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It really feels like narcissists are evil spirits stuck in the empty shells of spiritually dead human beings forever.

Another great response is "I can accept your faulty perception" " I am sorry you feel that way" When gaslighted say,"I trust myself".

Don't talk to stupid people because you will have to lower down to their level and once in there, they will win you over by experience. I think the quote is by Mark Twain.

The scammers are all reported by me

It's difficult to keep reminding myself that he is a sociopath

"Cut BAIT and RUN!" as the saying goes. And never, ever, look back!

My mother hated, "Huh. OK." Or, "Weird," whenever she tried to button push. Watching her work herself up into a tizzy while I stayed calm was incredibly satisfying. However, the dark side of grey rock is that it does numb you. Before I went NC I started distancing because I didn't want to not feel and suppress myself too often.

No contact, grey rock and a protective order works great. 💯🎯 Speaking from experience!

Thank you for acknowledging how hard it is to not react when the narc causes so much anguish and pain. So many experts say not to do it, but don't recognize that even the best of us have moments of weakness when dealing with these monsters. You are one of the few who is honest and has great insight. Thank you.

29 years lost 😮😢

My two favorite responses to rants accusations, etc. are "OK" and "maybe so." Shuts then down without saying anything that can be used against you in court.

Towards the end when I realized what he was doing I just tried to ignore it. But that was often impossible because they hate it when you ignore them and they will push and push until they get a response.

Appreciate the politeness. Have found people who are narcissistic bait nicely, and ACT like what they're doing is "no big deal"...but tormenting another person with lies and false accusations is monstrous. I don't know how they sleep at night. A polite response to their abuse will be difficult, but if you say it works, I will try it. Thank you. God bless.

Thank u for the scammer alert, Danish. I seem to get them quite often.(even more narc abuse) but never fall for them. And this ability to remain detached from the narc is so demanding and ubiquitous, I sometimes feel that my personality goes underground out of sheer survival because of daily situations such as, well... scammers--- which are exhausting and disappointing.

Dear Danish Seems like you have experienced some of the worst of these offensive people. Please know you are a light, a word of reason to a lot of people now. Thank you for the journey you had to make in order to help so many.

Both my parents were narc, they abused all of us, but my sisters wanted them, my father called me a lier. My life is still a mess.

Thankyou for letting us know. Scammers are everywhere. They make it so obvious. They do it on other channels as well. They offer free gifts, say your a winner. They also make spelling errors. They are so stupid. Being an empath i pick up on these toxic parasites. Great video Thank-you.

My strategy is open My Holy Bible.......read and write.....good spirits defeat evil spirit.......Lord help me to persevere...... Psalm 43

Title: Strategic Responses to Narcissistic Accusations: A Ten-Point Analysis Introduction: In interactions with narcissistic individuals, especially when they engage in tactics like shaming, blaming, or accusing, having a strategic response is crucial. The approach of responding with statements like "I don't know what you're lying about" or "I don't know what you're trying to argue about" and consistently repeating them can serve as a defensive tactic. This analysis explores the effectiveness and implications of this strategy. Points One to Four - The Ascent: Unpacking the Strategy 1. Deflecting Accusations: This response deflects the accusations back onto the accuser, creating a mirror effect where the accuser must confront their own behavior. 2. Disrupting the Pattern: By not engaging directly with the accusations, this strategy disrupts the typical pattern of argument, throwing the narcissist off balance. 3. Maintaining Emotional Control: Repeating a calm, non-accusatory response helps in maintaining emotional control and not getting drawn into the drama. 4. Avoiding Justification: This approach avoids the trap of justifying or defending oneself against unfounded accusations, which can be a losing battle. Point Five - The Summit: The Peak Advantage 5.The peak advantage of this strategy is turning the tables on the narcissist. By not playing into their narrative and maintaining a consistent response, the focus shifts from defending oneself to highlighting the narcissist's behavior. Points Six to Ten - The Descent: Potential Outcomes and Considerations 6. Encouraging Self-Reflection: The repetitive response might lead the narcissist to reflect on their behavior, even if only momentarily. 7. Reducing Engagement: This method can lead to a reduction in engagement, as it offers little for the narcissist to argue against. 8. Risk of Escalation: There's a risk that such a response could escalate the situation, as the narcissist might become more agitated by not getting the desired reaction. 9. Setting Boundaries: Consistently repeating a non-engaging response sets clear boundaries about what types of communication are acceptable. 10. Potential Confusion: This approach can create confusion in the narcissist, as it deviates from the expected response and doesn't fit into their narrative. Conclusion: Responding to narcissistic accusations with a statement like "I don't know what you're lying about" and repeating it consistently can serve as an effective defense mechanism. It deflects accusations, disrupts argument patterns, maintains emotional control, avoids justification, and potentially turns the focus onto the narcissist's behavior. However, it's essential to be aware of the potential for escalation and to ensure that this strategy aligns with one's overall approach to managing the relationship. Final Thought: The Mirror of Clarity This strategy acts as a mirror, reflecting the accuser's behavior back to them. It's a tool for clarity and boundary-setting, empowering the individual to maintain their composure and autonomy in challenging interactions.

