I wish lawyers and judges were educated on covert narcissism and learn to recognize the signs. Too many children being put in dangerous situations

He's a narcissistic sociopath and has said he doesnt want to be a parent...so why force visitatiin when its obviously not in the best interest of the child when he will not feed, not give bedtime, not provide safety...in this case i want and understand the importance of co-parenting but why do we as the parent have to wait for "something to happen" to a child before the courts listen or understand...and thats the tip of the iceberg in my case... We teach kids to stay away from harmful situations. .so what is the system teaching? Nothing...just addding to another generation emotional and unstable abuses we as parents are trying to TRULY avoid and not as a control tactic...

you both have way too much focus on normal people custody problems. Do a video of one parent doing everything right and healthy, and the other parent being an abusive alcoholic.

If the other parent is a narcissist joint custody only maintains the unhealthy dynamics of the narcissistic parent. From the child's point of view the narcissist makes sure that you are belittled and he is the good strong parent and the child has to listen to that parent and not the other parent. In many cases the other parent is healthy and has no idea this control tactic is being used.

Can't love this enough! Thank you for addressing Parenatl Alienation and focusing on the children and not either parent. They need both parents.

Thank you so so so much for these videos. They are very helpful and so very true. There is no win or lose. And this is where so many people get so focused on is winning or losing instead of what works or what’s right.

I want to thank you so much for providing this information. I just wrapped up a 15 months custody battle. Needless to say it's been the most emotion period of my life. Gotta wait about 2 weeks for the decision but I feel confident in our case. We established domestic violence, medical neglect (my wife took our daughter out of the country,18 months after not seeing her her teeth are black) and educational neglect. In 18 months of school she was absent 21 days and tardy 57 times! All the while I never knew she was back in America.

Rule 1. Dont have kids or get married in the USA. Take your labor to another country and get a passport.

Awesome Video!! I'm Using Some of These Pointer's For My Custody Battle!

Thank you for your insight. I have been binge watching your custody videos. Next Thursday I go to court for the primary custody of my almost five year old daughter. I am terrified. She is my world. Obviously, there are many details at play here, but at the end of the day, I just want what is best for my little girl. I will give you an update after the hearing...positive thoughts and vibes, please!

Please do more videos on Father's with custody and the mother being the abusive party.

Thank you so much! I needed to hear this!

I like these guys... I’ve wasted a lot of time watching Rogan and Bobbie related videos but these are the ones that directly affect me, I’m sure they help others as well.

I have primary custody of my 11 year old but we pretty much let her choose when she goes to moms. But I actually support her doing it 😂. Mom also can call me and say “can I get her this weekend?” And I totally support it. This actually works better for us than when we enforce the order. She didn’t like going to her house at all when we went by the court schedule. 2 years ago we decided to try to just let her tell us when she wants to spend time with mom and she actually spends more time with her now than what the court called for. This only works of both parents act good though. I definitely wouldn’t advise it if there’s conflict with custody as it’s very easy to manipulate the situation. I learned this very early on. All it took is for me to say “baby your going to moms tomorrow, I’m really gonna miss you” and the child reacts by not wanting to leave me. I recognized this is unhealthy and really didn’t mean to cause the reaction, but I recognized it. Now I give my daughter a healthy heads up “babe, don’t forgot tomorrow moms gonna pick you up from school, don’t forget she’s been wanting to goto the park with you so bring good shoes” - “ok daddy!” Amazing how much kids react to us as parents even if we don’t directly say something to them. Non verbal communication is a very real thing.

Can you please address corrupt judges in custody cases? How can you obtain justice when the judge is bias, falsified court documents and won't allow you a change of venue.

I bent over backwards to cooperate and be accommodating, but truth didn't prevail. My case is straight out of hell. I am praying my daughter will stay alive until she is 18 she she will be free. The best liar won...

So helpful and good. Got my case in 8 hrs. Thx for your insights

I enjoy your videos a lot. Thank you for your work.

So I have followed you for years and have always valued your parenting advice , who knew I'd be here taking advice for this .....I'm a year into a seperation for my four children's dad , it's been very difficult, I am so thankful for your video this is so valuable for people like me thank you for sharing ❤

Mom left the state with kids and I have joint and legal custody. Have seen them since July. This video is good. Waiting for court date. Hope the judge sees the same thing and enforce or change custody to me for my kids sake. Kids needs both Mom and Dad.

