How to Overcome Dating Anxiety: The Key to Leading with Confidence and Self-Assurance

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How to Overcome Dating Anxiety: The Key to Leading with Confidence and Self-Assurance

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Want to overcome your dating anxiety? Wish you knew the key to leading with confidence and self-assurance? Here’s how to shift your mindset and free your fears.
Dating anxiety originates from approval-seeking. Your pre-date mindset has you focused on the wrong person. You’re focused on seeking ‘their’ approval rather than focusing on how you feel in their presence.
Are you comfortable? Do you like how they communicate with you? Do you have anything in common with them? Do they seem like a kind human being? Do they want what you want?
Instead, thoughts are spinning around in your head like, “Am I okay? Do they want me?” This gives your date the power to approve of you or not. That’s a tenuous position. Not to worry. Here’s the workaround.
Learn the key to leading with confidence and self-assurance. Here's my latest article on the topic:
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00:00 Introduction
01:11 Origin of Dating Anxiety
02:04 Shifting Your Viewpoint
03:16 Your Mindset
05:12 How You Give Away Your Power
06:05 Take The Steering Wheel
08:00 Why This New Frame Works

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@LisaGemini Ай бұрын

Love yourself first and don’t overthink it is my advice. Yes, Susan, be objective and curious! Be relaxed and patient. I adore your advice. ❤❤❤

@SusanWinter Ай бұрын

Thank you Lisa!!!!!

@user-bf6gn6mg2c 8 күн бұрын

Susan i want you a ton of passion.

@tbunnyshy1 Ай бұрын

Well said! It can be a challenge when someone has been single for years. When you get that first hug from someone, it can make you realize you’re touch starved. I forgot how great a hug is! I am definitely taking things slow. 🕊️❤️

@jessicaairhienbuwa2306 Ай бұрын

Love your videos!! ❤ How do you fix accidentally scaring someone off who initially wanted to be in a relationship with you bc you were too adamant/anxious? Could you please make a video on it?

@SusanWinter Ай бұрын

oh, good one. this is all about Pace. I've done a number of videos on that as far as slowing yourself down. But you're trying to recover somebody so that's a slightly different issue. I go back to them and have an honest conversation. Tell them that you want to slow things down and you'd like to take, another shot of getting to know each other better

@THEJOSHUASIMONSHOW 12 күн бұрын

I love you Susan. Sometimes, when i’m not really going through anything (which is a relief given the many times i’ve struggled) i still put your videos on. Your voice comforts me, like a big sister sitting next to me to keep me safe. -Joshua from Singapore

@aeiou0123 Ай бұрын

U r a gift, Susan. You know just the right words. Thank you

@SusanWinter Ай бұрын

awwwww. thank you

@ManifestationPowerhouse Ай бұрын

Sending love from across the pond ♥️ I’d love to see a video on a guide to dating as an introvert who needs plenty of time by themselves

@SusanWinter Ай бұрын

Oh boy, can I relate. This is a terrific topic. But I think there isn't a conflict. Here's why. I am in an introvert. I have learned a skill set to be social, when needed. I balance my social events with double the time of privacy. As long as there is time alone to collect oneself, I do feel it is possible to learn the Art of presentation (and to be real, not a "fake version" of ourselves). Taking an acting class and challenging yourself with being in front of people is excellent. Taking a public speaking course is excellent. It's simply a mind-shift. Solitude grounds you. With enough time alone, it's possible to have a reserve of energy to be social. At least that's the way I have found it works for me. I also know I cannot be out at large events with lots of unknown people more than three days a week (that's my max). It's "work." Conversely, meeting with clients and followers is a JOY!!! That is never work. I hope this helps you manifestation powerhouse. Never forget, you are a POWERHOUSE!

@richard-wg8pt Ай бұрын

@@SusanWinter Great video Susan, as always. Your presentations are always so insightful and focused. I was especially intrigued by your foregoing comment about how being an introvert could play into dating and relationships. Like you, I’m a natural introvert, and I had to become an extrovert for my work as a lawyer. It took years of “trial by fire” to become extroverted enough for my work. Similarly, in my post-divorce dating, it took a while for me to overcome my normal reserve and quiet demeanor. Some ladies interpreted my introverted nature as a lack of interest in them, which was not the case. I was just feeling anxiety about coming across in a new relationship as being fake and insincere. When I was finally able to naturally and comfortably open up a little more and reveal my feelings and attitudes, my dating life improved.

@SusanWinter Ай бұрын

@@richard-wg8pt richard, I'm really enjoying reading your transformation and yes, we are very similar. I took acting classes-that helped me to get up and speak in front of people. Then it allowed me to make fun of myself and say things that were out of context or uncomfortable, depending upon the dialogue of my character. Some people take improv classes. That also helps to open them up. It looks like your "trial by end "is working beautifully.

@richard-wg8pt Ай бұрын

@@SusanWinter Thank you Susan. ❤🌹 You are always so kind and thoughtful.