I admire how detailed this is! You didn’t have to share that but you did and it will help so many people find guidance and courage to receive therapy!!!

I had severe depression. I've been in therapy 4 years and am just now getting to the root causes of everything. No time line for therapy. You are right it is hard wor. The hardest I've ever done. But even though I'm still learning and healing I'm much much better now! Thanks kayln for sharing. ❤

Definitely makes some more videos about therapy!

*With therapy I always feel like im rehashing the past but with life coaching I learned to be more optimistic and look forward to the future--I felt self empowered and that life coaching was much more humanistic in its approach and that resonated with me deeply. I'm more into life coaching now than therapy! And being a certified coach myself, I bring this light to everyone else

We all need to be heard, we all need support, to feel free to express and explore our emotions, to feel understood. Just know that you are not alone and there's always someone to reach out who wants to listen, who wants to support you and spread love and kindness. Reach our for help when you need it, don't be afraid of speaking out ♡

BRILLIANT video! As an author of several YA books about mental illness, and as a sufferer myself, I love it when someone talks about having had a really positive experience with therapy. This video is so important to your followers, especially the younger ones who may have never tried therapy before because they are afraid of being vulnerable or of opening up to a stranger. It’s so vital to give them that positivity and encouragement to seek out therapy for themselves if they think they might benefit as, yes, when it works it can often change your life. And I totally agree about needing to find the right therapist. Like you, I had a really rocky start with therapy and am still trying to find someone I properly click with and trust. I had some sessions of CBT (not helpful), DBT and humanistic therapy and my therapists, though never unpleasant, were just not people I clicked with or trusted would really be able to help me. So it’s a good point to remind people not to give up if the first therapist - or the fifth - doesn’t feel right. You’ve got to keep on searching until you find the right therapist for YOU, regardless of what type of therapy you are looking for. So I’m really hoping you’ll make more videos about therapy because it’s such an important topic to discuss and promote, especially as in severe cases, therapists can help save lives! I was actually very aware that you’d started online therapy last year as you mentioned it once or twice - and I was so relieved to hear it given everything you’d been through as a child and teen. And I knew it had to be working really well as the changes I’ve been seeing in you since then have been quite amazing! You seem so much more confident and happy in your own skin now! As you point out, you don’t need to have a dramatic reason to seek out therapy. But in your case, ever since watching the video about your mom (you could link to that video in this one!), I strongly felt that you needed help to process all that - because anyone who’d been through what you did during those formative years, would! In fact, I was surprised that you hadn’t completely gone off the rails as a result - again, most people would have! It’s a testament to your character how well-rounded a person you actually were! Even so, I knew there had to be some really bad scars beneath the surface. In that video, you were so good at minimising the negatives (or perhaps you were still putting them aside), that you almost made the whole thing seem like no big deal. But to go through ones childhood and adolescence with a mother who (due to severe depression) was mentally absent, emotional neglectful, rejecting of you, her own daughter (even though she was rejecting everyone else, too), and basically present in body form only, must have had a terrible effect on you - it would on any child or teen! How hard it must have been to not think it was somehow your fault; how painful it must have been to speak to her and regularly get no reply, how painful to your parents go through a tough and acrimonious divorce in the first place! Frankly, it must have been just awful. You coped by sweeping things under the carpet, but you mustn’t blame yourself for that - it’s what all kids do when their feelings are too overwhelmingly painful for them to deal with. However, these repressed emotions always come back to bite us hard as adults. So I’m sure your lack of self-confidence, anxiety, depression, insomnia, social anxiety and even panic attacks were all stemming from these vast, unresolved childhood issues - of which you had far more than most kids. The insecurity and anxiety caused by having an emotionally unstable mother, the pain and depression of feeling rejected by your mother as well as the self-blame and anxiety you were having to mask must have been enormous. You sounded so incredibly mature and forgiving in the video about your mom - but just because you can see the big picture as an adult, and work out that it was her illness and not her real self that was and still is rejecting you and the rest of your family, doesn’t make it any easier for the child and teen who simply didn’t have the emotional maturity to work all that out when it was happening. Which means that child must have been in - or busy burying - an absolute torrent of hurt, sadness, confusion and pain about having a mom who, unlike everyone else’s moms, never showed up to watch you in school plays or sporting events or helped with homework and who never seemed to care whether you were even alive or not. No child should have to go through such trauma - and it is a huge trauma, especially given how long it’s lasted. But you did, and I’m so impressed that it only took one year of therapy to unlock and deal with all that deeply buried sadness, pain, anger, anxiety and frustration that you’d had to lock away as a child because the only alternative would have been to start crying and never stop. I’m so glad you found such a great therapist to help you, because anyone going through something like that would need a lot of help so that it doesn’t keep affecting you now, as an adult. Congratulations Kalyn - I do think you are immensely strong, deep down where it counts the most. I also think you are extremely brave. 🌸

I have been in therapy for the past 2 years as well as being a trainee therapist, I've just started seeing my own clients! It's great to see more and more people talking about this and sharing their experiences.

Love your mug! I'm struggling with the decision to get therapy due to my mom's denial of my depression, anxiety, and past self-harm issues. Thanks for sharing your experience!

This came at the perfect time. Thank you SO much, this was the confirmation that i needed.

