Story 1: UPDATE 6:02 (Update) My (31f) husband (33m) stayed with his HS ex-girlfriend during the massive Texas winter storm. Story 2: 12:34 I (25f) am pregnant and just discovered my bf (34m) criminal record that includes domestics, restraining order, and prison time. Do I confront him with what I found?

1st story he's 6'+ and she's what 5"and change, she hits him, he doesn't fight back, cops come and he'll be the one going to jail. The guy can't win so avoids her rage at any cost.

The first story is interesting to me because I have a VASTLY different viewpoint than most people it seems. I think OP over reacted. I think she has insecurity issues especially from high school from this girl and she can’t seem to outgrow them. Whether this chick is her enemy or not tho, she is a long time friend of her husband. Are they ex’s? Sure yes. But they both went on to marry other people. The girl even went on to have kids with another man and stayed in the same city. While OP and her husband moved. This was a horrible storm and people saying he could have just stayed at the airport... yeah but why when he had a perfectly good place to stay at that would be comfortable and safe? If I still had a good relationship with an ex that I considered a friend and they offered me shelter in an emergency you bet your ass I’d take it. I have a best friend who has been getting therapy due to anger issues and PTSD from childhood. Every time her husband and her would fight she would absolutely explode. It got to the point her husband lost his job and didn’t tell her till 3 weeks later when he found a new one. Because he was so afraid of her reactions. He hid things two more times. It made her even madder but it was his way of staving off her anger till he felt he had a solution to the problem. She finally realized he loved her too much to leave but was so afraid of her reactions he couldn’t be open and honest with her. They went through extensive therapy and now they are much much better and amazing parents. I can def see why husband probably kept things quiet. I also don’t think this girl was maliciously spreading gossip. She made a casual comment during conversation and the town ran with it. OP letting a rumor mill ruin her relationship is toxic too. Do people really spend their lives thinking there’s hidden meanings and intentions behind every conversation?? Idk ESH here except the ex gf for me. How was she supposed to know husband was keeping it quiet? Husband shouldn’t have lied but if her reaction towards any thing to do with this woman is that strong she might need to reevaluate herself

First Story: Only one of the commentators was right on the money, those people praising her (OP) for realizing that she is an abusive spouse are disgusting (the double standard is real)...

Last story: Run don’t walk! Leave now, forget the exit plan! RUN NOW!!!

I wasn't expecting a place I live near in the stories, that's fun!

Story 1 is such a double standard if OP was a man everyone would yell about him being abusive

"He could've called you and ask for permisson" Imagine how much hate a guy would get if he told his wife to ask for permission for where she could stay during a deadly storm. Lol

These redditors will destroy relationship in a heartbeat. Look at all the things they assumed in the first story and secondly adding fuel to an already out of control scenario

So your husband's ex casually brings up that they shack up but she doesn't won't to hurt you because she knows how it feels to be cheated on? So why casually bring it up? Why not not keep your mouth closed. Your husband put her up to it.

Perfect timing! I always listen to stories while I clean. Thank you! ❤️

I live in san antonio and have family in dallas, i can say the weather was that bad, even worse in dallas. I doubt he meant to lie to OP but knowing what her reaction would be he felt he had to refrain from admitting.

I understand OP one. I don't fly in rages. but I am a hardliner and a lot of time family and friends don't share contentious issues with me for fear of my reaction. Need to change my ways.

Story 1: Yeah. So she ends up being the worst person in this, not the other people. Surprised anyone wants anything to do with her. Story 2: Crazy, man. Crazy.

Last comment of first story said it all

story 1: one of 2 things is going on here, either the husband cheated and has had a while now to build up a "believable" story to cover his ass or OP really is an abusive bitch that terrifies her husband to the point that he hides everything that could possibly set her off. either way this marriage needs to end, either for the wife's sake or the husband because one of them is in a terrible situation here.

With the second story he gaslighted you he got you pregnant he kept his whole life private not to mention his criminal history. This man is going to do the same thing to you that he did to his ex-wife. My advice you need to leave him now and get a restraining order before it gets too far out of hand and quite frankly and to be honest if it is possible without his okay you might want to reconsider raising this child by yourself and just give the child up for adoption because let's be real here this is not going to end well and I don't think you want to have your child going back and forth between the two of you every other weekend especially if he's irrational and getting back on the booze. In addition I will also be prepared to move to either a different state or to a different city for your sake and the sake of the child.

Why did husband know where his exs apartment was? And that's it's just in walking distance.... Seems they've been in contact for a while...

Is there a link to the second story? I’m legit scared for the OP...

Lmfao at the Texas story. The story about the hotels being flooded and not being able to check in is actually true. But what’s funnier is that despite how big the DFW metroplex is, all the drama between her friends and family is also very true and I feel like everyone in this area is living a similar life 😂

Flip the script on the first one and see how quick everyone is to crucify the op on the cross if he was a male. Reddit is such a terrible place when it comes to men’s issues/situations, frankly I believe that she needs to seek help if she wants to have any sort of lasting relationship with her husband

"He could have called and asked for permission". What? "Please baby please can you allow me to not die in the storm, can I please survive?" Get fucking real.

