in my experience, a woman that has too much peace will naturally be inclined to artificially create drama just to get her feelings busy.

I'm 32 and the major problem I face is almost every woman I meet and have chemistry with is usually in a serious relationship. It seems like after a certain age just finding women who are available becomes the biggest challenge. I see some guys that get into relationships and kinda let themselves go and it makes me question a lot of things.

This is such genuinely good advice! I will implement it and I am considering buying the book (even though I have a lot of books that I want to read, lol). I hope you can enlighten more people to be better and have more success in life.

"Do hard things." I once went 24 hours without eating grapes.

1. I've read a few. 2. I do hard things. 3. I'm competent in a lot of things. 4. The few male friends I have are generally decent men. 5. I have several female friends. 6. I play video games 1-3 hours per week. 7. I don't follow any of these "women of lax behaviour" on social media. 8. I am not afraid of being rejected. Still single. Now what?

Edit: If you are reading this comment, Jenny has actually replied to my comment and adds some extra explanation in response to my criticism. The points I criticized the most in my comment are given added explanation that allows a better understanding of her points. Please check out her reply below. I got recommended this in my feed by a little bit of Suprise (probably because I've just started seeing a girl) but was defiantly intrigued by the title. I appreciate your attempts to place your ideas and input onto a topic many men struggle with. And I don't think you had any malice in this video. But I can't help but notice many, many points that I simply disagree with. You make many statements that in my opinion that Grossley overgeneralize both men and women. Overall, I think you make some great points. But there are several points I feel don't really connect. 1) I think this is a good point. If you desire a healthy relationship, learning about communication and in general, trying to learn how to better yourself is a great goal. Many books are written with women in mind I agree. But often many points and ideas are applicable to everyone. I'd argue that learning and bettering yourself is a good goal for everything in life. 2) Implying that men don't have inherent difficulty in being a man comes across as extremely distasteful and ignorant. Almost insulting. Men grow up with all sorts of challenges. What do you do if your being bullied? What if your boss is a dick? What if your older brother is a jerk? How do you handle being rejected by a girl? How do you handle a girl who broke up with you trying to make your life difficult? How do you handle sex? Am I too fast? Too slow? Am I being considerate or not "confident enough?" How do you handle being left to fend for yourself because "you're a man. Figure it out!" How do you handle when you are crying because the world feels like it's coming down on you and people tell you to "man up!"? I listed a lot of examples. And I could easily write more. Yes, many of these are also applicable to women. But that's because everyone, no matter what, experiences challenges and hard things in life. Gender does not decide that. The overall message of "improve yourself" is a good one. But fighting and going to the gym are not indicative of being a man. Women do those things too. Lots of men don't work out and still have wives. It has nothing to do with "masculine energy" whatever this means. It has to do with their character and who they are as a person. 3) Women DO NOT only want peace and security. There are women who want someone with six pack abs, who's 6 ft tall, who has a big dick. "But those are all superficial things" yes, they are. But what about financial stability and confidence? What about intelligent conversation? What about backpacking and exploring? How many kids do you want? How much sex do you want? All women have different things they want from a relationship. But that's not just women, that's EVERYONE. Men want things from a relationship too. And it's not just sex! I need intelligent conversation, physical closeness, etc. I know lots of men that would LOVE peace in their lives. To come home after a long day and to sit down for 1 hour without their wife yelling at them to help around the house. Now that last point has MANY caveats. And I 100% believe that men need to help more around the house and listen to their spouse more. Don't get me wrong. But many women are looking to start drama and make their problems their man's problems. And lots of men do NOT feel appreciated for what they do for their spouse. And this idea that women want to be "lead" and able to act "feminine" is entirely overgeneralizing. Many women want to have control of their lives and not be lead and be a passenger for someone else's life. Or they want to have input into their relationship and not make it all their man's responsibility. I know I certainly don't want to be the person who entirely decides what goes in on my relationship. 4) I totally agree. But I apply this to friendships in general including with women. Don't hang out with people that suck. That are financially irresponsible or who go out and expect you to pick up the bill or whatever. Hang out with people that are people who you want to be like. Love this point. 5) This might be my favorite point you've made. I have always said that the notion that men and women cannot be friends might be the single BIGGEST FAILURE that many men believe. You CAN and SHOULD have female friends. Because instead of simply looking at women as a group of people you can bed, you start to see them for who they really are. People. With life and experiences just like you. And your life will be better for it. Also, from a purely "tactical" view, women are friends with other women. If your friends with 1 woman, you might meet her friends. And they might be options for you to date. Or they'll lead to meeting more women. Just saying guys. 6) I will preface this by saying I am a gamer. I have been since I was prob 8-12 years old. And I don't disagree with some of your points. But I think a little subtlety and expanding of your idea would help greatly though. If gaming is more important to you then anything else in your life. More important then your health or your job or your family, that is very likely a problem. You should have healthy balance in your life. If you choose to make a career of gaming or it's an important hobby of yours, go ahead! Enjoy what makes you happy. If she doesn't like your hobby, then you probably don't want her anyway. But this notion of not being too addicted to gaming applies to EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE. Working too much, drinking too much, doing drugs, even working out is bad IF IT'S IN EXCESS. Too much of ANYTHING is BAD. If you're a woman that doesn't want a gaming husband, that's fine. I'd encourage you to be open minded and at least learn what him being a "gamer" means as there's a lot of variation. But it's ok to not want a partner with a certain hobby. I don't like hiking for example. I wouldn't want to be with someone who wants to go hiking all the time. NOT for me. I know women who wouldn't want a guy that's a soldier or boxes. Calling gaming out specifically feels like you are putting out a personal dislike of something in particular. 7) "Your brain is rotted by pornography" is a statement that has zero science or data behind it and is one that you are saying entirely out of personal opinion and personal disgust. You can dislike pornography for your relationship and that's fine. And many women do dislike pornography. I won't act like it isn't created primarily to fulfill male desires. But acting like pornography is a god-awful trait like smoking or cigarettes feels judgmental. Pornography does have potential risks to both men and women who use it (Because women do use porn as well). Especially among teenagers who often times "learn" things from porn. But that's because we as a society don't discuss things like masturbation, sex, and porn to our kids. However, your point on following girls who post pics of themselves is something I tend to agree with. You wouldn't want your girl to be searching through pictures of other men on their reels, so you really shouldn't either. And in reality, guys, why are you following them anyway? Also, just as an aside to women, guys that want a serious committed relationship generally don't want a girl who posts scanty pictures of herself to draw attention. 8) I don't think you really know how shitty rejection feels and how shitty dating as a guy can be. Because it can feel so demeaning. I actually can't think of something more demeaning than asking out a girl you like, having her laugh at you, and then becoming a laughingstock by the people around you. Being ridiculed because you tried to be vulnerable and had it completely backfire. Obviously this is one experience. But I and many other guys have had TERRIBLE experiences asking girls out. If they let you down easy or are nice, it's appreciated. But many times they laugh, act disgusted, sometimes they accuse you of being a pig or that you touched them. Often times they'll string you along and never want anything to do with you. Often times they get a free meal from you and don't really want you. And now with social media, all it takes is one accusation to lose everything. Your job, respect, you could go to jail. Obviously, this is worst case scenario. But even without some of the really bad shit, it feels awful to be rejected again and again. Even if your confident, even if you know your awesome, how many times can you be rejected before you start to ask yourself what's going on? Is it my approach? Is it my shirt? Is it my face? My height? My hair? Everyone says "you're a great guy" and yet you're still single. It can eat you alive. It did for me for a long time. The other option is you actually don't care and you just want to get laid. That approach works great for lots of guys who can charm women, sleep with them, then never come back. If you actually read this comment, thank you. It's a long one and I appreciate your time into reading it. Like I said, I don't think your a bad person. But I do feel several points overgeneralize. I think that simply improving yourself, being who you are, and not being a dick will get you farther in life then anything else. That's for everyone. And if your a guy that want's a gf, then look around. But don't put all your time into it. Because if you keep doing your own thing, eventually someone who's right for you will come along. If you disagree with what I've said, feel free to let me know. Best of luck to you and your channel!

