Good morning team LNN, What message do you have for this lovely couple? Feel free to reach them on Santos: 0722842424 and Venus on 0722816167 Also feel free to Subscribe to Venus KZfaq channel here kzfaq.info/love/DLG6Ozl2ZNa3b-Z5Ue_Cxw We thank you for your love and support💛💛

Wow! I have learnt a lot today. I was once a victim in a toxic marriage and the partner was not willing to change even after trying every way possible to work things out🤔 I had to quit and even forgot everything about the past marriage 💪 I am happy and proud to say today that after moving on, good things came into my way👏👏 I have a wonderful wife ,handsome son, have a good paying job and many projects that were stuck by then are now complete and others are still going on. I really thank God. There is no more stress,drama,ulcers. What a blessing of a perfect family from the Creator❤️❤️❤️❤️

Have been married 22yrs also and have parked twice but hv fought for this marriage to stand with GODS grace am still here he loves me and the children sooo much ..its not easy but its doable..i have four children 2girls and two boys

This was a wonderful conversation. my take home.... 1. pray, pray, pray. 2. Don't lose yourself in marriage, love n build yourself as much as you can. 3. Don't be quick to pack... answers to prayers take time. 4. The devil is not happy with a successful marriage, he will try to steal, kill and destroy. Refuse, God has provided a life in abundance for all of us. 5. Ask for help, don't die alone. 6. Communication is key. 7. Read number 2 Thrice.

Flipping into comments to see who has noticed Robert Burale's image 🤔 😀 Very interesting story ... keep sowing Lynn 🤗

The man in this story showed commitment and he also took responsibility which is not common in some African men especially when they are in the wrong. The lady is just exceptional in understanding and in knowledge. God bless your beautiful marriage it takes two.

It was toxic until it wasn't toxic anymore. Not every one can deal with toxic relationships fir 12 years

I have a friend whose wife left him 17 times, going back to her parents. (She secretly told me this story - not him - after my wife had left me for the second time). Each time he went back for her. When she took off the 18th time and he went for her, her mother told her: "if you leave him again do not come back here." The lady was ultimately very grateful for the advice and especially that her man had gone back for her again and again and not given up. AT the time in the 17th year of their marriage, she was advising me not to give up - which I had done as a man fed-up after 10 years of marriage. They remain happily married and to watch them lovey-dovey you couldn't believe all that had taken place.

Watching from Uganda 🇺🇬 greetings our neighbors from Kenya 🇰🇪 please vote wisely

The world is full of confusion,, some will tell you to pray for your husband or wife to change, others will tell you that you can’t pray for your cheating partner 🤔🤔 so which is which 😞😞, choose your confusion wisely 😊

I would listen to this woman Venus over and over again without getting bored... She's such a vibe 👍❤️❤️

Lynn indeed you look absolutely amazing in that dress....together with your warm ❤, passion and commitment to your cause, you are a 99.9% fully packaged woman. No doubt the man in your life or shall one day be, shall be a lucky one. I pray that he never hurts you. I affirm you 100%. Keep it up. The guests are equally amazing and blessed like you and God's grace is sufficient for all of you 👪 👏👏 Behind the Camera there is an incredible, shy and very competent clue led by the awesome Ochieng that your fans Lynn never get to see despite the fact that they carry a substantial amount of contribution to your daily content. I personally acknowledge and affirm them. It's never easy to package such captivating and educative content day in day out without sheer hard work. Ochieng accept my sincere affirmation of your role in this globally acclaimed masterpiece-content. Big up man..

Lynn you are heavenly sent.i almost walked out of my marriage today then came across this video it just touch me and will truly fight for my marriage.God bless

"Accept, Adjust and Advance" "No one is perfect" Such a blessing to listen to such amazing people. And the way LN explores their knowledge and experience is so magnificent.

Marriage is work, but it shouldn't be confused with 'kuteseka'😂.

I have been married for exactly thirty years,and this session has teach me alotand it has made me know that I have alot to work on to my marriage and family as a whole..

Venus and Santos, so great to hear your story. I was there 21 years ago when you met, you still look so good together😍 I have loved how vulnerable both of you were as you shared your journey and the wisdom you have garnered in the process. I can see and testify of that character development. Look at what the Lord has done!! Surely, there is hope for marriages after listening to you. Can't wait to hear about the pillars of marriage🤩 Lynn, I love how you guide and direct conversations. You are a beautiful and wonderful host!🥰

This year my marriage has been crazy and very tough and was almost leaving. After listening to you guys I have decided to fight for my marriage. Thanks Lynn for bringing them on this show.

