cut all ties with such person unless you think of inheritance, in this case keep boundaries

OMG that happened to me too, and I was taking taekwondo… She smacked me in the mouth and I had braces

@@karlyncostello6902 I was doing Taekwondo at the time too! It's sad that our narcissist parents believe it's their right to abuse us. Such a horrible situation

My gf went to slap me first time she made contact the second I blocked with my forearm but because it hurt her she blamed me and said how evil and horrible I was for attacking her and the police wouldn't believe my story! Hahahaha I reminded her about forensic detectives why would I use my forearm to hit her arm with rather than my fists? She stopped thought about it and then began to cry about how much pain she was in and how it was my fault! She's nuttier than a squirrels turd.

@@iwantit162 leave her she is trouble

Narc Begone , correct ... in general : „ If critisism hits - it fits“ ;)

@Lionel Muggerage I was going to say, number 1 is more like they get annoyed at being caught out/ not getting away with something/ what you said lool

They hate the truth

@@mfvoid5228 yea this hits home for me

True. My experience is that this is when the silent treatment is about to come down on me.

Thet know your onto them. Lol

Yes! Tantrumming because they're not getting what they want.

That's actually a really clever point!

@@dianefarley37 exactly ... mine at the age of 57 threw tantrums that would put a 2 year old to shame ... my 10 year old son couldn’t believe what he heard & saw .... me either it’s shameful behaviour

@@dianefarley37 BINGO!

Debbie. Close call there! Now you can finally relax, and stop walking on eggshells . Did you find he moved the goal posts all the time? Good riddance to bad rubbish

It's baffling, frustrating and downright insulting to your own intelligence. The worst thing is that the more you try, the more you'll make yourself out to be a demon in their eyes and potentially the rest of their 'flying monkeys' .

Ditto

Neither can our "president." I have no f'n tolerance for it, but I lost all my abilities that were fully under control when I got cancer. Stage 0, nonmalignant (currently) but it threw ME off the track.

@medusacries I'm sorry to hear that. 23 years for me. After a camping trip a woman came up to me and remarked, "I see you can't do anything right" and smiled knowingly. She had been listening to all the verbal abuse criticism I had received the entire time I was so embarrassed but relieved that someone else could see what was going on right away. After I finally crawled out of that my sister started in on me with full blown vindictive narcissism complete with Flying monkeys --the folks who used to be my loving, trusted family.

Yep. That’s how it is with my landlord. I have to smile and always act ultra friendly when I’m around him because I’ve found it’s very easy to set him off and then he’ll say i seem pissed or annoyed and get defensive. It’s really annoying to have to do that; that’s why I’ve only dealt with him a few times in the couple years I’ve lived here. Lol

ya. but Revenge is mine saith the Lord.

Megan markle

@Daniella Pawl Greetings to you in Se@ttle✨☘️🙏Beautiful place Good evening from England & God bless you, you're so right We're powerless over them, but i sooo wish, i'd listened 2 loved ones when i ws forewarned of the evilness a certain nrcissist would bestow upon us Forewarned is me ant to be, fore@rmed however, bec@use i see just the good in folk predomintly, i could not imgine that anyone could be so cruel So now it's taking much time to rebuild rekindle the hurt upset d@m@ge c@used by a professionl nrcissist These can be the worst bec@use of the power they possess 😞 But we must not give up & if we've had the whole sme@r c@mp@igns injustices etc, then we must one step @ time fight for our deserved justice God bless you&yours a million fold✨☘️🙏

@Daniella Pawl God bless you million fold & thank you so very much for your encourgement, wrmth & words of wisdom Yes i 100percent believe in God, higher power I'm Christian too but just like you don't preach God bless you & i didn't for one moment think you were doing so I greatly appreciate your reassurance God was speaking through people, my precious loved ones, when they were forewarning me about people with power in authority This us what grieves me so much, i didn't recognise this to be God warning me Now theres so much destruction which needs repairing, chipping away, step by step Sincerely hope everythings good with you, & you find God id continually blessing you abundantly ✨☘️🙏Thank you so very much

Yeah but "trans women are women OR ELSE" 🤡

Wow, that is so true.

