I burst out laughing at that part, it's so absurd!

**gets flashbacks to the musical episode**

I felt this like a bass drop this needs more attention 💀

It should rub EVERYONE in the wrong way. That’s not what anyone should do! And thus shouldn’t be a stereotype! It is SI STUPID AND ANNOYING!!!!! WHT WOULD ANYONE PUBLISHED THIS

I think that comparing yourself to others is a natural instinct for young people of any gender, but it's with age that you learn that it's not only bad for the people around you, but it's also bad for you. It's a natural but unproductive instinct that should be managed and not listened to. The reason why the depiction of that instinct in this book is damaging is because she says "I feel this way and I'm beautiful and successful anyway" which gives the impression to young readers that this mindset doesn't need to be managed.

Especially considering that the clear target audience is high school / middle school girls and normalizing this behavior is not okay. Everybody struggles with self esteem issues but absolutely nothing good comes from glamorizing and romanticizing hating other girls that you believe are prettier than you, hating yourself, and having no desire to confront your own issues and grow from learning how to build yourself up without tearing yourself and other girls down.

it kinda makes me think of what she did to amanda cerny... Edit: i just realized that rachel brought that up lol

Well-friggin-written.

the ghostwriter then went on to publish Little Women fanfic

I really do wonder if her ghost writer had any input at all or if Le Le just set her to be gaslighted if the book didn't do well. Le Le strikes me as someone who would only delegate menial tasks due to her need to control.

It must subconsciously remind us of our own birth. She relates to babies everywhere.

"Ow, my fuckin' ears."

*me, an anorexic transmasculine dude who constantly compares myself to other guys* haha guess i just don’t exist 😅

@@useroffline9999 dude im a transmasc dude and i compare myself to other guys AND girls bc i feel like i can never be attractive as anyone else, cis or trans. shit sucks, my dude.

@@nizhoni3339 aww keep your head up. You are perfect who you are💘

@@useroffline9999 aww goodluck with your struggles. Remember you are perfect.

Yeah.

Toxicityz 22 good choice lmao that’s where it belongs

Hatred in general is disgusting.

She should've tried Heathers at least we would get rid of some of the bad characters

To be fair, patriarchy is too strong in Latin America. Girls are taught since very little to be "perfect" and "pretty" in order to "catch" a man who can financially support them. That's why they use a lot of cosmetic surgery even if they don't have money for food, they are obsessed with beauty contests, and they see other girls as competency. Even telenovelas set the example for little girls. Everyone is extremely pretty and voluptuous in telenovelas, including the supposedly 50 years old mom. The only 'ugly' people in telenovelas are the housemaids, gardeners, and poor people (and they usually use people with indigenous features for those roles but that's another story). My best friend is precisely from Venezuela, but she migrated to Europe when she was 10yo and every time she goes to visit her family she comes back with stories about her cousins not having toilet paper but getting their second breast surgery at 21 years old and etc. Also she herself have a lot of self esteem problems due to that pressure from her family and because she doesn't meet the Venezuelan beauty canon (she is not white like Lele and she does have beautiful native American features). She had an ED in high school and for some time she hated her features. Fortunately, she is seeing now a therapist. (Sorry for the long post)

And with all the women empowerment stuff going on, she really thought this was okay???!!!!

So true

Mind screws lol

Omg yes! I love/loathe that subreddit!

And even then there are people who are insecure who don't convey it in the way Lele does.

And even _then_ there are men who DO obsess about how they look and can get self-esteem issues because they compare themselves to other men. So, yeah Lele's book was wrong on all accounts.

Unrelated, your pf pic is excellent

i love that comparison, brilliant

And Holden at least can be explained by childhood trauma. Lele’s just a brat

R Parker lmao wow

I may be slow In reading and writing because of my disabilities, but someday sure hope I can finish my first draft. You got this girl. GOOD LUCK

They'd accept trash from her and her ghostwriter cause her name sells. It's hard to get anything in the writing world, but keep at it. You'll get there. Don't compare yourself to her because they weren't looking for quality in this, because it just needs her name to make money. Create your stuff. It sucks that the bar is lower for her, but it'll make it even more impressive when you get there and publish something worth being proud of.

