She got frustrated she didn't get angry he just did something she told him not to it isn't like she was gonna fight him over it. And yeah I know she said the sleeping outside thing wasn't a joke but it was. She was upset because her husband went against what she told him and against her plan and literally nothing else happened so it would be dumb to actually act like she was mad at her husband when at most it got him 5 minutes of scolding

Eh, it can happen sometimes especially between parents and children. Back when I was 12 and got taken away from my highly abusive and manipulative "mother" I also spent at least a year or two regularly crying myself to sleep, missing her, and wanting to go back to live with her. And even afterwards, I often initiated contact and also did a lot of stuff for her, with the hopes that she would one day realize and admit all the things she did and genuinely apologize. Took me a very long time to finally get to the point of just cutting all contact with her, I think I was like 25 or 26 when I finally managed to stop talking and responding to her calls and text messages.

@@HippieInHeart It took me 37 years to cut contact with my abusive spermdonor. While I am known for having no issues offending people to stand up for myself, I really had a blindspot to my parents treatment of me. So I also totally can see this. Also, good for you! Wish you the best.

Coz she is a human and has emotions

​@@DummyThiccccc You have no idea what else happend. All you know is what she was willing to post for complete strangers to read.

Exactly.

Exactly

The courts may deem them "gifts" which you cannot sue for if I am not mistaken. If they had a written agreement, it would be a different story.

Nah. I mean, maybe I missed it, but did we find out that the mom actually cheated? Dad may have been the asshole in denying his ex and younger daughter any inheritance out of spite. They might rightfully be wondering why op gets all the money when she just clicked more personality-wise with her dad.

​@erinfield1943 i think you missed the part where the dad only paid child support for op. If the sister was his child then he would have to pay support for both of them. The sister isn't his child. As money hungry as the mother is, she would never let him off the hook for child support.

I think the point of ghosting them was to make them metaphorically shit their pants and stew in the anxiety as the walls caved in on them, which is it's own form of revenge, i think

They are narcissists. She wanted them to get anxious as hell, and reveal themselves unintentionally. She was trying to beat them at their own game which is something Narcs can’t stand.

I bet that he got dna test done and op was his kid but the sister wasn’t so he got his name off the birth certificate

Wonder if dad threatened to do dna testing if she tried for CS for youngest

Well if it's family of a friend i could see it happening. But i can't understand why he would do it for people's his friend no longer considers family.

Yup I don't believe that

"Can you hand over $20k becauee reasons?" "I'm no doormat! Here you go."

@@worldcomicsreview354lmfao Tsundere energy

@@worldcomicsreview354 theres a difference between goodwill and being a doormat

Also My sister entitled. Yet my dad pay for me and ignore my sister and allowed it.

She's a petty person and a bad wife tbh

She is every man's and woman's doormat. I need to wipe my ass, where is OP? 😂

Yup. I was infuriated with OP's weakness throughout the whole story, as well as with the wedding planner who foolishly decided to take the high road by not telling people the truth about the lackluster event. Taking the high road and turning the other cheek only works in movies. In reality it does nothing but give evil people full control of the narrative. Keeping quiet and taking the high road is nothing but enabling bad people to continue being bad without consequence.

“She is not a doormat, she’s the whole front yard.” Good one! 👍🤣

@@mannydcbianco exactly. “Be the bigger person”, “Keep the peace”, “Take the high road”, “Two wrongs don’t make a right”, all ways of saying “Be a doormat and never stand up for yourself”.

Not the front yard, but the carpet, bath mat, and tile floors.

Honestly the OP was probably more mad about him doing something she asked him not to do other than what he actually did. Other comments are acting like OP was genuinely angry at her husband when she didn't give any sign of it and all she did was make a joke and said she was serious even though it was obviously a joke and people apparently don't get that

​@@DummyThiccccc If people tell you with their own words the kind of person they are then it is best to believe them and not make up your own assumptions. She said she was serious so it makes no sense to assume it was a joke. Especially when she got mad at him for not letting her be petty.

​@@DummyThicccccuh she double and triples down on that "joke" and said she was dead serious so you can stop trying to defend the indefensible. She's honestly a petty woman and not very good spouse by how she talks about her husband. She also lacks self awareness as evidenced in this post

@@TheForkOnTheLeftist she doubles down but that doesn't mean it isn't a joke

@@DummyThiccccc so if someone says they're gonna kill you then laughs, then later says I'm gonna kill you, I'm dead serious, you'd take that as a threat ? On God? Lol

OP is very slow - Too slow to realize she is, and arrogant to boot.

