Few things you can do to represent a challenge is to stay busy, don’t be always available, have a hobby, learn and grow.
@gabrielle61583 жыл бұрын
So true. There’s a guy I currently like and only went out with on one date and I’ve been traveling for 2 weeks after that. I haven’t thought much of him or even talk to him since I’ve been soo busy but I haven’t forgotten how I think he’s handsome and sweet and different. Can’t wait to see where it goes!
@dianneciresi63243 жыл бұрын
@@luckycharm1212 Yeah that's what he means. It suppose to be like a dumb challenge so they keep chasing u, like the cat & mouse game. Ugh..
@Lili-vn5cq3 жыл бұрын
@@dianneciresi6324 you suppose to be exclusive! Think of yourself as if you are a Ferrari. You can’t take that car for a test drive just like that. It’s by appointment only. And you have to pay for that appointment in advance even if you won’t buy a car. You can’t even buy that car no matter how much money you have. You have to be special to be invited to the Ferrari club.
@tanushreemajumder78722 жыл бұрын
Why do we women always have to play mind games with men in order to get loved? Don't we deserve it already?
@4cniqabi9832 жыл бұрын
Yes we deserve it. I think for the right person you don't have to play any mind game. My first conversation with my husband was about cheese 🤦🏾♀️😂
@tanushreemajumder78722 жыл бұрын
@@4cniqabi983 hahaha 😂😂😂 god bless you two 🥰
@oliviaa92192 жыл бұрын
Ofc we do. When it’s right it will be easy, the guy will show that you are wanted loved and cared for. He will show and put effort in not just empty words. That is how is should be. And men are capable of this, its not too much to ask even in today’s dating scene. There are still good guys out there even if it dont seem like it atm.
@tanushreemajumder78722 жыл бұрын
@@sarahrose7914 guess what ! You don't have to do these hustles with the right one. I hope the best for you 😇
@tanushreemajumder78722 жыл бұрын
@@oliviaa9219 yes don't fall into these cheap strategies to play mind games cause once you start this you'll be stuck into this forever. And the right person will always make it easier for you like butter.
@justacoginthefkery2 жыл бұрын
"Being a challenge" in the way he's describing is the exact same as having/ honoring your standards & boundaries. That's not the same as playing games unless you're intentionally using it to trap or manipulate. Higher standards make you a challenge automatically & the RIGHT guys will take notice, while most of the wrong ones will see themselves out.
@Patricia-uz2xx2 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! Tru
@malimom6011 Жыл бұрын
Yes!!
@lovemrj4ever Жыл бұрын
You said so beautifully and eloquently
@poonsrisrethaphakdi57763 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@RosaMarquesa3 жыл бұрын
If he loves you or wants you, he loves you and wants you, being a challenge or not. If he doesn't, let's stop breaking our heads and inventing games. There is no challenge at all if he is not into you or he stopped being into you.
@ankitamitra9783 жыл бұрын
💯
@GospelExplorations3 жыл бұрын
Thank you.🙌 Stress all because of what exactly 🙄
@Khushi-pm3pr2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, a man should love irrespective of you giving him the time or not. I don’t like these games of acting too unavailable. All this is just overthinking. If he really loves you he will love you the way you are and not expect you to be a certain way
@z-greatwhatever15862 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@lousdinovembre2 жыл бұрын
@@Khushi-pm3pr Agreed! Living life itself is already a challenge with all the daily tasks and activities we face that keep us occupied, therefore there is no reason to add more challenges to know if a man is still in love with us.
@str52953 жыл бұрын
He stopped chasing? Move on and forget him. Nothing works.
@shibear193 жыл бұрын
I’m going to do this. I’ve always been so accommodating and this time, I want someone to earn that side of me. No wonder the guys I reject tend to be the ones who chase me! And the ones I really like take me for granted.
