I think biggest reason for difference in satisfaction is that most people don't think about becoming parents at all. They just follow steps they were given: finish school, find a job, find a partner, marry them, make a baby. Childfree people think about their decision.

If you don't want to be an astronaut, you will never regret not becoming an astronaut. My exact thoughts on Motherhood.

Growing up, I was always told about the “ticking biological clock”. But in the real world I see childfree women living the best living and mothers looking absolutely ragged.

"You're gonna die alone." Everyone dies alone. It's not a collective experience. Even if you're one of the few people dying in a bed with loved ones around you, you're still alone in dying. Most people don't have anyone around them when they die. You could get hit by a bus tomorrow. No one knows how we're gonna go but there are some people out there that cling on to the fantasy of their adult children holding their hands as they take their final breath and die from old age.

I met a man who had three children all under the age of 10. I told him I wasn’t interested in children. This man looked me in my face and said “ good I want a stress free marriage with NO responsibilities”. Sir, your three kids are still there and having a spouse is a responsibility too, it to mention your ex wife will still be in the picture. The nerve of men with children. They really don’t care for their children the way men do and that’s my only reason for not having a child.

This is why women with children spent so much time trying to tell women without children they were less than. They want everyone to be as miserable as they are 😂😂

PLEASE STOP with this ridiculous narrative that people don't regret the actual children, because they do. People may not verbalize their regret at having kids, but we all see what has manifested in our society as a result. People show you better than they tell you. As a pediatric RN for almost 3 decades, I can tell you that too many people regret their kids. That is the ugly reality, and people need to accept it. Abuse, neglect, abandonment, murder, and abortions happen everyday because people regret having kids.

Just because you have a womb, doesn’t mean you have to use it. Next time someone tells me they are childless by choice, I am going to say, “Good for you!”

I will NEVER regret not having children because I never wanted them. I am a pediatric nurse who works with kids daily, but the mother gene is just not in me. I can't imagine doing the job that I do, then have to go home and deal with my own children. Just NO. Plus I have assisted in 250-300 deliveries over the course of my career (some of those women died) and know I could never sacrifice my body to pregnancy and childbirth. I don't want or need to have kids to have old age caretakers. That is not fair to them. So no kids for me thanks!!!

From personal experience it's majority men who try to shame me for being CF. I realize that's mostly due to them being frustrated with the knowledge of actually having to be a person of substance in order to have access to me or remain in my life lol. Furthermore, they can't manipulate the desperation of a "biological clock" that isn't there or dangle marriage like a carrot because I'm already fulfilled/self actualized. Women are the most supportive of my choice...Moms in particular. Women who have kids know it's not all it's cracked up to be unless it's something you truly want and don't shame others. Great moms understand why some women simply say no. Many people who end up regretting it tend to follow a "script" in life, romanticize it, and get extremely let down by the reality. All in all all choices are valid.

I'm 47, no kids. My younger sister who had 2 kids told me I got away with murd@r by not having kids.

I knew of a woman who had two emotionally, mentally and physically disabled kids both of which were wheelchair bound. They both passed away in their teens but imagine if they had lived until their 60's or 50's. I think about the parents who have to take care of their child for their rest of their lives because of some physical or mental disability. If having a healthy baby is hard, I can't even begin to imagine what it is like raising a child with physical or mental disabilities.

I've always said this: people who choose not to have children have given far more thought to parenthood than people who have kids. And I would say this to them and they'd disagree and disregard mypoint of view out of hand....well they used to. Childfree women start digesting the angles of their choice from early age. I stood on my decision by age 16.

Not having kids is probably the only major life decision I DO NOT REGRET…

This lady with red hair and glasses is making me mad. Why did she stay with a man who wasn't working AND didn't do any housework??? AND THEN HAVE HIS BABY??? absolutely NOT!!

Not having children is like committing murder to be free and getting away with it with no jail time. Motherhood is a life sentence that you can't get out of. If I had a second chance at life I would of removed my uterus at puberty, never marry, get a girlfriend to live life with, remain a Virgin my entire life, and adopt a dog.

