So ghosting crosses disorders? Because certain avoidant attachment styles also ghost

@@JesusistheOnlyWay222 guess so

I feel like everything you are saying describes my life!!

This is me ... Since my kids grew up & left school I have isolated myself more & more... I'm tierd of people telling me what I need & how I should Interact... I know myself ❤

Yes I ghost people alot not even knowing I do it.

I recently saw.this is the same for adhd. Crossover signs? My son shakes his head and cringes that I can play a song on repeat. I guess the repeat/loop feature was created for all of us!?

I do the same

SAME

I do the same, and also with reaction videos to songs on YT. I just discovered Tom Macdonald and guess who I listen to every day 😂Also do this with movies

Opposite for me- I have to have new, but when I find a new good song I listen over and over, for like a week- can hear it in my head on a loop until it’s worn out, then I have to find something new.

I’m still dealing with that with people that don’t get me!!!

I get that a lot too as a kid and adult

When I was a kid, I'd make comments that would piss people off, especially adults, and I'd have no idea why.

I get you, negative intentions or negative character characteristics may be incorrectly assumed.

Me too. Was it the same experience for your siblings. Curious.

i found out at 50 too. what a trip. i'm so happy for kids who find out earlier than we did. when i was doing the facial expressions book i almost fainted. i'm a great test taker. i got maybe 4 out of 100 and they were guesses. i asked the therapist 'can people really do this?' i'll never forget. she put her hand on my shoulder and said 'john, this is the book we test 5 and 6 year olds with.' that moment changed my life

This made me tear up. I'm 38 and related to every single thing in this video. I'm hoping one day I can try to get a diagnosis because there is so much shame and difficulty with things in my life.

What quirks do you have?

Same here it is a relief to know we are not crazy just different and unique.

I'm still struggling to get my doctor to take me seriously apparently I've been depressed since I was 14 I'm now 50 all my kids are autistic Asperger's ADHD I literally cry every day out of frustration .. I've told the doctor I want answers but was told I'm rude . I'm not rude I'm exhausted x

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

Is he on instagram?

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

It reframes everything, doesn't it.

@@karenholmes6565 Oh Karen, you said it.

That sounds wonderful❤

yep.

@@POCKBA It is when I own it. I try not to believe everything I think.

Yes. This exactly. I really relate to everything that you said.

I relate to that as well.

You said that so well and I relate ❤

I relate!

I had to screenshot this because you articulated it so well!

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. You have a talent for understanding connections, and clearly communicating, smoothly, and spontaneously what you have learned. If you do any interviewing on utube with people who 200% ! identify with almost every last thing you said ; I can be reached on “What’s Up”. Otherwise I Wish All The Best For You.

I think it is a whole new journey, as in Wecome Home self. Education, especially heartfelt authenticity is just amazing from Dr. Sage. She is phenomenally intuituve.

Same

Autistic means that you are absolutely 💯 % awesome. ❤ 😊

This has been really hard for me in life in general and I thought you know I told me it was bipolar. I’ve done all the medication‘s and all the therapy and I have a knee who is clearly on the spectrum and several other family members that haven’t come out, but I don’t know what I’m so burn out. I am lost and it’s like there is just it’s hard to find anywhere to go And also be at being out of my old job since Covid plus I just I don’t know how to get back into the world or if I want to or what I need to understand about myself and rearrange, but unable to do this alone executive function, even like going online figuring out who how much will help me if I have the money to get a job when am I ready like I don’t I don’t know how to say that you guys butI feel like I’m gonna kill myself if someone doesn’t help like it just more and more trauma and I’m feeling worse. It’s not feelings really it’s just like trauma like I need things to fall into place eventually and I’m not anxious. I don’t know how to say it I don’t even know what to.

I don’t know how you were able to gather these things with executive function, but I have recorded all of these in my phone 1 million times and I think one of the hardest saddest things is the push pull and people think it’s normal like but like you’re being alone because of this regulation And then when you’re not, and I know shades of when you’re not to this regulations not worth it and you lose your Center and then if you’re alone too much you especially if you have ADD and general humans get stressed if they’re alone it’s like biological and things become meaningless And then like you have to try to fake it and up people just want them but now you’re regulate and you need them and it’s not the way you want to do it. It’s just like constantly like almost like you’re creating your own problem but you also need it. It’s really exhausting actually.

I hate whatever I have actually wondered if I’m a narcissist or borderline personality or this is because of bipolar I honestly and there’s all spectrums anyways, but I really hate this. I’m leaving relationships that left me now and I think I don’t know my own trauma and the face and facing the world and sometimes I wanna be with people, but only doing a certain thing because I have so little I don’t know how to explain it. It’s just likepeople don’t deserve the confusion of me and I’m tired and I need to figure out before I go back out there and it’s taking a long time

Oh wow me too.

