Brought tears.

This made tears come to my eyes because for me being gay and seeing other stories of gay men makes me very happy. Knowing that his sons accepted him for who he is makes me very hopeful and happy for the future of the gay community.

I know right!? This ain't fair :(

bless you.its never too late to come out.hope your new start,is filled with happiness.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I send all the love to you

Came out at nearly 80 to my sister and niece! Felt okay!

Very happy for Markus and his boys 💙

I think it's important to put the whole thing into context...it's different time and different places...like for example, back in the 1960/1970's I'd imagine hearing about members of the LBGT community "coming out" would have been absolutely unheard of so, if those people back then decided to "come out" in the 1980s or 1990's they would have in many cases have been in their 40's, 50's or even 60's so given the progression of the LGBT movement it could be said that those people came out "early" however, now that more and more members of teh LGBT commnity have an envrionment where there's greater acceptacne by wider society of being gay "coming out" say in your 20's or even 30's would not be considered coming out late....the point I'm trying to make is that it's never too late to "come out"...there, rant over! :)

WhirledPeace like ur comment have a great week Buddy no call's.

WhirledPeace so you’re saying that she’s wrong for being hurt over the fact that this man has been lying to her about loving her completely for the last decade or two?

"Putting his family first"??? 😂

Tyler Royster yes it’s wrong but at least he didn’t cheat and hurt her more by having his cake and eat it too. he could’ve never said anything to her and then who knows what could’ve happen then.

We don’t know if he cheated or not actually...

Jonathan Osborn To me, it’s not that he didn’t realize he was gay until his 20’s...he probably knew deep down for a long time but tried his best to suppress it until he couldn’t anymore.

Thank you for being HONEST. Unlike a lotta of these gals with stories on here.

I'm a 74 year old male gay and ive been with roger for 41 years, 4 months,3 weeks and 6 days..we had a rocky relationship in the beginning. Ive never been with a female nor have I had any inkling to be with one.

I knew growing up, was known as gay, got bullied, entered the closet for two decades. Always knew, never acted on it until coming out later in life. Not having a friend to bounce feelings off of or talking about such issues is all it takes to never be inspired to take inventory of your feelings.

@@sloth6765 great point about not knowing how to deal with feelings that everyone around you makes fun of.

Wow.....I am married to my husband for over 5 years, but till date we are not able to talk to our parents about our marriage. They just know that we stay together because we are friends and from the same place. My husband wants to talk to his parents about us but I am scared.

I don’t get it. Since puberty, I knew i liked penis. I fought it for many years. So this guy didn’t know he was attracted to men until he talked to his buddy about it?

@@angshusarma1908 Two of my best friends got married, after 35 years together, when one of them was diagnosed with cancer. Nothing could erase the years they had together, but they finally brought their families together. It shouldn't take anything that drastic.

@Mike Harrison No more than I fear Narnia ...lol

Lee Townsley I have a question I understand how people can lie to themselves but how do you not know you aren’t attracted to them. I hope this doesn’t come across as me doubting you or anyone I don’t I’m just genuinely curious.

this is exactly what I was thinking and Im horrified to see so much support for this guy, who should have taken atleast a few months to make such a heavy decision. He took a fucking day to break someones heart who was with him and trusted him for 10 years.

I personally think that many of these guys who come out while married are technically bisexual but are now awakening their same sex attractions. As a gay man myself I could never get with a woman no matter what. I also believe that once you make a decision to marry someone and produce a family, then that's then union that you should stick with.

Yes my husband just told me he is gay after 13 years of marriage and 3 kids. I can't even explain my emotions. I feel as if the husband I married has died

It sounds to me like in his case he didn't realize until later that he was gay.

@@DarkWillUser Stop coping. He must have known he had feelings towards men in some way. You just don’t wake up one day and be gay. That would be counterintuitive to when gay people say they are born gay.

@@mandam6434 Sorry to hear that. How are you now?

@@killdalamb3357 I'm making it. He has given up custody of our children and we have moved to a while new state to be with family. His family all took his side in the divorce because he hasn't come out to them yet. It's a whole mess but the kids and I are healing. Thank you for asking.

