I just broke up with someone this morning and I really needed this. I got distracted and turned my back from God during the relationship now I'm back and know that God has been waiting for me!

Every heartache is preparing us for the next experience or relationship. It is shaping and teaching us.

I have been crying nonstop for more than a week, and really you're making me cry more with all the reality you're pointing out. I have given my absolute all to this person and it hurts so badly. No appetite, not wanting to work, or even leave the room. It's making me stronger spiritually, yet it's so exhausting. Yes to waking up and being real with God, honest from the start.

My last break up was weird she knew I was a christian and then one day left me cause she said that she can't be with a man that puts God above everything so she says you want time to think about it I said there is nothing to think about God is my everything so she left..... But we recently started talking but then she wanted to get back and I said no that I can't be with a person that doesn't agree with who I am a christian and I kind of felt bad it's just a confusing time... My first real breakup got me so much closer to Jesus reminds me of 2 Corinthians 12 where Paul talks about his thorn in his flesh and jesus said to him my grace is sufficient for you , for my power is made perfect in weakness .... Suffering is always a Good thing cause like you said God always meets us there and we truly see his love

I'm done with break ups. Getting married next summer! :D

just got out of a 6yr relationship, I'm 23 and I have been experiencing so many different emotions. I refused to run from the pain or fill that void with the wrong things. I've cried and prayed for a month now. thanks for the encouragement.

Throughout my life I've always stayed away from dating and trusted God to bring the right girl into my life in the right timing. A few months ago, that prayer was answered. Ever since then I've grown to love her more and more, and I've been trying to stay on God's path through it all and honor Him with the relationship. Yesterday I had a long heart-to-heart conversation with her and came to the realization that she was idolizing me and putting me on a throne that I don't deserve, but it hurt both of us immensely when I tried to step down from that and let God have His rightful place in her life. Today, after a ton of praying and thinking and talking to mentors and seeking advice, I realized it would be best to break up, at least for a couple months. This video happened to be in the suggestions when I opened KZfaq, and it's a great encouragement. Thank you.

I'm actually going through a breakup right now and this was very helpful

Its been about 4 weeks since my ex broke up with me and trust me its been really hard for me:( But when I open Gods word it comforts me and I feel better. Of course there's days were it's good and then there's days when its all bad. But I know God has a plan for me. It's also really hard for me because we're both the worship leaders at our church and so I see her every Saturday when we have worship practice and Sunday's when we have service. As well as Wednesdays. So it's hard to see her and knowing that fact that we're not together no more and I still have feelings for her! Like Alyssa said it was a good breakup not a crazy one we both were very good about it and it wasn't all chaotic like my past relationship. More mature about everything. But I'm still praying for her and for me that God will give me the strength to keep pushing and to do what He has called me to do here on Earth. Sorry but thought I would share this. If you guys have any advice about my situation please let me know. Thanks and God bless!

Thank you! I recently went through a breakup after a nearly four-year relationship, and all of the things you guys said were things I learned in the last six months. It was so hard- but so sweet because it brought me closer to the Lord! I heard Him speak to me more and clearer than ever before. One verse that has encouraged me lately, though I've heard it my whole life, is Romans 8:28, all things (even breakups) work together for GOOD to those who love God and are called according to His purpose. Those of you also healing from a breakup, cling to the promise of this verse, and to what Alyssa said: it's not in vain, He doesn't disappoint, and He is right by your side.

Two weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend because I wanted to do the right thing and I know my relationship with him is not giving honor to God. It’s very hard to let go of someone you love and someone who loves you as well but my spirit is longing for what is right. but still there is pain in my heart .. although I’m trying me best to focus to Gods love for me there is this sadness in my heart, I’m doing a prayer and fasting to humble myself before God, to honor God and to deny my flesh so that my spirit will be stronger. God’s willing in His perfect time my Heart will be whole again. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you for making this video. I love you guys. God bless🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️

This absolutely made my day! I just went through a breakup a month ago and thought he was "the one." I would keep trying to suppress the burden of the breakup and not let myself grieve, so this definitely provided more wisdom for me to trust Jesus and know he does things for a specific reason. Thank you guys! :D

My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I think that it's hitting my really hard because we've been best friends for years. He's leaving out of town for college in the fall and while we've both known it was going to be challenging we never thought it would end like this. The relationship was healthy but we still could put God first more into the relationship. Right away I thought of you guys, and seeing this video has really opened my heart up to God. You guys broke up previously and now you're married, which gives me hope that God will grow us individually, and that He may redeem and heal our relationship in the right time. Alyssa had so many great points that really hit home for me. So thank you guys so much for being amazing, sharing your personal stories, and spreading God's word.

