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@aleewoolley2 жыл бұрын
Seriously, I hate to be one of “those women” but is it even worth it to date? I’m losing my motivation. I love men, I love masculine energy. I don’t desperately need a man, but I’m happy in my life and would very much like to share that with someone romantically. But listening to this and what I’ve experienced in dating men are exhausting. Compromise is always welcome, but why are women expected to tiptoe around men’s fragile egos and primal neuroses? You tell a guy you like him you are labeled as needy, and if you don’t fawn over him you’re not open and receptive enough. It’s too much!
@halasipipacs Жыл бұрын
Nailed it.
@vikuswavy5785 Жыл бұрын
sounds like your RNG is fooked.
@juanitahardy8583 Жыл бұрын
And expensive if you have a fixed income...manicures, pedicures, hair dressers, staying in style..
@tamarawolverton3895 Жыл бұрын
Find a man who is humble. There are some. There are some that take responsibility to offer a gift through their relationship. The rest are a waste of time.
@summastar2902 Жыл бұрын
😅this is soo true😅 resonates so much with me
@SamElle3 жыл бұрын
Ive learned to just match the energy of the person I am dating. I'm not going to purposely "play it cool" just to get someone to like me and I've also learned not to be overbearing / attached to someone who isn't showing that same energy towards me. There is definitely a balance between clingy/overbearing and being distant
@yvonneramsey25193 жыл бұрын
L
@gabriellewhalley13283 жыл бұрын
appreciate your insight
@MoMotivation03043 жыл бұрын
Great advice. Jus match their energy. ..bit most importantly, respect yourself. Never lose that.
@Merdenoms3 жыл бұрын
Amen Sam.
@nontoncube84502 жыл бұрын
I learnt this this year...it saves a lot of time and unrequited connections
@wolfgangmozart37723 жыл бұрын
Its really annoying that wanting to spend time with person we like is called chasing them. But men's brain really work like that, if you like them they think you're chasing and they leave. I'm so done with it
@amilitux82023 жыл бұрын
this is true.
@ambernaz67933 жыл бұрын
Agreed 🤜🤛
@gloriakuhn86703 жыл бұрын
And men don't understand why so many women have decided that they would prefer to be alone. It's absolutely crazy how men act with romantic interests.
@tinabtm3 жыл бұрын
I would say a women's brain works like that too, nobody is attracted on clinging or playing too cool, there must be balance, some middle line we should go on
@gloriakuhn86703 жыл бұрын
@@tinabtm I agree, but there doesn't seem to be a true middle ground with men. Instead, it seems like women are expected to walk on eggshells.
@dmeek12553 жыл бұрын
This is why I'm loosing interest in dating. Do this wait! Don't do that. Like me for who I am or forget it. I'm not into playing a game of chess with a man.
@sparkliesparkle46263 жыл бұрын
AGREED!! Don't be yourself, don't show your emotions, protect his ego, blah blah blah... It is exhausting!!
@sridevilove16993 жыл бұрын
Be as you are and happy and keep it on God trust me he will come to you Mr.Right! These points they give are nice but doesn't work all the time! Cos love is from God it's chemistry no one knows why and how! Some men if you give them a lot of love they will feel suffocated and some men if you ignore them they will feel attracted to you! So just be you and wish for the good and he will come! Sory to interfere but this from my experience! Hope it helps you for it future.....
@jenj12213 жыл бұрын
Please be yourself. I had the Worst time with dating and I blamed it on so many things. BUT.. No matter what I was always me, and if he didn’t like it-oh well-someone will. One day I met him, and he loves me exactly for who I am. We definitely broke every “rule.” We’re in love and getting married. It’s crazy how easy it is when it’s for you, and all you have to be is yourself. 💞
@moubhattacharyay68913 ай бұрын
Yesss.. Forget It! Coz, I'm Pretty Much Straight Forward & Absolutely Serious Person Abt Dating & All That Relationship Criteria.. So, If The Man's Not Seeming/Matching Wth My Vibes Abt Relationship Since The 1st Interactions.. IT'S NOT COOL FOR ME (I'M NOT FKNG AROUND THE STREET GUY!) 😎
@yana112o923 жыл бұрын
oh wow, dating is complicated af. I'd rather be single now.