Now see, that is the approach of a responsible man. You claim your right to love your life truthfully, yet you also acknowledge your wife's right to be hurt and angry, and accept that you made mistakes.

@@ananse77 Thank you for saying that. Coming out can be powerful in so many ways. Putting everything out there and cleaning up the mess that I had made was the right thing to do. Even though at that time being gay wasn't cool. Like many gay people of my era we had to swim against the current but I think it made many of us stronger. Thanks for the kind words :)

jerry bennett, jr Hollywood ending

If it (your life adjustment) was easy then you would not treasure the experience and you wouldn't feel accomplished! I had a great feeling with your short excerpt on your prior and current lives. Many of us have similar experiences and we survived the trials & tribulations! Keep loving yourself and others as life always gets better with a positive attitude.

@@lincolnpaul1814 true ending.

yeah exactly. what kind of old skool shelteredness is THAT?!? she did not want to see it.

Remember that there are some guys who are effeminate but are actually straight.

As a gay man, I find it's only after coming out that one really stops to disguise their mannerisms 24/7

Gayhawk. If you studied at KU and never realized you were gay, that’s some deep suppression.

since i’m from a third world country these marriages are really common but literally everyone knows lol, the wives are really adamant that it doesn’t mean they need a divorce, even when the guys try to :( but like no one is really fooled

That’s so great!

Rob S What is wrong with you? The “right” path is to love yourself and be happy!!

same

awesome response.

Very good comment. It's easy to judge from a spectators standpoint and see the whole thing in hindsight, but no one knows what you or he went through that led you down those paths. Life is full of choices, rewards, consequences, and possibilities. None of us make it out unscathed or always choosing the "right path", whatever that is. I'm glad your children and his were able to accept it and learn from your experience, which is all parents can really do for their children. We can all choose to survive in bitter negativity, or thrive in sweet positivity.

Yeah that’s great but you out a woman through hell she has a right not to validate your new life because you falsely validated hers. Some of us don’t pass as straight or aren’t fussed about being with a woman just to live a lie and those people are rarely seeking the same level of “gold medals” for coming out even though we didn’t involve anybody else in our mess... think about that and maybe realise the stank attitude from your ex wife is penance for you not being brave enough to either a) be single b) pretend to be straight but not commit to anybody or c) keep your sexuality a secret if you live in a conservative/non acccepting environment. George Clooney married super late. Do you think he was a celibate bachelor? Hell no. You wanted and easy way out and your shocked the easy route left people feeling resentful toward you? I bet you’re the same type of gay guy that doesn’t respect feminine gays for some internal self hate reason but that’s only a guess. Just remember people who can’t pass for straight are beaten and killed sometimes so maybe your wife feels resentful toward you because that wasn’t happening to you and you chose to waste somebody’s best years for finding a mate. Lol

Otto Roberts did it ever cross your mind that you come off as a rambling madman? And before throwing the first stone, it isn’t like straight marriages are a success all of the time. Given the number of divorces there’s a lot of journeys people go through in a relationship.

James Latour I would not call it hate. Not saying it is his fault for being homosexual, but his wife did not deserve him to dump her several years after their marriage just because he found it out a little late. She probably had strong feelings for him, and he married her, tricking her into thinking that he gives her. As far as I see it, it is more or less the same situation as leaving your wife for another woman. If you don’t love someone, why marry them to begin with?

She wanted her husband. She was deceived into marry him. Their marriage was a lie and fraud. It’s more than mad. It hurts, something you don’t seem to understand.

Robert Fleming like ur comment don't call my phone just text my number Buddy u look so Hot.

@@robertbrolo486 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😃😃😃😃😃😃

@ftwbk Exactly why he left, why should two people suffer? Set her free so she can find a man that loves her completely.. mind, body and soul!!

@ftwbk "most married couples barely have sex" ...Really? Your situation is not the norm in a healthy marriage! I'm sorry to tell you that ☹️ but lots of married couples have a very healthy and vibrant sex life..

@ftwbk please site your sources for so called 'statistics', I stand by my statement and can provide reciepts.. can you? Because YOU don't have sex on a regular basis doesn't mean the rest are deprived..