My boyfriend and I just broke up last night. Well, he broke up with me. We were together for almost two years, we're in university together and we were so happy. Everything was fine. He told me he felt uncomfortable being in this relationship because I was religious and he was not. During our relationship I had faith that God will touch his heart and he will follow Jesus' path so when we graduate, we could possibly get married. Before our relationship started I asked God that if he was the One, to put him in my life and he did. Now that this is happening I have to remind myself that God is so great, everything will work out if I'm patient. God needs me and him to seek Him. I really need prayers right now guys. I've never wanted to die as badly as j do right now. Thank u Jeff and Alyssa

I m still trying to get over a 13 year relationship break up and it worst when you have to see them because of children and to see the other person move on like you never existed.

you guys are the cutest humans ever. i love your wifes soothing voice and personality. i love these videos it makes my whole day when i see them.

just been through an extremely difficult breakup and God had not left me, my ex is beginning to have feelings for a girl I was certain throughout our relationship he was in love with and before our relationship we were best friends, he wad the one guy that I trusted and because of the break up I grieved and grieved the day he broke up with me and the day afterwards, he wasn't a christian and my mum was explaining to me that because he doesn't love the lord he has no morals and doesn't stick to what he says, I see him all the time but the Lord never fails me and has and will alwayd be with me, when I was with my ex I would ask the Lord to make sure i was close to him and this breakup is how God wanted things to be, through this breakup I realised amazing things about God that I will never turn back on I've found true love and I know God is 100% worth every single day and second, you will never loose God he always wants you, I thought about it like this... We are constantly breaking up with God and leaving him but he never leaves us and imagine how bad your breakup, we all do the same to God and yet he still loves us and WANTS US... that is what you call TRUE LOVE. Amen

People after a breakup need hope. I recently got dumped by my girlfriend who I loved so much. She proceeded to tell people what we did which caused the pastor to find out and rebuke us. Her mother hates me and she might as well. I just need hope that there's a possibility she might be mine again. I know this was gods will because I kept sinning in the relationship (not full blown sex) and I knew I wasn't ready to be in a relationship at the moment that is purely a godly relationship. We need hope after things like this

Thank you guys. My girlfriend broke up with me today, but it wasn't because of me or her. She was the one who truly showed me to God and changed my life, we dated for over a year. Recently, I called for a two week break to refocus my life on God and just get back on track. When we met again, she told me God had been moving her toward the decision of breaking up with me for the past few days. She still loves me, she's just trusting God with this. Even though I'm leaning on God so hard, I'm still hurting so bad. I don't know what else to do.

It was not easy to deal with breakup and how people are going to get over with it. I think this video is a big help to all the people experience breakup.

I just want to say jefferson ive found you at a really difficult time of my life I myself have just gone through a really rough break up and your videos are helping me out so so much I to have become very depressed and I feel like theres hope thanks to you guys so thank you so much and please keep posting videos so that god can keep talking to me through you

This video was so spot on! Thanks so much for making this! Also, I love that Jeff always talks super fast, makes me feel better about the fact that I talk super quickly as well haha! :)

Jeff and Alyssa! Thank you so much for doing this series. You don't know how much your words have truly helped me process and encourage me through this current season of my life where dating, relationships and breaks ups are SO relevant. These videos have truly been a blessing to me! Thank you!!

Every single word hit me right in the heart. Thank you Jefferson and Alyssa. This is what I needed.

I just love you two! Specially all the quirky intros :P congrats on your book!

