Her desperation for a man needs to be healed and put in check immediately

Insecurity will have you doing things for a man that is out of this world. I pray that she gets coaching and start realizing her worth.

Please ladies, listen to what Tony is saying. My first cousin met a man in the military. I am not for sure how long they dated but he eventually got stationed in another area. She up and moved her and her children to where he was stationed. She moved in with him. One day, she left her two young girls with this man to go and run an errand. She thought she really knew him. This man ended up killing her youngest daughter. He got so mad at the daughter that he ended up killing her. The baby was only 4 at the time. This happened in the mid 90's. He ended up being convicted and went to federal prison. About a year ago, he came up for parole and was denied. He is still in prison today! He has been locked up now for over 20 years. Ladies, I have to say this, but he was a brother. Please take this serious! If I told you the guy's name, you can look him up on google and read all about it! This story made headline news! I am only sharing this story because I want you ladies to be careful and PLEASE STOP TAKING YOUR CHILDREN AROUND MEN YOU DON'T KNOW! God bless you all!!!

I'm seeing far too many mothers being much too loose with the safety and well being of their kids 😢

I really wish every single female in the world knew who Tony Gaskins was. This man has taught me so much. The number of toxic, grown boys i have blocked from my life since i started watching Tony Gaskins.. omg. Thank you TONY!!

Sis, a real man will take the lead when he truly loves. You won’t have to uproot you’re life or chase after him, which is why you must take you’re time to see any red flags. If you are too willing or over zealous it sends him a message , “oh she desperate.” This is how he knew he could treat you whatever way he wants. He was running game the entire time. You’ll be alright. Ask God before you make any decision with men. Discernment will either tell you yes, no, or wait. Peace will be evident when the right man comes into you’re life. Praying blessings for you and your children.

Never Inconvenience Your Children For A Man..

Tony this situation saddened the Holy Spirit. That is why tears filled your eyes. The Lord planned better for his daughter (even if she's been living in sin and self hate). Sis: if nobody told today, we love you❤ and so does Jesus🙏🏾🙏🏾

Our poor lil babies how they suffer at the hand of immature empty aldults. GET HEALED PLEASE!!!

Sis, he liked the idea of being with YOU when it was convenient for HIM, not you and the kids that he never met...

I don’t mean to sound judgemental but I can’t believe women are this careless with their children.

It hurts.... To look in the mirror and come to terms with everything you allowed, survived and permitted. It's embarrassing... There will be times of shame, tears and heartbreak. Go through it. On the other side is clarity. Self forgiveness, promises to yourself and your children for better. To do better. To realign yourself for your legacy. Put your all into your children. Practice self care. You'll find peace and help others from your experiences. Blessing to you and yours 💞

When Tony was on that phone telling them children to shut up 🤣 if he ain't the truth!! That dern Tony smh! somebody send me his cash app, I ain't neva met a man so real and I love his heart. All I see is love in his videos. I see so many people on youtube gifted and talented but the Bible even says you can have all the gifts and talents but if you don't have love, you don't have nothen. The greatest of all is love. God bless you Tony 💯

I beg you women PLEASE STOP HAVING MEN AND WOMEN AROUND YOUR CHILDREN!!!! I prayed today over a teen girl contemplating suicide because of mom's boyfriend. Please stop traumatizing these kids!!

Sis!!! I’ve been in a long distance relationship. We all make mistakes in the name of love. Out of desperation, insecurity, fear, lust.. etc. So there is no judgement. However.. it’s time to MOVE ON! This person is obviously a grown boy who is extremely toxic!! He needs help. Turn him over to the lord. And like Tony recommended... YOU NEED A LIFE COACH (I say it in love) I’m a coach on My Mentor. One of my topics is Break Ups... I’d love to talk further. We are here as a community to support! We have to do better & it takes a village!! Stay encouraged and choose YOU!!! God Bless!!!!

I have a friend that loves online dating. I swear every other week she’s telling me she thinks she’s found the one. The desperation is real. She’s makes great money and if only she could put that same energy into traveling and loving herself she would be okay.

"Marriage is not going to save you".........such a revelation. Thanks Tony!!!!!!

“You lying 😒” 😂 that look was hilarious.

Tony This is very disturbing and hope her angels are safe. I hope she's listening to your much needed information. Bless you.

Sister, I suggest not dating for a good while and really, really dive deep into the meaning of self-love, what it is, looks like, feels like, etc. You cannot fathom how much God loves you if you do not love yourself. You must get new knowledge EVERYDAY for at least a year! It’s that serious for your healing! I wouldn’t suggest something that I haven’t done. God Bless!

