I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.

The first thing a man needs to know, is that the only person who can make you feel good is YOU.

story 3: she's cheated on you 5 times (lets be honest it was a lot more than 5 times) and you have forgiven her and bent over for her all 5 times and now she's leaving you for another man and you're planning on helping her hide her infidelity from the kids so that she looks better? are you shitting me OP? no wonder she left you, you're a walking talking doormat, who would ever want to be in a relationship with you when you are like this?

Story 2 should be titled: "My wife duped me into raising another man's children. When I told them of her infidelity, she and my friends were furious." Ah, the audacity and the gaslighting.

To the guy who's wife cheated on him five times with a different guy each time. What's wrong with you? You lost your children already because of she's divorcing you. Stay away from relationships unless you like watching your SO get railed in the marriage bed and you like to watch. She took full advantage of you and you allowed it. Don't ask for advice because you clearly won't take it because it would demand you to be a man.

With the first story I'm glad that you're living life and better to where you're at now. Hopefully your ex-wife pretty much learn the karma of her actions. And if she didn't hell will come soon enough

Inform the kids right away of infidelity. That way they have years to get used to it, rather than finding out later in life and getting completely floored by it.

With the third-story you need to tell your kids the truth if it their younger kids it needs to be age appropriate but if they're older particularly teenagers then you need to tell them the real brutal truth because let's be honest here if your wife says it's a mutual divorce she's basically digging herself into a deeper hole that she doesn't want to admit. Because she doesn't want to say to her children when your daddy was going through a tough time mommy found love with someone else and I'm leaving your daddy and destroying your safety net because I want to feel that gentleness from another man. Tell your kids the truth but it has to be age appropriate if they're younger and do not under any circumstances let your wife cause any Ripple effects to the kids worlds and be prepared to get your children into counseling and your wife better be prepared to handle the fire when the match is lit.

Story 3 deserves everything he gets

The Last Story is simple focus on your child and focus on your mental health. Go no contact with any and all people who continue to enable your spouse's infidelity and quite frankly and honestly you need to just tell everybody else if you're not going to be there for me at my lowest why should I even have you in my life at all. Focus on you and your child and another thing that makes me wonder does this woman even give a damn about her child since she was given visitation period because I get the feeling that your first wife only sees her son at her convenience.

Story 1: 31 years later I’m so glad of the road I took. Story 2: 4:08 Me (36M) told my 12 yr old son that im not his real dad and his mom cheated (36F) . Story 3: 9:07 Wife cheated on me 5 times with 5 different guys over the past 3 years, I made a s--cide attempt, and now she wants to tell the kids it's mutual. Story 4: 13:08 2 cheating exwives. Now I can't get motivated

I'm glad I'm not married. "For better for worse" means nothing these days.

Yes, after you get your power back, never EVER give it away. 9 years ago I was devastated. Took my kids found a fixer upper in town and lived in shambles for the 1st 2 years. 1st kid saved and got his own home 3 years after, 2nd kid got on his own a few wears afterwards, 3rd one is on home stretch to having a career now. In the meantime, I ate rice and beans for 9 years and now have $1 million in my 401K. I live modestly and am never giving away what I worked so hard to recapture. You only live once. Take the bad, get your drive form it and turn your life around.

Story 2 sue her for lost time you had so you could have your own child she took 18 years of his life away keep the kids and show them adultery is unacceptable

OP "Didn't understand how important material things were to her"? AP could "give her the lifestyle and material things she felt she deserved."?! Wowwwww. There is something seriously wrong with that woman.

Story #3, OP should be ashamed that he's not the one filling for divorce. Doormat. Story#4. The wife that kept coming forward crying about rumors of her infidelity was simply attempting to inoculate herself should anyone report her cheating to her husband.

Not to bash marriage/ women...but every single man that I know that's gotten divorced, has been happier and much better off financially after the divorce

Friends will sometimes refer to "me getting divorced". I tell them "we" didn't get divorced. My wife divorced me. Salty? Yeah, a little. We were married 32 years, 4 grown children, and she decided to do something different. I still think it was a bad idea. So ladies, if your husband that you divorced didn't beat you, didn't drink, didn't take drugs, didn't kick the dog, wasn't mean to the kids, worked a job, came home at night, paid the bills.....you probably had a pretty good deal.