Wow God's timing as always is AMAZING! :) Thanks so much for talking about this topic. You are both such bright lights to the world. God bless

I'm going to through a difficult break up right now, and stumbled on this video. Thank you so much for making it. You spoke so much truth in such a tender way and it was exactly what I needed to hear. I appreciate the encouragement. Thank you.

Thank you so much for this. I have recently have gone through a break up and this is so encouraging. That reminder of taking one day at a time and not to bear that burden of a next time period and that I need to lean on him and trust that he has the best for me. God bless you guys!

I also enjoy watching videos by Jeff and Alyssa. They have touched my heart in a lot of ways and continue to bring back to a place of worship and grace and love. I have been married for 2 years now and during these last few years, God has been a present and daily treasure for me and I feel like I have become connected with Him more because of what He has done in my life. I battled with depression, I battled with anxiety, and I battled with the loss of my aunt last year - and in all of my struggles and in all of my pain, God has remained constant. Being a Christian isn't an easy walk, and becoming a Christian doesn't make everything you feel go away, in fact it makes the pain even greater. In trials and in our struggles, this is where God hasn't been glorified and we need to turn to scripture and pray because God is good. And yes, there is a lot of pain in this world, but greatness is coming, and Jesus is returning for us. This is just a pitstop in our walk with our Lord. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us again and again - keep the inspiration coming!! :)

Thank you for this video I really need to hear this Im having a hard time accepting my break up, but i trust in God that i will find a better person for my future, and a man that put God first. Thank you again for this video. God Bless to you both.

This video is perfect, my roommate is going through a break up and her mood really affected the house, so i cant wait to share this video with her, thank you guys so so so much for sharing your wisdom, you guys rock!

Thank you for sharing this. I needed this today. Just recently went through a break up & was crying out that I didn't want these tears anymore. & then I wake up to this. God has perfect timing & he hears me. Thank u.

I instantly smile when I see you guys!!! Both of your light is so bright. My husband and I need friends like you!

Thank you for posting this video and sharing your personal story. I want you to know that it made a difference for me and came at a perfect timing. I've watched this video less than a week ago but I felt like I should watch it again because I was starting to feel overwhelmed with all my thoughts. I was trying to keep myself busy and just move on withy my day, but something made me sit down and watch it over again. It is amazing how at peace I feel right now and how much stronger on the inside. Your message really connected with me this time. Now I know I will have a better day! I'm glad I didn't try to handle this on my own, but listened to the voice inside and let it guide me. Thank you again for making a difference in my life!

Thank you, the video was such a blessing, sometimes as Christians we feel like we are expected (well at least I do at times) to be strong and move forward, but I love how Alyssa said that we should give ourselves time to grief, and that it's okay to be sad and angry. I've notice that through my grieving of a recent breakup, I've actually grown closer to God, and knowing that he is ALWAYS by my side gives me strength to be able to move forward.

This really helps me today. I have been struggling and praying and feeling overwhelmed. I truly felt that this video helped me realize what I need to do. Like you all said, I just need to take it day by day and not overwhelm my self with the burden of why I'm not over this person. I have to keep reminding myself that God is for me and not against me and I constantly repeat that over and over just to get it stuck in my head. I had watched your video "Don't Settle When Your Dating" while I was still in my previous relationship and it came close to my heart because I was that person who kept making up excuses as to why I shouldn't leave and why we should stick together. The Lord had brought it upon me before we started dating that he was not what God had for me and I still persued that relationship. Now I know that I just need to trust in the Lord and allow myself to have my grieving process. Thank you Alyssa and Jeff!

It's such a blessing how I was struggling with this until now even though I experienced it 9 months ago. This is very timely! God bless you both!

Thank you for this! The timing couldn't have been more perfect. Earlier today an ex from a really bad break up (one I haven't fully dealt with yet) texted me wanting to talk and I was freaking out. When I opened my phone to reply KZfaq gave me the notification for this video! I watched it right away and your words and Alyssa's were so helpful and life-giving. Thank you for doing what you do and for always pointing me to Jesus!

