yes.....you're back....my only bpd companion........thank you thank you thank you!!!!!!!! Love your New haircut and smile!!

My mom had BPD. I find your videos very pleasant to watch. You come across with gentleness, soothing and comforting.

that is truth, I m disturbing people by asking them all the time "are you still ok with me?" thinking "will she push me out?" or " what should I be like to make shure she will not push me out?". But my bigest problem is I m constantly creating a situation in wich I m disapointing my familly, girl friends, Boss and any one hwo is standing close to me. I'ts like i f*cked something, and i swear i will not do it again, and i m dooing my best for a time and when every thing is working properly i'm getting stresed and feel tension and start beeing rude, nervoused and finaly blowing up whith my anger, distroing each relationship. + quit drinking last year (rehab). I'v been trying in psycho terapy, religin( buddizm, christian, u know meditation, mantras praying, all doesnt help. Still confuse, standing at cross roads. I dont if i m understadable but you are the BPD as well so you i hope you get the point+poor english

I love your videos! You are so comforting to listen to when having a bad day - thank you

Good to have you back! Ever since my mom committed suicide back in 2015, I've been constantly wondering what I'm actually good at. From thinking I was a good listener/friend, I found myself question everything since I partly blame myself for not being there more for my mom. Some things got uncertain and others didn't. My creativity still exists and sometimes haunt me in the middle of the night! And I feel as if without music for too long I would go insane. ^^ Anyway, glad you're back and I hope 2017 will be a good year!

I have been struggling with this question since I saw this video. The only quality I came up with is that I am a mother- but lately that has been lacking as my mental health has had a bit of a decline. Wish you were back more regularly! You have been there through my whole journey from diagnosis two years ago- to now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

It is really great to see you make a video again.. I always find them helpful and it really does help to make me feel less alone :) so thank you! Also, you do always give me a smile just for being you, it makes me think maybe I can be me too without worrying so much about what others think.

Admiration of your courage! In my humble opinion, people like you make the world better.

So happy and excited to see a new video from your channel!

Your videos are very constructive and calming, thank you very much for your posts - you're doing excellent work and I certainly have found much direction through the advice and guidance. Peace, brother. -

I just found you and have been going back over your old videos then found this recent one. Great stuff!

oh my, this video made me feel so much better. Thank you.

If you haven't already I would love a video on bpd and relationships bc dating with bpd is a struggle. 😿

This is a great video! It perfectly explains my seemingly insatiable need for validation and affection from my husband. I'm going to take your advice and try to focus on my qualities and validate myself a bit more in future. Thank you Bas, and wish me luck!

It's great that you're back! I missed your videos, they have been very helpfull :)

This is fantastic! I am really thinking from a new perspective.

You're back :)! Thank you for a great video.

So lovely to see you again 🌹

loving your insight and your English pronounciation, Bas!

Please make more videos. You're informative and I appreciate your candidness. Thank you.

Thanks a lot for this video! I did enjoy it very much. It's very much needed. Greetings from Norway.

❤ You're saving me from today's rollercoaster

great insight .Thahk you good to see you again.

Recently subscribed to your channel! Thank you for your videos! As a BPD they do help me, and you make it easy to listen to and understand! Come back soon! xx

Welcome back Baz!!!! I missed you!!! I stopped going to therapy in Jan 2014, because I resented my group therapist for something I shouldn't have. I want to return but I procrastinate! Anyway, my qualities are, I am a fairly decent writer, I am creative, I am very loving and care about others.

Great points!

Thank you very much for all your videos. You inspired me to start working on myself. A big hug for you 💙 Pd: loved the shoes 😊

I've missed you!!! Great video as always

Amazing video 👍🏻 glad you are back 😊

thank you so much i need it this vídeo so badly, i love it so much

could you maybe do a video for loved ones of borderlines to show them exactly how the punitive parent mode feels, in detail. how it can be one mistake that makes me feel so bad. thanks for all the videos you do!!

Omg you Are back! Please do more videos!

Just found this channel, and I love it!! You are really endearing with great advice! I wish you were my friend irl 😂

I've missed you and your videos!

Oh God, the first part of the video was so helpful.. we borderline people has such in common.

Welcome back!

Some qualities like cooking or even drawing aren’t really a talent you do or do not have. You have them, I have them, everyone who is reading This had the ability to cook or draw or change a tire or redecorate a room. You just need to be interested in it. And now, we are living in an amazing era of the internet- start watching videos on it. And practice. Practice. Practice. I don’t have BPD but I am close to someone who does. Doing things to “get out of her head” for awhile helps even tho a lot of those times are the times she isn’t motivated and does feel worthless. So she cut or bites her nails til they bleed. Lately she has been drawing. She can see the improvement as she practices. It’s like she can’t deny that she is good at it. She wasn’t at first. She was terrible. But she watches KZfaq videos to learn techniques and keep practicing. It can be anything. A video game you suck at. Practice. Get out of your head when emotions go crazy. Set a timer if you have to. “He was going to be back from the grocers in five min, I will set my timer for 15 and watch KZfaq videos on pencil drawing and get some practice, then I will worry “. I know it’s a simple solution for a serious complicated problem - and I don’t mean to undermine the suffering of those who have BPD - it’s just one small tool that might help a little.

Hello! I'm so happy to see you, have been wondering how you are :) I hope you are well! Thank you for the video. I have to think a bit about what my qualities are :/

I had a dreadful 2016 with loss and betrayal. I'm realizing my personality is hard to take. I'm now homeless. Nobody wants to rent to me. I'm so alone.

