righttttttt

THIS!!!!

Thank you! The amount of effort almost always reflects the importance/interest

@@scotthewitt258 exactly which lets us further kno this was a bs attempt to get out of paying child support & when the rubber met the road he cldnt even show up for court for an action he started!!! His actions were not valid nor were his intentions pure and for that he will surely reap what he sows!!!

You’re right

lol! Good point!

He most likely wanted to get her to pay him child support. My deadbeat ex tried that. This man has been paying support, which is great. He would have filed to now have her pay support. I'm not saying that's wrong! Just that's most likely what he was thinking financially.

Agree but Milian going by law.

Now the kid has the upper hand because the parents are not in sync

Sounds like the issue isn’t that he’s the fun parent. If what the dad says is true, it sounds like the son doesn’t like to be home by his self a lot and with his dad he has his step brothers and the wife. Seems like mom is a single parent so she probably does work a lot . I’ve been that child . It gets rather boring and mundane

Kyrie1551 you said that so right, mom is properly the more strick parent because of school, bedtimes, and homework. So dad seems to be fun one during summer vacation. I am going through this with my grandson whom I am raising and his dad. He's the fun dad, gets him on weekends and every other week in summer.

If I understood it right, there was no custody order in place and she went and got one when things went the wayt they did. Both parents were in the wrong if that was the case.

He didn’t want to pay maintenance AH

That Part!!!

💯 On summer break Fun, Fun, Fun With another 11 year old

Or maybe his at the age when he needs to be around his pops and his 4 brothers.

EX-FKN-Xactly

@@antoniojames9493totally agree he want to be around his father doing things probably other kids he sees doing with their dad not sit in the house playing video games. She doesn’t have more rights to that child

Actually it doesn't, people are only human at the end of the day. I'm sure he regrets it!

Exactly. I get struggling financially but if I’m fighting for my kid I’m taking a $40 bus ride if that’s what it takes.

100%. He didn't even bother all that chaos and confusion for nothing.

And, I'm steady paying child support (for which he should pay) anyway. When 12 yr. Old states "I don't want to return to Alabama" The father should have immediately contacted mom. Adults/Parents do what is best for the child. This trauma will last a lifetime

@@Makeoverplus He regrets it, because now he has to keep paying child support. He didn't really want the child, otherwise he would have put in the minimalist effort, yet he did zero. He did zero and had the gall to use child support as one of the reasons for why he didn't put in any effort.

People always dote on a father for doing the very bare minimum

yeap, right after they came from child support court. it's bc he doesn't want to pay cs. he's using the child to not pay.

So..if the boy wants to be with dad respect it he the father

​@@bongoikno4994 I disagree because children do not always know what they need.

@StarC2233 either parent can do the job and at 12 moms role is over its father time she was mad at him taken the boy not his parenting abilities

Preach… JM is tripping . The father is obviously not being genuine

Y’all sound stupid

Child support but also, a lot of times when men are with women with kids, all of a sudden they want to step up and show that they want their kids as well. I’ve seen it happen so often.

The fact he pulled this and sis not communicate with the mother about what the child wanted. He has no respect for the mother of his child and teaching the son to lack respect as well cuz wtf who does this. And he even said o couldn't go to court and fight for custody bc I didnt have any money cuz im taking care of my son and paying child support paying for his schooling ge disnt have any clothes etc like boy u caused all that on urself by pulling this stunt. It was most def to not pay child support

A parent cannot kidnap their own child however, it’s counter productive to the term

She berated her for not handling visitation in the beginning, is what I thought she was doing…

Because the child has TWO parents not one. She has no more right to the child that he does.

@@Tahiha will then he should be more responsible and actually show up to the court. He just didn't want to pay child support anymore.

​@@Tahiha exactly. So why would there be no penalty for him keeping the child from the mother? He was the one creating a problem where there was no problem. He had no right to keep the child from her.

​@Tahiha but when did you hear the mother had more rights in this case? The father wasn't as present... the mother was allowing him to see his child to take his child.

This! He tried to circumvent the process

‼️‼️‼️Exactly...the Judge is off

hi.. neither of them did.. like MISS judge says... they should've took care of this during child support..court!... he did NOTHING wrong.. because.. the mama didn't have sole custody.. therefore... he is with just as much rights as her... you people cant possible.. think you got rights.. with the baby is in womb.. and then when the baby come to the world.. the man.. who CREATED that life. still have to play that rights to choose game with you.. when you dont have.. sole custody!.... amazing how some females.. can think they can just get up and go.. with the baby... without papi permission.. but when papi does it.. .. he is the bad guy!... be blessed..

