How to deal with difficult people and toxic relationships

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Relationship advice on how to deal with difficult people and toxic relationships?
A short clip taken from a talk on the first composition of the Guru Granth Sahib (Sikh holy book) called Jap Ji Sahib. This video is from Pauri (verse) Pauri 26 (Part 2) Q&A. Watch the Japji Sahib playlist here: • JapJi Sahib Katha - En...
English Katha (Sikh Lecture) by Bhai Satpal Singh
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@NanakNaam 10 ай бұрын

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@ohjatt9133 3 жыл бұрын

Toxic parent(s) is extremely difficult. Thank u so much for this.

@harpreettalwar605 4 жыл бұрын

Blood relations are more hurting then other relations.

@richardyuman 4 жыл бұрын

Harpreet Talwar I agree with you 1000 percent.

@RiRi-bx5vp 4 жыл бұрын

Harpreet. Exactly. The world is Easy. The internal home people are the nightmare.

@sankarganesh1602 4 жыл бұрын

You r right.

@Devilkaur0666 3 жыл бұрын

I completely agree with you Harpreet .

@harpreettalwar605 3 жыл бұрын

@@richardyuman thank you

@rahule73 Жыл бұрын

I pray for happiness of toxic people. They are the ones suffering and I pray they get understanding and treat others well 🙏

@RobertMichaelTodd 6 жыл бұрын

as a yogi i've tried to love everyone, and it just got me angrier and now i just let go and walk away, treat the person kindly but they are no longer someone i care about. thanks for the teaching.

@ykarache55 4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Well said. I can feel as I experienced..peace

@Rrrrcc4666 4 жыл бұрын

Yes. As a spiritual person i like to see them struggling with something inside. and I offered people help and love out of compassion. But i figured these people have their own inner battles. Some feel threated by other people by just being nice to them. So but the end of all i now decide to walk away but yes whenever they think are on the same page and ready put their energy then yes things can be worked. Walking away does not mean we hate those people, if we undsrstand those people have God inside them then understand that God who lives inside of me is the most important one for me in his creation and to save yourself from harsh people is your Dharam.

@asingh4025 4 жыл бұрын

Yes very true

@gracygiovannitk7435 4 жыл бұрын

Robert Michael Todd same here , I cut off nearly everyone , abusive mean low vibration beings who drained me to nothing . I let go and I have been so happy alone , I enjoy spending time working on my body mind soul , spend time in solitude learning to meditate and working on my spiritual gifts

@bikramjitsingh296 4 жыл бұрын

This video is incorrect. There's a solution to the problem you faced. One tiny, part of solution is "1. No jealousy", "2. No hatred" and "3. No fear" and not love. Love can form attachments. We are forming a greater relationship by doing "no jealousy" "no hatred" and "no fear". This video is very incorrect. For all human problems, for everyone there's one simple solution. You be faithful. And I promise you I will try to fix.

@geoffevans2489 4 жыл бұрын

I have found the best way is to walk away people dont really change

@saveetakaur8407 2 жыл бұрын

True

@cptnspr 2 жыл бұрын

Depends on the scenario!

@cptnspr 2 жыл бұрын

I used to be that way and then I ran out of people in my life. I am trying to be more compassionate and empathetic, it seems to work in some scenarios. Not true for everyone. Be compassionate, set boundaries, give the benefit of doubt and if all fails, walk away by all means. Also, depends on the nature of relationship or meaning of the person in your life. Some people require your time while others do not.

@geoffevans2489 2 жыл бұрын

@@cptnspr how much of your own life do you have to sacrifice before you reacn your limit and how much pain must you suffer in doing so . Compassion is a two way street , Yes dont go out of your way to hurt anyone , show the same respect you expect from others . If that fails walk away my freind . You owe it to yourself.

@bimkivi 2 жыл бұрын

What if the other person is crushing you, intimidating you, threatening you and your loved ones , using his position of power ..his authority ..

@kamaladevi1110 4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely amazing I love Sikhism

@kkomalkumaar 4 жыл бұрын

This is sent for me from the heavens above. Waheguruji 🌹

@TheTurbanatore 7 жыл бұрын

People are not difficult to deal with, it's our mindset that makes it difficult. This is a problem that a lot of people face, thanks for talking about it!

