If I could give a word of advice to any of my fellow autistics who worry about identifying as autistic, it would be not to worry. While there are a lot of hateful martyr parents out there who will tell you you don’t deserve the label “autistic” unless you have a co-occurring intellectual disability or very intensive support needs, they’re full of it and have no understanding of what the autistic spectrum even is. If you fall anywhere on that spectrum, whether you’re formally diagnosed or self-diagnosed, you’re entitled to use the label “autistic,” period.

“Wanting to be alone but feeling lonely,” is the best summary of my 53 years I’ve ever come across. Also, 19. Bingo.

Instead of difficulty getting into bed, it’s difficulty getting into the shower for me.

"I can't hear you, the lights are too bright" hit home hard for me. There's so many times where I just freeze doing whatever I'm doing because there's too much going on around me and all I can manage to blurt out is "There's too much going on... I can't think"

The one that hits me the hardest is the inability to focus around injustice- and the fact that you immediately acknowledge “This isn’t like the way everyone is upset by injustice “. YES! It makes me absolutely bonkers, and then to try to explain it to NTs, I just get “Well life’s not fair”. AAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH

I literally gasped when you said "wishing other people asked good questions, too!" I feel like physical discomfort when people ask bad (imo) questions! It's agonizing lol!

I was always more of a "I can't think, you're too loud" kind of person 16/25

23 for me. Routines aren't sacred for me, I'm actually terrible at keeping them, BUT I get really frustrated at surprise changes to my day. That sounds like I have a routine but the thing is my days aren't the same, but when I have an idea of how my day is going to go and then something changes that at the last minute I don't have a good time. I explained this to my wife and now she is great at making lunch plans with me a couple days in advance instead of calling me and asking if I want to get lunch in a couple hours. The other one I don't have is the caffeine/alcohol/meds one. Caffeine might have a reduced effect on me though.

I got all of them! Hesitating to use the word “autistic” really got me. Not only do I do that, but I’m worried that if fully unmask people might think I’m pretending to be autistic 😞

I have so much empathy that, I can feel bad about a spoon being alone in the drawer. I'm undiagnosed, but I got 17 on the bingo card. I'm 61 years old and got diagnosed with adhd at 59. It's tough right now being empathic. I have to take mental health breaks because I follow a lot of news and activists. I cannot understand the hate these days. I just subscribed, thank you for talking about, what can be, overwhelming empathy.

Speaking from personal experience, "research mode" is surprisingly useful for preparing good-quality presentations/articles. The desire to *exhaustively* understand a topic tends to lead down rabbit holes and consume time, but you can then pull out all kinds of cross-links and parallels that can potentially help others understand the topic too. Recently late-diagnosed at 30.

Thank you so much for this. In my 55th year things are finally starting to make sense. I thought everyone needed to sit alone in a dark, quiet, cold room for at least one hour during a party.

This is so helpful. I had never heard anyone articulate the feeling of wishing that neurotypical people knew how to ask good questions 😂

"I can't hear you the lights are too bright." IYKYK. And damn I feel called out.

When my boys were little I used to say (I didn't know I was autistic) "If you ask me now I will say no". That gave me time to actually listen when I was in a better mental space I also say to my support workers "I don't read body language well, so if I ask for something you are not comfortable doing just say no - that will make my life so much easier when I don't have to second guess myself"

24 wow. I was diagnosed last year, and it has been a mind-blowing experience. Knowing i am not broken, just different

People wanna get mad at the socially inept, but they don't wanna pause & ask them what they're thinking or feeling in the bad moments then help them go through each thought & question that keeps getting in the way of functioning peacefully & efficiently.

I scored 22. I got diagnosed autistic at age 29. I suspected for a few years before that. I was hesitant to refer to myself as autistic for fear of being wrong and misrepresenting myself at the expense of "truly" autistic people. Glad I know better now. Research mode brought me to this video lol. Thanks for sharing

My sister works with autistic kids and she has been telling me I must be autistic because I share so many personality traits with them. I'm 39 years old and have never been diagnosed but I check all of those. Thank you for this. It's nice to think I may come by my quirks honestly.

