the thought of my closest friends having a blackmail folder against me it’s pretty creepy, I’m glad it’s illegal
@cinnamon56752 жыл бұрын
is*
@highaunt96792 жыл бұрын
Reminds me of the burn book from mean girls
@carijean372 жыл бұрын
Actually not illegal in all states. Look up whether your state is a single party consent state or if both parties have to consent to being recorded. In oklahoma where I'm at its a single party consent state so you can record anyone and everyone as you please.
@cinnamon56752 жыл бұрын
@@carijean37 same with public spaces in mine, I think the stalking is illegal unless I misunderstood it
@carijean372 жыл бұрын
@@cinnamon5675 unless I missed something I don't think she was stalking. She was just keeping folders and recording her friends often enough to have a blackmail folder on them. Still shitty imo but no stalking.
@sierrasiracusa2 жыл бұрын
My sister got into a car accident and her first thought was how she just bought the sweater she was wearing and she wouldn't let them cut the sleeve to treat her broken arm so she insisted on taking it off and sitting on the side of the road in her bra in the middle of winter in upstate new york🤣🤣
@mondler1072 жыл бұрын
LMAOOOO I love this
@amariah56732 жыл бұрын
your sisters vibes are off the chain man
@TheKatarinaGiselle2 жыл бұрын
She's one bad ass bitch and I can totally understand her decision and thinking process. Go her! Pain tolerance for the win!
@Karina._.2 жыл бұрын
As someone who doesn't own a lot of clothes and has a big attachment ti every clothing iteam I would have done the same
@anna-wf2it2 жыл бұрын
girl i would have done that too there’s no reason you have to be cutting my clothing i payed good money for when i can just take it off ‼️‼️
@neelydepaepe60892 жыл бұрын
Maybe unpopular opinion but someone not enjoying giving head isn’t a red flag but rather a boundary? If you’re doing something that you don’t enjoy and find gross, just to please someone else because they will be sad otherwise it almost feels rapey like there’s pressure being put on to do something you don’t want to. I think no head is a boundary that is fair to set and if it’s a deal breaker for the other person then they can leave, but nobody should have to feel bad for not being comfortable performing certain sexual acts. Sincerely a bisexual woman who loves both vaginas and penises. I’d never expect someone to “suck it up and do it anyways” for me
@Makeupgal30002 жыл бұрын
I think it’s really the fact that she’s doing it to him all the time and he doesn’t. I think she prob just needs another partner
@lileaviolet45032 жыл бұрын
Tbh if someone finds their partners genitals gross maybe they should try another gender…
@Hannahsx2 жыл бұрын
@@lileaviolet4503 it's not that at all?? I'm grossed out by sex. I do not like giving head at all. And yes, I'm bisexual. I will never do it, and I'm aware that will make finding a partner difficult. However, I do not care about relationships and am not interested in them for now. This is a normal thing.
@circuitboardsystem2 жыл бұрын
THANK YOUUUUU I literally have trauma from a partner shaming me and making me feel awful because I didn't wanna give them head and it's good to see this opinion cuz watching the video made me feel a little like I was the bad person in that situation again!! No one should be forced to do something they're uncomfortable with, and if you really love someone then you won't force them to do something they're uncomfortable with, ESPECIALLY sexual things. Someone not liking to give head is not a red flag
@gabrielleoana10922 жыл бұрын
@@circuitboardsystem It's a weird thing because for some people it's a very important part of s*x, and if they don't get their needs met, even if they love the person it's always going to feel off like they're sacrificing something very important to them se*ually that someone else wouldn't make them sacrifice and they can have fulfilling experiences on all fronts. I say if you're someone who doesn't like giving oral s*x, find someone who doesn't like or doesn't care about receiving oral s*x.
@kayleek68682 жыл бұрын
girl you gotta stop putting the secret first with no context because that notification is TERRIFYING 💀💀😭
@Katie-kv1jf2 жыл бұрын
LITERALLY HAHAHHA
@YuhHuhNuhUh2 жыл бұрын
Litrally luv
@awrinkleincrime2 жыл бұрын
Was thinking the same thing🤣
@mr.kaplan50222 жыл бұрын
😂😂 i agree
@Konnordawg2 жыл бұрын
After 10 years of it, ya’ll arent used to crazy video titles for clicks?
@novah89062 жыл бұрын
i like that the therapist isn’t so insistent that things r traumatic cuz i’ve had bad therapists that insist on me being traumatized (because i thought the thought of my parents/ pets having sex is disgusting)
@localfairy_11132 жыл бұрын
My mum made me change therapists since she said I had trauma 💀 and I do
@MyDarkerSide32 жыл бұрын
a lot of therapists fail to teach their patients that there's a difference between abuse and trauma. abuse is trauma with the intent to hurt, meanwhile trauma is devoid of intention. you could be traumatized by something sexually, or you could just have a normal human aversion to taboo topics.