@ediedonohoe75123 жыл бұрын
Lmao I know the feeling, would rather be single myself this is hard work
@randeepbirdi37933 жыл бұрын
@@balkisuahmadmaiahu8936 RIGHT?!!
@aprilapril2 Жыл бұрын
The happiest people are single women …the happiest men are in a relationship…
@terriblue68 Жыл бұрын
Ditto 😂
@moubhattacharyay68913 ай бұрын
😅Absolutely 👍🏻🙊
@playresponsibly60403 жыл бұрын
Keyword. Be yourself. So if a guy or a woman thinks u r desperate or chasing him/her, it's their prob already. And once you feel you are offended by their reaction or response about you just being yourself and showing interests on him/her, it's better to pull back and love yourself more.
@reneethorn1454 ай бұрын
BINGO! 👏😁💕
@vitabuonavita25653 жыл бұрын
i heard a psychologist say.." if you Feel like when you first meet a GUY that feels like you know him your whole life RUNNNNN , it is a memory from the past of a GUY who didn't work out, but it feels familiar, so you wind up choosing the WRONG GUY AGAIN...
@XYZOxyz3 жыл бұрын
Interesting. It’s what others would call twin flame or soulmate. Also, didn’t think psychologists believed in past life or promoted that idea. Finally, if it didn’t work out in the past life, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t or can’t be together in this one; we have sayings such as: see you in the next life, we’re not meant to be together in this life, but hopefully we will be in the next, etc
@ciggytwiggy3 жыл бұрын
Ohhhh noooo why didnt i read this earlierrrr
@Hippyfishhikes3 жыл бұрын
Me whenever I meet a guy who reminds me of my father... he's a narcissist.
@luxyluz24423 жыл бұрын
seek help.
@cristinaalem72143 жыл бұрын
It makes a lot of sense. I’m feeling this. I’ve to reflect about it. Thanks 🤗
@doublewidechick84313 жыл бұрын
Honestly. It’s not a game. Men, if they like someone, they do something about it, if they don’t, well they won’t. Women should NEVER approach. Sure flirt a little but if he doesn’t hone in.. he’s not into u. He will go for what he wants. It’s true.
@MoMotivation03043 жыл бұрын
Yep men are hunters.
@ayaalshatwi98173 жыл бұрын
Fact👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻💯💯💯💯💯
@svilenaninetta98382 жыл бұрын
Agree. This summer i was in some flirty sutuation with a guy. I know he kinda wants me .I want him back. It was last btween us . He lives in other country so ..one more reason i would not go for him. Plus i was expecting from him if he wants me ..to find out my number ..to text me ..for drink or someting ..but he never did. The only he dis and honestly he ask me that couple of times ..would you like us to go for a ride. But i did not like it . Bcz ..what does it mean to go for ride !? What kind invitation is that? For me it is awkqard. Looks just like we gonna cruise all over the city and them he will stop engine somewhere for a kiss ..and then we gonna go to his place ..amd i dont like that raw idea. No effort at all from his part. So i was like ..his intetions is sex ..and i dont mind but he needs to put more effort even just sex. Which i dont mind ..bcz anyways he lives in Swiss/ abroad ..so sex is the only what i would do for that hot summer. I dont want to aproach first, And i would never do his part instead of him . I dont want to teach adult man how he should get women he wants. it was huge chemistry between us ..i guess i am stuborn . He will be here again for winter holidays ..then summer again ..so flirting is hoter then just do the job .
@m.r.59902 жыл бұрын
I'm a man. If a woman plays it cool, or starts to play games, I instantly lose my interest. In relationships with people, not just women, I value sincerity. There is NO WAY for me to start chasing after someone. If someone's pretending to be disinterested, that means it's not a human for me to bond with, she's insincere and treats me like she's a "better" than me. Humans have the same value in the universe. If some human thinks she/he is better than the human of the opposite gender, that's a big ego, and a big turn off to me. Men want to be openly liked and wanted too. We have eyes and minds, and we see that women like us. We like to have close, loving, sincere relations with many women, without the need to jump into a s.xual relationship with anybody. We definetly don't choose the insincere ones, who play games and thinks she's better, and worth chasing.
