This fucking guys uploads are always impeccably timed with my real life experiences

“Don’t assume you’re upset for a good reason”. That advice is gold. Applies to way more than texting

Don't let the seriousness that Dr. K is displaying distract you from the fact that he winked at you at 2:26 when he said "non-verbal communications"

That thumbnail is legendary

This is the first vid of him where it feels like he's ranting rather than actually trying to help anyone xD. Love it

One thing I like to do with texts (particularly if they seem mean) is to "misinterpret" things as the most charitable interpretation. That way, if they're not tryin to be mean, it never becomes a thing, and if they were trying to be mean, not only does it fail, but sometimes they'll accept the chance to be more reasonable.

I don't even know if it's sarcastic or not but Dr. K's introduction of the "boomer concept" of communication made me laugh harder than I have in days

Biggest thing that works for me, be a bit wordy on texts. I've gotten, "You send novels" before, but it worked as a point that people who didn't mind reading could understand me much better. The ones who didn't enjoy it stopped texting me, but I knew that there was no compatibility. Actually got engaged last month to someone who used the "You write novels," but it turned into "I love your long texts." Don't send a wall of text doesn't work unless you're specifically wanting something shallow.

Honestly, his whole point at the end about not playing games in your communication expecting certain outcomes and to instead represent yourself and what you want while accommodating the other person is just good advice in general.

There are some interesting ideas about asynchronous communication (the opposite of realtime communication) that helped me. Basically, a big trap we fall into is trying to replicate social norms from face-to-face conversations. Stuff like saying "hi" first and waiting to get a reply before saying anything else. But when you do that with texts you risk dragging out the conversation WAY longer than it needs to be, which makes communication way harder. So when writing a message, include everything you want to say all together. That way it doesn't matter if the recipient is too busy to read or respond right away, because whenever they do respond they actually have your half of the conversation to work with, more than just "hi" or "how are you". For example: Instead of just texting "How are you?", write "Hey what's up? Kinda bored at work/school right now, wondering if your day is any more exciting." Or: Instead of "You busy?", write "Hey, you busy? We should watch a movie, I'll buy the tickets and you get the popcorn." Bonus tip: if you've tried this already and you run into a topic where you're nervous about saying it all at once, that's a warning sign that maybe a text isn't the best way to say it. Texts are bad for sensitive subjects for all the reasons Dr K talks about here, they come with a huge risk of misunderstanding. That doesn't mean you can't still use a text, but you might need to make an extra effort to compensate for that risk of misunderstanding.

Regarding "ghosting", a lot of times people just read the text and intend to respond later, then there's no alert so they forget there was a text there. Its so easy to just lose track of texts, especially if you get a lot of texts or are in a lot of group chats.

I hate texting because I can't really read people properly. It's OK with friends and people I know, but making new friends through text is so hard for me because I just don't know what to expect or how is that person reacting to my humor or topics, etc.

I sort of have the opposite problem. I feel like I'm much better at communicating via text because it slows down the pace of the conversation and I get to think about my responses. Sometimes I feel like irl conversations go 900 miles per hour and by the time I'm done processing my response to whatever we're talking about, we're already on the next subject.

the last 1 minute is probably the most important thing I learnt from my psychologist. She taught me that I don't have to, and I actually CAN'T figure out what the other person wants me to say. It's not my "job" to entertain a date, or a coworker, I shouldn't worry about finding THE perfect words to say in THE perfect order. The only person whose thoughts and intentions I know for certain is me (mostly). My "job" is to express and represent MYSELF, my feeling, my wants, and my goals, so that the other person understands me, understands my position. It's still hard sometimes, but even the hardest situations now are much easier than the usual situations back then.

Texting became so strange for me. I was able to text with friends for hours. Just talking to eachother, with both of us not even leaving the chat app. That’s how much we were invested. Nowdays, I can’t remember when I texted someone for more then 10 mins. Nowdays we just exchange couple of memes + couple of funny comments following the memes and we make plans. I’m not sure if it’s just me - maybe I’ve forgot how to text or maybe it’s a thing you grow out of.

What I really want to know is how to stop avoiding replying It makes me anxious that I've taken too long, next thing I have 100 unread messages and people think I'm intentionally ignoring them, which just eats away at friendships.

