Rachel Wilis, I agree he should take care of your mental, physical, and emotional needs but if he's also in the position to take care of you finanically as well...that is a wonderful thing and we shouldn't count that out.

Rachel Wilis yes! I was just about to comment that! 👌👍

Queen Nzuri very good, it is very important. there are still men in the World that value women with both actions and their money like the guy who married his Iranian girlfriend in a castle, my good ness they even outdid the British royalty that had been wasting time fornicating, Hmmnh what am saying is wherever a man puts his money he's emotionally connected, so galll if you're not seeing the cash or you don't know where it goes, you're not long term, trust me. time, money, effort, although this doesn't apply if the guy is struggling, in that case let him know you love him and be his friend. if he wants you, David Beckham followed Victoria right, the same system will be implemented, but if not there are no hard feelings, you can talk at any point, eblven get together down the road when all is financially stable or if you really want to get married, you may meet someone else who wants the same thing and is ready because you're not going to be young or pretty forever

Rachel Wilis Yesssssssss Hunty🙌🙌🙌

Rachel Wilis u meant not just financial. No woman wants help we need providers.

Contrina Durant amen!

Contrina Durant you are so right..I wish most women would understand what you just preached and they need to know their value. They just don't wanna be alone.. who do? Being selective is great. But if we as single people need to stay rooted and grounded in Jesus & then he will give you the desires of your heart.

Contrina Durant AMEN!!!

Thank You!!!

You are so right!!

Aww I am happy for you! God bless! 💖

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That is so beautiful❤❤❤❤

Time together means nothing, I want respect and loyalty, as long as he has always given you that. then congratulations, cause I see people married longer than that and can't stand one another.

Levenda Barrow congratulations.. respect 🙏🏾

Absolutely Correct! 💯💯

@@trbouwie )

Lmfao😂

Yes i totally agree

How do 1 and 4 coincide?

Old women always said: "Baby, what you see BEFORE the wedding, is what you're gonna see AFTER the wedding". If he's a "momma's boy".....RUUUUUUUNNNNNN as fast as you can away from him!!!

I felt that one all in my spirit 👏👏👏

Tammie Everhart Jones couldn’t have said it better.

Amen... Say that again, and louder for the ppl in the back

Oh girl preach

Michele Smart my dad always say that

Michele Smart Big one for me 👍🏿💫

Michele Smart Agreed, but I would extend it to strangers too. If he is nasty to people and he doesn't even know them, that says a lot.

Ariel H That is a great point! It's all about understanding a person's true character.

#FACTS

Jesus Is Lord Jesus is Lord! Say that loud!

Jesus Is Lord yeah but it's not enough quality women going around. You're job and education means nothing to men. Stop thinking what you see as a quality man is what a man want in s women. Your cooking and how well you can nourish a man's kids means more. Please understand that.

Or a online course

Yes lord

🙏🙌🙏🙌🙏🙌Enough said

Ballamoney Tv ♥️ that's so sweet! Hope things are going well. Sending blessings y'all way🙏🏾

Same lol

same

❤

Aww!👍

Leigh Lee White what you need to work on???

mary Jacobs I'm in school getting My degree. I have to finish some personal things b4 I'm ready is what I meant

Leigh Lee White ooooo ok 😊

Leigh Lee White same here👍👍👍👍

Working on self Because we want to already be everything we can to our best potential when the man that has the characteristic and amazing qualities we desire come along we are already a perfect match. Be phenomenal and you will attract that. Kudos.

Londa Hicks Amen

I knew my husband was the one on our first real date. We went to Bible study together. The Lord is still at the center of our marriage almost a decade later.

What about me I'm an atheist does that make me not husband material?

Kazaam818 NOT AT ALL. Having strong faith just makes it easier to understand their values and thought process. Because of your beliefs it just means it might be harder for people to understand your values and thought process and does not mean that you arent husband material.

That got him an instant like from me! Wholeheartedly agreed!

Same lol

Ephesians 5, The Book Of Ruth, The Book Of Esther, Proverbs 31 ... I am praying for you a Queen

I wish I had this advice when I was your age...whew!!! Please take notes young lady because THIS MAN IS SPEAKING TRUTH....TRUST ME....I KNOW!!!

Yes please do

Good for you!!! Smart!!❤

That's so amazing ❤. God Bless you and your marriage 💑. Disagreements/arguments can be inevitable, but a blessing 🙌as well, when you work through them and hear👂each other out. My wish is that I (and others) can have such an beautiful relationship 🤝. God Bless 🙏

Praise God Hallelujah

Congratulations!

Does your husband have an brother who's the same way but single? 🤣🤣🤣

Melanie Doyle I know right!!

Melanie Doyle mythological creatures

Melanie Doyle ..they not at church that's where the booty snatcher are ...lol

Melanie Doyle I would like to know also..The land is dry 😅😅😅

Do you guys think there is a woman somewhere sick of Derrick's sh!t?

I truly hope so!! This is one of my heart's desires.

That’s a fantasy. If that were the case, black women would not be leading in stats as the least likely to be married

True

I believe this... going on with me now.