@louiekroberts2 жыл бұрын
I think that moment was super important cause having everyone around you insist that a situation was traumatic can actually make you start to feel worse about it, and then you start doubting yourself and your own feelings about what happened
@goofygoober31142 жыл бұрын
The “I’m addicted to male attention” secret is exactly what I’ve been going through my whole life and no one else can relate and I’ve always felt so guilty It was so relieving to know there are other girls who struggle with this
@gachaeditsgo12132 жыл бұрын
Omg samee my coping mechanism is imagining the men in wigs WEIRD IK BUT IT WORKS FOR ME 🤷🏽♀️
@AHandleFul2 жыл бұрын
@@gachaeditsgo1213 that’s a beautiful coping mechanism. I force myself to listen to The Lonely Island to get out of cognitive loops. 😂 We all have our things that snap us out, and it’s great when you find it!!
@gauzeeeee Жыл бұрын
i promise you its very reletable, they probably just dot realise it. this is just the patriarchy at work, my friend.
@CatrionaThePoet Жыл бұрын
This was definitely me when I was a teenager. You're definitely not alone in that feeling, it's really common.
@layla-lc4gn2 жыл бұрын
I think both parties have the right to explain to each other why they want something and why the other one isn’t comfortable doing it. Maybe he wants a partner who doesn’t want head because he’s uncomfortable giving it. Maybe she wants the opposite! Communication is key in ALL relationships, and if her boyfriend genuinely doesn’t enjoy going down on people they both get to decide how they want to go on from there. Not all men that don’t like giving head are selfish, but a few can be, so I think it’s fine that she is curious as to why he’s so reluctant to do it. I think they should talk to each other about the why’s and how’s and see how they want to continue the relationship (if at all) from there!!
@EvWuzhere2 жыл бұрын
Agreed and it sounded like even more frustrating for her than just a physical issue was that its painful for her to just be left to question why and wonder if something was wrong with her/ caused her to have more doubt in their relationship that otherwise wouldnt be there. Which would probably benefit from better communication
@lisa.662 жыл бұрын
Yes it is selfish
@slamajama77732 жыл бұрын
@@lisa.66 it’s not always selfish… nobody owes you head 💀
@brookiebroccoli49012 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend loves going down on me. I’m not taking showers twice a day. He has literally told me that he would eat me out after a week of not showering. I go down on him when he’s sweaty after work. What she should understand is that if he won’t do it but she does it all the time, STOP doing it
@cherrymintzasmr7972 жыл бұрын
exactly. if she doesn’t want to leave him then just simply stop going down on him.
@squtnik2 жыл бұрын
PERIOD
@corniflower92322 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry what ? others could be more sensitive to bad small or bad taste, which could lead them to gagging or throwing up ? And she should definitely not punish him for setting a boundary ?????? or communicating with her that he doesn't like that taste. There are a million other ways he could please her. Or she could change her diet and take more regular showers, and see if that helps.
@allisonslocum69482 жыл бұрын
@@corniflower9232 that is true but I do agree, if you feel reluctant to go down on someone and they don’t want to do it to you, you shouldn’t have to keep doing it to them if you don’t want to. If you stop doing it all because of your partner doesn’t do it to you then you need to re-evaluate your sex life. I know plenty of guys who always expected me to go down on them especially when I didn’t really want to. It’s about setting boundaries and being clear about what it is that you do or don’t want
@Ax2k2 жыл бұрын
I kinda miss the old style of these videos, Not that I don’t like the podcast 😭 but the originals felt more personal?🚶🏻
@xotbirdox2 жыл бұрын
The first one - I disagree with "dump him." I think there's a lot of room for nuance in those situations and it sounds like they have a healthy relationship other than this one thing. He could have sensory issues tbh, like maybe he's neurodivergent, and even if he hasn't been diagnosed with something like that, you never know. I was only diagnosed with autism when I was 21 and now a lot of things that tasted/looked/smelt/felt "bad" make a lot of sense to me now as I now know that, that is sensory issues. Not saying he definitely has that with oral sex but just saying that it is definitely a possibility. I think the appropriate thing to do is talk to him, ask if he doesn't like it cause the person doesn't even actually know if he really does not like it cause they haven't talked about it with him. If he says he doesn't like it, question as to why and what you can do to make that better. If there is anything that will make it better/easier for him and it's reasonable, do it. If not, and/or if he really is just being selfish, or if there is nothing that will make it better for him (i.e., if he has something like sensory issues around it), tell him that if he doesn't want to go down on you, then you think it is only fair that you shouldn't be expected to go down on him. Even in the case of sensory issues, this should be said because it is unfair on you if you want reciprocation and don't get it, even if he has a valid reason for not eating you out. If he does have a valid reason/isn't just being selfish, approach the statement that you won't go down on him either then with understanding - if he is being genuine, he should understand this concept and accept it. If your discussion does not go well and you still feel hurt by him, then break up with him. But I just don't think that bedroom issues are automatically a reason to break up with someone. Sex isn't everything and communication first is super important. Not mad at any of you on the podcast btw, just wanted to add this! We all have our own opinions and that is fine. 🥰 Love this series.