@nanamuskuri66302 жыл бұрын
Aren't there shy men?
@toaderliliana66213 жыл бұрын
I'm always very opened but in the same time I respect myself & always put myself in first placo
@toaderliliana66213 жыл бұрын
@@briannox6540 not at all :) I''m happy as I am now. I admit that I want a man, capable with principles & on the same frequency with me as a partner in my life, but as I mentioned I have a well developed self-esteem & I 'll not lower my standards for anyone! 😃 Well, when that man will appear in my life and he'll appreciate me, being a woman, I'll know how to behave, show him the respect he deserves & my love! ❤ Thank you for everything you do here for all of us, much appreciation! 👏👏👏
@nanditasolanki5073 жыл бұрын
@@toaderliliana6621 q
@nanditasolanki5073 жыл бұрын
Q
@perpetua111vv2 жыл бұрын
Yea you shoul put yourself in the first taco.
@kathat35262 жыл бұрын
dont play games like children, doesnt work gor adult only for problematic egoic men
@33Jenesis Жыл бұрын
I told a guy I liked him and asked to date him. He said yes but never was into me as I was into him. It fizzled after a year (we didn’t live in the same city). I like my boldness, going after what I like. The outcome not meeting my hope is irrelevant.
@alicemakarevich6762 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy3 жыл бұрын
Well, in my situation, I got quite turned off when he was starting to play games with me, which made my interest level go down. So in my situation, I am not pretending to not be interested. I ain't giving him no more attention after all of his tactics, even if it means losing him.
@Melody96163 жыл бұрын
You know I start playing games when my feelings are at stake and I’m scared as hell - but still can not let go. It’s a vicious cycle… Maybe it’s the same with men?
@TT-th1gb3 жыл бұрын
Games are not for the serious minded that want to find their love.
@casperinsight35242 жыл бұрын
Exactly, I'm not playing hard to get, I'm interested but cautious and not in a hurry. Also my attention is focused on different things not just him. He's not the center of my world but a beautiful part of it if only he was more secure within himself and with us.
@rosdahrosli87932 жыл бұрын
my I know..what do you mean playing games is? can you explain what he did to you?
@crystalearth332 жыл бұрын
Right, the game took all my energy.. lost interest
@emmam26723 жыл бұрын
Thank you for not sharing the typical tipps, that every dating guru shares, like playing it cool and teasing everytime. Because as soon as you show your true self you will get hurt by someone who is just playing games. To create true intimacy it is important to be authentic
@emmam26723 жыл бұрын
If my english is not perfect, it is because german is my mothertongue 😉
@DiamondsRexpensive3 жыл бұрын
No need for an apology, it is crystal clear. Oh and by the way, if someone nags you with this whole language thing, you know what to do: type in German to confuse them.
@nadyc.lassk.44263 жыл бұрын
I was about to leave this comment. This is a great video👌🥰
@jackdeniston593 жыл бұрын
Yeah, watch over the next year or so, all these 'gurus' will change their snake oil as they realise men are not responding to stupid abuse. ' #
@emmam26723 жыл бұрын
@@DiamondsRexpensive thank you :)
@Buttercookies03 жыл бұрын
It is always the men that make dating complicated as they often have contradicting wants.
@km478042 жыл бұрын
As a very strong, direct woman…I used to be very direct with the men I liked. Inevitably, they would run or it just wasn’t right. Men are hunters. They need to hunt and it’s a solid gauge of a mans interest. Men will go after what they want…I don’t think as women we need to act uninterested, but definitely do not chase a man. He will just use you until he finds something better suited to his desires. Soul crushing…just sit back, flirt and let him come to you.