Dear Bas, about my qualities I have discovered that maybe I have a strong willpower. I thought a lot about all the things in my life that I dont like and what can I do to improve, so, I made a few changes and this year started really nice. In the new things that I am doing, I am learning Muaythai, I hope to stay persistent about it. I want to be a stronger person, so I am very motivated.

Bas, you seem like a really nice guy!

YOU're BACKKKK

hey! I like your videos. I have BPD and i have no hope or very little hope in getting better. I isolate and are afraid to leave the house. I know i need to stop isolate but i have no friends and meeting new people only make me hate myself even more.

Where did he go?

where have you been please come back miss u

Please keep making bpd videos, I found out I have bpd 2 weeks ago

please post soon, you help me you seem so sweet and you get what is like. I hope you don't stop making videos I need all the help I can get

Like the new hairstyle!

I need those slippers/shoes. They _do_ look really comfortable.

Super

Great slippers!!! People often feel there self worth starts to worsen after break ups ECT. "Yadadada" Why? A question I ask everything. I just started using the word WHY to everything in my house! That changed to Damn, Bugger, piss and then boob. Now I just make a NRRREEEEAAAARRRR noise to every single thing in my life. I myself am struggling with extreme guilt.. x

hey handsome, really nice to see you

Hey, I have recently been diagnosed with BPD and feel very similar to the girl asking the question. I have tried to think about my qualities and do something productive when I'm alone. But my problem is also than I'm very clingy to my partner when he's home. We've been together 4 years and he says he wants more space and needs alone time after work etc. How can I give him space even though I want to be close? Is there anyway to "uncling" myself from a person and feel good about it?

I myself would rather be alone and then I have to keep busy with a project. If I don't I watch tv too much to escape

We miss you!!

I love structure...what happens when it constantly gets ruined?

a take Zoloft and lamotrigina but a I just want to take anymore. should stop take the pills or??? I wanna be relax without the medication. plis help

Please make more videos!

could i please ask for any tips for those of us with bpd struggling to cope in the workplace because of anxiety, depression, and dissociation? thanks

why are you so beautiful! Thank you for sharing! also, what's your ethnic background?

Please do more videos. I have been in a relationship with bpd male for 8 glorious months. Well 90/10 glorious anyway. He did push me away and/or withdraw from me a day here or there which I didn't understand at the time. But the day after our 8 month Anniversary, out of the blue, after a great day of emotional exchange of I love you's, he withdraws from me. I had just had surgery that day and instead of him checking on me when He got home from work, he started posting on Facebook. Well that hurt my feelings so I called him on it, saying .. I would think that you would want to on your own check on me to see how I was and you would think that just a little more important than posting on fb. Well he blew up saying ... I'm tired and I don't like drama talk later I'm going to eat. I told him ... baby that's not drama. We should both be able to communicate our feelings to eachother and work together to help each other work thru times of insecurity or hurt feelings. I don't think he even read that. Two hours later he texts me back and says for the rest of the summer he just wants to be by himself. He says he's just not ready for a relationship this big. Of course that is totally opposite of everything he had been saying for 8 months. He had asked me to marry him and talked about it all the time and us having children together. And he was going to move to where I lived and we would get apartment together. He brought all these up not me but of course I believed in him and trusted his feelings were for real. So then he just dumps me out of the blue. But he leaves an opening at the end that he may change his mind. I was blindsided. My heart broken. I didn't respond in anger or hurt mostly because I was in shock, so I just said I loved him and I only wanted his happiness so what ever he needed to do at this time is what I wanted him to do but to remember I was here for him If he needed me. After researching I happened upon BPD and I can follow our whole relationship and stuff he has said about his childhood and his previous marriage and see almost every trait of bpd in him. A few days later he did start to text me a little here and there. Acting like we were just friends and had never been lovers, so detached. It was like salt on my wounded heart. I asked him how he could just flip like that so quickly. He said he still loved me and that he never stopped. I said ok. I didn't want to push him at that moment. A few days later started texting me a little more and even started calling me baby again and saying I love you a few times on his own but then follows a day where he didn't and back and forth. Now I'm having separation anxiety I guess. I've never been like that before. But we went from talking in the phone from the moment we woke up for work and texting several short texts in the am getting ready and checking in thru the day and then when we got home from work and some at night and usually talked a Few minutes before bed each night. To all of the sudden no contact. And now very little contact. I am just letting him take the lead. I am not texting or calling him and I only respond to his texts in mirrored fashion. If he is expressing loving emotion then I will reciprocate in like, but If he is expressing just friendly feelings then I mirror those. I'm just so confused and trying to understand. I do love him and have so much compassion for him now that I know what is wrong I know that I have to handle what I say and how I say it to him better as well as I need to listen to what he is saying to me better and ask him more questions and validate his feelings to let him know I am listening. Thanks to your awesome videos I am learning so much! So can you do a video on ... Why do BPD people push away the people they love and how can they just immediately emotionally seem to detach? And how do we, as the one being pushed away know how to respond and should we even think that we would get back together? Do we ask or wait? I don't want to push him, yet I'm not going to keep my life on hold for 3 months if there is no future either. I do have to start healing my own heart at some point. Please do more videos!

having alot of anger and out of control issues can you give me some tips

Are you getting back anytime soon?

You look very good looking here ^^

keep posting please :)

Why do I feel worthless because I am worthless

So how's Amy? Long time no hear.

{{{{{{{{{hugs & loves}}}}}}}}} I like your slippers!

could you make a video on triggers? just when I thought I was getting better I was triggered I really lost it no didn't hurt anyone Even though wanted to lol I acted like I was crazy next day had depression ,guilt and shame. I saw u said you had a angry father and you didn't want to be that way. I had a a angry parent also and it's like I've turned into them. 😢😭help plz