On reflection, I think I am someone (maybe most of us are) who really needs something or someone to believe in. I have a strong need to love someone. I am not religious. But I feel a void without something outside myself to really kind of love and nurture. In this society we are taught to focus on our job, but 9/10 jobs certainly don’t love or nurture us as human beings, rather we are just utilised as a means to an end. Therefore, loving most jobs would be akin to being in a toxic relationship.

Definitely. This is me too.

Yeah

I resonate with this.

My bicycle. It has to run "perfectly." It's like my symbol for self-reliance.

whats your routine?

“Nothing else” you tried. Let’s try to keep in mind that success for ourselves doesn’t always translate to the right answer for someone else.

@@paulhhaggard Let's keep in mind what? You plucked that one out of the air because nobody was offering "right answers for someone else." The OP spoke of self only.

I've been working out since 1984 and find it crucial in reducing my anxiety

also, i love the music at the ending and beginning of the video-it's so peaceful!

@@skylarspeaks11thought that too, think it’s gymnopodie, I might be wrong

How did you get your diagnosis? I don’t just want this but it’s been borderline. I mean it’s not borderline. It’s been bipolar too. It’s been ADD. I just suspect something like this is part of it because other things aren’t matching up and they aren’t working. I’m gonna be 50 this year. I have a feeling for me, I’ve had a neuropsych assessment done also but I don’t know if you were like high functioning, older woman if you don’t know if you do it under the other test first to find out or you just go straight in and do autism assessment but I feel in the dark about this. I’m starting to feel like all this other stuff like secondary to being on the spectrum and I guess I’m wondering, if I should wait I don’t have my life has been falling apart more than usual the past five years and if I don’t figure this out, I’m really gonna want to end it so I don’t know if you need to pay like 3 to 5000 for like a femalewho does online autism high masking I mean sometimes you can’t just do anyone like it I keep hearing you have to find someone these days you’ve been through No More so any idea

@visionvixxen I got my adhd diagnosis last year and I guess as I unmasked other things popped up that made start looking at Autism as a possibility for me - I also have 3 children with Autism and my dad was diagnosed bipolar and mum was high anxiety with autism traits. Things just added up for me especially looking back at my life and when I was younger.

​@@lisawilladsen8702same here something was off

I can relate. I could have written your comment except I have never tried berberine. I will look into it. Thank you.

Thank you for sharing this. I am AUDHD, and I also have digestive issues. I had never heard of Berberine, will give it a try for sure!

Executive function problems I can relate to. I also live cluttered n disorderly. It's so embarrassing. My back goes out if I pick up or clean to any degree. I get achy too. Next day I end up in a lot of pain if I bend much to clean or much standing flares my bone on bone knees. Fatigue mentally n physically also restricts having the clean neat apt I desire. Work leaves me exhausted. Long 12 hr not shifts. It's impossible. Plus I have a free roam bunny. All that clean up. I get so behind.

Gut health is intrinsically tied to brain health/mood/functioning. When I eat too much crappy food, I feel hungover and extremely depressed. I've heard that all dis-ease starts in the gut-I wonder how much healthier we'd all be if we went back to basic, non-processed, nonrefined sugar diets?

@@visionsmagazineonlin Aww, bunnies are the best pets! I had a free roam bunny for years-she was a great comfort and source of joy to me.

Same

Listen to the song Lateralus by TOOL

@@5p4l2k7 it's funny because I've heard that song many times but I don't think I've ever really listened.. I will go and listen now, thank you

Same- my adult child has been going through diagnosis and now looking at me like….. ‘whenever your ready mum’

Did it cost you money to get that diagnosis? Can someone on welfare get a diagnosis?

Autism is not caused by trauma. Autism is a developmental disorder you are born with. I was autistic before I suffered any trauma. I think the narrative that if a person is autistic that their parents failed them (usually it is blamed on parents) causes more stigma and it keeps parents in denial about their kids having autism. They blame themselves, and that isn't productive because it just isn't true. Our brains process differently. I think that a traumatized brain can mimic some of the issues that autistic brains have, but autism is genetic and it is something you are born with. You can have lovely parents like mine, who were loving and supportive and made you feel safe and secure, and still be autistic. I was autistic from my earliest memories. I had autistic traits since I was literally a baby.

Then I guess Dr. Sage, my therapist and everything else I’ve read about this are wrong. And yes genetics are the other main cause. I grew up with an eggshell narcissistic mother who knowing what I know now is also likely autistic. So I’m pretty sure I have both boxes checked. Not to mention that ASD manifests differently in everyone. Looking back now the signs were there for me as a child but like so many others it wasn’t identified until much later in life.

