Stop WAITING For Other People To Choose You and Do THIS Instead

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All too often in life, we find ourselves passively waiting for some outside influence to determine our next move. We tend to live our lives in a state of reaction instead of action. In this video we talk about the importance of choosing yourself in life - taking action and being the hero of your own story instead of hoping that other people will pick you. Stop waiting and choose yourself in life!

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@FriskaAgari 8 ай бұрын

I've been lost & drowning in my own thoughts for these past couple months, & This is what I need to hear right now! Thank You Mr.Vanhoff for the best insight! 🌻

@manoil1 11 күн бұрын

Yeah, I understand your point. You represent it so well in many videos about letting go and be self-sufficient but you also need to put a line between that idea and needing love and to share your life with people. We need companionships, we need some sense of security and stability. I am not saying this in a way to oppose your idea but to frame it in a way that do not condamn the fact that people have needs, psychological needs, not just physical. There is a growing tendency of people choosing to be alone and focusing only on themselves because relationships no longer fulfill their needs like ever. Even some animals species choose one partner and mate for life and when a tragedy happens, they sometimes cannot go on. Again, this is just an example but we do need other people, love to give and love to receive, but yeah, getting rid of those false images we create for the other person need to go away.

@andrewvanhoff 11 күн бұрын

Absolutely! It's not to say that you should completely detach from life, but more to say that you should be more aware and present in life. It's not that you have to avoid people and be perfect in order to finally find happiness, but rather you have to embrace the inherent imperfection and love yourself and other people anyway. And I think only by understanding that we're okay alone are we able to fully bring our whole selves into a relationship and build a partnership. Many of my videos follow my own arc of understanding, which was about moving away from people pleasing and chasing others as a source of validation. But you can definitely take it too far, and I've even noticed in myself from time to time situations where I've been more avoidant, perhaps as the other side of that same coin. There is a balance in these things. It's not that you have to be alone, or you're always using other people to compensate, but rather that you have to be your own person. You have to love yourself, not only your partner. Above all, it's an ongoing journey. I've heard it said that we're all masterpieces and also works in progress. So it's not to say you "have to live this specific way in order to be happy" but more to bring the awareness of these subtle underlying belief systems that many of us are slaves to. And to find our own inner worth so that we can more thoroughly embrace life, not withdraw from it.

@VISHAL_SINGH-m8y 8 ай бұрын

*You chang my life 😂😅 (LOL)......... This line becomes the Common habit of Everyone 😂😂😂😂😅😅* *Anyways, Yes ! That's( u said in vid) the greatest cause of the stucking....*

@ianastasia9659 8 ай бұрын

wow man I hope everybody will listen your words one day

@sabrinacz 10 күн бұрын

Binge watching your videos :)

@KeishaKiger 8 ай бұрын

You’re uplifting !! I been binge listening to your videos . Feels freedom like !

@andrewvanhoff 8 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad you're getting something good out of them!

@AnthonyManzio 11 күн бұрын

@@andrewvanhoff 've never owned a cell phone thank god. Dating is dead smartphones, stupid dating apps all hookups no more LTR has destroyed dating globally no looks or smiles anymore all on their cell phones 24/7 plus now they all stupid tattoos 80% are all low value women. Today women have replaced men with big dogs and to have sex with it, so gross. I'm 55, introverted, never married, no kids, got all my shit together 5.10 170lbs, don't smoke, drink or do drugs. We have turned into robots no one talks face to face anymore. I've given up nothing but trash out there. Our parents had it better.

@rebeccamaunde4085 8 ай бұрын

Well said brother watching and listening from kenya

@amdeko 7 ай бұрын

❤❤ i will forever clap for others until its my turn 🎉🎉

@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd Күн бұрын

👏👏👏

@VISHAL_SINGH-m8y 8 ай бұрын

Jave a nice day

@Victorialulz 8 ай бұрын

Yesss

@highcarbregenerator 7 ай бұрын

Hey would you be willing to do an interview? I’d like to talk more about this subject!

@FriskaAgari 8 ай бұрын

I've been lost & drowning in my own thoughts for these past couple months, & This is what I need to hear right now! Thank You Mr.Vanhoff for the best insight! 🌻