"Rejection doesn't matter in the long run" My social anxiety: Seems fake but ok
@burggerbig1025 жыл бұрын
so true
@alexgonzo0005 жыл бұрын
Hahaha same
@RangerRuby5 жыл бұрын
It is so hard to think rationally when you start getting anxious but with practice, you can definitely improve your skills.
@MissVasques5 жыл бұрын
Take this example I heard. Ask some one out for dinner. Get a no. Did you have someone to go dinner before you asked? No, and not after either. In reality nothing actually changed.
@kiyoponnn5 жыл бұрын
@@MissVasques Not bad😯
@MemesnShet3 жыл бұрын
“Let the other person do most of the talking” Two people who saw this same video: 👁👄👁 👁👄👁
@matracox3 жыл бұрын
Very true
@mtl68833 жыл бұрын
0_0
@yousefrawashdeh_fs33943 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@nguyen20035 жыл бұрын
Tip List Summary 1. Detach your self worth from the outcome of the meeting. 2. Meeting is a two way street. (the other person is just as nervous as you are) 3. Do research on the other person. Sometimes (Get a gist of who they are or what they like doing) 4. Practice visualization of a successful meeting. 5. You don't look as nervous as you feel. 6. Take deeper and slower breaths before going into interaction. 7. Let the other person do the talking. "An interested person is an interesting person"
@dayzm67085 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot! :)
@ray78155 жыл бұрын
Peter Nguyen * Let the OTTER do the talking.
@snoozyq95763 жыл бұрын
But I do look as nervous as I feel! I've had many people comment on it 😅
@TheStrategicKeys5 жыл бұрын
It really does all come down to mindset. I took something heard about anxiety to heart. The way your body feels when anxious is the same way it feels when you are excited. Now, all you have to do is convince your mind that you are not nervous, but rather excited. You body feels the same way, but now your confidence level changes, and you can conquer the world!😎
@JelliieBeanJayLeighYourBae2 жыл бұрын
Amazing tip!
@abigailvelazquez2507 Жыл бұрын
I love you I’m gonna try this
@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate28625 жыл бұрын
*We are all just people. Be yourself as this is the most rewarding lifestyle.*
@TheLifeFormulaa5 жыл бұрын
Fixing my posture and body language helps me calm my nerves when meeting new people
@virusladd4 жыл бұрын
This is a long term benefit of going to the gym. Short term being that you are generally more relaxed and loose.
@snoozyq95763 жыл бұрын
Until I start overthinking my posture and body language and worrying about them noticing me adjusting it awkwardly and that sends me on a spiral 😅
@ele35133 жыл бұрын
@@snoozyq9576 omg yes I DO THE SAME:( does anyone know any simple tips for body language in these situations? like really simple ones haha
@ArturoCabello5 жыл бұрын
Usually in these situations, we tend to overthink. It's so important to relax and let that be represented in our body language!
@HumansOfVR5 жыл бұрын
*_Tony robbins always talks about how changing your physical body helps change your mental state as well_*
@k0rrev5 жыл бұрын
I find you in every self improvement channel comments section
@-xirx-2 жыл бұрын
Some people are of the opinion that it is the other way around
@rinoaaiger98733 жыл бұрын
Not me searching this up before I go out...
@itsdarrenyong5 жыл бұрын
Anxiety doesn't just walk away, but mindset is something , great content!
@leahayers78793 жыл бұрын
My face literally tells everything I’m feeling, I DO look as nervous as I feel, people always know when I’m nervous, ITS THE WORST
@fdlarts76765 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I just got back from a house warming party tonight and watched your video before going. I'm really glad that I went because normally I would've lied and told them that I have something to do because I'm a coward when it comes to parties. I ended up having a fun time and had a story to tell because I forgot to bring the donuts that I bought as a house warming gift, so I re-ordered them once I got there.
@joeyjusticeco5 жыл бұрын
Letting the other person do the talking is a great one. People love talking about themselves and it lets you get to know them better!