@somecuber70012 жыл бұрын
Hey are u bi?
@NickSavage872 жыл бұрын
That’s like a whole damn essay
@somecuber70012 жыл бұрын
@@NickSavage87 yeah
@LaurenPebble2 жыл бұрын
I feel like this is so important to say. I have a bunch of sensory issues due to my anxiety disorders, and people are just so unwilling to understand what it’s like, or how much they can affect a person.
@itsbrandonbitch2 жыл бұрын
oh god, i am not reading all of that
@cosmoo36972 жыл бұрын
no cause why are we not talking about 40+ yr old men are creeping on a 16 yr old????????? why are we not focused on that? what do they gain out of a sexual relationship with someone in high school. and then on top of that, we don’t even know how long this guy knew the son. how long has he been waiting for the opportunity. it’s very scary and we can’t just ignore it wtf
@mojomogie132 жыл бұрын
My exact thoughts. The men are definitely p3dos. Like who tf has s3x with someone the same age, in the same grade as your child. Regardless, age of consent laws are only for max 3 years, so the age gap between 16 and 40s-50s I still BEYOND illegal. He was definitely groomed and I'm pretty sure the friend knew him from youth which again give p3do vibes. Guarantee he's not the only one the guy or group of guys have done that to. It was too organized and planned out. No way they hadn't done I before.
@letsparchmentitupyo7566 Жыл бұрын
its disgusting and i feel bad for the kid, very well put
@uhmunaomi9669 Жыл бұрын
Ill be honest, im pretty sure that secret was the caller just lying to get to talk to them. The way the story was told and how it developed sounded so fake like the whole "i blackmailed him but then it was fine he wasnt angry", it sounded like he was making it up as he went
@scarlettsinead2098 Жыл бұрын
@@uhmunaomi9669 i agree. i thought it sounded pretty fake tbh but if it's real it's definitely rapey and they're all pedos and should literally be in prison
@olivialayla69162 жыл бұрын
will you go back to the OG format anytime soon? I mainly watched this series for entertainment, and not to analyze each secret or individual. i am proud of the growth but it was perfect the way it was
@marykitty3362 жыл бұрын
same i think she might be pushing people into thinking they have big trauma when they probably just wanted to talk about the secret and the secret only. idk.
@Hannahsx2 жыл бұрын
@@marykitty336 literally not what happened lmao
@meganlopez22342 жыл бұрын
@@marykitty336 LMAOOO ok…..
@ayeboi81202 жыл бұрын
I’m gonna be honest, I know there’s no way for you guys to prove is someone is lying but that dude who “slept with his dads bestfriend” just sounded like he was lying and making stuff up as he went to just get to talk to you
@gypsycrusader40812 жыл бұрын
i was looking for a comment of someone sayong this cus i think the same
@smoaktree Жыл бұрын
Same! Story felt a bit too inconsistent. Getting "used to it" when it came to the man buying him things but then he says it was only like a few times that he did it? Doesnt add up
@tiana8983 Жыл бұрын
Yeah I’m watching through it now (late ik) and it doesn’t sit right. Nothing in the story really lines up.
@wasabibeefchips2 жыл бұрын
YAYY MEREDITH’S BACK!! so excited to listen to my fave podcast again 🫣🫣
@merwheeler2 жыл бұрын
thanks!
@Drxppy.aaliyah_2 жыл бұрын
@@merwheeler we want to see more of you 🥺🙏🏼
@wasabibeefchips2 жыл бұрын
@@merwheeler IS IT ACTUALLY U
@hurricanecatrina95482 жыл бұрын
that Dear Man technique was so helpful and awesome. it was also so funny to watch alyx look her “therapist” in the eye and state “I WANT you to go down on me.”
@ayydubs2 жыл бұрын
Yay I’m glad it helped
@sarashutter2 жыл бұрын
@@ayydubs I caught onto your using this technique, it would help if you explain the technique you’re using!
@mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat2 жыл бұрын
Alyx, it’s incredibly poignant and relatable of what you said about trauma. Sometimes originally it feels fine even a few years after, then more years later it hits with a full force. I can understand and feel your apprehension about what the caller was saying and also not wanting to be invalidating of his feelings. It’s comfortable to be in the “chill” stage, but may possibly be subconscious denial as a coping mechanism and hope he just knows more feelings may (or may not) come up. Despite state laws, the power dynamic between a group of older vs a vulnerable younger struggling with seeking acceptance and given physical satisfaction was fully wrong on the adults part. Whatever the caller feels now, the most important thing is that he knows he can reach out for help if he needs more to process for whatever comes up in the future. It’s awesome that you guys gave him that space to talk for the very first time! P.S. I’m genuinely so grateful that the seaweed injury didn’t pull you under the waves! Feeling the hilariously embarrassing moment was fully worth your continued life! ❤️
@janellebarnett16942 жыл бұрын
Did the therapist say 'suck it up' to the girls boyfriend who doesn't enjoy going down on her? That makes me scared to ever go to therapy. How do I know what they are teaching me is healthy? He shouldn't have to do anything he feels uncomfortable doing, but I think only that girl will know the difference between him truly being uncomfortable and him just being a man who only wants to be pleased himself. I think they just need to talk together and ask him why he might be so hesitant, and if he really truly doesn't enjoy it then maybe they just aren't meant to be together.
@penutbuterrhoohaboioioioin95112 жыл бұрын
No she said she sucks it up, not that others should.
@eyerenesbitch2 жыл бұрын
this therapist, sorry to alyx but she’s not a good therapist. it’s always alyx who leads convos and gives the better advice. 🙁 this therapist simply gives me bad vibes...
@xxStarkissed2 жыл бұрын
@@eyerenesbitch I have to agree. They also seem like very close friends...which is not encouraged professionally in this field. I like it when it's only Alyx talking on the podcast.
@eyerenesbitch2 жыл бұрын
@@xxStarkissed agreed!
@allisonslocum69482 жыл бұрын
@@xxStarkissed I agree although she isn’t Alyx’s therapist anymore. There are no laws or rules that say you can’t have a relationship with a client/therapist after your therapy has ended.
@sabrinalocke28462 жыл бұрын
Hearing your stories about going to the hospital made me laugh. It reminded me of my grandmother. She had a heart attack but did her makeup not even seconds after, and made my aunt do her hair. At the last second she remembered she wasn’t wearing any panties and the EMT’s saw her 😭😭😭 she was literally begging my aunt and my aunt said no. They also took home the hospital blankets. My aunt still has them
@kamilamukailova8722 жыл бұрын
I disagree with the first one, it’s brutal but you can love someone and not want to go down on them, cultural, sexual etc differences. There are a lot of factors. We need to be more understanding of people preferences.
@kamilamukailova8722 жыл бұрын
Sometimes just mental.
@animalsandiphones2 жыл бұрын
Well if she wants him to go down and it turns her on it does matter.
@Mc-uv7jv2 жыл бұрын
I agree
@biki12542 жыл бұрын
Sure but its a two way street, the best way to respect their boundaries and be happy is to break up with them because they’re not sexually compatible
@ladieslovecj Жыл бұрын
but still even if its a boundary that he doesnt want to go down on her, its still 100% valid if thats a dealbreaker for her and she wants to go splitsville for that- its a two way street and she doesnt have to compromise (carry on giving him head while she does not receive anything) just because he doesnt want to do it
@ppharddd2 жыл бұрын
24:12 IMAGINE IF HIS DAD WAS THERE AS WELL
@js-13892 жыл бұрын
i was honestly waiting for that to pop up. i’m glad it didn’t though.
@ion67082 жыл бұрын
the reaction to the first secret makes me sad… :( if someone doesn’t want to go down on you in a certain way it doesn’t mean they don’t like you. Doing or not doing oral is just a boundary, and plenty of healthy relationships cut out parts of intimacy that are considered “common” like blowjobs. of course, if that’s something you can’t do without in a relationship, then yes, it may be better to break up. But it shouldn’t be an obligatory thing to expect to give head or to receive it. It’s all about communication. You have to talk to your partner(s) to realize what everyone is and isn’t comfortable with, and find a way to make everything equal. I also hate the idea that being comfortable with everything your partner wants sexually is the indicator that you’re each other’s “person” or not. it’s not.
@mondler1072 жыл бұрын
Another wonderful episode! ❤️ I really love the thoughtful discussions about each secret and hearing everybody's perspective. I also love how respectful you all are towards each person's experiences and their feelings about them. This is said with zero tea zero shade obviously, but I noticed this episode is a little shorter and there were no quasi-confessions, just know I'd watch/listen to this podcast for hours so I missed that but again not criticizing that at all, I'll take any and all content you give us! This podcast seemed go to so fast and looking forward to next week!! :D ps. We need an update on British Florida guy!! (If you're comfortable sharing!!)
