The fact that I kept thinking "BUT HOW DO I FIX IT I NEED TO BE PRODUCTIVE" really says a lot about how much I needed this

When I hear "learn that failure is part of the process" I get so mindblown in those moments. As kids, the school and parents teach us that anything that is not top grade is a failure so you're basically instilled since childhood that to fail is not acceptable but then you get to adulthood and you're told that it's ok to make mistakes and it's part of the process, after all your life being told that if you fail, you're a loser for life. Honestly I wish society wouldn't be this hard on us.

WHY DOES HIS CONTENT ALWAYS HAVE SUCH IMPECCABLE TIMING WITH MY LIFE?!

This hit too close to home. Cried like a baby during the meditation, but im feeling a lot lighter now, thank you very much Dr.K.

I feel like I'm not the only one in my head, Dr K is apparently there too 💀

"We're a robot pretending to be a Human" Incredible that was pretty much EXACTLY my choice of words while thinking about that

Dr. K killed me with that meditation today. We're going to be okay fam

Takeaways: → Embracing your emotion is not the same as analyzing your emotions and coming up with solutions. → Unmet emotional needs bring about negative emotions. → Reflective listening decompresses the emotional energy (where is this coming from?, what can I avoid thinking about through it?). → Accept that you may feel it for the rest of your life and it’s alright cause that leads you to lower the emotional energy.

The meditation brought me to tears. I feel like I haven't given myself any love for as long as I remember. I constantly try to fix myself and right my wrongs only to feel like I come up short each time. But while listening to this meditation I started to cry, because I felt compassion for myself, I felt empathetic toward my own struggles and I couldn't help but cry in the comfort of my own love like it was the warm embrace of a caring parent or sibling. I let it out and I feel much lighter. Thank you Dr. K

The meditation was so moving because of extreme compassion in Dr K’s voice. I don’t remember anyone speaking to me like that. Even my wife or parents who deeply love me. It’s just magical.

One thing that helped me with analysis paralysis was the book ”Paradox of Choice”. Optimizing every decision is itself not an optimal strategy. 90% of the time you're better off picking any answer and moving forward instead of waiting for the perfect answer. You can answer more questions in the same time that way.

Im only starting to understand actual acceptance of emotion now at 31 after years of trying to remove them from myself. I realised now rather than looking for a solution it feels best to notice my resistance, because its that resistance that's truly my source of suffering rather than the actual emotion. Ever listened to a sad song or watched a sad movie or been scared by a horror movie and its felt rather cathartic? Thats emotion without resistance and why emotionally charged media (if made correctly) is always so acclaimed. The constant overthinking is just another way to escape, and you dont even need to meditate to realise "ah im running again". I also think "feeling sorry for yourself" is grossly miscategorised as something bad. Feeling that emotion and knowing there's a 100% valid reason for it being there, and that you went through something painful is so important to actually healing.

A lot of the time in situations like these we know what the ‘right’ way of thinking is but there is something else preventing us from being in a state where we are capable of that way of thinking. So when someone says ‘just don’t be hard on yourself bro’ they don’t really understand the struggle that some people have to go through to overcome that.

I’ve been working to conquer my overthinking and have been making a lot of progress but I didn’t even realize I was processing emotions cognitively, I haven’t truly “felt” emotions since middle school after I numbed myself from the social anxiety I was feeling due to switching schools. I had forgotten what emotions really were, I knew how to react in certain situations and what the normal responses were, but any time I said how I felt, I never actually felt it “in mah bones” per sé. I let myself cry today for the first time in ten(ish) years and it feels amazing, thank you.

You are one of the reasons why I am studying Psychology . This is superb, this type of topics should be implemented in schools. Shame they are teaching other stupid agendas that have nothing to do with their future...

This may be the first time a Dr K video has brought me to tears. The discussion felt like he was talking about me, and the meditation seems like exactly what I need. I've found my solution, guys!

THIS IS THE GREATEST HG VIDEO DROPPED TO DATE. Thank you Dr. K and everyone who makes this channel possible. You are doing an incredible service.

I couldn't do the meditation properly because I was bawling the whole time. But I suppose that was probably helpful in its own right. Definitely needed this content today.

