100% Just look at the state of the world.

and the Neanderthals will believe their bull $hit

Like donald trump.

Like politicians that have been in office for decades

HOOYAH!! GREAT comment! btw: A politician's job description requires 100% dishonesty.

They may have "versions of the truth". I am not joking.

That gave me a giant laugh. I needed it so much today. Thank-you !! And source/God bless you.

@@octoberskye1049 Sounds just like my dad.He believes he did no wrong and shifts the blame on others.He really believes in his own stories.

I know someone that lies no matter what and they adapt to their situations by lying about different stuff.

Anarcho Frills they may be compulsive liars.. still a lie but have convinced self it’s true!

They can’t remember their own lies and it’s always general statements. What you do is change the subject then jump back to the subject of lies. They can’t keep it straight. 🤪

@@charlisparkles yup

@@charlisparkles that means you're too self-conscious. If you have confidence in your message and openness, you have nothing to fear. You have no control over someone's reaction!

@@charlisparkles omg, ive just commented that and then i saw your comment here 😁 same!!! I hate that feeling! Or when crossing the boarder, when police stop me etc. i feel like i always seem suspicious 😁

This is 100% true which is why I rely more on audio than visual for determining whether someone's lying to me. I often appear to be lying because I'm very nervous but I honestly so seldomly lie that I would have to say that I'm probably at least 95% truthful. I have a gigantic problem with lies I despise them. I only lie when absolutely necessary (and I think that anybody who's ever gone through anything knows when it's absolutely necessary).

Some people can tell a lie better than I can tell the truth

Lol. " and I ain't lying" that made me laugh. Dr. Grande for 2020 , on a serious note - Dr. Grande is one of my favorites on KZfaq. 🤩

That is a true story!!!

@@yourenough3 same!! Thank you Dr. Grande 🙂

😂🤣😂🤣

You’re an incredible truth teller.

In some cultures if you are a woman and you are looking into a man's eyes he thinks you are coming on to him 😉

Exactly. In US society, gaze aversion can mean "shifty" to some, but in another society, it could mean the speaker is being polite and respectful.

Lisa A. Exactly! Thank you Lisa for making that point.

@@KatKitty777 You're welcome.

Agree. Gaze aversion can simply mean the person doesn't want to come off as confrontational or aggressive.

What were the 2 lies? What was the reasoning for why you told them?

I get this too well! I am living it!

The liar (dad) expects me to back up this garbage; I refuse to do so! I blocked his phone number; I have a small measure of peace.

People who are shy or are on the Autism spectrum also avoid eye contact so this " tell " isn't exactly accurate.

I find that the most honest people are often accused of being dishonest because they don't tell people what they want to hear.

@@candacecasey5634 After researching Autism and Asperger's Syndrome I wondered if I was tested that I might be on the Autism spectrum. I also have issues with sensory overload (loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, etc.) as well as facial recognition.

@@sahamal_savu I'm the same. I think there are quite a few of us undiagnosed.

I struggle with making eye contact during conversation as well........ and am almost always telling the truth 🙄🙄lol !

My ex grandma-in-law, who was the sweetest woman ever. She lived in Cedar Creek, North Carolina, and would say it like this.... " that boy would climb a tree to tell a lie rather than stand on the ground and tell the truth". Amen gramma Mellie! Miss your wisdom.

@@funsizeboyce9196 Gramma Mellie had home grown wisdom. I used to hear this one; " that boy and the truth haven't seen each other in a long time. "

Robert Ellison Sooo true! Its why they need facetime to manipulate and they hoover until they get it

Yep, exactly right -- if they lie over text or email then there is the anxiety of not knowing whether you believed them or not, if they can see your face they know immediately

@Robert Ellison Well, be careful if he keeps certain people away from each other. That probably means he told them one thing and you another and he doesn't want you guys to actually talk to compare stories (lies).

@Xyre154this person was my partner at the time. Needless to say, when i finally clocked him as a narc, i left.

Never intended to pay. That is something that will eventually come out in the end. The more people he cons the less 'padding' he'll have to fall back on later. But I suppose he'll just move on to another group of victims then.