I really liked the point about how texting is for convenience. When I was younger, I really struggled with receiving text messages because they would feel so invasive to whatever I happened to be doing. I also felt so pressured by people because I knew that if I responded, they would instantly respond, and they would expect me to have the same effort and quickness. Then there's the horror of the never ending conversation! So, I would ignore texts for a time just out of being overwhelmed. Well, I started feeling better about texting when I began setting better boundaries and communicating to people how I text in general. I've also learned to not worry so much about people pleasing when responding. I respond when I'm ready and when it's convenient. Otherwise, I'm just needlessly miserable and stressed about texting.

I got in a relationship for double texting. We were chating normally, when she stopped responding. After two days I remember saying something like "Hey, I really liked you and it would be a shame if I let this conversation die. What about we meet up?". The only time I really did it and it worked. Today I dont do it anymore for no real reason.

The Key and Peele sketch “when a text conversation goes very wrong” they both misinterpret the tone of each others text is hilarious a great illustration of texting gone wrong 😂

The only part I disagree with are the reasons someone won't text back that he gave (covid, depression, emergencies) Those are understandable but at the same time people are just lazy as well and overall bad at texting. Like he said, we cant control others and most of it is our expectations but it's important to know when to move on especially in a dating scenario

"Don't assume you are getting mad for a good reason" Wow you just summed up so many of my frustrations with society nowadays damn, been feeling really stressed about how everyone always seems angry at eachother and I really needed to hear that I think. It's just nice to have words to put to my emotions, so thank you Dr. K.

When you get upset, don't assume that you're upset for a good reason. Words to live by! It took me too many years to realize this.

I think part of the difficulty is that when we talk to our friends, after a while we get a pretty good idea of how they communicate. What they find funny, when they're being sarcastic, etc. This can be translated into text relatively easily, we know when we send a joke that they'll probably laugh, and we can ascertain from the conversation and what words they use when they're being sarcastic. Suddenly this text conversation isn't too far off from a regular conversation and we can follow the flow of it fairly well. We think texting is easy. Suddenly now you're texting a complete stranger and none of that applies anymore. We don't know what they find funny, we have no idea when they're being sarcastic, and everything's a mess. We send a joke and they respond with... sarcasm? Are they offended by that joke? Do they not like me anymore? It's hard. Tl;dr when texting a friend, you know how they communicate and can fill in the gaps that texting doesn't allow you to fill. When texting a stranger, those gaps remain empty and the whole process is way harder.

I just finished watching every video on this channel. I hear Dr. K in my brain every day now.

This is it, guys, this is the video. Dr. K has finally had it with us, demonstrated by unheard of levels of sarcasm and irony.

I JUST had a serious discussion with my significant other about this yesterday, and it went really well, basically we were just looking for different things through texting.

I feel like you're watching us or have dangerously good psychic abilities cuz these uploads are uncannily in tune with our life events. Thank you for your help Dr. K

Dr. K always providing the information I need EXACTLY when I need it.

I think the best way to text is to just not care about how the other person will perceive it. Say what you wanna say and if they don’t like it then they can move on

This is why I love calling, I do it whenever I can. I rarely use texting anymore for anything except initiating a phone call (and work). It's amazing how differently people respond.

There's nuances and caveats to everything. With that being said, if someone is repeatedly leaving you on read/taking forever to respond and/or simply really lacking in carrying their side of the conversation, then the reality is it's probably just not a relationship/friendship worth it for the individual to continue investing in.

My favorite way of texting is the exact opposite of what everyone will tell you and that is when people split the texts up into ideas and you send one idea at a time so one text bubble becomes 3 or 4 smaller bubbles and you just say and respond to thing as the ideas come up. It feels like both people are excited and engaged and it takes advantage of texting because you don’t need to worry about talking over someone or missing what someone is saying or overloaded someone because they have all the time they need to process and the ideas are compact and easy to respond to

The ‘if you see a text and get upset, don’t respond to it right away” is such good advice, i’ve avoided alot of headache by stepping back a minute before responding

I love your charisma so much. And you’re also so spot on with understanding people’s perception of messages and their reacting 😆😆😆 i LOVE your impersonations. So smart!! What a joy to listen to you

What a fantastic timing! I dated a girl for one and a half months or so, but we broke it off and continues as friends. She's the most caring person I ever met and I'd have to go out of my way to upset her. However, that doesn't mean I'm immune to feeling super nervous or conscious about texting too much or too little. We've talked almost daily since we broke up romantically, but for the past 2-3 days I'm afraid I'm claiming her too much, which makes every conversation starter I can think of sound like a stupid idea...