@g5ark 7 жыл бұрын

The Turbanator how about when people are just being horrible to you?

@TheTurbanatore 7 жыл бұрын

"conquer your own mind, and conquer the world." - Siri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, Ang 6

@bavanboughan2291 6 жыл бұрын

When you realise that opinion doesn't matter neither yours or someone else's

@JamaleLaVon 5 жыл бұрын

@@bavanboughan2291 exactly

@arshdeep011 5 жыл бұрын

The Turbanator oh yes

@Kaur_Harvinder 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for this. After losing my mom, I have just lost the family. Gurbani has made me so strong and I have realised that they were never my true family. It’s Waheguru. It’s been 2 years I haven’t had a good conversation with my brother. I tried everything and I think he tried too but we had way too different opinions and he became a controlling person so I had to break off the connection. I moved out and started a new life. It’s hard but Gurbani has helped me so much. It’s true sometimes you can’t break off with certain people but I had to. I used to suffer cuz my culture has taught brothers are there to only protect and care. I still love my brother but I have accepted Hukam of Guru and living a better peaceful life 🙏🏽😇

@arshdeep011 5 жыл бұрын

Bazinga Oz what happened with your mother?

@Kaur_Harvinder 4 жыл бұрын

Arsh deep she passed away in 2013 due to some health condition.

@jasminemusic8473 4 жыл бұрын

Sister, I am sorry to hear that there is someone just like me out there. My brother too acted indifferently after my mother’s death. Ultimately, I too, lost all my family. However, I held all the resentment and hatred inside for how I was treated by my brother and I never sought any help. Two years ago, I started listening to Sant Maskeen ji’s katha. It provided much positivity in my life. Although, this year I got diagnosed with breast cancer. No family member stood by my side. No one supported me through this hardship. And of course, my brother didn’t either. He never even called. Does it hurt? Yes, of course. But this is Waheguru’s hukam. I cannot change it. Hukam Likh Dukh Sukh Payeh.”

@Kaur_Harvinder 4 жыл бұрын

Jasmine Kaur May Waheguru always keep you in Chardi kala sister. Thank you for sharing your story. Know that I’m there if you need a sister. I would like to get in touch with you if you don’t mind. My name’s Harvinder Kaur and I’m from Australia. Let me know & I will share my email. You’re a strong person. I totally understand the family battle we had gone through but it only made us closer to our Guru so that’s the beauty of it. 🙏🏽

@jasminemusic8473 4 жыл бұрын

Look forward to a new friendship. 😊

@sidk.8766 4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true. I hv been in such situations and I walked away from toxic family members. I m way having lots of peace in my mind n body since I choose waheguru.

@LoveLove-vn4hz 2 жыл бұрын

Waheguru ji🙏🏿

@jeevan1306 Жыл бұрын

Waheguru Ji that’s beautiful

@mrsdalva666 4 жыл бұрын

His words of wisdom speaks volumes. I would love for him to talk to my students. I have learnt a lot. Waheguru.

@amreensaini329 4 жыл бұрын

@2:11 you answered it sab Gobind hai aaj Gobind hai Thank you

@kamalBassan 2 жыл бұрын

Veerji so well explained. I am going through same exact situation.

@rubysandhu5470 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful - it’s important to recognise key truths - you can’t change another - you need to be able to walk away where the situation is toxic and there is unwillingness to change - 🙏🏾

@tejalanandjiwala5876 Жыл бұрын

Wahe guru 🙏 wahe guru 🙏

@user-qy6si7gr5x 4 жыл бұрын

Avoid toxic people. Blood relatives are the worst.

@kanganajokerranaut667 4 жыл бұрын

So agree

@harshdeepsingh2034 4 жыл бұрын

Hahahabah you nailed it Brother

@adriennejoybalderas7362 3 жыл бұрын

Respect, love others as you love yourself, as you love God, forgive, we all are annoying in our own ways anyways. It is about changing our mindset how we treat other people. We are never superior to anyone, we are all equally created in the image of God. So if we see the other as a divine creation then we will treat the other in the perspective of a divine good.

