HOW TO RECOVER FROM CHEATING

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@Pittboss4127 3 ай бұрын

There are certain decisions one can make in life that has no return. Cheating is one of them. I am sorry to disagree but trying to regain their trust is a fallacy. No matter how well you think you can reconnect, just like the Hydra, once you cut off the head, it will regrow. Do yourself a favor and accept the failures of the relationship and then move on, learn, grow and be better next time. Work on yourself. If you don't leave, you will always have a heavy heart. Just my personal experiences. It's not something I will tolerate again.

@Schnitzer325ci 3 ай бұрын

Well said. Once a cheat, always a cheat

@mayviskhoo3283 2 ай бұрын

Couldn't agree more

@21972012145525 2 ай бұрын

Have they cheated on others yet? That's the question. Im waiting for the karma tbh

@jessiesheldon-huffey1824 2 ай бұрын

Yes, struggling with this now after catching my husband with porn on his tablet. that for me is actually worse than an actual affair as it is sexual betrayal with a woman/ women who would not choose to be with him in real life unless they were paid to do so.

@dwkim13 2 ай бұрын

@@jessiesheldon-huffey1824I hope you're joking.

@alessandras2872 2 ай бұрын

No excuses. If you want to cheat just break up with your partner and you have all the freedom to do whatever you want.

@Tmo2024 2 ай бұрын

Cheaters are sick In.their head they need to have that psychopathical lying going on in their head the sneakynes Always looking for something better. When a relationship doesn't feel good. Just cut it off. People who love you don't hurt you.

@Ridneymaxwell95 3 ай бұрын

Workout eat right sleep right the only cure

@atomicgeisha 3 ай бұрын

I was married 20 years before my husband was faithful, and that is why I tried to save this marriage. I just wish the pain would go away.

@jsfritz3 2 ай бұрын

Break up with cheaters. If you stay, you are signaling that you will tolerate abuse and further cheating. All cheaters are serial cheaters. They just need a "good reason" to do it.

@morotetsuke 3 ай бұрын

Past behavior IS the best predictor of future behavior. It’s an unfortunate part of reality but men and women are designed differently and they love differently. You will not recover but you can move forward not through words or talking it out but by doing.

@Chitra57696 2 ай бұрын

I would agree with this statement now, but I was blind in the past.

@jacobclayton2954 2 ай бұрын

You can recover. A big part of recovery is learning to trust yourself. By that I mean trust the people you choose to be in your life. This takes practice and skill, but over time it immensely helps you attract better partners to choose to begin with.

@rishabh4698 3 ай бұрын

Damn nonsense. Really liked your videos earlier but this is beyond stupid. Justifying cheating like one party ignored needs and other stepped out. If one ignores so you look it somewhere else ? Or leave yeah quite obvious

@marcmanklow 2 ай бұрын

Having experienced this at the highest level of stress and you know she's been peneratrated by another man...seriously...your weakening any self respect left in yourself taking her back, and it will happen again. Once the vase has been broken in a 1000 pieces 💔 things will never be the same again. Remember it's not the man she went with fault, hes the opportunist she's the one who gave the green lights and at this point would you take the risk after he's been there even disease wise? Betrayal is one of the worst human behaviours and the fall out to the receiving party can last for years!

@tildenc935 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this very insightful podcast Sadia... It's a whole lot of fun swimming in this piranha, leeches and crocodile infested maelstrom called "Recovery"... It was actually a lot more fun suffering through a handful of heart attacks, a plethora of strokes and a bunch of other physical, spiritual and mental combobulation... Crawling over broken glass and taking a dip in the Dead Sea afterwards is less painful and nerve-racking. Thank you for your good works and may the God is serve sow blessings and favour on your good heart.

@AskTheAdjutant Ай бұрын

Never go back. It will never be the same. However, I do agree that you should look introspective and become a wiser person. 🇺🇸💪🏾

@Gwendolyn96 2 ай бұрын

treat it as a lesson learnt and move on!

@Singapre 3 ай бұрын

Eww no way i will justify the cheater…you made the victim look some kind of lacking that’s why they got cheated on…very disappointed with you

@FAVanguard 2 ай бұрын

Accountability goes both ways. You failed to fulfil a need and they cheated. How you react is, however, on you Lets stop encouraging stupid behaviour by claiming 'victim blaming".. people never learn because they are coddled as victims.