I've not read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, but I'll do so. Have you read What Women Want Men to Know by Barbara DeAngelis? It is written specifically to men with actionable items and guidelines. I've found it very helpful.

I've worked in the prison system. I have seen countless inmates have the most attractive women imaginable bringing them money, visiting them, and picking them up when they get bailed out of jail or released. I'm sorry, but your advice is terrible. Women dont want peace, they want excitement and drama. Women are attracted to dangerous situations.

Best relationship books I’ve read so far are 1. No More Mr. Nice Guy 2. Models by Mark Manson 3. Getting to Zero 4. How to be an Adult in a Relationship 5. Attached

Great video🙌🏾

You are right.

really needed this video

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I honestly think this a great video with good points, however.... It might be directed to the wrong group of people😅 1. when it comes to boys/men who are unable to even attract a woman into a relationship to begin with, i dont think introception or self improvement regarding his ability as a boyfriend is where you start. Almost like putting the cart before the horse. It doesnt matter how good of husband material he is if the questions he is asking is 'How to get a girl friend' and not asking how to keep women. If women arent looking his way, there is no use for how 'good' of boyfriend material he is. 2. Some few men actually do the complete opposite of much of these tips you give. (aka being a good boyfriend and human ingeneral). Theyre simply misogynitic Fboys, but are very succesfull with women (aka GETTING a woman). But if such a man would like to cultivate a longer relationship with a woman, then your tips are very helpfull. I just dont think it hit the intended target group😅, The 'male loneliness' trend is only for a certain group of men and its not simply because of their bad behaviour. Their behaviour doesnt get them through the door. The men that can go through the doors of most women dont need to behave unless they want to change lifestyle and only then would they change on their own rules. Great video regardless tho