Well described. 👍

That's what made me feel ill to my stomach and like I was being hunted by a killer with no empathy. I ran away and asked for help and people thought I was crazy. Once you see the mask fall off and someone that looks like they want to kill you and would if there wouldn't be repercussions you can't unsee that. Then they start playing the victim, it's FUCKING INSANE my fight or flight was so triggered I thought I was going to vomit or shit my pants.

@@Grundalizer Yes, that is terrifying. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope things are better now.

It happened to me 1 week ago, before I even told the narc my story (where he totally gaslighted me in a highly agressive way), he already was crazy angry and aggressive. So I could have told him anything and he would have acted the way he did. The thing that I do not understand is, that he has severe panic attacks and anxiety - he is 34 years old and cannot sleep alone anywhere, he has an own apartment but he sleeps in his parents house, or his sisters, as he can‘t be alone. How can someone who is that ill himself, be so evil and cruel?

Scariest when it is a cold calculating covert style of expressing rage.

I had an Ex GF meet me for lunch between classes. Upon her driving back to school she missed her off ramp and proceeded to call me and flip out about how shes going to be late and how she missed her exit and all this crazy stuff, like it was my fault. I was in my car with my buddy and he was like bro WTF? Needless to say, that chic was cut off soon thereafter.

I was confused at first when you said he said he was sorry

DARVO Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender

Sad

That projecting blame onto you is so disgusting

Walking on eggshells

I remember working it out around 8, but how did I end up back here in my 30s and 40s

I just recently realized that my siblings and I grew up with a narcissistic father as well. Strange how our whole lives have been about trying to get his approval. He could also be one of the most generous, caring people I’ve known. But, at least when he was younger, he fit the very definition of a narcissist. …. I still love him so much tho.

@@k8marlowe Unfortunately my dad rarely showed a softer caring side...to this day he still puts himself first even if he has got calmer in his old age. I have no contact with him (his choice).

I went through the same thing growing up and still am going through it. My dad's behavior is unpredictable and it was hard trying to be a perfect child so I didn't upset him. I still have to walk on eggshells because he's a ticking time bomb, you never know when he's going to blow up. Every mistake I made as a kid was met with extreme, over the top anger. When he's not angry, he's caring and even surprises me with special treats/gifts often. But you never know when he'll get angry or when he won't. It's very straining on my mind. I think he's the main reason why I have extreme anxiety issues.

Lydia Materno careful not to use only that characteristic as a declaration of narcissism. Disproportionate rage falls under so many other disorders

@@gravesidepoet5405 he has many other traits of narcissism. I just didn’t get into it here.

What I've figured is that 1.they want the spotlight on them 2.they hate you seeing happy, satisfied, proud, confident etc 3.they are not confident and they want you to be like them 4. If they are not happy nobody is going to be happy(toxic selfishness) 5.they think the whole world revolves around them and they are some know nd of supreme creatures

So it's always better avoid such people no matter what role they play in your life. These people are devils in disguise

Wow that’s horrible. I’m so sorry that happened to you.

That's shocking to hear, did you report it to the police? I hope you went no contact after that, I'm sorry you had to put up with such an awful amount of abuse.,😢

Hope you are safe right now. You deserve so much better!

Ugghh the jab the finger comment got me. 😞

@@kimstrandberg9529 Yes, it’s horrible when anybody does that at you.

It is HELL!!! Even if it's over Instagram and not in person!!!!! So i blocked him and have been no contact for 6 weeks...and NO GOING BACK!!!!!