@@DRSmith8808 You misunderstand me. I did not say that autistic people do not sometimes have awful parents, they do. I think that when allistic people raise autistic people there's going to be trauma from that. They do not understand our special needs. They can be harsh because they do not get our neurology is vastly different. I would say that Dr Sage and your therapist are wrong in that if you do not get autism from bad parenting. That causes CPTSD which can look like autism, but they are different conditions. One is a genetic developmental disorder, the other is like a brain injury. The type of parenting you receive may have increased the trauma of living as an autistic person. I am truly not trying to diminish pain of growing up in a home that did not meet your needs. I think it is important to look at someone's entire medical history before diagnosing them with autism. I have an assessment scheduled in next week with a neurological psychologist that specializes in diagnosing developmental disorders. Autism has become my special interest for the last year so I spent 100s of hours researching it and a 1000 more comparing my life history for signs of autism. Why is it so important to me to make this distinction between cptsd and autism being different disorders? Because the treatment for them is different. If you've got ptsd cognitive behavioral therapy is the standard of care. It is really impactful for people with cptsd. If you've got undiagnosed autism CBT often doesn't help you. I had 3 different therapisst and it did not help me. I was told I think too much, or that I wasn't concentrating on the real problem because they couldn't understand that the things I found traumatizing are different from an allistic person. It is all really complicated. Autistic women get misdiagnosed, or our autism complicates treatment for other mental health conditions we develop. Think of it this way, you can have autism and PTSD. Being autistic actually increases your likelihood of getting CPTSD. But you cannot get autism from your CPTSD because it is a genetic developmental disorder you are born with. You have to go back to your earliest childhood to know if what you've got is autism. If your symptoms were not present since birth you are not autistic. That is according to all of the literature and the diagnostic criteria.

My husband was diagnosed at age 59, he has had trauma in his youth into adulthood, his parents and teachers didn't understand him. He now has CPTSD caused by being cheated and ripped off at his job. He really suffers a lot, he will be 70 next year.

@@karenholmes6565Thanks for clarifying and explaining the difference. I misspoke when I said that C-PTSD causes autism, rather it can have similar traits. And you’re right about how people blaming bad parents for causing autism perpetuating a stigma.

Do you have fybromyalgia heds

Yeah the OCD got worse after then to got CFS now fybromyalgia

AMEN you will be healed and made whole. Jesus saved our entire being not just our soul. God bless you. I was led to Dr Kim and others for understanding on avoidant attachment styles. Now I'm being led to adjd and autism for my son and quite possibly for myself. Jesus is our strength 💓🙇🏻‍♀️🤗🕊

@@JesusistheOnlyWay222 Amen and thank you for commenting. Blessings to you and your son.

I tried to be a bank teller. They hired me. I had to pass a test where I had to quickly and accurately deal with money. I failed twice. Do not feel bad about your abilities to find something you excel at. I went on to college and I had a 3.96 GPA clear through grad school. I am really slow at processing certain things, but I learn things deeply and I make novel connections between data points. You will find something that is your niche.

I can totally relate to what you're saying.

@@JesusistheOnlyWay222 autism is not something that needs to be healed, it sounds you could do with doing some research as to what autism is, it is neurological, you speak about it as it is some sort of an illness that requires healing.

❤️

Why dont you go to a psychologist?

@@jantaljaard835 because most of them are useless

Oh my goodness. Your comment makes me think of my son. I think he hates socialising and doesn't realise it. Alcohol is the numbing

Amen I found my niche I think.

I am the same age as you. I believe I have high masking autism. I am now at the point of trying to figure what to do about it. How have things changed for you since you were given your diagnosis? Side note: I did have an exgf tell me I was autistic. She was a nursing assistant but she did research psychology quite a bit. This was 9 years ago and at the time I was annoyed and insulted. Over the last few years I have been slowly coming to the conclusion that I am autistic. DR Kim has very accurately described a lot of things about my life in this video.

Im 5w4 and INFJ. Thanks for fueling my research the next few hours 🤣

i am also an enneagram 4 (: fun times.

Repeating phrases. Skin picking. Toe picking. Fixations. Being stuck. When I was younger I was more hyperviligant although I still overthink. Multiple tabs in my brain all the time.

My son and I saw a behavioral specialist, who was so very helpful in giving us perspective into our personalities and why we do certain things. She labeled us both as hyper vigilant, adhd, possible autism (this requires more neuropsychological testing), and being highly sensitive persons. Simply having this understanding helps tremendously and a behavioral specialist can help you find resources for diagnosis. If you can’t find a behavioral specialist, look into neuropsychiatric centers. They are a great resource for diagnosis and if they don’t do it, they can point you in the right direction for providers in your area who do provide diagnosis for autism even in adults. There are also some great online screening tools for adult autism. I took one and it indicates I am on the spectrum.

Mine was copious amounts of alcohol