>i broke up with him bcuz he cheated on me with multiple women >dont leave a great guy like him what?

The Texas winter storm brought the worst out of people. I'm usually a laid back person but even I lost my mind.

Can you put the links in the description it’s not that damn HARD

That was one hell of a winter storm! No power for 4 days but we put our newly installed wood burning fireplace to great use!

With the first story if you look at the update it's almost like she's blaming herself for how she reacted to his lie and the enabling of his lie and to be honest I think there's more to this than just him staying the night at his ex's place. My advice the original poster needs to take a real hard look at the man she's married to because he will do it again if there's another snow storm or worse..... in addition I also get the sense that pretty much anyone that knows her and her husband are pretty much enabling his behavior so I'm not really buying the whole nothing happened routine when it came down to him staying at his ex's house. In addition I think he's afraid that if he told her not only would she be upset but she would destroy him in court.

Aint gonna lie. I live near denton. Bout 45 mins west. That storm was HORRIFIC. 800 people froze to death including childern. All the way down to -15°. I spent three days driving the roads looking for people who tryed to drive in it and pull them out of the ditch. Towing em to there homes. Never been in that type of cold.in my life and reassured my love for my Ford F250 7.3l powerstroke. And the 150 gallon add on tank in my bed. That ladies and gentle is why 4X4's exist. Thank God for em.

the storm story, the way the bull just said oh buy the way your husband cheeted on me and thats why we broke up... clearly try to start a fire with another fire

Feel sorry for husband. ETA an abuser love bombed her into a relationship and a pregnancy. 🤦🏽! Also my guess is that unexpected pregnancy is the result of him poking pin holes in the condum.

I live in Dallas and it took me 2+ hours to safely get my family 30min away to a hotel during that time. It was extremely dangerous, but doable as well. The lying in inexcusable though.

Storm buddies? LOL 😆. More like F*** buddies. We know how he kept warm in the storm.

Good on her for admitting her anger issues as well as not reacting on them immediately. Dude shouldn't have lied either, but I understand after her update.

Yeah, they broke up over his repeated cheating & lies but trust what she's telling you now, he was 100% honest with current wife, even after ex bragging to others. Friends & family everywhere in area but he lied about his whereabouts, didn't stay with them in his need but preferred staying with another woman. WOW! Interesting focus on your anger issues but not his untruths. HE IS A CHEATER, remember? Your heading into trouble from this guy. Remember Narcissist Prayer: That didn't happen. If it did it wasn't my fault if it was I didn't mean it and if I did you totally deserved it.

Why is everyone so quick to say the husband in the first story is a cheater. When not only did OP herself, her husband and everyone of her family member who he tried to stay with all confirmed OP has a serious anger issues. He was stuck in that storm and every avenue he took to find shelter told him to stay with her. And even in the post OP herself couldn't come up with anywhere else he was supposed to go. I agree he should have told her but I completely understand why he didn't and for you to just assume he cheated when he gave you nothing but valid reason for why he did wat he did is just wrong.

I think there's a lot more to the store than meets the eye

"I don't know if I would have done the same thing for her--I really don't." You're not sure if you wouldn't sleep with her husband to get back at her for issues you had with her over 25 years ago? So why do YOU deserve better from this woman? And yeah...you DON'T deserve a pat on the back for realizing that you're practicing toxic behavior while CONTINUING to practice toxic behavior. You probably both need counseling. If you think crushing a man into submission and forcing his compliance by being the louder, angrier one is the only way to keep him, then he has never truly been yours to begin with, and if you keep it up, you'll find he'll do ANYthing to secure a breath of freedom. All you're doing is inadvertently encouraging him to be dishonest and hide things to avoid your wrath. Not a great plan.

First story- No, staying with his ex who his wife hates wasn't an option. Or at least it shouldn't have been. The disrespect is next level, I would have trouble ever forgiving or trusting my husband again for something like that.

Sounds to me that the first OP is a hardcore abusive wife.

Rumor Mill sounds more like Lake Dallas than Denton, which is where I'm from.

if he calles his parents why didn't he call wife?

Hahahahaha in the last one, maybe go to opposite ends of the country as his ex and kid and have him stumped where to go to. Hahahahaha he's gonna be like "nooooo!!!! Not again! I keep having all these kids and they keep running away with them!!!" Hahahahaha dudes a creep to the 9th degree!!!

Story 1........ My belief is, based on her attitude from the original comment and the update (2 polar opposite attitudes), is that he has manipulated her into believing she has anger management issues when she gets mad because his stories don't line up or he gaslights her. I have no doubt he was bumping uglies with his ex-girlfriend because of his lies regarding where he stayed and her running around their hometown bragging about them being together. If the OP was seriously as bad as is claimed, the LAST PLACE the hubby would go would be to her mortal enemy's place. Even if he did, why would she have run around their hometown bragging about it knowing it would get him in trouble? He could have shacked up at the airport which while a bit uncomfortable would have had electricity (backup system), heat, water, and food. Story 2....... She isn't going anywhere. "Planning an exit strategy" is code for not going anywhere.