@gracierene2 жыл бұрын
I love you and everything you do omg. Your videos absolutely make my day, even if they are a bit traumatizing🤪❤️
@RealDuosMedia2 жыл бұрын
Therapist came in with the HEAT on the shoe game sheeeeeeesh
@kittyrae7772 жыл бұрын
PLEASE POST HIGHLIGHTS FROM THESE PODCASTS they’re too good 😭
@maggiesarah132 жыл бұрын
i havent finished watching yet but we need an update on harry from the last episode
@KaylaChan902 жыл бұрын
Okay, I'mma say this on the first one, the joking about it PREOMOTES SEXUAL ASSAULT TO BE SEEN AS OKAY. And If people comment I don't care, I know people will argue, and that's whatever, I'm not responding to anything I don't have the time nor patience to argue. The THERAPIST saying 'suck it up'..... that's disturbing.... people always auto go to that stuff being selfish and 'not fair' and I'm sure that is cases. BUT THAT MENTALLY, I don't care if the person is male, female, nonbinary, or any combination in between.... Someone saying they don't like something sexual, and being told to 'suck it up for their partner to be happy' is LITERALLY TAKING AWAY CONSENT. "I'll break up with you if you don't like doing this. If you love me you'll do this." All those are DIRECT QUOTES from situations of sexual assault of r*pe cases. TO DEFAULT TO THE MEN ALL BEING SELFISH OR IT BEING A HYGIENE ISSUE IS HARMFUL AND PEOPLE HEARING THAT WILL MAKE THEM THEIR ASSAULTER IS IN THE RIGHT! It's rare I disagree with things in this video, but this is a topic I hear SO many Ciswoman gossip and mock men for. Again selfish people and hygiene issues are reasons. Please people of any sex and gender, if something like this is happening, find out if it IS just a preference thing before jumping to conclusions, DO NOT MAKE YOUR PARTNER/S FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE TO DO SOMETHING THAT THEY DON'T LIKE.
@jinsblanket2 жыл бұрын
i agree!
@hejrjbrbfjekrjdjbf5931 Жыл бұрын
she said she sucks it up not for the person the the secret to suck it up.
@cadebowman45822 жыл бұрын
I kind of wish you would choose more believable secrets for the talking section because i feel like i can never listen through them lol, its always so cringy. I feel like im just hearing someone struggle to lie on the spot about something they made up. The concept is super interesting but this one was especially off putting for me. It just sounds like this guy came up with a creepy porno fantasy and shared it as a secret.
@melparkerr2 жыл бұрын
right, there needs to be some vetting! it was so awkward to listen to
@cecileg27202 жыл бұрын
exactly what i’m thinking as i’m watching it, i was wondering if anyone else felt the same. i love alyxs videos but i think they felt it too
@izabelleohara14312 жыл бұрын
exactly i forgot what ep it was in but it sounds like some ppl r just trying to say gross stuff to sound edgy
@eyerenesbitch2 жыл бұрын
THIS!!
@insertcreativenamehere75712 жыл бұрын
Best notifications I ever receive are for this podcast 😌
@MyDarkerSide32 жыл бұрын
negotiating sexual needs in a relationship is normal. saying that if someone doesn't want to do a sexual act on you then they should be dumped, or if a conversation (like D.E.A.R. M.A.N.) needs to be had then they're "not right for you" is incredibly toxic and unfortunately indicative of r culture and acephobia. i am very disappointed that a licensed professional did not take that conversation more seriously or with the heaviness it deserves. you should never assume someone's intentions, especially if you're trying to have a healthy relationship with them. in this situation, a conversation needs to be had, and they should assess their boundaries as a couple and see if they need to seek out other partners or compromise somehow. this allosexual behavior is why so many people like me are coerced into sex that they do not want, or feel afraid to voice their sexual preferences to their partners. i am very disappointed that as a society people still think it's respectful to dismiss other people's sexual interests as "selfish" or to insist someone break up rather than have a healthy conversation with their partner. i am also disappointed that you as a queer woman have not made sure you were more educated on what members of our community go through, even when you don't fall into that category. we need to uplift each other in everything we do, and should strive to always be mindful of how our words are. part of DBT is an emphasis on compassion-based thinking, and effective communication. i fail to see any compassion or effectiveness in telling this person to not communicate. maybe i am sensitive to this topic, because my best friend in highschool was r-worded by her then boyfriend when she said she didn't want to give him oral because she didn't like it with him, he then forced her because he felt entitled. you are never entitled to anyone else performing a sexual act on you, no matter you relationship status or gender. saying cis men are naturally more selfish when it comes to sex and dismissing this situation the way you all did also encourages the toxic masculinity ideation of men not being allowed to express their wants/desires unless those wants/desires fall into a "manly" category.
@galexsiesxo2 жыл бұрын
i totally agree with this, at one point of my relationship me and my boyfriend had to have a discussion about this same topic and i told him how i feel about him forcing sexual stuff on me, it took a lot for me to speak up on me feelings and for us to come to an understanding. thanks for giving more light of this topic!