@anshaguila83932 жыл бұрын
I so relate
@genericname70202 жыл бұрын
The guys you reject chase after you because they don't have many options and struggle to get even a date. While the guy you do like probably has many options which is why he is taking you for granted. What if a guy works hard to earn you and does it successfully, then he says to himself "I worked this hard for this?" He feels a dissatisfied. It's like a person who went to 12 years of school just to earn $30,000. The reward isn't worth the hard work. If there are other women who are going to be easy, why should he choose you? These are the questions you have to ask yourself. Are you worth the risks of relationships?
@shibear192 жыл бұрын
@@genericname7020 You raised very important questions there... However, you need to realise that putting a lot of effort does not mean a girl is obligated to love you or be with you. Accepting someone as your partner is a voluntary thing. It’s not because of anything the person has done, but it’s because of who they are as a person. Some women are easy, yes. But not because they just settle for your efforts… it’s because the relationship is easy when you are right for each other. My point for saying “I want someone to earn that side of me” is a way for me to not so easily give in to people who don’t have the right intentions. Someone who truly wants to get to know me will be patient and take their time to create trust first. Sometimes when we easily have something, we take it for granted. This is human nature! So a little time and effort reminds us that the person we have is special :)
@shibear192 жыл бұрын
@@genericname7020 the guys I reject chase after me because they feel challenged by the rejection! It wasn’t because they wanted me. They just wanted to ‘have’ me. Once they had me again, they treated me poorly again. The ones I like, well maybe they could sense I am desperate or they didn’t find me attractive… I don’t know their reasons but it’s okay.
@hannahmarie68482 жыл бұрын
Too bad men are idiots like this.
@Goutenberg2 жыл бұрын
I don’t do anything to attract a man. Let’s start from there! I’m myself and I’m not patient enough to check if a man is going to feel attracted by it or play games. I have this kind of personality and I’m single and always been single. I think we need start teaching the new generations of men to respect real women and make them understand women are not supposed to please them.
@samxsara2 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏👏
@zombioric58902 жыл бұрын
THISSSS
@kiralawliet13822 жыл бұрын
I hate when ppl say thing like :real woman /fake woman/man. Who are you for say which types of personalities and people are true or fake? Only women like you, or what you approve is real ?
@MissMcFluffyStuff2 жыл бұрын
Okay, being yourself is the challenge, because it will show if you respect yourself to have boundaries and goals or not. And I don't know what all this "realness" has to do with being a woman who should be themselves. You don't have to try to downgrade other women to uplift yourself and claim to be real. You already are.
@myotherusername92242 жыл бұрын
" women are not supposed to please [men]... I’m single and always been single" Every woman I've been with pleased me and liked me to please them. That's ... how ... relationships... work... everywhere, in all situations: business, parenting, studying, everywhere. Mutual benefit. Anything else is exploitation.
@taz121843 жыл бұрын
"More chemistry than a meth lab" 😂😂
@klickingkayasmr75853 жыл бұрын
I know right 😂💀 And the way he said it!!
@PAMECA3 жыл бұрын
😄
@maryhelen28973 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
@candacehearn17713 жыл бұрын
That killed me😄
@Liz-dragon-street.3 жыл бұрын
That line cracked me 😋😉
@faezasuhaimi30753 жыл бұрын
im glad he left me. i know he wasn't treating me right but i didn't know how to react on that. i keep giving and giving, not realising, i lose myself. not ever doing that for a man who is not worthy, anymore.
@loveandmathematics993 жыл бұрын
God why does it all have to be so complicated 🙄🙄….why can’t two people show up as themselves with honest intentions and take it from there. It’s like you can’t be cold and distant but also have to be vulnerable but can’t show too much emotion and be too much!!! It seems impossible
@smaytaganya14463 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! I don't want to end up in a relationship with someone who's only with me because he loves the feeling of chase more than he actually loves me for who I am, but I also don't want to end up with someone who is gonna get "bored" of me one day because I don't make him chase me enough...it all sounds really exhausting and stressful 🤦🏾♀️
@femsegotier9812 жыл бұрын
Yes it's sad to know that we're in the generation of to be in a relationship is to have a trial and error. We're divorce and annulment is legal and moving in w/o marriage is okay... It irritates me sometime when a man asks some couple are okay with that and why we can't. ..