@@sillysnail5459 I'm not comparing myself to her at all, but thanks for the kind words! I just mean that as someone who knows the industry pretty well (I do work as an editor for a publishing house) it's frustrating how much effort goes into producing a book. So when books like these make it to the shelves because it is, at least a little bit, of a sell out. They're completely disregarding talent for a big name (which, I understand the point is to make money haha) and, the idealistic part of me, would love to see better content attached to big names.

@@katehumphrey84 oh that's cool! Sounds like a cool job. I've mostly been on the other end of rejection letters although not for anything as big as a novel so that's where my mind went haha. Yeah, it's really annoying to see money valued more than genuinely enjoyable content.

I feel u

Say that to my 13 year old self who used to hate how young I looked around all my friends and classmates who started growing facial hair and getting more defined jaws But sure I don't compare.myself to other guys Thanks Lele for curing my self doubt

A queen knows she's a queen

Oh absolutely not. It reeks of someone faking a high school experience, which is crazy since lele's so young. Not to mention the message is suuuuper problematic. Source: am also one

@@sillysnail5459 hi fellow 16/17 year old in Rachel Oate's comment section, how are you?

@@monitaroy7462 we are good 😂😂u?

@@Definitelynotabot4 binge watching cat videos as self care!

@@monitaroy7462 not great, but alive. U?

I’ve never read her other stuff but I recently discovered she wrote the Witches of East End book and I wanted to read them since I enjoyed the first series of the TV (in a slightly cringey hit fun way) but now I’m having second thoughts 😬

Rachel Oates She wrote Alex & Eliza, about Alexander Hamilton and Elizabeth Schuyler. It’s not bad but it’s okay. It’s certainly not half as bad as this. She works better when she’s not being told to ghostwrite I think.

Hey! Honestly you should check out some of her docu-series! I had a really negative opinion of her before, and it showed me a more human side to her that KZfaq has sorta blinded me from recognizing. I believe the second part (the one about her OCD) was the most meaningful part of the series if you’re at all interested in checking it out!

Let me summarise the docu series for u....."pity me I have problems." The end.

@@Livvie00 I respect the fact that she's gone through all that with her OCD. I think that's great she's speaking out....But it's not really an excuse for the things she's done or said in the past. Having OCD can explain it but it really can't justify it.

I'm so frustrated people are dissing that series. It was exciting for me (I have OCD) to see a celebrity educating folks on OCD and other mental health issues. The public needs all the education they can get.

Maya R EXACTLY!!!!! I was just sayin this when I watched the first one it bothered me to no end. Don’t use it as an excuse for things like you wanted the play the pitty card because your following is deteriorating.. come on!

@Jaymes Yeah. Well said. I agree. It is almost manipulative of her to do that. After watching some of the series I almost felt bad, bacause I still do not find her funny

Jaymes I haven’t watched the series and I don’t plan to... but, honestly? Lele is the absolute LAST person that I would want to hear from or care to hear from about mental illnesses. We already have a bad rep and having a person with a bad rep, for a plethora of reasons, explain mental illnesses and how they impact people is so.... tasteless, and definitely feels like an attention grabber.

Maryellen Parmenter I have ocd as well and I actually really liked the series and the awareness it brought to people. I don’t necessarily think she was using it as a cop out but that’s what some people were saying.

*but Latina

Who's Oscar Whilde?

Who's Oscar Whilde?

@@goodnightmyprince6734 "Oscar Fingal O'Flahertie Wills Wilde (16 October 1854 - 30 November 1900) was an Irish poet and playwright. After writing in different forms throughout the 1880s, the early 1890s saw him become one of the most popular playwrights in London. He is best remembered for his epigrams and plays, his novel The Picture of Dorian Gray," being criminally convicted for having consentual gay relationships in late 1800s Britain. He's buried in Paris. The guy had an iconic cadence and literary flow. (quote from his wiki page)

@@AdventuRyn_ Thanks for enlightening me, now I need to read his poems and plays.

I believe you will get through it! It’s a tough cycle to break and it is terrifying learning to trust people at first but once you start to do, everything is much better and more enjoyable and less stressful :)

Rachel Oates thank you💕

👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

no ❤

Thank youuuu!!!! I was really starting to worry bc I do feel like that about myself and I hate it so much, I hate that I'm comparing myself so much and that I have such little value of myself. No one in the comments seem to agree and I was starting to feel like I'm a terrible piece of crap.