@cherylwhite5281 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful✨ Thank You🌱

@gurleenkaur9983 4 жыл бұрын

I would say walk away after taking your full efforts and always stand for yourself .In that process you will emerge as more stronger person and there are chances that other person might be changed if not then is the last option to walk away where close relatives and colleagues are involved .Atleast it would give you sense of satisfaction that you have tried at least

@balpreetshahi5991 6 жыл бұрын

Bhai thank you for making these videos that help us grow. I've learnt a lot since vaheguru showed me ur videos so thank u

@viveksharma8698 2 жыл бұрын

JAI BABAJI 🌷🌹🌺🌸🌻🌟🦚🌈🙏JAI MAA 🌷🌹🌺🌸🌻🌟🦚🌈🙏

@Mark1Mach2 2 жыл бұрын

Very nice discourse. The dealings with people need a lot of deliberation from our side, from within. There needs to be acceptance to some extent from our side, which is big change from within. For this to happen, we need to take time to create space for ourselves.

@aykaiblake3689 4 жыл бұрын

A big Thank you to my brother Satpal Singh. Your talks are really helping me overcome challenging times. Thank you for helping me reconnect and see Guru Ji’s way clearer. Please keep up the good work and continue with real talk. You are a blessing to many.

@gigikaur9737 7 жыл бұрын

Wow. Strikes my heart, real deep.

@TheTurbanatore 7 жыл бұрын

super deep

@khanfarin 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks teacher...actually today I was dealing with this same situation and I was crying because of that person behavior but you answered all my questions...

@user-qy6si7gr5x 4 жыл бұрын

Acceptance also means realizing and walking away.

@gurcharanbrar4133 Жыл бұрын

wahegure wahegure ji 🙏🙏🙏

@RiRi-bx5vp 4 жыл бұрын

Dying to find a way to deal . Manipulative people know. They just act like they dont . Because they are nice to the outside world.

@lifeofsimheera1947 5 жыл бұрын

Its hard facing hardships with people, but always try being humble but if you feel that the person is always making you feel negative cut out the negativity, you as a individual comes first always.

@krazrad 4 жыл бұрын

OMG.. this showed up in my feed the day I so needed it. Wahe Guru's synchronicity is amazing 😍. Thank you for posting. Just to recap my interpretation of how I should be handling a con and liar who has been abusive over text: If I can't see guru in them already, then just walk away if possible. In this case maybe block this person. And when my mind keeps thinking about that person, then I need to not let that person be my meditation, and maybe remember to jap at that time instead. Please let me know if I have misinterpreted or missed any vital points. I feel like this is really going to help me. Thank you.

@ElisabettaLily92 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I appreciate that you took in consideration the real toxic people (phisical, sexual and emotional abusers) it's right to leave, it s ok to leave) thanks for not neclecting all the people who may listen to this

@SandeepSingh-hj6wb 2 жыл бұрын

I also to this every time bad people who says abusive use language about other mothers, sisters And going from far away from bad people I find salvation 🙏🙏 Waheguru ji is always with me💖💖

@codios4224 Жыл бұрын

Waheguruji Khalsa waheguruji Ki Fateh Since I am watching your videos my life changed many good way thanku so much

@NanakNaam 10 ай бұрын

Hi, thank you so much for your kind words. We'd love to share your story with others. Please get in touch on our website www.nanaknaam.org/contact-us

@devkhaira1306 5 ай бұрын

too right about anger.. It is fuel and fire is useful at times, but shouldn't be a permanent state

@gypsylee73 Жыл бұрын

I've had a "good vibe" about Sikhs for a while and my British-Indian (Punjabi) friend speaks highly of them. I'm Australian and don't know much so I was watching videos on Sikhism and saw this. Well what an unassuming yet powerful air he has about him. I subscribed. Cheers, mate! 👍✌️🇦🇺

@NiNa-jr7fp 3 ай бұрын

What a profound msg from guru.thanks for sharing this information

@NanakNaam 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching

@StarSeedMe 3 жыл бұрын

Find the divine within you first... This has been my only real problem. Because by solving this I solve everything in my life

@anilsilva3715 Жыл бұрын

# Great Brother Nuff Respect #

@sukhbirsingh2069 2 жыл бұрын

You are Everthing, you are my beloved. I am a sacrifice to your creative power. Waheguru ji 🙏

@brahmjotsingh871 7 жыл бұрын

Vaheguroo

@user-td5yg1ws9i Ай бұрын

Thank you.