@Portia620 Жыл бұрын
If they would use you, who is the wrong guy anyway which is almost 98% of them from statistics and failed marriages and messed up and humble unclassy human beings on this so exhausting I’m tired of dating haven’t even started
@95159mrs Жыл бұрын
You preach girl! I agree with you in toto
@km47804 Жыл бұрын
@@Portia620 being patient and allowing him to woo you and show his interest will avoid a lot of heart ache. Of course there are men who just love a chase and will lose interest the second they’ve got you…but you can set the pace, boundaries and if he’s really interested, he will wait and woo. Players will move on eventually. Women have forgotten that we are in charge if we act right and ALLOW it to happen. And don’t jump into bed to fast.
@VerenaSatriani3 жыл бұрын
I always try to be straight forward. I think when we grow up, we have less game when we like someone.
@thestarofhopesinging2 жыл бұрын
Why is love so hard , why can't we just be .
@meditationovermedication Жыл бұрын
I have no time, energy, or patience to play these foolish games with a grown ass man. Either we're doing this or we're not. Idgaf if that comes off as "needy". This dude can call it needy, I will call it being a fookin adult and being conscious of not wasting my time or someone else's.
@Bloodyhands793 жыл бұрын
I used to naturally think like that, but it seems to me that the majority of relationships coaches on KZfaq are teaching that you should be naturally distant and busy to build his interest... like you couldn't be at the same time a woman in love and with an interesting life. But that is like they are giving advices on how to force interest in someone who isn't alredy good for you. Thanks Bryan, we need more content on what "showing healty interest" is. Please keep sharing more about it.
@Alana0603103 жыл бұрын
I agree with this, but I tend to “play it cool” with some more than others and often times it’s because there is something about him I feel I need to guard myself from.. I just haven’t figured it out yet.
@lifeslessons98893 жыл бұрын
The very thing I can’t bear is Game Playing... I understand caution ⚠️, I’m cautious aren’t we all after life experiences..but sometimes just being plain honest works better than any friggin pointless soul destroying mind game .
@caitlintaskila14653 жыл бұрын
I'm always having trouble with 2 things first being in warn ,fun mode and not serious business mode. Second Telling a guy I like that I like him is very difficult because I've had some very unpleasant experiences associated with showing that kind of emotion.
@MysticSunflowers-22697 ай бұрын
Build a friendship before anything.... Then you'll know weather or not you have what it takes to truly make something beautiful out of it or not..... Ya never know .... We only live once.
@cherrylane792 жыл бұрын
Usually if I don't care, the man is after me. When I do, it's hard, usually he doesn't care about me then. So I guess the right answer is showing the same energy that he does.
@lilyseestheworld78653 жыл бұрын
What kind of ... is this? If someone invited me on a date on a thrusday and I really didn't have time and said that, I would have loved him to propose other days, I wouldn't want to start making suggestion myself, knowing he might be busy. Being persistant is not desperation, it is showing zeal and interest! I would respect such a man more, if I liked him before. I hate those mind games... argh... Praise the Lord I am married already - to a bold man who would have made another suggestion, if we still dated. Frankly, we dated with the intention to get married so it was a differnt league. There was no need to play it cool. If you are reading this, I hope you will find the true love of you life and will be able to be open about your intentions and feelings.
@lilyseestheworld78653 жыл бұрын
@@briannox6540 Why would someone want that :-O ? If the person did something wrong and the ex left? - Why not apologize for it and change? getting back together might have any sense in that case. If however the ex just left because you are not compatible or have different goals in life - then it is for the best they left.
@nadenehall68433 жыл бұрын
Thank you and amen
@lifebeelifebee92143 жыл бұрын
If I like a guy, he would know, my body language and warmth will give me away. But I would wait for him to make a move. If he does - we go from there, if not - his loss. Get mature.
