That's honestly really beautiful 🙂

yeah, being sensitive means you give a shit. who wants to employ someone who doesn't care?

💙💙

Waow that's amazing, I think that you're very lucky ! It's actually the opposite for me, I try to do my best on focusing on everything so everything is done the best way but because of that I tend to forget things during the day and my boss just repeat me that I don't care or don't listen when I actually care too much than what I can handle and it's so frustrating !

I love your boss

Me when i meet new people

People can always tell when someone is observing them and generally dislike it that's why they say you're "quiet".

Ohhh I love observing people in large groups too!!

Same here

Love this, I'm usually very extroverted in groups and also I'm observing y'all!!!!

I hate that

And oftentimes, those same people who accuse you of being "too sensitive" will themselves respond very negatively to the slightest criticism of their own reactions to things.

It's honestly the worst.

While working on self love and acceptance I noticed I started taking it either as a compliment or a joke... it's like them saying I'm too tall - there's nothing inherently bad about it, they just have to adjust to my height now :)

@@NJ-wb1cz that's a pretty great way of looking at it. Like, "You like bad movies!" Or "your hair is too brown!" Umm, okay.... Sorry, I... guess 🤷‍♂️

Me too!

People think that to be strong, you have to hide your emotions. It's harder for HPS to hide emotions. But what they don't understand, is that anger is also something they express well. They can say their opinion, and since they read people well, they know where to push. But they usually will use this ability to do good, because they care about people. I think being strong is not related to being HPS or not. It's only related to if you're confident or not. People who aren't confident with crying, judge HPS who are confident with crying, or admire it. Crying makes you stronger, I learned that.

I totally agree. It's hard sometimes to take in all the emotions that I'm feeling, but we still go through it and move on with our lives and that's super fascinating.:)

Yes and all most all literary persons are hypersensitive.

The Self-Worth Habit I agree 100 percent!😊

Very true. Lots of admirable traits are seen as weakness though, I think thats just lack of understanding and naiveness. I prefer not to label it as a strength or weakness, much like I don't feel like being a HSP is a gift or curse. If I had the choice I would accept being a HSP and consider it advantageous in many ways BUT it's also often emotionally, mentally, physically exhausting and overwhelming, especially around particular people, in certain situations or environments. Being a HSP or an empath can make some jobs very difficult or virtually impossible as well as detrimental/damaging personally. I have found being aware and discovering your a HSP and/or empath makes it 1000% more easy to operate at a moderately tolerable level, especially if we're actively aware act responsibly. As mentioned in the vid personally I often previously felt abnormal especially as a man. Men are generally expected to be more emotionally strong and stable by themselves and society in general. This IMO is partly/generally a stereotype, misconception, and incorrect. Damn I have rambled enough. If I could offer simple advice to anyone struggling to cope as a HSP and/or empath it would be do research. There is so much information out there. This channel and a few others have helped me tremendously. Reading online or books I'm sure would help a lot I'm sure though would require more effort. Be particularly aware of your limits and set appropriate boundaries and guidelines to protect yourself emotionally/mentally. Don't try to suppress, ignore or be ASHAMED of your emotions/feelings. Be aware, conscious, and process your feelings and emotions. This is actually meditation. I don't like the term "meditation" bc it feels like a voodoo religious practice. IT'S NOT. Meditation IMO isn't act of turning off ur brain and being calm - it's the deliberate act being calm, relaxing, intelligently processing thoughts and feelings. HSP & empaths often do a lot of thinking and contemplating meditation helps to do it much more productively.

Me too

Absolutely agree!

Same. I feel like I know things that goes over people's heads or that I tend to over-talk and people just aren't having it. Still, I feel like a lamb among wolves sometimes. Some have this "look" ya know? Like, 'I'm gonna eat well tonight', kind-of look. I consider that myself; but only because people told me that in my youth. Can I ask if you can elaborate a little?

Samee

I feel that way,too. I have empathic tendrncies as well and feel that people fear me!!! In fact I should fear them and not the other way arround.

And we are close our Source.😊

Same.

We really are the strongest

Straight up!🙌🏻❤️😊

My loyalty has kept me in some fucked up places when my gut knew better

Med too. 😊❤ But my whole life I forgot to rescue myself 😢

You're right, thank you.

