I mentioned a summary of five factors in the video that determine the outcome of divorce for children. Here you go: drpauljenkins.com/five-factors/ DrPaul

Every time I try to use love, my ex partner sees it as a weakness & attack me. For my kids sake, I’m trying really hard to not take the bait & it’s like swallowing bricks... This is a rough ride...

Narcissists love conflict. He couldn’t care less how it effects our daughter it gives him the perfect supply. Yes he talks a great game but his actions tell a different story.

I'm in a situation where I love my wife and have absolutely no animosity towards her, but she wants to utterly destroy me. I wish she would just be civil and we could go through our divorce in a peaceful manner.

Just earlier this week the divorce and child custody case I was involved in finally ended. I followed the information from your videos to a T I believe and boy are you ever right. I got exactly what I was trying to get it which is 50-50 custody and everything works out great. My ex-wife just tried to vilify me the whole time and say I was a horrible dad and all sorts of things. But I just kept my chin up and followed all the advice from your videos about not being that guy who just villainizes the other parent and you are right. Your information works! I’m so glad I found your videos thank you so much for doing them! My daughter and I get so much time together now I’m so happy. Thank you so much!

What if your ex is a lying narcissist and so nobody believes what you have to say now because of them...?

This is a big business under the "In The Best Interest of the Children" tagline.

Very true. Excellent advise! I have done this. It's been an eight-year project (so far, we are not done yet!) for me and I did exactly what he is saying. Here is the glitch: If your ex is a borderline personality disorder or a narcissist, there are some other factors to consider. Most importantly, you must recognize that the courts are biased towards women and most (not all) women use the system to their advantage. Next, you must know that these types of disordered folks are VERY effective at manipulation and painting you in a corner. They are very effective at character assassination, and if you are not very careful, you will have the court and even your own lawyer against you.........no matter how loving you have been. Your child will most likely be the only one that knows the truth as to who is the more fit parent. Then it becomes an issue of timing!

Thank you so much, you just made me feel better about myself & my newborn baby father. Now I’ll do my best to choose love over Hates which my heart has been leading to. You are not a pastor or a priest but you sounded like one and saved me for now... thank you!!!

I agree completely! I wish someone like you would help to correct the ineptness of the “justice” system because they are almost completely unqualified to make decisions in the best interest of the children. This inspires fear in the parent who is inclined to choose love. Also, this makes it easy for a narcissist to win cases like this. Thank you for the work you do🙏

My God I'm in tears listening to this you've just described my situation entirely. My baby's daddy has caused so much hurt and now trying to take my child from me it sucks me and my child are suffering

This is something so twisted in our courts! We're told to let go of the past, that the judge has heard it all so doesnt care, move on, and choose love. That's how these kids end up abused or dead. Me putting my kids best interest first includes protecting them! I have full custody with supervised visitation for dad because I didn't stop fighting for what my kids deserve.. and that's my love and safety!

I am so happy I pursued seeking full custody. It was one of the scariest moments I thought I would never get through but I kept pushing and thankfully my guardian angel helped and the court saw. It took me so many years of dealing with a self centered "father" feeling entitled that because he was blood and on the birth certificate that he can be a whenever father. I always tried to encourage a relationship and avoid the court but unfortunately it could not be done. Mama bear had enough💪 I love my girl and would do it all over again. Good luck to all the Moms, Dads and anyone going through this and that truely deserve to protect their rights for their cub(s).

I think what he is trying to say is,...to show love towards the other parent,...(don't have to feel it) ...for example,...in court or in front of lawyers ,say things like I use to love her/him, care for her/him,...I trusted her/him,...though they themselves taught me to do otherwise... They are a good parent,...though I am concerned with ...their lies or games or whatever they do. I am concerned with some of the things our child says that (the other parent has said) I am concerned with how the other parent seems to break signed agreements at will, as it doesn't gave the child a solid base. Show love first,..then....

I needed to hear this. ❤ Thank you. It is so hard to do this, but knowing that it negatively and directly effects my child to be hateful and resentful, is reason enough to respond with love. Plus, I just keep telling myself that I hope karma takes care of the part that I am no longer holding myself responsible of trying to do myself. I just want my son happy, safe, & loved.

This is the best CC video I've seen. You give advice farther than i.e. step 1 step 2 etc.. This gives me more hope in going forward in getting this started. My ex is on felony probation and she refuses to let me take our daughter for even a day, but she demands child support and is all about confrontation.