I honestly don't feel bad for her. If you get duped that many time you deserve it, and then turn on the person on her side is pure arrogance. At the end she still wanted to be mommy's favorite child

Op was acting like a cunt toward her husband. He just wasn't about to play her high-schooler games. He should have put her in her place reminding her that all this crap happened because she was a moron too weak to actually cut her toxic family and that she brought the drama home and was trying to instigate more.

You mean leave it to the husband to not allow his wife to be petty with; her mother who always showed favoritism to her sister, and her sister who didn't think it was worth the effort to tell the truth about her wedding; and instead told op's mother where both sides stood. If the mother hadn't disowned op, which only happened because the husband told her that op knew she was lying, then op would have sent more money to pay for the wedding.

@@lilchristuten7568not at all. You must be young or single. She wanted revenge, that’s what she said. She wasnt going to send more because she already knew. And shes not petty for having plans for revenge. It’s her money and she was the one being taken advantage of. Not her husband. He had no reason other than to throw his wife’s trust out the window, to do that. So please tell us how exactly was she petty. She wasn’t and her husband was lucky he wasn’t kicked out that night because what was the reason of crossing that boundary, disregarding your wife completely, giving her mother a heads up so she had more time to scheme, and sabotaging his wife. It wasn’t his place and no matter how you spin it, he was wrong to the max.

@@breannaa3693 It's hilarious how you suggest that a person in a relationship would understand your take on the situation when quite frankly a married person would understand my take. She was petty period. Her "revenge" amounted to nothing more than having her mother continue to try to get her to send her money. If she had kicked her husband out for that then she isn't worth being married to. Also they are MARRIED it's not her money it's their money that's what it means to be married you share everything with your spouse. Also you know what we aren't being told in this story? What the husband had to go through everyday. In general women like to complain and they like to run their mouths. We have no idea how obnoxious she was while she was getting her PETTY revenge.

@@lilchristuten7568 I’m also married and my husband watched this whole thing with me and agreed lol. Same way how “I don’t know..”, you dont know what her revenge could have been, what if it had nothing to do with money? But she’s petty for being taken advantage of by people who are supposed to give their lives for her? Your partner must be proud to have you. And regardless of what you say. It wasn’t his place, and that settlement had her name, not his. It’s not his money, not his place and it’s petty to think you can bulldoze someone’s way of life. It literally, wasn’t his place. Bye now

Not rlly

IKR 🤦‍♂

The dumbest people often think they're the smartest, because they aren't smart enough to see that they're missing obvious things - OPs arrogance was the first sign to where this was going.

She sounds like Peggy Hill.

Her friends reputation wouldn't have been fixed. If she told the truth how would that of done anything? The money situation would have been the exact same no matter if the friend knew and the sister would've blamed him if the friends knew so sorry to burst your bubble but his reputation was ruined by the people who slandered him. Also she didn't mention a fight or any actual issues with her husband all she did was get angry when he specifically did something she asked him not to do. It is reasonable when you ask your husband to not do something to expect he wont do it

​@@DummyThiccccc She said that he would be sleeping on the porch if he did it again. Clearly it didn't end with her just getting mad at him.

A wedding planner's reputation is on the line with every job they take. The reason his reputation took a hit is because he let it take the hit. The sister said that she was throwing a high class wedding and the planner did what he could with a promised $10k instead of the $30k that was supposed to be available, and then the sister blamed the planner for the wedding not being up to snuff and he kept his mouth shut about it.

Exactly

Haha! You got that right.

No one is as smart/clever as God, god always has a plan for you and if you think your life is bad and god has given up on you remember god never gives up on you, if your life is going really bad right now wait, in the future your live will be as good as it was as bad (if you know what I mean) never give up on god and god won’t give up on you!

Its something done exclusively by morons, never seen an intelligent person brag about it

@@3GenEditzwho cares

Agreed. I wouldn’t have loaned them a penny without them signing on collateral to match the amount. Title to the house, and cars that they have, wage garnishment, and an ironclad, dipped in gold contract, WITH INTEREST. Failure to pay, I take them to court and clean them out.

I suspect she lost more than that, if you added up all the other small loans. OP is terrible with money and is going to lose it all.