Thank you guys so much for sharing this.. I broke up with a guy a little over a month ago and it's been the worst, hardest month of my life. It's been so painful, and I've bashed myself for not being strong enough to lift my head and carry on the way I had been, but I'm learning to let God come in and fix what's been broken, and I'm trying to let Him be my comforter. This video was exactly what I needed to hear.

Thank you for this. I just ended my relationship and called off my wedding last night and I feel like God already had you guys do this especially for me at this time. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Wow. I didn't know that this was something that I needed to hear, but you two said like 4 things (at least!) that I definitely needed to hear. Thanks for sharing your godly wisdom on this!

Thank you so much for acknowledging that the one who may break a relationship up still struggles with the loss! 👌🏼👌🏼

wow! this was exactly what i needed. i have been struggling and i still am. but i am so happy that i found this! thank you guys

I just went through a pretty tough breakup in the last couple months with my bf of 2 years, and I'm definitely not over it.. But I am trying to give it to God, and this video was definitely helpful! Thank you guys for touching on subjects like this, keep doing what you're doing! God bless you, and your family!

thanks you guys. Just read your book Love that Lasts, it has completely changed my outlook on what marriage really is all about. Coming from a broken home and distorted views about sex and marriage, i really appreciate your book, your heart for God, and that you can share your journey with us.

Thank you guys so so much for this. My boyfriend and I broke up two days ago and it's been super tough, but faith is really helping me through even though I find it hard. Your videos are so uplifting and help me to stay on the right track, bless you :)

Definitely can relate to Jeff about those "sweetest times with the Lord" after a break up. These might suck and make you have a really hard time, but you just learn so much from them. I think it is always good to have such experiences in your life. Great video guys!

Thank you guys!! This has been so helpful!! I am learning to take it one day at a time instead of thinking thoughts like "I'll never love again" that steal my hope.

Jeff and Alyssa you guys are so helpful. While I'm not currently going through a breakup, I still had to deal with some pain when I cut things off completely with a guy I liked because he wasn't a believer. You're other dating & relationships videos helped me with that. But I still felt some pain but I am completely resting in the Lord and waiting for my future husband....whoever he is. I'm not ready for a relationship right now but I know that God will put someone in my path when I'm ready. This video is so helpful though and I will share it with my friends when they go through hard times like this :)

I'm so thankful for you guys. such an amazing couple to look up to. God bless you abundantly.

you're so cute! I'm not going through a breakup, however, the advice you gave it's all so important even when you are going through whatever harsh situation, being it a loss of a person or of a job. Thank you so much for putting so much heart in this that you do! Praised be the Lord!

Perfect timing! I just went through a break up about a week ago and it's been pretty rough. But I definitely agree that this is such a sweet time to have with God and to just dive in to his word. I won't give up hope or faith. God has something great in store for me!

Wow! This video came at the exact moment for this season in my life. God truly gives word when it's needed the most. Seriously thanks you guys! For the past year+ both podcasts and videos you guys make, speak when it's needed in my life! Keep doing what you guys are doing! 😁

I just went through a breakup and your advice is really helping especially as a Christian. I feel God is really here for me.

I actually broke up with someone I hold very dear to my heart... Technically it was before the New Year. She's over and done with the relationship while I still ponder over this. I did my very best please her and love her and I feel that it was all for naught. I honestly can't let go and I feel this overwhelming pain in my chest and head. It makes me want to die. After hearing this I feel a bit better. Thank you for sending out this awesome video!

The past week has been a very difficult one. me and my fiance broke up and we were both blindsided with the situation. I'm completely heartbroken but thru it I've been closer to God and calling on Him more than I have been. I feel like things happen for a reason and even though it's hard to see right now I know that God is setting a path for me of what He wants for me. this has been an insightful video. You guys are such an inspiration to me and are an example of what I want my relationship and marriage to be, a godly and God fearing relationship, where we both look for God together. thank you so much. God Bless you and your family.

I recently got out of an unhealthy relationship and it's been a few months and I still feel like I'm in the mourning period. Even though I've recently been getting through the days with a genuine smile on my face, I sometimes find myself randomly bursting into tears and that's really discouraging when you believe that you've been making progress. I was scared to confide in my mom or friends because I didn't want to constantly bring up my ex. But, this video really opened my eyes and showed me that what I'm experiencing isn't abnormal and that I can get through this if I just really put my trust in God and those He put in my life. One day at a time. Thank you guys so much for making this video and saving my life. Love you guys.