I love this video so much. its literally allowed me to figure out exactly why I've felt stuck in an extremely anxious rut for around 2 years now, I was constantly alerted to my anxious feelings and trying to solve it cognitively. and because I couldn't I got so scared of it and felt dread constantly. now I am starting to learn how to let it be and just feel the emotion, it makes so much sense

"I live in my own world. That's okay. They know me there."

The meditation made me cry so hard. I literally had pain in my chest, could hardly breathe, I was so scared. But I sat with that pain longer than I have in a long time. I think I feel better now.

"Embracing your emotions is not about fixing them, is about embracing them, is about accepting them, it's jot about changing them" This seems so weird to me and so mind blowing at the same time It really hit home now.

I’ve never actually felt hurt like this during a meditation. That feeling me me feel as tho I had grown so out of touch with myself that I couldn’t recognize this was what I was feeling when I acted. Thank you

This hit me pretty hard. When the meditation part started I decided to engage and do it and found myself getting extremely emotional. I tend to really, really analyze everything I come across and thought that noticing and recognizing emotions was enough, but I think I've struggled in actually sitting in them without trying to fix them somehow. Not just validating them but really letting the emotion completely wash over me in a meditative state - as uncomfortable as it feels to let go of control like that - is shockingly cathartic. I worked with a therapist years ago that did something similar to this about my fear and anger around transitioning (I'm transgender but at the time wasn't socially transitioning) and I used to jokingly say that a therapist made me cry. The reality was that that level of release allowed me to better deal with my situation and I'm extremely thankful for it. But with how I tend to analyze things and a desire for control, I slowly got away from allowing myself that space to really stop everything and just sit in the discomfort of real emotion. Thanks so much for this! Between this and many other videos of yours you've helped me with some tough things lately, and from the looks of it helped many, many other people.

Emotional anorexia…… I’ve had this my whole life…. Sort version of my story is that…. I don’t know what normal feels like… because I’ve never been comfortable or relaxed enough to be or feel the world around me. So yeah, detachment has been a thing ever since I was a kid. I use to just stop and stare at a random spot… not realizing my body was trying to read the world like, danger…. Must be good, must not speak… must not move… I’m lucky I have air. Emotional anorexia is the first I have heard of as of today. And that describes a lot of me down to the core. I find sex or intimacy disgusting. February 3, 2009 my mom forced me into the military…. She told me I had no choice… and when they told us, you are not being forced to be here….. I was 22…. And then that became another world of troubles…. I’ve been slowly over the years been starting to realize that there is a lot that needs to be fixed. I know I’m on the right track… It’s just extremely stressful. I want justice….. but I have nothing but stories… and she will always deny everything…. No one will back me in court because they all want nothing to do with her. I myself want that…. But if I want justice…. I’m gonna have to face her… but I’ll probably end up paying for nothing. So…….. I work on myself at my own pace… Sorry for the ramble I thought I could make it easy….. it’s not… But when has any form of mental illness been easy? So yeah. Ty

I was bawling my eyes out during the whole meditation. No one was ever this compassionate and validating and kind with me my whole life. Thank you so very much for your videos, they help my busted ass a lot to be able to function ❤

This is genuinely such an amazing channel. I’ve been stuck in my head for months now and it started getting scary. Like I’ll be in a lifelong battle against this feeling inside until I die or “it takes me”. I’ve dealt with suicidal thoughts but its legitimately scary. By the end of the meditation practice, I was balling my eyes out. It was like the giant knot in my stomach being undone

As a single son from a dysfunctional family, where both my parents stood together yet hate each other's guts, plus constant in-fighting. Feelings are something I always bottled up and never talked to someone else, friends were few and mostly bad influence, other family members were just as problematic too. So self analyze and fix was my go to for most of my problems and despite helping, the core problem persists to this day, thanks Dr. K, I'll try this from now on. Cheers!

I was always viewed as a smart kid, my parents always expected me to do excellent on everything, and I tried as best as I could. But I inevitably failed and made mistakes along the way, and my parents taught me that I could always be better; ever since I've carried the identity of being not good enough. What my parents never taught me was to feel my emotions or how to value myself. That's why I couldn't help but crying my heart out when I heard Dr. K saying that I could have compassion for myself. I realized how much I was suffering, how much I felt like I was inferior to others, and how much I was hurting because of that. Don't know if anybody will read this but for those with a situation like mine I want to tell you: you're golden, just as you are, you deserve love from others, even from yourself and there is hope, hang in there, stay strong, and take care.

this is exactly what im going through with my therapist right now and they dont seem to understand that what theyre telling to "challenge those thoughts" doesnt seem to work. im so glad this isnt just a me problem :(

The meditation was superb. I thought there was something after the vid like a final thought but it ended their. Its like trying to tell me and my mind was like - well you can do some stuff today if you want, I mean anytime we can do it. We got this fam, we got this.