Women more consciously regret having children because they are more aware of how happy childfree women are. For the longest time childfree women were painted as lonely unhappy spinsters, so there was nothing to be envious about. Now, they see that the opposite is actually true: childfree women often have amazing lives with fulfilled relationships and friendships, money, free time and careers, travel and romance. Having children now looks more and more like sacrificing your whole life to that cause.

To the Black Woman in the intro. He waited you out. He searches for single women. Because, he is solely interested in getting women to break their own rules. And, as you can see for yourself, he is dating other single women. They're just new victims. The only thing you can learn from this is to teach younger women that if they don't have maternal feelings. Just don't do it. One of the biggest things women don't realize is, persistence from a man is another form of love bombing.

I’m not child free but I decided I was 1 and done 17 years ago. Now he’s like a grown man so I actually FEEL child free lol I watch these videos because I love watching women decide what’s NOT for them instead of being influenced by others. My Mom hounded me for years for when I’d have another child - NEVER! I like money and naps and don’t want to have to do it alone. I’m good!

I don’t understand why a child-free woman would want to be with a man who has children. It’s a huge red flag. If a man is not in a relationship with the mother of his children (and the mother is the custodial parent) there are only two possible explanations. 1) He left her with the child(ren) to raise on her own OR 2) She left him and kept the chil(ren) - but that indicates that he was so awful as a partner that she would rather be a single parent than co-parent in a relationship. No beuno

I'm a woman in my mid 50s and childfree. I am GRATEFUL to never have had children! No regrets here.

i was always anti mainstream--if society told me to get married, i said WHY? if society told me i had to party a lot and have lots of money, i said WHY? if they said i had to be super thin, i said but i'm not built that way. i've always been very suspicious of what is pushed--and LORD, it saved me and i have a life of ease, rest, and creativity. Childfree, 40, blessed as hell. its nice to see others catch up in this new generation.

I was parentified at a young age. My mother had a special needs child when I was 11. She went to back to school to get her degree so nights, weekends, summers, he was mine. I vividly remember him screaming and me bouncing him at 2 am thinking, "I am never doing this shit again." I am now 48 with no kids, and I have zero regrets. I'm not partnered either. Having a man is like having a kid, for the most part. No thanks.

After watching my parents get divorced when I was 4 I realized that if I ever wanted kids I would have to ask myself if I'm okay with being a single mother regardless of my marital status which I learned could change at a moment's notice and my parents were together for 17 years and married for 7 of those 17 years. And I realized I never wanted kids and for damn sure didn't want to be a single mom. I realized that as a woman deciding to have kids means you have to want the kid REGARDLESS of your relationship status. So I was asking myself if I'd be okay raising a child that a man made me carry to term and I've always felt it's a UM HELL F*CKING NO for me!!!!!!!🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

I'm never having kids. It's just not worth all the trouble and heart break. My experience, watching my own mom struggle so much to raise 4 kids. She told me that I should never have kids and I know she regrets having kids or so many kids. My mom said she was so unaware of the burden and how before she had any her relatives and other people would all just talk about how great it is and how children are wonderful while hiding the truth because they want others to suffer as they have ... Or at least that's what she believes

I highly recommend that women read the book “Regretting Motherhood.” Very eye opening

Hey child free ladies! Stand strong and don't let anyone shame you for being happy. There is no winning with people. This is why it's so important to do what YOU want. There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. Much love!

Most of the women who regret having kids, is mainly because the fathers and their lack of being an involved parent and women are completely overwhelmed with kids and their husband's lack of help.

I asked my girlfriend, let’s call her Kim, if she was going on a woman’s retreat. I wanted us to room together. She said, “I don’t know. I don’t have someone to watch the kids (9&10).” I replied, “ What do you mean you don’t have someone to watch the kids? You have a whole husband..their BIOLOGICAL.” She replied, “Rob never watches the kids. He’s never been left alone with the kids.” I marched right over to him and said, “Hey Kim and I want to go to the women’s retreat.” He looked at me and hesitantly said, “Umm that sounds great, but I don’t think she has a babysitter.” I said, “You’re their father.” He sighed and said, “Yeah, but I don’t babysit.” I thought holy sh$t. She looked at me so defeated. Well, she didn’t go. He works his wife like a mule!😢 FYI…The names have been charged to protect the innocent.😅

People typically don't regret not doing something they never wanted to do. It would be like me regretting not being a Trump supporter.