Funny Moment: We he checked the time stamp on the email and said she was lying 😩😅😂👀

Tony I can feel your emotions reading this. I know it's hard to keep seeing ladies getting used and abused. I just pray she heeds your advice. God open her eyes. Amen

Tony told the whole truth on this one. The woman is going to be crying in the car.

Lady act like he dead. Block and delete him.

I feel so bad for the kids, they are the innocent ones in all of this. Women have to wisen up and put your kids first period! They rely on you to be stable in mind not adjust your life based on the whims of a man or your emotions.

When Tony said, "he's Jehovah Witness and I'm Christian",,,GOT TO GO!! What a hot mess we put our selves in! Wow!! That hole in our hearts that we fill with a man, will never do. God our Father is the only one that can fill our empty cisterns. Thank you Tony again for truth!

I’m here as man bro! I’m changing it’s a long road but I’m becoming a real man . Everything you explain here is so real , wish me luck , may I get her back. I have faith in god

And I'm ONLY saying that bc I WAS PLAYED for 27 years.......DO NOT wait that long!!!! Please!!!!!!

15:45 I am in tears 😂😂😂😂 Put that brake petal in your purse sis 😭😭

Not trying to judge. But a real relationship is needed with God. Not a form of Godliness. I think she needs to master being alone and enjoying her children first, then your true Man of God will find you ma’am. I agree with Tony this is a grown boy but you appear to be a grown girl. Sis love yourself and your children. Take your mind off a Man. I’m single with four children and still praying and waiting on God to send me the Man for me. It’s not easy but I know it will be well worth it. Btw my children are teenagers and young adults. So sis renew your mindset and get a new focus. Love you! ❤️💯

Okay this is a lot and being an empath, I can feel her pain. The disturbing part is that she was love bombed by a flaming Narcissist. Sis work on healing and yourself worth. 3 months was way to brief to uproot yourself for a man that has no actual relationship with you let alone your children. Cut him off, this is a form of control and abuse! Forgive yourself and reset.

I believe what you’re feeling is compassion from the Holy Spirit, regardless of the scenario. Just confirmation this is your ministry right here. If a minister lacks compassion, he/she has no business being in ministry. This was great to see in all honesty. I love seeing servants of God moved by the Holy Spirit because it shows the goodness of God, the very heart of the Father. You are truly called and a blessing to us all, brother. God bless. 🙏🏽

I sense a huge lack of self-esteem and yearning for love from a man that she never got from her dad. So sad! Focus on yourself sis! You need to deal with your unresolved trauma so you can be better to yourself and for your children before you even think about bringing another man in the mix. No man near or far can save you, you need to save yourself!

Sis, just take the L, get on your knees and thank our Heavenly Father you dodged that bullet!! God is protecting you and your children..you'll b aight love ❤🙌🏾🙏🏾

If you are looking for loving advice, please do not read this comment because you will not find it here I also receive these types of letters and they blow my mind. It never ceases to amaze the depths some women will sink to in order to keep a trifling, broke man. You want to know why so many black kids are screwed up these days? Look at their (mostly single) mothers. This woman moved her kids to live with a man they had never met, a man she only knew for a hot minute. He could have been a child molester, but protecting them clearly never crossed her mind. She's an unfit mother who is selfish, desperate, delusional and has no self esteem. I would have called DCFS on her too! When I do this kind of coaching, I'm like Tony. I can only be so sympathetic to women like this. How can you have such disregard for the lives and well being of your children? This woman DESPERATELY needs counseling.

You find some woman like to rush into a relationship, some don't care if he is still married or not. But once she start loving herself first, I believe she will make better decisions. Awesome video. Stay Bless and Safe.

She sounds like the type of woman that will leave her children for a man.

I see alot of women allowing guys to come around their kids and barely know them. I know a woman that gave keys to her place after 45days and she has two daughters. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Tony, I know you joke about retiring from life coaching because of some of the questions you get. But this situation right here is why God called you to do this. I know it's frustrating. But people need you. It's hard to see outside of a situation when you're in it. I thank God for you. Please keep up the work God called you to do.

Feel like a lot of women are desperate for love. Don’t mean any harm by saying this because I use to be that woman falling for anything and everything..thank God for growth & for your channel Tony. 🙏🏽

A dude told me he wanted a pic of me to show my future mama law. I said dang at least buy me dinner first and cut his behind off. Wasn't finna have me hanging from the highest tree.

I pray this woman realizes that she is a Queen and to always put your kids first sis dont ever put a Man before God or your kids. This man is definitely a Grown Boy. My suggestion is to love yourself and put your energy into your kids.

