Your therapist is going to need therapy after this

I'm so happy that they're normalizing sleeping with a stuffed animal. Mine went with me in the ambulance to the hospital.

"It doesn't have to be physical to be abuse" is so important to remember! Also "I'm not a starving kid in Africa and will never be, but doesn't mean my situation isn't important." Traumatic invalidation can constantly hit hard and just being validated can be so incredibly healing! To the caller, I am so glad you could talk and process your experience with Alyx and Meredith and share with us! We FULLY believe you and I'm excited to read your poetry book "Writings of a Scarred Mind!" ❤️

Trauma validity. The theme of this episode. Wow. Another great episode, such a kind and open environment.

as someone who’s dealt with trauma invalidation the last story was super impactful & i feel oddly validated through your validation of her. so thank you to my fellow viewer for sharing & thank you alyx for being great❤️

Growing up I was homeschooled, & all of my homeschooled friends were really religious (most people are kept home for religious reasons so it’s not uncommon). When I came out as bi at about 14, multiple of my “friends” told me I was going to hell & were very hateful. Years later, I see on facebook that a few of those people who were horrible to me about being bi, came out as gay themselves. I understand now that they were just pushing their insecurities & shame on me

24:00 getting aroused by death to the point you are actively finding things to kill to get your sexual pleasure is a GIANT red flag. This is the type of disorder that some serial killers exhibit. Sometimes people don’t care about the harm they cause, which would fall more under psychopathy, but it sounds like you do care to some extent, which is useful, you can work with that. You absolutely need the help of a qualified therapist/psychologist in managing this. (When looking for a doctor, be aware that a “psychiatrist” prescribes medications, a “psychologist” administers therapy. If you go to a psychiatrist, they’ll try to fix what’s ailing you just with medication, because that’s the tool they have. In my personal opinion, many things can be addressed with therapy that cannot be addressed with medication, and even when medication is appropriate for someone’s situation, you STILL need talk therapy.) it is unethical and in fact illegal for a therapist to disclose anything about you to your family, including that they are seeing you at all. So you can seek support in managing this without your family ever knowing. If you are a minor, it may be more difficult to secure the therapist, but deadass just make up something else or go in focusing on a different issue you face. Someone who has a killing fetish, without intervention, is likely to act on it, because you have a huge incentive (arousal) to act on it. As said, you’ve already crossed into killing to satisfy this desire, and you’ve found a way to justify it to yourself-“they’re invasive animals, they’re small.” If someone works hard enough, they can justify anything to themselves. “Everyone dies someday anyway, they irritated me, they deserved it,” etc. So please don’t trust yourself to “only” restrict it to killing mice. This is a psychological landmine that likely existed in some form in your psyche before seeing your dog die, so it’s likely you would have had to face and deal with it at some point no matter what the ultimate trigger was to you finding out you have this desire. I hope that you can seek out a therapist who can help you manage this, it’s not something you can repress and hope it will go away, that’s how you got to the point of killing living creatures for pleasure. Would you like to be slowly drowned? Anything can be justified with the right turn of phrase, but you know you would not like to die a slow, torturous death, so that’s probably a good place to start in finding an incentive to get help managing this.

Turning this insane series into a podcast was the best possible thing are you kidding?! Looking forward to the next episode!!

the secret about the mice slowing dr0wn1ng really hurt my heart. i can’t imagine or picture it as mice are so so innocent! i hope the person seeks help, knows therapist-patient confidentiality so their parents or family won’t find out and finds peace. and i hope they stop what they’re doing.

Looooved the talk about invalidation of trauma. I spent SO many years of my life invalidating myself and my own experiences because they weren't as bad as what you typically think of as (big T) Trauma. I literally used to say to myself "why are you this way?? Nothing bad has ever happened to you!" which, as you can imagine, didn't help things at all! Then I went back to therapy 2.5 years ago, right before the pandemic started. My therapist at the time was a black woman (I'm a white woman), and at first I was apprehensive about asking a black woman to do emotional labor for me, but I figured that a.) I was paying her and b.) she could fire me if she didn't like me. In one of our earliest sessions, I started invalidating my own experience, comparing it to that of more marginalized people. She interrupted me and said "this is not the oppression Olympics," meaning that there's no point in comparing my own pain to someone else's. Hearing her say that may have been one of the most powerfully validating experiences I've ever had 💗

Lol was really hoping Meredith would come back to your teacher thing after the last secret. Guess I'll just have to wait for it to undoubtedly come back up in the future

as someone who resonates with the first secret, it never dawned on me to talk to my therapist about it. i guess i figured it was so normal because me and a lot of my friends did the same things online, that i never really thought about it anymore. i never realized that could possibly affect the way i maneuver through relationships now as an adult.