You both lead me to tears. My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago. Our relationship was a little less than two months and I’m at home thinking exactly what you both said, “I should be over him by now.” But it hurts and I miss him and I do grieve the loss of the friendship and the hope of what could have been. God has been my stronghold through this entire relationship and I need, and want, to seek him as such in the healing as well. Jesus has been so faithful in meeting me right where I am, but seeking him in some moments, like now, are harder than others. Thank you both for your hearts and your ministry. I hope soon to write to you and tell you how much God has used your book and your podcasts in the relationship I was in.

Love the way that Alyssa just keeps looking at him :)

Thank you for the message! I was going through exactly what you both described a few months ago. I am in such a better place now in my life and with my relationship with God and I could not be more grateful :) God bless you both!!

Thank y'all so much. This is truly an eye opener . "Take it day by day" , was something I really needed. ❤

Much needed encouragement! Feeling pretty down and this lifted me up. Thank you guys.

You guys are awesome and an amazing example of what a true marriage really is. God bless!

“Human beings are created with the capacity to love deeply, and to be known deeply, and on the flip side of that we can be hurt deeply”. Wow. So good!

I really enjoyed this video. Thank you guys for the honesty, great advice and words of wisdom. You guys imparted such truth. It may be basic but it's still profound. I left the video feeling encouraged and full of hope. I love that you guys are reaching out to so many people. It's so true! He is ok with your hurt, mess and disappointment. He always shows up. Great video! Look forward to more!

This helped me incredibly & hit all the points I needed to hear. Thank you to you two for doing what you do, God bless!

This is so valuable! Great stuff guys thank you, the book promo was very funny - already preordered! :) and a phrase that came to mind is 'prepare in the light' so this is super important for those like myself who haven't yet had to go through a break up and therefore we can hopefully use it most to grow us healthily when it happens :) cheers Bethkes!

I just had the most peaceful breakup, I didn't want to feel any pain and i wanted to just forget everything and drown myself in negativity, like i deserved it or something. I opened up to her again, told her how i felt, and reaffirmed the reasons why we were breaking up. Opening up and just accepting the pain, and to look at it as a learning opportunity. Thanks for the best advice and it really helps :)

This blessed me so much! Answered a lot of questions and gave hope! Thank you both so much for sharing!!!

This was seriously so perfect and exactly what I needed in this season of my life! You guys are the best and I always love everything you post! Thank you both for being such an inspiration and example of what a beautiful and Godly marriage looks like :)

I just broke up with my boyfriend with whom ive been for more than 2 years and we spent literally everyday together and i just stopped the car to watch your Video. It was an unhealthy relationship but he was honestly the sweetest and he would always do everything for me. Its now gonna be really hard but i just wanna thank you for your words. They really help me right now.

Yay so excited for another video with both of you guys! Keeping coming !

You both are my age or so, yet I always benefit from these videos so much. Much of this I know, but just need people to remind me, so thank you both. It helps mucho. ❤

thank you for reminding me those steps after having a break-ups.. seriously, having LDR for 6 years wasn't easy for me and at the end we had to break-ups couple years ago.. I'm really want to let myself leaning on Him, as I wanna to grow & loving Him more. can't wait for another vlog & podcast of yours! Lots love, from Indonesia

Being vulnerable is both the greatest and scariest feeling.

Thank God I saw this video. I been praying for a while about ending a good relationship because in college I want to focus on school and find who God wants me to become. I been feeling so guilty about it. But, this video helped. Thank you.

This has been such a blessing to me, you will have no idea how much... thank you!

