Is Everyone Else Normal? Feeling Painfully Different
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Күн бұрынMuch is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality but let's also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike us as bewildering rather than emboldening, how do we alleviate these isolating thoughts?
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“Much is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality - of being someone who stands out from the crowd and delights in their particularity. But let’s also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike us as bewildering rather than emboldening, when for example:
- Everyone wants to gossip but we prefer generosity and forgiveness.
- Everyone is at ease but we’re melancholy and self-conscious.
- Everyone is cheerful but we can’t let go of anxiety and apprehension.”
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@noobauditor2898 Ай бұрын
Loneliness is simply the price we'll have to pay for a certain complexity of mind - - - absolutely beautiful qoute, thank you as always
@carlangaz007 Ай бұрын
This... I find it hard to connect with people because of this... But I'm happy to hear them out, then I'm just stoic about how I view my life as much as I can with this lonely challenge that my mind gave me...
@darkdaubeny Ай бұрын
This was his best one yet! And he always delivers 100% banger quotes, i talk like this because i now realise who i am and no longer sad for it!
@Sylar-451 Ай бұрын
"Isolation MAY just be a price we have to pay for a certain complexity of mind" was the actual quote. Emphasis the may, don't get caught up thinking you have to stay lonely just because you think you're more complex than most. There are many others out there like you ❤
@78nyx Ай бұрын
@@Sylar-451yeah...this word makes all the difference... maybe the person is just a pain in the ass 🤷🏻
@maxrobles340 Ай бұрын
Maybe it's the depression talking, but this quote stood out to me as upsetting. What if the cost of isolation is just too much, and you can't afford to pay it? It's not like I made a conscious decision to be lonely, yet my soul still goes into debt for the sake of 'complexity'
@NatalyaMachinskaya Ай бұрын
"Given how many books were written because their authors couldn't find anyone to talk to." Oh, this last phrase nearly made me cry. Such a wonderful and profound video
@Novastar.SaberCombat 24 күн бұрын
There's a lot to learn from exemplary authors. Unfortunately, only the wealthy, popular, influential, and powerful ones will ever be recognized. That's just the legitimate reality. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (book I)
@imperialSukandar Ай бұрын
"Don't compare what inside you with other people outside" this quote helped me from unending loop of comparison, and i have one in mind for coping as poignant as it is for what i called desperation to be normal "a web to a spider is normal but to a fly, it's chaotic" i think profoundly, as a being, normal is an illusion, i wouldn't call people with autism that they're "not normal" we have our own portion, and we are good enough.
@01Mariah10 Ай бұрын
Love these quotes
@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Ай бұрын
Nice 👍
@30pranaypawar17 Ай бұрын
For what i would like to add is, normal is a state of majority subjective perspectives. It isnt universal and its bound to change, but likes to stay as permanant as possible. Its all in the mind. I say that as regards to if u look at mercury, its hot af, but given the circumstances that it stands closest to sun, its "normal" for it to be that hot, but, comparitively to earth, its abnormaly hot for us.
@30pranaypawar17 Ай бұрын
Exactly, when such spiders are under influence of hallucinogens (yt video reference) they tend to make different patterns of web. For what we think that they are being abnormal, they think they are normal, doing best they could, under the influence. *Becoz, Its all in the mind.*
@ciararespect4296 Ай бұрын
Quote doesn't even make sense reading what you wrote?
@lazarus3956 Ай бұрын
Guess what: everyone is a weirdo if you look closely. And that's a good thing.
@wrongfootmcgee Ай бұрын
no. not like this. that you say such means you dont know at all try being ACTULLY different from every single person you have ever met
@freconsbo Ай бұрын
@wrongfootmcgee Every single soul in the world IS different from any other around them. Don't forget that. 🙂 You know, even robots will never be an exact carbon copy of one another.
@shanynidam8943 Ай бұрын
There are some weirdos who are not good. Generally it's awsome, sometimes it's just wrong. 😳
@freconsbo Ай бұрын
@@shanynidam8943 The word 'weirdo' may be a little too much. 'Weird' should be enough.