Their entire life is a kind of war, a competition. Their inner core (not the mask they wear in public) is based on disturbance, destruction and finally the total destruction of the new "flavour of the month". No, you can't recognize that toxic behaviour, because your never was thought about narcissism at school, university... Thank you very much Danish 🙏👍🍨

My response to narcs in the wild is to react. Immediately and in a way that puts them on their back foot. I then follow this up with non-verbals that indicate I am getting a rise out of the interaction. Rarely have they continued. For those that do I continue the gambit until they give up frustrated. This of course requires an uncommon amount of self-restraint, charisma, articulation, and confience you can physically defend yourself, so I get why it is not generally advisable. But man can it be fun. And humbling for them.

Basically, "not my monkey, not my show." Brilliant. I was doing this without even knowing it's a strategy.

I SO appreciate all of your videos and valuable lessons within each. I only really realized my mother is a narcissist about 6 months ago (I’m 51) so I have been learning how to deal with her in a more effective way. I’ve learned that when I keep my voice steady and my emotions controlled she tends to escalate. Alot of times if she’s at my house she will leave shortly after if she’s not getting the responses or emotions she wants. It is empowering to have these tools to deal with her. I used to be left filled with anger, resentment, and anxiety. Not knowing why she did the things she did to me or said the things she said. Now I KNOW why. And thanks you to, Danish, I can effectively shut it down and preserve my mental and emotional well being. Thank you for all you do! ❤

Thank you Danish and right on time. I agree 💯💯💯 with this message. These misery making, pain dispensary's, soul sucking Narcissists deserve the least attention and feedback we can give them in all interactions with them. They want to destroy one's spirit if they failed at soul sucking their target.

You can hit them hard with the truth. But wait till you are strong and can block. No discussion. Nothing. Drop it with the hardest things that they find so good about them. From their bad sex to all the ugliness. They fear to be seen and that someone knows. They will remember it. Word for word. Day by day. Give it back.

Danish, among all the people who speak on this topic, you cover it most honestly and thoroughly. You get at the root of the issue, and how best to handle it. ❤❤ You're wisdom is comforting and inspiring. You're light shines very bright.

Don’t give them your emotions, just give them your flatulence instead. You can also blow your nose and hold it real close to their face and ask them what do they see. You could also ask them what color it is because you don’t have your glasses on. Just give them your indifference, & plenty of interruptions with goofy and disgusting comments and behavior to frustrate the crap out of them. Remember how you used to annoy your siblings when you were a kid? Pull my finger.😂

Your videos give me the clarity and reinforcement I need everyday to deal with my Narc husband

When my narc starts acting like they wan to shame or blame or accuse... i will respond with..." I don't know what your lying about". Or "i don't know what your trying to argue about"... and just keep repeating it over and over. Make them keep repeating them selves till they quit... This does a couple of things... dismisses them and sets the situation where they are what i accuse them of...Same with cops... as they are narcs too.