@mondler1072 жыл бұрын
9:34 that "ohhh...hmm" has me cackling 🤣
@BullsEyeRuby2 жыл бұрын
That second secret hit home. I dont think its right to do something like that because esentially she/he is betraying the trust of the other person. I had a "Bestfriend" who did this too me. And when i stopped talking to her because life got rough for me, she "exposed me" but she took everything out of context and only used everything she had in her favor and didnt show anything negative she said or did towards me. Which made me not trust anyone that shows me screenshots of anyone because who knows if they are doing the same thing behind my back
@kat84552 жыл бұрын
I am really enjoying your podcast Alyx! I think is so cool that you are teaching everyone dbt skills. I truly believe everyone could benefit from learning, not just people w bpd. & I really like the therapist she seems to really care and like they want to help. I appreciate this podcast more than you know. You really are wise and it’s nice to see how other people learn to cope and heal. Love you, Keep being you!
@jennatuls2 жыл бұрын
Ily you’re so awesome 😭😭
@CeeYaLater2 жыл бұрын
I didn't realise our loved therapist joining Alyx was inked up, woohoo!!!
@sopherszebra2 жыл бұрын
We love Meredith!!! Y’all together is so iconic
@IAmMiaElizabeth Жыл бұрын
lmaoo that dude is lying his ass off
@mackennalavin1072 жыл бұрын
This has made Thursdays my fave day of the week🥹🥹I love this sh*t
@christophercaldwell40252 жыл бұрын
That ad placement 😂😂😂
@hynjnlvr5302 жыл бұрын
i love alyx so much but i really wish she would look into betterhelp more. i've heard so many horrible stories about them. i'm sure if alyx knew she wouldn't still be posting about the company :(
@allisonslocum69482 жыл бұрын
I agree! She definitely wouldn’t if she’d heard of what they do but hopefully she’ll she these comments!
@amracohadarevic27932 жыл бұрын
So excited to listen to this and clean 💃♥️
@Tiffany-iq8ex2 жыл бұрын
Oof your opinions on the first one are problematic
@jinsblanket2 жыл бұрын
definitely
@zoeyisalive2 жыл бұрын
dump him?? because he doesn’t want to do a sexual act on her…? really?! everyone has different sexual preferences. they shouldnt be dumped for that. still should have a talk with him to better understand where he is coming from. but dump him?.. i’m actually so disappointed with that take :/
@r.1.3362 жыл бұрын
So if her needs aren’t met she just has to deal with that ?
@zoeyisalive2 жыл бұрын
@@r.1.336 did i say that?? i literally said to talk to him about it before just dumping him.
@r.1.3362 жыл бұрын
@@zoeyisalive “dump him because he doesn’t want t do a sexual act on her?” You’re questioning it so yeah you basically did you tool 🤦🏼♀️
@izabelleohara14312 жыл бұрын
dumping someone bc they wont do something for u is okay? bc ur needs might not be met
@r.1.3362 жыл бұрын
@@izabelleohara1431 did you not listen to the story he is okay with getting it but can’t give it he’s selfish he would probably have a problem if she stopped
@arianalawson1362 жыл бұрын
Absolutely adoring these videos! Have me addicted
@amaija2 жыл бұрын
love the better help ad immediately after the Going Down On Your Partner debate/chat
@Mo-fx7hn2 жыл бұрын
I look forward to these so much but that notification was wild
@alexia35522 жыл бұрын
The "N" in DEARMAN is useful for situations where like, for example, you need it to be quiet at night and they want to watch movies because it's their time when they unwind, you can negotiate on different strategies like using headphones, taking on some other task in the evening so they can start recreating earlier, whatever else you can work together on to get both needs met. Your need to sleep is absolutely non-negotiable. HOW you get the need met I think is the negotiate part, working together and considering different solutions that take into account everyone's needs, abilities, boundaries, etc. You should not be expected to compromise and abandon part of what your NEEDS are, those are NEEDS, it's a hard line, getting that need met is non-negotiable. How you _go about_ getting that need met is the whole point of DEARMAN, in my understanding--working with others, instead of unilaterally trying to fix the situation or staying silent, which can result in conflict and/or misery and generally is unsuccessful at instituting real solutions to interpersonal problems.