@barr.thelmanwabundu37752 жыл бұрын
It would be boring
@flor24792 жыл бұрын
It is impossible...
@maceyr.65832 жыл бұрын
Trueeee
@hannahmarie68482 жыл бұрын
Boundaries are not challenges. They are boundaries. Men who see them as challenges are the problem.
@karmaisabitch94132 жыл бұрын
I think this is true for both parties. No one wants a clingy person by their side. We can be in love with someone but if that person is constantly gravitating around you, it's a lot of pressure and not healthy for any relationship, even only friendship So yes, don't ever lose yourself in any relationship
@ellie8602 Жыл бұрын
Some are asking why women have to “play these games”.. the truth is that when you learn to be independent and put yourself first, it becomes self acceptance and not a game. Women need to learn to be happy with who they are and then these things fall into place.
@str52953 жыл бұрын
You're supposed to try to make him like you by acting like you don't like him much. Stay too busy to see him so he'll want to see you till you allow him to see you then he doesn't want to see you because he got to see you. Look, women. A man really likes you or he doesn't.
@cristina14k3 жыл бұрын
@@luckycharm1212 this is beautiful ❤
@kathleenburns48503 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@tanyatanya94923 жыл бұрын
Excatly
@benedicteyapo56262 жыл бұрын
Thank you, all these mind games are bullshit
@kathleenburns48502 жыл бұрын
@@benedicteyapo5626 yup. I am getting tired of this. Life is too short.
@akilahjones94042 жыл бұрын
Ladies... ladies... I'm listening to this with new ears... Let's keep it real! If we are being our true selves 100% of the time, we are challenging one way or the other for men. That's just us. And if we're watering it down making it easy for them, it's usually because we want something. And if we want it too much?!?! We've taken away something we didn't realize they loved about us. Epiphany much.
@whatrtheodds3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Yes! Yes! Challenge accepted. We have been dating for two months. No sex, I put up my boundaries so we could connect on a emotional, personal level first. So glad I did I'm getting to know this amazing person I really feel close to. I think soon I will take it to the next level. But definitely don't had yourself on a silver platter straight away because you don't even know them yet at all!
@roser89113 жыл бұрын
I’m happy for you. It’s too late for me. I just saw this video today. I gave him sex on a 2nd date and he dumped me
@whatrtheodds3 жыл бұрын
@@roser8911 I wish you the best. There will be another chance. We are all learning. Getting to know someone is half the fun it also gives you both a chance to show off your personalities, values ect✨⭐
@roser89113 жыл бұрын
@@whatrtheodds 😔 I’m heart broken. I love him so much. He was my crush. He blocked my number and it’s been 4 months no contact. He’s 61 years old and I’m 30 years old
@whatrtheodds3 жыл бұрын
@@roser8911 Man heart break sucks. 💔 Feel better soon. It does get better over time. It comes in waves. Hugs hugs hugs.🕊️💜
@roser89113 жыл бұрын
@@whatrtheodds thank you. can you give me suggestion how to act around him? Because we both go to the same gym. Or should I find new gym?
@yvethemetriccrafter6883 жыл бұрын
I have been with my husband (my best friend) for 29 years and I still find your tips helpful, I think e ery relationship benefits from a bit of attention to keep things fresh. Thank you for your videos.
@yvethemetriccrafter6883 жыл бұрын
@@fallen177 36! That's fantastic.
@GemRizing2 жыл бұрын
The best thing to do is let the situation be whatever it’s going to be, don’t have expectations, don’t ask serious questions, and don’t get emotionally attached! Works 100% of the time. He will chase you down cuz he doesn’t know where he stands with you and he’s going to be dying to know!
@travelfoodielove3 жыл бұрын
I love how real you are. Been together for 15 years and he still chases me
@monalisisodia3 жыл бұрын
Wow, happy or you! Some go to tips that work like magic for you ?
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
Wooww, how do you do that?
@africanprincessmaya3 жыл бұрын
@@jeccym8715 simple..by always being out of reach
@Brightestlightt3 жыл бұрын
@@africanprincessmaya and how you do that ? 😬
@smaytaganya14463 жыл бұрын
@@africanprincessmaya what do you mean out of reach?