Everyone that ignored the court order should have been held in contempt, but JM was not wrong. If I were her I'd never let my kid go anywhere with that man again.

​@@kimh9420JM couldn't take sides. Parents were sloppy with their business. Mom trusted him, kid playing both sides and Dad did a lot of damage to that relationship.

For years I've read comments about her talking down to black women.. and there have been times where I was thinking. Maybe something more happened they didn't show. But here. I do not care... I've seen her talk nicer to very rude people. It was u called for. The mother wasn't stopping that father from seeing his son.. the father needs a 2nd job to get his money up. His son needs his love

​@ehizogieimasuen9565 Thank you she is very nasty and goes to far to me she power trips alot thts why I could not watch her whn she was on TV and am from NYC the mother had no problems wth the dad she sent him for the summer to me he wnted out of tht child support order Periodt ppl think it's not about tht but for sure it was he remarried and the wife had her two children one being a 19 yr old so make it make since his child's mother is in another state working and being a single mom this was not about the child being his or hers it was solely to cut cost not paying child support so his new household will have more money it's easier to take care of a child without having a order in place he didn't like being told wht he had to pay this case was cut and dry the judge should have gave tht woman the lawsuit she asked for judge Milian has always displayed prejudice to me periodt and I said wht I said it's my opinion thts wht this comment section is for she also give me she wnted to be like judge Judy 😂😂😂😂 it never worked for her it comes off just wht it is she is nasty, phony and prejudice on almost all her cases and she never rules fairly again !!!!!

​@@ehizogieimasuen956519 comments it's not from years Adrian

Because behind that bench is the only time she would be able to get away with that foolishness.

Exactly....doing too much. Lights camera action....smh

Like we don’t know what happens in court with custody. Women are automatically favored even when the father is a good father. Y’all have weaponized the system against men.

he did he hired a lawyer

Absolutely

Nope if there is no custody agreement he was within his rights to keep his son.

No he wasn’t

By law you can’t kidnap your own child. That’s why he didn’t get locked up.

​@@Vanessa_MartinezDepends on your state. In my state, that would be kidnap.

​@@Vanessa_Martinezwell unfortunately you are wrong because I am a single father here in Michigan and when I let my daughter's mother take her out for the day while she was visiting from out of state and hadn't seen her daughter long time and sparingly when she did and the mother took off with my daughter out of state and kept her I had to take her to court and so forth and of course they said I couldn't charge her with kidnapping so I asked them what if I was the one that did this to her what would happen to me and they told me to my face that I could be charged with kidnapping even though I had full custody and still do and by the way I raised my daughter primarily by myself ever since and I've had a practically all her life and she's doing great I'm so blessed but the law here in Michigan is kind of messed up however I will admit that was almost 20 years ago

@@Vanessa_Martinezyou can, there’s a law after a man kidnapped his son and took his to china and the mother had to travel to get her son

@@Vanessa_Martinez Take it from me... My brother tried this with his daughter, he took her from New Orleans to Atlanta where he leaves and tried pulling this same card that this guy did. All in an effort to absolve himself of paying child support, he coerced my niece. Long story short the mother could have pressed charges against my brother for kidnap once he took her to another state without her mother's consent which is illegal where I'm from.

Exactly. I was the strict parent and the Dad was Disneyland Dad.

True but that may not be the case here.

@@DaishaView I agree....especially the way the plaintiff ended her interview lol...

Of course and that’s how you grow up with bad habits and multiple kids

Story of my childhood.

It seems the child always lived with his mother, the mother said the relationship between the father and she was long distance from the beginning. She also said he was in the childs life "OFF and On" "come visit from time to time"

This part… hes being slick n JM fell for it

That's all people are saying child support no be careful women for what you think and say I was in a situation that I wanted to be with my dad because he was the caring parent and my mom was the abuser stop thinking child support all the time because it's not always the case we have done great dads out here so stop if you don't know the actual facts !!!! 😮😮😮😮

​@@angeemontague5031Not one time did you hear him say the mom was a bad mom. Y'all be emotional because you've been through situations. Your situation isn't every situation. It's case by case. This mom was being the responsible one while he was in and out of the boy's life at will but soon as she put him on child support then he tried to pull the okey doke. Learn to share your experiences without judgement based on how you were mistreated.