It takes more than just praying to get a husband. It's not that cut and dry. If that was the case no one would be single.

The word has changed. The bible has had translations changed or removed

Amen that’s the same thing I told myself. I just ran back to God after 2 years and I told him this time I’m doing EVERYTHING right.

Twinkle Star right!! You got Support over here

Twinkle Star amennnnn!

Balzac T. Bagher LoL

Anjanette Potter Lol 😂😂

Anjanette Potter true 😂😩👍🏽

Anjanette Potter lol no lie bc every time I open my mouth, he messes up.

Anjanette Potter when I meet him you will know he will treat you like a queen and open ur eyes to new things .one thing I learned is don't look for him let him come to you

Yes the best plan!😅

Beautiful

Whatever all women portray husbands to be best on social media

@@alexandriarona2299 incel alert

God bless both of you

Nice

Good for you darling 🌺

That's awesome.

Shida Luscious Well said, I agree :)

right, this is always a concern. Society's crazy like that makin us think we're crazy just for expecting any sort of reciprocated respect or higher standards

Kamaria Cross Yeah I cant be with a man that does that to me. Or act embarrassed when the two of you or seen together. Men like that I dont take seriously and ghost their behind quickly

Me too.

Right there with you all.

Just broke off an engagement too because this man treated me like he was doing me a favor by marrying me. He doesn’t check off anything on this list. Very self centered and selfish. I don’t need to be tolerated in a marriage, I would rather be single.

Are you women still single? Just wondering

John Raven 👏👏👏 good luck to you guys!

Jazmine Gandy thank you

John Raven I wish you two well. You made me laugh with the fart comment. My husband plays to much, he farted one time and trapped me under the covers with the stank. lol. Have a good one.

a.d.w. n. I was laughing when I typed it lol but we are very comfortable around each other I was cleaning and cooking in the kitchen with just my boxers on! I forgot I didn't have on clothes and she was taking pictures of me and showed me later lol!

John Raven I wish you and your partner many blessings. May God continues to give you wisdom to keep your relationship healthy, happy and a lifetime of love.

Vaness LunaPiena Yes DJ is a beautiful guy in that his heart and mind are the most attractive things about him!

LovelyMom 1981 that's wat you call a quality marriage. you both keep it up, you're right though, but I believe God is able to provide quality men too for other women amidst the madness #CreatoroftheUniverse#

Yesss.......im so happy u got a REAL MAN! If u truly 💗💗💖💖💖 yo hubby...... FUCK/4Get wat anybody else has 2 say!!!👌👍👍👏👏 #2TrueLove!!....Alwayz....👍👍🤗🤗😊😊😁😁😎😎😎

SagittariusGirl 4825 I'm a Sagittarius Girl TOO.......!!LOL Sagittarius are the BEST!!LOL LOL 😁😁👍👍👌👌👑👑👑

@@sunshinesunny5794 Hey girlie! I find you here too! 😇😇😇😇😇😇 #GodEyeMedia

LikeMyCommentFirst ThenReply I can agree 10000% because guess what I cant cook wash dishes or wash clothes or pay bills or drive and I'm 26 but I know one thing I can do well and thats tell people about Jesus

spinnerchic 👍😎

You're truly blessed!!

Same, dead on.

BrieLovesYou - this made me laughhhhhhh!! Good for you girl!

Hotzaaaaammmmnnnnnnn!!!! LOL

😂😂😂😂

Literally just dumped a boy for the same reason and said the same thing

if u want a high quality man go to the gym you are over weight...

Alicia McLean It's cold out here in these streets, hell I can't even get to the love part because I end up throwing dogs back to the wolves😅 Seems to be a never ending cycle, I give up!

AMarie I wish you well, choose wisely

Mother Earth I agree. Thats why I do not want a relationship right now. Nor have the desire to get into one.

sex is easy....relationships are easy come easy go...it all goes together and i think it may only get worse

it’s just the lack of commitment nowadays. it’s not needed anymore like it was back then. if we talkin about marriage then people probably had problems all the time but divorce wasn’t a good thing at all so people had to stay in their marriages despite hating their partner.

I lol'd at that 😂

😂😂😂😂😂😂

That whole turnaround reply made me want to kiss him! XD I'm like yes! That's what I want a man to say and do. Let me be myself.

I think that's one of the things women want most, to not have to always be perfect, but to be embraced with their imperfection... flaws that aren't actually wrongdoing, but things that make us unique and special.

mary Jacobs lmfaooooo

Congrats hope u have a successful marriage

CeCe Kansas that's your opinion and not everyone thinks like you. That is why he gave a disclaimer saying some of you might disagree

CeCe Kansas ..?..so if U wait for sex and later realize that he R she is Not pleasin N da bedroom.. is that a deal breaker?

Precious Luv you can work on that. if you love someone enough and y'all have bomb communication, you can teach them how to please you.

Elizabeth Hodge ..thank U

Ida Worst, I wanted to bring this to your attention because you need to know that all ladies outlook will change during different stages example 18, 20, 21, 25, 30 years old and on. Marriage decisions impact the rest of your life whether good or bad, there is also said guys don't start making up their mind till 25 years old which effect marriage. These are all hard lessons I learn too late sharing to hopefully encourage you not make the same.