If your man get uncomfortable with you being a child free woman. He keep pressuring you to have his kids. 🏃‍♀️ RUN If your man got baby mama who tell you that he doesn’t pay child support or visit his child 🏃‍♀️RUN If your man only dating career woman doesn’t want kids before dating you. 🏃‍♀️RUN

I still have massive respect for that woman that had the walls to ditch their kid. Dad PROMISED to do EVERYTHING. Realized it was hard, then bailed. She gave him like, several weeks. He kept dodging and she just yeeted the child into adoption. And he LOST HIS SHIT months later when he realized she followed through. Since: Women are NOT allowed to do that.

Me finishing up my three week paid vacation…no regrets. I work with children and love the role of auntie. My ex of 15 years wanted children but could not manage to feed the dog. I knew if I had children I would be doing it alone and working full time. It would be a prison. I have been to 45 countries, make six figures, and enjoy 2 months vacation a year. I have a great group of friends, hobbies, a full life. Middle aged and zero regrets.

I chose not to have kids. I know I’ll probably regret it in the last 5-10 years of my life or so if I’m being honest. Like many other life regrets I’m sure to have, I’ll just have to live with it. I’d rather not have kids and regret it towards the end of my life than bring a kid in this world, regret it for the next 40 or so years while subjecting them to that regret.

Some women want children and are very maternal and some women are not and some women fall In between. I want women to do what is best for them!

I'm childfree by choice. I made that choice when I was a teen and no regrets in my late fortys. My coworker has two kids, she has circles around her eyes, if her smartwatch tells her she had more than three hours deep sleep she feels acomplished. (And yes, the dad does help a lot.) I like my sleep and the ability to pack a bag and travel at a whim. I remember two situations with other coworkers that still make my bloodpreasure rise. One male one female. First one, I was in my twentys, she too and what she realy wanted was to be a stayathome mom with a guy who paid for everything. She asked me how many babys I wanted and I told her zero. The shock in her face. The arguments we all know. I bluntly told her I'd never have the patience thats needed with a child. I'd probably shake it or I'd hit it and it would not have a good live with a mom that hated it gutts. “But you'll love it once it's there.“ If I had a penny for every time I heard that one... I looked her and just told her no. End of discussion. “You are so childish.“ I was like wtf? An other female coworker stepped in. “No, Mercy is the mature one. She decided what is best for a child, in her case not having it. You decided she has to have one regadless the concequences it might have for the child. That's so irresponsible. “ Shut her up just fine. Years later a male coworker remaked that women seemed to be more and more unwilling to have children. I looked at him a d told him. “I wonder why? A woman has to risk her health and her body for a child. Yet she is in most cases the one who has to quit work or work less, which has concequences for her wealth and retirement. Children are expensive and need much care, provided in most cases mostly, guess by whom, the mom. And yes there is a dad, but if the dad decides to leave her, she is in a even worse situation as a single mom. She can't just leave like a guy if it's to much for her after the fact, and then the child suffers. I'm glad more women start to really think about the concequences for them and not giving in to the social norm.“ He made bugeyes. “I didn't mean you. I ment in general.“ So did I. If kids are for you, more power to you. If they aren't, you are a great woman, too.

her husband should have got a vasectomy if he didn't want any children.

I've been a caregiver for 16years.....you can have kids and still be completely alone. I've seen it alot.

My mom tells me all the time she didn’t want children and if she could go back she wouldn’t have any. I’m not hurt. I’m understanding. It was a different time. You did what was expected of you

The wom¤n whose husband left her after she had his child should've gave their son to him and walked away. Ain't no way I'd have kept that child and sacrificed my life to be a single mother. He'd be raising that boy alone if it was me!

People have kids cause they are scared of being alone. That's the only argument I ever hear. "Who's going to surround you?" "Who's going to love you?" "Who's going to be there for you when you die" BRUH, it's okay to find happiness in a partner and some friends. The issue is they come and go for some parts of our lives, but you know what? You know what CAN'T leave your side, or atleast until they are 18 is a child. People consider having kids their ticket to always having someone around who would love them. It's wild how people will do anything to not feel alone.