@@dudeorduuude5211 I think you are a bit dumb. Sorry but 40k is 10% of the inheritance. She didn't lose too much more or she would've said something about that and yeah 40k is a lot of money but when you have 360k left and have a really good job as she said and has a husband who works you aren't going to run out of money. I get that you think 40k loans is lose with money but let me tell you 40k loans aren't actually that much when you expect the money back and probably have at least a million dollars to your name(Husband adds to that).

The wedding planner contracts to plan the wedding. They don't contract to take a sum of money and use it to do whatever. They book everything and then gives the people paying a bill for what is booked. Yes the people can mention a budget which the planner can use to plan their moves in regard to the wedding but they don't contract for the full budget and then the planner spends however they want.

Father must be turning in his great that those vixens got some of his money.

This much truth should not be said in the open bro 😭

Bro is speaking too many facts 😂

ikr she sounds like a fucking tissue. "Too smart" and "good school" my ass she got walked over like a fucking wooden plank, and she's surprised that her mom and sister are such terrible people. and despite saying shes "not falling for her moms manipulation" she clearly still is considering she feels bad

She's too slow to be able to understand that she's missing things, and super arrogant.

how is it a doormat to pay for your moms knee surgery and to pay for a home renovation for her mom? She did basic things that are reasonable. It is reasonable to pay for a parents medical bills and to help them out when in need and yeah I agree she was a bit of a push over on the house but she did expect in the beginning to be paid back. Also, 40k is a lot but obviously not to OP

I cringed at the disobey comment too... shows she's problematic as well

I think it depends on whether or not they had an actual loan contact detailing what the money was supposed to be used for. Now if they forged documentation about the mom receiving knee surgery thrn thrg would have been thrown in jail.

first story op could just sue her family for the money back lol

"Drunk people don't lie" Girl, how many drunk men brag about their manly accomplishments? Bullshit

Clearly she doesn't by the way she treat her husband

⁠​⁠@@dumbidea1007when you have a narcissistic parent you can pick up narcissistic tendencies without actually being a narcissist because of how you’re raised and socialised. The same reason she thinks it’s her fault is the same reason she handled the situation in a way to hurt everyone, that’s all she knows, as an adult it’s on her to get the therapy to fix that but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love her husband it just means she needs to work on communicating in a less aggressive way, and remember that he’s a safe person. It can take a lifetime to undo the damage and trauma from narcissistic abuse that won’t change overnight. She didn’t go about it in the right way but she set the boundary not to answer the calls he should’ve just blocked the numbers and moved on, him not listening made her feel the way her mother makes her feel and she didn’t communicate effectively because she never learned how to. It’s so more complicated than everyone’s evil. This is the exact reason my fiancé and I deal with our families separately my family drama’s bigger and more complicated so I sort it myself and vent to him when necessary, his is smaller and different so he manages it and I put myself on his level so that I don’t belittle his situation. In certain situations that separation between families is necessary, each of us knows we’re safe with the other and when we have children we’ll work on that together but knowing he’s an only child and his family dynamics he shouldn’t have to deal with my family and knowing how messed my family dynamics can be I shouldn’t have deal with his on top of mine. Actual handling of situations tends to work best that way and ghosting is actually a reliable method for dealing with narcissists it’s called stonewalling or sometimes grey rocking and it’s an effective therapy technique but also something you just pick up from being around narcissists if you give them nothing they get bored and they’ll get over themselves, when someone like that realises they have no power they move on

Isn't that also child abuse or child neglect

@@arietavakasoqo4901who’s the child?

@@arietavakasoqo4901what child are you referring to?

They have the same mom. The dna tesf would show that they are indeed sisters.

@@lilchristuten7568A dna test would show if they're full or half sisters.

…wtf? What does having a good dad have to do with her husband violating her trust and her response to it???

@@Carnibee he didn’t violate her trust, the mom asked him and he stood on business and told her why his wife was upset. He was just trying to help 🤷🏾‍♂️ and her saying she wanted to smack him upside the head for telling the mom “we know ur a liar” is wrong. The dad part was supposed to be more so a joke as to how she can treat her man poorly while loving her dad so much since fathers determine how women view men in their adult lives

@@GrimmyRu13 I don’t understand how she treated him poorly. If I asked my partner not to speak to my toxic, emotionally abusive family and they not only did anyway, but they divulged things I was not ready for them to know, I would be FURIOUS. “Stand on business” but whose business was it? Not his, not completely. It was her money and her family so he should have respected her wishes and let her handle it by SUPPORTING her, not telling her toxic mother everything and opening her up to more abuse before she was ready to deal with it. Y’all be setting yourself up tryna stand on business and “keep it real.”