Thank you so much. I have felt such incredible frustration trying to communicate. It is utterly impossible to be heard. It gets so bad through the provoking insults to my very character. I lose my temper like I never have before, so now I have become the “emotional cripple” that gets shamed. It’s awful. Your words are so comforting to me. You really understand.

love this so much really. also you make me laugh, your face is so expressive and as subtle as it can be on the narc's part, *(I am experiencing this due to not talking to them any longer), I can tell when this narc is doing something to get me to engage. I avoid talking now as much as possible and I am done with "being nice" = I am no longer "kissing her *ss" to keep her happy (like baking for her, just to make her think I don't know she is up to no good, it's been a ploy I have used) and instead, now when appropriate, I just say outright something *sharp and direct*. it is not mean and I would never be like this normally. but in this case, with the narc - as she makes her approach, she is sometimes angry in her confrontation (always some stupid nonsensical thing), at other times pretends to care about my animal to "get on my good side" (HAHAHA, honestly she has poisoned animals I DO KNOW THIS) - so if she tries this ploy, I ignore it, get my pet and leave her presence........I do not trust her whatsoever at all, but for now I exist in the same house (she's the house owner) but I do not engage, and if I do, at all, it is *sharp and direct, quick and a cut, like I will laugh*............I may even snort like it's a contemptuous aside in their direction. it really is too funny. the main thing is I avoid contact at all costs, it is killing her absolutely to not "know what I am doing" so she digs in any trash that I leave in the trashcan.....so what I do is "plant things in the trash" if I want her to believe something to divert her from my real life and it makes her feel "soooo arrogant and secretly superior" like "she knows something" and it calms her down. hahahahaha and in reality, I do take my real trash (if I do not want her to know) to a store trash container or to a park trash receptacle and dump it there. I give her NOTHING but what I need to and to throw her off the trail of what I am doing. she is so weird. she is sooooooooooooo jealous and if she can get a look at me (I know this is weird but it's true) she never looks at me like a normal person but "scans" me up and down to see what I am doing, what new thing I might have, if I am changing my hair, if I've done makeup, if so, what kind, blah blah blah, etc. not kidding. my mother was the same way - and I never healed it with my mother (I was gaslit so much I never knew she was doing it to me constantly) so I am now healing all this - all these videos help a lot and our sharing comments does too. thanks Danish. God bless us all to heal.

It is difficult to pretend with gray rock...

I must have been a terrible being in my past life. I have been born to two narcissistic guardians, children of narcissists themselves. They have trapped me financially, destroyed my life and psyche. I need a miracle.

We ignore we do not give response we are independent . But deep in mind narcissist hurts you and your body is reacting this stress in form of illness. How to fight and get back our health? Can you prepare video for this pls? I need it

My favorite channel right here. Thank you sir!

Disassociation is great.

Try to let everything roll of your back. Their opinions don't matter anyways. Gray Rock and act indifferent to their insults. 😊

These scammers were so annoying on one channel. I reported it to the channel owner. It continued, so I have taken a break from the station and I do believe that the channel owner has enemies and that scammers purposely scam guests, with a double purpose.

One unique characteristic of narcissistic people, which no one talks about and which I constantly face in my marriage is that after a big fight and all the drama my partner buys me something which I wanted for years and throw it on my face or just keep it silently for me to see.I do get the things but I am not able to enjoy it.This is his habit. How should I deal?

Very insightful, good strategy to reduce stress level and to bring back focus.

Spot on. Thank you for great advice Danish 😊

Thank you so much Danish 🙏 You are a pure soul 🌹❤️ Indeed helping others

I've decided to just answer "okay" when the narcissist tries to bait me. It acknowledges that I heard her but is not going to get a response.

Another great episode! Thank you, Danish. I always feel better after watching your channel 🌟

I've been grey rocking my MIL. She yelled in my face and tried to hit me in front of my kids

This works! Thank you Danish.

Omg I downloaded Telegram, but never ended up messaging. Thank you so much.supposedly, lucky fan

Thank You 😊❤ Applying it, still practicing

Thank you Danish, every thing you say resonates with me.

thanks so much Danish.. i hope youre doing well.

I give them replies like: mmhmmm, ahha, oh okay, yeah, Is it? , oh dear, how bad 😂😂 No reaction whatsoever

May God bless you brother and may he use you to light up the meatsuit your in then the world 😊

Best Video about Narcissism ❤

Thank you for the wonderful information. It breaks my heart to think this is how a relationship has to go with someone you love.

Best ever!

Nice glasses 👓, yup, scammers all around and hell to own a land line! Best wishes from Montreal!