My grandma told me that I was 5 when I first told her I did not want children. I am now 42 and I have never changed my mind. It is so bad to be child free in my culture, than now when I get asked, I make them believe I was not physically able. That way they can pitty me and leave me alone. I have been happily married for almost 10 years and I LOVE my life. I travel, I love my careeer and my pets. And I love my freedom. That does not make me selfish. I am part of my village and help raise all 4 nieces and nephews. I love being the cool auntie and that is all I ever wanted to be ❤

No one wants to talk how kids make the men switch up !! Married or not‼️‼️‼️

Childfree people can technically change their mind at any time… if they want 😂 BUT once you make a human, you can never undo it. This seems so intuitive.

I am a mother, i was a teen mother, I have also had to bury a child, and as much as I love my children I really wish that I was more aware of the real reality of raising children! I make it my business now to inform young and young women to go out and learn and love yourself 1st! Being a mother is HARD, especially when you have no real tribe or community to help you.

I have many friends who had kids when they were on the fence about it and are miserable. If there is any doubt in your mind about having kids, do not do it! I thought I wanted them for years. I never had any, thankfully. No regrets about it!

I went to school and practically most of the girls were pregnant at 15 and 16. Seeing them in pain and how their baby father's treated them. I knew it wasn't for me. The kids were bad as heck and they didn't care. Now that I'm older a lot of the guys I went to school with no longer have custody of these kids and washed their hands of them. It's a hard cycle and my crush even told me most of them became their own father and the cycle continued

I just had some fool attempt to convince me not three days ago that, supposedly, older child free Women are out here unaliving themselves like BirdBox.😒🙄 I’m like, where’d you get that? A christian publication?

Excuse me while I sip my coffee in a peaceful home with the love of my life who got a vasectomy ☕️ 😌 Of course people who purposely avoided having children regret it less. People tend to not regret intentional living

There's something this conversation doesn't and has never addressed: The reason why women regret having children now is because they have the freedom to choose to regret it! In past generations it wasn't an option. It wasn't a thought. It simply wasn't taught. Now women are being TAUGHT they have options and are taking full advantage of them and are SHOUTING the benefits from the rooftops while making other women, especially older women look at what they never even had the opportunity to consider. An for many... Its VERY VERY painful. I hope this conversation gets to change around where women who weren't TAUGHT get to talk about what was taken away from them. What they lost by never having the thought or the option to think about it...

If you don’t have children you are more likely to put time energy and effort into the other relationships in your life. You will not die alone, but instead of children around you , you will have friends and community if you put energy into that.

While everyone is focusing on unproblematic women who choose not to have children, they need to be focused on all the deadbeat fathers who are rotting away in assisted living homes by themselves. See, these men are fathers to AKA parents, and they also decided to abandon their children. They are now in their final years in life, and are lonely, and dying alone. Just a little proof to show that having children does not guarantee you will not die alone.

In almost every case I've ever heard of someone stating that they regret having kids, it's rarely the kids themselves they regret, it's the lack of help they receive in raising said kids, particularly from their partners - usually ex-partners. And if it is the kids themselves, it's because they didn't have help raising a problem child and the problems then manifested into something more serious, so it still goes back to the lack of help, specifically parental help. In conclusion, even if you're a hundred percent sure your partner would be a great co-parent, that can change at any point

In two months, I will be a 32 year old woman with no children. I have not one regret thus far. Living the child free life is amazing to me because I have the luxury of living how I want to live on my own terms. I don’t have to plan my job around the child, I don’t have to plan anything around a child actually. or anyone else. That’s the type of freedom that I want, for as long as possible. Seeing as how expensive things are these days, and how a lot of children are raised by people who have so much unhealed trauma from their childhood, choosing this life was very easy. I have a wonderful job that I love and that job has afforded me the life to be able to do what I please. Go where I please. Any activity that I want to engage in, I can, because I have more time due to not having children and money due to my career. I love it here.