@shanynidam8943 Ай бұрын
@@freconsbo that's not sufficient enough to conclude the discussion. It's like saying 'crasy' is too much, 'mad would be enough. I think i might used the plural of weird in a way that sometimes seen as offending. I did not mean that, and sorry about that if it is the case. Back to the other point, i just think it very important to remember that even the closest people to you can have a totally diffetent way of attaching meanings to words you might use all the time. Someone might say "wow, she is provocative", and his friend will say "o.m.g. wow" One meant it positively, the other negatively. So here, it's no big deal...not gonna go deep in to that. At least they are sure they had an agreement moment. But other times, these gaps of not even knowing what certain words are for a person we are talking to, is what keeps people arguing and fighting ...such a shame, better to argue knowing you are on the same page. But this is hard to remember mostly. And people dont like to stop in the middle of an argument to just clear something out...cause maybe they are fighting about something they actually agree about. Hope you find some sense here, i used too many words, and its hard enough to try understanding one. 🤭
@SilentTrip Ай бұрын
I always thought I was too different from everyone else and the weird one out. turns out, we are all as weird as each other... some people just suppress their true self for social & cultural expectations
@FruityHachi Ай бұрын
and they project their shadow on others and hate others for things they themselves suppress
@rurikko Ай бұрын
This. I've seen so many people who mask their real self out of fear of being judged. But the irony of it all is that they become the exact person they fear. Judging others for being just their normal selves because they don't want the "weirdness" to rub off of them and become an outcast. All for the sake of the companionship of shallow people who don't understand the value and what it means to be able to just be your true self.
@katelijnesommen Ай бұрын
Absolutely. Everyone is complicated, strange and difficult. If you think someone is 'normal' or boring, that just means they don't show their inner life to you.
@eli7527 Ай бұрын
Yes, this is the main point I took from the video
@bboyneon92 Ай бұрын
The last line! My my! "Because their authors couldn't find anyone to talk to." Finding our tribe is difficult as it's always been i guess.
@WorldWisdomWell Ай бұрын
Human Family is our tribe. There is no true separation, only constructs created ... by our Human Family.
@Novastar.SaberCombat 24 күн бұрын
If you ain't rich, popular, influential, and connected... then you ain't NOTHIN'. 💪😎✌️ You'll remain an invisible nobody. That's just how reality functions. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (book I)
@nidhi0211 Ай бұрын
Omg the timing!! Everything I am going through.. word by word! Thank you for sharing this!
@rishav6869 Ай бұрын
Same here timing was perfect
@keemo5820 Ай бұрын
Same, think I should start reading books
@adilbek.ermekov Ай бұрын
Same 🫂
@BobsBites Ай бұрын
Same here mate!
@Syco108 Ай бұрын
Hugs all around (if you consent)
@_helmi Ай бұрын
The only common thing about individuality is the desire to be accepted for who you are, the good and the bad, inside to outside.
@Novastar.SaberCombat 24 күн бұрын
Impossible. By default, if you are a legitimate individual, you can NEVER be accepted nor understood. 💪😎✌️ If you are, then you're simply part of the herd and nothing more; a nobody amongst more cloned nobodies. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (book I)
@akhilmaru6999 13 күн бұрын
oh my this comment is the best... i agree so much... i often end up thinking what is in my belief system which is making it disagreeable to people... After reading Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, Stoics, and many more I have a certain world view which people are not ready to accept... I don't mean them to understand me but just a tid bit acceptance for who I am without judgement is all I seek for... happened only a couple of times to find such people...
@magadahraj_ajatashatru Ай бұрын
The author of these essays just don't realise how much he is helping people to not go the sucidal way❤
@electricroxy Ай бұрын
It really is the School of Life 🥰
@takeuchi5760 Ай бұрын
I love the slow and steady narration of this one, as opposed to the usual slightly more fast paced ones.
