describe. Her approach was natural and controlled the whole time of the relationship; that’s what caught me. The delivery; how could someone be so consistent, never did it dawn on me. Suffice to say, when it collapsed, I snapped right out, and a pile of data fell into my lap. So, I left the country, her, job, a complete rest; I’m affluent but was naive, uneducated, and under the spell. So, like any lazy intellectual, picking the path of least resistance, on to the internet! Let the mind do the walking and it’s at our finger tips, like the narc online dating. But ours is one of education, truth, and more noble motives than she. KZfaq is one of those tools used in the path. There, you are first greeted by opportunistic, ill-informed and wrong thinking videos, unsatisfying of the motives. But coming from a world needing explanations, and because of the paradigms created and verified across a global stage over time (my first gf was Brazilian, then American, British, Norwegian, Indian, etc, as is the life of a successful expat’s family in petrochemicals) but something wasn’t right; she was off. Now, you should know the algorithms on KZfaq are focused on EQ, mind candy, eco chambers; there are more fools/masses that suffer the same as the kings. So we must go deeper. There, a truth and a compass is found, these videos, some guy named Sam Vaknin does them. And there, you find you. A source that is worthy of stopping to drink, time is precious indeed. Understanding what a person faces is step-one; like most things, be it love or in war, politics, finance, etc. In the nature kingdom, it is intrinsic and can be adopted; See your video mimicking cover (some of your pics on your video are badass Sam given the connection to the video). So, loaded with data from the collapsed relationship, we begin in earnest. After we’re done, where to the deposit the insight? Remember, we are lazy, well-off, intellectuals. Well, I also told you all roads lead to Rome. In that city, you will find a park, a sanctuary of sort in the dunes of the narc counter-experience. It is the comment section of your channel. Beginning are Inuits stone stacks along side well deserved recognition; mine might be first. Nevertheless, it is a natural point of gathering, a Mecca of the simpleton and intellect alike, after all, a narc, like god, does not differentiate from what I’m told and seen. Now, consider the impending wave of narcissism (as you have in your Japanese robot quote), you should see the level on social media I found in my browsing about to hit, more people will be coming and they will find themselves in a park, in Rome or maybe Mecca. Looking at the reactions, it’s more like in a Colosseum; in a forward facing quasi-public forum by company listed on NASDAQ developing AI. I swear, it’s like I walked into an AA meeting with a drink in my hand. Sam, you are the apex on this issue and I love your style and delivery. So whatever you get from doing them, know there is a byproduct of space that will and does bring it all together; the human condition. Ironic, a “nonhuman” (See your lecture in Budapest video) bringing together humanity; maybe there is hope for you. Nevertheless, the curtains draw to a close. For myself, these videos also need to go, as my routines change. I believe your work will be legendary in this dawn of the internet and, I think, well before the crash of behaviors it is producing; narcissism in particular. (Interestingly, Britain did pass that new law that paves the way for legal action where the language qualifies narcissistic abuse). It will be notable, to see what happens when the internal war of humanity’s heart starts before anyone knows. Sorry for any misunderstandings/approach, it’s a crazy topic and journey. It was my honor to hear from the godfather and know there’s people out here that truly depend/benefit from your work because it is clinical and saves years from reading the books, you are 99% real juice. ;) Peace ✌️ “I’m sorry for writing you a long letter, I didn’t have time to write a short one.” - Mark Twain Ps: for you reactive content creators, relax; stick to your vision, you too assume much. Hell, I should come say hi before I do go. But like you promote, heal and move on - you do have your place even if a profit motive is what’s driving it at first, I get it. There’s is a common message among the ones worth listening.