2:21 in addition, men can still “op-out” of parenting and performing care, maintenance, upkeep of kids while STILL married to the mother. Men caring for and parenting their own children is ALWAYS optional! The courts can mandate that Father’s pay CS (which they can avoid paying, but I digress), but the courts can’t force them to co-parent, to shop for visitation. Yep. Men who are father’s STILL prefer cf women. I heard a male KZfaqr, who is an active, involved co-parent to his son say he prefers women who do not have any children!

If I decide that I regret being child free, all adopt or foster. It's really the best and easiest decision to work with.

I decided at 5 years old that I never wanted kids. I'm 47 now and have never regretted it. Here's why: I wasn't happy as a child, so I didn't want to bring a child into this life just so they could be unhappy. I knew I could never be the kind of mother my mom was, who cooked every night, had us in church every Sunday, and every day very structured. I didn't want to be the fast-food mom who smoked and drank. I never found the right man to marry and have kids with - I knew I never wanted to take parenthood on by myself. I've always found kids and their activities to be excruciatingly boring. Teenagers typically suck really bad. I've always felt repulsed by the thought of pregnancy and motherhood. We're not all cut out for it. Those are some of my reasons why.

I have too many people around me having kids on a whim, while living in a studio, or someone’s living room. It’s wack. I plan to very carefully and preparedly adopt. Purposefully.

If I were a man, I would want kids. As a woman...nah.

I don’t have child and I’m post menopausal. I do not regret being cf.

Honestly, between me and my 2 older siblings, none of us should have had kids. My sister is the only one who didn't. I had one and my bro 2. I've done extensive work to be the mother that I needed for my daughter. My daughter and I grew up together. We're very close and I do not regret her but I do regret how hard my life became after having her. I decided to divorce her father because I absolutely was not, and could not, take care of an actual baby, myself with my disability, and a grown man baby. His anger at me leaving him he decided to abandon my daughter. I'm lucky to have a village that includes my ex in-laws though so I'm much more free than most single parents and can come and go as I please. Which comes in clutch when I am sometimes hospitalized. Giving birth made my disability worse and since there arent any decent studies about birth and my disability it is something that we have had to find out the hard way. Too often these entitled parents are neglectful and only speak up about children being blessings because they are trying to convince themselves. I am glad that I will still be relatively young once my daughter is an adult.

My friend (who had 1 kiddo after a lot of thought and is a wonderful mother) told me once that she WISHED child free women would have kids because we’ve thought more about the well-being of our hypothetical kids than some parents do about their actual kids. She’s mostly joking, but I think she’s right that the mentality around having children should change to reflect the severity of the decision. I think it’d mean a lot less hate towards people who don’t want kids and a LOT more support systems for those who do. It truly takes a village and it’s tragic that a lot of women-including myself-choose to never be mothers because we fear the worst case scenario (being abandoned, no support, loss of identity, career shame etc). I’m not a gambling woman so I’ll settle for being the best auntie I can.

Now, now let's be real... some women actually regret having their kids, the situation they had their kids in and who they had their kids by.

As a man in my thirties who made the decision, I see people with kids when I'm walking, and I feel so blessed to be childless.

I agree 100% as a 36 yr old woman whose child free I don’t like kids but scared to have them because once you become a parent you will become a parent for the rest of your life. Even if you don’t want to be apart of the child’s life and your ok with being a dead beat you can never go back to having 0 children

If the pro forced birth crowd want people to choose parenthood then it will need to be a rewarding experience. Currently it is a punishing experience. Especially forcing them through public school. I have a huge amount of regrets and trauma from the parenting experience. I have too many complaints to list here. I wish I had skipped it. Doing my best to get the job done, check as many boxes as I can and get the last ones to 18 which is in 1.5 years. I will never take my freedom or safety for granted again.

If it’s ok for people to celebrate their marriage and children. It should also be ok for people celebrate being single or in a relationship but still child free. Both can be celebrated

I think if it were more financially affordable to have children more people would enjoy the process. I have one and I couldn't imagine having anymore because the financial sacrifices I have had to make as a single mother. Between motherhood and the economy I have been set back about 10 years. I will be spending my late 30's into my 40's trying to catch up, and paying my childs college fees.