Blessed with this Video. Seeing this has refreshed the peace God gave me while I was struggling through my breakup. We broke up after 4 years and that was 4 years ago. I know that was a very long time to be heartbroken. But everytime I tried to let go, he would come by and act as if we were still best friends. I was ok with us being friends only because I didn't want to seem mean. That in turn made me hopeful that we might get back together. Anyway, since last year I've been praying to God for his happiness and for my peace to move on. Early this year, I woke up one morning with no hurt or hate or feeling for him. It felt like nothing I have ever felt before. I prayed that I will wait for his timing but if He wants me to serve Him single I am His. Watching this video reminded me that if Christ wants to be clingy with me, I am not complaining. The Man laid down his life for me. Thank you Father for the Bethkes. A beautiful Godly couple. Bless you💐

Literally sobbing. I’m breaking up with my boyfriend soon and it already hurts knowing how much I’m going to miss him. But this has helped. Thanks guys.

I'm just getting over my first break up. Just time though for you to upload this. This video helped me much more.

Thank you so much. I just got broken up with this morning and really needed this guidance. God bless you both! Thank you so much.

Thank you for this video. It encouraged me to apologize for everything I did to mess up in the relationship.

thanks so much for the support! God bless.

I love this video! I recently went through a breakup and I felt so guilty about it, even though he ended it with me. I feel so much better now

Wow! this came at such a perfect time. Thank you for shining your light, and spreading God's love.

Thank you, thank you. This came at such a perfect time. This was exactly what I needed to hear.

this was extremely helpful and on-time as I'm currently in this season of a breakup. Patience to allow God to heal the hurt, community and time in his Word are things that have proven to be invaluable for me. Thanks for the video.

Alyssa's promo! The hashtag! I'm dying!

Very powerful thank you 🙏🏼 I hope and pray for more videos like this 👑

I know. I am going through it right now. It is been more than six months I have not been got over it yet. I have been hiding my emotions for so long. I do need the Lord. I need help.

Loved it! God is GOOD ❤️🙏🏼

This is so good. I’ve been watching a lot of your videos on relationships as my boyfriend and I have been trying to figure out if we need to breakup for a time because like you’ve said we are both good for each other but we may not be the best for each other. This really helped me feel better about the decision we need to make.

yesterday , the love of my love ended our relationship and as much as it hurts so much i do know that God, who created my heart can definitely heal it too. Thank you so much for this enlightening video

Soooo helpful! Thank you, I'm having a real hard breakup and i'm in so much pain but this really help me, it makes me feel so much better. Greetings from Colombia.

i really appreciate that you justify time. and that human beings are meant to love deeply and hurt deeply because that is some of the reasons why myself personally have pushed away my feelings. because i probably just think that i shouldn't greave that long, its like this pain has to come out to God, for it to heal. if it doens't it's me hiding it for myself and saying "i can handle it" not crying out to God and saying "God Help me" " I need you"

I totally get it now. Definitely a lesson to learn. God wasn't at the center of my life. I got so distracted and consumed by hurt and disappointment from my ex husband I isolated myself from the only One who could heal me from my past. My journey with this particular new mate should have been me showing him Christ not drawing me further. I just learned how to be treated like a Queen by the new guy and I will always thank him for that, but we didn't have Christ. I wasnt even whole going into the relationship and that inevitably hurt us. I need time to grieve and be healed from God not isolate myself and draw further from Him. Thank you Bethkes!!!! Very powerful and encouraging and so blessed to have y'all on this new journey of healing.

I love y'alls video, and would like to see one on fighting the temptation of going back to an unhealthy relationship. :) Thanks

This is ABSOLUTELY what I needed right now! My boyfriend and I broke up just over a week ago and are still in love but have decided that we need to be putting God first and not each other, it was completely mutual but still so, so heartbreaking. Thanks for these great tips!!

The two of you get me so excited for marriage haha! I love what my pastor said one night during a Bible study; "If you're pissed off at God, tell Him." Honesty, laying everything out on the table, opening up to our Father has helped tremendously over the last year. God Bless you both!

Thank you for this :) My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. We have been doing long distance for 6 months and that was going to end next month, and he ended it. My prayer to God was that if this is not His will then please let it end, and it did. This was a great lesson thank you. I know all will be healed in His time, but it does suck and I know its okay to cry. The hardest part for me is that I have been holding onto see him for the past 6 months and now that has just been taken away. Thank you guys