@yangchandolkar7485 2 жыл бұрын

So True 👍 👌 😢 👏 🙌 GOD BLESS YOU ALL 🙏 ❤ 😊 💖

@ranjitsamra8274 5 жыл бұрын

Love listening to your talks means so much to me and it makes sense

@dipikakatyal150 3 жыл бұрын

Difficult people..unconscious people are the biggest hurdles on the path of spirituality...but a blessing in a disguise too...One can practice faith only in trying circumstances. I completely agree with the speaker. Bless him abundantly. We gotta hear him over and again to build immunity and blossom in love with divine.Blessings and cheers 🤝☕

@mandeepkaur3100 2 жыл бұрын

A big thank you ! I am becoming more and more fond of these teachings.

@harmeetkaur2827 5 жыл бұрын

Just so blissful 🙏 waheguru ji

@formless6736 6 жыл бұрын

ਗੁਣਾ ਕਾ ਹੋਵੈ ਵਾਸੁਲਾ ਕਢਿ ਵਾਸੁ ਲਈਜੈ ॥ Gunaa Kaa Hovai Vaasulaa Kadt Vaas Leejai || One who has a basket of fragrant virtues, should enjoy its fragrance. ਜੇ ਗੁਣ ਹੋਵਨ੍ਹ੍ਹਿ ਸਾਜਨਾ ਮਿਲਿ ਸਾਝ ਕਰੀਜੈ ॥ Jae Gun Hovanih Saajanaa Mil Saajh Kareejai || If my friends have virtues, I will share in them. ਸਾਝ ਕਰੀਜੈ ਗੁਣਹ ਕੇਰੀ ਛੋਡਿ ਅਵਗਣ ਚਲੀਐ ॥ Saajh Kareejai Guneh Kaeree Shhodd Avagan Chaleeai || Let us form a partnership, and share our virtues; let us abandon our faults, and walk on the Path. ਪਹਿਰੇ ਪਟੰਬਰ ਕਰਿ ਅਡੰਬਰ ਆਪਣਾ ਪਿੜੁ ਮਲੀਐ ॥ Pehirae Pattanbar Kar Addanbar Aapanaa Pirr Maleeai || Let us wear our virtues like silk clothes; let us decorate ourselves, and enter the arena. ਜਿਥੈ ਜਾਇ ਬਹੀਐ ਭਲਾ ਕਹੀਐ ਝੋਲਿ ਅੰਮ੍ਰਿਤੁ ਪੀਜੈ ॥ Jithhai Jaae Beheeai Bhalaa Keheeai Jhol Anmrith Peejai || Let us speak of goodness, wherever we go and sit; let us skim off the Ambrosial Nectar, and drink it in. (Ang 765-766))

@kokilabrahmbhatt3392 4 жыл бұрын

Best video I have seen for this particular matter. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@Neha66148 4 жыл бұрын

Saying BEAUTIFUL to this video will be very very small word... Many many thanks for sharing such divine videos!!! Bless you

@harpreetdhillon2660 3 жыл бұрын

This message is just what I needed to hear, to confirm. Thank you for this video, for all your videos, and all the work you do. So grateful I found you. 🙏🏼

@surindercheema3 5 жыл бұрын

Waheguru Satnam 🙏🙏🙏

@charuandotra1166 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for giving the most powerful perspective.

@mrgandalfthewhite 5 жыл бұрын

Beautiful.

@khushalvyas3936 4 жыл бұрын

Wahe guru... ,,🙏

@prabhatshukla4770 2 жыл бұрын

Very well explained.. Satnaam Waheguru ji🙏

@neagindergill2671 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this great revelation 🙏🏼

@manojnyol4117 4 жыл бұрын

Thnx..sir you having a great voice

@Winterfired 4 жыл бұрын

I see KZfaq recommendations, I see.