@staticmarco2 жыл бұрын
ouchhh omg i've literally dislocated both of my knees at the same time so i can feel your pain 100% 😭
@aishagonzalez94032 жыл бұрын
I was in a motorcycle accident leaving Best Buy after buying my first MacBook. My first thought when I stood up was “your paying for my laptop if it’s broken!” Meanwhile I suffered from Herniated disc’s😂😅
@mirasmiraculouscraft Жыл бұрын
“How do you get warmed up?” Look at your hands, what’s connected to them? 😂 Alyx forgot about fingers haha
@harpermckernan30332 жыл бұрын
I hope she does the normal videos again... I personally don't watch these and miss the older ones :(
@annalise85822 жыл бұрын
this is the first one i’ve watched in ages, wheres her old background and her cat gone 🥲
@saikq53802 жыл бұрын
same these are nice but i lowkey miss the old ones.. i feel like the only engaging parts are the written submissions and voicemails, i kinda feel like the video call portion gets really old and boring really quickly, like it’s dragging, and the last section is rarely entertaining
@olivialayla69162 жыл бұрын
this. I understand that she may want to expand and grow this series, but sometimes it is just enjoyable on its own. not every secret needs a long discourse, sometimes I just listen for entertainment and not for analyzing purposes. also the old text secrets were easier to read + more engaging
@chelseaofc44182 жыл бұрын
Got the notification while working and best believe I stopped doing what I was doing ✨priorities✨
@summer51982 жыл бұрын
You know I have to be early sometimes to the KZfaq version of my favorite podcast❤️
@mondler1072 жыл бұрын
23:53 lmaooo 💀
@annettemendivil89782 жыл бұрын
At first I thought you were annoyed 😅 Then I realized ❣️ You are so amazing and strong❣️❤️ im not sure if you have shared it before and i haven’t seen it but anyways ILOVE your podcasts they make my job alot more bearable😅❤️ keep doing what makes you happy! I wish nothing but blessings and positive energy❣️
@dohadena2 жыл бұрын
bring back the uber pranks queen 🥺i miss them
@mm-jt2eh2 жыл бұрын
Well thats one hell of an intro 💀
@Jessieberryy2 жыл бұрын
BEST PODCAST EVER
@jordania12832 жыл бұрын
With the question if it's bad that you thought of work first. It makes sense to be worried about certain things as long as in the end you still put YOU first! It's not a bad thing if work is A priority, but it shouldn't be your first priority.
@ebonigray56742 жыл бұрын
I’m loving this podcast so much 😍
@melissa.alienn2 жыл бұрын
You posted !!
@jadynbrinkley8378 Жыл бұрын
I hope these podcasts are making Alyx RICH ASF
@jocelynrose9144 Жыл бұрын
thank you for reading the first secret (it wasn’t me who submitted it) bc it did allow a good and helpful conversation to occur between me and my boyfriend😊
@brianneczechowski92092 жыл бұрын
Too short! I need more!
@mackenziewesten85062 жыл бұрын
The first secret: some men are just selfish and impatient. My ex barely ever went down on me, but I reciprocated almost every time we were intimate. I know for a fact I didn’t taste or smell bad (I have tasted it myself, no that’s not gross, and I always shower before I ask for oral, and I’m very very very conscious of any smells), but he just didn’t want to cause he was impatient. My bf is the opposite, and he loves to do it. I don’t get it often (I would if I asked for it more), but it’s nice knowing he likes it
@MarcusGlossin2 жыл бұрын
Sighs opening up a rift with or without y’all *anxiously looks to clouds for a gat city drone*
@joannemoore42512 жыл бұрын
That phone call overwhelmed me so much I had to skip through it
@izabelleohara14312 жыл бұрын
i love ur hair in this ep
@izzycocuzza92942 жыл бұрын
literally took notes on the dear man thing. live laugh love communication skills
@smoaktree Жыл бұрын
.......this is insane. Those men need to be in jail idc if 16 is legal in some states it doesnt make it right cause 16 is still a CHILD
@Mo-fx7hn2 жыл бұрын
Let me boost your ego real quick, you're very beautiful and have such a unique persona and down to earth soul. If I didn't see hermione granger when I was 5, you would've been my gay awakening, Excited to see if there's an update on Harry.
@mondler1072 жыл бұрын
LMAO LITERALLY THIS. Not the second part because my dumb ass brain didn't realize I was a gay woman until I was like 21 (I'm 27 now), but yessss I think many of us crush on Alyx! But in a way where I respect her so much and also just want to be her friend!
@Mo-fx7hn2 жыл бұрын
MEEE, I really respect her and want to be her best friend but appreciate her aesthetic beauty at the same time.
@mondler1072 жыл бұрын
@@Mo-fx7hnExactly!! ❤️
@scarlettmasquerade2 жыл бұрын
My secret: I have the BIGGEST crush on Meredith and simply don’t know how I’d handle having her as my therapist
@caitlintaverner95312 жыл бұрын
Honestly same
@Looselimbsmcgee2 жыл бұрын
Knee dislocations are sooo painful!!! I'm so sorry!!! I have hEDS so I have knee dislocations a lot, and I would never wish them upon my worst enemy. If it's a sprain I'm assuming you had a knee subluxation, where the patella goes out, but goes back in on its own.
@twopeasinapod1991 Жыл бұрын
The dads bsf story sounded like a lie lol
@mikehunt8170 Жыл бұрын
I literally grabbed a pen and paper to work through the Dear Man method and then wasn't prompted at all... how you gunna do that to me.
@cams_cams Жыл бұрын
You learn somthing new everyday
@ColeRobinson992 жыл бұрын
Love you 😽
@snowandfrogs2 жыл бұрын
44:48 "dear man" dbt technique
@heyanon45482 жыл бұрын
i met a girl online, we like each other. i'll see her face to face next week but i am a dumb person.. im scared about this😭
@Muted_Marcus2 жыл бұрын
Meredith!!!