I want you to know that I am only 2 videos in of those you have provided. For the record before I continue, I am one of the MANY that do truly believe I have been married to and dealing with divorcing, what all my research/personal experiences, and so much more I think even you may consider to be valid proof, a narcissistic sociopath I mean literally text book, and even with that and my "special case " that I have :P (as you refer to them which I love btw because it so true! everyone does naturally feel that way even if they dont realize it) I absolutely am LOVING your videos! I think of all the research and research and research I have been doing through out my HORRIBLE year and a half long divorce that the other side keeps dragging out on me, none of it has been as real, as fairly put, honest and "on your level" or as truly useful and impact-full as even just the TWO videos of yours that I have watched so far. As I said I am beyond 100% certain of the anti-social personality disorder that my soon to be ex has be it officially diagnosed or not and of course have many other "contributors" to add to the pile of what makes my case "special" so I do absolutely first hand understand the insurmountable debilitating feeling that dealing with someone like that with children involved causes and that genuine belief that -it doesnt matter how right you may really be, how genuine you truly are, how fair to a fault you are, or how much you "choose love" - someone like that is just the definition of insanity and impossible to deal with or to ever be able to co-parent effectively and properly with. Yet even knowing that first hand kind of experience I'm having and even the genuine emotional and mental trauma it has brought unto me I can still say that hearing these things from you in the perspective you have to offer it to us is has shown a whole new kind of light on the true matter. The way you are able to accurately and fairly speak to each side's point of view -mom, dad, attorneys, judges, home evaluators, and then put all of those people and areas into the point of view of the children the way you do is very eye opening even to someone like me who has genuinely felt from the very beginning my one and only top priority has been the kids and their best interests can still do even better yet in that department than I now think I have been. Not that the ares I now think I could do better in were lacking as a result of the expected and typical feelings of anger or even the likely justified feeling of having been wronged, but I think it actually may have been more likely from a subconscious feeling of the need for self-preservation from the emotional and mental toll dealing with people like that causes. But if I am truly being the parent I feel that I am and really am making my children and their best interests my absolute top priority above all else like a truly good parent should be then that also means not taking even a fraction of my ability to provide that for them away for my own self preservation, it means self sacrifice if that's what it takes. Just as any good loving parent would gladly give their literal life to protect their child, the same should be the case when it comes to this form of a self sacrifice. And yes, I apologize, that was MUCH more than I had intended to "comment" when I started lol but I guess just know your message is being heard on even some of the most analyzing ears and it's making a difference. Hopefully a difference that will help my children get through this and who knows maybe me too! :)

Thank you for reminding us about choosing love :-) Unfortunately when I spoke like that to the social worker, she took it as a sign of weakness, almost perceived as the kind of mother who put her husband before her kids, and they failed to understand that I was trying to keep the peace in order to keep my children emotionally safe. I was very proactive but I also had to use wisdom at the same time. Today I have taken the matter to court, and hopefully cafcass and the judge will see through it, I will be representing myself and he will probably have his solicitor but it's never easy to fight against a narcissist :-(

Dr. Paul, thanks you for a most helpful lesson. I was so upset when I started watching your post. At the end of it, I wanted to watch it again, and as a dad I would prefer to follow the lessons of the proverbs rather than the bitterness, animosity, or hate of our era. I just hope I can follow your advice.

My husband is in the same field as you for 49 years including Director of Social Services Fostering & Adoption know he is a freelancer in the same field. It has been hard for him, the parents, including children. The difference between my husband we have kept a life journal of these children for their benefit he would visit them may sure everyone have the best interest of the children. He also had one to one sessions with the children on confusion of identity of all diversities. Whilst he was a SOCIAL WORKER TEAM LEADER, before set-up position. Everyone one which was placed in his care he kept a copies of their family journal, pictures, questions and they had visitation to see their children. All of the children know have a beautiful positive feedback of their life journal which had been successful stories because their were placed or adopted with their extended families members. When theses children in care parents resolved their underlined issues they could have back their parental rights which materialise. Know one likes separating children from their parents but who can temporary separation for the best interest if the child well-being.

Thank u so much for that eye- opening perspective. I am dealing with a hostile custody dispute with my ex slinging mud and isolating our son from me. I suffer from anxiety and depression which make coping with stress hard and can make acting productively nearly impossible at times. I have been losing hope of being ALLOWED to PARENT my child. Untrue accusations and hasty hearings behind my back have left me in the "every other weekend" category and have deeply affected the court's perception of me. Your videos got me out of my pity and despair and back on track with a positive, encouraging and logical solution. Our son's wellbeing really is the most important factor to consider. Instead of trying to disprove all my ex's allegations, I'll take the high road and stay with my original course. I want a new life and DO NOT want to interfere with or deny my son's bond with his father. I'm letting go of the animosity and fear and control and embracing "the loving response." Thank u SO MUCH, words can't describe the RELIEF and COMFORT your videos have given me.