My ex narc 1 yr ago now would do anything from pulling my hair, pushing me on purpose so I would fall as I am disabled with no balance or much nerve function. Screaming in my face, literally in my face. He would make this hideous distorted face that says I want to hurt you and mutilate you. It was beyond freigtening. One day out of the blue he grabs me and pretty much bites me in dead center face. It was badbut not mutilating after the scabs healed. Had to go to a certain Dr as to avoid anyone finding out. How I wish now they found out . when he discarded me, he paraded the other supply in front of me along with several hookers. I asked why would you do this and he laughed in my face. As I was becoming aware of these prostitutes and stuff,, I discovered that he is deep state and not just involved with a domestic terror group but has a full blown FBI communications center in his house and the primary base of this entire group of hundreds upon hundreds of them along with multiple FBI agents. no bull, these people stalk and tornlent me daily from morning til night day but no and day out. They follow me everywhere and have 24/7 surveillance on me.multiple cameras recording me. They followed me after I moved out of state. They have surrounded my new home, my siblings houses as well as my mom's and my job. It's happening at this very minute. ItsGoing on as I write this right now. friend of mine came to me and said my ex was being watched because the authorities believe that everything that has happened to me in the past few which included two botched attempts to kill me involving the local police. It was a combined effort. Serious attempts too.I have been extremely lucky. It's freigtening when I come back to my house to visit like I'm doing today at the momen. it's a very tiny island with only 2500 full time residents . The worst part, his house is across the st from mine. As soon as I arrived a couple days ago, theres been so many flying monkeys that I wouldn't be able to count. It's a large number. The domestic terrorist group rented every single vacation rental and I am being surveillwd by hundreds upon hundreds of them right this very second..The worst thing in the world is that I've a prisoner since day one to the present time because I'm so afraid. Every one of them has guns pointed at me. The police are letting them do this and they also are directly connected to the narc. I wish I could tell you what the police, judge, cout, prosecutor etc have done to me in the past few years but I'm rambling there's too much. It was friggin unimaginable! The things I've been thru for nothing at all are just unimaginable! It's shocking what dohey did Blatant abuse of power and threats. I was tramatized. I never dreamed that police would ever do anything like these things. They are stalking meas well stalking me here now right along with the narc. I'm double scared being here on this only 3 mike of island and I have to be very careful at all times. Oh keep in mind I have a perfect background,, have never been arrested etc. I don't really know

They r good at that

... girl shut up 😂

Honey, just because he was an abusive prick, does not necessarily make him a narcissist. That said, if what you say is true (I’m inherently suspicious of internet comments) then get the hell away from that maniac.

Exactly. Which is exactly why we should NEVER honk, flip anyone off, or anything like that. We could get ourselves shot.

@@readsomebooks666 well if he wasn’t a narc, he is a sociopath. Or a misogynist. To see her cut and just stare at her coldly and walk away is not normal.

@@EphemeralProductions no you should definitely honk if you need to, its one of the only tools to get another drivers attention and is an absolute staple in many situations, that being said, it must not be over used, and other hostile gestures like flipping someone off is completely unproductive, but you should absolutely use your horn if you need to

this foo isnt thank god

Mine did too ... he said all my friends hate you Elle they don’t know what I’m doing with you...& neither do I ... some of these people hated me & I had never even met them !!

Absolutely!

@@nellsmith9721 , so true. I was being told people who didn't know me hated me. That worst one was when she would lie to her therapist and twist situations around so she was the victim. I would then be told that, "my therapist said this, this, and this about you." Well, yeah. When you lie, twist facts around, and leave out important details, you can make anyone look like an asshole.

Yes, especially in the workplace.

This is my husband 100%. Yesterday he had a rage episode because he spilled a drink all over the counter, but of course it was my fault for leaving something out. He called me all the names in the book, yelled in front of our toddlers while i calmly told him to stop yelling. Then by the end of the day he apologized to me (and our small children), which rarely happens, and just expects everything to be all good. But his attitude can last for many days after all that. (Or weeks at times.) he was happy the rest of the day...until the next time he feels slighted. It’s disturbing how accurate these videos are when you think your narc (spouse in my case), is uniquely awful and abusive. Apparently they are all alike!!!

