Just yesterday I tried something that worked great. I simply asked what his goal was from the argument and then he asked mine. It was so much easier to get straight to the point than arguing forever for the same result.

I completely agree with what you are saying, but every time I try to just calmly step away from an argument to just go for a walk, my fiancé does not want to just take a break. He wants to finish the argument right at that moment, while I just want some space to cool down my anger. It makes it difficult.

You look so pretty and your skin is glowing again! yay!

I just had a petty argument with my coworkers. I was feeling very off because of it. I came right to your channel knowing you would have something to lift me back. This video was very helpful. Thank you! ❤️

yes Gb had a petty little fight just the other day. It was over very quickly as soon as I remembered "In my defenselessness my safety lies" my ego wanted to "win" the argument & be"right" ...I don't know where it came from but suddenly I started breathing deeply...& began blessing & forgiving this person & my self...then immediate release came. i was free from the whole thing & saw it as just another way my ego was trying to block my happiness.

Some of these points I've heard over the years, but I just needed to hear them all together, to be reminded that it's okay to take a step back and ask what you're really arguing about and if it's worth it. So thank you. This really helped.

my mom argues with me when she dont have anymore weed

I love the thought of pausing, breathing, taking walks, to come back to these arguments with a different energy! Good points...

I was totally guided to this today. I do subscribe to you but wow I needed this one.

Gabby, you are so wonderful! Thank you for sharing this with all of us! Have a great day =)

If you can't handle the aftermath from a petty argument, it could be because your soul is bent and what you're feeling needs healing.

This is great and has actually worked for me. Thank you so much Gabby!

You are so on point, I love your solutions approach to this topic. I find so many of us want argue about meaningless things when we are hurting. Lol, there is just nothing to defend. Love these antidotes. Xo

Topic is on point... was about to let a friendship with a roomate go (we're moving out) over cleaning and taking our fair share of responsibilities. Do I want to end a friendship over condiments in the fridge?! umm HELL NO! Thanks Gabby :)

I love the seemingly counter-intuitive wisdom of the course 💫

I HATE YOU WHEN YOURE HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cool video! Thanks for sharing. I teach kids meditation at my karate school. I always love to hear different ideas and tools.

And what if you do all these but they still take advantage of the fact that you talk to him calmly, excuse yourself gently, listen to him talk etc but the pettiness even worsens????

I needed that thank you so much

Thank you! 💖🙏🏽💕

Thank you Gabby ;p

Gabby I love that shirt!

I was really stressed at work last night and while I was having a fit (just to get it out, but I was really mad) my boss told me to stop it in a way that made me angrier. if I had followed with how I felt the situation would have gone worse, instead I actually stopped reacting (my blood was boiling I was so mad). it took me some time to get that awful feeling away, but I realized I made the right decision by stopping reacting. I was safer in that than if I had reacted to defend myself.

That's the last time she does this to me. I was cooking her dinner too??! All I wanted was some music on the telly and she turned THAT into a petty argument because she was annoyed at something else. I'd rather be alone than with a petty arsehole that seeks to make it your fault that THEY are petty for no reason.

This is very true.

Love you gabs. I totally see me in you not in an ego way in a love way. Haha that sounds wrong but I mean it in the purest way, x

i argued with my cousin today about how i couldn't play basketball with my jeans, that i would play much better had i worn shorts. he says it doesn't matter cause some people like to play in pants. so then i asked him the last time he played did he have shorts or pants.. he didn't answer my question. instead he said it depends on the weather, if its cold he would wear pants. but then i asked him something he did already like the last time he played what did he wear? he kept talking about weather. inside i was so mad i literally wanted to call him a douche idiot and punch him in his face but instead i took off.

I love your t shirt

(Really long btw) Did you think I did the right thing recording her?? Ok. So there are these 2 girls, let's call them Maria and Brooke. Brooke is known for her pettiness, my experience with her until now has been "If you don't understand, It's not my problem, you should have listened to the teacher".That type of thing. Maria has been fairly nice to me, hanging out with my usual group of friends. Brooke has grudges against multiple people, One of them "Alex", I have no idea why but the day before the incident she kept taking his water bottle and lunch box and proceeding to drop kick his lunchbox. My friend and I(I went to elementary school with Alex and his mother would've been ashamed if I didn't help him.) got it back every time she stole it. While I was asking her what was point behind this, my friend, I'll name him Mike, decided to put her water bottle near Maria's backpack a table away. She was Furious and proceeded to smack him multiple times before storming off(Not unusual). Now the day of the incident. (If you care there's cursing btw). Mike is looking for his other friend and we happen to walk by Brooke and Maria. Brooke shifts her untied shoes closer to her as if we were going to steal it. I ignore her and keep talking with Mike. While we're talking he moves his legs which is (in this context, Totally Normal). Brooke takes it upon herself to stand up and start walking towards mike. She has the look of "I'm gonna beat your fucking ass". She grabs his backpack, tries to swing him around (He's sturdy so that doesn't affect him much). At this point, I've had enough of her harassment and get out my phone to record her for future evidence. She kicks him and strait-up slaps him right on the footage. She tries to spin him around by his strap one more time before looking at my phone and walking off. Mike and I go back to talking and the word "Jeez" comes up in conversation. Brooke and Maria round the corner and start off with "You need to delete that fucking footage right now or I will go up to the fucking office and I will fucking sue you". I was caught off-guard, stammering a "but?" before she continued "You should not be allowed to fucking record me and you go up to the fucking office and they will say that you are not allowed to fucking record me". I try and explain (I know it's in vain but still) "You shouldn't be allowed to hit or kick him and "I wouldn't have had to record her if she didn't start hitting him". This only fuels the flame Maria breaks in and tries to make intimidating eye contact with me stating " You wanna take this to the office because I am not afraid to fucking go there". I say my point for recording once again but to no use. They've had it with me. "Go fuck off". "Go fuck yourself" "Get the fuck away and delete the fucking recording". "I will go to the fucking office right now". I say no.sorry and start walking away as the bell was ringing. As they start walking I hear Maria say to me "Go fucking die!". I was surprised and walked up to her "excuse me? What did you just say?!". She gets closer and says " I only said, "G-oh Fucking God" trying to make it sound close to "Go Fucking Die" with no avail. "Now stop fucking following me". I walk off, frustrated and angry.

umm what if when you walk away they say "yeah cause your a jerk" cause my cuz says that and no i'm a girl i have my dads old conputer

you look beautiful in this one (oh and youre totes on message) xx

Your audio is pretty low.

Hey Baby. :)

Gabby I love that shirt!