@Teddy_yb5 жыл бұрын
This came right before me meeting a childhood friend I haven't seen in a decade. Thanks for this timing man seriously.
@marcello40505 жыл бұрын
me: I'm an awesome person my anxiety: No Ron.
@falconcara4 жыл бұрын
This video is so good especially for introverts :)
@equinn65045 жыл бұрын
I'm generally pretty good at letting my fear go and relaxing around new people. I'm currently going on dates regularly (bc lonely lol) and it's helped a lot. If you radiate self confidence they'll instantly like you more. What I've also found helpful is that I know a little about almost everything that could come up in a first time meeting, so the other person feels like I can relate to some degree but they can still impress me with their expertise on the subject. I don't pretend like I know everything, don't be that guy.
@christiana.12045 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU VERY MUCH THOMAS!!! This is just uploaded right on time. I have an in person job interview tomorrow and I needed this.
@moizkhalid14255 жыл бұрын
Christian A. Good Luck!
@anggakharismaputra61065 жыл бұрын
Good Luck !
@christiana.12045 жыл бұрын
Thanks to all!
@hadishams57323 жыл бұрын
How is things mate?
@studykendrick20295 жыл бұрын
I find that if you treat people the way you want to be treated it will be easier to build better relationships.
@AmanCreatesArt5 жыл бұрын
You've achieve the ideal beard length to hairstyle length ratio for your face here. And great video too!
@allrevenuegone5 жыл бұрын
I swear to god Thomes, you can read my mind. Video come right in my time of need, thank you.
@6023barath5 жыл бұрын
Yup, same here! Such a lifesaver haha!
@rivaldozoet44265 жыл бұрын
golden tip: take two shots of vodka and go with the flow. calmness will be increased by 37%
@TheStrategicKeys5 жыл бұрын
This tip can be applied in all areas of life 😂😂😂
@letsgoBrandon2044 жыл бұрын
A 37% increase on f**k all, is f**k all
@roughryder54 жыл бұрын
That’s also how you become an alcoholic
@snoozyq95763 жыл бұрын
@@roughryder5 literally what happened to me a few years back 😅
@mr.noseybonk87163 жыл бұрын
@Mrnjau Yeah, it's called Atheism. Really sets you free
@duser5 жыл бұрын
Tip#1 is the most important of all these tips imo. I used to be a nervous socially awkward wrek until I decided to be confident and ignore what i may think of the convo after it's finished. Here's a tip to trick yourself into being confident: start off with a good, strong handshake. works wonders
@naj96583 жыл бұрын
Straight to the point, great communicator, and got my attention, that kinda of speakers I like to listen to. Thank you for this great video
@elenapogulyaeva92745 жыл бұрын
Hello from Russia, Thomas ! Your videos give me an opportunity to really improve my listening skills, thanks ) And topic of the video helped too, you’re amazing!
@TheStrategicKeys5 жыл бұрын
It's all about improving your skills every day on this self development journey we call life.
@mrprox18005 жыл бұрын
This video is exacly what I needed to hear today!!!
@fernystories4 жыл бұрын
that was a CLEAN ad transition
@mahsa_ydp41763 жыл бұрын
hi , i'm an 18 year old bisexual girl who is currently in a relationship with another girl. before covid was a thing everything was going great and i saw her everyday but as soon as quarantine started and we couldn't see each other anymore i developed very bad anxiety to the point where whenever she says she wants to see me i get very anxious and have panic attacks in which most of the times i throw up because that's how my body reacts to stress, and guess what? i have phobia of throwing up as well so that's not fun at all . i actually tried taking a break from the relationship this past summer in hopes of getting better but not being in a relationship with her made it even worse because i truly love her beyond imagination and i cannot imagine my life without her so i'm trying to overcome this meaningless anxiety and panic whenever my girlfriend texts me or wants to see me because i love her so so so much ( and no the anxiety is not because i'm scared of catching covid , i honestly have no clue what it is , i'm assuming its some sort of social anxiety ) anyways , i would be more than happy to hear anyone's advice or opinion on my situation , thank you for your time.