Pressure build, abuse, pressure release.

@@Tara-id3rk this is my wife, to a tee! Mind blown.

Same, I think I developed anger issues because of my dad

The next day they act like nothing and any importance of what you had said was deleted in their minds and they don't learn from it. Or work on their bad behaviors. It sucks.

@@angelblue314 😆

It’s quite shocking how “common” the narc’s behavior is amongst other narcissists, when surely we think our spouse/family member/friend/etc are uniquely awful at times

I'm a year late to this comment, but it resonates really well with me. Doctor Grande has opened me to an entirely different analytical way of perspective and reflection.

@One Eyed Jack I met a woman who I'm sure is a malignant narcissists / borderline personality disorderd person. I knew it was something going on with her behavior but couldn't put my finger on it. She went absolutely nuts on me at our place of employment. She did so many other things before that point also.

@One Eyed Jack You are 100% correct. After 20 years and just learning I've been with a sneaky, lying demon the entire time who single-handedly created numerous hardships for me and OUR children. I've been confused, stressed, and in a fog the entire time with 30 different things I'd have to tend to each day, because of his manipulation, thinking that I must be going crazy. That waste of human skin didn't want me to have time to think because he KNOWS I would've put two two together. I've got 2 more days to get out and into my new, peaceful house and I can't wait. Especially since he started a fire in the house 6 weeks ago when he thought I was asleep in bed, then sneaked out of the basement door and scurried away, just like a spineless rat. Some of these mutants are murderers and mine wanted me dead simply because I told him "I know who you are". That's it, I said nothing else. He couldn't keep from trembling with rage and storm out of the house for a few hours to calm down. I hope everyone who is being victimized by one of these "meat suits" gets OUT and stays away.... forever.

You are quite welcome :)

Hahaha best comment I have seen this day. I totally agree.

ya...and doesn't it feel great to be able to stand up for yourself? Just saying that from my personal experience...i don't know you : )

I think the videos are very knowledgeable and helpful but I’m still a mental case lol. No video is gonna change that. But for people like me who don’t want any kind of one-on-one in-person therapy, and personally think therapy is a waste of time, money and energy, then the videos are definitely a life saver! Insightful and accommodating. I also like the way I am without therapy. But again, you’re right they’re helpful. And so are people like Richard Grannon and dare I say Dr. Tara Palmatier of Shrink4Men- even though she demonizes all the cluster B personality disorders and makes us all look like psychopaths 😂 Still helpful in weird ways to watch these kinds of videos.

Watching these videos made more for me than any of my former therapists :)

You are fortunate it was only Once. It is common when married to one and at some point physical assault occurs. That is terrifying and ends all feelings of Safety. They are very sick.

I mean really they would get two strikes 3rd time you better go no contact. You want adults for friends and partners not children. They would last two minutes. How do people stay for months with these manipulators let alone years. I dont get it. I dont get it!!!!!!

@@buffhotchkiss7400 - because it's a slow, insideous process. Like boiling the frog 1° at a time, so you don't see the pattern. They also space it out & substitute Silent Treatment, Gaslighting & on & on. For someone who had never encountered such displays, it keeps the 'victim' off balance & wondering WT# is going on - while trying to keep the boat steady. But once we start to learn about the MANY types & facets of Narcissism- game over. PS: @Buff - my soon to be Ex kept his mellow, Mr. Nice & Calm guy mask on for almost THREE YEARS before he started to slip.