I feel like I’ve gotten better about this over the years, so I’m just enjoying watching you talk about it for fun lol Some lessons I’ve learned: - Back off and take your time - Don’t assume tone - Clarify your tone (explicit statements, tone indicators, etc) - Ask for confirmation if something can be interpreted poorly or dramatically

One great piece of advise I got a while ago is that in stuff like comments and texts we often like to jump to the worst case scenario when assuming a person's intentions in what they wrote (or did not write) but in reality that is almost never the case and very few people really speak with ill intent but so many people don't know how to communicate their intent so it is better to speak to them as if they had good, or at least, neutral intentions towards you and recognize that it's often so easy to create imaginary animosity where there wasn't ever any.

12:45 THIS! I think this happens to me a lot from my best friend. I texted him to wish him a happy holiday and got an attitude of a text, so i didn't reply simply because I wont participate in that kind of energy exchange. The following day he told me his family was getting on him recently so he was in a bad mood. I HATE how it's normal to essentially treat innocent people shitty because of your previous experiences

Love the idea that texting is not just about you le perspective and goals but also theirs! Learn how to read a text, AND how to respond to a text with mental capacity is what I’m taking out of this

I briefly met a guy (we talked for maybe 10 mins in the hallway at an event) who's an acquaintance of a friend. Despite us barely knowing each other, he started aggressively messaging me and spamming me with new texts whenever I didn't respond within a certain amount of time. Then he seemed annoyed when I didn't tell him if I was too busy to respond. I'm not sure why he felt entitled to that level of communication in the first place, considering we barely knew each other and didn't even have any kind of established relationship. When I asked him to please chill with the incessant texting, he would make excuses about how he was worried about me. How could he be worried about somebody when he knows nothing about them or their lifestyle? Even when I did try to tell him I was busy, he would start spamming me with anxious texts again if I didn't respond within 24 to 48 hours. It was bizarre. Maybe he would benefit from watching this video

The solution for all social anxiety: Stop over-thinking it. Too many anxiety-based problems are created in your head and not actually based on experiences in reality

Bro this channel is literally a lifesaver.

I love this omg thank you! And your deadpan jokes while legitimately frustrated had me chuckling XD I do feel that people need to be able to assess possible intent wayyyy more than what happens too commonly nowadays. People are assuming negative first in anything they read it feels like. It's literally life saving to know the difference of when people are actually doing harm via text.

This was brilliant. and as I work more toward secure attachment and working with my therapist all of this and things like this are making so much more sense and I have so much less anxiety and issues surrounding this. Thank you for what you do Dr. K. You are an amazing resource and have such a wonderful way of delivering the message. I think the best way to deal with a lot of these issues is to start from an 'I'm ok, they are ok' mindset, a charitable, neutral way in which your life doesnt revolve around these texts and also assuming that the other persons life doesnt either, and that you are both ok with this.

I think the ghosting segment is very interesting. I definitely agree that people have stuff going on in their lives and that ghosting is subjective, but at the same time I think that everyone's on their phone so much nowadays, even being very busy, that it's pretty easy to still send at least a text or two to someone if you care about keeping a relationship with them. Maybe it's just me personally but I will always find time to text someone an update (something like "hey sorry I'm super busy, I will text you later" or something) and I find that usually me not texting someone for extended periods of time is because I don't care as much about texting them, not because I am unable to. Just my 2 cents.

Great Editing guy. and I love Dr. K's points being displayed on screen, VERY helpful!

Dr K is the best thing that’s ever happened to KZfaq!

This was one of the best things I've watched on this channel, and I really needed to hear this. Thanks. Hope this video gets recommend to more people.

This video is just one big example of why I still prefer to just call people 😂 Texting is convenient but I hate it when the people I'm talking to have a style of texting that is incompatible with me. Some people send too many messages without giving you a chance to respond, some people send very little messages and when I try to ask open ended questions to keep the convo going they STILL somehow manage to find the shortest response humanly possible. Like, do you even want to talk to me? Are you engaged at all? Or for people who text too much, do you just want to hear yourself talk? This is why I just call people. It's so much easier to answer these questions from the tone of their voice and the cadence of their speech patterns.

Another thing that I think helps is being more candid when writing a message. I think people get in their heads when online dating and they spend too much time trying to craft the perfect message. It just ends up coming off inauthentic. Obviously read over the message before sending and don’t text anything offensive.