@fraulein_farah3 жыл бұрын
Healthy interest sounds like indifference: if not this person, then the next.. When we are genuinely attracted and interested in someone, we can make mistakes so consciously detach your actions from your emotions around that person: good luck ! I wish everyone watching this video find the person that’s right for them 💕
@Denise-pn1tj Жыл бұрын
All of your advice is killing me! I have the most unique situation that you can imagine. After almost 40 years he comes back into my life apologizes for what happened before and I’m like putty. I can’t help myself I had shut down my entire being for the past eight years. I decided that I was just gonna be alone and I’d be fine with that and I was just going through the motions just fine. He shows up I have a visceral reaction in my body just goes berserk on me. I literally cannot control myself. I was up for two days and I wasn’t eating. That is never me ever in this world never me. I’m somebody that would normally stress eat but nope first time ever couldn’t eat for anything didn’t want it I was fine and flying high. Now I think I might’ve overdone it but I was just so excited I couldn’t help myself and he was excited to see me but I think I might’ve got a little bit far. I’m still in love with him and I’ve been in love with him since I was 19 years old and I don’t know what to do about it. And he’s the one that came to me so I don’t know we have another hiccup but I don’t wanna put that out here. If there was anyone that I could talk to it would be greatly appreciated because this is a very Unique and difficult situation. I hope you have a good weekend I know this was two years ago that you posted it. Not sure if you’ll get to read this or not
@wildbanana363210 ай бұрын
That's sounds really tough, sorry to hear that. All I can say is stay strong and try speak with a trusted friend. Or try communicate with him about how you are feeling and try work something out. Hope things get better for you. Keep going!!
@sayalidhabugade70683 жыл бұрын
I played it cool with a guy I was having intense crush n feelings...but now he is married🙃sigh..life is hard!!
@krystalroxX72 жыл бұрын
I have a serious deep ESP connection with my crush and we have an intense connection i know is felt on both sides He's married sigh life is like a dark joke
@wolfm25763 жыл бұрын
I just like being true to yourself your feelings and emotions
@doris_s_atlantica Жыл бұрын
Nowadays men are pampered like highly sensitive babies and much of this comes from the internet and too many coaches of the different varieties. We should get to know ourselves, men as well as women, heal our trauma and take responsibility for ourselves and our lifes. Selfrespect and respect for others comes automatically
@ekaterinaozernaya66283 жыл бұрын
Brian, you are such a warm, sincere person. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart. ❤️
@nickieglazer33 Жыл бұрын
Intermittent reinforcement is an abusive behavioural pattern. Approach avoidant = Come here/go away. I love you/I hate you. Hot/cold. Is a major red flag in Narcissistic abuse 🚩
@summersalix Жыл бұрын
This. Intermittent reinforcement really plays with one's mind and soul.
@muntuk64243 жыл бұрын
Excellent, as always! The only problem with your videos, Brian, is that it’s too few of them!!! Please come here more often! Pretty please! 😊
@jennifergirling68502 жыл бұрын
And men say that women are confusing Sheesh!
@user-hq3ce5ws1sАй бұрын
a guy who grew up in greece i was in a relationship with said growing up he and his friends would talk to different girls to get used to rejection. i think it’s a good idea to get in the habit of being okay with exploring relationships, whether they work out or not. less painful and more to learn and ways to grow.
@crystalearth332 жыл бұрын
He makes sense while I'm listening, but I forget the logic later.. lol
@rachellindsey86603 жыл бұрын
Hard place to be. I just told him 3 weeks ago my heart is happy when we talk. And left it didn't push or anything needy. I haven't heard from him in a week.
@talkswithtee33973 жыл бұрын
Yes that’s a sign to move on, or give him distance
@magisimon48733 жыл бұрын
That's a beautiful statement. He must be a monster....a devil not to respond . Run for your life. You deserve a real man. Because you are a real feminine woman. All the best!!!!
@aishahalmana77363 жыл бұрын
Why ppl are allergic to authenticity 🤔
@c.b71693 жыл бұрын
This guy is clearly afraid of commitment , the right guy who’s mature and ready for a commitment would be happy to hear those words from you. it’s as simple as knowing which men to watch out for and thank the ones that leaves you first.
@AcornandOak3 жыл бұрын
Yes, same boat! Not fun!
@angeramirez253 жыл бұрын
That middle point is so difficult for me lol. I play it cold or super hot 🤣🤣🤣 I gotta learn to balance them both.