Wish these informative videos were available back when my X was trying to take custody after our "amicable" divorce.

I would love for you two to represent me in court. The mother of my kids has alienated me from my two girls and I dared not fight her. I didn’t want to hurt the kids during a stressful situation. But I can promise you, with what your saying, I could get my kids back in a positive environment and give them the best life and I would continue to allow my children see the mother.

Thank you guys for your videos!

Keep teaching the public. Thanks guys.

My son a victim of kidnapping and parent alienation, has breached court shared custody, and taken my grandchildren from their mother because she had a new sibling last month, and in his mind no other man can raise his children. Court is today, 5th March 2020.... yet he claims he will refuse to return the kids, and leave the state. The Hague, International social services, are aware this is occurring... I’m horribly concerned this history will repeat again...since it’s a norm for the family I married to remove children from biological parents and adopt them under duress, by new step parent often more than one. Thank you for the insight.

This will actually help me write my motion for sole legal custody. My ex is so concerned with being the fun parent that he isnt being a parent. he makes demands on me in regards to our son because 'its his right' 🤦‍♀️ our son got arrested for a assaulting my husband and my ex is mad i took our sons xbox away.

I really enjoy these videos that feature Sid.

I agree with em elle. Family Law attorneys and judges need to be educated in types of abuse and the effects on child development. Also to be trauma-informed. After a three-year-long battle, I just lost custody of my son. The main reason is that they perceived my daughter's choice not to see her father as my manipulation. I was respecting her choice and requested that decision be made with her therapist's recommendations. She has PTSD because of him and has been in trauma therapy. He is the main character of her nightmares. But none of this was taken into consideration. So now my autistic son is traumatized again by the judge giving his father total control and custody. He has no intention of keeping my son in contact with me or his siblings. his siblings testified against their father in open court. Who's interest was served in this ruling?

You have amazing videos that are very informative and insightful. Currently, I am awaiting a 706 (Expert Custody Evaluator) based in Las Cruces New Mexico, my appointment is this Thursday on the 18th, I have been accused of about 4 false allegations and I have spent this entire week organizing everything for the evaluator to prove how these are false allegations, all 4 allegations have been ruled out as well after the investigations. My question to you, is there any way you can make a video about what I can do about many false allegations, basically how can I take action against the accuser or how can I prove in a court of law that these allegations were false with malicious intent? Also, how should I prepare all of my evidence for the expert custody evaluator.

My brother sent me this link to your video. You are talking about everything that happened to me. I can’t find an attorney that doesn’t want to be friends with the Judge because everyone that lives in the small town has to eventually go in front of that judge again. It’s not fair that I never had a chance. I wish you would help me see my son again. I was given the advice to wait until her turns 18 but it’s so hard to wait. I miss him so much.

What a marvelous video!You gentlemen are wonderful! Signed, a Man

I lost custody because we agreed amicably that he would have the kids full-time while I went to nursing school for one year, and then he decided to change his mind about giving them back and it’s been hell on earth for all of us ever since.

Thank you

This is the other reason I don't want a divorce the kids are part of my world too. I love you guys.

Hope this comment will be noticed and replied to. I have a situation that has gone on for many years now, and at this point, I want to get out of the house, and I'd hope for my younger brother to aswell. My father hasn't been the best person. He has threatened to shoot our dog in the head once, hes pinned me down and twisted my arm. Although that was for safety reasons, I feel that I shouldn't have been pulled and tossed onto the floor like that. Ever since 6th grade, he has emotionally drained me over my grades, and I have been criticized a bit, which has been a major putdown for me. I'm currently in 11th grade, and continue to suffer from depression since then. I'm not the only one who puts up with this. My mother has been emotionally drained because of him, as now I see her cry almost everyday and feel miserable with him. I tried so hard, from calling CPS to going to the hospital with hopes I can get away from my father. The hospital couldn't recommend much but just tell me to hang in there and maybe my dad will change, but he never does. As for CPS, my parents said so much, primarily my dad, that he convinced me it wouldn't turn out well if I left, so I told CPS the minor things that would prevent the situation from going down any further. Recently I've come to such a bad point to where I can't handle seeing my mother miserable, wasting years of her life with him and weakening herself emotionally and physically, and my brother who will become just like him… He's honestly not a father to me. He may care, but he doesn't know how to be a good father honestly. From what it seems, hem ay RARELY get physical, but he often seems to be what's called an "energy vampire". Just draining me and my family bit by bit. God, he even abused our dog, which is why we had to give him away with this bad environment. It's better than being shot in the head in the woods. My god… I need some advice. Who do I reach out to? Are there ways I can still stay in my current town? Is moving in with my friends family or even my boyfriends family an option if they approve? I'd appreciate some advice as soon as you may be able to respond.