@gabrielschaldach401 Ай бұрын
The most frightening thought I have is of the romance landscape, where everyone else seems to either be in a couple or very content with their situation, and I seem to be in an unending search for a partner that I will never find. This makes me feel lonely in this way. Even though I try to remain hopeful. I also am aware of the fact that the worst way to try to find a lifelong partner is to constantly look for it, which makes me try to not even think about it and just enjoy the things I like. But it is a thought that never goes away
@adamwilliams9307 Ай бұрын
2:06 was this moment for me. Everything you just said is how I feel too. And this timestamp makes me sigh with both relief if I'm being optimistic, as well as pessimism. May we both find those who will honor and love us the way we yearn to be honored, loved, for a very long time.
@ThisIsMyFullName Ай бұрын
Consider that just because they're in a relationship, it doesn't mean it's a happy relationship, but simply two people agreeing to ignore each others flaws. Or consider that most people who are in relationships are really just afraid to be alone, and needing someone around to constantly validate you is a terrible basis for any relationship. The best thing you can do is get to know yourself so well that a relationship becomes a bonus of life, rather than a condition for living.
@moralebooster8437 Ай бұрын
I used to have this phenomenon too in my early 20s, constantly wondering and searching for a partner. Even though I didn't even really want one. It was like a compulsive thought and it made me kind of self conscious. Now that I'm over it, I think it was societal conditioning. There is so much emphasis put on romance and partnership in our world, that it can make you feel useless or incomplete without it. All this to be said, it is totally valid and normal to want a partner. But you are good just as you are.
@moralebooster8437 Ай бұрын
@@ThisIsMyFullName so true. Traditional relationships are deeply unfulfilling, as beautiful as they feel at first.
@wildewildestrawberries Ай бұрын
Same.
@evaroche1405 Ай бұрын
My Mother once said the time will come when you embrace being different. Look closely, there is always a kindred spirit nearby. ❤
@Novastar.SaberCombat 24 күн бұрын
By default, if you embrace uniqueness, then no one can relate to you. If you're understood, appreciated, worshipped, and acknowledged by many, then you're simply one *OF* many. 💪😎✌️ That's why superstars have so many fans; they have millions of clones. People who emulate them, deify them, agree with them, do as they do, think as they think. Like "Swifties" or "Chumpers" or even "Elonskis", etc. And don't forget the "Diddiers"! They loved their puffy pork daddy. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (book I)
@Team_Slacker Ай бұрын
To be reminded that I lived different than most have always make me feel weirdly vulnerable, but I know I'm not alone....
@gogee27 Ай бұрын
That was very encouraging. I’m realizing more and more that I don’t need my loneliness to go away but make peace with it, find some comfort and dwell on its good sides.
@kimberknutson831 Ай бұрын
I have been this way for 60 years, so I am pretty accustomed to it. As always, excellent, School of Life. Thank you.
@33Jenesis Ай бұрын
I grew up hating feeling like an alien. I didn’t think like a normal girl or act like one. It bothered me for decades until I turned 50. If i was like a normal girl, I’d probably live a normal life path (falling in love, marriage, children etc.). There is nothing wrong with being in the majority. Thankfully i ended up accepting my minority mindset and lived in peace with my life’s path. I don’t have what most women have but i live the way that I prefer and not being forced to be “normal”.
@Johnnyappl3seed63 Ай бұрын
I have always felt different my whole life for being very introverted but what really made me feel like I was from another planet was when I started losing my hair at only 17 years old. I became an anomaly and people would sometimes stare at me in public probably wondering why my youthful face was adjacent to a hairstyle of an old man. Now that I’m in my 20s it’s not as big of a deal as it used to be but I don’t care much about being normal anymore, there is so much more to life that exist outside the societal expectations we cooperate with.
@Pain.- Ай бұрын
I used to think there was nobody sharing the same thoughts on certain things, but I realized that shit aint true, everyone is so similar and no matter what you're thinking about, someone will think exactly the same. We are not so different from one another.