Easy to say "Get over rejections". Self-confidence cannot rely continuously on self-confidence and positive thinking about one-self. It is linked to the responses/results. As a man, when I observe what poor criteria people have in admiring someone I get depressed. I wish women would try to experience themselves repeated rejection (after trying to open conversations and relationships) and see how their self-esteem survives. I have attended Latino dance classes for 10 years, and women are continuously told that in Latino, they have the same right to invite men to dance at parties. But very few are doing that, complaining about how hard it is to see some face expressions or avoiding behavior. If you are saying this is the man's job, it may be, but this does not mean it is not harmful. Read about the toxicity of how men are grown with a "man up" culture, which leads to a way higher rate of suicides in men. Women say contradictory things, they say men should express their emotions, but when we do, women are turned off by their assumption that this is not masculine. Overall, poor education and poor selection criteria in both parties play a huge role. Anyway, try the repeated rejection and see where your self-esteem stands after.

Pure content 🧡

Согласен, сказала почти всё по делу, только насчёт дружбы М и Ж - это из области фантастики, исходя из моего опыта это в большинстве случаев выглядит как формула "один хочет, другой не даёт", хотя безусловно общаться с девушками надо для поддержки и развития навыков коммуникации😊 Спс за название книги, уже закачал в ридер, буду читать❤

I attract women always at a friendship level can't understand why the friendship can't turn to a proper relationship

Splendid topic

As someone else said in the comment section, this is a very good video. But perhaps it should be targeted at men who have the ability to attract women but also want to create and keep healthy relationships. These tips dont really work inorder to 'get' a girlfriend but are great tips to 'keep' a girlfriend Great vid

How come women never ask a man for a date? I would like it if they did. I think I experience rejection b/c I mis-read when a woman is interested, so I would appreciate some advice. For example, I had a really fun conversation with a woman who seemed unattached at a private house party (there were about 25 guests). Through the conversation I learned that she worked as a physiotherapist in a hospital. Three days later I called up the clinic, asked to speak with her and she said the man she is living with would not be pleased if she went out with me. I apologetically fumbled a few words and hung up. Six weeks later I learned from the host of the party that she told her girlfriends about my call and they had gossiped a lot about me and had a laugh. I have ended the friendships with that group of people out of shame. I seem to be making mistakes like that. Women hiss at me "get away from me you creep" if I try to chat them up. I have read books like "Are You The One For Me?" by Barbara DeAngelis. I do not want to engage in a romance at work, which can create problems. What do you think?

I need a tutorial on how to avoid getting a girlfriend. Everything I hear about them means they are nothing but trouble and heartbreak. Yep, I've heard enough, I don't want anything to do with them. Relationships apparently waste your time. Please make a tutorial on how to avoid entanglements with women. Thank you.

Work on your mind, your body, your spirit, and your bank account, and don't worry about females.

I would agree, except that the "hard things" aspect seems a bit too generic. It is important to aspire to something in life, whether it is to own your own company, or get a certain degree. It's that inspirational aspect that matters. "Being friends with women" will cultivate some good skills, but it won't get you a girlfriend in itself. You also need what Milan Kundera described as lightness, or you can call it charm, or the pure will to take a risk in order to woo a woman. There needs to be a very clear departure from the friendship to something more than that. Also, a lot of women will hit on men, but men often don't act on it, because it is not something they expect, and they don't take advantage of these obvious opportunities. Lastly, many men have "a type", which can be somewhat self-defeating.

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So, would you be my girl friend if I do all this?

The safe option I think that's what I do

She is right a relationship book a man should read 🧐: The book of numbers by Aaron Clarey .

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Everything you say is SSSSOOO TRUE. Keep doing what you're doing. You are helping men!!

can you help me with this why do women flirt in front of me with other guys?

Great advice! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Solid advice.

I married my first girlfriend (and she married her first boyfriend, me) at a young age, so I never really had to learn how to talk to women and woo them, so if we get separated for some reason, I will fail miserably at finding a new partner. So a life tip: don't marry your first romantic partner. 🤣 Just kidding, though. My wife is amazing and I was incredibly lucky to have found her. Even the way we got together was a huge case of luck: she dialed the wrong number from another city and got my number instead and we started talking.

Went up to girl earlier today to ask for her # and she told me she was married lol, she's 21 so did not expect that 😂, but get out there guys

hi sweetie

with all due respect you can't tell men how to get women because you have no clue how it much more difficult it is for men. I can tell you're coming from a genuine place but it's something that can't be understood by women. It's really that simple.