Hi, Danish , please explain this phenomenon used by my narcissistic partner.He always bring up the words or expression I used during a fight , when I am having happy moments with my children,parents, friends and also during functions.He spoils those cherished moments.

Good 👍👍👍

Thankyou KZfaq for introducing me to dr Danish.. THANK GOD

My mom is a narcissist and she is making my life hell. She constantly accuse me for her illness. She blames me for her sicknesses , how my studies are stopping her from getting treatments. And w She wants me to drop college and leave my graduation. She always try to gaslight me, always telling me my faults and how i should be guilty about it. No matter hiw much i cook or do fro her , she never feels satisfied. Always complaining about her life. Accusing me with vulgar words, shouting for no reason. Always wnats to fight and engage into drama. She is the most negative person i have ever seen. She can suck the life from you. Every time she see me laughing, immediately remind me how miserable her life has become because of me. Sometimes i feel like i am becoming like her. It's too much for me now. She has chronic illness and doesn't wnat to get treated. Just want me to stay with her and take care of her. I am 20 and she wnats me to get married and have kids so that she can die in peace. I am going crazy. I sometimes feel like running away or even worse killing myself. I juat can't deal with this i want peace. My father is also sick. And he is the only person who earns. I am not financially stable yet. I am scared what if i have to quite my studies. How am i going to manage everything all by myself. I am so scared and hopeless. 😢 I feel like there is nothing i can handle or fix anymore. My father is also tolerating her narcissistic wife since marriage. He is in depression because of her drama everyday. God all i wnat is some strength to handle all this.

Yes everyone told me to not respond but deep down my desire to shut them down that I am happy and content with my body and myself and you are making negative remarks.. but my response is addressing their blame and negative criticism that no that’s not me but you are so that’s why I don’t want to respond to justify themselves

I think I've made a mistake 😖 I've invited my n. mom to come here on Christmas Eve... She lives two hours away from me. I said for visiting the wonderful Trombone choir concert in the nearby church... Oh... I have a little guest room, but the last decades became worst, smear campain, best friend with my enemies... Yes, I've made a huge mistake by inviting her... Hmmm....🤔😖

Same thing happened with scammers on a couple other channels...

If you do grey rock they will see you as weak and continue to abuse you repetatly. Say in loud voice what they just did for others to listen, but don't look in the face of the narcissist while doing that. And talk on the third person like is just general comun sense. They will be worried about their reputation a d know they can't mess around with you

Could you please make a role playing longer video to show examples of subtle narcissistic behavior in interactions so we can learn to recognize it early on?

Hi Danish! Love your videos. Can you make a video focusing on the qualities and traits of a Gay Narcissistic Man? The ones who are extremely arrogant and don’t(never) want to admit they are Gay Man

Mr Danish I've been abused so much I almost wanted to end my life but I love my stepdaughter to much plus the narcist will only win.

our case is in court. in counseling session my narcissistic husband blamed me that send my private pics to someone and I have affair. im with 9 months baby. actually he had affair and beat me when i was 5 months pregnant. i came out. bt when he blamed me like that i cried screamed. and end of the session he came with a smile like i made it i made her cry. i don't know how to do deal with these fake allegations in court. i feel ashamed.

😂Could you please make a role playing longer video to show examples of subtle narcissistic behavior in interactions so we can learn to recognize it early on?

So then, text, logical written responses, are also supply? Are there stages of Narcissism, whereby there is a chance to catch a young person before falling into this behavior? Are their abilities to reflect broken, or does that take years of practicing this behavior, to become a true Narcissist? Is it always the case, that a parent has caused the narcissistic behavior, in their offspring? I can't imagine my Grandmother creating a Narcisstic son, my Father, but there he is. Could it be that a child has his or her own interpretation of events, so that supply begins to make them feel alive? I know another Mother who said 'what happened to my Son?' My Grandmother had 6 children who lived. Two were Narcissts. My Uncle took down my Grandmother's real Christmas tree and put up the one he got them instead. It was aluminum. He wasn't pleasant as he did it either. The 'Golden Child' thing is puzzling to me. I was one I believe. I was uncomfortable with the role and told my siblings, don't be like me, be yourselves. Ignore what Dad says. When a professor made me the golden student, by reprimanding the work of many fellow students, in one large room, while praising my creative efforts, it was very uncomfortable, reminding me of home. Here we go again, I thought, but years later, looking back, he was in a strange way, the only educator who had given me any real recognition. I guess that I didn't react correctly, to being the 'golden child' because it was used as a weapon, to supposedly motivate my siblings to strive more in school. That was the speech which the Narcisstic Father gave over and over, but couldn't help any of us, with our homework. What a mess.