@@candi_z32babyface29 Yes...feel the same. 😢💚 would be nice if we would be at least understood. 💙🤍🍁

Same ...why im here ...I decided to rescue myself 💙 Im an empath as well . Its very draining isnt it ladies 💅 we got this 👊

They usually dont want to be rescued.

Maria Johansson you might also be an introvert, or both!

Oh, how I know that feeling of being tired around people. No one seems to understand though...You can watch me in my recent video about other people's annoying habits and HSPs.

IKR!

@ Maria, Right! It's like for every 1 hour I spend with you I need 4 to recover!

I am tired "after people". Like, after work, I don't have energy to live my life :-(

I love your channel!

Ty

I like being alone I need to recharge! 😁 whole I'm jokingly serious I know what you are saying so thank you

True!! You can't have genius without a spark of madness

woot woot!!! haha! xoxo

Kati Morton YASSSSSSS

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This comment is so cute

I am so sorry your family isn't understanding :(

@@Katimorton Thanks. I know that they love me and they mean well, but my family is more of the type to bottle up their emotions and keep everything on the inside. I honestly don't know how I came out being an HSP XD

My mom always says "you just think too much"

@@fudgesolo6352 My family also bottled up and kept emotions hidden, and I think that's exactly WHY I'm an HSP: I had to become much better at reading the subtle cues of their emotions, since they were never going to make them obvious.

@@fudgesolo6352 saaaaaaaameeee

Atta baby!! This is my reason for being here watching this video. Self awareness and eventually recovery

Thank you

I take care of myself by staying at home alone so my senses are not agitated by anyone else

I find it attractive to be sensitive :) .. Stay blessed ^^

I'm a sensitive person, my husband is a sensitive person and our son.......is a *highly sensitive person* At least I can understand what he's going through and the struggles he faces and will face as he gets older (he's only 8). My mother, on the other hand, was not sensitive at all and teased me about it all my life, in fact she still does, in fact she complains about how sensitive my son is to me. I started setting boundaries with my toxic mother a few years ago!

@@trinomial-nomenclature My mother was really toxic, I coudn't cry in front of her because it made her feel like she won. So all this emotion build up.. It exploded to her in anger. I envy people who cry, because they process their own feelings well. (I'm also HPS) I wish I could find someone I wouldbe able to express my emotions freely.

@@thisisntallowed9560 I am extremely sorry for what you had to endure from your mother, bottling up feelings can be extremely painful and I'm not surprised it ended in an explosion of anger towards her. I feel the need to clarify that just because my husband and I are HSP's doesn't allow me to freely talk about my feelings. Actually it's quite the opposite, he often doesn't want to hear about my "stuff" and quickly gets overwhelmed, so I have to "censor" (in a way) what I say to him. It's not as peachy as people think it to be, nor what I thought it would have been.

@@trinomial-nomenclature I didn't see things like that. I always had this problem where I talk too much about my problems and feelings with my friends, but I don't cry or express those emotions directly. By 'expressing my emotions' I was more talking about crying, laughing and doing stuff I like without having to hide. I have this need to be understood, and I predict this will cause problems with my futur relashionships, because it already have, but now I'll take a different approach. At least I know people who are with me won't have to censor because I like hearing about people's problems a lot.

Hey, I'm a nurse as well (currently not working, as im going to university again for a psychology degree) and was thinking of maybe also going into hospice care, as i really liked an internship there and also liked that you have so much more time to take care of a patients/residents needs compared to a regular hospital- it just feels so much more humane to me. Now i know, that its different on a personal/ maybe even cultural level, but if you want to share, id love to know how you are dealing with working there long-term and what strategies you have to do cope with the realities of working in a hospice. I love the job, but am a bit scared of it being too much.

@@inesgurtler5749 self care and a support system allows me to continue long term in hospice. I’ve become quite self educated in grief and compassion fatigue. My employer encourages nurses to take time off, they are careful not to overload us with the number of patients we have, which helps tremendously. I find that what is helpful is to tell myself daily,” This is not my pain to carry. I am here to bear witness and to alleviate their pain.”