@Dman9fp 7 күн бұрын
They want us to feel divided and at odds with each other. But yep there's more that unites than divides the majority of people deep at our core. But division and being emotional is great for bottom line profits/ marketing campaigns I suppose
@rishav6869 Ай бұрын
Thank you ❤
@Damiaen. Ай бұрын
Remembers me of a quote of one very pure hearted and lovely friend I have ; "Strangers? Those are just friends I haven't met yet."
@Raven_Black_252 16 күн бұрын
Is your friend a golden retreiver?
@goblin1226 Ай бұрын
This made me tear up, ngl. This exactly hits what i've been struggling with lately.
@arnaud-ober-piano Ай бұрын
Love this! We shall never forget that we all only know a small circle of humanity. We tend to generalize our behaviours, experiences, from what we know. But we don't know much on a big scale. Nothing at all. For me, the best we can do is always considering us as kids, constantly learning, being curious, and open-minded.
@audiodead7302 Ай бұрын
I have studied philosophy and psychology my whole life. I tend to find the more self-aware I have become, the more detached from 'normal' human trials/tribulations. And I guess the more isolated I have become. But I am a 'red pill' sort of person. I would rather know the painful reality, than live in blissful ignorance.
@Herzankerkreuz67 Ай бұрын
I have been 'different' all my life . Five and a half decades of being the weirdo. Trust me, you'll get used to it, and furthermore, you'll actually get to a point where being 'different ' is what makes you better and more virtue than the rest. Wouldn't change a thing.
@Joanna7428 Ай бұрын
Hi fellow weirdo! I have spent a lot of time mulling over in my head how strange I am that I don't fit in, to then realise it doesn't matter in the first place! As we age we care less that's for sure!
@kirbylover37 Ай бұрын
You're not better than the rest.
@PokkiXLolita Ай бұрын
Really needed this, thank you for posting
@nazneennaqshabandi4881 Ай бұрын
This was like a bandage to my heart, your videos always speak to me ❤
@lqpdbl Ай бұрын
It’s not the loneliness that makes me feel anxious. In fact, I feel lonely because I am anxious. Anxiety is in the core of all my actions and thoughts. I’d still feel anxious if I belong to a majority because I know deep inside of me there’s something that pursues greater things. So pursuing the complexity of mind itself is anxiety driven. Whatever way I take, anxiety is around me (being in the majority to avoid feeling lonely or pursuing the solitary journey). I don’t think we can ever differentiate anxiety and self-consciousness. The question I should ask myself is not “how not to feel lonely”, but “where to find a compromise in between my anxiety and self-rationalization”. Which “form of anxiety” most makes sense to me logically.
@Music4EverKanekavi Ай бұрын
Why is this topic being handled like I’m gonna jump off a cliff if the tone changes
@cristhinacasillas351 Ай бұрын
BAHAHAH
@skellaberry 12 күн бұрын
LMAOOOO
@Dman9fp 7 күн бұрын
Reasons. Their target audience surely isn't Mr. Billy Bob down the road who has 4 kids & believes he has everything important about life already figured out 😂
@vms_kt Ай бұрын
These thoughts having been going through me since long. Thanks for giving a solution.
@geserdasilva3815 Ай бұрын
Sometimes It feels like you are the only ant that left the line and stopped to contemplate the immensity of the universe. People don't see how small they are or how vast and wonderful everything is. this is very sad. Thank you ❤
@freconsbo Ай бұрын
People seem to always forget one fact: Each individual is unique, even twins. That means everyone is different. And that's okay. Being different IS normal.
@toniharrison2177 Ай бұрын
Sobbing my heart out after watching this. I needed this. Thank you.
@virrgoworld444 Ай бұрын
Are you stalking me school of life?? You literally upload videos of what I’m feeling at the exact same time😭
@xthexskrillex Ай бұрын
"his always watchin"
@Thufferinthuckotash Ай бұрын
How come everyone online can relate to me but everyone in person just thinks I’m weird?