Buff Hotchkiss um...don’t let it get to the 3rd strike...just sayin

Just this week I was the recipient of an 80 year old's vile verbal outlash at me because I ended our acquaintance. The depth of her inexhaustible nastiness to everyone is astounding. I refuse to associate with her. She yells at the cashiers at used clothing stores if they refuse to lower the price, calling them "robbers but without guns." If people do not return phone calls she will call back to accuse it is only common courtesy to return her calls and says they are not very nice for not doing so. She pushes items on people (A lamp, clothes, anything) as a way to get any type of human interaction who only accept these items at times just to get her off their back. Then the second she feels those people have somehow offended her, she loudly and angrily demands those items back. She has written notes and left loud angry messages calling people "sick" in the head and threatens she will call the police on them. Even if part of her behaviors is due to Alzheimer or such, no one cares because her vitriol is scary. She is demanding, controlling, calls her own family members terrible names because they do not like her or want her in their lives. She is in no way a sweet little old lady with a few unpleasant issues, she is a purposefully vindictive woman who has scared a lot of others. Anyhow, she has so many of the traits you mention here.

😅😅😅

Narcissists are actually goofballs, not to be taken seriously.

Me too 😂😂😂😂😂🖌️🖌️🖌️

That was hilarious. I imagined Dr. Grande in the calm matter of fact demeanor we have seen here approaching this guy and he flies off the handle and does some Ricky Bobby Talladega Nights style tantrum. I don't mean to make light of it, but when I am picturing a scenario in my mind, it goes there sometimes.

@@vitaminK1121 LMAO

Turn it against them...cross the streams.

Me either. It's no wonder they are usually alone when they get older

I’m not going to be sympathetic to them, too many have ruined my life.

@@user-ww8vl7fw4q Whoever this man child was, I hope he's out of your life. People like this escalate to the point where they hurt or kill somebody.

@@wudgee same, I have no sympathy anymore

After 50 years you just noticed that he was no good for you?! Bravo, it didn't take long at all until you came to that conclusion to blame him for your inner feelings🤣

Somewhere in the Midwest I was married 27 years too. Very difficult and confusing.

Ditto. Word for word. Except I left after 8 years but have since realized that his "anger issue," as we called it, was really due to a more emotionally narcissistic personality and EXACTLY what Dr. Grande describes here. All of the examples that came to mind in my experiences with my ex-husband for each point as he talked was flooring. This was exactly him.

Somewhere in the Midwest, how did you leave and regain your sense of self? He has stolen my ability to think for myself. I am terrified because it was his world and I was just living in it. I just feel like suicide is the only answer

Mine too. I was married to a narcissist 35 years. Then I had a rebound with a sociopath/alcoholic. He was 90% worse than my husband, pathological liar, depression, cheat, entitled etc. That's when I went searching for answers.

I am just here to discuss. Not a hater. Have you thought about the possibility of you being the antagonist? Also, did you have the feeling of not getting another partner when you were with him? Because I think narcissistic person has the manipulative power to make other people feel worthless and make them think they won't get another partner if they out of this relationship.

I think you are NOT alone in this ! I think it is an issues in the US too !!

Boom!!

Been there

Don't they train you guys for that or to at least be prepared for it? But still I do see your point. I couldn't talk to narcissists all day unless they had plexiglass between us

It's somewhat refreshing that clinicians have the same reactions as us mere civilians when dealing with the same behaviors. It's interesting that you mention "physically vulnerable". I was trying to explain this phenomenon to someone today, and they couldn't understand the physical component of this. I guess anger is an act of aggression that would trigger a response in almost all other human beings!

Since abusive angry rants are part of why he is seeking treatment, one would hope, can this behavior be put under some structure for healthier ways of handling hurt feelings? If he just continues to practise a maladaptive behavior, what is he gaining from tx? Your healthy boundaries could be a learning opportunity for him.

@@evelynwaugh4053 what frightens me is the blurry line between narcissism and psychopathy. It seems to be fairly well-agreed upon that psychopaths will only use therapy has a way of gaining insight into the human psyche for purposes of future manipulation. Since narcissism and psychopathy are generally egosyntonic, they have no internal motivations to change. However, I can fully appreciate how both would use therapy for purposes of "optics" to appear to be compliant or more empathatic, and then of course for other more sinister and manipulative ends.