@daniellehaythorne7949 Жыл бұрын
Honestly, the older I get, the more I realize that I only become what is labeled as “needy” or “whiny” when he’s not doing his part. If he’s treating me with respect, initiating conversations, helping out around the house, etc., I have no need to give him negative feedback. If a man doesn’t want a woman who only has eyes for him, who gives herself to him, it means he’s not mature enough, or hasn’t been with enough women, to appreciate and deserve it. That’s why going for older men can be a really good idea. The young ones are often too selfish and inexperienced to really appreciate a great woman. The one thing that really bothers me is being the only one who has to set boundaries. Women don’t feel comfortable doing it. We don’t like doing it. I wish men would stop drinking when on dates so they can think more with their heads and not other parts of their bodies, and be more helpful with not pushing boundaries when certain lines have already been discussed. If both people don’t rush the physical part, and they learn to care for each other’s hearts and minds, then women won’t feel so attached and start centering her world on him. Men need to help keep the boundaries that have been discussed. Both people are adults and should be able to respect one another.
@dragaworman4716 Жыл бұрын
Well said!
@godswordevangelism6 ай бұрын
Dating older isn't necessarily a guarantee you'll get what you want either! I married a man who's 8 years older than me and he is a total child. I feel more like his mother than his wife. And after 21 years, we're getting divorced.
@jacqueline22572 жыл бұрын
I'm enjoying my single life, but I still watch your videos, I love them!!!! Great mature relationship/dating advices on every video!!! ❤ thank you Brian!!
@helynoftroy24883 жыл бұрын
I really wouldn't go through all this just to hang onto a man. Sounds exhausting. Rather would be single than play these games with guys...
@thehealingfairee3 жыл бұрын
It doesn't seem like games to me, he essentially said have boundaries and don't be too clingy (aka work on having a secure attachment style) Just sounds healthy to me! Like the opposite of codependency
@helynoftroy24883 жыл бұрын
@@thehealingfairee I can def. see where you're coming from. Maybe I'm just not a fan of the cat and mouse chase. I feel like if someone wants me...they will give me the time and energy and commitment I deserve and sadly, the guys that have been in my life feel that is too much to ask. So I don't push further and remain single lol
@mugen36033 жыл бұрын
The advice is literally for you to be strong and independent and go do things that you wanna do, not just try to please your partner all the time or be at their beck and call. This advice is the opposite of playing mind games. Playing mind games is when you overcompensate in a relationship and sacrifice your desires and integrity, hoping this would manipulate your partner into liking you more. It's inauthentic and more exhausting to live that way, imo.
@Liz-dragon-street.3 жыл бұрын
@@helynoftroy2488 one day you will understand it 😘 This is the best advice for woman 2 deal with man 👌🏼
@AmandaMG63 жыл бұрын
I feel this same way almost all the time but the right man will change my mind.
@Milycabrera922 жыл бұрын
When is the right one .. mean to be, believe me u don’t have to play games, healthy friendship and relationships flows naturally and little by little takes its place
@marvel45282 жыл бұрын
Hi Bryan, I have been in touch with a man I liked for 10 months and we had 4 great 8 hour dates, nothing physical but I felt happy with him. Unfortunately he moved to another city for work and we haven't seen each other for 7 months now. A week ago he told me he started dating someone from work. Although we haven't been in a real relationship I felt so much hurt because we were talking to see each other again. I felt so sad and betrayed in a way. I told him how this made me feel and also that I can't stay in touch anymore. I miss him and it hurts but it felt like the right thing to do...
@Maliilse753 жыл бұрын
Well done Brian for hearing out women's comments and explaining better what you mean by being a challenge without playing games. Some men of the avoidant type might only chase because they like the challenge and not the lady. I also love the bullet points at the end, clear and concise!
@katja80953 жыл бұрын
An 'avoidant type' is very likely due to parents' traumas or borderline personality disorder. So no thanks.
@kithe12 жыл бұрын
yes
@genericname70202 жыл бұрын
@@katja8095 False. It could be that he is dating multiple women and he just found one better than you.