Can we just appreciate how young and beautiful they look. Wow! I want my marriage like this

Very mixed feelings here 1. As a parent you do not chase away your children when they come back to you, first just welcome them embrace them and give them a safe space until they are ready to talk or ready to go back. 2. She calls the so called friends who were ready to help her with money to sort her divorce as not a friend. This lady made her decision to leave she filed for divorce and she did not have the money and a friend was there for her... how then do you call the same person not a true friend???? As for the salvation good for both

I wouldn't send my daughter back to circumstances she is running away from. She should always feel like she can come to me. Going back should be her decision.

Thanks Lynn for this show I have learnt a lot. I have understood myself better because I have been raised by abusive dad who instilled alot of fear in us and I think this as been hunting me for many years...and now I have to work on myself... Venus she is blessed she is such a vibe...

1. Make sure your marriage is from God(helps you avoid a lot of trauma and heartache) 2. When you build your spouse, do it whole heartedly and also make sure you grow as well !

Dear ladies... An elderly woman once told me..you know how we love marriages and comfort when we are in our 20's n 30's.its the same comfort men. Want in their 40's n 50's.so if a man misbehaves earlier on in your marriage n changes years on...it's not answered prayer...it's now that he needs comfort and a home to come back to...and heshima ya society...ati ithe WA ng'ania na kuitwa function za wazee

I cdnt hold my tears 😢 this part touched my heart, where he said, " I dint want to end up alone in old age" Indeed marriage is not a bed of roses. As the Bible says, what God has put 2gether let no man put asunder. May God be at the centre of all covenant marriages. Thank u for sharing

Beautiful story there… As you pray for a husband, pray and wait for one who is ready to become a husband not just one that wants a wife. After and while praying, WAIT! The art of waiting not just praying is something that has been lost by our generation. Waiting! Yes he might be the one, even God may say he is the one. But more than just getting married, you must not marry him until God thoroughly trains him on becoming a good husband, leader, a good father and priest of your home!! Amos 3:3, shall two walk together except they agree….. life is too short to spend 12years of it praying for character change. Meanwhile, Lynn Ngugi and Zulu are such a blessing to this generation ❤️ listening to their wisdom will bless you

This was the best couple's discussion ever. Thanks Santo and Venus. Many blessings.

In my opinion. I think you both started not at the right place. If you had done the ndoa counseling to prepare you for marriage. Maybe you would not have gone to your home 12 times. I also believe, God would not direct you to sin by yoking yourself with someone who is not a believer. Lastly, I do not support parents sending back their daughters when they come back home just because there was a big wedding. I am happy that your marriage is working but let us not glorify some things in the name of being real. Some things are just mistakes that we should avoid as believers. It is a great talk because a lot of marriages are in these kind of situations but for those who have not yet gotten in this institution. Just avoid some things.

This lady is just a vibe. Her energy is on another level and I can see how passionate she is about marriage and making marriages work💖💖I 've learned a lot.

Why does marriage in an African context feel like the guy living his best life and the woman hurting everyday. A lot of women come out of these marriage with terrible diseases, I feel like a lot of his bad behaviours was hidden or put out as domestics. I would never want my daughter to sacrifice her life for a man hoping that he’ll change. I’m happy that she’s happy but these are the marriages that are making women suicidal.

As much as I appreciate their vulnerability, I see alot of glorified red flags only for her to brand them religious names. I don't get how she calmly say that infidelity is "part"of marriage struggles. The moment she said that a friend offered to help her when she wanted to seek legal council only for her to castigate her and call her names yet she is the one who sought help. You were gaslit to think in a certain way, and just because you do, doesn't make it true / correct. So many red flags but she's trying so hard to turn them green.