Mr Danish I swimming to get rid of stress

Hi,I want to share my experience.My narc partner after belittling me ,ask me to come on a vacation trip to a foreign country with his friends.How to deal with such a situation?

i just saw an old magnum pi...they said a double mirror tricks the light into believing it is continuous

Danish, would you recommend telling other family members and friends about him with examples of how he provokes, and to stop listening what he has to stay about me when he is with them?

I wonder what happens if being the grey rock is easy, do they eventually quit trying to bait you? Such as if you just half way smile then stare but don't answer. My narcissist is my clients daughter, . Do they get bored after a while? She went bonkers because not only did I gray rock her, I was determined to make her go off in front of Mom and I succeeded. Mom was shocked and angry at her. She wanted to get me alone, no reason I work for mom. just go away. I asked her, "How was the wedding?" KEY was this is just just 4 words. A very quick sentence. She went OFF big time screaming. She had been drinking alcohol driving back in her moms car from a fancy restaurant. She got back into the car, forced her mom into the car then drunk drove in the driveway. I called the Cops on her but she had already left. When she starts baiting me, I plan to ask a 3-5 word question that narcissists hate. Maybe I'll just ask what I did last time which was "Have you been drinking?" she has and hates to be called out

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Some of them, no doubt, great or small, have wound up dead.

How do you pray for them?

Danish since narcissists are often clever when working together how do we shut down more than one of them both at the same time? Like when for example it is a narcissist and his latest a lot younger flame who believes she is now a way better biological parent than me? Or instead 2 men while they are driver and passenger in the front seats both of whom at the time seemed to believe they must reform me too while I am in the back seat alone at the time while we are in the same car pool? Or how about the social worker who showed up on my door step 2 hours late while bringing along by surprise his entourage which included 2 cops and a nurse too? Of course in all of those situations I was not taking the bait. The bait again long after that one switch after I said again, "I do." Staying alive around a malignant narcissist is not that simple. That is why Danish should be thankful for his ability to survive too. Without him having to turn into a rock for real too.

I did receive such a message asking me to text; that I was a lucky subscriber. I did not respond.

It seems to struggle with logic. Harassment and telling people they are nuts he seems to consider being a job. Force relation with a delusional narc is upmost unpleasant and harmful, and it is bonkers if it thinks its worth money from a third party doing that to people. It thinks its peak of humanity so basks in the fantasy that people admire it.

I report the spammers here a lot

I have been no contact with abusive mother for years. I told my mother to stop contacting me via phone, email,visits,post. She sends me letters and parcels. I haven't responded at all and kept no contact but she just won't stop 😢 Any suggestions to get her to stop? I looked into it and its impossible to block mail.

Is narcissism a genetic disorder?

But, it seems to me that it only ends when you leave them, is that true?

What do you do if the narcissistic person starts grey rocking back at you? Is that gaslighting?. i think i am asking a one off question but the narcissist answers out of context and when i say that was not the information i was asking about they say " this is why i dont answer your questions its always something else" but they have not addressed the question i asked i.e. " question-what time is it, answer-its usually sunny this time of day. , ok but what time is it., you're never happy with my answer, that's why i don't talk. But you didnt answer my question., You just want me to say what you want me to say. No i would like to know the time. Who is being narcissistic in this example

Need some suggestions, survivors! I don’t understand the pattern of my narcissistic husband. When he talks to me on text messages, he is so polite and respectful but in person he is the meanest and arrogant towards me. There is a pattern but I can’t seem to understand the behaviour.

you might get hit if you talk like that. mine was violent. both mother and ex husband. thankfully i have no contact with either.

Ice Rock 🪨

I don’t agree. Let them go by letting them have it, then let go.

You know narcissist are someone's children too

Sorry I did the wrong thing

There only here to wake us up to the beauty an love we’ve been taught to give them r hole lives an five al that love an respect back where it belongs 🫵☝️👊🙏

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