@ud1819 Ай бұрын
It couldn't have come at a better time! So relatable. To all those who feel lonely amidst a sea of "normal" people I feel you, I understand you, and you arent lonely, you will just take more time in finding your tribe ❤
@pesh909 Ай бұрын
"Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart. The really great men must, I think, have great sadness on earth." -Dostoevsky
@ArashKazemi Ай бұрын
This channel is pure medicine.
@PHROGDAD Ай бұрын
I have never felt more isolated from everything and everyone right now and this was just what I needed to hear
@ChatsWithThobeka Ай бұрын
The last part about “this community” didn’t go unheard. Thank you School of Life, indeed it is.
@josephmalala1093 Ай бұрын
I just love this channel, honestly!
@kielajellopecjo2153 Ай бұрын
From where I came from, I often feel no one shares my point of view. As so, I usually try to understand them. Its quite tiring.
@TakeMeToYourLida Ай бұрын
Thank you, as always
@Fair_enough1 Ай бұрын
This is the question I've been asking in my head for years
@beatricealinadobre2081 Ай бұрын
Beautifully illustrated
@charlespaxson2679 Ай бұрын
I am dogged by dread as my federally funded work is likely to be cut, and finding this short essay is such a boon to life, such a blessing to have come across today. Thank you sincerely.
@elpelucawalrasiano3865 Ай бұрын
Love this deep explanations through short videos
@admortor Ай бұрын
Thanks very much for this.
@ip3931 Ай бұрын
Thank you!
@carlotars2343 Ай бұрын
Oh, exactly what I needed today! Keep it up, school of life x
@akitadakid6326 Ай бұрын
I’m a media major … the Art part really spoke to me
@dzulfiqarfr Ай бұрын
Wow. Never felt this understood. Thanks
@veganphilosopher1975 Ай бұрын
I needed this right now. great video
@pc97 Ай бұрын
Thank you 😢 you describe exactly how I feel now
@anamaria-db7pq Ай бұрын
thank you, I am at ease now
@leviolon-etincelle1666 Ай бұрын
I love this channel so much
@Gigi-rg7ge Ай бұрын
I love you, you give me hope when i cant find it
@thaniaescamilla1628 Ай бұрын
I love this videos, as always they came to relief me and makes me feel so calm.
@Raven_Black_252 16 күн бұрын
This is how I felt all my life and I'm still feeling his way. The only difference is I wouldn't describe it like a good standing out type of thing as it seems to be in the initial illustration. I am constantly crushed by the feeling of being different. I'm crushed by not feeling included in things even when I seem to be, I'm tired of it taking too long to get along with people and when I do it's just all over gossipping backstabbing and I see them doing these to each other so I say, if they are treating each other like this, what would they to me? And I get cold towards people this time depsite wanting to be with them, to be included and just be normal and a part of them. This is not because I'm better than them or anything, I think I am lacking too much to be like them.
@gabys9197 Күн бұрын
Took the words right out of my mouth. I always feel like an outcast around others. But then I remember why I dont want to be a part of their conversation when all it is is gossip and making fun of others.
@kasha9861 Ай бұрын
I wish you continue your work, because these videos are as good as an excellent book
@habeascorpus6604 Ай бұрын
Well spoken!
@feelgoodseriesfan5672 Ай бұрын
They overestimate their ability & we underestimate our ability to adjust in the crowd! What we don't know is that adjusting becomes easy with kind people and what they don't know is that adjusting is not needed when we meet like minded people! The singles are searching for a like minded person and haven't met or they met a kind person but that person did not have the same thoughts and therefore they became single! But they will keep looking for it cause their basic criteria is kindness whereas our basic criteria is like mindedness and since we never or rarely found one we won't actively be looking for a person!
@xalexbanx Ай бұрын
I like your mind.
@seethebutter Ай бұрын
Thanks
@Siss2012 Ай бұрын
Feeling different used to be a source of melancholy, frustration and sadness for me, now I have to embrace it, revel in it and celebrate it.