I’m autistic and I work in architecture. If you’d like to know about what’s behind walls and how houses are built I’d love to talk about it for way too long lol

This is me. As I sit in my car in the Walmart parking lot watching this and crying. My fiancee hates that I ask so many questions. I feel that they are totally necessary to move on with whatever is going on. I still don't know why this wasn't seen when I was younger.

The: "firm deep pressure (as far as touch)", really stuck out, same with the "I can't hear you, the lights are too bright", is the story of my life.

"Research Mode" needs to be a t-shirt. What about making a music playlist and not being able to stop? I'm stuck on my phone for hours once I start (self-diagnosed ASD/ADHD).

I'm officially diagnosed but I've told almost no one. The two friends that I've told have pushed back saying that the diagnosis must be wrong because I'm empathic and have learned to make reasonable eye contact. I hate feeling defensive and second- guessing my own experience. Thank you for shedding a little light on aspects of different parts of our experiences. My current listen-on-repeat song is Sara Bareilles' cover of Goodbye Yellow Brick Road.

Sometimes I take weeks or even months to process things that are said to me. I’ve always said that’s what made me good at de-escalating angry patients in the ER and the psych unit. Angry people will try to insult staff and I just don’t get when it’s happening lol.

It's more "How many did i *not* check off?" I will listen to a song over and over again, but due to being AuDHD, that song on repeat changes to another one after a few days. Even at 39, I look for new music to listen to more than anyone else I know.

I'm neurodivergent. I have been through the process in the UK and according to the phycologist I am a point off being autistic and a point off being ADHD. I am very much both, but have spent so many years masking I don't know where I end and the masking starts. I scored quite high on your bingo card lol

I’m 53 and got diagnosed with autism at 50 through my 2 adult children being diagnosed. I relate so strongly to so many of the bingo items! “Why can’t everyone just say what they mean and be direct?” And “needing time to process what others say” are huge for me. My score is 18! I’m still trying to figure out how to better exist in the world.

The way I use IMDB while watching a movie because I need to know the actors and extras about said movie. It drives my husband nuts. I am not diagnosed but I am either autistic with adhd or adhd with autistic tendencies but not actually autistic. Even without the diagnosis, knowing this about myself has been extremely helpful for me to accept myself.

I remember that I saw a 'bingo card' on Insta on autism and it finally clicked that I don't just have ADHD, I'm autistic+ADHD, and the phrase of the card that made me realize this was something along the lines of "at school being kinda bullied but also being friends with everyone"

Many of these were emphatic yeses for me, and a few of the more stereotypical ones were firm nos. But the thing about empathy always bothered me. I've been told several times by loves ones that I'm cold, unavailable, or don't really get the emotional stuff. Meanwhile, I'm very aware of the emotional states of people around me, I'm just not comfortable with intense negative emotion because I resonate so strongly. That, and I may not feel like I know how to respond to someone's emotional needs despite feeling them. My own emotions aren't well regulated, what makes you think I know what to do to help regulate yours?

I'm a male with a diagnosis aged 61 and recently, ADHD was added to my condition. I'm now 63, had a full working life and obviously, I've had zero in the way of help or assistance. My life has been full of turmoil, worry, abuse, bullying, denial, lack of belief and consideration, these are the things I can currently think of, Autism is like snowflakes, no two are the same and the same goes for neurodiversity, 99% of the time, we are not given any empathy, so no wonder we want to spend time alone, as no one believes in our condition or cares why we can't do certain things at certain times. A better understanding is required, along with time and patience.

I can't afford to pursue a diagnosis right now so I've been on a research journey for a couple of years now, and this is the first I've ever heard someone mention the transition thing and I really relate. I always thought it was just being unmotivated due to depression and anxiety but maybe there is more to it.

Wow. I'm diagnosed ADHD, and suspect ASD. Checked everything but the bluntness box, although I used to be blunt. While I appreciate directness, I can be overly sensitive to what feels like criticism. My keen sense of justice and high empathy 😄 has caused me to dial back my bluntness over the years. On the plus side, when someone genuinely wants clear, direct feedback I'm good at providing it without being harsh. And boy, the song thing (and movies, in my case)--I'm having a really hard time not listing every fixation from the time I was 10. 😁

I got most of the way through this, identifying with a lot of stuff... And then I got to the "Appropriating the term autistic" thing, and now I'm quietly crying because this is so so me... Thank you for your validation...