@cristinaalem72143 жыл бұрын
Connect with our wise, with our heart and let it flow without neediness and understand we’re made of energy. With focus in pure feelings we’ll attract all prosperity we all deserve. Gratitude 💕 beautiful!
@belindamalgas19452 жыл бұрын
Beautiful said
@nickysmith58083 жыл бұрын
Pacing or matching is important as well as giving and receiving. Thank you!
@raularmas3172 жыл бұрын
Is that the same thing as mirroring?
@reevolutionist2 жыл бұрын
Brian is such a gentleman as a coach.
@lswain10733 жыл бұрын
It works the other way around too. I'm a woman and I need a challenge. But it's also an attachment style thing. People with an avoidant attachment style are attracted to connections where there is some kind of in built difficulty or 'challenge'. It's much more nuanced than "men" and "women" imo
@oursong42892 жыл бұрын
Yes. Leave everything and focus on being a challenge because you are not in a relationship for mental peace, you need to create chaos to be loved. Life challenges are not enough, you need to fantasise challenges. Gosh!
@Ricarica9812 жыл бұрын
Better be respected at all times,being loved or not.:)Self-respect is everything. 😇🙏❤️
@gitanjalinandan3 жыл бұрын
you have a very sweet vibe, like an enthusiastic professor of love with spectacles on the tip of his nose and happy hand gestures as he talks about his latest discoveries. Btw why shouldn't people learn to say Geert? its not that hard. English speaking people can stretch a bit just like the non-English ones have had to!
@vernicelizeify3 жыл бұрын
humans crave for things which they cannot get . it is a demand and supply thing, give too much time and attention to men, they will take you for granted. so it is necessary to know when and how much to give so that there is always slightly less supply then demand 😅
@genericname70202 жыл бұрын
I agree with you that it's a supply and demand issue. I think it's more of a supply and demand of options. A man who knows he can get multiple women whenever he wants is going to take you for granted. A man who knows he can't get multiple women whenever he wants isn't going to take you for granted. Rather, such a man, will be highly thankful and will give you all the attention back. Have you ever drank water when you were absolutely quenched vs. full with water. When you are quenched and not drinking water for an entire day, the water tastes better and feels more refreshing although it's the same water. Although the "thirsty" guy will be much more appreciative to you, you probably don't like him back. So what happens is that you are one of many women competing for one man. I wish more of these so-called relationship coaches would explain this dynamic.
@kristinpetersen57093 жыл бұрын
Well I can say since we don't get your amazing videos regularly I'm definitely chasing after them! So excited to have another pop up!😁😜
@BeGioBijoux2 жыл бұрын
I still think these are immature insecure men who will result in a toxic relationship. I had the love at first sight only after a few dates experience, he was worthy. We were together for three years. When the love at first sight is real you don’t have to challenge the guy you don’t have to play any gimmicks.
@fran7912 жыл бұрын
I agree with that, I think that if you truly like somebody physically and character wise, they won't need to be challenging
@hjordiswolff2 жыл бұрын
Oh yes 3 years and then bye bye honey
@leighcarlson872 жыл бұрын
I believe in attraction and lust at first sight but not love at first right. Genuine love has to germinate and grow.
@bhavanasingh21403 жыл бұрын
After 5 years of relationship.... I am all left with blames and criticism.... Criticism of being insecure... Of being overloving, over caring and prioritizing my love over myself..... Giving my 100% in every worst to worst condition and trying to understand him.... All i get is criticism for involving and creating issues in his life..... Presently dont know what to do..... Cant focus on anything
@ankitaaaaa2272 жыл бұрын
Girl , I hope you're doing well
@priyankachhabra62232 жыл бұрын
Fuck this shit and KICK HIS ASS. Doesnt deserve you. Happened the same with me
@anitaoneill83373 жыл бұрын
This is good stuff. I was chased by men for most of my life. I didn’t have to learn these things. But now I’m not free again and more mature. I like playing the love games. I wish I’d learned these things earlier.