I have a four year old son. The father and mom l, half brother have been alienated from his life. Sacramento, Ca family judge granted us visits with the child, right after that, his sister who has legal guardian ship moved to Georgia, or Oklahoma and has made my son unavailable to visit his other family for the last 3 1/2 years. The sister who has custody of my son is purposely braking the parent/child bond. My four year old son has no one to enforce his visits or speak up in his behalf. The father and I tried to enforce through the family court and the courts said there isn't anything they can do, that the mom dad would need to hire an attorney/ private investigator to enforce . Parents do not have a physical address for the legal guardian and parents are homeless experiencing a financial hardship. So my son's sister lies and tells the courts that the parents abandoned or doesn't hear from the parents. It's a shame that professionals do not go to child's school, to speak with children in private away from abusive/alienating custodel parent.

Do you think it’s helpful or necessary for one parent to encourage or plan / facilitate outings with/ for the other parent who is nonchalant?

Love this

One of my friends has an 8 year old son he won custody 2 years ago after he divorced his wife after she ended up on disability. He refuses to give her partial custody because she can't can't take care of herself so how can she raise/support a child

What do you do if also the parent restricts visits in sneaky ways like being late or forgetting the time or scheduling at odd times to give a false sense of visiting niglect to the other parent

Question: My son n his dad live in different states. Our son lives with me and they have been talking on video chat for two years. The father records the video. The two party law exists in both states. He recently admitted to recording the videos even though I've told him that I will need consent to recording. I know I've been recorded at times just because I'm in the house along with my other kids.I wanted to stop the video chats and just have calls over the phone. I realize that would not be in my son's best interest. The father says he's moving back to our state. Should I ask the court to modify the plan for calls to no longer include video when the father lives back? How can I enforce my right to not be recorded?

Can you do a video about court battles over a toddler for the best interests for a toddler and everything. It’s so much harder when a child is young

I didn't travel to my sons father's city for the first visitation because I am not working and don't have money for the 2 $400-800/each round trip tickets. What can I do to protect myself when I see the judge a month from now? Any recommendations? Thank you 💛

Healthnut you have a point about narrascist I'm up against one I'm going through it now not honest ppl pathological liars I find it very tough to take hugs the court doesn't recognize character flaws It's incredible how they fall upper the radar with abuse and neglect if it's more emotional abuse hugs your not alone It's amazing how the real them comes out when u start fighting back and saying no.

I have a question... when you were talking about focusing on ones rights vs making things about this kids... I am the primary custodial parent for my 2 kids sharing joint legal and physical custody and I have an ex who wont let me the know the info for a tutor he hired for our kindergarten aged son, even though I homeschool him during the week. He also has yet to provide me with kids dental info, and I have asked several times since December... lastly he has yet to give me info for a sport he signed our son up for, granted the sport is on his night but I worry he paints me out to others as being controlling, when I honestly just want to support our son in his extra curricular activities. What are your thoughts on this type of circumstance? Is it controlling of me to ask (nicely) multiple times for something he fails to provide me? Or should I just stop trying to co parent?

Thankyou for these videos. I've moved within a mile of my children. I changed jobs, I have a new house. When I reached out to my x for more time with my children she shut me down, took away any extra time I was having with them at the time. We're are on our way to the meditators meeting because she will not negotiate or give me more time. I'm nervous, I've done my positive loving homework, I just want to be in their lives. Please, any advice on going into this meeting is appreciated!