Okay with the Second Story it seems to me like your wife cheated on you back in high school and that's why the eighteen-year-old ain't yours and to be honest I think it's probably one of your classmates that kept it private and here's what you got to do with a 12 year old get him into counseling get him into therapy and get him into some form of group that can help him get through this situation. In addition you need to go for spousal support alimony the house child support you name it and your wife just needs to deal with the karma and the consequences of her actions. Do not under any circumstances force your sons to forgive them mother and to hear her out. There's too angry and pissed off at her because she destroyed their family and your marriage. Give them time let them work through it it may take a year or several years but they need to work through it on their own and get through it on their own my advice go to counseling with them and work through it as fathers and Son. Also be prepared for your wife to slander you on social media and to make up false accusations unless she's prepared to lose her son's you better do what's in the best interest of you to protect yourself and them as well.

OP in the third story is the biggest simp, doormat i have ever seen.

Are these guys simps!? Look I may not EVER understand what they went through, I think when you're with a child for a long time, it would be tormenting to have them ripped away from their arms. BUT STILL... Even if I was in their lives for 20 years, no, I would cutoff everyone

Bro you were right to tell the 12 year old kid he needed to know dont listen to these other people

Story 3: Being a forgiving person is fine. Being a spineless, cowardly, simpering eunuch is not.

Hot take for 2nd story: if she never cheated and lied for 18+ years she never would have had to deal with all the fallout. Whoda thunk?

Story 2: kid makes some mistakes, and makes a sincere and disciplined effort to improve himself. Wife: let's punish him anyway. Also story 2: neither of your kids are related to you.

The first story made me appreciate my parent's relationship. They started very poor and living in govt provided housing. They experienced so many hardships until they gained riches late in life.

The guy with the ex wife in the military should of reported her for infidelity she would of lost her rank if I’m correct same for the dude she was sleeping with I would of punish both of them but that’s just me

'What I feel I deserve" is so funny because she certainly did not deserve what her massively inflated ego told her.

5 time cheating wife. The kids should be told in an age appropriate way that mom doesn't want to stay married she and OP are going to live apart but they both still love kids. The mommy broke a promise idea was good. Kids will always fill a vacuum in with what they think they perceive and who they feel most dependent on. They will build fantasies in their head. Telling them an age appropriate version of the truth will help fill this vacuum. Sometimes not telling the kids that OP is not the one who is responsible for the breakup is the point at which one of the kids will start to turn their back on him as he leaving his wife feels like he is leaving the family therefore leaving the kids. Dispell this notion in their minds, please.

In my culture family is everything. I know friends of mine who had perfect lives and after one fight their parents get divorced. Never understood why couples don’t work it out like people do in my culture. Divorces are unheard of unless it’s because the husband is a piece Of shit or some shit with abuse or infidelity but most of the time the women don’t feel like they have to confide in another person then their husbands or family

Third op is a complete simp, that's why the cheater has zero respect for him.

1 story: love this story!! 2nd: Champion Dad! You love your boys and it shows! Drop that zero!

first story. im pretty sure the ex-wife must now be looking at her own daughter and thinking "only if i had not left that man and my daughter, id be enjoying a successful life with a happy family. 2 grand children and an amazing and successful husband." but in reality, im pretty sure her leaving was the trigger for him to become this successful as a big weight lifted off his shoulders and he finally had a clear mindset.

So many stories of someone cheating because they committed themselves to someone way too early in their lives. These two were 15! And we’re together 21yrs by the time they were 36! Many ppl meet their SO at 36 and had all those years to experience life and figure out what they want.

The ex will turn your kids against you and no matter what they won't believe you

In regards to story 3 coming from someone that lead this lesson back when I was a teenager. He's confusing forgiveness for mental weakness and denial. There should never be a point where you should forgive someone blatantly disrespecting you once in this way let alone 5 times repeatedly.