@janethunter86112 жыл бұрын
My ex ( i left him ) always said i meant more to him because i was the only woman who did not sleep with him right away and it took him a long time to get to know me and get close to me ,so its true men will take a woman to bed on a first date but its the ones who take their time who stays on their mind. we didn't stay together just nota good match .very wise words mr nox xx
@MsCheesemonster13 Жыл бұрын
If I have to change myself this much to be in a successful relationship, then I would rather be on my own.
@LillybethLilyLeah2 жыл бұрын
I love your explanations on what you mean. This makes so much sense❤ When I care for a man, I tell myself something fundamental inwardly: 'I get to choose if he meets my standards also.' Keeps me centered and knowing both of our equal worth❤
@annagkl70053 жыл бұрын
I totally agree, lack of respect. So they treat like this, without respect, and the love ends
@Kittylyne783 жыл бұрын
I always love your videos. They are timely and informative... just what i need to bring me back to myself
@chantavyyongbanthom82323 жыл бұрын
I've been watching you for a while. I want to thank you. Watching your videos and hearing your advice really has helped me to make a better decision. Although I pretty much know what I should or shouldn't do. Hearing your advice and your thoughts on a situation helps seal my decisions.
@madhusweetprof3 жыл бұрын
Very correct . Thnx for this Bang on Advice. I think in all relationships it is imp to keep a certain amount of distance often. In great friendships, with cousins, siblings colleagues n office staff you must appear as a Challenge n not as if too available lady types
@MonicaSancio2 жыл бұрын
Challenge raises your value. ~ Brian Nox. 🙌
@yekaskitchen62073 жыл бұрын
One thing I learn everyday is that "men love pain"
@africanprincessmaya3 жыл бұрын
Yes hon and torture and bills and paying extravagantly for women even if they complain about it
@ranjanswain86142 жыл бұрын
@@africanprincessmaya After We have sex with them we kick her out of our life because she made us wait for it , if a guy dumps a girl after sex it's because she didn't add enough value outside of sex
@viriacssa20032 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣, you right
@Sk227932 жыл бұрын
If he’s more interested in a challenge than he is in you, he’s not the right guy. I’m so tired of this twisted advice being given to women. Everyone should be authentic if a relationship is going to work. I’m not playing games to keep a guy’s attention
@b.johnny3693 жыл бұрын
I wish every woman would see this.
@cinn78623 жыл бұрын
Hi Brian, I've just discovered your channel and have really been enjoying your videos. They are insightful, very funny and truths we really need to hear and know about men. Thank you for taking that time to make these videos and add value to us all. Just wanted to let you know.
@JessPata2 жыл бұрын
I love your deadpan humor. 😂 Trying desperately not to laugh too hard into my coffee.
@beverlyluiz20523 жыл бұрын
The 20 secs bedroom " really " cracked my ribs 🤣🤣😩😩🤣🤣
@jessiejohnson12087 ай бұрын
If someone had told me this 20 years ago, my life had been totally different.
@karmathephoenix24742 жыл бұрын
Women have it much harder in the game of love. Women outnumber men around the world. Women have to keep their man interested and chasing her even after the marriage ceremony. Whew! Relationships are work, work, work! Relationships are harder than losing weight and trigonometry.
@ithacacomments4811 Жыл бұрын
I was committed to not losing myself after leaving a marriage where I experienced domestic violence. I made a list of the character traits I was looking for in future relationships. I made it clear what my boundaries were with the guy I started dating. Still fell off the cliff....
@anusha_d3 жыл бұрын
This was really helpful, especially the questions at the end. 💙
@annatheawesome12 жыл бұрын
I have challenged men to be better in the past but they don't rise to meet it and complain instead. Hearing this I guess I've never encountered a mature man who was serious about a relationship.
@susanahasan11342 жыл бұрын
even if this is old-fashion, I think this is still a very great test to measure his true intentions...thanks Brian...
@zaitunikakyama53263 жыл бұрын
It's so real when a man says it. Thanks.