It should be whats in the best interests as a family as a whole unit.

Great content

I don't understand how women or even men try to keep the kids away from a father [mother] who desires to be with their kids. Like that's ridiculous!

What do you do when other parent is keeps ignoring your messages even with court parental app and not following court documents?

what if one parent is aleinating themselves by chouce as in they are choosing to not be a part of the childs life even if the other parent tries to get that pare t to participate?

Would you consider myself being a “control freak” if I asked the father of my child to pass a drug test? He has my son supervised now and I would like him to pass a drug test before having him unsupervised because of his previous drug problem.

My ex husband has made false allegations against me saying I would harm my daughter. I had to go through all kinds of groups and have not seen my daughter in 3 years. He lies to my daughter making her think I don’t want anything to do with her. I had to pay 4500 for a risk assessment that’s taken 9 months for this man to go through everything, it’s almost done and I hope it works in my favor. My ex husband tells me that my daughter doesn’t want to talk to me and he’s not going to force her

Kids need both parents if both parents aren’t toxic. No child should be exposed to a toxic mother or father. Period.

Hello well I have my son 50 50 but the child accidentally cut himself on a piece of glass, and the mother was very mad, now can I lose custody because of this?

Either you in or out!!

I am a parent going through parental alienation. their father and new step mother have done everything use the court system to have my children. right now they used false allegations of sexual abuse. later my son confessed to being coached.

Please help me with my case my ex girlfriend is denying me the right to see my daughter and there is no actual visitation schedule or court set up except for childsupport court set etc.. Can she use owed childsupport of a small amount that can be paid any time to keep me from seeing my daughter?? Child support vs visitations. Can I legally fight for my child visitation (schedule) without an attorney? So how to fight for a visitation without a custody agreement

We are in a custody battle he filled a emergency motion for primary custody. I have been texting him every day to talk to my kids and he won’t reply or let me !! We have the motion hearing in Wednesday! What do you think about that? My kids haven’t been without me for more than 3 days .

What do you do when the other parent is toxic?

I have a letter from the school concerned about my 3 and 4 year old being neglected. Do I have a chance in court. ( it states it seems like the step father was intoxicated when he dropped of my son) (the kids go to school saying that daddy hits us) (they go to school hungry) and with diapers full of poop.)

Can you please help, my ex wanna pay lobola (negotiations) to my child and take him to stay with him full time.. Can you please tell me the disadvantages of it , and if my child is not happy do I have a right to take him back ?

What happens when a 17 year old says she wants to live with the other parent will there be a guardian ad litem on the case even though she's 17 or does the case get decided right there that day. What I keep hearing is that a judge will side with a 17 year old due to her age

Hi, I had depression 2 years ago and got better when I went to work and haven’t taking meds. Is possibility that my x can used it against me? Would affect my custody battle?

My ex-wife has custody of our daughter in California while I live in Florida. Since the divorce, she has filed restraining orders against two different men my daughter viewed as father figures. One of which was driving drunk and crashed the car with my daughter in the car. All of this under the mother's "watchful" eye. I had just requested to get my daughter for Thanksgiving break for a trip to New York. She's allowing me 3 days... 3 days to go pick her up from Cali, fly to new york, and bring her back. This would be my first time seeing her in two years. I need help. Would this be a substantial case to reopen a custody battle? I want my daughter, and I honestly feel her mother's lack of vigilance is dangerous.

In the 1st part of this video you mention not alienating the child from one parent/not following court order. In our case, my son's father and I had a court order but he was shortly thereafter incarcerated for robbing 5 pharmacies with a gun for narcotic painkillers. He has spent the last 10 years in prison and was released last week. He tried getting our son the day after he was released, but I refused saying we needed to ammend our agreement. My son does not know him and I do not feel my son is safe with him for overnight visits yet. I believe initial supervised visits and possibly some parenting classes would be best. I am nervous about what the judge is going to say though since technically we have a court order from over 10 years ago. What are your thoughts/professional opinions on this?

