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"Detachment doesn't mean you stop caring, it means you stop rescuing other people from experiencing their own consequences." this is the most profound sentence I've read about becoming un-attached. Thank you for sharing your knowledge & wisdom.

Thank you. I was looking for ways to detach without the need to start hating or blaming other people; the internet is strewn with these advices of a certain vengeful detachment. That way feels alright for a few days but somehow just feels like a toxic thing to do long term. This video helped me understand what I was looking for instead. Thank you once again.

Thank you, Michelle. I have an anxious attachment style and have had trouble trying not to control the outcome of my relationship partners' actions. Your video has been the most comforting and informative I've found on detachment; I'll try to develop more detachment to not lead my current relationship in a downward spiral.

I have a girl , i really do care about her even she do care about me (not sure to say). She says she likes me and want me to help her with her own problems but I m not available for her all the time. I am afraid that when i won't help her she will maintain a distance away frm me. She has so many guys to ask help around and I fear this. I sure want to practice detachment. I learnt this term while reading "How to think like a monk" bye Jay shetty. he says "everything is temporary so care about them, enjoy with them but don't fear to lose them. 🙂

I need to apply this more often... especially with my adult kids.

Yes. Today i just told myself , the person is just this way, i don't need to react or advise, just let them go on, say what ever theg are saying But i just moved on to another subject, in a smooth manner

I’m so grateful I found you & your videos! Blessed ❤

It’s always nice to learn new life skills. Thank you Michele

This is the best video on detachment I've watched so far! Thanks for sharing

im goin to replay tis over and over unil detachment becomes easy

This was so helpful and comforting. I have been struggling for so long with a lot of the issues you mentioned. Thank you for sharing!

You are straight to the point but so informative. It has taken me a long time to start really understanding what codependency is and how it shows up in my life. Thank you!

Wow ur on point I stayed home from work today and truly needed this video deep.

Yes! Difficult but worth it!

Thank you for this! Super helpful!

Good video. Was looking to learn more about detachment.

This is great. I’m saving this

I will try this to fix my marriage. Back then when my wife and I were bf/gf she was always my top priority. After marriage things for slower. And recently I want to connect with her deeply again and it seems like I've overdone, its like an anxious attachment style now and she feels very annoyed because I want to know everything about her now. "Why were you online and didn't message me" or "who were you talking to?" and all those crazy questions. I don't know how I developed this... I think your video would help a lot.

Thank you for this great explanation. My journey is always evolving and your video is very helpful.

Thank you so much for this video ❤❤

This is exactly what I've been looking for thank you

practicing this now 🙏 Michelle. ⛅

Thanks a ton ✌️ the video was very helpful 😊

Very good explanation and tips... Will listen again and work with those 🙏🙏❤️

Everything me and my boyfriend get into an argument I have a mental breakdown. He shuts down and it gets quiet. I tell him I need reassurance and confirmation that he still loves me. He says I should already know that he does love me. I’m crying right in front of him and it feels like he doesn’t care. I told him that and nothing

I’m working on this.

Very profound.

Thank you!

(Too late) my anxious attachment AKA codependency already ruined a four year relationship with a man that *really wasn’t that bad (even tho he was an anxious avoidant AKA covert narcissist but he was trying to work on himself while I just persistently became crazier & crazier & lost sight of myself)

This is not my problem to solve. Listen and validate and ask what can I do? Take care of yourself. Do good for yourself instead of worrying about what other person is doing. Refrain from giving advice and taking away their pain. Al-alon coda 12 step program.

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My issue is that my boyfriend of 12 years and I stopped making love three years ago. I thought it was because he just couldn’t do it anymore because of all the medications he takes. I’ve tried to talk to him about it and it just turns into an argument. Then I found out that he’s been whacking off to videos on KZfaq. We got in an argument and then he started being more loving to me. But then I found out he’s still doing it. Please help me to detach from him emotionally!! I am literally sick to my stomach and will be until I heal this. Please please please help me!!

This sounds like anxious avoidant attachment.

How would this work as a couple with finances? I feel the need to fix it, if the consequences will affect us both - like we are wanting to move now and need to have things in order. Not sure how to navigate this.

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I realized how attached I was when I went into long distance couple weeks ago. We’ve dated for 2 years prior to long distance and I’ve been really anxious. How do I change my mindset?

Thank you

Im trying to.take him off a pedestal but stay together.

How long is detachment?

It's really painful when it's your parents you feel that you need to detatch from. My parents are older, and they have been in this pattern for years of making bad financial decisions, and also not taking care of their health. These things combined have gotten them into some pretty bad situations over the past couple of years. Hospital stays, not having the money for a home health aid, etc. I've tried talking to them about ways to improve their life, but they haven't listened, and things just get progressively worse. I'm now at a point where I'm just not able to help. It makes me feel horrible, but I had to make the decision to take care of my own life, and love them from a distance for a while😕😕

How do you do this when someone is eating themselves into the grave

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