@amandaconstanza2 жыл бұрын
I thought that dynamic in love was something from the past, that now as society we are beyond that those stupid games, apparently it still happens hahah I hate it
@cinderling5472 Жыл бұрын
Brian Knox, where were you a decade ago?? 🥺🙏 This explains a LOT Thank you so much for your efforts. You really care💖 we are immensely grateful
@actuaryaltair62803 жыл бұрын
I have noticed that when you show boundaries moest men run to the easy catch. That is the reality of dating in 2021. Your advice, while sound advice, does not apply in what I have seen in real life. :(
@Gabbagousch2 жыл бұрын
I agree.
@healed20112 жыл бұрын
Then that is not the type of man that you want. You do not want a man who would go to someone easy.
@user-hl2rm5db8h2 жыл бұрын
The ones who ran, ran because they were going to use you for one thing and leave you regardless
@actuaryaltair62802 жыл бұрын
@@healed2011 but most do go hahah
@Bodangers2 жыл бұрын
You dont want to date that type of man. They will leave you easily like they will leave those women.
@godswordevangelism6 ай бұрын
Chasing a person who is so much of a challenge that they are unattainable is an act of fear. This person fears a real relationship so much that they chase people they will never really have a relationship with.
@chelsea789 Жыл бұрын
I think this is crap. We don’t want to be a “challenge”. That means we as women are forfeiting our own pleasure. Plus society really gives us some shit for being “challenging”.
@donnahampton77642 жыл бұрын
Thank you Brian for all you do! I never knew how powerful words of praise/compliments could be on a guy until I used them genuinely on my boss. Wow! I never got that kind of response from anyone else! Now I'm going to try implementing 'being or giving him a challenge.' I appreciate you! Lol.
@Melly16yr103 жыл бұрын
Sounds exhausting 😱
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
@@mohammedyahaya2833 we don't need scammers
@naturelover35483 жыл бұрын
Why I am not attracted to any men and I want them to leave me alone ? I feel like I don’t even care if they like me or not !
@AI-gd7lz3 жыл бұрын
idk your gender but maybe you are gay or asexual :)
@melissag82703 жыл бұрын
I was like that for a long time due to past experiences, but I finally at the point again where I am open to men and dating. I just worked on myself first. Or maybe you just don’t like men 😛
@jasongunningham95453 жыл бұрын
Future cat lady Make sure to clean out their litter box often
@LY-js7ff2 жыл бұрын
U‘re lucky u won‘t get ur feelings hurt
@Smokillo2 жыл бұрын
Because most of them are annoying and just want sex
@rpd42782 жыл бұрын
This has been very helpful! I kinda figured it out on my own before seeing this video, so now I'll see where this leads my relationship.
@craftychick482 жыл бұрын
Another excellent video. I agree with all of your suggestions. I consider your videos to be teaching videos since you are teaching us something to apply to have wonderful relationships with ourselves and others. Setting boundaries with others while maintaining self-respect goes a long way toward self growth. I'm older and divorced, and recently bought my first house in a very rural setting. I only see people when I go to the city to get groceries or supplies. I love the solitude with my dog, yet I'd love companionship at times. There aren't too many choices where I am.
@jckasugatan68102 жыл бұрын
I've been ghosted by the same guy over and over again. I had enough... I don't care if he calls it mind game.
@viktorijanovak3362 жыл бұрын
If you need to challenge the guy and think about it, then he just doesnt like you or respect you enough. Then you are dealing with a boy who uses women for fun. Also those challenges examples seem on edge, passive agressive.. Not a good advice. If sex is bad talk about it dont provoke.. Just the challenge thing in whole is not right. A girl can be interesting without playing mind games and provoking
@MC-sj5ub2 жыл бұрын
More chemistry than a meth lab IM SCREAMING 😂😂😂
@debbebuhat3 жыл бұрын
Time is gold for me😁 at the end of the day if both of you like each other with chemistry and enjoying time thats ok
@sparklyunicorn54312 жыл бұрын
And then men complain about women not being assertive or making the first move 🙄
@spirulina39243 жыл бұрын
you're humor is undeniable :D
@auravergeldedios83113 жыл бұрын
I told my ex I don't like booty calls then he got pissed off and deleted me on his whatsapp contacts. It's been more than a month now and I haven't heard anything from him yet 😐
@kathleenburns48503 жыл бұрын
If you like the chase…buy a rifle and go deer hunting.