@Adam.Reader145 жыл бұрын
What if I am meeting you for the first time to thank you in person for your content, how do I keep calm and not seeming overly weird?
@Thomasfrank5 жыл бұрын
Whenever that happens, keep in mind the near-certainty that less than 24 hours have passed since I last yelled at Overwatch or lost yet another hoodie
@dinanfrost40085 жыл бұрын
It doesn't seem weird to me ☺️
@kabirbissessar46575 жыл бұрын
Loving the new transitions😂❤️
@Pedro-ss4dl5 жыл бұрын
I SWEAR I WAS SEARCHING FOR THIS ON KZfaq TODAY
@joeyjusticeco5 жыл бұрын
Maybe he did research on your and knew what video you wanted to see...
@Cleaning_Hero4 жыл бұрын
Thomas I wish I found your videos years ago. You are a great life-guide. All of your videos seem to address many obstacles I am currently facing. Thank you.
@thehustleproject23575 жыл бұрын
Dude! I love the style of your videos, they keep me really engaged
@wg82902 жыл бұрын
I'm 48 and think everyone I talk to just deals with me because they want something and don't really even care anything at all about me. I don't have an issue public speaking because I don't care, but when it's one on one I struggle. I've recently made a point to put myself in uncomfortable situations and try to make it through. It's a struggle.
@humourdotcom17165 жыл бұрын
I don't know where I would be without this channel. 😎 best content out there.
@hiyayathere5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Thomas! I really needed this as my studies in university begin next month and I'm quite nervous about it - not about the studies but about the new people and whether I'll make new friends or just freeze when anxiety hits me.
@confetti47982 жыл бұрын
How did it go for you?
@KJM_Writes5 жыл бұрын
That’s numberwang! I wonder how many viewers missed this awesome reference. Thanks for including it... made me laff! 😂
@adammiller17185 жыл бұрын
I never knew I needed those number announcements right up until now .
@cferracini5 жыл бұрын
I always smile when I'm nervous to prevent me from panicking
@Unique_O2 жыл бұрын
Thank You SO MUSCH For The HELP! ❤😊
@jacobvermeer98845 жыл бұрын
thanks for the vid, tom :) excited for sunday study tips to come back, i’ve missed it dearly. take care
@SN-ly6yx5 жыл бұрын
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="172">2:52</a> I love your B roll 😂😂😂😂
@MephistosEyes5 жыл бұрын
Been watching your vids over the years, even starting off I could tell you had good potential. It's cool to see how much you've grown, and improved man. Always valuable info, applicable, and not stale.. I do miss the llamas though LOL Vids have been such an awesome help throughout the years.
@hargur41215 жыл бұрын
Can you please make a video on Goal Tracking and Habit Tracking Methods
@Kalyanii5 жыл бұрын
I loved the opening,Tom!
@wildcrackers49155 жыл бұрын
I want to ask a guy out the day after tommorow.The video could not come at a better moment!!!Thanks😄
@albinamakina69084 жыл бұрын
The first 30 seconds already greatly helped ))
@gabrielalmeida60855 жыл бұрын
Thomas, you could start a serie of videos talking about your progress in something you started, for example, start to learn a new language and show to us how to commit and don't quit, just a suggestion, regardings from Brasil !
@101CreeperEater5 жыл бұрын
Omg that "no, Ron" meme made me laugh 😂😂😂
@Ashley-ju4qd2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this it gives me a sense of relief and in a way some confidence in my self worth. 😊
@Theworms-kq9tr Жыл бұрын
This helped a lot thank you!!
@ANUPAM3372 жыл бұрын
When trying to talk to new people, it often helps to have a routine in place, especially if you wanna talk to the other gender(s). I often fall back to simple magic tricks to start with and then a really fun imagination exercise called the cube that helps you talk about things like identitiy, ambition, relationship and fears all at one go! Smiling is very useful!!