I knew that this was a video that I needed to watch, just because of the title alone. But I never expected to be crying and sobbing during the meditation. The fact is that there is no solution. Our feelings are our feelings and we have to respect that, for if not, why do we feel them? Acceptance isn't a solution to rid an emotion, acceptance is the human nature to accept that you feel. Don't reject the feeling, embrace it, no matter the reason for that feeling. No matter the positivity or the negativity. You can change the things in your life that impact your emotions, but do not change your emotions. Think as you wish, but you be will in a losing battle with your emotions for eternity. Thank you so much, Dr. K.

Welp this one's me boys. Been genuinely struggling with this for a long long time. Tried every strategy under the sun nothing stuck for more then a week. Guess my whole approach was fucked since i have been trying hard with strategies for the last 6 years. Let's see how long I can sit with emotions until i start googling for a new fix

Holy shit this is so real. I will so often get burnt out on tasks that are only in my head, stuff like „quit overthinking“ or „stop having these kinds of thoughts“ is impossible

Omg dude wtf, i woke up from a nightmare and was just alone with my thoughs then i find some videos of his and by now I’ve watched like 7-8 of them and they’ve helped me calm down and feel better, not just the content that hes talking about but his voice has like a calming tone to it to help as well.

That meditation really helps. I always think I’m accomplishing a meditation when I list it off on my schedule, but it never works cuz I’m rushing through it, alongside my work and stretching. It’s when I realize I have the entire day that I can do anything that I slow down and have a better time concentrating because I am trying less and thinking less about time and accomplishment. Additionally, thinking about how maybe there’s a negative feeling that you want to avoid, avoidance usually leads to that thing building in the background. And maybe it can be a lot all at once so you may need more time or to work at it a little at a time, but facing it and accepting it as a part of you the helps to continue forward.

Usually a lurker, but I felt this issue and video really resonated with me, so I’ll add my 2 cents into this. Hope it helps anyone else in a similar boat as me. This cycle of stressing and telling yourself that you should be doing better is like one of those mini games where if you try to resist or push against the force, you take damage or waste energy. You get so focused on beating yourself up on the thought that you ‘SHOULD’ be doing better that it distracts you from moving forward entirely instead. Instead it’s better to just flow with this force/emotion, because it’s already been proven time and time again that getting caught up to push back against it does nothing, ironically. It’s annoying that it’s this reverse flip for sure, but it’s the alternative to the current one of trying to just brute force it. Maybe brute force works for those with higher conscientiousness, but not for me. I’ll admit it, I don’t work well with overly high pressure, and prefer the gentle nudge. And that’s ok. Because we’re not molded to be supersoldiers. We’re humans with different needs. Recall that one Einstein quote that goes something like “teach a fish to climb up a tree its whole life, and it’ll be a failure.” We’re all made for different things, and that’s ok. Doing the best that WE personally can is good enough, it’s not healthy to get caught up with the 100% perfectionistic ideals. We all have our good and bad days, sometimes we’re more productive than other days. Success isn’t linear. And that’s why it’s healthier to see ‘good enough’ as trying your best for each of those specific days without stressing that it’s not always going to be above some set in stone standard of ‘success’. Be gentle to yourself, it’s ok. It’s all about the small steps. Then you can slowly work your way up to the raid boss. And oh god I’ve rambled for longer than I expected to so sorry if it got a bit cheesy. Still, I hope this helps.

i was literally stuck in my own head when this posted and now i have another youtube video to keep me out of my own head :)

Saved this into my favorite videos. The struggle about this ever so repetitive cycle is so so tiring. Thank you for bringing it up

I am being anbsolutely carried through my life by Dr. K for the past few months… thank you for giving me a little place in your backpack, I wildly appreciate it

I must say these Reddit post videos are so much better to watch than the interview videos

I had to pause the video in the middle because I'm at work and I just threw that in background but now I ended up with tears that I'm trying to hold so hard because of course I can't cry at work.... But man... Like I knew that... Cognitively. But again your delivery just hit hard. It's just right to the core of understanding. My therapist can do similarly good job as you, and you're doing it almost for free. Thank you so much.