I just recently started to suspect I'm an undiagnosed adult and keep coming back to learn more about autism after I go to weddings. I've always had trouble with crowded, loud environments, but for the most part it's never been too hard to avoid those situations. But weddings are a much larger social obligation than something like friends wanting you to meet them at a bar. And every time I'm at a wedding I'm just entirely overwhelmed. For me it's the noise, I just can't process it all. It's like I can't hear, because I'm hearing everything. I think it's also hard for me to isolate the voices of people who are talking to me with so much background noise, and even when I do I can't quite comprehend what is being said. I just get bits and pieces but can't always put it all together. For me it's one of the most isolating environments. Even though I'm surrounded by people I can't communicated with anyone.

"I need firm, deep pressure. Or else." 🤣 Look out! 🤣

24/25 😂 Diagnosed AuDHD 8 days ago in my 40s. I didn't mark off safe foods because I flip constantly between craving novelty and craving the familiar (AuDHD tug-of-war.) Otherwise, the rest is bang-on!

I turn the music down when I need to look both ways while driving. Some songs (that are my current repeat song) drive me to tears because I feel the music so intensely. When I was a teen, my obsession song was American Pie. I used to call radio stations and BEG them to play the long version (it's 14 minutes long) and my dad eventually just bought me the CD. I remember sitting in the kitchen for an entire day listening to the same song on loop. But the one that really got me was the empathy one. I have had full-on panic attacks in theaters because I was feeling what the people in the movies were feeling so intensely I couldn't control myself. I now have a list of rules for the type of movies I can and cannot watch and how the people I'm with need to react when I have to step out or cover my face/head during the movie.

Someone else in the comments said, "I literally gasped when you said..." and I did too! But for me, it was when you said, "Planning things perfectly and being unable to execute". I've suspected for years that I'm neurodivergent, this is the light bulb moment I needed. Pretty sure I'm Autistic and ADHD. Well, and OCD, too. So yeah....I'm a mess...

You are not alone in the ability to feel others feelings and intensely. I am relieved that this recurrent ability has another source other than being "codependent." I have been beating myself up for this one for decades.

I sighed. I'm 46 and I've been reading and following many people for over a year now. I got 100. The ADHD is in the bag. I was late diagnosed there... It wasn't until a friend was diagnosed that I even wondered what it might look like. And here I am. 😂. 🙏

when you started talking about secret stims, i was like “is this why i scrunch my toes in my shoes?” and then you specifically mentioned that and i was like omg!!!

I don't think I'm autistic, but it was interesting to watch, especially because an autistic friend recently said that I might be. I got 5, plus 2 maybes.

There is never NOT a song running in my head- its like some song takes the place of an inner monologue for me 🎵🎶 I wonder if this qualifies as a kind of mental stim? 🤔 Research mode: activated!

I think I relate to all of this (a couple of these weren't all of the time, but most of them were). & I am also super empathetic. I hadn't realized that getting stuck in the car, or trying to leave places, was a transition issue until you said it, & I was just like "OhMyGod That's why I do that!" (My new doctor just said they'd give me a referral for ASD testing)

This just made me cry and just about checked everything off. I'll be talking a little more about it to my therapist.

I did not tick on 2 boxes, which are “sensitive to caffeine” and “triggered by light touch”. My go-to song when I’m in a good mood is Hotel California. I could play it again, again, and again.

I checked off all of them! I'm just discovering (8 months) that I am AuADHD and I'm 63! I'm actually pleased to be neurodivergent. It explains so much of my life and the issues that I have had throughout. I just wish I had discovered this many many years ago. I'm now so very proud to be AuADHD. Its my super power and my nemesis! Who want to be the same as everyone else?

As usual: full bingo card for me. Though one square was a "Yes, but for me it's like..." This made me think of a few other traits that I wonder if others relate to...or maybe they're just me. -my handwriting can change vastly even in the same sentence. -I often downplay my struggles assuming that it's something everyone experiences but they're better at dealing with it (and I just don't know that it's a ND trait/struggle because I can only be inside my own brain). -in verbal communication I often find myself saying the parenthetical information/details before I even say the subject/ real meat of the sentence. Example "I know this isn't really relevant until next year and we already have several of them, although my mom wanted to borrow some and I'd like to replace the worn ones before fall, but..." So no one knows I'm talking about lawn chairs until all the background info is laid out.