You're amazing. Thank you for saying everything I need to hear right now.

I find that even if you're not trying to win custody, this is so beneficial to your children's self esteem, and to your children's trust and security in YOU...

Mr. Jenkins, you are awesome! Your video and way of thinking is all love. Thank you for being the person that you have become. I appreciate you and love you. Keep up the good work. Peace and Love

Thank you so much. I'm going through an ugly battle. This video just changed my life

The advice he's giving, should be given to the judge. I going through a simple separation, but it was the judge that chose to pick on parent, and destroy the other one, while at the same time raking in the title 4 funding. It's th corrupt judges that should be addressed. If you're not talking about that, you're not saying shyt!

Thank you for giving me somewhere to focus my energies as all the factors in divorce can be overwhelming and this is the most important one!

Your comment on choosing love almost made me cry, it was beautiful. I grew up between two bitter parents who always said terrible things about each other, they each made me feel like I needed to pick a side. For the comments that state, You can't choose love with a narcissist or someone who abused you, you absolutely can. You choose love for your child. I do and I went through those things in my relationship and continue to. That doesn't mean it's easy or that I don't ever feel angry or hurt, it means that I don't want my child to continually feel those feelings. I don't want my child to feel uncomfortable telling me how much fun they had with their other parent. I want my child to be able to freely express themselves with me and trust me to not get upset. If you say bad things about the other parent or ask your child to tell you bad things about the other parent, you start a relationship where your child feels the need to hide things from you. So, if nothing else, not only do you damage the relationship between your child and both parents, you take away the foundation of your child's most important trust building relationships, so they don't feel like they can trust anyone. That is a terribly sad way to grow up.

Thank you for this Tip! Its all about Love, Forgiveness, and Teaching a child how to genuinely love both her parents regardless of the atmosphere in parents relationships

How to win: be mom.

Thank you so much. This is the hardest thing as a loving father I have ever experienced

Those are great life lessons that come with big experience, delivered in a very clear, loving passionate way. Thanks. Everyone has to learn.

Dr. Jenkins, you just MELT MY HEART. You are such a wonderful Person, and Psychologist!! God Bless you and Prosper you, all the days of your life! I could watch and listen to you care for the welfare of children all day long. You are right on POINT, and so are your Guests! You are so real. You are so Right. Please Please people..please let your children Love their other parent. It is so CRUEL to do it any other way! Thank you! I know that everyone watching Dr. Jenkins, is really wanting to do the RIGHT THING by their child. For the Sake of Love. How wonderful are you all!!!

I truly appreciate your video and knowledge. Thank you ! 🙏

Wow I’ve been divorced for 4 years and this is the best information I’ve ever been given. Especially the point of how to love. Unreal, keep up the videos.

Dr. Jenkins, you truly are living your calling. Thank you for the advice.

Need advice. I know a father who is the primary care taker for 7 years. She left him when they were very little. When she is with a man she comes back and try’s to use the kids to control him. Choosing when he can see them or call them. It broke him. Literally taking the kids from him. He does not want to never see his kids so he does not fight to much with her. Soon as she broke up with the guy she dropped them off on him. It was the most happiest day of his life. He will see his kids. They are everything to him. He was all for the kids. He was already helping with money with out child support but then she decided he need Ed to pay. Then she kept it going then taking money form him. Even after she gave the kids to him. Then she did not get in trouble after she continued to collect it with out kids. She was gone for years. Now she has a new guy and coming back and manipulating what happened and trying to disrupt the peaceful life he has with his kids. A loving family environment. The kids are healthy and happy. He was more then welcome to let her see them. He grew up with a father who left him and stuck with step parents. He know what it’s like. But she just never contacted him. She left. She made her decision. What mom just leave me when your kids are 3 or 2? Who leaves a baby? Now the problem is she is back very hateful and trying to cause issues but he is doing his best to keep his cool but she is pretending to a worried mother and act as if it’s him who is the problem. She needs to think about the kids. She is twisting everything. How does he file for custody with out loosing the kids? With all her lies and process in trying to collect information to get documented information on him to have something to work with to get the kids back. She always needed the kids for her own needs. Being a parent is to much and will take her freedom to go out with her friends and drink. How do I stop this from happening to him. How does he claim the kids in full and control the visitation so she won’t take them form him? So he will not loose to never see them again. How to avoid going back to child support because he is a man who has been there for the kids as primary caretaker? He does not need child support either. He has been raising them with out her. Help. What can he do? Will courts really choose her over him because she is the mother even though the toxic environment is being hidden? He has no money for big lawyer. I can’t even help him. What can we do before it’s to late?