I still have a yearning to have my emotions, at the very least, heard and understood. A lot of people in this community seem to deal with feeling like underachievers, but I struggle with the feeling that my emotions and experiences aren't being recognized at any capacity. No matter how I try to present or word my feelings, they are dismissed by everyone around me. As an extreme example, last year I was r***d. One of my best friends of sixteen years didn't want to hear that his male friend was s**ually assaulted, and dismissed me as just having a victim's complex and men can't be r***d. Social services talked to me in a very condescending, initializing way as if I was a puppy who just injured itself. All I wanted was someone, anyone, to listen and understand. But there was no one. I so desperately want to just be heard, without jeopardizing relationships or projects I have been working towards, but time and time again I go through something and have no means of just venting the situation to any other person who understands or cares, and I feel like I need to just become stoic and suppress my emotions/feelings/experiences. Just put my head down and carry on until I can't anymore like some sort of drone. At least drones don't suffer emotional distress/complex PTSD.

Dr K I have so much love and appreciation for you. Even if I haven't been able to get better yet, just the fact alone that I am constantly reassured by your videos that I am not some weird alien that is alone in feeling this way is very nice. thank you.

We can't change our experience through thinking because perceptions and feelings precede thoughts. It's like trying to get a good grade by studying after the exam. Knowing this, our approach should be to remember curiosity about our experience which will show us new perspectives and change our perceptions that'll in turn change feelings, experience, and finally what thoughts are produced.

That meditation made me cry so much. I feel better now.

I have watched so much of your content in search of a relatable description, and i feel like i have finally found it. I do not fully know what the next step should be but i am happy to have a direction to pay more attention to

Thank you, really needed this perspective today because of some things that are happening in my personal life. It's like you say, you already know the answer(s) but never really know how to implement them or make them work for yourself so this was really nice to hear. Again thank you

That meditation was so helpful. Will definitely come back here many times and get it memorized over time. I feel like it also ties in with/responds to some of the though and emotional patterns I learned during my childhood, shaped by abuse.

For those of you like me who find this to be like a breath of fresh air (and also somewhat terrifying), I’d recommend looking at a book for ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) called “Get out of your head and into your life” by Hayes. It has helped me learn to say “yes” to this experience instead of trying to fix everything (and say “yes” to (accept) those thoughts that try and fix everything). It helped me immensely so I just wanted to share. Good luck out there!

I've been struggling with this problem for a long time, i'm so glad you posted this video

transitioning from a deep resentment and hatred of the emotions that have been present for my whole life to an acceptance wasn't something I had ever considered. But truly it all came together and I felt some of the pressure lift when I took that perspective. It'll be a ton of work, patience, and learning self love and respect in a way i've never explored but I really want to stay consistent with it and foster a better relationship between all facets of my being.

I can’t seem to act because I just draw a blank. For example today I’ve been called into work. If I go I make extra money and my day won’t be wasted scrolling on KZfaq but I won’t see a friend later today. If I don’t then I can do whatever and talk to a friend. Both options are equally meh. It’s hard to decide when 90% of your life seems gray. Don’t even get me started on talking to people!

funnily enough for over ayear now i watched your content being like "ooh this is helpful it might help me to feel better about my life" but for a few weeks now every single video you post responds precisely to every single issue i've had in every single detail..

This is the first video I have ever clicked on your channel, but DAMN, you kept me on the edge of my seat! I honestly got some realizations out of this; thank you!

Whew.. that hit me really hard during the meditation. I've meditated on and off for years yet that painful emotion welling up just showing compassion for myself is a first.

I needed this. For so long I've been trying to find a solution to issues that are emotional in nature. I cried so hard during the meditation. As soon as you said there's frustration with the self, I just started crying. I AM frustrated with myself, because I feel broken. Like no matter what I do I'll end in bad situations where I'm unhappy. I hate feeling broken, but I feel so much lighter now. Thank you Dr. K.

im speechless over the huge impact this live has done to me! honestly you've just switched something within me that could change me for good into the better side! im so grateful wow

This was so meaningful. Thank you! So happy I found your channel!