I listen to the same song for weeks... sometimes months ..but it changes depending on what I am going through or what I need...p.s.I checked off everything except light touch...I ...I need to know you for a while before I even feel comfortable shaking hands...but I was cracking up during most of your video because I get it...I love being Autistic...I was diagnosed at age 49 changed my life...Having the tools and services really helps to navigate this world that is often cruel and unjust... being diagnosed helped me to finally understand why I have had so much difficulty living a "normal" life...Thanks for sharing this bingo

I often am the only person in the room to stick my fingers in my ears with loud music, trains, ambulances, etc.

Taylor,THANK YOU! I’m 65 discovered I was on the spectrum a couple years ago. I relate to so very many of these. Particularly paradoxical reactions to meds. Benadryl makes me hyper and it will NEVER help me sleep! RESEARCH- my favorite thing to do. Why don’t others want to know “why”? 😉. Comfort over style always. Rarely will join a last minute offer .. have to think about it for a day or so. Was just thinking about the honesty/bluntness thing.. my therapist says I’m “unusually honest”. So I guess most of the world lies all the time making excuses for not doing things..🤷🏻‍♀️I’m empathetically attached to my daughter who lives across the country. She went through some challenging months and I was a mess the whole time. And yes, I’ll make plans to do something and cancel at the last moment.. thanks for posting this video. Nice to find a group I belong with! and high fives to all the rest in this group trying to navigate this strange world! ❤

Literally September. I used to hate the song because it’s was remixed. But in a very profound day in my life, it came back in childhood. Are you me? I relate to your points immensely.

Hi! I was diagnosed about two years ago with being a high masking Autistic w\SAD (Social Anxiety Disorder). I have all of those and then some. I have a problem telling people that I am Autistic because I usually ge the reaction, "Well you don't look Autistic." That sentence really makes me want to find a corner and hide. There are so many things wrong with that sentence for me and I have a hard time processing a rebuttal that I find myself just standing there with a blank look on my face. I also hit about 99 % of everything on your card. But one I would add, is that rhetorical questions confuse the heck out of me. I am not sure whether they really want me to answer the question or not. Thank you for your channel and it's content. It has been very helpful on my journey through understanding myself.

What song do I listen to over and over and over? Hm... That depends on the day. I have a distinct bias towards songs that were popular when I was a kid, in the fabulous 1980's. My kids and I were just listening to "99 Luftballoons" by Nena repeatedly the other day. Singing in German is one freaking awesome stim!

Long suspected I'm on the spectrum, I strongly relate to so many of these and some of them I didn't realise were common in people on the spectrum e.g the light touch, the absorbing feelings and especially needing time to process speech. I get so frustrated when people ask me questions and then assume I don't know/am just not answering because it takes me a while to comprehend what's been said and formulate a coherent response.

I’m pretty sure I’m on the autism spectrum. My dad is autistic and I check pretty much every box. I was “screened” for autism as a kid because I refused to make eye contact, had very strong and specific interests, and had physical tics that made others uncomfortable because I couldn’t stop doing them just because I was asked to stop. The doctor basically said girls don’t have autism and I was smart so they said it was just a lot of bad habits that needed to be broken. At this point, I’m done with school and I don’t know if getting a diagnosis will do me any good. I’ve tried communicating that “my brain is installed sideways”, as I’ve been calling it, and all that did was invite people to be uncomfortable with me and ostracize me when the didn’t before. I’m finding it best just to create a persona of being eccentric. That way, people don’t feel like I have a “disease” and they treat me much more fairly and are more understanding of these traits than they would be if I explained that I’m almost certainly just autistic. I’d love to know if others who felt this way but went ahead and got a diagnosis anyway feel that it helped them at all. For reference, I’m a PhD biochemist. Unfortunately most scientists are very social and chatty. Thankfully my research topic of molecular mechanisms of pulmonary fibrosis is a “special interest” as people call them, so I have the luxury of getting paid to obsess over it and that reflects well on me professionally, so I’m able to just paint myself as a bit eccentric and very dedicated to my work

Even since my nephew was born I’m even more motivated to get myself diagnosed bc I’m sure he’s also autistic and I know it will be easier for him to find an accurate diagnosis if his family are also accurately diagnosed.