I’m in my early 20s and I work as a cashier at a supermarket, so I see a lot of families. It has happened a few times, maybe 4 or 5 (which is a lot tbh) but people, always the mothers, straight look at me after/while their child is having a tantrum and tell me “DON’T. HAVE. KIDS.”. One time a father chimed in and agreed.

Being that I'm aware of parents who regret having kids shows in their actions & facial expressions. Deep down it's a hard pill to swallow and I feel that it's a pride thing in not wanting to admit that they made a poor choice they can't undo. Being that I'm 33, I'm in no way jealous of women my age who have kids especially those who I know well such as colleagues & former high school classmates I graduated with 15 yrs ago. Having kids ages a woman among a myriad of disadvantages & sacrifices they have to give up to provide for another life. Being that I work in education at the high school level for 7 hours is more than enough for me to go home in peace, quiet, & a clean house. Side note: I've also seen the "I Regret Having Children" on Facebook & entries on Reddit where both regretful moms & dads are speaking out about how their kids shifted their life for the worse. This is saddening & my heart goes out to those who are undergoing hardship day by day working to survive & provide for their kids. It's just not worth it & I even told my class of 2023 high schoolers this past May to "don't have kids because you have a whole young life ahead of you. Don't waste your opportunity living for what other people say about how you should live your life."

I have lost track of all the things I got told by people/my family when it comes to not wanting kids. Maybe I'd like to be a foster mom for older kids when I'm in my forties, in the meantime I'd like to be a teacher. But I don't want to be pregnant ever. People who don't want kids, it doesn't mean we despise them. Yes, some among us just don't like kids at all and that's fine too. Point is, know yourself and what will make you happy. I know I want to help kids, be the kind of adult I needed as teenager stuck in a situation of abuse who had no one to turn to. That would make me happy. But procreating will not and I know it won't.

I am a 50-year-old woman with no children and no regrets. I love being child free. If I wanted children, they would be here 10 or 30 years ago. I have a community full of children That’s enough ❤ We should honor mothers every day How ever there are too many mothers are disrespected they are isolated, and they are poor and that’s not fair.

I personally dont like when people compare having kids to doing a face tattoo, even if they are childfree. You have a bunch of solutions for tattoos. Laser treatments and cover ups are very real and possible choices for tattoos but you cant laser off your kid or cover it up with a better one. I think that you should think a lot before having a tattoo ( specially face or hand tattoos) but at the end of the day, tattoos affect very little of your daily routine and responsibilities if it affects it at all. I think it minimizes what it actually is to regret being a parent. Its a choice you are daily confronted with and it gives your life daily struggles.

Even if you are financially secure, delayed it until your 30s have and amazing husband. You can still regret it.

Speak for yourself. I regret it all. The decision, the process, the outcome and the long term stress is has come with. #motherhoodsucks

I am one and done woman. I do not regret hving my daughter. My partner is very helpful, unfortunately he wanted me to be the same person that I was pre baby. I nearly died during childbirth. He wanted more..I said nope no more. Let's say he was pissed. In the end I am happy I am one and done. Bc if I ever need to leave. It will be easier. He could not understand that my life nearly ending to bring life in..is not what I want to revisit again. Can me selfish id rather live.

As a child-free woman in my mid 30s who's probably never going to have kids, I don't think feeling any sense of superiority about not having them is good. It's a decision among many others and doesn't make us better or worse. I think things like regret can be very circumstantial and nobody can fully predict how they will feel down the line. People that say they regret having them might feel differently later, and vice versa. We don't know and pretending you can predict your feelings years from now is pretty naive. I do think, given the state of the population pyramids in developed countries, that we should be very grateful to our friends that do decide it's the right thing for them, as the world and our quality of life would quickly decline without children and future generations, so thank God that many people are still having children and carrying the burden of it, good and bad. In return, we should do everything in our power to make sure the world is a better place for those children. I am grateful for parents and their children and very happy that they're happy. I hope all the struggling parents out there get into better situations that allow them to enjoy parenthood and for children to have happy childhoods. I think we should offer help to the people that are overwhelmed by parenthood and nonjudgmental support rather than seeing it as any kind of evidence that we "made the right choice". Why would our choice depend on their perceptions of their own experiences? Why would we need that validation if we are certain of our decision? It's also really weird to think that we would know whether we would regret it or not. We never went through the experience. It's just pure speculation by us because we don't really know. We are comparing something against nothing. They, on the other hand, do know. They know what it was like before and after, and the fact of the matter is many of them do not regret this. The only thing we do know is that we will never know and the real choice we are actually making is being ok with living with that uncertainty.