Why did you marry a woman and have kids with her?

Dude Guyman he never abandoned them he was separated from them by their mother, and it’s not just pleasure it’s more so if you don’t understand it then don’t speak on it...it’s that’s simple.

Dude Guyman so your telling me that you understand the struggles of growing up lgbtq+ in a world that makes you hate yourself for being yourself? Oh ok then. How is he being selfish when he’s being honest to himself for the first time in his life? and the way your describing it and how she reacted is a good enough example of why lgbtq+ people end up in these types of situations...I don’t really agree with what he did but I can understand some of the pressure that he could’ve went through. Plz stop being one sided and try to understand what both of them are feeling.

Dude Guyman btw it’s selfish of the wife to think that a gay man must spend the rest of his life unhappy with her just so she can be happy.

He is beautiful tho ;)

Blessed?

Very much agree. He is celebrated for coming out while she mourns the loss of a companion she never really had. He moves on and is happy, while her heart is ripped in two. She found out that the man she was going to spend the rest of her life with, never truly loved her and her whole life was a lie.

Don’t you think that your private sexual life is yours and just your ? u can love your kids but what u do in bed and with whom is private .. it is our society that talk being honest to tell if u r having an affair and IT was not stigmatized , so would not be need to be honest

@@Theo-tc2pl Being gay or being in a same-sex relationship cannot just be about what happens in the bedroom behind closed doors. It's about holding hands with the other person and having to withstand glares of disgust and etc. So someone's private sexual life is on display if there is any kind of romantic tenderness between the couple-- if they merely go out to dinner together or take a walk around the lake together. So no, it's not just somthing that you can do in secret at home if you want to actually do it in a loving way. The entire situation is hard and difficult because of course we want to be proud and encourage men to be themselves, but at the same time what are we celebrating? We're like, "Hey, I'm glad you were at last able to accept your truth but in the process you completely destroyed a woman." Now the man is happy and everything is rainbows and butterflies, but what about her? It's hard because it's better for it to end if it's not real, but I do agree that we should be cautious in how much we celebrate men like this. To protect themselves from pain and etc., they went into a false, sham marriage afterall.

@@jps6709 life is not a crystal staircase .. when someone is happy today, can be unhappy tomorrow life and sex is an hunting game .. when you desire someone so much for the others .. this is life .. gay life is just like hetero life can be romantic passionate our just row for the sake of sex u have plenty of certitudes in your mind ..in fact society has to integrate that 2 same sex can have feeling and act in the day life as whatever str8 couple have done for centuries. Nothin g to be ashamed of nor ridicoulous about , but this vision has to become a normal vision .. the day gays will stop to act like hysterical cheers leaders a big step forward will be done for the gay cause Efeminate male chills !

@@jps6709 did u ever fell in love with another men ? If so u know what it deals about ..it is the same as with hetero Probably far more exciting ! Do you realize that it can happens any time in your life to fall in love with another person ? This happens all the time .. the way on will reacht is according his nature and education !! U cannot decide what is honest or not as standard U do not know the underlying strains in a couple when it shatters !

But why wait so long? Did you not love yourself enough to not get married to a woman and hurt her because of your own selfish feelings and being scared to come out? The cope is strong

Very true. Her life got turned upside down. To her she has to grieve the lost of her husband . It’s as if he died and she has to learn to cope with that.

My Own Private Idaho since I posted, we have been in healthy communication and really I see us working towards friendship. It’s been really amazing. Thanks again for being brave and posting.

I'm that wife. Trust me it's hard for us too. However my husband are more honest than we ever have been. Falling in love again but trying to figure out what the future holds.

@@abigailjohnson568 totally am supportive: that’s it, I own my faults, she was hurt, I lied. I experience my consequence. I also love my self too though.

Lukas Stevens I think my husband is gay and I can’t stand him.

@@abigailjohnson568 it’s fair. My wife and I didn’t work well because I was gay and too scared to tell her because I still valued her as a person. You are totally allowed and justified in being pissed off.