@4kola 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful ❤️

@KashmirSingh-xt5dc 5 жыл бұрын

WAHEGURU.

@GurpreetSINGHOZSIKH 6 жыл бұрын

Waheguru Ji 🙏

@HK00088 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks veer ji, this was helpful. Dealing with these people everyday. This was informative.

@atashakgem 5 жыл бұрын

With all due respect, I noticed in these series, when we ask questions, the team of Bhai master never reply! Unlike other clips I watch,,,, I do enjoy listening to master Bhai, but I see many people ask questions, never get answered, and we all left w many ambiguity,,,,, how are we going to understand correctly the issues Master Bhai speaks about?! 🙁😕😒😟🙏✌️☮️

@sikhkatha 4 жыл бұрын

sahi keha baba ji

@dhanyaputhran3360 5 жыл бұрын

Really touching words,wonderful,thank u guruji

@sunnys1n9h 6 жыл бұрын

Waheguru

@puneetsingh691 4 жыл бұрын

This really helped me. Thank you so much.

@thelazyguyy2052 2 жыл бұрын

Worth listening

@SonnyPlaystation 5 жыл бұрын

You nailed it.

@Curiousboutscience 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video, this lesson!

@rmann49 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing, thank you!

@harmenshergill8959 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome.

@2212booboo 4 жыл бұрын

Love love loved the video... Take away the burning 😔

@mgsivadasannair9577 2 жыл бұрын

Sir, videos are so inspiring. Thank you so much 🙏🏻 💓

@tauanavemooching7916 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome thanks for sharing

@sukhibhogal1532 2 жыл бұрын

Very helpful , I feel blessed having listened to this . This has taken away so much weight off my shoulders 😌👌🏼🙏🏼

@maullajutt5752 5 жыл бұрын

Great lines

@rajbirkaur7213 5 жыл бұрын

Dhan waheguru ji 🙏

@manpreetbasi 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏼

@jodeytailor7462 4 жыл бұрын

Again easier said than done sir.

@sweetyhappylovelyvlogs 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for wonderful knowledge

@VeraLucia-sl6sl 4 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏

@kaur1657 4 жыл бұрын

Good topic! We in general need to have open conversations about issues, difficult feelings, we cant just shut ourselves out even in toxic relationships ... Problem from my experience is people and families just dont want to hear out others they dont want to validate others feelings and just shut out ... hukam is also we been given family members for a reason ... we have to deal with them via souls so when when moving away from our blood relations isn't that also not following hukam 🙏 it's a hard knit to understand only waheguru can show the path ( this is not referring to violent relationships)

@harmanpreetkaur751 4 жыл бұрын

Every word is true 🙏🙏

@jagszz 6 жыл бұрын

beautiful video Ji

@LS-hj2nl 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you I really needed this today 🙏🏼

@ishaanbanwait3948 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@theindian6917 4 жыл бұрын

Superb superb and superb..your teaching is too practical maharaj...pranam🙏

@Electronics61 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks. Great video

@rashmisharma3745 2 жыл бұрын

That was a great explanation . Very practical a d true advice. Thanks.

@TheEthereal29 5 жыл бұрын

Love him..

@parveenkaur4261 2 жыл бұрын

Really appreciate for this video, thank you !

@sunitamadhav5090 4 жыл бұрын

Very well explained

@29kirksingh 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks 👌

@arshdeeprobin1525 5 ай бұрын

❤

@mustardoua4670 2 жыл бұрын

Singh ji, please make a video on narcissistic relationships. Thier hate and control is persistent. They dont accept their mistakes. People in these relationships are left flustered ,questioning their reality. Please help us in acknowledging how people can heal from these relationships and their negative impact. In what ways Guru's wisdom can guide us. May Waheguru give blessings to all.

@anon21qwerty17 Жыл бұрын

i been in one, suggest you to walk away. these people never change. they are in the grips of maya so strong, only waheguru can save them. we, mere mortals can't. if there is no choice, then ignore them, like they don't exist. and keep your sanity intact, and prefer to remove yourself from their presence, like a job or hobbies. and always, always, be financially independent and make sure you keep money hidden and separate.(i know many people will disagree, but i was in the same situation and had to flee)