There has to be balanced - moving too fast can only make you a stuck victim of love bombing. Let the honeymoon phase wear off before you make heavy commitments 💯

Speaking as someone who was raised a Witness (no longer though): if that man claims that faith and is trying to have sex before marriage, he could get dis-fellowshipped. If you're a serious Witness fornication is big no.

Too soon to move your kids in with a man. I knew a man 2 full years before I realized he was as crazy. These women be soooo quick and thirsty to want a man. She done threw all caution to the side. Smh

💎Come through DRIP!💎 That's my Brotha right there!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 It's okay to flex a lil bit.💪🏾 Only jealous & insecure folks gon' hate.

"Desperation"" Is Never the Way!!! SLOW YOUR ROLE ...NO SEX PERIOD...

OMG! She uprooted her kids for a man :(. Let's pray that she leaves and she learns her lesson!

Prayed for you sweet girl you deserve better

Sis if he loves you today he will love you in the future. Don't be in a hurry. Remember to keep yourself and your children safe first and foremost. Love yourself and know that you are worth more and you and your children deserve better. Read Tony's books and watch his videos daily! God bless you. God will bring you through! Its not too late to make better choices.

Tony I know these stories are sad and help is needed, but I can't help but laugh at your facial expressions LOL. I just choked on my food when you said commercial break!!!! I'm so sorry to the sister that is going through prayers up for you and your kids. you have to take care of yourself and kid, that you have now and definitely no fornication God will not honor that sis. Until you heal from within you will never be able to love someone else or recognize love when it does come. Trust God and remember there are no boyfriends and girlfriends in the Bible, only wives and husbands, set yourself up to be a wife, a great mother and a righteous example to your kids.

Sister, we love you and support you.

We women need to be wise and not get played but men need to stop promising the moon and stars. And then getting angry when women get caught up in chasing the fantasy. We both need to learn our lessons and do better. I was planning on moving for my boyfriend and then STILL moved AFTER he BROKE UP with me. After a 2 year situationship, lots of stress, confusion and heartbreak, I really hope I've learned my lesson!

Tony...I grew up as Jehovah's witness. They do not celebrate any holiday holidays except for Easter. But they aren't supposed to even date outside their religion and sex outside of marriage will get you disfellowshiped..so this guy is definitely sus on all levels...keep giving that knowledge!

Invest in yourself, read books, watch Tony's videos. There are alot of women moving across the country to be with a man... No, no, no please if anything do it for your kids. 🙏

That sign language he uses for tossing and flipping. Hilarious!

You have the gift of saying the Harsh Truth and being hilarious at the same Time ! 😆😆😆 Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Greetings from France 🇫🇷

Damn sis, tighten up! Love yourself, God bless 😘❤️

It’s the jehovah witness scene for me. “visualizing Christmas trees, and I was born but don’t have a birthday.”Listen I laughed the whole way through this video. 😂 . But seriously I have been in the Shoes of all these women who write in. But Thank God for Tony’s teaching, I’ve learned all the red flags and games. However, I will keep learning because when you stop learning you stop growing

Baby girl... please let this man go. Work on you. Self-healing is key!!

His examples are hilarious..I couldn't stop laughing. He said buy a brake pedal....I can't. Sometimes we don't realize what we're doing while we're in it. But when it's over, we can see clearly. I hope she keeps it moving and heals from this grownboy.

This heartbreaking Sis. I pray for your mind, body, spirit, and Godly Wisdom. I plead the Blood of Jesus over you and your children. I pray that God place people in your path that will edify your spirit and strengthen your inner man. Bless the fruit of her womb Father. I pray this in Jesus name. A-men.

Whew, help Lord 🙏🏾 strength, peace, & self love.

You can believe in a religion but if u not living the lifestyle u are not a Christian/ Witness. It’s too many people who have put in that work and gave themselves to God for just anyone to be claiming they are Christian or a Witness. You may study it or believe it but it’s the lifestyle and relationship with God. 💯💯💯

....It's good that you reached out for help, you can recover from this. However, you have to put in the work. Take a few coaching sessions with Tony Gaskins, it will be a great investment in you. For now stay strong and do the " inner" work for your children as well. God bless you sis.

Dear lady, this is a turning point, if you are smart. Thank God that he didn't hurt your kids first and yourself. Love your self first and pay attention and love to your children. That's is your job. Love yourself.

She really moved way too fast and he could have been a serial killer. She put herself and her children in potential harm.

Your empathy evoked mine and I cried while you were reading this. God help this lady and her children 🖤

Well, I can fully stamp that a long distance relationship is NOT real. I survived one. Since I'm retired and my time is mine, we agreed I could move versus him relocating his job. He lived closer to the beach; always wanted to live within a mile of a beach. I went to visit for a week and his mask came off. Not only was he trying to force himself inside of me with his vastly utilized community "body," he abused me in other ways.... I lowered my worth. I can do better alone than be with some broken person for the sake of saying that I have a "man." Thank God her children were not physically harmed. I wonder if she's sat down and talked with them about their feelings on that situation?

