Too many people out here using manipulative or deceptive tactics to try to gain an emotional or psychological advantages in a relationship. One should focus on themselves to strive to be better. Not learn tactics to cheat the system. These games could manifest in various ways, such as sending mixed signals, being inconsistently affectionate or distant, or deliberately creating confusion or doubt. The best way to “beat” mind games is not to play. Recognize the manipulation for what it is and assert your boundaries. Open and honest communication can be a powerful tool. Clearly express how his actions are affecting you and what you will not tolerate.

Heres what helps me go no contact. Delete her number. Delete all texts. Im good at leaving. However im stuck at the finding myself part

Bro your videos are saving me right now! I can’t even begin to count how many “oooff” moments I’ve had from the things you’ve said.

throughout my breakup the best thing my therapist had me grasp was the idea of expectations vs reality. similar to your experience, i came to the realization of just how clingy i was and how every word he said i held onto. its almost as if i created a false reality/ idea of what the realtionship was. each time i found myself disappointed in them when i was disappointed that the ideas and scenarios I created in my head did not come to reality. i had put him on a pedestal which is very unhealthy and unfair to him. i could talk about this for hours lol.

Understanding this could make everybody a better person. Keep up please ❤

This is exactly what I needed. Whatever you just said, it's how I have been acting and I'm glad I came across your channel. No more manipulation. It's funny how we believe that the other person was bad during the break up, whereas we ourselves had a major part that we played in it. I am going to own up to my own mistakes and work on them for better future. God bless you man. You are a friend that everyone needs.

Man, blew money on several months of therapy and “Ex Back” programs and your videos finally snapped me out of it. Ready to move on (and see if I can get some refunds lol)

This is the truth I didn't want to hear, thank you

Love how you said this

i realize how toxic and gross i was being with a girl i was dating, i knew i was being too clingy but your outside verbalization makes me realize i was wrong

I love this advice. Unfortunately some people won’t get there in a matter of a few weeks, but if people give themselves grace, and time to reflect, eventually they can get to this point. People are dealing with so many different insecurities, traumas and dysfunctional relationship dynamics that makes it difficult for them to arrive at this point. Great video! Thanks for putting out this perspective out there. More authenticity and less manipulation.

My friend. You are one of the best on KZfaq at this time. Keep it up! Thanks

thank you, you are literally a life saver.

This talk is way too underrated! You hit the nail on the head.! Thank you for putting this in to words.! It’s strange that some of us have brains 🧠 that tend towards construct this illusion! I believe it has something to do with energy.! You can become so cooked down in lovemaking and having sex with that person that you loose reality in a way.! It’s like fucking drugs 😮‍💨 like back in the rave days. You end op in that 3mounth relationship with some girl on ecstasy. And you absolutely have no clue of who that person is. Just fucking and lovemaking 😂 maybe it’s best if you build in some going clean period in relationships? Then you can naturally tjek in to baseline reality. Fun fact is. That when you get out! Like now of 30 days No contact. I become aware of sense of me! I like me. My time my stuff. My hobbies. And you see the person is not what you thought they were. ! 😮‍💨 like in matrix movie. Don’t get court op in the lady in the red dress neo

damn i needed this video a year ago

This was helpful and excellent thank you very very much like you said live your life genuinely don’t be trying to post on social media now this other crap just genuinely go on with your life and be happy like you said it’s manipulative

This is good.

Helpful thank you

Thank you 😊

The cold truth is that as much as we can “stay true to ourselves” if you know anything about female nature after giving her space you mentioned she was happy. See the problem is we think the world revolves around our selves. And you can use this to your advantage because a women’s world IS her emotions. Relationships are containers of servant hood and service. Gathering data and practice for a marriage and a marriage is a business decision . In business as a sole proprietor you have to make decisions that best serves the vision of your company. Often we as men have no standard or intention on the energy we let into our lives from the opposite sex and quite frankly they don’t give a shit about our feelings, and having anxiety is a red flag. This isn’t the 90s or early 2000s people are hypersensitive & “I can give myself everything thing I need” as a narrative seriously couldn’t be further from the truth. If we could meet all of our own needs we wouldn’t be here. There would be no need for humans. We fundamentally need eachother and need community. We all just want to play victim and isolate into our Internet world. So the real challenge is having the discernment and accountability to educate yourself on female nature and how to get the respect you’re looking for. Essentially how to integrate through mind body and soul - new behavior - that actually works and gives you a life and the options in the sexual market place that you desire. We are in a broken world and we need to humble ourselves to the truth around us. Get out of our victim mindsets and integrate the hate we have for ourselves and people with a reservoir of grace that is honest about our needs and then articulates them to our potential mates. “Hey, I really need your assurance on this. I’m hoping with more time and more re assurance- I’m going to build confidence in that area. “ “ hey I had a long day. Can you hold me?” Lol yes it sounds nuts but I feel like sometimes it’s that simple. We have these layers of shame on top of layers of anger and self oppression. We must integrate those things with a love like the one god gives us in full grace and allow ourselves to see ourselves as we are. Self condemnation only creates oppression. Good luck to all. Thanks for this channel and to allow me to vent. Blessings

What about a 25 years story? I think it has to be more than this.

Up to this particular video I engoyed Andrews talks , this one on the other hand seems all over the place .While I agree that we must develop our own inner life and stop being needy ,it is not manipulative ,a word he over uses in this video , to care for and try and stay in touch with someone you were once connected to . I think my overall impression is , he needs to take a chill pill . Taking down the presentation a notch will make it easier to listen to . He sounds desperate in my opinion...