A. Alexander I feel you 100% I was a Saturday afternoon through Sunday afternoon girlfriend. When I requested more days that’s when it allll changed, that’s when I met the real him.

Yo listen, i have a girl that i really care for and she is real wife material. Before she came into my life i had always spent my time on friday and saturday with my best friends ever i grew up with and that became like a ritual. I am loyal to her, she is loyal to me. But she respects that i have other things (like for example these friends) i find important in life. The only thing i want you to understand is that not all guys that dont wanna chill on a friday or saturday are cheating on the girl or not caring about her enough. I love her, but in my case it just means that i wanna spend some private time with my buddies (when we chill they don't bring their girl too) because i value them too.

A. Alexander I call them pop up niggas..wanna pop up when you mad at your side bitches...in my Nene Leakes voice, the doors are closed hunnie”

@@milohaanen4670 nothing wrong with that as long as there's an understanding. I like my man to have his own things going on so that I have either alone time or space for my own things.

Do not be fooled. Spirituality, christianity is not a good indicator of being a good human/partner and so on.

Dated a man like that as well in 2017.✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿

lis martin Agreed

Isha Swaby true never met any of them.

Isha Swaby He's creating a fantasy. I cannot take him seriously since he isn't and has never been married. I know people will come at me for this but he is telling women what they want to hear.

Braelynn Blue what's wrong with that sweetie..... we are single....

Braelynn Blue hmmmm....where dese guys at.....sometimes u get some things on d list but everything? ?...hopefully in this lifetime

I like him as he is standing for us. Nothing wrong if it's a bit ambiguous. Guys should try to grow to that level.

Bria Lindsay I agree. I got married way too fast. Now after 5 years I find out that I don't even like him as person. Ha!

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you gonna pray for him

Pray for a genuine Godly man! Their's so many counterfeits coming in God's name to ruin u or should I call it demonic blessings where a man comes and u think he is all Godly and good only to find out he isn't all that... Also remember u won't get along with every man just because he is Godly

Crystal Lee Amen! young and smart!

+K Alston Fuckem. Lol

Derrick Jaxn 😂👌🤗 😉HEY!!! I'M SAVING THIS! i didn't expect that response but I LIKE IT!!Thx for being YOU!

K Alston you right help me too

I agree!

People talk shit about this guy??? What the hell!?!?!? #HatingAss

UniQue Patresa Amen 🖤

I Agree 💯 Derrick but of course for us real women that list is bigger. Lol. But great 5. Love how grounded and real you are. God Bless😘🙌💪💯

Love and Light I agree. I always been the type that prefers a man to chase and bend over backwards and see that he is committed before I even think about making him my man

Not so honey. I waited to have sex with my husband til our wedding day. He is the senior pastor of our church. He can preach a word. He knows the Bible front to back. Oh and he can realllllllllly pray. Our sex life is fantastic! With all that he is a horrible husband. He is extremely narcissistic as many pastors are and extremely selfish. Don't let refraining from sex before marriage be your meter for a good man. It is the right thing to do if you're choosing to walk in obedience to God's word but there are many successful marriages in which people did not wait. The things he stated in the video are just as important.

Ion think so sis :'(

Yes, but they are not normally the "low hanging fruit"

Yes, yes and yes. He's is an honorable man and friend from my past. We never dated although the attraction was there. We decided to take a chance and BAMM! DJ's list is perfect. I thought I would never relocate, but that was before we shared time with one another on many deeper levels. He's everything I have asked for in a man and husband. Never give up!

So rare

Yes we do exist. We're just tired of giving our all to a woman only to be completely mistreated, cheated on, & left for someone else. Yes Ik not All women are bad like that, just like not All men are bad like that. That's just what it's been like for me in my personal experience. I'm just tired of wasting my time & energy going out of my way for women that won't even bother to ask how I'm doing or how my day was & simple stuff like that.

+Jessica Ferreira Congrats! 😁

Jessica Ferreira 🙌🏾🎉🎉🎉 that's fabulous to know

Jessica Ferreira nice

If he cares about you that's something he'd want to do willingly, not just because it's not being done.

Your job - primary domestic management. His job - primary resource acquisition. If he gets ill and takes leave from work - you nurse him. If you get ill and take leave, he nurses you too, but without all that negatively affecting his job because he needs to not lose his job because he needs to get resources for you both via his job because he loves you. Simple.

Lucky you.

Are you married just wondering?

Stewart Coleman nope! Lol

How'd it go?

Yo everybody wants to know lol.

law of attraction

Some mens in church .turn on u and lie too!and no they wrong

T. Monique chile 😩😂😂

sassyone82 You just spoke a word!!! I agree with EVERYTHING you just said....I feel the same way!!! Exhausting is an understatement 😩

sassyone82 I agree. I feel the same way. Thats why I do not look. And dont come across as desperate and show that I been looking for a man when I meet a guy because some take advantage of that. It will come down the line, may not be soon...but it will come for you. I am not dating nor have thr desire to right now.

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