@jenj12213 жыл бұрын
I can see this. It all makes sense! Even though I’ve lived with my fiancé for 4 years, I’ve always been a “challenge” to him. 🤷🏽♀️ I did this by just being myself and he naturally always wanted more. It was definitely more intense in the beginning but he still wants to do everything with me. He gets sad when I’m away for the day. I personally feel the same way about him and he’s always encouraging me to do better. I guess it works both way.
@wshelby832 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful!!
@mccsophi2 жыл бұрын
You are the best thing I have discovered this year! Thank you! 🥰🥰🤣🤣🤣
@thaliasnow43996 күн бұрын
Hi Brian, just discovered your channel today, thanks so much for the insightful sharings!
@IamAbundanceQueen1111 Жыл бұрын
We don’t communicate everyday but he still do his financial obligations to me and etc. This happened after he was moved to other work place.LDR since this year of january 2022. 5 years in relationship..i miss our everyday communication even we had our fights.
@dawnbakers83603 жыл бұрын
So spot on. I love your videos. 👏🏽
@librarian88137 ай бұрын
Thank you - I do way too much in relationships.
@Psyque-ok6vq2 ай бұрын
Yes , but of course, we always consider that there must be a balance in everything . Maybe too much challenges can be stressful .❤😊
@lizbethesquivel37382 жыл бұрын
Takes to much. I say if you’re meant to be your are. But I guess a little challenge is good.
@AlwaysHope_2 жыл бұрын
I’m very impressed your understanding of women & your kind giving advice
@Ricarica9812 жыл бұрын
You can love without being disrespected.:)
@jorgelherreraojedis36143 жыл бұрын
Once again you hit the spot! Thank you for your teachings, time and effort. Much appreciated 💚🤗🌴
@MMmM-xf4xq Жыл бұрын
I love your videos, I bought one of your books as a treat to myself...🥰❤
@mountainwarrior83872 жыл бұрын
Sorry but if I can't be who I am without playing stupid mind games, then I'm just not interested.
@lodilyn62 жыл бұрын
This advice really helps after 5years being single i try to open and accept having date again but i feel these red flags already after 2to3 dates ggggrrrrr🙄
@neetu71513 жыл бұрын
This is gold... ❤️
@erinidayu79942 жыл бұрын
U speak like a poet ♥️
@empowertheworld22162 жыл бұрын
I really likes your antidotes and jokers always makes me laugh 😂
@RosaMarquesa3 жыл бұрын
If a woman needs to watch this video to be that way... then it's a game, no inner value, no natural. She is expecting a result. And probably, too late for that guyif she is seeing this. It's wonderful to improve ourselves for the right reasons. But if you have to work too hard to be with someone in particular or to make him feel attracted to you... probably that is worthless and won't work. If the problem is that we can't find anyone, then we will have to ask ourselves some harsh, sincere questions, no Bambi movies. Or simply let it go.
@leelindseybleshoy3861 Жыл бұрын
Is there a way to start over if you realize (after a couple of years) this has happened?
@deutschesmaedchen2 жыл бұрын
I’m not gonna play games, I’m too busy for that. If we click, we click and we will take it slow and see where it leads. Otherwise, bye.
@aeiou0123 Жыл бұрын
Lolol your being busy is a challenge. Lolol you are already on d right track
@TeutonicTribe Жыл бұрын
Sweet & wholesome & exceedingly kind, this guy. But also wise- holler till you’re blue in the face about ‘ugh, games’ & ‘I should be able to Just Be Myself!’, but it won’t change biology 😏
@suzannem82653 жыл бұрын
Can you give more examples of being vulnerable, showing interest but being a challenge?
@mountainwarrior83872 жыл бұрын
Here's a thought. Just be who you are.
@dewdew58852 жыл бұрын
Or you are such a challenge, they loose the courage to persue you ..