So, do you guys have any advice for a mom in a situation where the X actually was physically abusive… Faked suicide all the time, and threatened to hurt the child when she was four months? I have two police report but I never charged him. He took off to another province and has paid me $200 a total of maybe three times since. It’s been 4 years. He never asks about her. I’ve heard he abused two other women and one of their children ... there may be charges there but I am not sure. Does he have a chance at getting custody? He also has a 10-year-old with another woman and he never sees or asks about. Apparently he lost custody of her for not showing up. I genuinely believe it would be dangerous for my daughter to get into his custody. I went to the courthouse and two different ladies that work there advised me not to do anything or he might have a chance at getting custody, but I worry if something happened to me she would go to him. I am at a loss as to what to do. A lawyer would be damn expensive, but doing it alone sounds scary. There’s also a possibility he might not show up anyway

Something happened one time ever. N my son had just gotten out the I c u . N had the stomach virus which passed on to me n my mom. That'll take a whole lot out of u. N it was the first time I had ever caught anything after it left him. I was driving home and I had to stop by being up all night n morning running back and forth to the restroom. Went and found a motel to stay in till I wasn't too tired to drive and also for a restroom. I laid my son beside me. He laid down. Then he got up as usual to go to the potty. But he was in there too long. Keep in mind I had the stomach virus at the time. N anyone who's had it knows it takes a toll on your body. Also by being in the ICU not getting rest. Nurses coming in n out for tests, checking his sugar and giving insulin too him. N checking in on him. I am use to doing all this so at the checkup times I was up making sure he was alright. He went in for very very high ketones,fever, vomiting, diarrhea, being a severely Diabetic. N I catch that virus afterwards. Any how actually we laid down ,he went to potty . Somehow I dozed off a little . I got up went to the restroom and my son wasn't there. When I was about to look outside a man knocked on my door n says your son is at the restaurant. I said O my Lord . Looked for my shoes, didn't find them went barefooted to the restaurant and saw him running around. Yelling. Because we were going later that evening after he rested too. When I looked around ppl were looking at me strange. But they knew who he was. He came over to where I was n grabbed my hand and says mama sit. The police were over there waiting on me to come over and get him. But they called dhr on me like this has happened b 4. This is the first time ever happening. N the last now I know how he tries to go outside to familiar places. In mind my son looks 4. But he is 10 years old. I see 9 year olds walking to the store and no one messes with them. Y me?? I'm a great mother and anyone who knows me , knows that I am.i just don't understand y they had called dhr on me like I'm doing wrong to/ for my son. He's all I got and all I do for. I love my son. With all my heart and soul. And I wouldn't ever let anything bad happen to him. He just wanted to go earlier. And he put my missing shoes on to do so. That's all.

If you are a divorced and have a child plan and other parent goes against the child plan is that does that matter in court? Can you do something about that?

How do you prove that you're not abusive and neglectful? My ex has submitted an alternative parenting plan and it is full of false and misleading Statements.

What if the child has never meet the bio mother and he's autistic and has a family structure a safe place and the bio has been in and out of jail and in rehab at the moment but has not been there emotionally , can she loose sole custody ? Can step mom adop with out her consent if bio has been absent for 5 1/2 years

Be proactive....im always in constant fear ... but don't care anymore

My Daughter was trying to call all the shots. We had to talk about that she is entitled to her feelings/opinions AND I don't get to make that call and we (Dad and I) would talk about it in court with a judge and all. We compared it to kids at her age. I said she would eat pastry strudels everyday if I never made her have oatmeal or granola. She said the "fine, I may not know everything". I said "you would play minecraft all day long and never do anything". She kinda nodded like "Okay, maybe" face. She says "Maybe half the kids in my class play FortNight all night long and do don't their homework bc their parents are too busy to spend time with them". These are married parents and the kid's are really just left to their own to video game all night long. This is Elementary School!!! I'm like why not just turn off the wifi? or unplug it? I was like "You know I know where the computer plugs in and the breaker box is right?". . . "Yeah, Mom, I know".