I've been in the mom's shoe's with my son's father and he spread lie's about me to his Mom and when we ended up going to Court he refused to acknowledge my child even though I had to prove it. Then he kept it up and signed away his Rights to my son. He even tried to have a grand jury dig up my son because he got caught in his lie's. I made every attempt to be liberal with him about seeing my son and sharing custody but he refused and I got that put in the custody order. And he never tried to remove my son again

The courts favor the mother. The judges take their cut of the child support. This is a racket and judges know it

Agree, JJudy would say walk down, take the bus , dont say you had no car

NONE of the points you make actually happened in this episode. Mom and dad were equally in error for how they went about this, but she came down on both of them the same on how they BOTH gotta work together for what’s best for the child. And in imo the child’s opinion should be considered, but by no means should it carry a heavier weight than the adults.

Not mainly solo at all. Black women need to stop having children solely as a child support payment. She's awful!

How do you know what he's done for his son

IT WAS ABSOLUTELY RIGHT...NEITHER ONE OF THEM HAD CUSTODY OF THE CHILD. SHE DIDN'T ESTABLISHED CUSTODY UNTIL DEC. & THAT'S WHEN HE TURNED THE CHILD OVER. LIKE THE JUDGE SAID HE HAS JUST AS MUCH RIGHT TO HIS CHILD AS SHE DOES. THAT'S WHY THE POLICE, PRINCIPAL AND LAWYER TOLD HER THAT SHE COULDN'T TAKE THE CHILD WHEN SHE CAME UP TO MICHIGAN TO BRING HIM BACK TO ALABAMA.

@chelseablack boy acting up. Bad grades.....shii what good is she doing? Seems like she can't handle him. She better be like Trae moma on Boyz in the Hood and let daddy have him for a while.

@@QuintonWhite-tq5hd where he should land isn't the point though. He was in and out of his life. Now he's the fun dad with other siblings whereas the mom has to work and is probably stricter. I think if the Dad had communicated properly then this could have been avoided. I would have believed him more had he turned up at court but he couldn't be bothered

A parent is at liberty to be whatever kind of parent they want to be (as long as they’re not harming the child physically or mentally), including being a FUN parent. It’s not their fault if you’re the miserable sour parent.

The fun parent can also be a good parent.

Right, no discipline, and all fun. What he did may not have been illegal, but it was disrespectful and is not okay to do that to another parent or a child.

So easy to be the fun parent for sure. The every other weekend parents think they know best

Boys belong with their dad get over it yes children love their dads

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Ong 😂‼️

😂😂😂

That’s funny how u thought of that 😂

@@toobiasj it’s most definitely his fault if he said come get him on a certain day and when she does he changes his mind. I don’t blame her one bit for going to the school if that’s where her son was at.

100% agree! Well said!

If he had a "warrant" from Alabama, they sure as hell would have acted on it...

She doesn't listen, that was kidnapping for real.

He not only fun he more loving to she just wants her property smh she toxic

hi.. so.. a baby doesn't grow in age and in mind?.. they are not allowed.. to have a different opinion.. when they get older?.. as far as anybody here knows... he probably eventually went to go live with papi.. please to keep in mind.. this episode.. is yearS old.. baby is probably in university now!.. be blessed

You are absolutely right. The dude messed with the child's mind, manipulating him. He low down and dirty.

Exactly. Only people who lack discernment are blind to this bs.​@@Patricia-sf2zk

​@@Cubanflowersa 12 year old isnt mature enough to know whats best for him. that dad didnt fight for 12 years for joint custoday at the least. and then couldnt afford to go to Alabama for thr custody hearing. So yall think hes financially responsiblento raise another cbild FULL TIME!!! PKEASE BEQUIET

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Predictable. 🥱

Spoken like a bitter woman 😂

@@dacyberman0929 sounds about right to me!

“The boy” is the child of BOTH parents. He’s his FATHER. He doesn’t “belong” to the mother. He belongs to BOTH. Bitter.

Exactly!

That's exactly what all of it came down to. He didn't care about anything until he had to pay child support, and came from CS court. So I'm guessing he has to pay a lot, and he hates it. He figured he could get the child and seize having to pay up. If he actually cared, he would have showed up to court when she petitioned for full custody. He did ZERO and even used him having to pay child support as an excuse for why he didn't show up.

In 30 seconds

I was thinking the same thing

Man no one like her, judge M is usually sooo wrong

@@leddoandroidgirl 🛎️ 🛎️ 🛎️ cause Sir, you still haven’t been to no one’s courthouse to fight to see your son. You’re the one keeping yourself from your son. 🤷🏽‍♀️

hi.. ten minute edited show.. that took place YEARS ago... .. but look and see you know.. this man entire biography ..and what kind of relationship.. he has .. with his son.. who is now..probably off to college... that papi is paying for...be blessed

Yea she was wrong period! Courts let the child decide at 12 who they want to stay with in my state, maybe it's the same in their states too and that's why he hollering the child decided it's fun with me, surely the kid said the same thing in previous years during visits if that's how he felt so why didn't the defendant bring it to the plaintiff before, why not just have a conversation with the lady.