@EcomCarl 13 күн бұрын
Powerful insights into the complexities of feeling different! Embracing our unique traits and utilizing art to connect with others can transform our sense of isolation into a deeper understanding and acceptance of ourselves and the world around us. 🔑
@01Mariah10 Ай бұрын
Deeply resonating 🩷🩷🙏🏾
@ilosheher Ай бұрын
the school of life be reading my mind these days
@jaye5872 Ай бұрын
Great video!
@lazy-gyal0077 Ай бұрын
1:06 this hit me. I watch my aunts and uncles and cousins enjoy doing things in life so much and their just able to connect with people so easily. But I always feel anxiety and generally unsatisfying boredom even when I do the things I love. My two main modes are anxiety and apathy. The only thing that brings me any long-lasting positive feelings is finding a really good show/anime that distracts me.
@slendyXrohan 24 күн бұрын
I completely understood and liked this video, BUT I have always always felt that my deep melancholic self was unique and different. A lot of loved ones told me so, making me feel just 'wrong'. Growing up I've barricaded myself in my own suffering, I felt superior because of it. I thought that no one would understand me, and that was my strength, my pain and my uniqueness. Even now, seeing this video, left me struggling. How can others be like me? I have always been so alone. Not that I care, but I also suffer from 'bpd', and I truly don't believe in diagnosis but when other people try to empathize with me, I usually get frustrated. I feel wrong even in feeling different
@poornimaanugondanahalli Ай бұрын
Such a beautiful beautiful beautiful video this is ❤❤❤ thanks a ton for making this simply superb video👌🏻🙏🏻
@lightsone2159 Ай бұрын
I was reading Bettany Hughes' book Helen of Troy in which was a photo of an ancient wall mural in which the ancient women were picking saffron. I read Hughes' description of it and what the ancients used it for and looked it up. I now take saffron every day and I feel much better. This also might help others. It's not a cure-all, but more of an attitude adjuster.
@leightonolsson4846 Ай бұрын
I recall the unflinchingly true line uttered by the late Nanci Griffith in her song "Late Night Grande Hotel" - "no one really knows the heart of anyone else...". Perhaps the best we can hope for is truly know ourselves and learn how expressive our thoughts & feelings in a constructive way. And there is always more variation within a group than between groups. This is true both genetically and psychologically.
@jakubbss99 Ай бұрын
ong i needed this today
@tutubism Ай бұрын
As an ND individual who also knows a girl once who is on the autism spectrum. We both rarely speak & interact much in class. I think this is how we individuals feel towards people who are neurotypical
@oyleday0195 Ай бұрын
I think that seeing ourselves as so completely different from others, in a negative light, is really just the other side of the coin from thinking we are so much uniquely better than everyone. Either way, we are seeing ourselves as so especially "different" that nobody could understand us and or least we could never understand them. It's simply narcissistic in my opinion, to differentiate ourselves so largely from others who are just as human, and are made of the same flesh blood and bone. So next time you catch yourself thinking like this, just remember, you are just as insignificant as those around you. :))
@AdHuFeXX Ай бұрын
Haha love this😂❤
@hoppingwren Ай бұрын
Going through my second divorce at 37, I needed this video
@pedrostormrage Ай бұрын
Yeah, that "everyone else" (people in our social circle) not only is a biased sample (there are too many people out of it), but also it's a sample we can't even measure properly (people often just present themselves to be what is expected from them, but that doesn't mean they actually feel that way on the inside).
@SlavaPunta Ай бұрын
They laugh at me because I am different. I laugh at them because they're all the same.
@cwg73160 Ай бұрын
Yes.
@Nowitsmeira Ай бұрын
True, I like bookshop
@mario164 Ай бұрын
the book quote hit HARRRRRRDDDDDDD
@perpetualgrin5804 Ай бұрын
I had no idea there were any positives in life till reading your posts. You have transformed my life from simply existing to finding joy. I have stopped my medication.