Since we're on the topic, I'd be interested in hearing from clinicians, including Dr. Grande, about handling of narcissists and psychopaths in couples counseling. As the former partner of on the aforementioned, and a the time knowing nothing about personality disorders, was utterly dismayed and horrified that a number of practitioners could be manipulated with varying degrees of success in pursuing such counseling. Initially it left me in a very vulnerable and traumatized state, because those who were supposed to be helping me, were unwittingly helping my ex to hurt me. In my personal experience, the gaslighting, fueled by flying monkies (e.g. close friends and family), led to four attempts to have me mentally institutionalized. I've never been diagnosed for any other disorder other than CPTSD! I nearly went bankrupt having to build my own coalition of more independent practitioners to push back and write "cease and desist" letters. It was crazy-making on the highest order, and one of my clinicians tried to can me as a patient because she was so uncomfortable with all of it, despite admitting that I had don't nothing wrong. Again, I had to enlist the assistance of other practitioners, to pressure her to "do the right thing" and not abandon me as a patient. Dealing with these people are clearly bad news, all the way around. I think my situation was somewhat unique in it's pervasiveness, but curious to know of others have dealt with similar dynamics.

Y'all should stop having kids. Jesus. How selfish.

Bolsheviki T R O L L

@@lisalissner1070 Spoken like a true Bolshevik though. Always telling others what to do, how to live but excusing their own behaviour.

@@sint0xicateme Its "you all" btw. Slang shows lack of an education....lesbian troll....lol

@@sint0xicateme Commie loser...

This sounds very familiar Christina.

This is so familiar for me, my mom is just like that....

Cindy Nicks Its very hard, I still can’t go no contact with her, as you say it’s difficult to cut relations with your family, nonetheless your parents. Most of the time when my mom is like this, I grey rock her or try not to react to whatever she have said. I’ve tried to not have heart feeling towards her... because that how she is, she’s never going to acknowledge it, she’s Never going to change.... so I’ve learn that it’s up to me not to be affected by her in order to heal from my childhood and to be a good mom for my boy

I too have a narc mother and the rages don't lessen as they get older, they get more calculated.

My mother is all this. Everyone walked on egg shells to not enrage her. I usually greywall as a coping mechanism but when my father died a few months ago and she lost her supply with him...boy nothing could stop her. I just recently had to finally take the step to tell her I will not argue with you, you can be nice and I will leave and come back when you can be nice. I walked out on her raging twice and now she doesn't talk to me. I am pretty sure she is out looking for new supply when she realized I will just leave when she goes into a rage.

What a kind thing to say - thank you!

I do the same! 😂😂 Dr. Grande is fantastic. ❤

ClandestineGirl16X, I thought I was the only one who did that. Sometimes I wait a few seconds and hit 'like' because I can already tell it's going to good! 😉

haha I do the same just with his videos! Yeah, you can never go wrong

I do exactly the same!

Reactive abuse is what thats called.... and yea its difficult to accept when you get conned into being in that position for sure

Yes for sure. And the narc actually likes to see you in that state.

Been there many times

That's what they want 'told you so!'

@@charlotteboyett-napper4780 Yes, yes, and yes. I’m normally a quiet person but she had me screaming at the top of my lungs in the car because of what she was saying to me. And she sat there smiling.

spot on !

Tender Heart Very good point. My mother does this. It is very hurtful to us but still efficient, now, because she is old and ill and we do not want "to upset her" ....

Oh yes if it works they'll do it to keep you under their thumb

Cristina Magurean And you are exactly why I’m so relieved I walked away from mine completely decades ago ;-) Oh, I do not envy you! Be well.