I am saving this video for later. The meditation at the end seems super useful. I have not gone along with it, I merely watched you meditate, and even that made me feel better afterwards. I am definitely trying this out when such fear well up in me. Thank you for your amazing work.

Amazing. I relate so much to the person who posted their struggle. Even though I'm in a better mental place than I was even a year ago, and definitely better than five, ten years ago, and I've made strides in improving focus at work and managing my time better, I still struggle in small ways with productivity and work. Often in my life anxiety, emotional eating and fear have gotten in my way. You saying that gifted kids often think they're using emotional solutions when they are actually using cognitive ones blew my mind. Because I'm always trying to analyze why I'm feeling a certain way. I've only recently realized I may fall into the gifted kid category; in my childhood I had untreated inattentive ADHD and was very distracted, social but awkward, observant but only with things I was interested in and until I was in my late 20's I was often made to feel stupid or naive. It's only in my later years that people have told me how self-reflective I am, and how much I notice the little details. I still feel a little stupid often because I'm not very good with text book knowledge, depending on the subject. I suck at trivia and I can't do math but I never really believed I was stupid (even when people were determined to tell me otherwise). Anyhow, all of that to say I never realized until the last five years or so that I may fall into that category and it really does explain why I think about my feelings the way I do and why I still struggle with emotions inhibiting progress. I had the same issues with work and distractions for years, and I always thought there was something wrong with me. "Everyone else can do the thing, why can't I?" To hear that others feel this way and to hear Dr. K describe that feeling of being "busted" is incredibly validating. I've finally gotten into a job where I feel more valued, where I don't have performance based metrics weighing me down and I don't have people, usually, telling me I'm not working fast enough. It's an easy job most of the time and it pays well. The struggles I've had come up I've met and done my best to overcome. And I've started accepting the perfect is the enemy of good, and that I don't always have to do something perfectly. So now I'm struggling with not wanting to work. I think maybe I'm emotionally exhausted. I'm planning my wedding happening in October and there was a lot of drama at work over the summer. And lately I've been thinking about my job and I just feel tired. I don't want to work. I want to work on the creative projects I'm stuck on, I want to organize my home, I want to make my invites. In the past I've had days I didn't want to work at other, much harder jobs. It makes me feel lazy and unreliable, and I've been having this anxious dread, like my plate being full and I don't even know what's on it. Like I'm forgetting some obligation and it's creeping up on me. Maybe I am lazy. Maybe I actually don't want to work. But that's not really an option for me. Also I don't want to accept that. It doesn't feel right. Working gives me a routine and routine helps me a lot. When I don't work I'm a mess. Anyway. Long rant all to say I related to this video a lot, and thanks.

Hey man, it's been a real while since I last checked in. I went to therapy over a year ago for anxiety, (re-)met my now girlfriend and I am doing better and I'm happier than ever. Still, I felt like returning to your content more often, it can never hurt. Keep fighting the good fight, doc. You're one in a million.

That has to be the best meditation to process my emotions that I've ever experienced. Thank you!

The fact of this content among many other videos, being emergent after years of chaos and during a relatively crucial period before upcoming person decision on direction of life, is almost making me superstitious and faithful, or at the very least very delighted and stunned by my luck. Anyway i appreciate your existence and work, fucking love it, and you. I finally realized there is so much fear in me, the meditation part struck the sorrow out of me.

