Invisible Chains: From Domestic Violence to Coercive Control

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3 жыл бұрын

Presented by Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD
We can better address and eliminate intimate partner violence if we see the problem as an ongoing crime of control-more like a long-term hostage situation than a series of domestic violence assaults. With original drawings and compelling stories, this presentation explains the tactics of coercive control including isolation, intimidation, monitoring, gaslighting, stalking and physical violence. Some abusers use coercive control without physical violence-which can be especially confusing for victims and survivors.
Learning Objectives:
1) Learn the tactics of coercive control in intimate relationships.
2) Understand how coercive control shapes a victim's behavior.
3) Improve your ability to detect and intervene in situations of coercive control and intimate partner violence.
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@DeeDee-zo7rv 10 ай бұрын

No privacy bathroom door taken off not leaving personal hygiene items alone. I said oh my god when I heard you say that.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 6 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@faithpurselover3932 Ай бұрын

I just got out of an abusive situation where my ex-partner used coercive control. So many of the methods you listed were used by him. I had no privacy, he tried to isolate me from family and friends, he used cameras in the house to spy on me, tried to convince to take nudes (I didn’t because I had a feeling he would use it for revenge), wanted to always see my phone, made me share my location, etc. He said that if I didn’t have anything to hide, I should be ok with it all. I’m glad I’m out.

@meloneymoore8856 Жыл бұрын

My abuser of Coercive Control followed me into the homeless shelters I stayed at and into the same apartment complex as me. They use the people around me to stalk, monitor and harass me. My own siblings took part in it and ex partners.

@lolaleighcoe5535 8 ай бұрын

Really enjoyed how detailed this information is. Thank you so much ❤️

@marihunt4314 Жыл бұрын

I can relate to everything you talked about in the video!

@joancrawford1146 Жыл бұрын

I have this constant anxiety thing where I feel like I have to yawn but I can’t catch my breath to yawn. I left my abuser for 5 days to go to Hawaii and see my college dorm friend. For the first time in years, I could breath. It starts when I hear his footsteps in the morning and stays until I go to sleep. I have a few hours every morning that this doesn’t happen. I’m seeing an attorney today but am so scared.

@domesticshelters Жыл бұрын

We are so sorry to hear you're going through this and hope you are safe now. If you haven't already, we encourage you to connect with a domestic violence advocate. You don't have to go to a shelter to receive help. To find an advocate near you, visit www.domesticshelters.org/help. You can also explore the content on the site to answer many of the questions you have for how to stay safe and what to do next. 💜

@meloneymoore8856 Жыл бұрын

I am currently being Coercively Controlled by CEO Gail Boudreaux of Elevance Health.

@katherinebrown7823 23 күн бұрын

I do not see the resources for the academic articles that the speaker was going to provided (mentioned right near the end of the interview). Where are they posted?

@domesticshelters 12 күн бұрын

Please email info@domesticshelters.org

@recoveringsoul755 Жыл бұрын

40:13, wow, where was that in 2013?

@angelae.campos179 2 жыл бұрын

What is the etiology of Domestic Violence/Coercive Controlling behavior? Do all these abusers have diagnosis of (Antisocial Personality Disorder) or Malignant narcissism? or not necessarily ?

@leluefran 2 жыл бұрын

From what I know about it through Evan Stark, not necessarily. Strong fears of abandonment combined with behaviors to avoid insecurity and abandonment by means of coercion/control (violence) are said to always play a role in the abusers.

@Coach-Daisy Жыл бұрын

@@leluefran Patriarchy and male dominance & power and the "cult" called Culture and Society that enables it. many Men are against the rights of females and their right to their own atonomy their children and their own power over their own lives, and having money of their own to survive. There are narcissistic females called pick me women who help these extremely sexist males for favors and money because they don't realize they are working against their own best interests. it's all about power!! It is what it is and it's not complicated. We need a much better legal system and government that believes in real justice and freedom of women and children from abusive males. Males in patriarchy societies are purely selfish and hateful and those who aren't don't really care because it helps them too. The men who do care are not large enough yet to change things but they are rising.

@Coach-Daisy Жыл бұрын

@@leluefran they don't fear being abandoned, they fear having no power over a woman

@dollarsmum3453 Жыл бұрын

Stronget seems their laziness, bcrelationships are work and their biggest drive comes from their aversion to legitimate suffering that all humans have to grapple with during their lives, what I call "Chop wood; haul water" referring to drudgery and get out of having to basically wipe their own asses, and avoid any effort they have to put forth that doesn't earn them accolades and/or earn the ideal imagevof a generous benefactor

@leandrawomack9029 Жыл бұрын

A good majority of abusers do, but the research suggests, not always. In my own personal experience, even if the abuser does have a diagnosed personality disorder,the abuser will use the diagnosis to justify their bad behavior on the personality disorder!

@mkosachuk6530 Жыл бұрын

Have you dealt with Asperger's...neurodiverse marriage situations? The behaviors of an Aspie effects their spouse in many of these ways. 😔

@tracieriley301 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely 💯 % right on about that!! I’m guessing you also must know about Cassandra Syndrome.

@joancrawford1146 Жыл бұрын

I thought my husband was autistic for years and couldn’t help himself. A few months ago, he threatened to beat the shit out of me. That brought me out of my fog. I realized he did have control of himself bc he didn’t act that way in front of others. I also discovered he fucking loved every minute of my torment. Seeing attorney today!

@Nico5890 5 ай бұрын

@@joancrawford1146 Yep. Majority of these situations are violent men who feel entitled to control women. Abusers are not generally neurodiverse or mentally ill. Stats prove it. I earnestly hope that you are doing ok