I know this is probably very helpful for many people. But I just want to point to Dr.Ks (and the one who cut the video) incredible comedic timing. This rant is gold. It is hilarious. Thank you so much for your wonderful high quality content. You and your team are the best! ❤️❤️❤️

Dr. K, ever since I came across with you channel my life started improving Thank you for everything, I love you

I love the sarcasm in the beginning and throughout lol I think the Key and Peele skit about the two friends texting each other, and one guy is totally chill, and his friend is reading and sending everything with increasing upsetness 😂

Remember- No response is a response.. I determine Ghosting by trend.. Did they respond between 5 min- 3 hours?... suddenly... to now its 3 days? means you've gone from the front burner to the back burner.. or not on the stove at all. They definitely saw it and have chosen to not respond. NOBODY is SO busy that they can't take 20 seconds to acknowledge a text extended periods of time.. unless something big has happened. Does one side only initiate? Or am I the one who is required to initiate always?

I love Dr.K. The way he explains things is so easy to digest, and his advice/opinions on controversial topics or any topic for that matter is the perfect sane middle ground of the highly polarizing opinions out there on the internet.

The thing I love about listening to dr K is he calls out behaviours I’m aware of but I don’t explore further or if I do I don’t act on it I just realise oh I do this. But having someone validate your own concerns is such a big help. Thanks doc

This is why I prefer calls over texting. Texting can be so tiring... You can also cram a couple of hours of texting, into a 10-15 minute conversation. Texting also allows to people to plan their responses for however long they want, rather then to be genuine with what they say.

In texting, the most important thing is being honest and true to yourself. Never change yourself or the way you text because you need to get the other person to like you. Just be yourself and ASK. QUESTIONS. If you're not sure how they meant their last message, ask them. If you're not sure if you're being ghosted, ask them (nicely and straight up, it's better to have them tell you they're not interested instead of being unsure for weeks and getting one word replies until the conversation just stops forever).

Thanks again for the great advice. I’m so dumbfounded by how simple life gets when you don’t overthink everything.

This guy offered really solid advice 👍Texting truly feels like a game of rules and you have to figure out what kind of game everyone is playing. I have one friend who sends memes and often texts in all caps so I imitate that and our messages are short and witty. I have another friend where we text every day and our responses to each other are 3-4 big blocks at a time. My mom's texts can seem blunt but she's a boomer and I have to imagine how she would say it in person. And I have one friend who doesn't respond until 12 hrs later but we're very close in person. Everyone has a different ruleset

Same principle for how your behavior changes around different people. If i'm texting a friend, I can be as goofy as I desire and feel that anytime is right to text them. However when I go on a first date with a girl or before we meet up (messages through dating apps) and afterwards, texting becomes insane difficulty. The timing matters, the way you convey matters. One wrong move and it's a recipe for ghosting.

When connecting with new people, it's important to know that you are not familiar with each other's communication styles and patterns. It takes a while to figure out how long people typically take to respond. For me, if someone typically takes a week or more to respond, that person isn't going to be someone I rely on too much and get attached to.

Your videos are so helpful, I'm grateful that you are on youtube

Learn how to read, listen, interpret, communicate, and mange expectation. Really useful message and great delivery

I actually came to this conclusion of “learn how to read/interpret a text” on my own a few weeks ago. Watching this video really helps me to feel that this switch I’ve made is the right decision. However, I will always think of texting a girl who I have the intention of either dating or getting with in some way as a total game that you have no choice but to play. The approach varies based on each situation and woman, but regardless it will always be a whole song and dance until you end up in a relationship. Learning the bit about taking time to interpret texts helps tremendously.

wish my ex-friend knew how to read texts before he alienated the entire friend group. he had a meltdown over a girl sending him a text with the 😮 emoji because some completely random unrelated person used it sarcastically on him once. C, wherever you are I hope you've stopped having temper tantrums and making girls who actually want to help you cry.

You are doing great work in this world. Please don't stop.

this video helped me really self reflect and write down my feelings along with where they came from, thank you doctor k ❤

I just recently realised that whenever I texted someone, I was trying to do things so as to not look "desperate" and trying to make up excuses to write that seemed "genuine". Then I realised that "pretending to be genuine" is just "not-genuine". So I just texted this person and admitted to myself that "hey, im interested in this person, talking with them" and a text saying "hey, i was thinking about you and wanted to talk" can be something better for myself and the other person. I make things easier for myself and, even if there is a chance of "looking desperate", there is also the chance of making someone else's day better.

