Interesting...my wife wants to come back and we are meeting soon. I applied the let-go mindset and it is working out. I believe that she now knows that I am ok with AND without her. She sneakingly tries to find out if I am hurting from the separation. Honestly, your advice works.

At 10:00, a 3rd option is to be open to the possibility that you don't want her as much as you think. Allow the separation to show you that much of what you think is want is actually neediness. You've grown to depend on her in areas where you need to emotionally mature yourself. Seperation can give you that kind of clarity. "Men want to be needed, women need to be wanted."

sounds like the “dead bedroom” situation

Fuck! If she wanted a divorce, I think she MUST carry with the consequences of it. No friendship at all. In the meantime, chances are that she will be sleeping with other dudes and using you as an emotional tampon. Self love bros and walking away to restore attraction.

Nope. If you fall on the friendzone you have two problems: she will leave you there for emotional support and what have you, and 2 if you have a new partner, unless they are extremely secure, you will not retain them. So the best is to either be patient and continue to rebuild attraction under the premise that you only want a romantic interaction, or to turn the page, accept the friendship and move on. The only thing I strongly advice is to have a friendLY interaction if there are kids involved. They don't care if you sleep together, but they do care if you treat each other well.

I love your voice!