47 years young and soooooooo grateful to my younger self for using condoms n pills! I have so much freedom, extra money, lots of friends, my own business, etc etc etc. I date because I actually like the man not because I have an agenda I’m trying to lock him into. I’ll live longer and be able to provide for my older self because I protected my lady parts. And yea, I had some cats. Cats are better companions than toxic men any day! And lower maintenance than kids. So are plants!

Most people dont regret their kids, they regret being parents.

Nah cause i hear so many women say things like "I don't regret having my baby" or "none of my kids are mistakes" completely unprompted and unprovoked. If ya'll didn't regret the kid then why ya'll always gotta tell other people thay ya'll dont regret it? It's almost like ya'll don't wanna hear the bitter truth.

I personally think that because of this day and age, how hard it is to live, and how bad people are, having kids today is a death sentence, especially if you're a single parent. In this society, you can only be successful and have kids, is if you have a partner or a roommate. Rising inflations and a rapidly declining planet is enough of a reason to hold back on having a child, and focus on creating a better future with the idea that the next generation cannot struggle like we are now

Having kids is a choice and not an obligation , don’t let other women gaslight you into thinking that it’s something you need to do . I’m 41 not married no kids and I am so absolutely happy and content with my life , best thing I ever did was not have kids !!

I think the m&n are less regretful about having children because they do so much less for the children than the mother's do. Although, some do regret the children for financial reasons. Just listen to all of the millions of m¤les who complain about paying child support. Meanwhile, they're the ones that push wom&n into having a "family" but these m&n cannot seem to be able to sustain said "family" even if their very life depended on it! Some of these m&n are so entitled, manipulative, and spiteful, it is literally ASTOUNDING!

I’m 33 childfree by choice and I am extremely happy and I don’t need children to have a fulfill life ❤️

My mom had kids because an across the street neighbor called my mother selfish for being married for 4 years without any children to show for it. My mom is a Vulnerable Narcissist and due to her chronic toxic survival made and fear of how people perceive her (not the only symptoms of her pathology, but the two that are relevant to how she processed her neighbor’s accusation), she had children because she was genuinely terrified that if word got around that my parents had no children, my dad would lose his job and the grocery stores would ban them from entering so they couldn’t buy food.

☺️☕️ childfreebie here I love the tea #theirreality

I can’t get over the fact that people do t see what this really about. It’s not even about the kids. It’s about the ugly scripted part of the human social construct that makes people feel the need to always have a way to contradict others especially in terms of any serious life decision (since it’s easier to pretend it’s justified) who they feel superior to regardless of their choice. I have met so many people who exemplify this perfectly that I can’t wrap my head around why it’s taking so long to come to this conclusion.

Its appalling how women will ALWAYS find a reason to fight and compete with eachother:"im better bc im childless, im betting because im a parent" Yuuuuukkk!!!

I am baffled by the statement that once you become a parent, it's forever? Having a child by choice can end as well. Is anyone not aware that parents bury their children everyday? Nothing is permanent or forever or always goes the way it is planned. Just because you have children does not mean you will be happy forever. You may give birth to a bad seed (a problem child, a criminal etc.). Evil beings arrive here through the same birth canal as good beings. You can't predict the family you're choosing to create. Even if the child outlives the parent, it does not mean that child will take care of the parent later in life, or that they will visit their parents. It is NOT a guarantee that you will be taken care of the way you think you will. The children may move off to a different country, they may decide to not have children of their own and make you a grandparent. People live your own lives and quit placing your convictions, fears, dreams, choices, desires etc. on the lives of others.