22. 😮 I actually cried lol. Feeling not so lonely, thank you for this ❤

You're not alone! My affective empathy his too high. I get so overwhelmed by other people's affect all the time. It's a big part of my needing so much alone time to process it all 😭 Love the Bingo game idea ❤

I thought I would not score any at the beginning but I scored 17. I also have Alexithymia which is common in autistic people but means I do not feel things in the same way as other autistic people. Some of yours made me laugh out loud. Like "why isn't everyone as blunt as me" and "needing to know why". Being easily upset by injustice is probably my strongest one though.

I agree being clear, stop the waffle and then having to try and work out what they are trying to say and then usually getting it wrong.

That last box hit so hard. I planned a big surprise for my mom’s 70th, wasn’t able to rely on anyone else to help. And while everyone thought it went well, it cause me a full on meltdown for basically the whole weekend and ruined my experience because I got so stuck on the plan that I couldn’t cope when things went wrong or we had to pivot. 😢 very helpful Bingo! I feel very seen. Thank you!

I got 20/25 on the bingo card, so many things that resonate with me. I've been diagnosed about 5 years ago. These past 5 years were NOT easy, but now that I understand and accept my needs, I'm a lot happier in life. I'm so grateful for KZfaqrs like you for sharing the autistic experience, it made me feel less alone, and I got a lot of helpful tips, tricks, and insights in how to deal with my autism.

This made me cry. On the point. Thx ❤

I'm literally crying at work while listening. I am starting to learn about autism. I started for my sister (nonbio) but then realized I might be too. And this is all the things I can't explain to people. Thank you!😊

Safety Dance - Men Without Hats I got a full house, Autistic Bingo!

I bingo-ed too many times lol. The gastro issues are soooo real. I got diagnosed with Crohn's right before autism. Also, the "being clear is being kind" idea is something that I feel strongly. I'd rather be blunt and have everyone on the same page than have someone confused because I made something too floral-y.

24.The only reason it wasn't the whole card for me is because, of all things, an episode of Star Trek taught me a great deal about subtlety that I've taken with me ever since. I've never been officially diagnose, but this has me more convinced than ever that I am.

I’m here because my coworker said I was autistic. Mind you, I am 37 and never got diagnosed. I’ve been researching for hours on this because it bothered me so much that she said it. This is the only video where… I think she might be right. It’s the moment when you said playing the same song over and over for me. I get really fixated on one song. Then it was the having to know why, the injustice part is so accurate, and everything else that I thought was normal…and now I feel like my world is ending… or is it just beginning? Idk now. Having an existential crisis

Most definitely got a good number of these 🤣 I am recently self-diagnosed, with RAADS scores in the 70s and a CAT-Q of 155. I’ve masked so hard my whole life that I’m not even always aware yet of when something resonates with me. My first time taking the RAADS I scored a 71, and I answered “no” to a lot of things I later realized I actually do. Like hating to be interrupted - I really answered “no” on all the questionnaires like “I can totally roll with the punches”… and then I started paying attention to it and realized I actually fill with rage when I’m interrupted in the middle of something! The second time I took the RAADS, I’d become aware of more things and my score went up to 79. I’m sure I’d be higher still today. Having a lot of imposter syndrome over all of this, like am I faking it to get a higher score or something?? But deep in the core of my being I’m certain it’s true. Thanks so much for your channel 💕 I’ve been watching a lot and it’s helping me understand. I’ve been in full-on research mode about autism lately, and now I just have to figure out how to get the KZfaq algorithm to stop showing me *only* autism content because it’s crowding out channels for my usual special interest, nutrition 😅 The struggle!!