This is a certified ADD moment

Я даже не знаю с чего мне начать. Не желая драматизировать скажу что это видео по-настоящему подытожило два года моей жизни. В самом начале вируса я зарылась в голову, т.к. логично считала, - проработаю 99.99% проблем в голове и все у меня пойдет как по маслу, сразу будет все и без ошибок. Пожирала гайды на ютубе, чужие посты с реддита, книги по психологии, бесплатных психологов. Все свободное время посвящалось рефлексии, то есть 12 часов в день. Дневник исписывался цитатами и пошаговыми гайдами как починить вообще все в душе, общая суть которых была в действиях. Но тогда под действиями я понимала практику отучивания себя думать как раньше, - заметила мысль, дала по рукам, подумала как сказал гайд. Записи в дневник одновременно обличили очень много эмоционального багажа и эмоциональных установок, успокоили мой страх в будущем не вспомнить что было. Но. Дневник и стал уходом от ответственности. Я не ищу работу, я не делаю проекты, я не социализируюсь, - потому что мне нужно дописать свои мысли в дневник, иначе я все забуду и упущу тот самый ответ на вопросы мироздания. Прошло два года. Я предприняла важные шаги в жизни, но касающиеся только здоровья: вышла из депрессии, наладила отношения с едой, наладила связь с семьей. Стала ясно чувствовать и слышать себя. В жизни социальной поменялось практически ничего. И я поняла что осталась главная моя война - страх и перфекционизм. Я дотянула до момента когда я уже не считаюсь подростком, но социальных достижений у меня нет совсем, но начать их зарабатывать мне страшно и стыдно. А я так и не поняла кем хочу быть! И вот сегодня Доктор зациклил и закончил мой квест в данный период жизни. Как в конце 21-го я его нашла с видео которое тогда было для меня экстренной помощью, - так и сейчас он пришел с тем, что я давно поняла, но не могла сформулировать. В русском ютубе такого не найти. И точно под его медитацию я закончила тот дневник. Единственная медитация которую я переписала полностью. Я пишу это только от того что никогда прежде не испытывала такого облегчения что закрылось в душе что-то случайно ставшее важным. Завершенный сюжетный квест на который ты истратил все золото, здоровье и свитки заклинаний. Я никогда не закрывала такие гештальты чувствуя себя спокойно от того, что ни на один вопрос не был дан ответ. Это и есть быть взрослым. Что до моей жизни: иду еще раз учиться, в моей жизни есть йога и медитация, я чувствую вкус у пресной несоленой еды и перестала есть, чтобы не чувствовать. когда я осуждаю себя, я иду бегать. когда прокрастинирую - я заземляюсь. когда я не хочу скучать и слышать тишину я закрываю уши наушниками но не включаю музыку. Я нахожусь в гармонии с самой собой. Я знаю, что забочусь о себе всегда.

something about his tone of voice slightly before and during the meditation as well as the things he was saying just made me want to bawl my eyes out. i haven't cried like that in a long time, and this topic hit the nail on the head for the issues i deal with, especially the overeating part. i needed this and i'll definitely be coming back to it. thank you, Dr. K.

I keep getting stuck on creative tasks and I get anxious over how much time I lose. I've been flailing around for so long, looking for solutions to this, and FINALLY, I see that you've nailed it. I suspected that I hadn't found the root of the problem because I hadn't been able to fix it in any way that I tried, and sure enough, you've found that root cause. Thanks so much for this. I've already forwarded the link to a friend who I think will also benefit from this advice.

Bruh the timing and the title made me sob :(

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" - Jiddu Krishnamurti

Yo. This helped a lot. I have a ton of problems that I solved and something was missing all the time. Emotion was missing, I didn't even realise I was avoiding emotions. Imma try to not kill my emotions anymore, thank you!

This is one of the most important videos you've made, thank you so much dr. K. Started crying after maybe 15-20 min and it says something. Now should I ask myself "Where does it come from?" I guess yes, I should and i'm going to do so. Grateful for your work.

So from this video, i learned to not FIX the emotion, but maybe decompress it, by talking about it perhaps. And accept that it happens

That made me cry like a baby

Thank you so much for this video. I've been tormenting myself for awhile now over something I did in the past and trying to analyze and figure out why something happened and why something I did was bothering me. Thanks to all the videos and my coach Kyle which I do miss I think I finally came to terms with everything. I accepted and acknowledged the emotions I felt and came to terms with my feelings. Thank you so much. This comment seem random but the meditation had such an impact on me. I appreciate you and the community so much. Thanks!!!

Best and most informative vid ive ever seen. I feel that this is something that has been holding me back and now I’ve gained this new found confidence and excitement to put what you’ve taught in this video into practice. Life changing. Thank you🙇🏾‍♂️ to you and who ever wrote that article💯

Is it normal that I started to cry after this video?