@Singapre 2 ай бұрын

@@FAVanguard haha so funny…if you needed “a thing” from partner you can talk rather than cheat...your comment itself making a cheater a victim..I can’t take you serious

@FAVanguard 2 ай бұрын

@Singapre i 100% agree. Communication. In the video,.the scenario sadia khan made was that "when your partner has consistently stated their wants and needs and they have been ignored." This is where accountability comes in. Controversial opinion but scientifically true,.women cheating is worse because for a woman to cheat, it means she has emotionally connected to someone else, relationship is irreparable whereas for a man, s3x is mostly just impulsive physical act. So a man can cheat and still be in love but a woman cant. My observations is that, women forgive cheating more than men forgive cheating precisely because of what i described as women understand male nature contrary to what society says. That's why women often ask "do you love her?". A woman understands the need to protect her resources so if the man is emotionally connected to someone else then that resources is in danger of leaving her. Just a little insight into evolutionary psychology of cheating.

@williamedlund3634 6 күн бұрын

I thought ”no excuses” for cheating but that point changed my mind.

@thelonewolf1894 2 ай бұрын

My advice for a cheating partner is don't get angry, don't judge but try to understand why. If it is a girlfriend it may be fixable, if it is a wife it may not be fixable

@Laoriginal718 2 ай бұрын

Once someone cheats the only thing to do is LEAVE.

@christianhcevallos 2 ай бұрын

Best way to get over a cheater is to simply leave and dont look back

@mekman4 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for this!

@ex-pirates7454 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for every video Please gat similarity from questions and make a big video wich explain the basic queetions

@lylyanazarela4807 2 ай бұрын

Hi Sadia can you make more videos like this please thank you ❤

@zeeshanbinnaushadnujjoo1389 3 ай бұрын

You so beautiful sadia! 😊❤

@user-hx7uj5ck9y 25 күн бұрын

A leopard never changes its spots. In most cases, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. Cheating is an act of BETRAYAL OF TRUST & A BETRAYAL OF RESPECT. NO TRUST, NO RESPECT EQUALS NO HONESTY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

@BLUECNOTE 2 ай бұрын

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@joshualeach2706 2 ай бұрын

This is a dog whistle. “Years of disrespect and years of disconnect” is womanese. The tacit understanding here is that it’s The Man who has emotionally abandoned the woman there fore she cheats. Furthermore, the man must forgive her and giver her what She needs. Thereby absolving her of any responsibility. If a man cheats, he’s just a terrible person. Double standard. Listen fellas! Don’t ever ask a woman advice on dating women. They’ll steer you wrong every time and feed you a bunch of sh**t. They don’t actually want you to know the truth because then the game is up and they lose the power to manipulate. Only take advice from a man/woman who successfully dates or partners with women.

@jessiesheldon-huffey1824 2 ай бұрын

I agree. It doesn't matter if it is the man or the woman who cheats or whether it is virtual (porn), emotional ( romantic but not necessarily sex) or actual physical sex, these people are actually ok with betraying and hiding from their partners who trust them. Anyone who is ok with doing that doesn't really understand what true love and commitment are.

@user-rx7ms7iz3w 3 ай бұрын

Go to the gym after woman cheats on you, it works for me

@TomFox1 2 ай бұрын

Yes workout that pain

@Tmo2024 2 ай бұрын

It's not the gym it's the fact that your train your brain you should have always gone to the gym

@Azeraph 2 ай бұрын

Hey Doc, could you do one on BPD and their cheating?

@olukayodeaderibigbe8586 2 ай бұрын

Cheating works like rebellion. It came from somewhere deep and it WILL happen again. Best bet: walk away and save yourself from worse heartbreaks. You're better off being alone.

@user-yd7yz4rs7b 2 ай бұрын

Hi sadia I do agree with you on this one it is possible to rebuild a relationship after a affair and too people can come out of it stronger and better for me that wasn't the case I was just with the wrong person and got badly hurt but if I hadn't tried I would still be carrying that baggage with me I still have a bit of work left to do on me but I don't think I will look back and regret trying thank you

@BatBrakesBones 3 ай бұрын

They called l you Lara Croft in high school..💛

@everyminutecounts 3 ай бұрын

Preach

@jessiesheldon-huffey1824 2 ай бұрын

You should always forgive. For your own sake, bitterness will eat away at you. Forgiveness does not mean that you stay with the person or trust them again though, although sometimes this happens.

@radzhurl8711 2 ай бұрын

It's very contradictory now after all her previous videos. 😳

@breannareynolds5743 2 ай бұрын

In order for this to work, both parties would have to be willing to participate in rebuilding after cheating.