I somehow managed to cross off 16 squares without actually getting a Bingo x'D

What I tend to love doing is whenever someone on Twitter is looking for what a show is or a film or what a logo is or something they’re looking for etc I get fixated on looking for the answer for them

Research mode--wow, I'm old enough to remember when the Internet was new and for me, it was like a candy store of information. I became obsessed with learning about so many things, including topics I had never even thought of before. It was like I was starving for information and suddenly I needed to gorge on _everything._

There were several items on the bingo card that made me laugh because it describes my feelings perfectly. Easily upset by injustice did get an audible guffaw out of me because I feel it so much and your point about how it makes the world much more stressful at this point in history is spot on. Light touch is definitely a trigger for me, but not in an upsetting way, but in a "just got struck by lightning" kind of way. I jump when touched unexpectedly. Finally to answer your question about what song I've put on repeat for long periods: Dr. Worm by They Might Be Giants. It's such a great bop; I highly recommend it.

18/25. I often have songs repeating in my head, even if I'm not listening to a device. I take on other people's emotions a lot too.

I’m literally crying watching this. Im almost certain that this is me. I’ve been researching it for a few weeks now and it all makes sense.

All 25. The good news? I won! I won! I've won by finding a great community to feel a part of. Thanks, Taylor!

Because it is true that I can't stand injustice, my song on repeat it's usually something by Rage Against the Machine 🙃

Keeping track: People pleasing. 1. Yes, always really nice and trying to keep good flow in conversations, and then when the conversations end I realize my entire body is tense and I’m panicking. Like im tired from doing a performance. 2. Routines are sacred. Yes, I like to make sure everything is clean, every Friday I do a pre weekend reset and make sure everything is clean before the weekend so nothing gets in my way or overwhelms me on the weekends. In the mornings before I go anywhere I have to do my morning routine and wear similar clothes each day to stay calm and comfortable, if my clothes aren’t right I won’t go. There is a lot of small parts in my routine that I feel compelled to do before I leave the door. But I also get very distracted trying to fully complete my routine at the same time. 3. Trouble getting into bed. YES YES. I used to think I was a night owl but I realize my brain just doesn’t turn off unless I genuinely allow it to. My partner can fall asleep anywhere but I toss and turn and can’t get comfortable and can’t stop thinking. I also need to do a big clean up as a wind down- to tire myself out before bed. Most the time I can’t sleep and end up playing Pokémon go on my phone until I get more mentally tired. I also worry about the time I have left to sleep, when I’m trying to fall asleep my inner monologue is like “okay, 6 hours of sleep, focus go to bed, you need ti be up early” and so on until I stop talking to myself and fall asleep. 4. Secret stems: Nail biting, nail skin chewing, hair pulling, scratching, rubbing my hands on my pants, spinning coins in tables, going on my phone to Pokémon go when I’m anxious. 5. Knowing more about others than ourselves. Yes I find myself obsessively wondering about others personalities and issues. When I walk into a room full of people I feel like I can see who people really are deep down, beneath their clothes and aesthetics. And I’m always talking about others like “they’re really nice, did you know they…” and so on, trying to get other people’s opinions to try and clarify my thoughts about them. I had emotionally abusive parents and I think I always try to understand people really well to see if I can trust them. But most the time I ignore everyone until they talk to me, I just listen to what their saying all the time. Listening to the same song over and over: YES YES, I always get obsessed with one song at a time, and anytime I go into my car or put my headphones on I start with the same song over and over until I get into a new song. Right now is my love is mine all mine by mitsiki. Tummy problems. Yes but I have bad diet, and I drink alcohol and eat a lot of dairy so it kind of makes sense, Safe foods: Yes, I always order the same things at restaurants and eat the same things at home and the same drinks. If something isn’t made the way I like it, I won’t try it or eat it. There was a lot of nights my parents tried to force me to eat things I hated and made me sit at the table until I did with things like burgers with onions in them and I would pick all the onions out of the burger and barely touch the meat and sit there for hours until they let me go. I’m still the type of person to always get chicken fingers and fries or Mac and cheese or grilled cheese. A lot of times if my favourite foods aren’t cooked the way I like I get very upset, especially if I mess it up some how. Triggered by light touch: Yes, I hate it Delayed touch: Omg yessss, I need to leave to process and then respond. My boyfriend will apologize to me and I’ll just slowly walk away with a thinking look in my face. He always try’s to rush me out of this state and ask things like “do you forgive me? Are we good, hello???” And I become irritated because I’m like “yesssss yessss I’m just thinking” and then it upsets him more because it’s taking me so long or something, or he wants better instant gratification. Making a list and hating it: Kind of, I only make lists when I know I need to remember stuff at the grocery store. The only feeling I hate about it is that I like to organize lists in order of how I’d walk in the store and if I don’t make it that way then I get anxious about it. Research mode: Yes, ima Keats looking stuff up and researching and googling when I wanna know something randomly. Sitting in your car for longer: Yes and no, depending on how late I am because I’m always late. I’ll actually sit in my car for longer when I’m late and when I’m not late I get out right away, it’s weird. Headphones: Yes, I recently just lost one of my AirPods and I’ve been having a really hard time at school. I feel overwhelmed and having Lofi music or music from my favourite games makes me feel very calm and lately I’ve been not happy at school. Sensitive to alcohol and caffeine and drugs: No not really Feeling what others are feeling: Very much so, I feel like I communicate telepathically, I cry and feel very deeply when given the right story. Needing to know why: Yes, I’m always asking why. Wishing others ask good questions: Yes, I like the energy I give people and I feel excited about certain things and I feel excited to know their opinions on things and when they never ask me interesting stuff about myself I feel like they don’t think of me or they don’t care about me. Comfy clothes always: YES, I genuinely cannot fucking stand uncomfortable clothes. I will not go to important things if I don’t wear something that is comfortable and looks good. Easily upset by injustice: Yes, when watching tv or watching a video or whatever, if someone or an animal is getting treated unfairly I put a lot of energy and emotion into the topic, the other day I went on for twenty minutes about how Ronnie from on undercover boss was wrongfully fired and why and how upset that makes me. No one is blunt: Yes I feel weird for my bluntness and like other people will find me rude Planning things perfectly: Yes, I like to vocalize my plans and make sure I know what’s going on before I go