I love the therapist session !!!

i'm the caller from today's video, thank you guys so much for all of your supportive comments and comments on being validated. y'all have made me cry happy tears and made me so grateful i shared today. i was afraid to comment this and open myself up to the youtube comments but i decided it was too important not to. i also tried to comment before so if another comment shows up as me, i did comment that too hahah also, if y’all wanna reach out and can find me on instagram, please feel free. i would definitely leave my @ but youtube won’t let me :(

The story about the teacher makes me so angry because as someone who’s worked in schools and has a teacher parent I have always been taught the teacher/adult is always at fault for being inappropriate this makes me so sad the principal and teacher should be fired

The fact that she's a therapist and she still cuddles with teddy bears is so heart warming 💓

Therapist: "Did she just tell me her secret" Alyx: "Hope she doesn't think it's my secret,....let me bite my lips just to give off the wrong signal.......Don't stare...can't move my eyes........feed me"

As a prospective future psychology major this episode was so freaking interesting to me… I’ve been watching since the dawn of revealing your secrets and I adore this new format!! I honestly attribute some of my interest in psychology in general to this series so yeah thanks for that!!

Alyx I’ve watched you for years. I love love love this podcast. What a great use of your platform on KZfaq. As an empath some of the shared secrets you’ve had to read in the past, have left me feeling a sense of concern for some of the people who have shared with you. Like wow… you have had people share some very deep stuff. It’s a full circle moment seeing you able to address shared secrets in such a constructive helpful manner! Love this! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

11:29 this spoke to me so much. I carry around shame about the exact same situation almost of this secret. I was fully aware, yet I was a minor.

Being happy and listening to sad music, as someone who has a lot of trouble dealing with emotions, I will listen to sad music when I feel like I haven’t been sad or let out built up emotions to help release those emotions. It really helps me to feel complete and like okay, now I can move on I’ve been sad I can watch something that makes me happy now and I feel a weight lifted off of me.

bro i could never do this with my therapist 😭😭

To the last secret and talk, i must recommend a book that really helped me with my situation called my dark vanessa, it's controversial because a lot of teens classify it as romance but the trauma and situation is very relatable and so in touch with a real victim situation.

It’s amazing how the girl who was “groomed” by her teacher was validated and they let her know little by little that the situation was more nuanced than she was experiencing it.

I can never usually get through a hole podcast episode but yours is entertaining and engaging

just finished listening!! i’m already excited for meredith to come back 💟💟

i started DBT about a year ago & it changed my life drastically!! its hard work & i still have so much farther to go in my healing journey but i am so grateful for it

I seriously ADORE this and Meredith is amazing. You’re both amazing ❤️

Please keep the therapist on. I’ve learned so much about myself.

i just heard one of my fav content creators died… watching this made me smile and help me not fall into a horrible depression. thanks alyx and keep it up

Idk why but Meredith gives me "The L word" vibes, like she could've been a character on the show

i truly adore this episode where we were able to learn more abt professional info and also take in and learn from those who suffered due to invalidation. I had a good time listening and watching this💖

Alyx your therapist is so cool I love her

I love this podcast, it's such a great idea and the insights of a professional makes it educative in a way and also helpful to hear how others manage their life struggles

I am loving your podcast! Thank you for doing these!

I'm like so excited to see how this podcast will evolve, I hope it lasts a long time

This just made my day :) Love the Podcast so far!

Omg, thank you so much for talking about the term invalidation trauma. I FINALLY HAVE A WORD FOR IT. THANK YOU!

So excited to watch this

this is so interesting! i love how you brought your therapist into this, and the conversations are very enlightening

i honestly really relate to the one about how they can’t get over their therapist. i also have really bad attachment issues and it’s been two months since my ex and i broke up and even though we don’t speak and i’ve blocked her on all social media i still find ways around it to see what she’s been doing. i also make up narratives in my head about how she’s been missing me and she’s been pretending to be happy and is only dating her gf only to rebound from me and is only dating her cus she resembles me which is a really toxic mindset to have. i look for her a lot when i go out in public, like for example when i pass by her work i look to see if her car is there and sometimes i hope to just pass by her on the road or see her out in public. idk how normal this really is but a lot of my friends say it isn’t especially because we didn’t really date for that long and only knew each other for a few months before we started dating. i used to not get like this after a break up either so it probably has to do with my trauma but it’s still frustrating how she’s on my mind a lot. not in a way that makes me sad,, just in an obsessive way. anyways if u read this i hope u enjoyed and i’m sorry for lack of punctuation

sand therapy!?! whoa that brought back a memory of being I'm child therapy. I remember seeing a small sandbox or table top of sand in the room. I played with it once, but always wondered why it was there.. oouu I want more elaboration on that please!

alyx’s smirk at 14:45 we all knew what was coming next

This is everything we ever wanted and more!!! Great podcast

listening to this podcast, made me realize that I should be nice to everybody cos oh my god. I thought I had bad trauma but these people are amazing how they handled the trauma. From now on I'll be nice to everybody, because I may make them snap.