As a 14 year old that has lived with this for 7 years I still wonder why they don’t take our thoughts in this situation. It is our life’s after all you never know if one parent could be worse then the other but they act as if they don’t in court.

Thank you for these amazing videos. Wish I'd found your content much sooner. I grew up in a broken home, and my parents' D was so bad that their attorneys--who had been best of friends--never spoke to each other again after it. More parents need to choose love, and put their kids first when they decide to end a marriage. It's a nightmare for the children.

I only watched this because it always shows up in my feed and I didn’t want to put “not interested” because I love this channel and I didn’t want it to affect the algorithm!

Such a wonderful video with such good advice, thank you for taking the time to make this!

Thank you for this excellent video. Just what I was looking for. Cheers from Canada.

These are the first people who will say, " I love my children". I have to keep them safe. 🤔

Thank you for this. Here I am at 12 am with panic attack who has always tryed to include the father in his child's life then bam out of 5 years of his life only being apart of of it for a year then wants to fight. I was very off taken and hurt by this and it's terrifying. The chance of loosing your kid, the money, the separation of your lifestyle the home you built. It's just all new and scary and this eased my mind a ton because I'm not out for blood I want two loving parents for a near perfect child. And he's out for blood when all I've given is a loving environment for him and our kid.

Awesome video! Thanks for making it!🙏 I choose Love!

“Clear your mind of animosity and hate” except my ex husband left me for another woman and impregnated her at the same time as I was. But, yes act totally sane and loving towards the other parent, lol! I don’t hate anyone. But I will say that it’s unrealistic to not have negative feelings for a person who destroyed you. I won sole custody anyways and my child is happy and healthy :)

This is great information, I currently am going thru this. He put me in the hospital and physically abused me while we were together. My son is 1 now and we will be going to trial soon. He has had supervised visits the past 6 months. It’s been really hard but I will always choose love for the sake of my child. I appreciate you making this video ♥️

Sir, I like what’s coming from your views. I appreciate your advice. I have this mentality you speak of. You’ve made things feel better for me here. Thank you!

Thanks for the guidance, I haven't heard it like this even if I was lookin for answers. Now I found a good one.

My situation is so incredibly painful and unjust. I do love and forgiveness. The only issue is the step-mom in the children’s lives has brainwashed them to believe she is their real mom. There is so much to this story I should write a book. Thank you for these videos!

Thank you so much I’ve been through so much and I been trying to do the right thing but your words are inspiring

Loved your video .. my child custody evaluator is coming over this sunday ... my daughter was not returned to me after a summer visit about 4years ago ... I do sometimes feel like if I hate this person for what he did to me and also to my daughter because my daughter was just getting to know him ... he has been lying to the courts for so long and always talks bad about me to my daughter even his mother tells her I'm a bad mother because I gave her away .. I have 4 other daughters .. I would never give my babies away .. they are my everything I have been a single mom and have never given up on my other one ..... this Sunday is a big day for me ... I'm so glad I found this video god bless🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤....

Thank you for your beautiful message I'm happy to hear that someone is letting us all know that love will find a way no matter what blessings on your journey to continue promoting love thank you

I don't believe in letting strangers determine what is "appropriate"--that is my job as a fit, loving parent. I support equal parenting.

I have court tomorrow morning for divorce and custody. He is trying to keep them from me out of spite and have his mother raise them. He’s using my mental illness against me. Please pray for me and wish be the best of luck. Ty

Wow. Amazing. When I read some of the comments here that say love doesn’t work, right away I say to myself “they’re the bad one”. You are exactly right right. Thank you sir for your prospective. Well said

Wow, what an amazing video with so much incredibly good information to take away with.thank you so much!!

This video has gave me a great understanding I’ve chosen love not hate my ex wife is choosing hate and she has a suit against me at the moment for 5 things I can prove wrong but it’s very stressful but I’m doing what I can to keep my head up and protect our children safely, positively, as well as truthfully. Thanks again for this video

Thank you very much GOD bless your mission LOVE JUSTICE POWER WISDOM Pray for.