@@LisaMaryification He ended up fleeing the entire state after he burned through the entire goth scene in two cities and the law started looking for him.

Oh yeah, I'll pay you back... HA HA HA HA...

Yup!! Once you make them sign anything their true colors show. This method is a great way to filter out people with low integrity. Saves you a headache

@@LuciaInman TY. 🙂

If he did, he may never forgive himself for doing so.

Great suggestion. I’d love this as well.

Yes I need this....also maybe how to forgive others that aren't even sorry. To be able to move on.

People have told me I am honest to a fault. But I know that isn't true. I believe most people struggle with deception about their motives.

Willhelm Berkly My impression is that it is more frequent among the poor. The more remarkable cases are the privileged families.

Kevin. Your experience provides a great insight. Just wondering how many parents requested the Jenny to apologize? You saw any? Also I want to share a story on similar lines. I know a friend who owns a fashion garments retail outlet. Once a lady stole the clothes while she was reviewing the stuff. The staff and my friend saw it on the video/camera and requested the lady to return the stuff. She made tantrums big time. She cried. She also said she is a woman blah blah. They called the cops. More tantrums. She was shown the video. She said they have forged the video.

There is hope, Kevin. Let me brag about my kids for a second: I never used punitive discipline, I always explained why something they did was wrong at the first time. I explained the consequences that they would face later in life if they continued that behaviour, not by me but the outside world. One time I brought my kids into a study being held at the university on why kids lie. My 4 year old was told not to pick up the Elmo laughing under the little blanket, of course we were watching her from behind the one way mirror. When Elmo laughed, my daughter peeked under the blanket. Okay, you could say she was disobedient but not dishonest because when the researcher came in and asked 'Did you look under the blanket'? and my daughter coyly said 'Yes'. lol. Apparently, many kids lied and said 'no' for some reason. Probably because they thought they were going to be punished. My eldest daughter did a different test where she was to answer several questions on a test. The questions made no sense and there were no real answers. This test was a bit more disturbing since my daughter was about 10 and a really good student. The researcher had put a copy of the answer right in front of her but all throughout the test, although my daughter got frustrated almost to the point of crying, she never looked at the test answers. The researcher was surprised that my daughter was almost crying and at that point I felt horrible about subjecting her to it. That in itself could have been used in the study to show how difficult it is for honest students in our laissez faire society where lying is second nature to some. But once the researcher explained what the real situation was, my daughter was relieved and I told her how proud of her I was that she didn't look at the answers. She responded by saying, 'Looking at the answers would have been cheating and I wanted to solve the questions myself'. A while later, the study results came out and, although their findings were grim, I was able to safely say that my kids rose above the rest. End of brag session.

@Chad As soon as the authorites are involved it becomes how others see the situation. There's the switch. It's no longer betwen the shoplifter and the manager - it involves other people who could do her in. Now, if those other people are at a lower standing than the shoplifter, she will get off. If she gets an expert to come in and say the tapes COULD be doctored, then everyone is in trouble except her. There's always that chance the manager and even the police could be proven wrong, so some witnesses get scared and give up too early.

I love video evidence. Oh you didn't say that?? Let's go to the video tape! Oh you didn't do that? Let's go to the video tape! I keep all texts, emails, correspondence, videos. There is nothing worse than dealing with someone that lies and then tries to pin it on you to get out of it. Nope! Own your stuff!! People know to come correct at me because I hold you to your word and will call you out on it in a heartbeat. Having integrity and holding people accountable keeps alot of headaches out of your life.

Good point

@deb sabatino I was wondering about lies of omission too. Lies of omission always seemed extra slick/sneaky to me.

Yeah, it happened to me and the most abusive thing was the gaslighting. When he would get caught leaving something out, he would say, oh that's because I didn't think it was a big deal. Wtf, you left it out because you knew it was a big deal...🤬

I agree. Lies of omission are still lies and a coward's tactic. Had it happen to me recently by a "good friend." I will never view that friend the same way again ~ not to be trusted.

i know tonnes of people who do this

JusticeForNichole rethinking my footwear.

😂😂It isn’t helping anyone either.

I feel so damn guilty now. rofl.