Some excellent tips! Also, "Learn Jiujitsu" made me instantly subscribe 😂

a lot of good points made in this video. a lot of delusional ones too.

You dont ask a fish, on how to catch a fish, You ask the fisherman.

This sounds good, but I’ll have to had that my art has a lot of nudity, sex, and sexual violence in it. Would a woman be turn off by that’s lol?

Not looking for a GF, looking for a wife. A lot of the EQ and the world is harder for women advice is not great. Video game, lust, rejection, and self-discipline advice is on point.

no you buddy , i dont want to do the hardest thing while she just enjoys her life

I would not be surprised if I (male) have always understood women better than most of them would understand themselves. And what we do happen to know is that most women in first-world societies have unrealistic expectations of what kind of man they deserve and can't be reasoned with, because it's all about their emotions. Most of my friendships have been with females, but as you could imagine, they only ever liked me as a friend, never as a partner. At this point I'm so used to them entering a million relationships that are never working out, and sometimes I know it from the start but can't "save" them from their poor decisions. I was there before they started and I was there after they ended, still minding my own business exactly how she wanted it. You could say I'm a constant in their lives, but not THE constant they are looking for. Sometimes I feel like at this point I fear acceptance more than rejection because I'm not expecting acceptance and I'm not sure I could handle it. Now what?

I'm a single, bachelor guy. I don't have a girlfriend at all. Thanks for sharing your helpful advice. I don't play games at all. I have never had, or been in a relationship.

I actually do have a huge issue with the video game comment. I'm glad you pointed out that it can be a way to relax or destress but it's more than that and I don't think you understand fully what video games do in general.

As a man you need to get over the fear of rejection. A man rejecting a woman is much different than a woman rejecting a man. Keep interacting with women. If one tactic isn't working try a different one. Have some platonic woman friends and talk to them more. From the women I talk to its a big green flag when men have women friends. Go out a lot. In a time where men are more introverts than ever the men who go out to bars and clubs the numbers. Obviously have a good friend group. They wing you and help you if needed. MORE Life isn't a porno, don't mention any NSFW stuff until she mentions or brings you home. If you're a lightweight like me refrain from drinking more than one or two drinks on a date. (A sober mans thoughts is a drunk mans words, and we think a lot of nsfw stuff). Dress well, get a good wardrobe of dress clothes and experiment with different casual clothes.

Easy. Just walk up to her and say “Excuse me, my name is Juan and you caught me eye from across the way and I felt compelled to come over and ask you your name”. She says her name (Lucy). “ Lucy it was a pleasure to met you, here’s my card if you should ever find your self stranded late at night, bored on a weekend or just want to have a chat, I gotta run now, see ya!” And walk away. As she looks at your card she’s sees it reads : “24 Hour Emergency On Call Assistance for Physical/Emotional needs met anytime anyplace”

Get a pre nup fellas

Good title, it gets me here! try this: "how to get laid," "how to make a million before 20," "how to never get cancer" "how to live forever..."

ok what do women do for men? i ask because a child can give her a painting she made at school and not get anything out of it a man can send his wife some flowers and not get anything out of it .what do women do for their men and not get anything out of it ?.

Every woman has a boyfriend. I'm for mutually arranged marriages.

Video games board games are what make getting together fun for the whole group , it's cheap reason to get together to chat and share life. better than Tv or movies sports .

Emotional intelligence of women for offer is a joke

I recently lost my last long lasting female friendships, both are simply giving me the silent treatment. One because I asked her a favor that she previously promised my child of being a possibility. The other one sees me as a mysogynist because I told her that another woman said women could take a leaf out of men's book in terms of behavior. This was both so senseless that I don't even grieve for what's lost, it's just whatever. Rolling my eyes, shrugging, moving on. Dunno what I'm supposed to think about cultivating friendships with the opposite gender. Get a pet instead. Oh and I'm not living in the US, but a country where there SEEMS to be a lot less craziness.

Don’t listen what a vvoman say , see what she do , and pay attention to what they respond.don’t listen to a fish how to get a fish listen to a fisherman!🤣

Basically all I heard from this is be her dad .

so women want a father?.

Actually if women are the ones picking or making the determination of what guys they wanna hang out with in society than women can’t be. They need to take accountability than. So that would be a woman’s fault not men’s.

Easier way to get a girlfriend is get ya'll Passports & move overseas Asia,Latin Countries,Africa & Eastern Europe i promise ya'll won't regret it

The video got worse and more deluded as it went on. Stick to the personal finance videos that's your lane and path to growth with this channel. In terms of advice for men you don't have the answers.

I'm 5'9 and Indian, should I ER?