So true, he was so tone deaf in his narration. He could have at least acknowledged the pain that he caused his ex, and emphasize with her. I also think he is not being really truthful when he says that he did not know he was gay until he met the friend at the gym. I'm sorry, but I find that hard to believe.

Nothing honest about lying to your family for years. Stop coping

Same, I also think education into sexuality when we're younger can help too, because for some people trying to figure it out is difficult and that society isn't progressing enough to accept people.

Here is the thing, it is not us (lgbt) that needs to change. If the world around you is open, accepting and filled with honesty then anything is possible. Kissing my beautiful man while we are out, could still today end up with us being abused or hit by dullards. So we will continue to smooch until the message is clear, grow up and mind your own business. How many heterosexuals have this fear?

@@bertybertface1914 Great comment, Berty.

He didn't leave her. She kicked him out without any discussion it seems.

I'm sure that's probably who he hooked up with first! Since he already had a crush and they went to "dinner together" and "chatted." How are you going to start working out in a gym while "looking for a community" and not know he's gay, your gay and you have the butterflies in your belly while your "bro" fronts you out at dinner as you shiley just say yeah, yeah you're so right. Why didn't I ever see this before. Thanks for bringing it to my attention and changing my world for the better. You're such such a good "friend."

@@chrispleasant2846 some people are oblivious to the point that this happens until confronted with the reality of things. Some people put up mental blocks to things because the reality would be too traumatic. For example growing up in a religious household being constantly told that gay is a sin and punishable by death and eternal damnation. Being threatened with rejection from those you love. Having the stereotype of getting married and having kids forced down your throat so you feel there are no other options so you block out your feelings. You do everything your told because that's what your supposed to do. That is the only way to keep the love of those you are a fraid to lose. You do it because that is society's norm and you can't function outside that. You may see an attractive person of the same sex and rationalize the attraction as envy instead because you can't allow yourself to think it can be anything else. These things maintain the mental block that was created until someone shatters that shit by putting that other option square in your face. Thankfully we are moving to a place where people are saying there is more that one way to live. Acceptance is making it easier for people to live as they are. Mental blocks are no longer needed.

@@MissQue715 Number one. I use my real name MissQue715. Secondly, I still call Bullshit!!! Thirdly, I was raised Pentecostal so don't get all hysterical on me saying how hard things are for "some people." I was molested by cousins for 11 yrs. I never received closure and no one ever apologized. I did go to counseling for several yrs for own my sanity later on. Life isn't a joy ride! I was married and had two great kids and then she cheated. I was the bread winner in that fun little fact because I worked as a union corrections officer, which allowed her to stay home and be free to cheat all she wanted . Guess who got the shaft in that situation? Yep, I lost everything I worked for. The judicial system is a joke. There is so much more I could put in this but I will not! I chose this lifestyle "after" the divorce. When a man can proudly sit with a smile and say how he was married for 10 yrs then destroyed it all because he made a gym buddy?! That man is a coward!!!!!! He has nothing to celebrate but his freedom to screw every man he's been dreaming of. If lust is worth destroying your marriage, love of family and friends and hurting your kids, possibly scarring them for life!? The counseling they are going to need because of his decision is ridiculous! If you're married you are going to find others attractive. It's natural. The fact is don't be a coward whether you're a man or women and just throw in the towel when the marriage seems old or you have to work to keep the magic going! It's all part of life. Please, look at most gays......They never stay together and if they do it's usually an open relationship. It's kinda funny really because most men and women cheat because of a penis or vagina. When gay men hook-up they have two butts and two penises and they still aren't satisfied!!! Life is tough buttercup!! Suck it up! Someone else has it much harder than you. End of story.....Add on, every time I get a commitment I rewatch this and think he's so feminine, so in this case how is it that his wife just didn't see he's gay. I hear it in his voice and see it in his mannerisms. I've literally never seen a straight man act like this except for "Todd Chrisley." Hahaha.

Chris Pleasant Hey sir, thank you for sharing your comment. You’re right about life being tough, and I admire you strength and comment of great detail. I was raised religious as well and abuse is a hard thing to overcome. I hope that for the remainder of your life that you can find real joy and contentment because of you giving a big part of your heart into your children. We need more men like you.