Dear Lynn,well done. I feel this couple needs to start a KZfaq channel on marriage so they could help other couples

Thank you Lynn for bringing this couple on board I must say I have learnt alot av known things that I never knew and av now known better the next time am getting into a serious relationship I know how I can handle some issues without creating dramas or without having to walk away at every slightest provocation..I am blessed with this story

Loved this conversation. Can relate so much to their marriage journey. A testament to any one, single, newly weds, seasoned marriages that God has to be the glue for a thriving marriage. thanks for sharing your story, we need to celebrate and testify that their are succesful marriages. I can attest to it. God bless you Venus and Santos and may He continue to use your marriage to testiy of HIs goodness

Wishing you all my fellow Kenyans back at home to vote wisely and maintain Peace Amani my lovely brothers and sisters ❤️🙏🏿🇰🇪🇰🇪lovely story and a fantastic couple

Am in my twenties and this is the best platform I get to learn more and more things about life. I love it when Santos says you can lose 80 when focusing on 20 .

Thank you for this story. I love this couple! Their wisdom is just so fresh and genuine. Their examples are so realistic and are real challenges facing marriage. They are a real couple. Thanks so much for bringing this couple Lynn. The more that they speak, the more I am nodding my head because everything they are saying is so true! Don't leave 80% for 20%. Marriage requires someone to always be working on the relationship's survival. Even the temptation of affairs. The husband saying that when she shines, I shine too made my heart melt. Where are men like this? This is an amazing one. One of my best apart from that other couple that was on the show a few weeks ago.

I sat down, listened ,learnt and kept it all in my heart just like Mary the mother of Jesus when she was visited by the angel. Great interview

From every LNS shows have watched...just learnt that we should put God in everything we do...a single prayer can move a mountain.

I listened through almost without a blink. Purpose is strong, beautiful couple, beautiful story.

Marriage is not battle, wise people make it work! This is proverbs 31 woman really we don't submit foolishly, this type of man is thorn that Paul had, God couldn't remove it! 😰 He changed him at his own time! Life lessons! Kudos Lynn for positive story! You're absolutely smart 🙏

Thank you for this discussion 😍. That was the shortest 2 hours that I've watched. The kiss 😘 was wonderful; keep that love burning 🔥.Today I complimented hubby on his outfit 🌟. It's important to tell your partner what hurts you about his behavior. It's equally important to do things for him that he really likes 💞

Benjamin Zulu needs to review this😄....there are certain tears that you can avoid. Kindly don't start your relationships this way. Their "luck" may not be yours.

This story… First, not all marriages have this degree of drama. Biggest red flag was her marrying someone, clearly knowing his lifestyle but hoping to change him. Two, her father sending her back home is nothing to laugh about. Luckily there was no physical abuse involved. Three, all I hear is an emotionally immature young bride that threw tantrums in various ways trying to elicit a reaction from her husband. The two were incompatible from the very start. A major component in any marriage. In my opinion the only thing that saved this marriage was the husband’s calm nature. I’ve been married over twenty years and as a woman even I got exhausted listening to her drama back then. Yes he had issues but, she married someone who did not uphold anything she stood for, then proceeded to blame him for not living up to her standards. I also cannot agree with the idea of encouraging women to spend years of their married lives miserable, praying that someone will change. Meanwhile your own life is passing you by. Marriage should be harmonious from beginning to end, even with day to day life challenges. But choose compatible partners. Finally, regarding man caves… they need it. Let them retreat from time to time and leave them alone. Women, occupy your time with other things in the meantime. He will eventually come out mentally ready to engage.

The gentleman looks like Robert Burale's brother........God bless the family

She's brilliant. Each of them are very aware of what they at individual levels. The good thing is he was willing to change for the better. Marriage is very tricky. You came in there not knowing your temperament or his, dealing with issues of the past,then the package of children, inlaws, friends,finances, drunkardness and so forth only God can help. Its never easy.

I know Santos,we grew up in the same neighborhood.Thanks for sharing your story.... marriage is a beautiful blessing.

I love the humor Venus have, she's just funny 😆..

Relationships, Christianity and Kenyans we can be so interesting. A few minutes in- "I was a church girl (because that's what I was taught, by a family which left me with trust issues (read childhood trauma), he was a raha guy (read character development)...but 'God told me this is the one'...and then I shikiliad for 21 years as guy found himself" 😅. No thanks. Women, let's work on self love, self worth, self awareness and maybe these trauma bonds will not be passed down to the younger generation.🥶. I am very curious about whether the kids are going for therapy and especially the girl children, what's their perception of marriage ?

Thank Lynn for this particular episode. The couple has taught us a lot about marriage. I love their vulnerability, the fact that there is no perfect marriage. it takes hard work to make it work and both parties have to be willing to cooperate. Good job Venus and Santos.