​@@Carnibee he behaved like an adult unlike op.

She has every right to be upset at her husband for not telling off his mother

​@@OdakaMemeingI'm sorry, but I agree the with person who wrote comment here, she wanted some revenge on being mistreated by her mother, to be honest, her mother and sister both are narcissists and manipulated her into being a doormat.

@@OdakaMemeing tbh, I was also laughing, lol

​@@c4e_gacha87 She wanted petty revenge that wouldn't go anywhere. After she had he fun of making them sweat for a while she would have paid the rest of the money because that's the type of person she was. The only reason she didn't pay is because the mother disowned her as a result of the husband telling her the situation.

Maybe op shouldn’t be such a sniveling coward and should’ve been straight up instead of trying to get petty revenge on people she knew were trash when she put herself in the situation. The only rational one in the story was her husband.

Not to mention he didn’t approach them first, they approached him, everyone out her acting like he sought them out, OP is pissed off that he used his God-given right of free speech to tell them to piss off, when he probably knew his wife well enough to know she probably would become a doormat to them again, so in doing so he spared them. Also what was the point of the revenge? It served no purpose as they probably would have stopped soon anyway, so why would he entertain something useless for no reason. He’s a man with a wife and children, a grown adult that doesn’t have the time for childish, petty, and down right useless revenge

No, he is under no obligation to play those stupid Petty games if he doesn't want to. If his wife wants to behave like a child she can but he don't have to and the moment he started getting calls about the situation he was officially involved meaning he can cut the BS if he wants

@@captaingramcrackergrams5990 Also though it affecting his wife would affect him, so it also becomes his problem in that way to

Depends on how much it costs. Though I'd think a "grand" wedding would cost at least 6 figures.

^how to brick your marriage asap

If she's trying to do that then she already did.

​@@athrunmoza8996That's abuse buddy, The moment she bring that up, she bricked the relationship between them.

Yeah who is she to talk to him like that specially when his big crime was being the one adult in the whole story

​@@athrunmoza8996she already bricked it when she got mad at him for being upfront and not involving himself in their bullshit family drama?

That is what I'm saying people are calling her a doormat like paying for house repairs and your moms knee surgery is unreasonable. Also everybody acting like the OP abused her husband when she made an obvious joke and literally brought u 0 details about him being upset or them fighting at all. Literally 2 lines about her husband 1 of him being dumb another of a bad joke and people act like OP is the bad one when her family especially her sister is awful

The worst kind of slow. So dumb they think they're super smart, and no one will ever make them understand otherwise.

Well it's not like she tried to prove her ex husband wrong by getting a DNA test

@@Nameless82284 this^ plus the lying and manipulation

OP in story 2 sounds incredibly insecure? I have ADHD and I know how thoughts can ramble on a million miles per hour. I'm also a therapist, and her husband's honesty isn't the big issue here (not unless he's made advances towards her sister or has some fantasy in his head). It's unrealistic to expect someone to NEVER have some level of attraction to another attractive person-commitments and fidelity are moral choices. No one is in a relationship cuz they only find one person beautiful, that's far from the point. Your partner choosing you and putting in the work to build a life with YOU is what relationships are about-like a house both people need to maintain constantly. OP needs to really evaluate herself carefully and start building her self-esteem; her husband ofc should be supporting this. He should focus on learning of his wife's triggers so he doesn't hurt her again so carelessly and respect her boundaries (ADHD isn't something she can reason out of existence). Also, they may also want to lay off the booze.

What did she do that was arrogant? She called herself smart enough to not be used by her mom? Like yeah she was wrong but acting like she was self centered is insane because what did she do that was self centered? Was it the 20k she gave to fix her mom's knee? Was that self-centered? Or was it the 50k she was gonna give to fix her mothers house? Maybe that was selfish part. She was arrogant and used and she probably isn't even that arrogant because she is probably correct about half the shi she said.

I'm sorry how is she arrogant and self centered? By not giving more money to her lying mother? The only issue here is she was dumb enough to bring about not being a doormat, despite being a colossal doormat and letting her shit mother get away with that behaviour.