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The judge was definitely on one. I am sure she wouldn’t feel that way if she was told that her child wasn’t returning after thinking your child was only going for a summer break.

She meant he didn’t do anything wrong legally. He didn’t. There was no court order.

@@thesoloallianceTHEIR child. It’s HIS child too. This mentality of women that they “own” the children needs to stop

You listen selectively. She immediately said she didn’t advise what the did.

Lool 😂

How exactly was he wrong. Absolutely nothing he did was illegal.

@@sdowns8302 Actually, everything he did was illegal. Did you not watch the case? The mother had custody of the child, and he tried to keep the child away from her. She did in fact had a right to press kidnapping charges against him, but chose not to. She's been more than fair. He has been in and out of the childs life and ONLY decided he wanted the child when he had to start paying child support. Now all of a sudden he wanted full custody? Yet didn't even show up to court to get visitation rights? Did y'all not watch the case?

yeap! Summed it completely up!

hi.. this show was years ago.. i am sure.. he paid the child support...for his now.. college age baby!.. you people just come and assume so much about a stranger.. you don't know these people biography... you females sound like single parents.. and man haterss..who give the fathers the hard time!... be blessed

Welp seems you're doing the same ASSUming in comments by a strangers subjective opinion based upon an observation of the defendants conflicting testimony. You projecting much or maybe ur jus mid bitter broken baby daddy givin ur beta male feels & vibe

@@Cubanflowers Dude is emotionally immature the son's mental health shld've been his #1 priority its a very serious matter. While he's out here simpin for his wife/ another rnans children instead of showing up also fighting to protect his seed. Simple display of cowardly behavior if in fact allegations of self harm are true otherwise he's a Big LIAR & manipulator who used the narrative for police & school in an attempt to gain leverage. Shame on him plantiff should have prevailed

Me too I agree.

Bitter women comment alert 🚨

I can tell you’d be a nightmare to coparent with.

You seem to think he's only her child.. Its his child too.

Wow my mother always said people wouldn’t know how stupid you are if you keep your mouth shut

It’s not YOUR childI. The child belongs to BOTH parents. Women don’t have any more rights to their children than fathers do. If there is no court order you have no more rights to custody than the father. There is zero indication here that he was harming the child in any way. It’s *HIS child too*

She’s a dunce forreal

Right, jm missed so many points.

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Exactly 💯

hi.. its like you never did here.. when mama say they had a long distance love affair...? and you are so right... i say the same thing.. to all these females.. who love pick and pack their babies.. take them to different states.. never once asking father's permission to take the life HE created states away!... be blessed

@@CubanflowersShe carried that child and delivered the child. The father should be the one to move 🤷‍♀️

@@froglog1002she didn’t get pregnant alone you simpleton!

I still say that!

hi.. you sound like a wicked bitter.. mother.. who hates men... yes.. sweetie.. you do.. be blessed

Right. Let the dad see how hard it is to raise a child and when it gets hard dad will be calling .

That's what I said, sign over her rights and enjoy the freedom until 😂

@@sheraps9763knocked it off, I raised all 4 of my children by myself. And I know a bunch of single father’s handling their business solo. Stop acting like only women can handle that. Most of you women would be homeless and hungry with y’all children if it wasn’t for government assistance, so knock it off!

hi.. sweetie.. so far best comment yours!.. i can tell you are a person full of sense!..be blessed

She was acting dumb that day.

@@EChristian329She was completely wrong in this case.

Completely wrong! I hate when she tries to attack someone instead of sticking to the law. This was a verbal agreement and he broke the agreement

I agree !! I have two boys and I I want them to both have father figures in their life and I don't want 100% of the responsibility I don't want my kids to hover over me and only think I'm there for them I want them to know they have both parents in their life and I need to trust that the father can make them into the man they need to be

"Were."

😂😂😂

Right

Dealing with it now. And his dad is aloof to the harm he is doing because he's not present. Sucks

Women can’t raise boys no different than men can raise girls

So do daughters tbh

Childern need both parents actually

this is a very sad case and no laughing matter, but she ate with that, ngl 😭

I laughed, that was the best part!

Lmao