Hello everyone can someone enlightened me with what i can do if exwifes bf dont let me talk to my daughter even when it is important because its cutting into there time but what i did before just call and ask for my daughter to b put on the phone amd thats as much contact with mother. And i have only happen to need to call her twice in almost one year. So i dont try to waste or abuse this communication option so i can use it dor emergencies but the bf instead threatn me to not do that at all

Very well said. My Ex wont let our 10 yrs old son do scouting unless I'm there. Refuses out of state travel, for his safety, but anywhere in CA is ok... (step mom is active army, so we have 2nd residence) infinite battles... always something new. Has him afraid of murder Hornets, COVID19, riots.. Said his moles look like cancer, had several removed... and that his silver fillings are giving him cancer... she told out older son (works for me) that ne could go to prison if I don't deduct proper taxes

My ex has our daughter EVERY weekend. I work fulltime so miss out on quality time with her. I have asked him for a weekend a month and he refuses. Do you think this is in the best Interest of the child? She doesn't know who her aunts/uncles/cousins are on my side. I am considering going to mediation, my concern is that I'm wrong and wasting my time.

Just found out that my ex-husband's new wife is pushing and shoving my 12 year old son and they also left my 15 and 12 year old kids home alone unsupervised for 24 hours so they could go to a friend's beach house. He never contacted me for right of first refusal. Now I have to file contempt charges. Wish I didn't have to. But, this behavior is concerning and affects the kids

I’ve had my daughter all my life her father never bothered with her but when he started not wanting to pay anymore he asked me if she could live with him . As if , basically staining that’s the only way he’d do anything so he stopped paying . So last weekend i asked him Friday give my daughter a ride home and it turned into a nitemare , he went behind my back and took her to his house bc he knew the police won’t remover her . I went and tried to get an emergency motion and instead the judge gave me and expedited court Dm date which is 3 weeks away , he’s not letting my kid call me ! And now is giving me Demas’s saying he will only give her back if i agree to 50/50 custody without childsupport , he has free range to see her and wasn’t . So he just gets to take her solely bc he doesn’t want to pay and now her life may be really changed forever ? He’s holding her against her will and she’s told me she’s doing nothing but crying and he won’t let her go home

Can you make a session about how to deal with co-parenting when the other parent is flirting and still talking “couple family talk?” (And yes... many direct “turn down” conversations have been made over the last decade.) Example: When I try and co-parent he sees this as an “in” to be a couple and happy family again and then takes it out on my child and I when he realizes I am only interested in talking about my son. Makes co-parenting difficult and my 10 year old son confused. I thought it might be a good idea for a clip?

I’m dealing with someone that harbors all my past mistakes and failures . I understand she can not help the negative feelings she has towards me . I am a great father and I am being punished and kept from Their well being , I don’t want to drag this into court but that decision will be new to our children, for us the parents have experience from our previous marriages. She had full custody and I had joint but with the petitioner title on my behalf. I’m up against someone that delights herself by making me suffer . A good parent would not interfere with a child’s right to have both parents in their lives. Never give up is my new way of waving my banner of peace not war. The children are always the ones who suffer the most .

Ok what do you do when you already been to court and the child father has liberal visitation and the mother gets mad a year later and decide she don’t want you seeing the child

I wish all of this was true, then the courts would have granted my husband primary custody. We've gone through... alienation, non-cooperation, humiliation, coercion, false accusations in court (luckily, that went in our favor because we had all the evidence), but you name it and we went through it. We have all the proof of everything being false or being done towards us and my husband was still and is still being pushed aside. I guess it's just the luck that some might run into because we haven't had any except for catching her on perjury trying to get full custody by default claiming she couldn't find where the non-custodial parent was and we proved it to the magistrate and it went in our favor but that was the only thing we got.

Do you need a degree to be a custody evaluator? I need to know! I 100% found my calling after just dealing with one. She was completely biased on mom's side. It's heartbreaking to watch good father's in pain!

How can I claim I suspect drug abuse when my “evidence” is mostly circumstantial or what my kids tell me? What would be considered enough proof in a court of law??

My ex is not following his parenting agreement for the week. What can I do?

They don’t care about the kids! I loss my house, my kids just because I sent the form I suppose to fill for spousal and child support to a wrong place and the oficial didn’t get it. They give to my husband everything listed on his divorce demand. They sent me to live in the street with no money! No a single dólar. I did not have place for me which means for the kids neither. Never work in this country for 17 years so impossible to rent with no credit history. I was in the street with just visitation. So , they doesn’t Matter the kids will loss their mom! What matters is paper and documents and that is it!