That was some A-grade deadpan delivery

In my vast array of experience with hideous people...hideous shoes do look hideous on hideous people and i just move past them. After all, hideous people are hideous people...and generally a nightmare to be around. I am obviously talking about hideous characters to be around, in the true sense of the word "hideous"....... I see lots of them on buses in particular who are hideous individuals with their behaviour...especially towards the drivers who have a job to do...e.g. one hideous individual recently who spent 15 minutes swearing down her phone(really vile language..kids on board and elderly folk), then wondered why her boyfriend(mentioned in the LOUD conversation...ROSS) decided to take that very moment to "call it a day" of their obvious "relationsh*t" but worse, got up and ordered the driver to let her out of the bus which was on a red light about to turn in seconds to amber, then green. When the driver finally, safely opened the door, she kicked it and referred to him as a "complete tosser"....i heard an old lady mutter the words "..what a hideous woman"..... ......by the way, she was wearing hideous shoes...did anybody tell her?...NOPE. Shouting out "I LOVE YOUR SHOES" might have been ill-advised in that situation....although, sorely tempting.

Dr.G, it is true that you have a very soothing voice we enjoy to listen too not only before bedtime.

Same! 🤓🥱😴

@Wonder Woman. Yes, Dr.G definitely has an incredibly calming voice.

Agree! I also love his sense of humor.

Lately I’ve been doing the same thing when I can’t sleep. Dr G’s voice is very soothing.

@J R Acceptable subjects may vary culturally, of course, but in my opinion the person being questioned should always assess their own comfort level in whether or not to answer another's question ~ particularly if a deeply personal and private question is being asked by a complete stranger. Erika has the right to be cautious, IMO.

I second this great idea! I have some psychology textbooks but most of the other books dealing with this subject matter come in the form of self-help or ....recovery (idk exactly how to identify them;) The author hasnsurvived an experience or been helped by therapy, whatever, it's largely therapeutic and I appreciate them sharing their Journey but it doesn't give actual diagnosis or traits of the disorders so much as sitting incidents +how certain behaviors and /or incidents affected (effected?) them. Again, this is a great suggestion and I hope 1) that Dr. Grande reads and replies to your comment 2) my quick summation made sense and is recieved in the vain I intended

Ariel Cheyenne Thank you Ariel! Your comment is written very well.

I'd also like a video or response to this.

Yes please, a reading list!

@Timothy McCaskey yeah...? I know. How does that apply? What is your line of reasoning in regards to the comment? I'm aware of action and reaction, so....?

It's very difficult to furrow your eyebrows exactly at the same level while faking crying. There's always one eyebrow a bit off and that's what gives it away.

@@LisaMaryification LOL! Never noticed that. But those totally dry eyes? Those are a dead (sometimes literally) giveaway.

If you've been crying non stop for 3/4 days it can happen

Ditto

How about the differences between lies we tell ourselves we know to be lies. Lies we tell ourselves we suspect aren't true . Lies or false beliefs we act out unconsciously. Intentional and subconscious blocking of reality. Human endeavors are synonymous with this subject and as you said tie into many areas. Literally lies are the ties the bind us all together. Idk just my 2 cents.

AGREED! No offense, but, what a waste (not really, but I'm exaggerating to get my point across) that you are just on You Tube. You need your own show, Dr. Grande. In the spirit of this video, wouldn't it be hilarious if you weren't a doctor at all? What if it were all fabricated and you are lying? LOL!!!

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Interesting.

My narc ex actually lied that his both parents where dead in the beginning of our relationship. Noly for me to find out a year and a half later that they where both alive, he confessed. His lies are very convincing at the time but he's always easily caught out but shows no remorse. We are over now as I found out he's a prolific on line scammer, lieing on a daily basis to multiple women all over the world convincing them he loves them to get money. I have had a physical relationship with him for 3.5 years and have only just recently been manipulated into accepting what he does, I didn't know before recently. But now he feels he has me like that his mask has come off. I can't tolerate that grand scale of manipulating women and men by all accounts as I found evidence on his lap top that he's acyually been talking to a gay man, himself pretending to be gay to extort money from him. Diabolical. And a very big head bash for me finding out I've been dancing with the devil. I would love to go on social media to expose him but for a lot of reasons I can't. My own safety being one of them and for the very big reason that everyone seems to think he's great and a Saint. I'd look crazy like he tells me I am. 🙄. Looking forward to healthy relationships. Your informative videos prove to me everyday that this is a thing and that my realisation of reality is real, dispaletable as it is. Thank you

He is likely still an oxy addict and it won't end well.