This is what love really mean. They all made an effort and that's why they're where they're. Am inspired as a woman. thanks Lynn am natured

Never look for a pretty face it will turn old one day, Never look for perfect skin it will wrinkle one day, Never look for colourful hair it will turn white one day and lastly Never look for perfect man/woman no one is perfect instead look for a royal heart that will love you and Never change

There's nothing as exciting as a comeback - seeing someone with dreams, watching them fail and then getting a second chance, an opportunity to make an additional effort at accomplishing something or reaching a goal after failing! Kudos to this wonderful couple,God bless you both!

Beautiful Couple with an amazing story. I'm inspired. Thanks LN for the great show... I'm a single Mum and still trusting God to have a family. when the time is right he will make everything beautiful ❤️

When Venus said "I thought I was gonna get married to a pastor" then Santos laughs his heart out😂😂

Marriage is not easy. It takes compromise, sacrifice, and revealing yourself to another person. However, if you are willing to work and submit to the process, it Mostlty promises great reward.

Having Venus as one of my role model in Rotaract has been a very inspirational.This is a couple I treasure.

Can we count the number of times that Santo has reffered to his wife's point or remarks 🤗🤗🤗.. simply beautiful ❤️💕

Never marry the one you can live with, marry the one you cannot live without.

Wow, interesting conversation. I know Santos from Campus, and I'm glad things worked out for them. There's a lot to learn from their story, and the most important for me is that both partners have to work on the marriage. I also agree that childhood trauma affects r/ships a lot and needs to be dealt with. Finally, you come first as a person and you have to first take care of yourself - this is a gem. Venus, will def. follow you.

I love this couple and the fact that their marriage worked after alot some of us were not able to be patient on. I've learnt alot and May those who are entering into marriage learn from this couple, as well as those in marriages already. God bless you more ❤️

A lady who has done this repeatedly can do it anytime..sometimes financial security is wht makes such women stay

Thank you Lynn, Venus and Santos.. This is a very powerful episode, would it be possible Lynn, for you to host an episode specifically on men with toxic women so that men also get help. Men also require that attention that they give to women. The behavior of most men is molded by how they are treated by their women in the home.

They're an amazing couple.thats what we call couple goals.i really enjoyed watching them expressing there feelings towards each other.may God bless that union

Best couple conversation ever. They are so real and open. The kind of mentors we need

Am encouraged marriage is not a scam, true love exists

Ladies love yourself and leave toxic marriages. A man should want to change for himself first . I wouldn't encourage such a marriage. Women we should pray for ourselves and also for toxic husbands from afar.

Me am victim of going for 20 and almost lost 80 but thank God I changed my mind and went back to my husband.

A friend that cares will take your word as you put it….. sending you money doesn’t mean your friend was bad. I feel you should withdraw your words……

Oh no baby this ain’t it ! Struggle love should not be worn as a badge of honor ! We need to stop glamorizing struggle love . Women , esp African women have been groomed to go through the fire , to the limit , pushed to the wall , being dragged through the mud by their men just to prove their love in the relationship. Men expect their women to put up with things they know very well they wouldn’t put up with if they were in that position. The amount of times a male will cheat on his woman and then pray and beg for her to stick around and work through the pain and stay with him . If the script was flipped , would your partner have endured that pain and stayed as well ? Yes love can be hard , but it’s not meant to be difficult. Same way it’s meant to be simple but it’s not always easy . Stay away from relationships that keep on attacking your peace . Love isn’t a constant battle . We need to raise our kids to know better ! I wouldn’t want my kids to see me going back and forth all those times in the name of fighting for my marriage . No no !

The two of you looks so good together. Wish you the very best.

This is what I have wanted to see for a long time…a show with healing 👏👏👏👏

Aki these great lady amenifungua macho...mimi nikikasirika,nakuaga kaa nimezitupa..lakini nimelearn the importance of keeping calm when am angry nisiseme maneno itahurt my partner for the rest of his life..thanks for talking about this great couple ..hamjui mmesaidia watu wangapi?b blessed

That couple is ready material to heal many people. I love that they mix all with God and faith and their frailty . The are "wounded healers"

Marriage is really beautiful even with its ups and downs. It's a representation and the image of who God is. Watching and listening to this story,i honestly see a perfect God intervening in imperfect people and turning around the imperfections and the results are soul saving, self awareness,insight, empowerment,and an encouragement to many. More blessings and grace to their Marriage and all other marriages . Great work you're doing Lynn and looking beautiful as always.