@vibewithsri80645 жыл бұрын
I have to meet a new professor who's gonna grade my oral test this weekend... And this is really helping... Thanks Tom 😭❤️
@JeremyHillary-kw4ms27 күн бұрын
I know this is such a late reply but oh… those oral finals… only way I can get through is looking anywhere but the teacher 😭😂
@burcudursunmusic5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Thomas! This was what i needed and a great video as always. 🙋🏻♀️
@davidortega2645 жыл бұрын
What always helps me, is to try acomplish my goals with the other people, my goals in general that i chase in my life, for instance, y use to say everything that appears in my mine with the potential to help the other person, to be more happy and be less miserable, or less ignorant,, like a joke, or like a good habit, or a interesting fact, i also crticate their ideas with respect and emphaty so they don't feel bad, i also do questions about the other person's life, because know that is more confortable that don't, and like that, i never use to have awkward conversations. I hope be helpful, remember, think about your goals and go for it
@curiousmercurius35625 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video today! Thank you very much Thomas ❤
@lrowe64942 жыл бұрын
Whenever I get nervous I hum or laugh ,I tap my foot, I try to keep away from the person that makes me nervous but doesn't always work . I have learning difference where I have trouble looking people in the eye
@Hiepphandang07022 жыл бұрын
All the tips : #1. - Get out of the rejection. -My self-worth is not being affected by thr rejection. #2. The meeting is a two-way street. - The people will feel the same as you feel. #3. Try to research on the people . #4. Make a saying that you will win. #5. I look as nervous as I feel. #6.Breath deep and slow before the conversation. #7. Do the listening , let the person do the taking. #8. An interested people is an interesting people.
@AddittiAgrawal5 жыл бұрын
this channel is lifesaving
@skynguyen33425 жыл бұрын
Wow good time I’m having an interview this afternoon.
@skynguyen33425 жыл бұрын
Thanks Thomas.
@gerrimiller34913 жыл бұрын
I'm going to have courage and go out by myself and enjoy a coffee outdoors and read a good book. Hopefully, I'll meet some new people too
@consciousnesshealing3 жыл бұрын
"I like this typo and I refuse to remove it" 😂😂😂
@robinrichardson58214 жыл бұрын
3. Do research on the other person. Sometimes (Get a gist of who they are or what they like doing) right so taking pictures of them changing through their bedroom window or do you mean looking into their college field their studying
@avanatroshy47325 жыл бұрын
I love your videos so much and I get alot of benefits from them ,thank you so much for sharing ❤❤
5 жыл бұрын
I really love the look of your videos. Awesome lightning!
@youcutham41895 жыл бұрын
Hope this helps going in for my first interview tomorrow. Thanks for the tips
@puluqemil5 жыл бұрын
Great video, thank you so much!!!
@xpg05 жыл бұрын
your vids looks so cozy :)
@mav85355 жыл бұрын
I was once rejected by my crush, wich was hard, but at least i tried and after that i can tell you, talking to girls i so so much easier as before. The time after that i met a girl who i thought was out of my league but it worked out :) that rule is definitely true.
@farazparvez38535 жыл бұрын
Thomas,i miss the goat at the transition.Please bring it back.It had a really deep emotional significance for me.
@cindym58965 жыл бұрын
Thnks 4 all your videos. I alwys go back to them as I need. Thnku 4 all ur hard work n research.! (I dont understd hw ppl Thumbs down such helpful videos).
@reyespiano9455 жыл бұрын
Me: your bones and collagen are arranged in such a beautiful way. The girl: ??
@amazinggraces-varietyinn61053 жыл бұрын
AYE UR A GORGEOUS GIRL, is what you should say....idk why I'm giving tips, I'm a box when it comes to talking irl
@nikolaymarinov20435 жыл бұрын
Regarding the last point, would you consider the possibility of appearing less interesting and more like a know-it-all, when you have a wider range of topics with a moderate understanding of? I have received that feedback on several occasions and would love to hear your opinion (I wouldn't consider myself smug, but then again, self-evaluation is rarely objective)
@bbk30783 жыл бұрын
Thanks dude. You helped me.