Congratulations to the abuser .. unbelievable..

I can vouch for that storm, it’s y was bad, when that bad pile up in Fort Worth happened.

How to deal with liars. Become 1 to them. Lie about everything. Lie, lie, lie, and lie some more. Every word you say to them needs to be a lie. No matter how great or minor, lie to them about everything. Lie about lying. Theyll eventually leave you alone because they know all you're going to do is lie to them. And that's how you successfully handle liars. Become 1.

I would rather have my spouse fly into a rage than have her stay silent to rage building because silent rage is dangerous and one never knows when the rage will explode and you don't know what can happen!

dam I just read the title and I already knew this was fucked

Yeahhh! Shout out to Denton UNT! I'm from denton

Last story restraining order sue for full custody pack your things and Naruto run the hell out of that relationship!!!! NOWW

I don't think she should just leave him. Maybe I'm naive but there's anger management classes, counseling, etc. He hasn't abused HER in any way. Ppl can get help and change. Plus it seems that alcohol triggers this for him. So if he's sober she's ok. He prob lied cause who the fuck would date him knowing his past?! I'm not saying it wouldn't scare me, but if he's clean and sober and willing to work on things, I'd give him a fair shake if she loves him. Now once he fucks it up that's another story. I know ppl say once they hit you they'll so it again... But my ex (my EX cause he was a pathological cheater) hit me while drunk once- never hit me ever again- after years had passed. So it depends on what you're willing to deal with. Alcohol makes ppl someone else. If the person is sober tho, there's no threat.

11:47 with the heat, gawd dayum

Basically, the guy did nothing wrong...

12:34 Done with the story after hearing "I have been with my bf for a year..." How can you know a person after one year? Did you live with him together for a few years to really get to know him? Met his friends and did you meet or speak with his child or his ex? At 25 you should be grown-up enough so that even the age gap of 9 years does not give an excuse! And who does not google or search the history of his or her SO? It is much easier nowadays as it was in the last century! Some people are just stupid!

Yoooo my hometown is Denton ayyyeeeeeeeeeee

Shiiiit another casualty of Texas

And society wonders why men are opting out?

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I love how people vet people good enough to be baby daddys but not good enough to be husbands, and so the cycle of BS continues into the next generation,

Story 1 - I'm always reminded of the saying, "If you go looking for trouble, you're always gonna find it." OP should have gotten her temper under control, and maybe he wouldn't have run off. Story 2 - OP, this sounds like a personal problem. You mean to tell me you had NO idea about your boyfriend before he knocked you up? You do know that criminal records are publicly available, right?

F buddy

Soooooo he's got to be scared for a reason...

S1: No. He lied. That's a shattering of the trust of your marriage. He knew you hated her, knew you would not be OK with it, and so decided to lie to you about it so he wouldn't be in hot water? That was a choice, and now he needs to a) apologize instead of trying to make you feel guilty ("I would have died!") and b) work towards earning your trust back. And realize it won't be a fast process and he can't be frustrated because he's the one that broke it in the first place. IF he really had no other choice (which I'm not sure I believe, because now he has a proven track record of *lying,*) then he should have told you upfront what his plan was and said he was sorry but there was no other way, and laid out the ground rules. Why didn't he stay where he was staying for the week while working, and what a coincidence that it just happened to be within walking distance from his ex! That looks really shady doesn't it? How would he feel if you had shacked up with an ex while he was out of town, and didn't tell him, he found out from someone else? As for her email, "I know he was open and honest with you like he's always been..." Here's the thing: he wasn't. It's not just the suspicion of "what if he cheated," it was the lack of honesty, and then accountability when caught up in his lie of omission, and then minimizing his actions and trying to manipulate her into feeling guilty. I believe the ex more than I do the husband! Now he's saying "he's afraid of you because you get angry"? No, sir. With your physical differences and his training? Nowhere does it say you ever threw anything or laid a hand on him. Sure, get therapy to handle your anger, but being angry is NOT abuse. In fact, he used to "tease you about how much you hated ex" any time you saw her. That's not the behavior of someone who is scared of their spouse; he would NOT have teased you about an inflammatory topic if he was genuinely scared. He would have avoided seeing her/the topic at all costs if he was genuinely scared. This is just him gaslighting again and playing the victim card. S2: Um, no, you should make an exit strategy and run when he's not home. Dangerous people tend to escalate when cornered. Don't be a statistic.

Dang bro. Jesus loves you btw

(Last story) people don’t really feel comfortable talking about their criminal record. The ex might have spin an accident into a domestic charge...I’m not saying she’s overreacting but she getting pregnant probably brought back bad memories

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