Your deep sarcasm surrounding the entire concept of texting is exactly what I came here for and I didn't even know it. I resisted texting for the longest time but once smart phones came out there really was no way around it. I love hearing other Xennials rant about these kinds of things. 😄

You guys struck again! Right when I needed this most. I'll do my best to take a moment when he texts me. Thanks HG!

Thank you so much for this! It really came at a great time 😅

Did you guys change anything about your audio setup? The vocal quality (at least on youtube, no idea about livestreams) is very different in a not great way.

Just let go of expectations💀

The guru part is so funny. I love it. Thanks. Please keep that on forever

This video presentation is a gold mine of useful advices 🤩

I hate texting, because I either don’t want to talk to anyone, or I want to have a semi long exchange, with long texts. Usually people don’t work like that. I find short texts to be pointless. Unless it’s for scheduling a meeting up or something like that. If it was up to me, I would have semi long exchanges with people every other week. I don’t need to keep up simple exchanges every few days. Unless I’m messaging my family or something. There’s a lot of mental energy that goes into texting and the idea of texting for me, so I’d just rather not usually, unless there’s some substance.

What I got from this (in view of my texting experiences) is that some people get upset at texts (just like I do) and may not know how to respond to my text. So it might actually be a good technique when texting to try to write a text that will elicit a response from the recipient so they can have a better chance of knowing how to respond and therefor enjoy the texting experience with me more (and want to text with me more.) I guess I'm used to writing letters, and the simple act of writing a letter sent with a stamp, etc, usually communicated how important the recipient was to me. But now texting is for convenience, and the sentimental aspect of written communication isn't a part of that anymore.

Thanks for a good video dr k!

The energy in this video is honestly my favourite energy on earth :') I like how entertaining this is despite it being absolutely correct.

A technique I use is I ask the other person if we can schedule a date and time when they're free to text for 30mins or 1hr. This way, both of you can text without waiting hours for each other's response and losing that momentum, and also to know if the other person id serious or not

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This is so valuable. Thanks for this haha

When you described the example of forgetting about a text, it gave me another thing worth thinking about. That with everything going on in their life, ending up with a forgotten text isn't a forgotten you. So we should be careful to separate ourself from our text, and not feel personally hurt for how a text is treated.

Is someone gonna tell Dr.K that emojis dont even convey their intended emotion anymore 😭 😭 😭 is literally used as a Laugh right now

Hmm, I can't say this video taught me anything new. It is good advice, but... I already know not to misread texts and not overreact to them. I usually take things in the most positive or realistic way I can imagine. I try to not only be self-aware, but also be outwardly-aware of how the other may feel in response to my response. It's just something I already do second-nature all the time, or at least try to. I try to be aware of the other person's perspective, feelings, and position. I actually think twice before I say stupid things to my friends. I already understand people sometimes just forget to respond, or can't, and that is a fairly innocent thing - but I still have friends who are "just always like that" and it's difficult for me compared to friends who aren't just like that. Should I just stop trying with these friends who are chronically difficult then? I know I can't just change them... It was one of your other videos where you mentioned to treat it like a game of tennis, once the ball is in their court... wait for a response back. This is a common rule anyway. Alright. I have a friend who will just stay silent if she can't think of something to say, or if she forgot about it that day, she will almost never get back to it and go back to being perpetually busy. If it's from yesterday, it practically doesn't exist anymore. Fair enough, we've had talks about it, I know she's forgetful, and I know she simply has little or minimal to say sometimes. I know exactly what to expect from her, because she is reclusive in very much a similar way to how I reclusive I am. When we have actual real voice to voice conversations, we get along great though. But being on the receiving end of such unresponsiveness... it's difficult every time. The way I've adapted is to just not make a fuss and forget about it unless something new comes up to talk about, treating the day before as if it didn't exist... it's not just my one friend who does that and it baffles me... but I play along. For people I care less about, I strike them out of my life for it and it's problem solved. But when someone I care about does it... Alright, so I am making sacrifices here. The goal is to some degree accommodate the other, but also to represent myself. Okay... but I don't feel represented if I don't feel listened to. I just feel ignored. And that does create that resentment, but I have long since learned not to act on resentment and to wait myself out and re-approach things with a better mindset later. But oftentimes, later, the only answer I can think of is to just still not say anything. I have had the worst experiences from calling people out for being unresponsive and it has only ever made people grow to dislike me for trying. I know for a fact, that if I didn't try to keep up the friend ship, she would just let me go... because I already silently avoided her for over a year. Partially because of her, partially because I had other difficulties in my life. She said nothing until I came back one day asking to talk and ask if we should stay friends. Thankfully, that actually went well, and i learned she does value my friendship... but... it feels so one-sided, even though I know what to expect. I have equally strong urges wanting to stay friends with her and wanting to cut her out for life. But I'm an optimistic person so I never go the doomsday route with genuinely good people. All for the sake of not becoming just "a problem" to her, I try not to make all of this too big of a deal for her and not make too much conversation be about this... I still have all the same problems on a loop. No option seems good. Put up with it? Confront her? Get rid of her? I feel like I feel equally bad with her in my life (I get this painfully one-sided friendship), or with her out of my life (I'll miss her dearly - the friendship is really good most of the time). At least with her in my life, sometimes we have fun together.