As a mother of 3 now grown children, any “regret” has to do with the different phases. I have ZERO regrets for becoming a mother. Now that they’re grown, I find no better company than my children. I have a strong bond and beautiful relationship with all 3. No mother in my circle of fam and friends regrets having children. However, I do have 3 friends who decided they don’t want children (I respect that), only to find themselves in their 40’s and 50’s regretting that decision NOW that they get to witness the joy our now grown kids being to our lives. No one wants trials and tribulations and raising kids can feel nightmarish, BUT the storm shall pass. Zero regrets here. My children are my biggest accomplishment

Definitely! Parenthood isn't for everyone. So many ppl that should have remained childless have caused irreparable harm to their childrens mental health. I love children and desperately wanted them. I got to have two. But, I've never had a problem understanding that children isn't something everyone wants. Both of my children are high functioning on the autism spectrum. I certainly don't regret having them, but I became extra worried that I could never be good enough for THEM. They both love me like crazy, but no matter how much I do for them, it doesn't feel like enough. They're both very young adults now and doing well but I regret that I couldn't be perfect for them. Yes, nobody is perfect and feeling that way, I've set myself up for never feeling worthy; that's a mental paradox I struggle with all the time.

The first lady need to throw the baby to her ex! She’s better than me! I would’ve granted full custody to the father. What I look like being a single mom and raising a boy into a man?

I think the problem is that woman dont have as much support anymore with raising kids. In the past a whole " village" helped raise the child ( grandperents, aunties, friends, siblings) and now there is no village in this hyper individualistic world.

Too bad we are never gonna hear from the parents who love raising a family, there too busy raising one

I'm childfree by choice BUT I always wanted children. i love kids. I just never met the right guy who I felt comfortable sharing a child with. one came close. I can barely let others look after/have any say about my pets, let alone let them impact my baby. It's interesting how people judge me...i was trying to be smart, have a steady income, a home, some wisdom, a good man to me and father to my babies...sometimes life doesn't work out how you expect it to. i even thought to adopt bcs it doesn't matter if i'm related by blood...it's just i never desperately wanted kids and now that i find myself with none...i really really love my life. also the way the world is nowadays makes me feel blessed to not have to worry about the sanity of my children. it's ok for us all to want different things in life, just wish people didn't feel the need to shame or judge others when their choices hurt no one.

The last video I watched 10 minutes ago was The Economist about "the biological clock". All comments came from men that women should have children at young age... Yikes.

I think this is an indicator of the failure of society (particularly American, not saying there are others that aren’t like us or worse). We have a lack of community, education, or support for parents like many other countries do. We don’t have maternal leave, we have very little education regarding caretaking, the fact our country is built for cars and not people. No wonder parents are so stressed and I feel that as well with 2 kids, I don’t blame my kids or regret them. I don’t deny it’s hard though, there’s such a lack of community and it’s difficult to absorb and apply information without a village. Parenting is one of the hardest jobs, mothers have extremely high levels of cortisol and isolation/loneliness which is what we now know is more deadly than smoking 15 packs of cigarettes per day. I do agree there are a lot of people who’ve had kids and do regret it because they didn’t think it through, no one helped think about it thoroughly first or unfortunate cases of rape. People can be child-free, that’s totally up to them. It’s nice our country can support that and it’s horribly sad seeing us collectively letting parents and children suffer along with people who suffer from mental illness, disabilities, homeless and more. We have so much resources to support all of us and it’s just sad, I see so many individuals and families becoming homeless in my city and it’s terrible.

Is there a 'study' about grown children who were raised by parents who regretted having them and didn't like them, how many chose to have or not have children themselves?

Im a single mom with 1 child. I honestly think most parents who regret it , they dont regret having a child but 'kids' as in multiples. Friends of mine and strangers have expressed to me how much harder it is with 2, 3 and more. They wish they only had 1 like me. I love my son , he literally saved my life. Hardest thing Ive done. But 1 and done! 💜

I’ve never purposely put myself in ANY situation I KNEW I would regret later. I’m far too self-aware and demanding for that. So deciding at 13 I wasn’t for parenthood was very easy. It’s the people around me that make staying Childfree hard without feeling “guilty” because I’m literally not fit for motherhood 😂