My advice to her, 1. Forgive yourself for making the wrong choices and forgive anyone who has hurt you in the past. 2. Go to therapy(8 session)and get a life coach (12 sessions) 3. Focus on your children ,don't make the mistake of hurting by focusing too much on men. Children know everything and it can effect them for life. 4. Take a break from dating until you have healed and you have fallen in love with yourself again. Take this time to invest in your growth

Tony I am wiping my face too, not crying but I am scratching my head🤔.... The commercial break for me 🙈

Hey Dr. Gaskins! Dont make no excuses for the blessings. Well deserved.🙏

Sis make sure you don't put your precious children in potentially harmful situation, Praise GOD nothing happened to you and your children, Go too The Lord and Repent and also forgive yourself. I will be praying for you and your children in the Spirit my heart is heavy towards you 🙏 Blessings to you 🙏❤️

Waymint...July 2020-October 2020? Maybe that’s a typo😱😱 Moving & trusting too fast Sis

Tony disappears at 6:30 🤣😂 Jimmy doesn’t know his birthday 😶 Don’t do holidays but sure do fornication 💀

I really hope this woman gets counseling and is able to heal from this. 🙏🏾💕

That man that were reading about is bringing reproach on Jehovah's name. Jw is an organization. Christian is lifestyle. And about this letter. Man. Smh you have a point... this is a hard pill to swallow.. we've all been there no matter where we are spiritually. Because we're imperfect. And it's to each a zone about the holidays no matter what religion you are. The world we live in is commercialized. The seasons are beautiful.. but a gift should be given any time from the heart. Ps. Tony please dont block me. I enjoy your videos on the game of men.

“I was born but I don’t have a birthday” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 omg his facial expressions yo, hilarious.

Oh lawd! I clicked so fast because I did this nonsense...Cost me so much and what I walked into was not kosher... Whew. I'll post again at the end.

Ladies get the knowledge long-distance relationships do not work put God first love yourself and don’t be thirsty and desperate for any man🙂

😂😂😂😂😂.."I don't know. How old is everybody else in the class?"

I’m at work hollering listening to these videos 😂 uncle Tony kills me with his voices

You have to be careful about lying about being pregnant when you are not this can be very dangerous people have lost their lives doing that! Get God in your life let him be your leader, get a coach seek help

I lost it when Tony said “FIND yourself and FINE yourself” 😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

I'm screaming, 😂😂😂....Tony: Okay, she from the hood." Wheeeww Chile....that question, plus grammar, was all over the place. I CANNOT!!!!! Why girl, just WHY???!!!

Sometimes you can know him before the distance and it still not be real. My wasn't, went to school with him all my life.

She was chasing love. If it seems to good to be true, it is

Yeah, sad but true. I used to move in with a man as soon as weeks and days before I found this channel. Now I won't step into his house before wedding day. Sister, God bless you! There's always healing from God!

Get your track shoes sis!🙏🏾🙏🏾 up for you!

Most women doing this need help deeper than Tony. IT IS DEEP. Hopefully his talks will hasten them to take the right steps. Lawd Jesus!!!!!!!

I feel for this woman and her children. I hope see play this video over and over and let it sink in that she’s going to be able to see red flags and learn how to not be so anxious to get a man and to always put her children first and protect them. I wishing and praying nothing but the best for this woman.♥️

Listen ladies ...men who don’t have your same faith belief repeat it will not work! No Matter how nice they are If you a real child of God....he won’t allow you stay with that person (spiritual levels)

“He do not like you” -TG 💯

TONY said “ You Are so Thirsty - you need water and Gatorade on both hands 🙌🏽 Pour the water on your head down your back like the marathon people“ he took me out! Lol 😂 keep it real straight to the point

That "You should of known better" expression pause you took made me giggle for some reason 🤦 I luv how real and honest you are.

😂 “Swagoo” 😂😂😂. I’m from Fl too and that’s just the culture to be iced out. Even our babies have chains 🤷🏿‍♀️😭. So, we get it Tony do ya thang!

My heart goes out to her. She’s in the right place asking for help! Hopefully she takes withTG is saying!

Goodness I love Tony. So much wisdom and deep belly laughs to be had.

Mr Tony. Your emotions while reading and speaking is called being a decent and integral person!!! God bless you!!!

I wish I discovered you ages ago...I would have avoided alot of mistakes...I am single and staying that way...less stressful...and enjoying the peace!...and getting myself together...I enjoy your messages!...