Thanks for a different approach and perspective, for my letter to the court. because I have focused on the problem not the solution. my letter so far was based on what was wrong, not on how we can be the solutions to the problem. First rule of court "never start an argument"

Omg I know you were speaking in most extreme situation but it actually seems like you were talking to me, I can’t believe I found this video because of my coworker you have no idea what you just did for my kids! Thank you for this unfiltered information this video might just have helped make two young lives future better.

My ex lied over and over and manipulated the court evaluator. I did many of your recommendations. It is very difficult to divorce a narcissist and a domestic abuser. He still has overnights.

My child’s father is a narcissist and he studies me and when he doesn’t get what he wants he is very threatening to me

i listen to you over and over again.. and i hope your right, every judge is different... i do not want anymore conflict, my son is doing better than he was, unfortunately he doesn't get to see his dad as much... he could see him more, just no overnights, but dad is aware that child support is more with no overnights so dad is very upset and won't take son more because he would be paying me for him to spend time with son. Hopefully everything will balance out and child support wont be an outstanding amount... and that we can start working together to better the situation, calm the anger, and work together but from a far as parents. I haven't always been right about things, i've exploded on ex, ive been mad... but here and now... i am bettering myself... i just had to get out of the relationship to get to this point. Then his anger exploded and hasn't stopped.

God bless you dr Paul Jenkins. You are 100% correct and I appreciate your advice.

absolutely 100% on point, and you are very personable. Great video, thank you.

But what if the mom is alienating the kids from their father. Making him look like a horrible monster to everyone! when truthfully he's the most sweet gentle giving kind person you ever meet . but because she can talk an Eskimo out of an igloo she gets whatever she wants . She's great at gaslighting manipulating and Lies straight to your face. that includes playing with the children's emotions and pinning them against their father which makes him look like a terrible person.

Thank you sir for this video, it really touched home for me and helped me see the other side of things. I will continue to watch this video so that i can remember to love and not hate. God bless you. Take care.

Im glad i came across your video. My sibling is having a nasty divorce. Your video helped me to understand whats happening to my nephew, who is very dear to me 🙏thank you

Instead of custody "professionals" expecting heartbroken parents to act careless about the grave issues their children are faced with, custody professionals should understand what parents in situations like this are faced with, especially parents who didn't want this but was forced into it by orders of protection.

I really needed to hear this. Thanks

THANK YOU SO MUCH. Validated what I already know to be absolutely true. Great advice, I wish I could thank you personally for helping me in this dark point of my life.

I really hope this comment finds the person in these videos. I just want to say thank YOU so much for this information. When it comes to my child whom is being alienated from me and a nasty hateful ex who’s putting our son’s own health and safety at risk in efforts to try and create conflict and bait me into a reaction so she can use it to maintain status quo - I have turned a 180 on my outlook and way I handle my interactions and have chosen love over hate. As hard as that was to commit to, it’s the right choice for my child and I know where’s truly no point in trying to argue your way on an issue with someone who’s determined to create a negative coparenting relationship, that 10/10 times is in the best interest for your child. Strategic non-response 😊. Thank you.

Thank you I’m going through this right now. My previous partner is threatening me with lawyers and trying to boss me around. I said go for it, get a lawyer…

Thank you so much this really help me I'm going through so much right now with my ex girlfriend I'm so thankful you Made this video

This is a very clever and insightful way of thinking about parenting. We have to think about the best interests of the mother, of the father, and of the child. And we have to be able to differentiate all of those things.

Thank you for showing us that love is the way!

Love wins always

Choose love not hate and pray that the "evaluator" or God has mercy and doesn't impose their artificial rules on you.

Really helpful video. Thank you, from England.

So funny because I knew all this before even watching the video. This makes me so happy to know I am in the right fpr wanting love over hate. Not only for my daughter, but even my soon to be ex. I truly want her to be happy as much as our beautiful daughter. Thank you for the video! I’ll let you know how it goes on a few months.