@neelyconyers45112 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry but the story was very unbelievable... the having your mom sign you out of school even though you're in college?
@whitegamma51062 жыл бұрын
It was in high school, probably, he said he was 16 when it happened. He now goes to college
@emmie0992 жыл бұрын
To the girl who is recording her “friends” not only is it extremely invasive and messed up but she’s going to lose these said “friends” when they catch her recording something they’re telling her in confidence. It’s kinda of psychopath behavior. Especially because you don’t trust people… when you’re the one that people can’t trust.. kinda scary
@leahwilson89822 жыл бұрын
I’ve done that before but definitely not to that extent. My ex boyfriend was really pushy with me and sexually assaulted me. I took screenshots of him asking me to do stuff and of me saying no but him continuously not respecting my boundaries. I used the proof I had to get a restraining order. Sometimes I also record my father verbally and emotionally abusing me so I have “proof” if I ever needed it.
@emmie0992 жыл бұрын
@@leahwilson8982 yeah that’s WAYYY different and completely understandable and acceptable.
@uhmunaomi9669 Жыл бұрын
Dude this!! I hate how the person who submitted the secret was victimizing herself in order to justify her actions... "i have trust issues" girl NOW I have trust issues bc of people like you 😭
@arianalawson1362 жыл бұрын
Love you
@animalsandiphones2 жыл бұрын
I think these are trauma responses. Lot of people tend to have those thoughts during injuries.
@arianavail2 жыл бұрын
Another wild episode. Love when you bring your therapist on she’s a great addition!
@PrettiePessimistik2 жыл бұрын
did i miss ep 5 with harry omg im behind
@wilda98182 жыл бұрын
I feel like no one remembers one of the biggest thing at college that you did, I feel like you should do a story time on that.
@chicknsandwich13882 жыл бұрын
Okay buy is it bad that I've thought about doing the blackmail thing too the only think is stopping me is snapchat ss notifications
@kai_alex2 жыл бұрын
wait its illegal to record people? i have so much in my voice memos/videos of an abuse situation i was in as a kid- and i was trying to get a lawyer to bring the recordings to court to get away from my dad so will *I* get in troulbe if i brought that to a lawyer/court?
@KeevanNorton2 жыл бұрын
i don’t think so as they’re a family member, best of luck to you. i know what having an abusive parent is like 💞
@chanelhudson6666ssez2 жыл бұрын
The person who submitted the second secret seems like they really meet the criteria of being bpd
@ariannaacai2852 жыл бұрын
NO CAUSE I JUST LEARNED DEAR MAN IN THERAPY YESTERDAY
@rahee88642 жыл бұрын
Enjoyed the video as always. Also I already love amanda and meredith. I have a suggestion for the production! Because the person you talked on the phone with today had a deeper voice it was a bit hard for me to understand him. Maybe in such cases you could not lower the voices as much or add subtitles? Can’t wait for the next episode
@dezibear19992 жыл бұрын
I just submitted one I hope you read it I need the help 😭😂
@rf3442 жыл бұрын
SOMEONE TELL ME WHERE TO FIND THIS SWEATERRRR
@ayydubs2 жыл бұрын
Princess Polly Katie sweater : )
@krekiyosharts2 жыл бұрын
32:07 THIS SHOULDN’T BE FUNNY BUT WITH THE VOICE EFFECT..
@savannahj21602 жыл бұрын
Did anyone else notice Alix's voice sounded higher than normal here? Maybe just a sore throat. Just interesting
@chloenicole64342 жыл бұрын
To the girl whose man won't go down on her. Drink more water
@madi726182 жыл бұрын
I honestly have been a fan for so long and won't stop now but the therapist and Amanda are pretty annoying at times....like they will rant and interrupt and end discussions at places where it feels unnatural and I honestly just wish it was a little bit of a background thing again with Amanda also the therapist was wrong for the "suck it up" comment like that's just not something you say
@eyerenesbitch2 жыл бұрын
!!
@hejrjbrbfjekrjdjbf5931 Жыл бұрын
she said she sucks it up. she didn’t say for the other person to suck it up. she was talking about her experiences.
@tayasardelis7867 Жыл бұрын
Anh hát bằng cả trái tim bảo sao mà cứ ngọt lịm như vậy. Bài nào cũng cảm xúc luôn
@izabelleohara14312 жыл бұрын
i feel like alot of the comments are going to disagree but dumping him bc he wont go down on u is okay. If ur needs arent being forfilled then its okay to leave and find someone who well forfill them for you. Also why r u guys just assuming he is nd, alot of men just dont like going down on girls. Yes neurotypical men can not like going down on girl just bc they dont wanna 🤯🤯🤯