@pdailey2323 жыл бұрын
How can you just say it when you’ve been rejected without even saying you like the person. That person has rejected you from what other people have said! Although he gives off the vibe he likes you opens up to you but then when it seems like your getting close he does things to try and push you away! Yeah it’s an obvious thing he doesn’t like you! It’s just better not to say anything.
@niharikapasricha53463 жыл бұрын
.maybe those people are spreading false rumours because they are jealous or maybe interested in you or him and want to drive you away from him
@susane945 Жыл бұрын
Another great video from Hiirt!! Thank you for your refreshing sense of humour, heaps of really great advice, and being probably the most watchable guy doing these posts! You're my fav. ❤🙏🙂🙂🙂
@Anastasio7772 жыл бұрын
Yeah, totaly true, playing cool and showing no interest will bring you nowhere dear ladies and in 2 years he might, no he will be, in another relationship. Just do it smooth, be a little touchy and follow Brian´s teachings. Good luck!
@marias131313133 жыл бұрын
I did both extremes with one challenging person -at an older age, I hadnt dated seriously in too long a time.
@lilypond34892 жыл бұрын
Wow. Your videos are really good at making me realize how immature I am, how bad I am at romance and how much I’ve screwed up my chance to ever be with a certain boy
@katharina14393 жыл бұрын
I've always played it cool, until I became too needy🙈 then it was game over😳
@larryrubin51503 жыл бұрын
You play it your way. Your a 10. It’s any mans loss. ..you look exotic 🦊
@AcornandOak3 жыл бұрын
Same issue. Reserved until I'm all in...and he runs. Have to remind myself that wasn't the one for me.
@katharina14393 жыл бұрын
😘❤ I found out that all of these men have an "avoidant attachment style". 😳 or also called "dismissive avoidant"
@michellegriff133 жыл бұрын
We can only "play it cool" for so long because after awhile we must realize we are pretending it's ok that our personal needs aren't being met but we know, deep down, it's unfair and the other person's needs are clearly being met. They are just as needy, if not more so, than us ladies just in different ways. We need confirmation of where things are going, they need confirmation we are ok with them just being in our life (however much that is). Guess who has their needs met? Always the latter. I agree with you - Game is over! My needs matter just as much as the next person. Scratch my back, I'll scratch yours.
@mychrome2 жыл бұрын
@@larryrubin5150 ugh the ‘Exotic’ comment 🙄
@alessia_antonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Brian for this video - I especially loved the exemplary phrases you used, as they make it easier to understand the concept! :)
@CaffeinatedTigress Жыл бұрын
2:05 - _raises hand_ you've not met me. Every guy I've ever expressed interest in does a 180 and completely cuts me out of his life then immediately starts dating anyone who will say they'll go out with him. And I'm introverted - it takes me a really long time, weeks (usually months and sometimes even years) of talking face to face, and a lot of motivation to just say "hey, do you want to go get coffee?" only to be slapped in the face with the world's fastest case of a missing person.
@jenj12213 жыл бұрын
Can you be the voice for the bed time stories, love your voice.💕
@twinflamegirl9901 Жыл бұрын
Telling a guy that you like him is not a sign of desperation or neediness. Playing games to manipulate a man is toxic. Men need to make their fecking minds up about what they want cos it is really fckg confusing & boring for us women.
@angelwings6193 Жыл бұрын
I must start by saying youre a very self perceptive person a rarity in todays world. I like that youre open and honest in your assessment of feelings and perceptions, Im sure your gf is very happy to be with a super great guy such as yourself be happy, god bless ! you are one of the few genuine ppl who are self aware and emotionally awake.
@nats7072 жыл бұрын
Yourself is who you need if he is not willing to compliment your life, run! Many men are too self centered to act like a man.