Good for you OP! The best revenge is living well and being successful probably makes your ex insane. 👍

Story 3. I understand why your wife cheated. You checked out of your marriage a long time ago. You weren't there. You said so yourself. Tell the truth. You need to be accountable though. You need to be honest. You contributed to the demise of your marriage. Her fault is that she should have left before she started cheating. If I have a husband who just sits around do nothing, a zombie in the house but not too sick to play video games all day. I'll leave straight away. She should have left long ago. Cheating is a despicable behaviour She should have left instead

Damn that dude really just called someone else’s kids bastards like damn man have somw sympathy

I bet this guy ex wife regrets her decision and the best revenge is to live a better life

See if you can get custody of your 12 year old she doesn't sound like a good person at all

When OP talked about luck ... I remembered the movie Under Siege 2. In it the villain (otherwise cr**py) has a great saying: LUCK FAVORS THE PREPARED MIND. OP made his luck by working hard and thinking/ planning about what he would do to achieve success. And he achieved much more. The excellent relationship with his daughter who also has 2 children he can cherish. Well done OP!

Children understand more than people think they do. I don't mean they understand the level of pain or the reason behind it. But they understand that their parents are not in a good mental state. They give out the most innocent advice and more often then not, they help. It's silly to say, i know. But it is true. I have seen it in my younger brother. Kids are the most empathetic human beings in the world. More than adults will ever be.

I hope there's an update to the first story like if the ex wife tries to either get money from op or tries to get back together with op just because he has money

True breakthrough

Man this story is similar to mine but I left my wife because of her severe mental problems but she put me threw the cleaners , 12 yrs later she was broke shortly after n lives in her sisters basement n I'm remarried rebuilt my life with a beautiful woman living on the water in a million dollar home at 60 life his 👌 AWESOME

That second story was so confusing

Let yourself be yourself you are not your wacked inlaws or outlaws. Find a place and genuinely be there now.

Story 3 was where i tapped out, simps get no sympathy and i cant stomach simp stories anymore.🤮🤮🤮

Never keep such secrets from the children. You might think they are too young, but that just you thinking that way. They will resent you when they get older and finds out you kept it from them

My god , these stories. Something is wrong with women. They just can't control what's between their legs, their urge , desire. That country is screwed.

The Last Story the guy admits at the very end that his mom is a pretty good mom that's why people don't talk to him because he takes everyone for granted...

What to do? Leave and forget and start new life!

also give the kids a 2 year ultimatum, if they don't cut out their mom then please do not contact you.

The last story Jesus how can someone be that… First you were a parasite and expect her to respect you? Like she literally took all the power from you. You should have the self worth to move on and improve yourself. Don’t be like that people.

S4: Send those emails to your ex spouse's Commander. I kicked 2 people out of the military for cheating and gave Field Grade Article 15's to the rest She will not want to go the court martial route.

Oh look another "understanding" husband

The life you deserve is what you earned off your own work not off of what someone can provide you

5:30 Learning how to fight with your friends is one of the most important milestones in your life. He also never really said anything to indicate if these new were actually decent people or not-which is all that matters. He should be 100x more worried about his woman inserting the kid into some weird new life of hers against his will; that's where the real damage comes from.

BEFORE I WATCH THE VIDEO.....THE TITLE OF VIDEO TELLS ME HOW EXCITING THIS REVENGE IS GONNA BE.....I WAANA SEE NOW

Man who doesn't trust anymore. First seek counseling. OP is stuck and chooses bad people he needs to find out why. Know someone for a year or two before living together. Try for someone with no kids. It is typical for a parent to favor their own children. Existing child will do better without competition of steps. LAST and most important. Pre-marriage counseling. Seek someone who is experienced with this. Expectations, finances child/ children, how stepparent will treat OP's child, extended families, friends, vacations together and apart with friends, guys night out and girls night out, date nights, frequency of sex etc., and any other questions that might arise. This should either end with answer as to whether marriage should or shouldn't happen before a mistake is made and should be before people move in together but even after can still be helpful. Sometimes two good people just aren't a match but good to know this before the disaster strikes and can help weed out bad mates before they happen.

Fool. If you put you're money in a bank, guess what? You trust the bank. I've never had a bank account due to the fact they charge a fee eventhough they say they don't. And I trust friends and family.

Legit second storys title made me feel sick

Those kids are your kids, well at least on the birth certificate and you raised the kids since they were born. Also your kids have a say in who they want to live with. OP NTA

I don't even feel bad for the 3rd one he should of left 🤷‍♂️

Sad 1st op got double vaccinated. He's got less than three years to live.

damn some people are just frikin nasty af

OP3 you don't respect yourself..doormat much..your wife is horrible. You can do better.

Does anyone else wonder weather any of these are real?

SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE...eminem

To the op , you will learn to trust but you have to focus on your mental health first, for your son and your sake, . I dont understand this way of thinking with our culture today, You have to be married to be happy. Yet so many end. Most with cheating. You can commit to someone without that paper, Marriage isn't for everyone. And not being married doesn't make you last of a human being. I think it is all the hype with these reality shows about getting married, out doing everyone on the weddings, Please Please get some therapy to help your mental state, You did nothing wrong in wanting to love and be love, I feel like you are blaming yourself for their cheating, It was their choice . Once you get your strength back dont focus on the pass fail Marriages but focus on being happy, upbeat, and most of all healthy. GOOD LUCK TO YOU

Sound like you are looking for validation from "Somebody" Dude NOBODY can make you happy, you must do that for yourself. You must work on you, make yourself happy AFTER you are happy you can then invite someone in to share your happiness in your self made happiness for a day, for a year or for the rest of your life, it's your decision it's your world

You named your son Carl?

No offence to the U.S but after being on Reddit for years 75% of the women. Or men are always from the U.S what kind of women are you guys rasing over there, and what type of men are you building. I am just asking bec this just too much in Europe it's not as bad as this .

Never stay together for the kids the kids will notice that you are miserable or your both miserable They will notice things like this for your well being of mind and body get out Of the marriage😏

Codependent and narcissist

Not church

Get new friends

2 and 3 it a joke

No matter how mature a 12 year old is, they're still a child with emotions. Op shouldn't have told that to his son. I would've waited until 15 or 16

First story didn't end the way the title implied. I bet the wife made it out pretty good, it's why the op was hesitant to tell how she ended up...

Hairstylist are grimy!

The 3rd story, I have a feeling this guy is seriously downplaying his responsibility in the demise of his marriage. I have a feeling his mental health is extremely poor and he has not done anything to correct it outside of meds. He is very depressed and mentally not well and he withdrew into his state leaving his wife neglected in their marriage and left to deal with everything, kids, finances, daily chores....everything. I have a feeling she has tried to leave him...at least 5 times, and everytime he emotionally blackmails her with threats of suicide etc, amd she feels bad and responsible to stay. He thinks that by focusing solely on her temporarily will fix their issues, but this has been over for years and he just doesn't want to face it. It doesn't excuse her cheating, but I'm sure he begs and pleads and threatens to harm himself if she leaves because what did he do when she finally said its over, he attempted suicide. He was hoping that would make her stay and it hasn't and now he wants to use their children as a weapon by telling them mommy doesn't want to be wuth daddy anymore. People are jumping to his rescue here but he is very mentally unwell and the last thing people should do is encourage him down an unhealthy and combative path. His children don't deserve to become pawns in a game to punish the other parent. The truth is, his marriage has been over for a long time and I think his wife stayed out of some type of feeling responsible for him, but you can't fix someone who doesn't want to fix themselves. I have a feeling he is leaving alot out here to make himself seem 100% the victim. There are always 2 sides to every story.

I am sorry, but I am a man and I am 100% on the wife's side in the third story. Living with a partner in a deep depression is hell, but being the only one of the two, who is fighting the depression is unbearable. It is mutual and not just due to her affairs. They came long after his daily routine became limited to popping pills, playing video games, eating, $h1tt1ng, sleeping, repeat... It sounds more like he is upset with losing his caregiver than actually losing his wife and he wants to tell the kids it is her fault in order to punish her. If he wanted to be better, he could have taken walks, started painting, learn a new trade like hobby carpentry or even at least get a dog, so has something to keep him busy. Instead he settled for playing video games all day and cashing in the disability money once a month. Sorry, not nearly good enough! Wife has every right to walk away.

Nerve pain guy - he should just say something mutual. she shouldn't have cheated and i am not defending her but he admits he was not a husband back then and was a manchild until he got help. sounds like she kept cheating which is also bad but just because he was better, the marriage was essentially over, he wasn't a husband all that time and her feelings didn't suddenly come back on his time line. if he is going to tell them about her cheating he should be equally willing to shoulder some of the burden for not being a husband even if there was a reason for that. she has feelings and needs so even the best reason can't stop those. however, she should have ended it back then and if not, certainly when he was better.

When they say they are getting checked for stds, are they just talking about HIV, because you would know if you were burning from anything else.