YOU ARE CORRECT ABOUT THE TRUTH.I BASE MY LIFE ON IT.I ENDURED 15YEARS WITH A WOMAN I WOULD HAVD DONE ANYTHING FOR.I EARN GREAT $$ALL SHE DID WAS TAKA,TAKE,TAKE.AND HER BLATANT LIES,CHEATING DECEIT&DISRESPECT WERE WAAAAY TOO MUCH FOR ME.I THOUGHT I COULD HELP HER.LITTLE DID I KNOW THAT ONLY GOD,AND THE NARCISSIST CAN HELP THEMSELVES.NEARLY 2 MONTHS NO CONTACT.MY HOME HASN'T SEEN THIS TYPE OF PEACE IN MORE THAN A DECADE.GETTING STRONGER BY THE DAY!

JusticeForNichole nobody needs OxyContin besides cancer patients 🙄. I’m a recovering Opiod addict and if your in pain take kratom. Opiod addiction is why heroin addiction is an epidemic. I assume he was getting this prescription when big pharma lied and said they were non addictive. They are getting sued left m right now.

JusticeForNichole - Liars are extremely frightened of people who mostly tell the truth. The problem is we can’t know by immediate impression who is one and who isn’t

Some interesting points here! I have an undiagnosed condition which has affected my muscles for twelve years, and after six years of being prescribed nothing that gave me any relief, I was given a prescription for tablets similar to those that you describe (on realising that a short course that were given to me to treat a strained ligament in my lower back, also helped greatly with my symptoms.) My doctor then retired however, and, following a difficult experience with her replacement, I changed surgery. As one might expect, my new doctor recommended that I stop taking these pills as soon as possible due to their addictive nature. Fast forward a few years, and I had to ask for this doctor's help on an unrelated matter, and I was struck dumb when she spoke up for my honest character - despite admonishing me with a "they always say that" some years before when I protested that nothing else but those drugs gave me relief. What makes me more annoyed about this, is that many of my colleagues are prescribed these tablets on repeat, when only one of them in my opinion has a condition that warrants the use of these drugs. I don't know what these people are telling their doctors, but I tried to be honest about what was happening, only to be left high and dry with a somewhat diminished quality of life some four years on. I should say that I'm not claiming to have never told a lie in life, by the way!

Sad sounds like my dad and ex

Sounds narcissistic.

you're not alone my friend

Narcissism 😑

I have a 13 year old and she struggles with this issue also. I have observed this behavior in most of her peers, as well. I have talked with my daughter and her friends about this. The one common denominator I have heard, is the fear of getting in trouble or having their parents, teachers and friends get angry with them. The other big issue is their fear of embarrassment, and rightly so. Between cyber bullying and cyber blackmail, which is often done by their own “friends”, these kids are stressed out beyond belief! They are dealing with situations that most of us have never faced at their age and they aren’t equipped to handle it properly. That kind of stress at an early age is incredibly damaging, in so many ways. My daughter has a big fear of loss and abandonment. She also has ADHD, as do I. People with ADHD tend to engage in risk associated activities (including lying) because it provides a rush of dopamine and norepinephrine, which is out of balance in the brain. ADHD seems to go hand in hand with bipolar disorder, which can also cause this behavior. These conditions worsen with stress. Additionally, research has been done on the use of mobile devices and social media, in children. So far, the conclusions are not at all positive. Sound familiar? I hope this helps and came off the way I intended...without judgement and in the hopes that it somehow helps your son.

.....Yes... because it's difficult to " defend the indefensible ".... SO. They turn to Gaslighting. It's so prevalent in the Poltical Realm that it's becoming normalized. Sad.