I cant believe this is actually real

i like your therapist she seems kind:💗) i hope u do more of these !!! i havent gone to therapy in probably 10 years and they were all not great so hearing you both talk amd hearing her therapist words is really really nice💞

I have to say.. I love this setting so much! it's so fun to listen to and watch!

I'm so glad you started a podcast!

this podcast is everything i have ever needed

Its the third one in the maslow pyramid, the first is vital needs, eating, sleeping and excreting, the second is security needs, third is affection and sense of belonging, fourth is self esteem and last is sense of accomplishment. The terms are maybe different, its an open translation from french

“IF YOU’RE HOMOPHOBIC YOU’RE PROBABLY GAAAAY” Bro that is my fav song tbh

This is too good to be true. A PODCAST.

Sending so much love to all these people, and especially the first person💗💗

Yessss 😍😍 so pumped

Ok so I’m going to watch this while eating delivery junk food. We can do this, I am manifesting for something not gross. We’ve got this. Edit: min 24:06 I was fine until that secret

Seeing those two smart woman talking was so intime, confortable, thank u for the podcast and the video 💓 COME TO BRAZIL

literally love this podcast 🙌🙌

Yayyy another wonderful episode!! ❤️❤️

“It’s an original 🤭”I’m dead

THIS IS EVERYTHINGGGGG I LOVE YOU

Alyx, we can tell how much hard work and dedication you’ve put into making this podcast and expanding the series in such a positive way. I hope you continue it for a long time to come. While I do love the long podcast episodes, I wish more secrets were exposed throughout the way your typical RYS vids are.

DBT changed my life too. It also saved my life! I'm now in Mentalisation Based Therapy (MBT) and am constantly blowing my own mind at how much I've learned and how much better I cope with things 😊

Absolutely love this podcast!!! ❤️

these videos gave me something new to look forward to lol

Are we not going to speak about how Pretty Little Liars also perpetuated this student/teacher relationship too? Like wtf why did they try to normalize or romanticize that creepy dynamic?

LOVE U DUBBBYYYYYYYYY

omg this is my favorite episode so far!!!

I'm really enjoying these podcast!Great work as always Alyx! 👏

Hell yes this is the content I signed up for

This is such a good idea! Man I love you so much omg

i never knew alyx had ticks before this video. at first i thought she was just rolling her eyes at the guest because she was annoyed by her lol

There was an entire year in junior high where I'd listen to "Scaliwag" by Gaelic Storm anytime I wanted to change my mind sent to a more upbeat energy. Usually when the depression was kicking my ass

I AM OBSESSED WITH THESE VIDEOS

Invalidation trauma, I need to research on that bc that hit straight to my heart

I needed this podcasttttt I love it.

Love this, alyx!

As a lover of dbt; this was so great to watch. I also really wanted to say how beautiful the validation you both gave was great to watch and as a survivor of abuse who was gas lit and told it didn’t happen; it made me feel seen. Thank you for these, I love the new set up. Didn’t know how I’d feel but I love it so much!

YESSS I LOVE YOUU!!!💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

Yesss dbt!! Lol recently just finished going to group. Honestly everyone should be taught dbt. Love you Alyx!! So excited you started a podcast

59:04 IM SORRY THE RELATIONSHIP WITH U AND YOUR THERAPIST S SO FUNNY LOl

Alex you look stunning in this, 3 minutes in, but I’m so exciteddddd yards bithhh💗💗

Love this podcast

i cannot sleep well with other people in the room. i hâte being touched, i hate noise and i hate restlessness even though i’m extremely restless when i am trying to fall asleep. that’s another reason why i like to sleep by myself, i am nervous about waking someone up or keeping someone awake with the tossing and turning. i also need SILENCE. no talking, no background noise, no phone or tv light, just darkness and silence. i usually sleep completely through the night without waking up, yet constantly wake up if there’s another person sleeping in the room.

You two really do have great chemistry 🤩

I LOVED THIS. Very therapeutic in a sort of odd way. Thanks Alyx

where the fuck do y’all find cool therapists

This video is gold.

elisha i’m so glad you came on the show!

I'm loving the podcast Alyx!

The fact that alyx needs to bring her therapist onto here just says something 😭

Early as hell! But also scared as hell!

It’s so cool to watch the channel progress

Yayyyyy another podcast

I love the podcast format and being able to hear from people via call

things are about to SHAKE

wooooo yayyyy !!!

sooo glad you made the podcast

i loved this soooo much

Your therapist has some nice shoes damn