I am also a nurse, HSP, and an empath. It was through deeper spiritual knowledge of what I came here to do and how, what and when to give to others, that I could be my best for the benefit of others. I chose private duty early in my career to focus on one pt for an agreed commitment of time. This is how I was able to control/balance my energy, stay healthy and renewed. You must find balance in all aspects of your life!

I was a health care worker for the elderly. I had to leave that job cause I couldn't cope. So proud of you being able to do this job 🙂

Aww.

Amen! Your guidance counselor sounds like my PsychMD's and even my elementary, middle and HS authorities said this at different eras of my life but it's remained a constant in my reality. I feel blessed actually

Love this!!

She always does this.

I guess me too, the test showed so I got 23! wow

@@ms.alright5956 I got 23 too!

@@fudgesolo6352 Hahaha let's be friends then :D

@@ms.alright5956 Yay! Friendship!

@@fudgesolo6352 sure ^^

Wow you sound so much like me. I'm actually happy to hear that.

I saw a man in the mall one day and he looked like he was about to cry- and I seriously grabbed him and hugged him and said, “Me too!” And started bawling. Lol.

DeDebby wow sameeee

I've used the Black Tourmaline stone in my pocket after I discovered I do absorb other's energies and I've noticed quite a difference whenever I wear it vs do not since it not only repels negative energies of others keeping it from entering you it pushes away electronic signals, helps lower your stress and anxiety. I do have more energy to me on days I wear it and if I forget I notice it. You could try that.

@@destroyraiden ~ Thank you for this. I took a screenshot of your comment so I can try this. I seem to always be surrounded by negative people and it really takes a toll on my well being.

Growing up my mom worked more often than not (she still does), but her days off were most often spent in shopping malls or shopping plazas and I was always with her when she shopped. I always hated it, not because I hated shopping, but rather because I ended up feeling unbearably fatigued. I've been plagued by fatigue my entire life. It has been the bane of my existence.

Muzzey, this comment deserves so many more likes.

@@RoziEREx It's not about the likes. It's all about the love

Muzzey and I love your comment lol

But then says HSP and sounds gangsta

This is the only time I’ve ever wanted to cry from a KZfaq comment

Me too! There is so little out there about our type. In solidarity!

Me as well.

@Cymric, Can you recommend reading material, drop links to videos and advise on this theory more?? I'm green to all this

Laura Knaus I always say I wouldn’t change who I am, and then I’m awake at 1:30 after ruminating for hours and I reconsider. But - I generally always return to the original thought

I actually hate helping people out because they just see it as a weakness and they only wanna use you as a therapist. A lot of people don’t appreciate anything

Anxiety & depression are given as free stuff

Me in a nutshell!

Thanks, this pretty much sums up how I feel about my high sensitivity or I would like to frame it. As Kati said, it's an amazing gift that we have. Our high sensitivity also makes us more empathetic and able to relate to other people.

Join a meet up group for HSPs. It will change your life.

@Gigi K I totally would, but I'm not on Facebook. I bet there are groups elsewhere though. I never thought to look! lol

@@lornocford6482I've thought about going to meet up groups before but I never knew there was a category for this. I should totally look into that! Thanks!

@@Tiger-Lilly I'm a member of one in the UK, so there's definitely one here.

@@lornocford6482 Thats wonderful! Im in the USA. :)

Dude, SAME!

i was just called shy by some people and sensitive by others so XD

You can threat them to do something very bad to them 🤪😈since if you are able to do great good you can also do great evil (and not knowing what you are capable of).

Kelly Green Same here!

Me too 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Yes! Be proud of who you are. Of course without to much ego is key. Self love is the most important thing to understand about our own life. Be blessed and strong. You are very much appreciated for being your authentic self. Love and kindness goes a long way.

Cari omg me too I remember EVERYTHING it seems like I can’t let things go

Yet my short term memory is iffy at best. But then again I've suffered a TBI.

I am also a teacher, Beth :) And I feel absolutely the same. Sometimes just tired and overwhelmed. But being a teacher just makes my heart happy. Where are you from? Greetings, Melanie

This is also a real problem for people with any sort of impaired hearing. And I don't understand bars with loud music but no dancefloor. You can't have a conversation, but you can't dance either.