@dwe9935 2 ай бұрын

Partner cheats once...their heart gets stained once and for all... its not what you can forgive and forget it's about them that the stain in their heart for this relationship is now permanent in most cases...so removing the stain is removing the partner they cheat on.The stain am talking abt is the urge to find your desires not met in current relo to seek outside. Just like once you start spending money on your luxuries there's no going back.

@mayviskhoo3283 2 ай бұрын

I disagree with you. Trust is for God, yes...but definitely not for a person who has already shown you what he is capable of doing to harm, hurt and destroy you. Why trust blindly again when you can verify with proofs? We use trust and faith for God because we can't see God in any form, standing infront of us, other than their statues which will not harm nor hurt us. But the cheater is a real person, in human form and his/her actions can be seen, analyse and verified by us, before we decide whether they are good to stay or good to leave. So please do not equate trust for God vs the blind trust we give for those lousy cheaters. They do not deserve it

@khemaloving4031 2 ай бұрын

Learn to endure or learn to leave…

@master-of-mind5881 Ай бұрын

“Trusting is believing what you can’t see.” Yeah I did that once with my ex and do you know where that got me……. 🤦🏿‍♂️😠😡🤬🤯😳🥶😱😑😯😦😦😧😲😵🤮☠️

@tallspicy Ай бұрын

Have you chosen more than one cheater? Or those who treat you badly? The bad news: this is a you problem. The good news: You choose badly and can work with a therapist to change that, if you want to. But if you just keep being out there, you will repeat your pattern

@GermantenHospital-tl2yr 3 ай бұрын

My school friend has 1yr old Gf and still had physical intimacy with me. And is not ready to take our friendship to next level

@21972012145525 2 ай бұрын

Uhh why did you do that? You knew that and still got involved? You're the problem

@tjj9737 2 ай бұрын

It’s quite easy, they don’t see you as anyone worth getting into a relationship with or they would have made sure to have done it by 1 year. Probably best to go your separate ways, only decent thing you can do for being a willing participant in an affair is to inform the girlfriend of what’s been going on without her knowledge. By allowing yourself to be available in such a disrespectful way to yourself has made you unappealing in a serious or committed way. You will only be valued for sex.

@adamspice9076 2 ай бұрын

if she cheats betray then leave dude no return..

@farouk69jacobs 3 ай бұрын

🖤

@MentesIntrigantes-js6it 3 ай бұрын

Why she doesn’t look to the camera?

@BuddhaofBlackpool 3 ай бұрын

It's supposed to look like she's being interviewed.

@Lucynasarenko85 13 күн бұрын

Or they are a narcissist and deny their cheating and keep going with it and have the whole time during the relationship. They never speak up about being unhappy. They pretend everything is fine.

@peeweeherman5590 2 ай бұрын

It is totally easy, you turn your back go to Medellin Colombia and find a 30 year old...Why is this so hard? They actually helped you out a ton...😂

@PeterNolan-009 3 ай бұрын

Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that.

@PeterNolan-009 3 ай бұрын

@@user-mg9hi5ln8n No. I was married 18 years and raised 4 kids. Totally not worth it.

@PeterNolan-009 3 ай бұрын

@@user-mg9hi5ln8n You don't get "intimacy and connection" being married. You get slavery and abuse.

@PeterNolan-009 3 ай бұрын

@@user-mg9hi5ln8n How old are you? How many years have you been married?

@JFBalz 3 ай бұрын

@@user-mg9hi5ln8n”Why buy the cow…” as they say.

@saulm2007 2 ай бұрын

This is a common female rationale for cheating. Saying their is "cause" for cheating is truly sick. A person should just leave the relationship if they want to cheat. No need for truama for impulsive urges by the cheater.

@NoyKeosouma 3 ай бұрын

❤😂

@5points842 19 күн бұрын

I usually agree with Sadia, but I firmly disagree with this. She has even said before that there is a definite element of emotion in female infidelity. This is the reason that female infidelity can’t be forgiven.

@christianhcevallos 2 ай бұрын

I disagree with this, theres absolutely no excuse for cheating

@Ridneymaxwell95 3 ай бұрын

I bet it's a whole lot easier for men to recover from it is for a woman because may have options

@fathimazohra4265 3 ай бұрын

Assalamualaikum Sadia Khan , loads of love from India 🇮🇳

@TomicaL 2 ай бұрын

she give great advices and i like her but with that nails she cant make me a dinner....only vegan smoothie

@christianhcevallos 2 ай бұрын

I unsubscribed because of this video

@akashshaha4519 3 ай бұрын

Hey Sadia, absolutely love your content and would love to connect but your Instagram link seems to be non-functional. Can you let me know any other way to connect with you.