Beautiful point

Yes!!! We need to build up our interpersonal skills to protect our own sanity

Yes! I've learned so much about narcissistic behavior and I can see the behaviors playing out in my narcissist. I see why he acts the way he does, as he has had quite a troubled life. I can identify the gaslighting or the convoluted "apologies" but I don't know how to DEAL with them constructively. I love him and I am trying to make it work without losing myself in the process. I don't want to be yet another person who has abandoned him. I'm looking for strategies to help me deal with him, not just videos telling me how awful narcs are and that I should run as fast as I can. I definitely find Dr Grande's videos to be some of the most helpful but I need a little "more". I'm not ready to grey rock or go no-contact quite yet.

manwith avoice You are spot on. Winning is everything for the narcissistic person. #winning

This would explain the idiotic conversations I had with a former friend. Their explanations sounded reasonable at first. Until I thought about them logically and realized they didn't actually make sense.

This sums it up. All facts.

😢 😭

I. Not good at taking criticism, & although il agree that at the time it's said, I later begin thinking about it & get very upset. I think it because I ve been accused of so much I havnt done so feel I ve had more than enough & am aware of my faults & appoligize.

@@sharonletchford9375 i don't think a true narcissist could contemplate that they're upset and reason that it could be narcissistic behavior. I think we all just have issues accepting criticism sometimes because we all want to be perfect infallible beings.

There is a difference between random self centeredness, or a selfishness and NPD.... a huge difference.

A true narcissist will never apologize, or act with common courtesy. A narcissist will disparage you and ruin your reputation to gain control, or dehumanize you to an extent where you feel like you are always wrong. Always stupid. Always inferior. The bully becomes the victim.

I have suffered from narcissistic abuse my whole life. I got out of my final toxic abusive relationship over a year ago and am healing. In my recovery and forgiveness, I actually have a lot of compassion for them as a human being. I prefer to look deeper at their (usually) traumatic histories and realize God didn't make them like demons. In no way am I excusing this kind of behavior, and I believe in tough love and non enabling approach. No contact if possible. My daughters father (a truly pathological narcissist) I have to lay rigid boundaries and am forever calling him out on his lies. I also have to implement some behavioral modification techniques in dealing with him. But I also pray for him, and he has come a long way. We can at least co parent together, and he respects me now. I remember his mom telling me he was the most sensitive of all her kids and for him to end up with little to no empathy makes me realize he is so disconnected from his soul and his true self. He is full of fear. It is so sad that he lives that way.

Yes..the hate when you tell the truth..thru it all you see how much they lied over and over..

That, or the boundary was criticized or mocked, in order to avoid following it. I felt as though I wasn't justified to do anything about how I felt, or that I wasn't justified in feeling uncomfortable in the first place.

@@MissBrieBiscuit my world too! You can never tell them you feel hurt by their behavior! They turn it around on you with RAGE! It’s CRAZY!!!! He is now playing the victim of me with the children!!!

Yes, I totally agree, James. The moment I started understanding this narcissistic pathology I also started healing. I am just sorry it took me so many years.....

Deb Hadden me to, it took well over 50 years for me to finally go no contact and then find out what a narcissist is. Now I understand, but what a lot of pain along the way. The rages and bullying were inexplicable, and the triggers seemingly random and minor. The harm done to many family members and relationships terrible!

@Christi Elliott Thank you so much! I think you are right

What profession is that? Lawyer, Doctor or Actor.

@@suziecreamcheese211 law enforcement. Riddled with narcissism (also full of some of the best human beings I have ever met - amazing amazing individuals)

Ni

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Yes! Understanding the bizarre behavior is half the battle. It removes the confusion and provides a different set of skills to deal with their way of thinking. Narcissists do not respond like normal people so it leaves you baffled.

I’m currently going through rough times in my marriage because of this. When did you decide it was time to divorce? What made you say it’s enough?

Lol..."once a month." It's the same here! Kinda like a girl on their period!!!! I kinda wish there was a Midol pill we could shove down their throats for this nastiness!

@@daythaheintzelman6634 No kidding! 🙄😅😩

A divorce would cure your depression permanently.

@@warthog473 lol..you just end up with PTSD.. anxiety and constant flashbacks..