@insideluxuryparis8148 Ай бұрын
I’m wanting to give you a warm hug and ask you if you’ve discussed this with your doctor? I’m on medication too and sometimes I feel so well that I think I might stop. But often chatting with someone who knows how you’re going is a good idea. Mmmm big hugs from me 🥰
@gotgoddess2 Ай бұрын
I'm going to be attending my grandpa's funeral soon and will reunite and meet new people. This helps.
@EMA-EMA- Ай бұрын
Every word represents me but I became so indifferent to hobbies and can't stand people anymore 😢
@LucasSSP Ай бұрын
My answer was to stop overthinking. It's important to think, and to let the thought be what it is.
@NusratJahan-lf3vd Ай бұрын
Right now I am in same situation..
@yashsareen50 Ай бұрын
What I fear the most is not letting being different push me into a sort of superiority complex. I'm different and I never want to come across as someone above others yet normal people feel it's okay to belittle me. Idk if anyone else feels this way
@AdHuFeXX Ай бұрын
I get what you mean. I know that i have things interested in that people in my close circle may or may not understand. To me, i dont see others as less than becauze to an extent, there are things about us all we won't be able to fully understand; and if you're the type of person who liles to stay at home and read while you friend liles going out at 12 in the morning, that's ok; as long as you both know that you guys are humans and are not always going to het each other. So for me, while i do still wonder if i will ever find someone who i will feel comfortable sharing my hobbies and thougths with, i know that these people do exist; for some people they find them on the other side of the world, and some at their local book shop. Embrace yourself, but don't push away others❤
@pinkace Ай бұрын
Everyone thinks they are special. Everyone thinks they stand out from the crowd.
@jacekmaraj1774 Ай бұрын
THE NARRATORS VOICE IS SO PRETTY
@ThisIsMyFullName Ай бұрын
Normality is when a lot of people do the same thing, but not necessarily the right thing.
@tereseb6113 Ай бұрын
I just wish people were not afraid to fully be themselves and express themselves, explore themselves with love, with support. I wish that in school it would be taught that the main goal in life is not to be successful, but to discover your authentic self. I always imagine that a lot of taught and care was put into our creation by the universe - and I must respect that by being me.
@TaiNatsu Ай бұрын
It's so lonely. I have lived my entire life in a small town, that is too small for me. It's painfully lonely
@ladyofhollows9841 Ай бұрын
Thanks for this video. It comes to my feed at a great moment--sometimes I feel like being non-binary in Costa Rica is extremely lonely and unsafe
@freebie808 Ай бұрын
Yup
@niel850 Ай бұрын
I always related very strongly to these videos, and recently I discovered I'm on the autism spectrum. And that discovery has benefitted me more than thousands of self help videos. I'm just trying to say maybe you feel different cause you are different, and that's ok too.
@Stankyl0saurus Ай бұрын
SECOND COMMENT!!! Also, I love this channel.
@erikaanterie Ай бұрын
Didn't help. I'm struggling so much to overcome my lifetime isolation. I want to connect with others and I want so much to be loved back when I finally find someone I care about. I don't want to be mocked at for wearing my heart on my sleeve. I don't want to find myself, in every damn group I enter, standing all alone, while others seem to have a great time easily chatting. I just don't understand why am I so rejected. I life of trying and a life of failing. Still alone, still unwanted.
@AdHuFeXX Ай бұрын
I want you to know that it's ok to feel this way❤ i would give you words of encouragement, but i don't want to tell you things you've probably heard a thousand times from other people; but i will say that wearing your heart on your sleeve isn't a weakness, ni matter what anyone tells you❤
@dmytro2792 Ай бұрын
Дякую
@heartofdawn2341 Ай бұрын
This hits different when you're trans. Especially growing up in an environment that was deeply religious and toxic about the roles of men and women
@riyadeka1469 Ай бұрын
Some of us aren't meant to belong. Some of us have to turn the world upside down and shake the hell out of it until we make our own place in it. Too many minorities can assemble and create their own place of true belongingness. I hope I'll be able to do it someday 🥺
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