@@chrispleasant2846 It aint my fault you are an angry liar--talk about being a coward. Good for her for cheating. You are an A-hole.

A man did exactly that to me. He is now married to a woman. I am not saying it was easy but I am glad he is happy. As for wedding vows let's get real. The divorce rate is huge. People cheat and always have. It is at least honest to just move on.

Many people do keep it a secret

An ACTUAL favour would have been being honest in the first place.

I hope he has a good support system she doesn't matter

Obviously things are way way different today, and many young people think of their relationships to men and women in a more open way, gay or straight. When I was a kid being gay didn't exist. Then we had fifty years since Stonewall. Kids today grow up in a different world in this regard (except some of them, of course, but few are not at least a bit aware, which is more than what was possible back then).

He was blessed with two sons. It wasn't a waste of time.

Right?! Could u imagine if Beyoncé was honest about her sexuality? I’m speculating and speaking into the void.

Yeah so true, if not social media I think I wouldn’t be able to fully accept that I am not flawed. It’s just who I am and I finally starting to accepting it in the age of 17. Can’t imagine how messed up I would be if internet and welcoming people wouldn’t exist.

In a similar situation. Life sucks.

Alex Harbula society discourages him to be himself his whole life. How horrible is that?

Fan XD Square Enix or he is bisexual but doesn’t like the idea of it so he was like oh must be gay. Cause having a wife for that long shows you have feelings for her at least

your gay

Did you get married?

Nope...even if it was a straight guy - if he had dated, had sex, married, then bought a new home, a dog, and just had twins and then one day said "sorry... you're not what i want" - then he would be labelled a douche and a bad guy... Now if their relationship was still new and it wasn't working - then fine... if they were fighting and arguing, then fair enough... if they wasn't doing all the things to build a life together, then it would make sense... but there was no 'legitimate' reasoning behind it all other than he met someone and decided to run away from it all... So yeah... gay or straight...10 years in with a new home and creating a future and then leaving just like that...totally wrong -- it would be like all the planning for a wedding and the bride turns up and last minute say "hmm...sorry... i've decided not to get married" - and then sending all the guests home.

@paul d You know, people and relationships change over time. Life is not a disney movie. If ultimately a relationship makes you miserable and has negative consequences on your surrounding, it's better to break up and start over again

@@pitreichert It's not a Disney. We've all been there, what is probably the annoying thing coming from this is how smug he was and almost disregarding of his wife's perspective. Sure, he now gets a rainbow flag, she gets a decade lost loving some guy who couldn't have figured out he liked dudes?!? Come on. Droves of homosexuals have braved through the social stigma and cultural trials of live and being anywhere just to live. So in modern America he felt such a way to deny all who he is and out of nowhere *POP* he's a gay?! I call bullshit. Nobody is that lame. We all know from a very early age what we want and like. Anyone who says otherwise is just confused or stupid.

@@Beluleano dude, i was in exactly the same situation as him. I grew up in an open minded surrounding. The prime minister of my country (Luxembourg) and the finance minister both are gay. Yet, it took me 37 years to figure out and accept that i'm gay. It's not like i never loved my ex-wife and i still respect her now. But we are better apart. It wouldn't have been fair, neither to her, nor to myself, to keep a facade, pretending to be straight.

Realizing you don't love your wife after years of marriage is different from never having loved her at all and having lived a lie for years and forced her without her consent to do the same. I would say the same re a heterosexual man (like Prince Charles) who did not love his wife when her married her, but pretended he did, and led her down a false emotional path (like Princess Diana was).

Understandable, but now she's free to find a man who will love her as she desires.

Z A Hopefully the next one isn’t closeted too.

Zero tolerance but that s not right they should have worked out this issue together I m just making up words on this matter

Grow a pair. I'm 52 and just came out to myself. I have NO family, not related at all to my bisexual orientation. They're just mentally ill, literally. If you lose your so called "family", so be it. If they can't accept you for being gay, they don't truly love you, and are garbage. Blood does not a family make, necessarily.