What if a grandparent is trying to do this with me and siblings child has been with for 15 years? Is that alienation,

What if one of the parents is a drug addict and has a history of domestic violence and abuse who has been to prison for domestic violence (strangulation of the other parent?) My girlfriend is dealing with her child's father, and he is a very violent person (got released from prison and immediately went back to abusing the mother) she has left the situation and now has a restraining order against him now, but fears he may continue the cycle of abuse on the child... Both of us believe it is in the best interest of the child for us to remove him from her life entirely and raise her in a violence free environment...

Thank you so much for these videos. What would your advice be in a case where a father was emotionally and mentally abusive to the mother. Continued to do so during pregnancy and was also spiteful and vindictive. He doesn’t seem to be mentally and emotionally healthy and balanced. Mom let dad come whenever he wanted to see baby. He has never paid child support but and has not come to see baby on his own accord. He also has a history of alcohol and drug abuse as well as lives with his family who has this history as well. Now he takes the mom to court saying she refused contact. But he seems bitter that mom doesn’t want to be with him anymore. Mom is not so concerned on her needs but that the baby would be in danger and can’t speak for her self. What would be the best outcome here in your professional experience? Thank you so much for your time

How can I contact you regards my grandaughter who was basically kidnapped through court from my daughte and the father has temporarily custody?

My children are around their mom, and stepfather. She has sole custody. CPS was called out on them. Come to find out after CPS question my kids, and they told the they was being whipped by the step dad, and step dad smokes crack, my youngest found needles in her room for heroin, they jump from house to house, not being in a stable home, and my son is cutting his arm's, and it's all on record! But some reason they want remove my kids! I go to court to get a summons for sole custody, and go against her rights! "As I should knowing their wellbeing is at a risk!" I go get a process server, they can't find her! I drive their old nieghborhood, I can't find her, I try by mail, and it goes straight back to the postal service! I keep my cool, I try other ways! But no one not even a judge, or cop can do to find her to remove my kids. I love your videos, but Im feeling all my rights is removed! If you are reading this please help? What can I Do?I'm running out of patience, and this is literally going beat me to the ground!!!

Can the living situation or condition of a home be a factor in deciding child custody?

What do you do if the a parent is verbally abusive to the other parent in front of the child and does it very sneaky ways

My ex was abusive but i never once took his rights for his son away or kept his son from him and gave him full visitation freedom. But he didnt have the car to get him and i didnt have access to one enough to bring our son to him all the time. He got mad at me and the last time my son was brought to him he refused to give him back and still wont give him back and i now have to go to court to get any custody of my son. I didnt want to restrict custody from him at all, i just miss my son. We are unmarried and no custody or child support has been established yet. Any advice? I just want to see my son again. Hes a year old.

What if your child has an disorder that the father doesn't believe he has. Even when you have paperwork from a doctor and the father still does not believe it. My son keeps telling his father he doesn't understand some things that his father is saying to him and making him do. He says his father will fuss and argue with him and lecture him. The doctor says my son has anxiety disorder ADHD and OCD his father does not believe any of this. So what do I do in a situation like this?

My ex has not let me see my daughter for 5 years. Now he's trying to force me into signing over my parental rights by coercion. He text me saying he'll go to his lawyer tomorrow and I won't get visitations if I don't sign it. What should I do?

No win or lose situation.

When the father doesn't try to talk to their son but only take them but you can't allow it for the child's safety, does that still equal alienation? He still said in court I didn't let him talk to him. And he didn't ask to talk or see him during the first month until court. The judge said I violated an order. I didn't have a lawyer.

I love the AND vs but

DON'T participate in any arguing, bickering, and discuss nothing personal. Its ONLY about the child. Do your own part to follow the orders, and be the best parent you can be. If the other parent isn't doing right, it will show. And don't make it a war about winning. Just be a parent. Document everything! I am disabled, and he makes 100k a year. I have maintained custody despite dozens of false cases. I also represent myself in court. The judge understands I don't have the budget for a lawyer. As long as I'm doing right...nothing to worry about. I encourage her to go, because good or bad she needs to know who her father is.