@patriciakatz78663 жыл бұрын
Men know what they like. It's not brain surgery people. 💁♀️
@Sweet4Christ3 жыл бұрын
Yeah-except then they call you pushy and aggressive and they’re gone 💔😢
@neetuh48503 жыл бұрын
What to do and how not to be guarded or cold with someone who was cold to me and hurt me, but now wants another chance? I don't know how to not be cold now. I was previously honest, vulnerable and matching him and his communication style. I'm a very independent person and have never acted needy but I am also authentic, kind, and generous person. Anyway, now my walls are up and I'm not so nice. I can't help being authentic and I can't hide how I feel so much. Kind of hate him now so he gets my bad side. He's someone i can't avoid either.
@jesuschrist98933 жыл бұрын
Comparing mode
@user-tv8ce2pm8l Жыл бұрын
I have been struggling to understand whats wrong with me.. now i know , thank you ❤
@christinahobson31703 жыл бұрын
Becoming weary texting wears me out
@angelika65213 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the valuable content and your dedication to what you do! P.S started to practice the prenountiation of your acctual name as it sounds sooo nice. Greetings to you and your partner! Plenty of happy days to all of us!
@travelchannel3042 жыл бұрын
This worked when i didnt know this for sure. & the cool.. it worked. Being cool isnt the same playing it cool. You need to know how this guy behaves. Need a sheild of armour behind my genuiness, that doesn't compromise my compassion for humanity. Ive been genuine, simply appreciating a person, warm, not trying to indicatecany interest at all. it's my freaking nature!. and then person in front of other females , pointed out another woman in room who was his type. "you're not my type!" . "This is my type". And these were coworkers. I didnt reply. He didnt deserve it. It felt like shit on the inside. And my esteem was good!!
@robynalvin63193 жыл бұрын
If you’re in high school or in college guys will chase you. It’s not unusual for a pretty girl to sit back and do nothing except smile & the guys come flocking to her. However, as you come into the real the adult world and especially in middle-age, guys don’t chase after women. Women have to bring more to the table than their pretty face. No need to chase a guy but it’s OK to show a guy that you have some interest in him or if he reaches out to you to act like you like him.
@NN-fz4pd3 жыл бұрын
Completely untrue. Middle aged women also don’t chase men and don’t need to put in that effort to “bring more to the table” men are everywhere and they are all desperate for a woman especially as they become middle aged. No man wants a woman who makes it easy for them lol. The only thing a woman has to do is have standards.
@Avaaa94943 жыл бұрын
Thank you Brian!
@duenadil14713 жыл бұрын
Oh yes ! That s the 1st time someone say it so clearly ! And I just need it for now 🥰 Merci ! Bisous de Paris
@tiblanes3 жыл бұрын
Very balanced advice. Thank you.
@kristinm2577 Жыл бұрын
Social media has made dating so much harder. An array of women are literally at their finger tips!
@priyamalhotra57943 жыл бұрын
Thank you once again Brian for the fabulous advice as always ♥️🥰🤗
@zuzuspetals383 жыл бұрын
Men are just exhausting. Such fragile egos. We have to cater to their makeup etc etc That is what makes women overthink things, them, and situations. 🤦🏻♀️ Don’t chase but don’t be too standoffish,..Men are hunters and women are nesters, doesn’t matter if 1950 or 2021! Just exhausting
@SonyeoMargit3 жыл бұрын
I totally killed it, not that I had a chance but I like to think I had.
@ursulamuga27373 жыл бұрын
Best advice out there . Thank you!
@bink8652 жыл бұрын
Desperate people get together all the time
@flower24587 Жыл бұрын
Ive no idea what you're talking about. So devastated by the mind games that men play
@kristinapiotrowski47847 ай бұрын
I am so happy that I finally I’m seeing comments that are exactly how I feel and think about this topic it is crazy. The dating scene is nothing like it used to be and when did playing games be the new thing? And chasing and all this other nonsense I don’t get it so we’re supposed to pretend we don’t like somebody just for them to like us?…… basically, we have to be a fake person for them to like us. For me, I am gonna show you how I feel about you and I’m not going to pretend and fake anything and if you like it then you like it if you don’t then you don’t.