I agree great video. But what if you been going through a custody battle for 11 years. The children’s mother has pulled out all the stops and keep the children away try to clean multiple child-abuse cases says that the Ila father have mentally and physically abuse the children. In win these issues are being investigated, they are all found to be untrue in that in fact what has been the alleged allegations were even the case at all. But somehow the judge still managed to keep me separated from my children for six months and only giving me two phone calls a week for five minutes apiece because of all these false allegations now we have a evidence Yeary hearing June 18. In which the judge hopefully she will look through and review all 325 pages of my court documentation plus I have many more to show her. I have gone above and beyond to show that I am the bigger person that I can look out for the children and that they have a good living home with me. But Mom tends to put the chair kids in the therapy saying that I mentally mentally abuse them in when I speak to their therapist when I was allowed to I come to find out that they’re talking about what goesIn their household. Mom is been married five times her third marriage was to convicted felon in prison and she has multiple mental issues but I am somehow the crazy one. How can I get this to come to light and get the real facts proven in court

I had to co parent with my ex husband/ my narcisstic abuser. I never deviated from being child focused at all times, and demonstrating respect for him as her father. I sought remedy at all times. No matter his behavior, no matter how belligerent he was, there was never a fight for me, as I ALWAYS STAYED IN HONOUR AND ALWAYS SOUGHT REMEDY, AT ALL TIMES. Let that sink in. You are amazing sir, thank you for educating others.

Thanks you so much mr you advice definitely hit home

Micque I know I've promised you before but this time I really mean it I will be there for you no matter what I'm glad you are hinting this stuff to me. I love you.

Any way I could get you to come to mediation with me on Friday? I can't seem to get my son's mother on board with "this is about our son and not about spoils."

I've been fighting with my narc ex for several years for custody eventually he never obeyed the court order and just made it difficult for me too my child. I let go my daughter because this custody battle was destroying her eventually he remarried and got a child from her and he is doing the same ugly thing to her what he done to me. He is alienating the kids from the mother's. How can I win another battle with him breaking the rules. I Have recordings from his mom stating his is unfit and mentally traumatizing the kids were they are so afraid of him.

Thank you for the advice... you are so right.... we are trying to keep it positive getting to encourage good behavior... as a step mother I agree... the child suffers needs to learn and adapt with both parents...I choose love and respect... i'm not going to be nasty about it... his currently going to a physchologist ever since his CPS case started...other spouse wants to go back to court it's ok I think we're ready to go back... thank you !

Thank you for the advice. I was going through a verbally abusive situation with my ex recently. I had to break things off or he did because of back and forth accusations of possible children involved in his case.I was trying to tell him there maybe no children involved in mine because I had some level of fertility issues that was told to me by my doctor. Plus my mother told me she didn't have any notice of there being children in my case. My mom had to constantly reassured me that she wasn't notified because I know she would of been the next of kin to get custody. It damaged me severely I had mental illness following. Plus I was on birth control for the most part.

this is my situation my sons mother she lied that she dint know who i was and got me arrested by law enforcement prior to my child being born and it created an immigration problem for me bcs of the arrest . i just got done with immigration and its now 5 years she contacted me early this year that she wanted me to see my son but she did not show up. she has already had someone else sign my sons birth certificate despite the person being from another race . can i still get to see my son

thank you I needed this !!! im ready for tomorrow

Left to Tell I read, too. Incredible story.

Thank you for your useful video. Love is always the way to go and in the best interest of the child as an individual.

Thank you this video actually gave me more hope on what I am about to go through with the mother of my child.. my daughter is my heart and soul. Still confused cause this will be my first experience I ever will ever go through. Love is the most I can do I may not be perfect or the riches but to my little girl I’m daddy. Super hero or maybe just so much emotion. I don’t hate on the mother of my child but she’s not the nicest person. I maybe not living in her expectations but I’m a damn good father when it comes down to my baby girl. Sigh well just gotta pray. Thank you.

It's hard to choose love wit all the pain.....

Just seen 2 off your videos and I'm glad I watched them but late now but I am going to find that book you mentioned will listen again for name but thanks for your help to all people struggling as when carnt afford attorney it's so hard and not noing but thanks opened my eyes a little

Thank you so much for making this videos and yes I choose love and hopefully this over soon

Hi I really love your advice because you use some biblical advice. I wish you are my lawyer I am currently going to custody battle.

How do you not have conflict when your child is abducted by the other parent? Child was taken out of state with a parenting plan in place and not me or the courts were notified. If there is felons drug addicts being brought around my kid on the mothers side and there is proof on paper of this how can you not have conflict? Your saying don't show emotion even if the circumstances are drastic. I keep hearing don't bash on the mom and that is exactly what I did the first time we went to court not bash on her and it was the wrong way to approach it because I lost custody and it was because I did not bash or was harsh towards the mom but she was bashing me and saying nasty things about me and it got her custody.

love this got big fight on my hands .. needed this