I am quite thin as well, and I can't gain weight either. I eat all I can but the max I've eaten after days of eating was around 2 pounds (not that I care that much, just as long as it doesn't harm my health, I'm very confident in my body). Personally, I like my body, and I like my boyfriend's body as well, so I'm positive I don't really have my perception of beauty warped, but the main focus I wanna make here is that I find it odd that I "suffer" from something similar to what you described here (don't get me wrong, I like being slim, but I would like a bit more weight)

@@Hawk_Bro I've definitely felt a sense of society having a "minimum" standard when it comes to weight. Social media and how people behave towards thinner people in general plays a huge role in that. As long as we're healthy then that's what really matters. Tell you what though, even though I'm thin I can eat a hell of a lot in one go if I really feel like it. I love seeing people's reaction to that when I do it.

@@epic3765 I do as well, though, I mainly do it just because I'm hungry My family usually criticizes me when i take massive bites and eat fast just out of pure hunger 😅 I don't mean to make a pig of myself, but when im hungry, I eat.

Good for you. I think we should never conform to a certain standard of beauty just because it's portrayed on social media. Glad you were mature and sensible enough to drop social media.

@@Psych2go gotta be sensible to not conform to some beauty standards

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You are right

Agreed

Well said. Social media has a tendency to influence our decisions whether we know it or not. Thank you for your insight!

I love it when people does this! It's very helpful! Thanks a lot and have a lovely day! ♥️♥️♥️

I'm talking about my brothers, not my whole family.

How did you learn to love your body?

@Psych2go by doing meditating and lots of writing and, more importantly, learning self-love and self-worth and care over the years, also breathing measures (taking deep breaths to calm down).

Thank you for sharing your personal strategy. I'm hoping people will read your comment and try the same!

@Psych2go thank you for responding! I love your videos, and I am thankful to God you are educating people about different mental health issues and how to solve these problems.

Interesting. I've never thought of heavy folk having those attributes at a glance. I thought fat shaming was based off the shape, not prejudice.

i'm sure it's different for everyone, and you wouldn't know unless you asked every individual. Lots of heavy people are loved and considered beautiful to societies standards, and are never shamed except maybe by those who have obvious insecurities themselves, and they're most likely just projecting. @@SharpBalisong

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@@Psych2go well it was informative that’s for sure but I feel like it’s relatable for the most part

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@@Psych2go no problem I’m always here for my fav KZfaq channel

Just a dose?

You can use Instagram, just don’t follow those “influencers” that post about themselves all day I follow singers and people who draw basically and I don’t feel any need to follow any influencers, I don’t even understand what’s the point 😂

@@ChocoParfaitFra I'll pass, I don't see the point of instagram, if someone wants to share photos of themselves or their trip, or whatever it may be, they can put in the effort to send it to me directly. Plus I don't need something to take away my limited amount of free time

these are so sweet :)

I know how you feel, I used to be depressed too so I recommend you to try to stop using social media regularly, specially instagram. Believe me no one it's perfect, everyone has problems, you are very young. And if it really affects your self esteem try to work out, in your room, in the gym, running in the park. You will be grateful to have started soon, and its get easier in some days. Show them how dumb they were to bully you

@@evilpoony6254 THANK YOU SM 😭 I don't use any socials except youtube, thankfully. I have tried working out before but I usually end up gaining it all back. I appreciate you.

If you want to lose weight, do it for your health. You will be so surprised that despite social media does all this, in the end, no one gives a f***. Once I went out not dressed properly, with hair tangles and I tied them. I went to call someone hi, and they just rejected me. Idk if it was intentional or if she didn't hear, but then the next day I went and completely dressed went with all tangles detangled, painful dayx nearly plaited and I went, she was like, hi how are you? I think it's because of the proximity probably. But, when I came out I did feel happy but, I felt so discouraged, Why do I need to change it for someone else? Even if she did care, it doesn't feel genuine, and it doesn't feel like she would give an f about it. Nobody does. Even if you did lose weight the hype is not gonna last for long and that validation doesn't feel valid enough for you to feel valid.Although I admit that I might be toxic here. But, the thing is we get so much caught up with this entire hype of being accepted somewhere that we never see how much we are giving in to be "accepted" our lives are more worth it than any other hype. I am not saying that losing weight is a bad thing, when it's a health concern. But sometimes everyone forget how people actually look like. One time, there were clubs for fat men because they thought they had more money.

@@appleitree Thank you. I am doing this solely for my health, both physical and mental. I'm just scared to start up again because I have already failed twice. I don't wanna be a disappointment to myself again, but I just don't have enough motivation to consistently work out. After a month of cutting out foods and exercising, I didn't even see a difference which made me lose hope.

I just realized it that I had art skills and can do art in real life rather than digital and sometimes when i feel insecure that online posts many materials about art and its prices and I only have coloring materials that I can afford even if low price I noticed,people still admired it and they didn't give a damn what materials I used@@appleitree

sorry about my horrible grammar lol

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Not every single woman your age is like that... Im sorry if you've encountered individuals like that, but don't waste your time on them

@@Grumpisaurusyou’re probably right. Just wish I knew where the other types are hiding at.

@@neofulcrum5013 yeah haha, that's the hard part. Keep your head up though, I'm sure you'll find the special person you're looking for

You deserve what???

@@ChocoParfaitFra To feel Inadequate.

@@rudylovato2759 well if you’re the strongest man alive good for you, but judging others isn’t ok, most people fear or care about others opinions because you may also be left alone if you’re not liked by others you know. And human beings don’t function well if they’re lonely. Most people grow up wanting a little bit of approval and you have no right to judge them when it’s a feeling that’s almost impossible to overcome because it’s learnt at a very young age What you said is cold and non empathetic

@@ChocoParfaitFra I am not the strongest man in the world and i am not passing judgement on anyone because no one has a right to judge. When one tries to be all things to all people. You create different personas and lose yourself in the pursuit of acceptance. So we must focus on those who like us and walk away from those who don't. This does not lead to isolation, loneliness, insecurity, or inadequacy. You just end up with a small group of really great friends you can love and TRUST. Trust is everything not acceptance.

Don't do this to yourself, you're still growing. Eat normal portions and be patient. You'll turn out just fine. And when you've stopped growing, which is around the age of 22, then you can have a look if you like what you see. If you're really overweight, you can do a good diet. However, discuss this with your doctor. In the mean time, make sure you grow up in a healthy way, you only get one chance to do so. Good luck and take care!

Everyone has abdominal muscles and abs are made in the kitchen. Shouldn't be news for anyone!

Speaking as a woman, I actually prefer skinny guys. The hulking, ripped with a six pack look is kind of a turn off for me. I look at someone like Arnold Scwarzenegger and it does nothing for me. Don't lose hope. There are those of us out there who like all kinds of body types (or who don't care bout looks at all).