I truly love this video and it helped me a lot mentally. Thank you so much for doing this

Perfect just what I was lookin for!

I wish that messenger wouldn't let you know if they've seen your message or not. When I see they see it with no reply, I always imagine them with a disgusted look on their face. I know it sounds insecure but I can't be the only one who does this.

That eggplant metaphor caught me off guard lol

Thank you, this video comes right in time.

Fascinating video. It's interesting how much I don't take texting seriously compared to the context in which this video was recorded. My texting is pure convenience info planning, etc. If chatting happens, great, but I haven't thought about texting "rules" for like a decade.

Yeah, I really need to watch this one

In response to what to do if they don’t text back. He should’ve touched on if they ghosted you but you can see they are clearly active on social media

I loved the sarcasm in this one. Thank you Dr. K!

I love the sarcastic tone of this video haha! Keep 'em comming Dr. K!

I used to text people a lot from the age of I dunno 11 to around 18 (i'm 20 now). The vast majority of those people were internet friends. I think I had many deep and interesting and enjoyable conversations through texting in this time. I had no problem with texting as the primary means of communication, even if I wasn't good at it with people irl for instance. Nowadays I quite dislike texting and I just think it degrades basically any conversation that can be had, or that for me, it degrades any friendship I may have due to subpar communication... which is interesting cause I used to have legit good conversations over text, it was my habitat, but now I can't even stand it. I would love to rely on phone calls instead of texting or voice messages. But the problem for me is that I'm not used to calling at all. I sometimes see my grandparents get a call from someone what seems to me like randomly. They tend to have a short conversation which I think updates each other on what's going on in their lives... which would be perfect, but I'm quite a lot more anxious about calling someone, cause then I feel like I'd certainly have to have something to say, you know a lot more is at stake, cause a text can sorta die out with a good friend but an awkward call is more of a burden. I think I'll try to talk to my friends about this in the future, so that we can call instead of texting. But it's going against the grain and that sucks, cause I really despise texting now, it's so lifeless and imperfect, it's like burning your entire house down to power your car for the week instead of a few liters of gas. I don't even feel like I had too much to say here, so the length of this comment is probably also indicative of why I don't really like texting... don't want to be some moron who makes huge texts just cause I can't really condense my thoughts into a few senteces.

It seems like the context for this video is texting in the context of dating, but I think it's been a long while since Dr. K dated. The overall experience on dating app has gotten increasingly worse over the years, and I don't think it's because of some unwritten rules. 1. "If a text upsets you." : In the cases where this does happen, it's usually because the person is genuinely being mean or offensive. Negging also occurs on dating apps. Jokes that land poorly can happen, but I'd say those are in the minority. There's a lot of mean judgmental comments being made on dating apps, and even discrimination. It's like they're saying "If that person is willing to put up with me, I can get them to do whatever I want." or "Dance for me monkey." 2. "What if they don't text back/What if they ghost": Ghosting is ridiculously common these days, and so is the expectation for some people that the other person should make all the efforts to "woo" them. And then if they're not interested, they will usually ghost to avoid having to say they're not interested or because they got bored and can't be bothered anymore. Nevermind the fact that in most cases these days, the majority of "matches" you receive on dating apps aren't because the other person is interested in you, but because they're swiping right on all profiles, and then filtering who they might be interested in based on who they matched with. This is done to avoid having to pay the monthly subscription. TLDR: Dating Apps are toxic, and encourage toxic behaviours.

I really like your backdrop and the lighting of it.

Coming back after a couple of months, this helped me so much