Andy Brice that is so true. Why is it so loud w/o a dance floor? There’s a trendy place near me that does that and I don’t eat there because you literally can’t talk to a person standing next to you and with hearing impairments it would be even worse. Establishments should consider their patrons first. If there’s a dance floor I understand loud music, but when it’s just a place for socializing it doesn’t need to be jarringly loud!

and why does there have to be loud music in almost every single shop?? Not every shopper is a teenager...Or most restaurants and pubs, lots of cafes. Why do they turn up the volume and make people who sit next to each other, shout when having a conversation? I never get that...Aren't clubs for that purpose? I've aslo started making videos about HSPs as I'm one myself..Good to see that there are others like me.

I miss when booths were everywhere! Please let it be a trend again soon

I thought I was the only one who noticed this like whyyyyyy?!

Most people don't notice.

There's also sensitive people and narcissists who use their "sensitivity" to control people.

Elzanie Vorster sensitivity doesn’t just apply to positivity. There’s a lot of sensitive killers, rapists, and many others.

Our culture/society trampled over Hsp’s. I know a guy in his early 30’s who took his life recently. He was an Hsp. He did not deal with any chronic depression. He was what most people viewed as a successful great looking graphic designer with a big ass heart. Surprised and devistated a community around him when it happened

Yes exactly

i noticed that in the first video I watched by her it was about bipolor and I thought she was really bipolar ,then I got what she meant and its great way of passing the message and making patients feel they r not alone ....great work

Thanks for the inspiration, I can do this! I can love my sensitivity & all that goes with it

A. S. B. Thank you! ..it means a lot to me

I don't know if this could help but I love sensitive and vulnerabe guys, I feel a lot more understood by them and I'm not the only woman I know that feels this way. If you have female friends you trust, don't be scared to open up with them! I'm sure they'll be understanding and caring.

I honestly feel like the whole "sensitivity = weakness" thing is something that guys made up on their own and is a standard that they hold themselves to, not women. Sure, there are some girls out there that think men who cry are overly sensitive, but in general the majority of girls that I know all think that sensitive and vulnerable guys are extremely attractive. Girls like to know what guys are feeling and they like to know that they aren't alone, and it makes girls way more comfortable with being expressive with all their own feelings if they know that the guy they're attracted to is comfortable being emotional as well.

I want you to know that because you are sensitive does not make you weak or less of a man. Don't hide yourself because no one should dictate what you feel and how strongly you feel it. You emotions will always be valid do not let anyone else make you think otherwise. - Sincerely, A woman who supports men's emotional well being.

Clea Fantini well.. it didn’t just helped.. it made me cry believe it or not lul. i mean, that’s embarrassing but i’ll say it.. i’m 23 n never been in a relationship for a lot of reasons including being sensitive n being guarded cuz of my sensitivity.. n also because i’ve been going through A LOT for as long as I can remember n find it extremely unfair to think of involving someone in a lot of mess n fail at loving them.. i know it’s stupid but way less hurtful. like imagine if i’m so loved by someone... it’ll crush them knowing what I’m dealing with, you know? But still, who knows tho when n what could happen anyway, right? 😸 Thank you... from the bottom of my heart for your reply, lady. 🥺 it relieves things i fear n feel so anxious about all the time.. it means so much to me and i just wish that there are a lot of you exist.

Even as a toddler

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Sannetje, tell me about it. All my life I've been thinking I'm a weirdo. Now so long ago did I find out that this 'weirdo' has at least a proper term for it. Although, to me what we experience should be the normal thing and other people's actions are weird. But we are the huge minority I'm afraid.

Sannetje me toooo!!! What a relief

I am so glad your therapist helped you understand and love yourself so much more!! Yay!! xoxo

Totally accurate for me personally too! Healer here & you can't pour from an empty cup is a famous quote but tbh, it fills my emotional cup up to heal others, do you experience that too?

Of course!! So glad you enjoyed the video :) xoxo

Being an HSP is not a personality disorder. It's about being more human. Keep in mind that we are living a world which being less human is considered as normal. If I weren't an HSP, I would prefer being an HSP that's being human, anormal in this world.

Awe I am so glad!! xoxox

Yay!! xoxo