How is it possible that every single one of these relates strongly to me? A few more strongly than others too. I am diagnosed ASD and ADHD. Not just one song, but anything sparks a song for me. I listen to a playlist of 376 songs while working and if I lose my place in the playlist it is very hard to get anything done. And empathy is tough on me. If you are happy I am happy. Works with any emotion and makes crowds all the more difficult.

6:24 - you're not alone in your ability to empathize deeply. 💜

"Sticking to safe foods." I travel a lot for work, and I mostly eat at chain restaurants to avoid chancing having something I detest in my meal that I wasn't expecting. I can't eat mushrooms, okra, sauces on sandwiches, peppers, and other things with similar texture. "Mixed vegetables" on a menu scares me. "Research Mode" One of my best friends always calls me Cliff Clavin because I always have knowledge about almost any subject. "Comfy clothes always" I will not wear turtlenecks, sweaters, wool or any other material that's rough. I've cut the tags out of all my clothes since I can remember. I've been going comando since I was 14. I only own 1 suit that has only been worn 4 or 5 times in the last 40 years. "Planning things perfectly and being unable to execute" I plan nothing. My wife does all the planning. Edit: I forgot one. "Why isn't everyone as blunt as me?" I have a lack of social niceties that most people take for granted. When you sneeze I do not say "god bless you" ever, nor do I say thank you when you say it to me. It's not in my vocabulary, and I don't understand why it has endured for so long since we've known for a long time that a sneeze is not blowing out demons. If you knock on my door to sell something or solicit a donation, I answer the door with "I'm not interested." It actually bothers me that my wife will stand there going back and forth with a salesperson instead of shooing them away like I would.

Hey Taylor, what a beautifully executed video. I ticked off 22... I just had a funny conversation with my partner who couldn't understand why I don't want to try a new type of muesli (my go to safe food since I was 17), while I couldn't understand why would I want to try a new type if I'm happy with mine....

about routines for AuDHD people: I’m autistic and pretty sure I have ADHD, the way I combat the whole routine thing is by devising weekly routines, so I have that routine but also have some variety each week. This just helps keep it a little less boring for me!