This was helpful for me to hear your therapy experience. Journals really help me update in life and keep track for therapy 💛

I've started seeing a third counselor/therapist back in April and I can honestly say that I'm proud of where I'm at now thanks to my amazing counselor. I love her so much, she has done WONDERS for me over the months. I definitely want to see her for the rest of my time here.

Thank you for being such an inspiration in my life. I’ve been considering therapy for awhile but I’m scared and nervous to do it. I know it will be good for me. I’m so happy/proud of you for taking steps to improve your mental health 💕

Thank you for sharing. I’ve had stuff bottled up for so long and I’ve just pushed it off. I’ve thought about therapy so much but I’ve been scared to reach out to anyone and this has made me feel a lot better and comfortable knowing someone else has felt the same way

I’ve been following your channels for a few months now and have to say how amazing you are. It’s almost like spending time with a sister. And watching this video just prompted me to let you know what a special and positive impact you have on my life. You’ve inspired me to be more creative and productive. You’ve inspired me on being more aware and reflective of myself as an individual to grow. Thank you for sharing your story and gifts with us!

I just started going to therapy and honestly watching Kalyn's journey helped me begin. But So far, I am optimistic with my sessions.

Thank you for always opening your soul to us 💞🌒

Thank you for sharing your experiences! 🙏 I have a lot of experiences with therapy. I have ended with therapy so many times. This year, I have started with it again, because I felt it is something I need again because of my depression and anxiety.

Yes! Therapy is life changing, and for me for the much better. I’m so happy you have used your platform share this information.

ooooh I cant wait to feel the way you do in this video, I just booked my first consultation for tomorrow and am feeling so anxious about it so came to watch some videos and this one made me feel really excited for the possibility that the way i feel isn't how life is supposed to be. Hopefully I find someone I feel good about within these next few consultations! thanks!

I really needed this, Kalyn. Thank you :)

Thank you so much for sharing this! 💕 it feels so good to hear you talk about it this openly and genuinely I was sent to a mental hospital after a suicide attempt, and I can proudly say that therapy saved my life Literally 💕 Take care!! 😊

Such a awesome daily brew. Absolutely love your witch’s brew mug, has some Harry Potter vibes to it☕️🧡🧡✨!

I May look into this. I’ve been so depressed the last few months. Thank you so much for this video

I LOVE YOU KALYNNNN

I really needed this. Thank you 💜💜

I went to some therapist growing up and it was okay. I just started going to therapy again about a month ago for sever anxiety and honestly I couldn't be happier with my decision. There are things that we talk about that always stick out in my mind and resonate with me and I carry them through life now and I have seen myself grow within these past few weeks! It has been really nice!

Hi kalyn to me you n your positive videos are the soul and effective therapy

Thank you so much for sharing these

Thanks for making this video! You helped me so much

you're the cutest!! 🥰✨

I’m so glad you’re speaking about it, I’m considering trying it again but don’t know what to do ❤️

such an important video, thank you kalyn! :) I'm in therapy for 4 years now (ptsd, and a mix of anxiety and depression - dont know the word, and suicidal) and it helped me so much and I know without it I wouldn't be alive today! 😅 if you struggle with mental health please don't wait 20 years like I did to seek out help.. ^^

You are appreciated!

you look so cute with your hair like that!

I would really love to hear more

thank you for sharing

My experience with my therapist is similar to yours ! And to not be scared of talking and releasing everything is so true... And this is how it's gonna evolve ! But now step forward for me it is to do therapy with my mum. and that scares me :/

You are so beautiful inside out Kalyn!!! xxx 😙

So proud of you! I’ve been thinking about going back to therapy. I feel like I can conquer my problems alone cause I’ve dealt with these emotions so long. Hope you have an amazing day 💛 ps it’s the first day of Fall 🍂

LITERALLY JUST BOUGHT THIS MUG TODAY, we are witch sistaaaaas

SUBSCRIBED! thank you for this video

Amazing mug. Guess I'm going to homesense now...

We want more travel videos and trips

Yes, to answer the question, it is Homegoods and Marshall’s!

Ive been going to various different therapists for about 5 years sometimes it’s great sometimes I don’t get much out of it. Do you have any tips for bringing up the hard and tricky stuff during appointments? I find I somehow always tend to focus on the positive which is fine but it means there’s a lot of stuff I still need to work on that I’m not getting help with simply because I don’t know how to bring it up!

How do you prep for therapy and get the most out of it? How do you decide what to share? Would love to hear more of your experience (:

Is the candle in the back electronic or real? It keeps flicking and caught my attention. If it is electronic, can you please let us know where it is from? Looks so cute

Beautiful.

hi kalyn, i just wanna ask during that period of seeking therapist, was your family & friends aware? how were their reactions?

Have you read Lost Connection?

Tried CBT, really did not gel with the private therapist, was an absolute waste of time and a massive waste of money, was assigned a different CBT therapist on the NHS a few years later who spoke absolute sense and understood exactly where I was coming from, we got on so well and resolved all the issues so quick that it was over. But its all lessons, the main one DO NOT stay with a therapist you do not gel with or even get on with they will not help you.

anyone have good experience with betterhelp?

Has anyone else used this website for online therapy? I've heard mixed reviews about online therapy so I'd love to hear other people's opinions!

stigmatized stuff are eating up my country