It's a shame the dad chased her. Just shows how people live for the society. Sad

What a beautiful couple! I just love the way her husband looks at her. Lesson I learnt do not keep things in your heart speak up! The state of the union idea is amazing. If I do find my husband I will definitely incorporate this idea. Thank you so much for sharing. Lynn you are so beautiful and your fashion is on point. So proud of what you are doing keep up the good work!

Very important point men should be reminded seriously, mostly our African men needs to care for their women all round-Body, mind and soul-I like the way she put it. I have seen so many women cheat because their husbands have never told them how beautiful they look but someone out there is always telling them how beautiful they were created! Ukipiga kalook unataka your hubby Hata akwambie babe, you look more beautiful every day but instead wanasema be careful hapo nje!

I think all couples should take time and reflect on the state of the union. That was so amazing

Thanks, Lynn for this vlog it was filled with so many lessons not only for a couple in marriage but also for a single person contemplating marriage. I am happy the day the Lord exposed me to your KZfaq channel. Nuff love from Jamaica!!

I want a man who will at me the way Santos looks at his wife....it is super cute and adorable

Did they just say they are above 40s ....ooh my they look very young..am so happy for them and thanks for encouraging us

I like Santo's personally....Calm, collected and a good listener 😊

I really needed to hear this, I feel encouraged.

Wueeh apart from all the marriage talk..can we just take a moment to appreciate how beautiful this woman is 😍 with a 22 year old son and still looking that young

This marriage survived because the couple had passionate love for each other and Mr Santos was not physically abusive.

This was worth watching I've been praying n praying for my marriage. I'm so thankful that u shared such a beautiful prayer of hope They can tackle how to over come infedelity and how to deal when u feel neglected and not loved

Great story here. Thank you Lynn for having both of them on set. This is so balanced and helpful. Keep on.

Wow thankyou Lynn for bringing this couple on the show I've really learnt a lot,personally I'm the type of blocking and I always things going my way but I decided to work on myself when I once heard Benjamin Zulu talking about that behaviour he called it out and I realised it's toxic, atleast I've heard from a person who's been there and they are thriving. Such a beautiful family.

Every marriage has a story and lessons we can all learn from. Keep up Lynn you are a blessing to many.

I got married to a widower. Paid fees for his two daughtets, paid rent for them and generally improved their lives. Finally, nilipigwa character development.

Lynn be blessed to go far like Oprah Winfrey. Such story are very educative and God bless this couple.

How many were waiting for an introduction with "Churchill in it😂😂 "marriage ain't a joke ..that's all I can say for now...it needs two partners who are ready,focused and with the same goal to create an empire

This was a wonderful marriage inspiration. I love that God is in the centre of it all. I just want to add that as we fight against divorce, let's also be very aware of where to draw the line. Women have been conditioned to take so much in the name of saving the marriage and their strength and success is in how much crap they take.

Lovely... great advice. I would love Venus to come alone and narrate that journey candidly... I feel I din't hear that journey well and she is such a good story teller ✅

Greetings as I remain totally spellbound watching this vlog. Venus and Santos talk about their real lived lives with all the ups and downs. No pretending on LNN just raw, plain truth! I love their openness and willingness to bare all of their authentic selves. The value of their relationship is obvious. The 'talker' and the 'listener' works very well for Venus and Santos as they both respect 🙌 🙏 each other to the maximum. I love the fact that Santos is not threatened by Venus - his strong, besitiful, opinionated and accomplished best friend, wife, mother of his children, etc. Lynn and team, you continue to chose the right topics/guests - your timing is perfect! As Venus and Santos continue to grow in God's goodness as a couple, kudos to them for their frankness. Lovely colours Lynn - you are looking fabulous 👌 as usual. Blessings to you and your team.

A whole marriage sermon right here🔥🔥💯

If someone or something is meant for you,surely it will will stay

When a woman shines her husband will get the glory too, you can see that this lady is a no nonsense person and her husband knew it too. You see he findeth a good woman but he has to fight is demons (alcohol) to actually be with her for the long haul, she believes strongly in marriage and family. May you continue to be on this page until the end of time.

I wish this lady would decide to write a book Can't get enough of her knowledge