You mention how we can't focus on things if there's injustice in a situation and oh my god that is the perfect wording as I was trying to explain it to people the other day and I could not get the right words out and they did not understand. I'm really glad I watched your video

Neve heard AutiHD I Love it since I don’t fall into “typical” autistic traits. I got all of them. Asked hubby is any surprised him and he said no but he laughed so hard at writing a list then being annoyed and hating the list also researching and planning then being too overwhelmed to execute the plan. 😂 As always thanks posting and love your work Taylor! ❤ love from Australia 🐨

The song I listen to over and over: Baba Yetu by Christopher Tin. It gives me goosebumps every time, even after a thousand times.

omg wow I feel the same way about asking questions. On dating apps I’m always asking thoughtful questions but I don’t feel it being reciprocated and then I feel like a loser for putting in all this effort and not getting it back. Wow this makes me feel so much better

I loop the song I need. Music is one of my main emotional regulation tools. If I need to burn off bad emotions I loop some specific sad or angry song. But most of the time I keep the demons dancing with upbeat songs.

ADHDer here, I got 19/25. Super relate to all the sensory ones. I will say to my dearest "I'm sorry I can't hear what you just said to me, I need to go to the bathroom so badly" at least once a week. I also really relate to the asking good questions one. The bluntness one is hard. My INTERNAL response is always sooo blunt, but I don't let it out for very hardened social expectations and work related expectations.

I don’t know why I sharing this. People always use “you are a man’s man to describe me” not bragging. I’m a man. And I’m capable. Hunter, home builder, mechanic and I preform minor surgery. The song I listen too when I’m “whatever” is wings of an angel. Lol. Silly but it calms me

This helped me so much!!! New follower here. Thank you ❤

When you said “you may stay in your car for longer than you intend to” my jaw dropped and I literally stopped in my tracks. This is such a specific thing that I’ve always done ever since I’ve had cars of my own.

I got 18. Although I’m not diagnosed I could relate to over half of these. 🙃

BINGo! I turned 55 yesterday and very recently discovered that my son (21yo) might well be autistic... and it turns out I probably am too. Lol. Makes so much sense and also maybe why I didn't recognise the signs in him. 9hrs of Seal's Kiss From a Rose. Didn't realise till I looked at the clock. Was doing art in the comfort zone. Used to share a house with friends, now I understand why my music would go missing, ha! How annoying for them. Research mode, know it well! That was great, thank you.

In a matter of seconds i noticed the matching color palette/scale on the background. Well done!

I scored 2 out of 25. I recently worked out I have ADHD in my early fourties and I’ve been looking into autism too but I’m increasingly sure I’m not on the spectrum myself. Thanks for the video though - good to understand and clarify.

Late diagnosed level 2 29F doing some heckin autism bingo (18/25) 1. People pleasing - Nope, demand avoidance tendencies/loud opinions/extreme morals/stubborn 2. Routines - Yep 3. Bed time transitions - Yep 4. Secret stims - Yep 5. Knowing more about others than yourself - Half point maybe, I do tend to psychoanalyze people but I also do it to myself. 6. Songs on repeat - Yep (Having a random Billie Eilish hyperfixation atm) 7. GI issues - Yep (Hi IBS crew) 8. Safe foods - Yep (Hi ARFID crew) 9. Light touch - Half point because no one should ever touch me at all :D 10. Auditory processing disorder - Yep 11. Lights are too bright - Nope, daylight is too bright for sure, but I don't relate to this specific experience. 12. Making a list and hating it - Nope (No ADHD) 13. Research mode - Yep 14. Sitting in your car for longer than intended - Half point; Definitely not able to have/drive a car with my level of support needs but I understand the transitioning issue. 15. Headphones - Yep 16. Sensitive to substances - Yep 17. High empathy - Yep 18. Wanting to be alone but lonely - Nope, I don't experience loneliness, I don't know what it is, a HUGE privilege from what I gather. 19. "Why?" - Yep 20. Ability to ask good questions - Half point; I resonate with this to a certain extent, but I don't necessarily feel that I need it to be reciprocated 21. Comfy clothes - Yep (Hi sweatsuit crew) 22. Justice/morals - Yep 23. Bluntness - Yep 24. Appropriating terms - Nope, there wasn't a lot of time between realizing I was autistic and getting a formal diagnosis because we went private (sick of being misdiagnosed for 16 years). I think imposter syndrome is also probably more common among those with low support needs than higher support needs. 25. Planning vs executive dysfunction - Yep