@t_n_rasberry83875 жыл бұрын
Just ask questions about other people because people like hearing themselves talk and like sharing their interests
@stoborking5 жыл бұрын
What happens if both of you follow rule 7?
@heyheyheyhi3 жыл бұрын
Tom, I aspire to be like you! 😌 I love ALL of your content…
@MyLifeFastForward5 жыл бұрын
Why did everyone want to hang out with the mushroom? He was fungi.
@SNinjaQK5 жыл бұрын
he pronounced it as fungee
@SNinjaQK4 жыл бұрын
@@Sen5325 since when?
@kelceyfirth3 жыл бұрын
There was a guy wearing a shirt of a band I like on the last day of school before winter break, my friends helped me find him on Instagram so I started talking to him a couple days ago, I go back to school tomorrow and I’m so nervous to have to actually talk to him in real life aaaa
@JitendraKumar-ez6jh2 жыл бұрын
Know the chemistry of yours and quality investment on self and even out from comfort zone. Even the social environment and adopt it by know it proactive way
@ghn_yug33513 жыл бұрын
They’re just as nervous as I am. Have a mindset that it will go well. I don’t look as nervous as I am. Be confident in myself.
@joshlevelledup65935 жыл бұрын
Amazing segue into the sponsor as always
@sayedhossainkingdom92555 жыл бұрын
Brother can you make a video that How I can do better result in exam and doing my study properly. Can you give me some tips how I can do that thing?
@skrounst3 жыл бұрын
If my jaw was as strong as this guy's I probably wouldnt be so nervous when meeting new people.
@adriand96565 жыл бұрын
thank you for this 🙏🏼
@t_n_rasberry83875 жыл бұрын
Thoughts that "Its only momentary".... also applies to approaching any type of fear.
@connarbott5 жыл бұрын
What's the best utube clip on the matrix and how they ended it ??? Save me watching anymore these things
@alejandrovaldez91655 жыл бұрын
Got two new roommates today. What a time to come in clutch
@madelinegarcia27362 жыл бұрын
I met a new person and I was playing with my hands and looking down and It was just plain silent after I introduced myself..
@myqpalzm147xx5 жыл бұрын
Lol I only excel in practicing visualization :(
@BlaqSheep_TV5 жыл бұрын
Powerful trait to possess
@Adam.Reader145 жыл бұрын
That's very good, but in order to reap its benefits. Visualize in FIRST PERSON and try to emotionally feel the visualization as if it is actually happening.
@kiyoponnn5 жыл бұрын
@@BlaqSheep_TV 😉
@wonderlandofnishreen81035 жыл бұрын
Really helpful tips 👌👌 thank you 🙏👍
@vennoexe2 жыл бұрын
I’m watching this because I’m meeting a new sport Team and I am really really nervous
@cutieworld251211 ай бұрын
How dose it feel now ...😢
@FartGremlin4 жыл бұрын
Thank you I must praise you now you are my god
@tpeasetiger5 жыл бұрын
I like that typo too! Lol. The Otter person. 😂
@TinyMedicine5 жыл бұрын
Seeing you being calm infront of camera, I wish I had your level of confidence. Haha..
@osse1n5 жыл бұрын
*Think of people being stuffed animal and that you have entered a dream state* You will disarm the "monsters" you are projecting in no time
@vdiitd5 жыл бұрын
Man your comments are on every video on KZfaq 😂
@christian_wijaya2 жыл бұрын
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="167">02:47</a> my last brain cell during a music class
@roshanalall1242 жыл бұрын
This afternoon I'm starting GED classes and I'm so nervous. My neck hurts so much
@ninscathy53652 жыл бұрын
It would do well if you include varying coloured people in your videos even just as models.