@adrianmayhew8223 жыл бұрын
Was waiting for new video
@clairexxx04053 жыл бұрын
Thank you so Muchly for another fantastic video Brian 🤗
@c.b.23213 жыл бұрын
Than you so much, I like this video / the content very much. And you 'teach me' so with so much light energy, wonderful. Greetings from Northern Germany, from a 58 years 'young' lady :-)
@c.b.23213 жыл бұрын
@@briannox6540 thanks, no, I'm not. It's all ok like it is :-)
@trilliontrillion80873 жыл бұрын
I like when a man comes to me if he dosent forget about him .
@tubisa02343 жыл бұрын
I was always careful in every-way i treat him but still he decide to leave
@violetacamps8573 Жыл бұрын
A very balanced approach . Thank you very much
@Peace_Love_Fitness2 жыл бұрын
I really love your videos , insight , and advice as they have been very helpful to me . Thank you 😊
@kahleesi-queenfire1793 жыл бұрын
You are so very good and funny at getting the points across 😂👍🏽
@peperabriam27323 жыл бұрын
Hello first time here 🙂 watching your good videos let's spread love and peace . Watching now from Asia country from manila Philippines 🇵🇭 God bless
@eleyasarian3 жыл бұрын
Thank you brian for this new vid. such a great advice! It helped me so much!..Hope to watch more of your videos. You are amazing. God bless!..👍👍👍😉
@mmorrisre7 ай бұрын
I really enjoy your videos and humor.
@meetalisingh3 жыл бұрын
Conclusion: Be invested not needy
@Hannas_3 жыл бұрын
Lol, Brian's amusement kills me
@dodraw Жыл бұрын
Your way of speaking is fabulous 😂❤
@kf46702 жыл бұрын
You ROCK Brian!!! thank you!
@nishisingh9973 жыл бұрын
Very informative. Please make a video when after small break we start getting in touch with very minimum communication but there is lot gap to fill and no idea how to start and maintain my own value.
@drealstarsweet3 жыл бұрын
Another great one!!
@edwardtang19772 жыл бұрын
I am an experienced guy. Recently, a young girl played games with me. She love bombed me. Because she is too young, I didn"t persue. Then she did the hot and cold voodoo. I fell for ir knowing exactly what she was doing. The voodoo works.
@tasrajwani3 жыл бұрын
I like your sense of humour 😊
@maysaraali57723 жыл бұрын
Amazing! Thank you Brian
@jacquelinenoel29923 жыл бұрын
Great talk. Thank you!
@seattledesertgirl6319 Жыл бұрын
Thanks, Brian.
@333pinkitty2 жыл бұрын
I love your videos!! Thank you
@sibosibo7652 жыл бұрын
I enjoy your videos Brian.
@Michelle-lu3oj Жыл бұрын
I love you uploads, you are so funny and I swear you must have been a woman in your past life. Moreover I come to your videos upset or not sure I end the videos laughing and as if someone slapped me in the face to wake up … you are brilliant!!
@phoenyxpetersen45513 жыл бұрын
Rather unrelated to the subject but he reminded me of Tony Stark.
@rashmimajumder85892 жыл бұрын
thanks to me for being single forever, I cant approach and he will not approve and my feelings will not be heard- this will go on cyclic forever. I am done.
@bitsywillmott68813 жыл бұрын
What diverse comments are listed here...nothing's easy.
@AriDuang3 жыл бұрын
I feel like it would have been much better he would be just straight to the points... too many examples 👍
@anneyoung2310 Жыл бұрын
I'm about to watch this, so forgive the premature comment, but I have never, ever played it cool when I like a man. Firstly, I am not into games. Secondly, I usually know soon enough whether I'm interested and I am horrible at hiding it. Thirdly, I have dated a lot and am well aware men can be darn insecure. They need encouragement in the pursuit. Fourthly, I have zero fear of love. No current interest, but when there is, he will know it.
@christinahobson31703 жыл бұрын
I do not play cool tho' on KZfaq I find it difficult to keep up . Is it not more straightforward to see the person face,-to-face and/or speak voice-to-voice? When possible, with easier understanding in tone of voice