Also trying to change the topic or trying to get your mind on something else.

Yes. As my one of my best friends liked to say. If he starts with ummm you know he’s lying and I have found this to be true tbh.

The only person who is an expert on lying is person with experience in lying..

@@AfterAFashionASMR Go ahead and tell the lie that you don't lie.. You'd be a fool to think anyone would believe you. And if they cosign your lie with a like They're lying to you, you just found a home and echo chamber for your lies. Doesn't make you any less of a liar.

@@Peakfreud I don't always "like" comments that follow my beliefs, I do however want people to feel heard especially if I am not able to and or willing to respond to each induvial that participates in a thread. I am not high fiving the potently implosion of someone's relationship. I am acknowledging the fact that someone voiced their thoughts in relationship to mine.

@@DreamingInTechnicolor That's Fair enough, understandable and respectable, But understand that's the exception not the rule. You are an anomaly.

I tend to believe people too. I am fortunate in that most of my family members are my "bs" detectors and can set me straight.

@@zanyme53123 Yay, it's really good to have a good support system, glad for you. I have gotten a lot of experience from proving people's lies, these videos though , help me to accelerate my awareness process to detect people's lies and I find it to be a really good reminder. 👍

@Chad Larson I shouldn't invest a second on this but, nop, I can proudly say I don't lie even 2 times a day, this is really not my issue at all, I really feel free of this burden, sorry about ppl who have to carry that burden though. Just so you know, people who don't lie at all do exist too 😮, I guess is a matter of values and habits. Thanks for asking and not assuring anything about me because you can not assure anything you dont know, like you can not assure I lie two times a day because that would be a lie, it would be your lie #1 for the day, I would suggest you to use your two lies for the day in a more profitable way, I guess that's the matter about lying?. So,yes, I feel absolutely free of guilt. 🎊🎉👍 Have a nice day. 🙂👍

@Bilingual I once joined a project that started out funded by crowdfunding. It became apparent that how they said they were spending the money didn't coincide with what they were saying. Being a fairly honest person, I said 'Hey, maybe you should fix that claim you're making on the crowdfunding page since you didn't do what it says you did' They got so upset with me. I couldn't figure why they were so upset. I was doing them a favour by pointing it out. Then I later realised that they thought that I was on to them so they got defensive. Of course, it didn't even occur to me at that point that they were exaggerating their achievements to people. Later, I would find out that other people found some of their claims suspicious. I guess they just take advantage of people's good nature. When they started blaming stuff on me is when I left the project.

@@LisaMaryification Hi!. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I do understand you completely. I am so glad to know there still exist such honest people like you. I am sure you could administrate a project like that in an honest way. So sorry ppl like them had to be in charge. Yes!, they absolutely take advantage of people's good nature. So gald you got out of that toxic environment, when ppl start to shift the blame is definitely time to leave. I have also been in similar situations, that's how I understand what you mean. But after all, the good thing is all the gained experience, I can now recognize those kinds of people in an easier way when I see them starting to act up. Best wishes for you. 🙂👍

Rejane Oliveira I’m the same way! I actually tend to trust people even after they’ve lied to me sometimes, depending if I think the person has a motivation to be honest or have shown honest behavior after the initial lie. I’m also a horrible liar and just can never go through with it.

I’m the same way. Sigh.

@Lucia Completely relate to what you are saying Lucia😉

I think a good way of detecting this omissions is making a lot of open questions, like: "Why did you do that? How exactly this thing happened? Who was there?" But as you said, we only start to worry about this when it becomes a pattern with the person.

@Chad Larson I usually have to detect the lying for work. Depending on how many people check in at my hotel, the price of the city tax is different. And lying to me about being here alone, when they're here to meet another woman than the one they married is actually to their financial disadvantage. They pay a higher fee when they claim they're alone than when they're honest about it. Because the price of the stay would be split in two for the calculation of the tax, and so the cheapest tax fee would be due.

What an odd thing to lie about...why would it matter either way?

Ellen I love your picture of mr. Spock!

Lois Hendricks which is why he’s teaching us non malicious liars

@How Come ?

@How Come Good Eminem Classic 👍!

Yup