Bro called me out with the meditation stuff. I know I’ve been running on logical through all my life to cope from emotional abuse and even physical but this year I’m starting to realize that I’m growing distant to people because that empathy is running dry. I don’t wanna be like my parents and I feel sad for my child self. I’ve been pushing my emotions down for others for so long. I couldn’t even have a tantrum or I would be treated like crap. I’m so damaged even now I feel shame for everything. I wanna be happy, I wanna trust people but the only way I could live in life was by fixing everything. I’m so uncomfortable with my flaws that I run away just like I do in relationships. I’m scared of myself and of hurting people. I’m living the prophecy of being a shitty person like my parents frame me to be.

Thank you ❤ the story about the child on stage brought me to tears. I needed that 😊

Dr K. I just have to say I love you and I love your videos, and it's amazing how well you understand our mind, and how you come up with really subtle solutions to myriad of problems. I really appreciate you man. You have my deepest gratitude and respect!

I guess I never realized I had analysis paralysis because of cognitive empathy. It's only until I went to the psychologist, did yoga therapy, wrote down my feelings, broke down crying out my pent up feelings, even continuously crying during yoga because some tension releasing in my body had been emotional baggage that I had held on a long time too. This shit finally made me lighter, in addition to praying 5 times a day etc.

- Reflective listening: Hablar sobre lo que estas sintiendo honestamente "descomprime" la emoción, reduce la intensidad de la emoción y por ello la conducta que esta genera. - Preguntarse de dónde viene la emoción.

This has opened my eyes to understanding emotions better. I've gotten over negative emotions by digesting them, but never really understood that's what I was doing. Now that I understand it's better to be less cognitive about it, hopefully I can help others

i LOVE the way you say "with a little bit of love, a little bit of a push, a little bit of encouragement" -- thanks!

I can't even start the meditation because it's too painful

DR. K - "Emotional Work is not about solutions" ..... I'm going to pretend I didn't hear that.

Man the meditation at the end was amazing you really brought me back to just feeling my emotions again and not trying to fix them. I almost cried wanting to let out thank you Dr. K I can

This video appeared in my recommended a while ago, been watching your stuff a bit before that but this video really hit deep! I actually felt so much better and the tips actually helped when i tried it the days after, thanks man ❤

Dr K has good timing. I went into a rut months ago, I stopped going to my mma gym. Now I’m trying to go back but I got hella anxiety about it.

Damn these titles are too relatable

I'm forever thankful for this content and to who ever take the courage and share their struggles too you're helping us so mcuh(": I was so frustrated and only 5 mins in I felt seen.. dr.k you're truly amazing in what you do

This video was not what expected and I mean that in the best way possible :) . I think it's been something I learned recently, about accepting your emotions and feelings about any situation and how if not handled correctly, they can prevent you from actually making yourself better when you try everything to make yourself not feel that way... This doesn't seem to be just with procrastination but with life in general. Thank you so much Dr K... I feel this will help with getting out of the holes I currently find myself in right now

A few days ago I literally wrote in my journal how im always stuck in my head, then this video popped up

Me with adhd: Losing focus after 10 seconds of meditation

It actually made me feel so relieved and at peace with myself uncovering and just accepting that I fear being socially humiliated like I was in high school. I have been having some anxiety because I was going to see some coworkers next week, and after not trying to cognitively solve it, seeing it and accepting it drops a huge weight off my shoulders and gives me clarity on how to navigate it. Thank you :)

Dr. K I wanted to say thank you. I also work in Mental Healthcare and you are providing such amazing educational videos to this community and it makes me not want to give up even in the midst of constant pain. Thnak you God Bless.

This content is life-changing

Not easy to "observe and accept your emotions" when you've been completely disconnected from them for over a decade. This protects me against emotion-based attacks, but also makes me immune to emotion-based buffs and heals. I have a really unbalanced character build. My cognitive-analysis powers are OP, which works well against many things, but I'm pretty hopeless against any Worldboss with a cognitive-analysis resistance. I've been taking DOT and not able to fight back for a long time now.

Wow, this described my way of dealing with emotion perfectly. For the past 6 months I've been feeling anxiety like never before, and started meditating, it has been helpful overall, but man, i get caught in thinking about meditation and wanting to "fix" myself, and punishing myself when I slip out of being mindful, and it's a cycle that has been repeating over and over, then I'll see where I've been going wrong, correct it, feel a bit better, but then slip back into that default state. Thank you so much for this video, it helped me a lot, it's one that i will return to frequently.

I loved the meditation at the end. really honed in on what was said and how to adopt it